Dear Stevie, Sharing your story in such raw detail as you did, is nothing short of amazing. I know you didn’t do it for yourself, or for the show, but for those out there who may be experiencing a similar nightmare, and that makes you one hell of a person. The courage you have shown by allowing this to be known by the public is immeasurable, and even if it helps just one person, it has the potential to be life-changing. You are incredible mate, and should be super fucking proud of yourself for having gone through what you’ve gone through; and come out of the other end shining. You’re a beautiful person, mate. Proud to not only call you my co-host, but one of my best mates in the entire world. Love ya. - Jaack
even worse when the abuser is female but thats a whole other topic seeing men like him come out and be honest about these things is so important and every single one who does instantly has my respect
I dont know, sometimes people feel awkward liking a video like this. This is heartbreaking. So some people dislike because of how bad the situation is. Not necessarily because they dislike him telling his story.
The fact that people are still trying to normalise pedophilia and call it a sexuality even after watching interviews with survivors of sexual abuse is genuinely disgusting and fills me with pure rage
@@manu-nz7vc no it’s a crime committed by sick people.you cant group it with mental health because mental health is not a negative thing where as nonces are disgusting
@@Idur88 disappointingly enough, it is technically classified as a mental disorder, because people who are disgusting shitheads have a chemical "problem" in their brain that fucks up their view of attraction, and it can be helped through therapeutic process
@@grmlnbstrd still it is unforgivable where as having bipolar or paranoia etc is accepted and treatable.I don’t believe that phedofilia(idk how to spell) is treatable.I think that’s bs they say to get off lightly😤
i was sexually assaulted. i couldn’t say it but you’ve given me the courage thank you for your story stevie you’re not alone. you’re so strong and brave
@@Htydeforce13 so this is sexual assault it could traumatise someone for their whole life if you play Roblox it doesn’t mean that it’s ok for it to happen
Its horrible that there are such things as pedophiles, its gross. You can see just by talking about past experiences how much it affects people, im so sorry stevie.
What's putting me off is how the guy got away with it - though it's understandable since the boys he assaulted broke under the pressure, given how severe the trauma was - the guy should be serving for life in my opinion, or worse.
@@reynoldchristopher2858 nope, there was no evidence so the case got thrown out accordingly. Also, the kids who lied should be punished or spoken to for trying to frame a innocent man at the time. The court find him not guilty, sorry but that's the law🤗
This just hit me like a truck. I was sexually assaulted by my cousin when I was 8, he was 16/17 at the time. I started to realise what had happened and remember what had happened when I was 14 and I just broke at 15. The case went no where due to people lying to protect him. Lying about us spending time alone together, lying about me even visiting them every week. I lost my family, lost the last year of my grandma being alive as I just couldn't look at her never mind talk to her out of shame and guilt. Ended up failing my Car's due to not being able to school or study. Lost my friends. Worst of all is that he has 3 kids of his own and the eldest turned 6 this year. I can't sleep due to the idea of what he could do to them. Just needed to vent.
It’s cool that this video opened a whole lot of conversations that people can talk about there story’s, I personally fortunately never experienced something like this, can’t even imagine what that was like, heads up bro ❤️
Hey Michael bro, I can’t imagine what that’s like. The fact you’re out here saying this must be incredibly difficult. Please contact me on insta: evandikos, if you need to talk my man
Hope you're doing ok now Mike. I just thought I'd reply because the story of you're assault is very similar to mine. Love, you're strong and beautiful and accepted the way you are and it was never your fault (if you were ever made to feel that way). Sending you a fat bear hug. If you ever need to talk or if anyone needs to talk message me on ig: moodyb_tch xx
Thank you Jack for being such a good friend. For listening to him and being there for him. A lot of people often dismiss victims stories or try to hand wave it away. Thanks for clearly listening to him and letting him know he didn’t do anything wrong. You are a really great friend and a good example of how we should all do a better job listening to victims and helping them out.
I know Stevie reads the comments, so if you’re reading this I just want to tell you that we all appreciate everything you do, you’re an integral part of happy hour and you’re extremely brave for opening up, and I think I speak for everyone when I say we love you Stevie White 💛
I was molested by my birthgiver when I was young. When I finally tried to seek legal help, the justice system failed me, unsurprisingly, because a woman sexually abusing a man (I was only a boy back then, but you know what I mean) isn’t classified as a crime in my country. It takes a lot of courage to even come to terms with what happened, let alone speak about it. Stevie, I’m really proud of you and I hope that more survivors find their voices thanks to you sharing yours. I wish you the very best in life and all the love and healing in the world.
@@colin21277any mother who sexually assaults you as a child is no longer your mother. The only thing they are to you is a birth giver. That connection is destroyed. That’s my interpretation of the comment at least
@@michellebarrett37 there still ur mother if she kills your father and the rest of ur family and is locked up for life she’s still your mother. That’s how those of us in the real world call the woman that gives birth to you.
I really hope Stevie is doing ok, such an upsetting episode not only to hear he went through that but seeing his normally happy self getting upset too. Really moving to see him open up to a friend and Jack was so supportive in a difficult situation. A very important episode of happy hour.
It's heart breaking how backwards it is that in these situations far too often it is the victims who are left with the shame instead of the perpetrators
I feel sick that people who do stuff like this exist. That man is disgusting and I have sm respect for Stevie for spreading awareness about these vile people😔sending all my love❤️
This shi makes my blood boil man just reading all these stories I got 2 lil brothers n I got no sympathy for those types of people I swear. N what makes it f kin worse they get out the next f kin day n if a family member went to beat the dog shi out of them he would get put in prison for years probably. I’d exterminate all of them f kin disgusting
I was taken advantage of by one of my cousins at age 7. He was 17. I was alone with him at my grandparents house and he just started to kiss me and pulled me on top of him and continued to kiss. I didn’t understand what was going on at the time and just went along with it. We didn’t go any further than that. As I grew up, I realized that I was assaulted. I never told my parents and never will because it would destroy my family if I did.
@@annabelleglover4060 what are you on about. They said they won't tell there family, I'm saying maybe they should to avoid that person from doing any more harm to children
Removing age of consent laws would fix it. It would destigmatise sexual relations and solve the problem. If a child gives you a hug he wont think anything of it unless told otherwise, same thing with sex.
I think a lot of people interpret the dislike button differently to others - in that they are upset by what's happened for example. Whilst there are probably a few weird folk who just want to be 'the only dislikes', I think in this scenario it's to resonate with Stevie's story more than anything
I’m not trying to make this a gender argument. Stevie is so so brave and honestly this is heartbreaking. But the amount of young boys that have been abused and the abuser gets away with it because men have such a hard time talking about it. I hope anyone who abuses kids girls or boys. Rots in hell I hope the guy who did it gets whats coming to him
90% of abuse victims are female, and even most of them have trouble coming forward despite all this metoo stuff going around. So I can't imagine how much harder it is for the male victims to come forward, who then have to deal with the societal implications of their gender--homophobic connotations of being abused by a male (like people thinking you're queer if abused by a man), the feeling of potential emasculation if you admit to being a victim, the lack of recognition due to being a smaller percentage of victims, etc. Unfortunately often times the kids are victimized by people they trust, like family members, which makes it extra difficult to come forward.
@@user-jz2bm4wz1g recent studies have shown that males who get abused is around the same as females getting abused. Male abuse wasn't as reported much but now there is more support out there and more men are coming forward.
He describes this so eloquently. What a man. When he has children of his own he may feel even more angry and heartbroken so please have support around you at this time.
People need to realise that men talking about this is being stronger than being silent! It takes a lot for a man to speak up and I have so much respect for Stevie and anyone else who speaks up
As someone who was SA'd as a child for 2y, it's difficult to reach out at any age and tell someone what's happening. My mother slapped me in the mouth as a child when I told her because we were at her friends house and I "embarrassed" her. As an adult, I took the teacher who SA'd me to court. My mother wanted all the glory for his conviction when she didn't support me through any of it
Stevie, I’m probably old enough to be your mum, but I was molested as a young child by someone in my extended family. I was told that if I told anyone that my mum would be killed. I have only spoken to a handful of people in my life about what happened to me. For me, this abuse went on for several years. For many years, I blocked it out and suppressed the memory of the abuse. Good on you for speaking out about what happened to you! Hou are my hero, Stevie! Much braver than me, mate! 🙌🏼💟☮️🙏🏼
As a parent i can now warn my kids about the manipulation, things like taking them away from parents. stevie thank you for sharing and youve done so much more than that.
Either Jack is an incredible friend or incredible interviewer/podcast host because he handles and supports Stevie in this topic so graciously. I truly believe its both. Love to both you men. Thank you.
I disagree he shows no real compassion or empthay.. Doesn't feel like they're are really good friends.. More like an interview with someone he doesn't know
The justice system for this sort of thing is so bad. I have a friend who's daughter was involved in something like this with her babysitter. After months of interviews the guy was found not guilty because of a lack of evidence. But theres no reason for a 4 year old to make something like that up. They should definitely have looked more into it.
@@shehehshshhseh4835 why? It’s nothing to do with a lack of respect at the end of the day it’s fucked up obviously but the courts cannot do anything if there is no evidence. We cannot just believe what people say without evidence regardless of their age.
@@bazzamckracken588 What is wrong with you man? It isn't about the evidence or whatever it is about the traumatic and disgusting experience that a young mind had to deal with.
Stevie should be so incredibly proud of himself. This would have been SO hard. He could have allowed this to become a shitty person, but instead has become one of the kindest people. We love and appreciate you Stevie
Those kids who denied everything are probably living a life filled with regret as a result. Hopefully they've learnt from their mistakes and won't promote this type of behaviour
@@alielmiedany3611 it's not their fault. do not blame them for this shit. they were involved in it too, and they were obviously terrified. don't be an asshole.
@@steakkidneypie767 Never blamed them just stating that the decision they made may be one that they come to regret and hopefully they learn from it don't see how that antagonises or attacks the kids in any way
This chat should get parents talking to their kids about nothing like this being their fault! I’ll be most certainly having the chat with my 10 year old! Thanks Stevie 🙏🏻
I spoke to my daughter about this when she was around 7/8. The earlier the better really. But not in a way that will scare the life out of them lol. We’re not telling them this to scare them but so they are aware of the dangers and that not everyone is being nice to them, just for the sake of being nice.
I didn't really understand what molestation was , as a child, until I seen a LMN movies about it. And seeing how the adults reacted in the movie to hearing the news. I think " bastard out of carolina" is the movie name.
i'm glad that you're teaching your kid this type of stuff! i'm sure them having that trust with you will make them feel like they can come to you if they ever have an issue, no matter what it is.
schools really should teach this near the end of year 6 when kids are starting to go out a lot more by themselves because some of them don’t understand what’s happening or what rape even is. i find it shocking that they don’t teach this to kids anyway.
Something happened to me when I was 11, I remember telling a friend's mom about it, and she told my nan, and they just laughed about how weird it was, and then it was never brought up again until I told my parents 15 years later (a few weeks ago, I'm 26 now). They were beyond angry that I told two adults and it never got passed onto them. It's important to tell everyone you can I think; you can't always trust that that one person will get the ball rolling for you, even if you think you can. My respect goes out to you Stevie, for speaking so publicly about this - very courageous. I'm glad it's not affecting you to a damaging degree anymore. Edit: I feel like it's important to point out to you, Stevie, that this very video is what encouraged me to open up to my parents and my partner about what happened to me. I want you to know that this video is helping others.
can only imagine how hard this is for him to talk about theres something about us as men that still see people opening up like this as weakness when its actually the strongest thing the person can do. hope he takes all the time he needs to get better
You're incredible, Stevie. It really shows how difficult of a time that was for you, and you sharing your story took great strength. Although it's devastating that the case was thrown out, I hope that justice and healing have gone beyond the courtroom for you. Also, please don't think it's disgusting that you took the money. You were a child and you had no comprehension of the nature of what was really going on, he is the only disgusting one in this. You're so brave and telling your story has helped so many people, there's no doubt in my mind. I'm not a survivor of child sexual abuse, but I was sexually assaulted. Nothing came of it after reporting but when you talked about seeing him and feeling rage and sadness, I FELT exactly what you meant. There are other things you said that resonated with me, so I just wanted to share that you've actually really helped me in the way that you've reminded me I'm not alone with these feelings. You should be extremely proud of yourself.
Can we all just big up stevie. He’s not really a RU-vid presence but he is such a genuine guy and honest guy. Him and jack are so good for each other and watching to them two is like a therapy session. Big up Stevie. You’re an amazing guy
I'm struck by the courage of Stevie in speaking about this. The potential good that just talking on a public podcast about this had done is so so vast. What a man, so much respect.
As an sexual asault surviver I understand how hard this is to talk about but thank you for baring your soul and sharing as it helps others to feel not alone, it's worse for boys but having an icon like yourself speak out and be strong gives others strength and hopefully the courage to speak out x bless your cotton socks and thank you for being amazing x
So sorry to hear that this happened to you. Honestly, I can't comprehend how people can do these things. I'm in rehab going through trauma therapy and you have to relive that stuff, no escape because you're locked in a building! That's me though... Big love to you ❤ you're so strong xx
@lewis upton @Kian Illsley thank you so much for such kind comments. I personally fought back making my experience less horrible than most but sadly he walked away from it with a lesser charge which sickens me to this day. I've had years to rebuild and grow and was lucky to have amazing people around me who never pushed but were there when I needed them but it remains a scar I hate to dwell on. I personally believe that by being open about it took some of the demons away, not all but some. I think it also helps others know its not only them. Its such a vile subject but it's better talked about rather than hidden under the table, I really loved this clip as Jack says what is not said enough, and that is its not your fault regardless of the situation its the monster doing it to you, I would never change the fact that I reported my assault even though the outcome wasnt as good as I had hoped as it gave me the power back knowing that there was concequences. If I could pass on anything its the importance of taking away stigma from victims, the only way I can do it is by sharing my story and underlining that it's never your fault and whilst you can't take it away fully over time it's possible to get stronger, to live a wonderful life and to trust people again. (ps good luck with the therapy, its hard work and at times you would rather kick it all in but hang in there,) ❤️
@@kianillsley4977 sorry I replied to you and someone else at the same time but it did not link so excuse the copy paste answer.... thank you so much for such kind comment. I personally fought back making my experience less horrible than most but sadly he walked away from it with a lesser charge which sickens me to this day. I've had years to rebuild and grow and was lucky to have amazing people around me who never pushed but were there when I needed them but it remains a scar I hate to dwell on. I personally believe that by being open about it took some of the demons away, not all but some. I think it also helps others know its not only them. Its such a vile subject but it's better talked about rather than hidden under the table, I really loved this clip as Jack says what is not said enough, and that is its not your fault regardless of the situation its the monster doing it to you, I would never change the fact that I reported my assault even though the outcome wasnt as good as I had hoped as it gave me the power back knowing that there was concequences. If I could pass on anything its the importance of taking away stigma from victims, the only way I can do it is by sharing my story and underlining that it's never your fault and whilst you can't take it away fully over time it's possible to get stronger, to live a wonderful life and to trust people again. (ps good luck with the therapy, its hard work and at times you would rather kick it all in but hang in there,) ❤️ I wish you a wonderful future as you are truly amazing never forget that x
@@LindzTheLooneyOfLondon It truly does make you so strong no what happened to the horrid person who did this to you; it is truly only the weak that would ever stoop to prey on the vulnerable and it is truly disgusting. It worries me to think whether they know that what they're doing will impact on the victim for the rest of their life or whether they are simply acting on impulse. It does need to be talked about, and those that are brave enough to open up about this and start the conversation are so, so incredibly brave, especially when you know that the video will get a big audience and viewership, like Stevie knew when going into this particular story on Happy Hour. It's true, it never is the victim's fault, I mean, no person could bring such vile acts upon themselves, they simply do not deserve it! Thank you ever so much and I wish you the very best, also, this is when you realise that audiences of all kinds have such lovely people and communities behind them! xx
I’m so happy he can share his story and for everyone else who has a story about sexual assault/abuse it does get easier if you talk about it to a trusted person in your life and maybe even go to group therapy to hear other story’s because it can be easier if you hear other peoples story’s similar to yours, but if you don’t feel comfortable with a huge group go and talk to a therapist even though it might seem scary it helps majorly, just remember you are not alone and people are here to support you.
@God it's dark stories like these that remind me that I had a pretty good childhood now on the topic of had something like that happened to me as a kid being honest here I'd take it to the grave but that's just me coming from a family that were not great at talking about things
This is horrible, I was eight when my best friends older brother sexually assaulted me in their treehouse only meters away from anyone else. I know have trust issues, depression, anxiety and social anxiety and I don’t want to self diagnose but I think it may be ptsd but I’ve only been diagnosed with the first ones.
I had horrible experiences and had similar issues as you regarding my mental health... I have been diagnosed with PTSD and had CBT therapy, which helped massively, hope this helps... Wishing you the very best xx
I really appreciate Stevie sharing his story, I'm a CSA survivor too and there's a lot of stigma around it with guys. I watched Pedroseph's video opening up not long ago and it just makes me feel more normal and less like some weak victim. I didn't get justice either, so going through all the trauma of the court system as a child was pointless anyway because the jury were undecided. I think our justice system in the UK is a joke tbh, and sex offences don't have a high enough sentence in my opinion. Three years for something that affects someone for the rest of their lives? Piss take, and that's if you even get justice, which many don't.
@@lennon8338 to be fair,I'm of strong belief anything CAN be joked about in a mutually comedic setting, so with mates, as long as they all understand it is a joke it(imo) is ok.
You are helping everyone by bringing this type of abuse to light. The more people become aware, the more it can be prevented. Thank you for speaking out!
I doubt he’ll see this but Stevie I hope you are doing ok. I experienced a lot of shit when I was a kid as well and it’s hard to move past but it seems like you are handling this in a positive and healthy way. You did a very brave thing and it’s something to be proud of
If jack posted his name or it was said in this video it would cause a lot of legal issue as he is technically an innocent man (hes not), but he could be possible sued for slander
@@kevm3569 its like jon venables being protected for the last 20 years cant mention his name online or you can get lifted for it hell a couple who didnt know who he was put a picture with him in the background and were lifted same goes for these grooming gangs too there protected over here
14:37 that’s so true. Like Weller talking about his depression, Jack talking about his health anxiety, and now Stevie talking about his abuse. I might be wrong but I doubt many listeners will be in a similar situation, but I would expect a lot more to have experienced something similar during childhood. I expect listening to this is so comforting and inspiring for anyone who can relate.
Hearing Stevie keep apologising for crying broke my heart. Just wanted to give him a hug and tell him it’s okay to cry. I hope he finds a way to get past this somehow, what a brave guy- all the best Stevie ❤️
I went through this for like 7 years, it’s really scary to tell people, and you do feel like you feel it’s your fault. And the police interviews are really scary but I got food After so I was happy.
"Occasionally when I drink I think about this", the sad truth, it never leaves you, i resonated with that. Thank you for this anyways, I know how hard it is to speak about it, even when you grow up and you have the words, you find yourself and kid again and you just don't. Either way, what you said in this really helped me and opened up a dialogue. Thank you, Stevie.
The man giving you and the other boys money, was grooming. Like a “reward”, so that you’ll focus on that “good” part and come back. When I was groomed I didn’t recognize is was that at the time - being bought pizza, being gifted jewelry and items, having travel paid for..., all these things are to keep a person blind to the bad things they are experiencing. It’s awfully sad how this tricks children and even adults. 😞
You guys are really kind - thank you. I am emotionally far away from it so I am so much better now, 10 years has past, I have a child of my own. But whenever people (Such as Stevie) share their experience it does bring it back a bit.
I work in children's residential homes that cater for the young victims of sexual abuse. It's so more rife in the UK than you'd ever expect. My hats come off to you for sharing your account. I've worked with probably 40 young people in the previous 6 years and each of them feel that they have a part to blame, which is never the case. Sexual exploitation is something everyone should learn about and safe guard the ones around you.
Hey Stevie. I went through something as a child aged around 10 that still haunts me somedays, despite me being 25. It happend for months and in all honesty its just a blur nowdays, and it feels like it was my fault but I dont think it was. You are incredibly brave for coming forward and talking about this and I hope it really helps people. If you ever want to talk to someone, please just message me. My twitter is @Beckyldowning. Thank you for sharing this. Its such a horrific story and no child should face that abuse.
This must have taken quite a lot of courage for Stevie to open up about, and I'm sure its going to help so many people and raise awareness. My utmost respect goes out to both of you for talking about this issue.
Stevie, you're such a top bloke. What you've done is unbelievable and everyone respects you for speaking so openly. You're never alone and a lot of people love you mate. Stay strong and keep killing it in life 🤙
I never understood people who don't like Steve, not only cause of this story but just in general, he offers so much to the podcast and is always funny but can get serious when he needs to
This just breaks my heart especially because when i was 5/6 im not sure how old, my sisters cousin (he was 18 at the time? I cant remember) on her dads side used to get me in his room and do things to me. I never understood it until i got older (im 15 now) and i still haven't told anyone except my bestfriend what happened because part of me just doesnt want people to get police involved or to worry anyone :/
I’ve never been sexually abused so please don’t take offence to this but I’d recommend trying to tell someone like one of your parents because seriously I think it will help and also they need to be locked up I’m really sorry if I’m being rude I don’t mean to me I just wish u all the best and hope it’s possible to speak to close people about it.
almost the exact same experience happened to someone extremely close to me, but PLEASE try to get someone involved with this, because you never know whether or not he's done it to someone else, but even if he hasn't he needs to be locked up i hope you get the justice you deserve
No, Don't tell anyone. Keep in to yourself and forget about it, what happened happened and you can do nothing about it. Pedophilia is a mental illness you'd be getting a innocent man in trouble
I wish people would see how childhood sexual abuse affects people for the rest of their lives. People just assume that kids forget and move on but the memories can stay with you forever. I have so much respect for you and anyone else who has ever gone through something like this
Ultimate respect to you Stevie. No matter what happened, he will never win. He'll never win at the end of the day. I'm so sorry it's been so horrific. You are a champion.
I was abused too from around 5 to about 7 and hearing this really makes me feel less alone. You are so brave and I hope you have had some help. I recently got diagnosed with PTSD from the trauma and its helped alot getting a diagnosis.
Traumas like this really do stick with you until the day you are no longer here. I was 5 when I was sexually abused by 2 family members (Closer to home than you'd think) . No one believed me, which why I chose not to get help. I've become an alcoholic at 23. I have severe social anxiety and agoraphobia. Respect to this young man for being so brave and able to still push through! Commendable. ❤
I've always wanted to put my story out on the internet so others can feel strong enough to talk about childhood abuse. Mine was my father and you word perfectly how it affects you as that age and even more so how it affects you when it hits home what happened. This is powerful and I have so much more respect for Stevie, not that I didnt have any to start with, many people will see this as a start of coming to terms with abuse.
Hey, same. A year since i went to the police 4 months since being told they dont have enough evidence to go to court and he continues to live in the same house as my lil sister
@@tiff1277 I can imagine how tough that is and it takes a strong person to do what you're doing. I was 7 when it happened and all I wanted was my father, simply because I didn't understand what had happened. He took indecent pictures of me and my friends but I saw that as the game he described it was. Its hard to wish your father was the person you want him to be. He used prison as an excuse to get to know what I was doing to give him alibis later on in life after prison. He said he was with me, doing the things I genuinely was doing, to cheat on women as an alibi, which imo fucked me up more.
Thankfully I've never suffered anything a horrific as molestation or a pedophile. But i have been sexually assaulted before by a women and i really think this whole idea of "women can't sexual abuse/rape men" needs to stop. Essentially I was with a group of friends and we went out to the cinema and after went out drinking. Now i was single at the time and there was this girl who i personally wasn't attracted to. Now i had no idea that she was attracted to me but when we went in to the screening room, she slaps my ass. Now i tried to shrug this off since me and my mates do it to each other as like a jokey bromance thing (not in a gay way, its hard to explain if you don't have your bromance boys) Now i shrugged it off as her trying to do something similar but i was still uncomfortable because i hardly knew her. Then she sits next to me and about 3/4 into the film she "accidentally" puts her hand on my thigh and then she tries to rub it and im really uncomfortable and grab her hand and move it, but then 5 minutes later she does it again. So I get up and tell them im going to the toilet and end up spending like 20 minutes just sat in the toilet and wait outside for another 10 minutes until they come out. Then when we go out to some pubs, eventually everyone but me and the girl were either getting drinks or on the toilet so I directly tell her "look i dont know why you kept grabbing my thigh and slapping my ass since i dont know you but stop. Im not attracted to you". And I did it when it was just us, so I dont embarrass her in front of our mates or cause a scene or argument with my mates. So she just said something like "what im not into you, you freak". So that for now at least made me hope that she would leave me alone. Then we go into a club and we're all having a good time. Now eventually most of us are dancing and when one of my mates goes to get the next round for us all. Then the girl decides to literally put her hand down my pants to touch my dick and then thats when I didnt give a shit about what my mates would think, so I yank her hand off and I loudly say "why the fuck do you keep touching me, i told you im not into you". Now my mates are quite drunk so I can probably understand why they didn't react at all. But I go to this bouncer who is watching us all and i tell him what she keeps doing all night and how I want him to get her out because its wrong that she's in here. Then the bouncer just says "mate what are you gay, just go fuck her". So now im fucking angry and tell him "if I was doing that to her and she told you, you'd beat the shit out of me and call the police, but when she does it, its fine". So then he just tells me how im being aggressive to him and he'll kick me out if I do it again. So I then tell one of the bartenders " [girls name] keeps trying to grope me so can you make sure she isnt doing it to my mates" (we all knew each other from school including the bartender so he knew who I was talking about) Then I just go up to my mates and tell them that im leaving early. Then the next morning my mate messages me and says "why did you leave early [girls name] said you were leading her on and then left her on her own in the club" That really pissed me off so I tell him everything. And he doesn't even really have much of a reaction. But i don't hold it against him because the way culture brought us all up to believe that men can't be victims. And although nothing thankfully escalated, I've been embarrassed ever since and felt like I couldn't do anything or that I should have took it further since she never apologised and actually messaged me on snapchat after and told me "you may not like me now but im gonna fuck you one day" Now important note to mention, she wasn't drunk since she was driving her friends back so she had at most 2 drinks throughout the night. And even if she was drunk, it doesn't excuse her since it doesn't excuse a perverted guy to do it to a women either And it really annoys me because I actually tried to speak up about it to the bouncer yet i got shot straight down. Now thankfully im in a relationship with a really nice girl who hasn't tried to shag me the second she met me and we've been dating for like 2 months now, but i want other guys to know that if there has been a girl who has done the same or worse, then report it since abuse and rape can be committed by men and women and nobody should feel like they can't speak up about p.o.s who violate their private space. And just because "they're a girl" doesn't excuse or justify what they did. Because we all know exactly what would happen if you switched the roles.
That is a bad experience. I am a woman and also experienced abusive females. Once I had a lady friend at my house watching tv and suddenly she pulled me towards her and held me really hard and started touching my breasts. She was a tall and strong woman. At first I was surprised, it all was so absurd, but then I pushed her away. I am much more used to abusive men though, I am that unlucky type that attracts rapists and psychopaths so since some years I kept all men between 18-75 years at a minimum 2 meter distance. And women. I was in quarantine long before 2020. P.T.S.D. is real. I hope that other victims get the help they need, and the ability to speak up without shame, like Stevie.
@@ptsd73 im sorry you had to go through that. like im pretty sure people might read my comment as some "let's hate women" type of thing. Like no, anyone who thinks they have the rights to start touching people for their sexual pleasure need to be stopped and held accountable for no matter man or woman. Honestly us a species has evolved to the point we have built shit and are pretty much the most apex predator since we have weapons. And yet we as a species are so fucked in the head that we abuse, murder, steal, and just commit atrocities against each other
@@jmaddnessL0L You were not hateful. And no matter gender, it's not ok to start touching people for own sexual pleasure. We better build respect for eachother and work together for a more equal and peaceful society.
I love that this video made people who unfortunately went through experiences like this, I can’t begin to imagine how scary that would be for you mate, you couldn’t have said it better and your 1000% right about “women can’t abuse men” thing, it’s so dumb, stay strong ❤️
@@bigmanchungie8685 thankyou mate. Ive never understood where the whole "women cant rape/abuse men" even came from or why there's people who actually agree with that. Mad world we live in...
Wow, this is so important to hear and really does mean a lot, so thank you Stevie. You hear about sexual abuse a lot in the media nowadays, but very little about childhood sexual abuse. I was 10 when my neighbour groomed and abused me, he was 16 at the time, and his parents convinced mine not to tell the police. It was the biggest mistake they ever made and I'm still working though it in therapy, because it's too late now to prove anything. They only moved away last month, 11 years later, so I can relate so much, and it means so much to see my story reflected. It comes out when I drink, too! I hadn't realised how much I needed to hear your story until I did, so thank you.
It hurts me that Stevie went through this he’s an honest good guy and doesn’t deserve this and he feels embarrassed to talk about it when he was a kid and that disgusting man is the one that should be ashamed of himself. It’s good to talk about these things because it raises awareness I had a similar problem but I didn’t get abused in anyway there was a man who used to give us chocolates but in the end it turned out he took pictures of us playing outside his house I still remember exactly how he looks. Mad.
It’s crazy how much detail people can remember from experience’s like these, It really does show the damage it does. I can’t imagine the mental scaring on ppl that have had to live with being sexually assaulted
