Spending £40,000 on my Hoard | The Hoarder Next Door S2 Ep3 | Only Human 

Allison and Sam do NOT need to be together.

The best advice I have been given is that just because you love it doesn’t mean you have to buy it. I tell myself this everyday lol

No one wants to admit they are a hoarder or ever were... I lived in a home I bought with close to 4000 square feet. My home was spotless and had very few items per room in the first three years of living there. When my husband separated from me I started to collect things. After 23 years of collecting to the upper bedrooms and basement and doing this ‘shuffling’ they refer to, I decided one afternoon I was going to sell my house. Having Stelio’s around would have been an immense help!! My friends and family realized I had to do this all on my own. I got two HUMONGOUS garbage bins ( thirty feet long) and started to fill them for a week. The house was sold in a week. I took only ONE tiny moving van of items with me. I notice some of the people who have these hoarding issues have experienced a traumatic loss or are subconsciously reacting to something in their past. My husband put me through a 19 year separation. While we were together he HAD to control EVERY aspect of my life. I brought two expensive homes including cars and brought a good income into the marriage, but he would restrict me to have a few outfits and I could only spend fifteen dollars at any time on grocery shopping. There were repercussions if I did not do exactly what he demanded. Maybe my starting to collect things was a way I could feel free to do what I wanted for the first time because he had left. Once someone broke into my house during my collecting period. I think they had a shock of their lifetime. 😀 They had no possible way to uncover the few valuables because they were all hidden under things far off into far bedrooms. Being free of THINGS is freedom!!!! Your whole life changes. As this therapist says ‘ none of us are born hoarders. :)

Jo, you have no idea how much the kids who cant afford books and toys will love the items you donate. I've seen them receive donations like yours and their faces just light up. Most kids in extreme areas in the world and where I am in South Africa have never owned a book and even a magazine to them is an absolute joy!

I am a hoarder myself (less extreme than these people) and I found a way to throw away items Im emotionally attached to. I just take photos of the items, so I can remember them. I dont throw all the stuff out, but most (lets say 90%) I do.

Sam could use some therapy himself. He seems to have a lot of pent up anger, not only because of the stuff!

Jo's lady friend is one of the most lovely persons, I could use a friend like that.💛

JO is a rare bird in that she hoards but also tries to keep things clean by vacuuming and dusting. Very interesting.

I'm very impressed that Jo allowed the cleaners to clean her kitchen without her being there. I've never seen any hoarder allow that. Well done.

My understanding is hoarding stems from anxiety, which is a result of depression. If Allison felt her father cared more about the insects in the lawn than he cared about her, it would be a root cause for her depression. She is trying to achieve her father's love and acceptance by "saving" all the lady bugs. Removing her hoard before she has addressed the root cause of her anxiety and depression won't stop her from hoarding.

That ladybug woman's boyfriend must not have anywhere else to go.....

I just love Stelios. He is as kind and compassionate as he is handsome.

I wouldnt be surprised if Allison has aspbergers. I have it myself and it seems like her special interest in ladybugs/ladybirds mixed with her feeling "too sensitive" could be a sign of her being on the specteum. Just something i noticed ^^

Both these ladies looked so much less stressed and happier once their houses were cleaned. I hope they are able to keep it up.

20:21 - totally The Office moment looking directly into camera 😄

"So why are you here?" Haha ... good question to ask someone who isn't willing to go out and get their own flat!

Janice, Jo‘s friend, is such a lovely person! She makes me smile!😄

As a former educator I can totally relate with the desire to collect and keep children’s books and educational resources. When I retired I donated my massive classroom library to the grammar school I was leaving and they were able to give every child in the school two books as a Christmas gift from me. This released me from the fear that those books would not be valued and I felt so much joy knowing that many children in the school would own their very own book, some of whom had never had one. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if this lovely woman could visit empoverished children in her community and see how much joy she could bring them through donations of her wonderful resources.

Hum, she was asking her boyfriend fro help and he was simply saying "no", lady keep the lady bugs and throw him out of your life.

This is so much better then the American shows like this.... I think it’s a lovely idea letting them talk and relax and think about what’s happened from a different place and with someone you can relate about it with. Well done

God, that boyfriend's distress... I feel so bad for him. Hope he is doing fabulously now

It kind of irritated me when Alison said she needed to buy all the ladybird bras so that no one else could have them.

My dad is a retired teacher. He has books from 40 years ago. All pooped on, peed on, chewed up...he still wants to keep them all. Teachers seem to have this problem more than others.

Being an ex partner to a hoarder who I was married to for over 40 years, I can understand how frustrating Sam is feeling over her hoarding; these people are so self centred and a nightmare to live them. In the end, I had to leave the relationship; Maybe he will have to do the same.

Also not great reminding a child the morbidity of the chance of stepping on insects everytime you walk outside..

Even the Lady Bug Lady's cats are looking at her saying "wtf?"

I hope they showed her a video of the children receiving those books and toys she gave away. I think it would have helped her to see that parting with those things have helped other people.

I know what it’s like to live with a hoarder . It’s so stressful, they don’t think about your concerns, not interested what the place looks like . Don’t care about your embarrassment. You can’t have your friends around , it was so bad when I was a kid I used to get out of the car not outside my house if I was given a lift home .

Thousands of actual ladybugs in her house would quickly change her feelings towards them. Once they gain entry it is a nightmare. When they die they smell like rancid peanut butter. Not cute. 🚫🐞

I thought Sam was Alisons son ! She shouldn't be in a relationship, at least for a while. Jo, is interesting in that she makes her bed ( sort of) and she vacuums.

Honestly some of Alison's collection is 🔥

I have little sympathy for Sam. She's your girlfriend, not your mother, and it is HER. FREAKING. HOUSE. If you're that unhappy, get a flat of your own, don't storm around yelling and moping and accusing and crying and generally behaving like an overtired toddler. Believe me, I would not be able to deal with her house if I were him, either, but I wouldn't be using it as an excuse to not change my clothes for several weeks or even comb my hair. His hygiene is his responsibility alone.

Alison seems a bit unhinged, even manic. I'd say she's got more issues than hoarding.

Both women had such deep issues. I think six weeks of therapy is not enough. A year at least.

Jo has the best friend ever! Most people would run away, and instead her friend pushes up her sleeves to help♥️

The ladybird brushes, brooms and boots are very cute, I have to admit that 🐞🐞🐞🐞🐞🐞🐞

Omg! Get rid of that guy! This is toxic!

I love that Jo has Jancis as a friend and source of support

I swear they're saying ladybirds lol instead of ladybugs

Jo has such a darling home. Hope she continues her journey.

I'm fascinated by Stelios Kiosses

Having the two clients meet is interesting. Like a mini support group.

I love the house of the purplehair lady. It would be soo nice with less stuff:)

My husband is a hoarder, I ended up moving to my own house.

She says it was empty 3 years back, but her friend wasn't let in for 7 years? Alrighty, then.

Alison, if you are reading this, you did EXACTLY the right thing by moving your boyfriend out during this process; it WAS all about you at this time. 🥰

So relieved that Sam is out with the hoard....that's a healthy decision.

Finally Jo seems to find a purpose with the project, charity👏👏👏

Alison and Sam both need a lot of help- the clutter is only the tip of the ice berg.

It's so interesting she has a theme, could open the first Ladybird memorabilia museum.🐞❤️

How can you not love Jo's friend. They are adorable friends.

There are people who for one reason or another are turning to very small living spaces. Tiny homes or vans. They willingly sell or toss most of their belongings. They keep a few small items, some very easily stored clothes and the most minimal and useful kitchen tools. They have utterly gotten over "stuff". They don't want things. They live for experiences, relationships, the moment. Hoarding would puzzle them. Sam needs to man up and get his own place. Allison is killing him.

She loved her husband so much, the poor woman.

"Ladybugs" boyfriend reaction lokks like "they came to you, not to me, but I am a victim here". He needs help too.

Stelios Kiosses is a really great therapist. Glad to see him. All the best for all the people who are helping these people.

I have noticed that Stelios always seems shocked when he first sees the hoarders’ homes. You would think he would not be surprised any longer since he works with hoarders.

i think this guy Sam, has got childhood trauma. Bcuz of it he has grown into a man-child and a reason why he dating a lady who is so much older than him(older women tend to be able to takecare of you like a mother). All got to do with prolly him not getting a mother's love

Jo and her buddy were just too sweet together!

Jo frustrates me by saying "yeah, yeah, yeah". I'm praying for her that she can overcome her disease.

Alison You go girl !!! Going forward try to No More Buys !!! No more stuff coming in !!! Let things keep going out. It will keep getting better. Always work toward downsizing . Keep digging out . U got this 😍

I live with a mini hoarder of a brother who likes to hold all his trash upstairs in his room, as well as every plate and utensils he uses. He gets so angry whoever I tell him to throw his trash out or to wash his dishes. That and he’s got a nasty habit of digging in the trash to pull things out cause he finds them “still good to use.”

This is the best hording series as they show that horders are victims as are those around them who need mental health help and understanding. But most of all the horders are ready to come on this show and get help, my family member would never even allow us to talk about it let alone seeing a therapist

Big Stelios fan here✌️💛🇺🇸

Sam needs to go. The ladybug girl is better off on her own until she finds someone supportive and actually willing to help. Sam is a user.

If something is never used then it's not "useful" .

I'm not really a hoarder nor a compulsive shopper, more of an impulsive shopper. I don't have patience to look for things, but when I see something, I go straight to the shop and just grab that one thing. When I'm busy, I almost have no desire to shop. During the pandemic I almost only shop online and I found a way to control my impulsive shopping. When I see something online, I let that item sit in the cart for a while, since it'll take time to be shipped to me anyways, there is no rush for me to have it in my hands, after a while when the urge to have the item subsided, then I'll just let it go.

Dang, I am sad that so many people are commenting about poor Sam. He obviously had his own illness. He couldn't help her through her illness and she couldn't help him through his. Separating was likely the best thing for both of them. BOTH of them, not just him. She was able to get her space more in order. We don't have the luxury of knowing how his healing journey continued. I know from experience that, sometimes, a person cannot heal if they're carrying someone else's emotional burden along with theirs. Here's to hoping both got more help and moved forward to a life worth living. Not just, "poor Sam."

I’ve never met a hoarder who wasn’t incredibly selfish.

Now I realize Stelios has blue eyes!!He isn't just a kind and sensitive person,he is handsome as well!!Many kisses from Greece, we love you Stelios, keep up the good work,and help people😁

If I knew this guy would be walking into my home anytime soon, believe me, I'd be scrubbing it clean and putting my hoarding aside. He IS motivation!😉

This show is so much better than the American show Hoarders, the people actually seem to try to help the root cause of their hoarding instead of stressing that they have 3 days to clear the house out or else. And they're not as judgemental!

I feel very happy for those people getting more clarity in their lives again.

They could have some amazing yard sales

I do hope Jo got to see where her donations went and what a charity it was for her to give it to the ones that need it.

Donate the books to the elementary schools

Omg I was gonna make a joke about getting rid of Sam but they actually did! God bless they we're awful together.

That ladybug 🐞 woman’s boyfriend seems a bit narcissistic

I need "happy endings" right now in the middle of this Plague!

31:20 aw look at that cute cat😻

Sam is awful and unsupportive, she needs help figuring out what to keep and what to get rid of, not be yelled at for something she’s obviously struggling with

Kids stuff books etc can go to homeless shelter for families and women and children shelters. Beginning teachers needs some of these things.

So happy to see the woman replace clutter with friends. She was alone because of the clutter. A vicious cycle I can understand.

Sam is ...a ray of sunshine isn’t he

I'm glad her friend , helpers , therapy , commiseration with someone going through similar situation and finally a timeline and ultimatum finally broke through Jo's stubbornness ! Sometimes you never know what will click and it takes a community effort !

i feel bad for the older lady who helping the hoarder

Love people use things - marvellous outcome for that elderly lady friends and family again bring laughter and smiles 👍🏻👍🏻💙😂

Is anyone else screaming out to Alison....”JUST KEEP ONE!!!!” ?!?🤣🤣🥰

The most shocking aspect part for me is.... how are these people even allowed to live in such a fire hazard?

Jesus he needs to get kicked out and fast! He'd melt my head now! 🤦🏽‍♀️

Children and teachers in low income and poverty areas and orphanages all over the world could benefit so much from your children toys and teaching items. It makes me sad for them and for Jo because of the absolute joy it would bring them and to her in the giving😢

If I was a mature lady in the UK I'd start hoarding so that handsome guy would come help me.

I don't get it... is it Sam's place? Or the woman's? Or... did they get the place together? Because if it's her place, he needs to stop whining and get his own place. If it's his place, I can understand why he's upset.

Oh how these vids motivate me to declutter 😄😄😄

He’s there cause it’s FREE room and board 🙄

I'm glad the couple went separate ways they were toxic for each other. I'm happy for the teacher as well.

I wanna see that Frank Zappa poster lmaoo

Surprised the floors haven't collapsed incredible

This shows how your childhood can effect your adult life...

I allways wonder were they get all the money to buy so much....😱🙈

Jan is such a wonderful friend to Jo she was in shock but so sweet and ready to help