If you are anti social during childhood for some reason, the brain start to develop huge anxiety on public places, groups of people, like you think they are thinking you are weird or akward, and they try to make a direct eye contact, and you dont like this felling and you want to leave immediately to a lonely place.
that's a mood but like... at least on my end i've used that thought to find value in what others say even if it's mundane or boring, it kinda makes me feel better about what i have to say ya know? like if i can find value in what they have to say as uninteresting as it may be to me, then they should do the same and if they don't then... it's their loss and my gain since there's always something to learn for those who will listen. idk maybe it might help you a lil bit, that's the hope at least.
I don't have Depression or anxiety. I work for the government I'm not supposed to interfere with cavillian affairs But I have been deployed inland to stop you from the game, ending yourself for the next 5 years Sorry it took so long
The worst thing about these type of thoughts is that in that exact moment you WANT to think in that way SO MUCH and it even gives a kind of PLEASURE to you, because you just hurted yourself. And the paradoxical thing is that in reality, we dont really want to hurt ourselfes. In reality we didn't generate these thoughts, they come from the feelings which are the source. I often imagine giving myself a hug to remind myself that I truly care and want to support who I am. I imagine myself as a second person which gives me the "observator" feeling, even in everyday common situations. Please remember poor little beings - you're not your thoughts 😢
Every time you look on social media and see other people hanging out, having fun, etc. Just remember, the amount of those photos online can deceive you into thinking those moments are more common than they really are. Every person on the internet is essentially a perfect Barbie doll version of how they are in real life, because on the internet you can (mostly) control all the information you outwardly project into the world. Comparing yourself to that outward projection is like comparing yourself to a Barbie doll and thinking “wow, I must be ugly”.
An interesting thing is that we naturally tend to exaggerate the importance of other people's common moments instead of appreciating our own... and that's sad, because we should be the most important person in our own lives 😥 We should remember that our lives and moments have just as much value, even if they aren't constantly on display
you are right that others people in social media can create an image of their life that is better than it is in reality, but in this animation it is not about you being sad because others have perfect lives, it is about you being sad because you never leave the house, even if you want to you are too scared to socialize
This video is so relatable. I have very bad social anxiety and its so hard to make friends. I can't even talk to someone without having negative thoughts on what I should want to talk to and its making me depressed. Seeing people enjoy themselves with their friends makes me sad that I can't even talk to someone without overthinking it.
I suffered with anxiety somewhere between the age of 14 to 20 maybe even longer but trust me it does get better now i know everyone says the same thing "it gets better" "it will pass" and similar stuff i thought it was bs at first too but believe me once you realize that no one really gives a fuck and the only person who YOU should care about is you it will get better it will all pass you are ok i love you and keep youself strong and safe it might not feel like its getting better but trust me every day you are closer to hitting that switch that will make you feel good again but rememeber it all starts with you even if its small steps do everything you can
Thank you bro and that's true, we need to love ourselves, don't be harsh and try doing something good for you with small steps, cuz even if it doesnt feel like it, you will get better. I wish you the best!
It's the most, it's literally the most difficult enemy to fight. It's your own thoughts, you eat, sleep, and work. They will persist and continue. I was recently diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I lived for so long feeling like a enemy. With meds and therapy I'm fighting back and reclaiming my choice. My choice to live again.
This resonates with me so much... As a person who has both Depression and social anxiety this really means a lot to me. It's so nice to know that other people feel the same things. We can do this together. ❤
If you are anti social during childhood for some reason, the brain start to develop huge anxiety on public places, groups of people, like you think they are thinking you are weird or akward, and they try to make a direct eye contact, and you dont like this felling and you want to leave immediately to a lonely place.
im tired of being *this* scared of people. i have so many mental problems and odd mannerisms, i want to talk to new people and expand my social bubble, but... man...
social anxiety sucks fr. also sucks having the only people close to you try to downplay it like "oh everyone has anxiety" ok? im literally in a constant state of mental suffering every time i leave the house
This is literally me and my twin brother EVERY SINGLE DAY!! We always just do nothing and pass out a lot in bed.. The lousy teenagers in my school are the biggest reasons of me having anxiety issues. They bully me in a restroom that’s filled with teens vaping, doing TikTok videos and constantly press on the soap dispenser a lot. No wonder why I’m right now laying in bed being covered with a bunch of clothes and blankets..
The overthinking, the anxiety, the fear, it's all too real to me. Social interaction can be fucking terrifying for me. I'm not used to it. It makes me scared, and sometimes I wish I never even had social media to begin with.
I know is hard but even if your head still douwts it you have to know that people do like you, you arent a waste of time. I know that it isnt a fit all solution but after I got a job at a bar for the summer, forcing me to talk to people even when stressed helped me with this kinds of thoughts If the thoughts are common its not something that can be waited on, you HAVE TO DO SOMETHING, that can be therapy, having a conversation with the people you love, fighting your urge to run away to see that the people around you arent anoyed by your presence... Love you all and hope it gets better for everyone❤
This channel really hits way too close to home. I've been so scared and tired lately. Feel like I can't really live life how I want to. My anxiety and fears weigh me down completely. Stuck working a dead end job with the future looking very uncertain. My deepest condolences to you and I hope that things improve for the both of us.
Man I love signing up to events and ended up chickening out last minute. I don't know how to get out of this mess but I guess it's nice to know I'm not alone :/
My social anxiety is so bad, that I’m terrified of joining new Discord servers. When people spam greet me I feel like I’m going to have a heart attack.
I've had this.. "condition" since childhood, but today I feel just like everyone else you will overcome it as well, just be kind and patient with yourself
Last Tuesday (22) I joined a Discord server to chat with other people from the same fandom that I participate in, we were going to do a role-playing event this Sunday at night (27), but in this morning I couldn't overcome social anxiety and left the server, the owner was sweet enough to understand me and wish me a good recovery, it's always so lonely
I knew this guy who acted like he had depression. Bro was able to comfortably talk to people, hold a conversation, go in depth of the things he liked and didn’t like, was in boot camp and almost became a member of the military (until he dropped out for a retared reason) and acted so joyous and happy all the time we hanged out. And he had the Gaul to say “no I’m like actually depressed bro” Yeah yeah, whatever you say. He was later fired for being an asshole. People who don’t know what it’s like to have crippling social anxiety don’t know nor understand how go they have it. I’m sitting here, struggling to strike up a conversation, I get internally jealous at other people who are perfectly fine with social interaction, I try to distract myself with playing it all off or just scrolling on my phone and acting like I don’t care. Honestly tho, I don’t feel loved in the slightest. I feel trapped. I always thought as a kid, if I was able to do this or that, that FINALLY I will find happiness. But that’s not how it turned out. Even after working a job and doing things on my own, I still feel shut off and isolated from the outside world. My Dad not really helping as he just repeats the same things I always know. What he likes and what I like don’t correlate at all. Not even my own family can really comfort me, I just avoid them as much as possible. In my room, only leaving the house to work or do the occasional thing my Dad calls me down for. I don’t know if it’s autism, or if I’m just really fucking stupid. I just wanna break free, I wanna grow, I wanna become someone who isn’t ashamed to look in the mirror. I wanna be myself, but I hate myself. I deny that I hate myself, yet that’s only myself talking. Just scroll past this comment, I’m not worth your time.
You sound like you expect a lot from yourself and has trouble with working torwards your goals maybe? Idk, but therapy could problably help with that if you can afford 👍
@@jamueI not to sound like a doomer, but therapy can't help him or any of us really. it rarely helps anyone as it's built around the idea of staying as disconnected from your patient as possible, and then asking them the right questions so they (the patient) can come up with their own answers to the point they will realize what needs to be done to fix their issues. it worked well in the past when things weren't so bad for people, but nowadays people need actual real life relationship's with people who care about them enough to help them through anything, sadly that's rare as everyone is either messed up like this guy as well as myself, or are people who have no understanding of these things so they can't help.
That's why everyday I just wait, I wait for the college vacations to come around so I can invite my 3 best and only friends for plans. Or during college days, why not call them on weekends so we can play an online game? But everytime I ask myself *"Am I annoying them? Don't they have better things to do than waste their time with me? I should probably just suck it up and boot up a game alone like I always do"* and end up not doing anything other than sleep or look at my phone until it's nighttime and I HAVE to go to sleep.
this is a sleep deprived rant into the void that can be ignored... or not. ngl was putting off watching this vid because i want furries out of my recommended tab, (just wanna see more normal stuff since i'm not a furry anymore), but i relate to this fully. even just today i was playing a game called webfishing (it's a great game ya'lls should try it), and the moment after years (probably roughly 11-ish years?) of looking for someone who was at all close to me, i found a cool guy that was in my province, in my city... and in my neighborhood... i immediately ran away (left the server) like a coward, and i rarely run away from anything when online but that was way too real for me. like i wasn't even afraid of him, i just feared he'd hate me because of... idk me? like almost everyone i've met throughout my life has found something to hate about me since i was a kid. but anyways i'm 24 turning 25 in december and i'm still dealing with people picking me apart until they finally find (or make up) a reason to hate me, and if not that it's usually something worse, plus i'm just as (if not even more) afraid of people as i was when i was like... 12 or something? and i mean it's not like i haven't looked at myself and tried to better myself on the part where people hate me, because i have and i'm a better person because of it i'd hope, but i don't know what else i can fix or change about myself so that i don't have to worry about people seeking out and finding a reason to hate me, like it happens so much it has to be me being not good enough, or me not being enough in general, or maybe me being a bad person? right? and at the end of the day i don't wanna believe that everyone i've met and are going to meet are all mostly going to be bad apple's, it's not something i can fix or change, and it's depressing af if that's how things really are since that would mean others are probably dealing with the same thing and that's the last thing i'd want to believe/know
Bruh legit just had that- RU-vid reading my mind It's okay, there's always something who cares and likes talking to you. If you don't have anyone like that, try to find them! Tons of people out there looking for friends to talk to :3
I am friends with some of the most social people in the world, i struggle constantly with trying to keep up with them. I always feel bad when i step away and one of them comes to me to ask whats wrong.
As a normal human who has charm for everybody including furries, I find it hard to believe that some people don't care about furries, not knowing they're dealing with tough times with social anxiety, depression, and so much more. I feel bad that this is what most people, including furries, struggle with, and then you have people who don't care like they have a better life than you, which is bad. This clip really relates to me very well that I struggle with social anxiety, a lot, and a little depression. I hope I find happiness for people who care about me.
Definitely helps to get off conventional social media. But not necessarily to get off the internet itself- practicing socializing online can be really good, but its important to do sht kinda stuff that does put yourself out there in some small way. Whether its raiding, participating in some kind of art event (like inktober groups or fandom training grounds) or just something with a bit of a commitment, making it happen is what develops the skills to compensate, even when the inner anxiety is loud and clear in your mind. Because if you develop your skills well enough, you can get to the point where you can, theoretically, just know that you need to "take your medicine," and just have faith in rote skills. Force yourself to go out, to find whatever event is going on in town, or whatever. Even if you feel like shit and regret it, you still got a dose of human interaction, which is supposed to be important as a member of a social species. The freedom to have that option is empowering, i suppose. Oh, and don't come off as desperate. That's a big turn off in general, and honestly, its not healthy for you. Just... let people come and go and see who sticks. Its the moments you share with people that are special, not the people, really. At least, not until you've forged some meaningful patterns. Just be present and in the moment.
I have has the fear of saying words before. Then i confronted trauma and developed ptsd from it. Then i got a little bit more ptsd, and got betrayed several more times. Then how not safe I am anywhere set in, how little I mattered set in, how hopeless ginding someone I matter to set in, and how unavoidable angering others is set in. Now that I am back to normal, that fear has just grown manyfold.
My personal criticism about this is the sound leveling. The nature noises were loud compared to the voice and music it's. Nature noises are often (not always) background noises. If the noise is too loud it might overpower the message that you try to convey. Keep it up 👍🏻
I'm a person who wants to talk but is worried about trying to talk to new people. Being (I think) slightly introverted with autism is painful, doesn't help I procrastinate constantly.
Shoot, I got no friends at school, at least...not anymore, and I got trust issues and a fukin social anxiety, don't know how am I still holding on this stuff
Im dealing with something relatively similar. (Although it might be burnout) I'm having a hard time talking to people I always think they are talking bad about me.. The last 3 days Ive been in a bad mood for some reason and its quite concerning.
I know I'm just faking till I make it' but sometimes its really hard to wear those masks. A different me. It makes me suffer. The voices in my head are my own voice. I just don't know anymore.
