Stop Accepting Less Than What You Deserve | Mindset Matters 👑 

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"If you are more afraid to lose somebody than you are to honor yourself--that is a problem. that is THE problem." this. so important and true and a key highlight of the video.

Dylan, I want to thank you cause my life has changed so much since I found you, I went from being an anxious mess with anxious attachment in a “friends with benefits” with a guy that kept me as a secret, to a loving relationship with the same guy, we have traveled, I met his family, we talk about the future, and not only this aspect of my life changed, I got promoted at work, my income is twice what it was, money keeps coming in, and even things I wish for my relatives comes to my reality. Thank you so much for doing what you do, I still sleep with my custom tape every night and love when I see a new video show up on my notifications. ❤️

Had to run this video back. Went through a breakup and was feeling guilty when I initiated it. Then I realized, I was accepting the BARE MINIMUM and my higher self was screaming…I ignored until I came to my senses. Uh uh. Not I…. 😌 ✌🏾I don’t accept!

I watch this everyday to stay focused on the fact I deserve to be chosen and a priority. This video helps me in every way. I’ve tolerated being a doormat to my SP for so long due to my fear of losing the little bit of crumbs I was getting. I got tired of this unhealthy cycle so I decided to bet on myself and set boundaries. I stopped being the one chasing, begging, having anxiety about abandonment and them not wanting to commit to me. Just like Dylan mentioned in this video they have not been happy with the fact I have completely withdrawn from accepting bad treatment from them. I don’t initiate NOTHING you want me you have to come and get me. I’m not lifting a finger. Focusing completely on my self concept once and for all I’m not afraid of losing anybody but myself!

Yes. Im so thankful Thats my self concept finally ! “If you’re not treating me right you’re not getting any of my energy “💅🏽 if I see some treatment I don’t like I don’t argue with the person .I don’t stress over it. I simply remove myself.and see them come back changed without me lifting up a finger.! I’m not scared about losing anybody lol i know they’ll be back. Because who wouldn’t. And that’s the SC that’s really powerful!

I actually started creating a structure for my day and started doing breath work 3 times a day. And I'm not kidding you guys, it's been only a day and I already feel a shift in my state of being. I feel loved cause' I'm taking good care of myself. I also listen to his affirmation tapes. **Just a little update- It's been 13 days with me sleeping with the affirmation tape. I never felt the way I'm feeling these days. I've noticed some changes in my behaviour. I no longer feel the need to "try"- be it try extra to look good, try to manifest/chase the things I want. My face is changing for some reason. My skin is clear. People are slowly showing up acting different. I feel spread out to the whole universe, I feel the connection with everything and everybody.

11:10 being more scared of losing the person than your own self respect is the problem 17:09 it’s a brand new moment

"It is pretty normal to look at somebody and say, statistically speaking, based on the behavior that I have seen them over time, it would be reasonable to assume that they're going to show up and act this way. Well, we're not trying to continue to recreate the same old results. So you have to decide what the new story's going to be and you have to stick to that decision. Period." Something in my brain 'clicked' when you said this - this was a big question for me. Didn't make sense before. Answer received. Thank you Dylan!

I am amazed about how the universe works. Today I decided to stop entertaining my situationship because I am not getting the treatment that I deserve so I was thinking about my decision and I immediately saw this video. Thank you Dylan. 💕

When SPs are mentioned it’s usually about romantic relationships but SPs can be anyone. My SP is my best friend. Iv been watching Dylan for months now manifesting my other sp but recently it clicked about how important self concept is and HONORING YOURSELF!!! Iv been friends with my best friend since 9th grade and are now seniors in highschool. Pretty young right. But Iv always had a very strong self concept with her and it was challenged with my recent “circumstance”. Last month I did something and she felt like I didn’t put her first. Which is a valid feeling so I apologized but she kept ignoring me after we talked it out. I thought she would get over it since she does this often and I kept trying to talk to her “manipulating my 3d”. I kept getting hurt and not HONORING my self knowing what I deserved. Then last Friday i got rlly upset about her ignoring and said no I’m not accepting this *dust off hands like Dylan* I pushed it from my awareness and left her alone. We have 2 classes together but I just kept moving on and feeling good. I was at first scared to speak my truth and leave her alone because I thought we would never talk again. I couldn’t visualize how I wanted her to show up since I was till hurt. So I went into self concept feeling more wanted inside since that’s what was triggered in my self concept. Then today she randomly texted me about something and I texted back thinking nothing of it. We had a senior thing and I was having fun with other friends and she came up to me and asked to take pictures. It’s was just like before, our regular friendship. I didn’t say “no” or hold anything against her. I choose how she is going to show up in my reality and KEPT THAT. Don’t accept anything less than you deserve. Choose how you want them to show up and pleasantly expect them to show up that way. If you hold that vision and HONOR YOURSELF you will not have to worry about them “leaving” or “never talking again”

I love how Dylan posts a lot about Nicki Minaj as far as self concept goes and also Simone Biles. Like. You think they are trippin over a boy who aint showing up in the right way for them????? Nope. Come correct (you coming back cause I'm the best option hiiiiii ) . Love you Dylan

The glitches didn’t stop us one bit!❤️🙏🏾❤️

Let what isn’t serving you and aligning with what you dream for yourself fall away. Make less or no noise and let it fall away for a bit. It will come back if you want it to. Excellent post!!

I have to say THANK YOU. Found you 7 months ago and booked a Coaching. Today was the day of my life when I cried like somebody broke my heart LOL but I cried because I AM HAPPY!!!!!!! After 26 years on this earth I feel happy. I was so proud of myself that I came to this point and you played a big role. It was the missing key in this LOA Community. No matter if law of attraction or law of assumption nobody brought me this far even though i Had a Coaching before. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

When I shifted my concept about myself and accepted and approached his alcoholism and drug addiction with compassion, he chose to perceive that as a threat to what he called his lifestyle and abandoned our marriage and chose to gravitate back toward the same people he vehemently complained about who are also alcoholics , drug addicted and manipulative and has remained there since. He tried coming back three times within months of him leaving because he saw how much I have been thriving and living my best version of myself but he refused to elevate and disconnect from his lifestyle and people. By then, it naturally took care of itself because we were on two entirely opposing frequencies. I wish him love and well-being. It really is ok to let go of worrying if they’ll ever speak to you again or want to be with you and honor yourself first because you KNOW what you’re worthy of regardless of what you’ve invested in time and energy. Why would you want to be with a version of them who is not treating you well anyway?! Your analogy of luxury items is the perfect explanation. You know how to treat them well and they don’t come begging you to buy them by discounting their items and advertising how high their quality is for people to have them so why would you do that to yourself with others! Brilliant Dylan James 💎✨

I would like to put this on a tshirt - WHEN YOU ARE MORE AFRAID TO LOSE SOMEBODY OVER HONORING YOURSELF. THAT IS A PROBLEM. DJ you are a legend ♥

After 3 year of self love and awareness…. i put everything i have learned to heart. My heart got broken so badly it finally woke me up to what i was letting into my life that i didn’t deserve. I just reconnected with a friend that i only know virtually of over 3 yrs … we have a connection but he started dating a girl a yr ago thou he says its ending soon. He is away fighting fires in BC now so i guess figuring out his next steps. We just started talking again and its been so amazing and our attraction and connection has been getting stronger. Long story short i started getting feeling and decided with our physical attraction as well that we need to slow things down. For the first time in my life, I’ve set boundaries and said that we couldn’t continue doing this until he sorted his stuff out with the other girl. I didn’t get super needy but I did get emotional and just told him that I was a bit scared and that I think we should be friends right now and he said he was fine with that but now I haven’t heard from him and the connection that we had is slowly going away so now I’m scared that I’ve lost him because of the stupid boundary. 😢

Sadly I did exactly what you warned about. I was reactive and angry when I set boundaries. And my worst fears materialized. Happily, my focus now is on myself and my inner stability. I am being fearless and confident that I will materialize the life I desire. Thank you so much for being honest and real with us.

@13:05 Experienced this recently... twice. I noticed I immediately thought the person would think I was "playing games" but I immediately swapped it to "I am loved, respected, and accepted." He exited my life (which was fine by me). But days later a different person wanted something casual but he respected that we will just be platonic friends rather than hook up. He was surprised and loved that I actually stood my ground. In the past, I would of tried manipulating the situation by going along with the pleasure (but ending up emotionally unhappy) but this time the thought of anything physically casual was a complete turn off. Now that I am happier with just friends (no benefits) I am more emotionally sound and literally feel better that people actually want to get to know me and spend time with me and my family, plus friends. It's such a better experience to really listen to your inner heart, know exactly what you want, and allow it to flow into your life whether it be via old relations or new people that appear. Take care 💕🎱💕

Glitches just means that the video has such high vibes!! We will still get the message. Thank you Dylan!♥️♥️♥️♥️ I can’t wait to finish. 🙏🏽

I can’t believe this topic showed up. This is so aligned with my circumstance. So happy for you Dylan being back in your flow✨

Manifested a new job out of state with your teachings. My SP hasn’t shown up but I wish him so much love & happiness. I look forward to the day we meet again🤞🏾❤️

Figuring out what I want when I can manifest anything has been the toughest part, but I won't get anything if I don't decide. Thanks for the reminder.

I love how genuine you are. You’re literally living proof that growth continues to happen even when we think we’ve grown enough to get comfortable

Listen to dylan guys. His teachings literally made me feel that my life is full of happiness, love and abundance. And there is no such thing that I can't achieve or can't manifest in my life. More importantly his every video will make you realise that other people limiting beliefs doesn't matter even if it's a sp you're manifesting❤️❤️

Dylan, I watched this initially when you uploaded but didn’t want to take what you’re saying to my situation because I was scared to lose the relationship with my SP who I was with on a FWB terms. I decided enough is enough and I’m not going to continue to allow less than what I deserve to be apart of my reality and I ended it. I’m not angry or even sad. I could almost cry though because I am SO DAMN proud of myself. I am so proud of myself for not letting this person to treat me less than what I deserve. I know he will come correct and I am finally allowing the story to be changed to suit my needs. THANK YOU for sharing and making all aspects crystal clear

YAY!!!! YOU DID GREAT BABE

After years of on again off again with my SP, I’ve decided to let it go work on myself and let spirit provide. if it isn’t him it’ll be someone even more amazing.

I always feel so encouraged after watching Dylan’s videos. Makes me feel like I can do it!

My fwb just said he loves me. This is a done deal. Amazing❤️

Perfect timing right when I needed this literally! Was spiraling, putting my sp on the pedestal and feeling desperate. I didn't realize I wasn't respecting myself. A friend help me realize it.

This video is spot on in every way ( other than the audio 😄). I discovered your videos after a break up three weeks ago. I have found all of your content fabulous, this one resonated so much. I realised that when I first got with my ex I was exactly as you described we should be, probably as I wasn't as into him at first, he was a lot more into me. As the relationship developed and I really started to like him something switched and I became the opposite. If I'm honest I became more fearful of loosing the relationship than setting my boundaries of what was not acceptable to me in a loving way. Instead I would get angry and end up arguing. This made things worse as you often say more than what you planned to or that's necessary in arguments. The more I did this looking back the less effect I was having. Instead of him looking at his behaviour he then had something to try to it with or take the spotlight of what I didn't like and focus on my behaviour. After our last argument 3 weeks ago he told me I should move on and deleted my number. I have since moved from a state of feeling down ( first two weeks) to now feeling more confident and self focused which is what's needed to manifest him back. When he does come back I want to feel like a different person so putting in the work from now! One thing I was holding onto which I deleted today was an app monitor which I had used after the break up to see each time he came onto WhatsApp. I know stalker behaviour! and not aligned with being confident and secure, hence me deleting it. I tricked myself into thinking that me seeing his name pop up each time I got notified was me living in my end and having contact but it's clearly not. Thanks Dylan, for the great content and everything you are doing to help people be the best version of themselves ❤️

I love how transparent you are to speak on your own experience, letting us know mistakes can happen even, and how to get back focused

Yet again, another amazing video. This is so insightful. From listening to the limitless track for just over a month now, I’ve gone from being anxious being unable to self regulate my emotions, being fearful and unable to say what I want, to being confident enough to state my mind and go after what I want. Thank you so much ❤️

I have always been living the fear of losing someone if I really want to pursue what I deserve in a relationship. I never confront with myself what I want from a relationship as I am not confident . So the unpleasant pattern of my relationship is just repeating itself. This video just gave me the strength to move forward to pursue what I deserve . I finally deleted my sp today and had a big cry . I just hope I can recover from this asap as the pain is unbearable sometimes . Thank you for everything Dylan ! I read so many successful stories , I wish one day I can share mine with you .

I’ve been listening to your sleep meditations at night for a while and during this video I realized I am no longer accepting this job I have that undervalues and disrespects me on a daily basis. I am done accepting less than I deserve. Thanks for helping me change my entire life!! 💜

Just ended a 3 year joke that devastated me to where I don't recognize myself anymore 😔 and I thought I had such a strong hold of my mindset. I was wrong.

The best coach ever. Thank you soooo much Dylan!!! Communicated about what I no longer accept, respectfully. Feels sooo good! Ladies always choose you! Don’t be afraid to be confident. When you change your self concept some people can’t wrap their head around the fact the you don’t accept BS no more. Persist! This is your life. You’ll feel more respected

This is amazing and just what I need right now! I've been manifesting my sp in and out of my life for several weeks but not the version I desire. I see and feel now that I need to change the way I behave because although I don't react in a negative way, I am allowing my sp to treat me in a way that doesn't honour me . I will no longer accept this BS because i realise it is more important that I honour myself than be in fear of losing him ...watch this space , amma turn this around and create the version of my sp that I desire . Thanks sooo much Dylan . Its so lovely to see you happy and glowing again 😍😍😍😍

28:30...ohhhhoo moment ..light bulb moment.. Its so cleared where I'm doing wrong & why its appeared.. Omg Dylan you r such a gem..my man playing with my feelings since for mny months..& its to the point he's made me do things which I don't like & he exactly now know that if I have to close to him /_get his attention I have to do this shitty things which I don't like to do either way he's like so cold to me & even distanced..Dylan you don't know you cleared it so smoothly like why we remain stuck & looping same situations again & again..& where we nobody but we ourselves putting into this victim or unwanted situations.. Now I got it..until he's matches how I wanted to be with me..I'll no longer entertaining his shitty behaviours towards me..its better to stay away from him rather lowering my values & needs..he's been so manipulative towards me..now I'm gonna change it..

My God, how much I missed you! You are so articulate and you explain things so well. I typically play RU-vid videos at 2x speed but with you, I decrease it to 0.75 speed just so I can soak up everything you say. Thank you so much for sharing your stories and explaining things so clearly! This makes is so much easier to understand and to apply in our lives!! 🤗

thank you to be here u helped me change how i see my self

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this right now as my relationship has been so hot and cold. I need to stop accepting things that I don't deserve

Dylan You are so amazing .... U don't know how much you helped me in getting my relationship back with much more love and clarity ... Thank you so much ....🤗.. Love frm INDIA ❤

My fear is that I have lost my bff and that I will be alone. I know this not true because what is meant for me will never pass me by. I just have to believe and have faith. Thanks for coming back, you give me the confidence I need to have.

I needed to hear this! I’ve been freaking out all weekend and manifesting wonky circumstances :(

Hey Dylan! So the previous post you suggested the book "Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz" it is available as audio book in amazon & also available online as hardcopy. So in the book they suggested, reading the book "Self-Consistency-A theory of Personality by Prescott Lecky" self consistency book, pdf is free online..from page 118 onwards, really gets interesting..both books talk about stability, self concept & lots of what you are telling us..thank you.. for all of these gems you are dropping us are thoroughly researched and scientific! You are doing amazing!💪🏽 reading the books just cements what you have been telling us the whole time. I had difficulty in learning new things, reading these books.. it says its all about self concept.💎 I also listen to your 8hrs affirmations on self concept & changing limiting beliefs..it has been an amazing journey & just so you know.. you do impact a large number of people all over the world..🌎

Wonderful message as usual! I'm so glad you're back, not because I missed you but because it means that you are back in alignment and doing well with your partnership. 💞 You have helped me more than I can ever explain, and I want to teach these same concepts someday. Amazing life-changing stuff! 17:28 GOLD

Thank u Dylan, you’re an angel in my life. I was doing well but last days I’m feeling like i’m loosing my power to circumstances, and I’m feeling frustrated because everything was going so good with SP, and these days I was triggered with old believes and feeling fear which makes me feel frustration and powerless… This live is a sign from the Universe so that I can get alignment again. I luv u so, so… so much! Thank u.

I love how you keep it real. its not about the outside world. its about your inner game Self Love first and foremost.

So good. Always ♥️Thank you Dylan. That compassion piece is so important

Omg Dylan I’m so excited, today’s my birthday and I get to enjoy a video from you!! So glad you’re back! I’ve missed your videos 💜

I needed this! I do really good for a couple of days and then I fall and still finding my limiting beliefs and not focusing on circumstances but I need to focus more on my self concept ❤️

Dylan, you explain things so well. Shame the video was a bit glitchy but definitely golden. Love all your videos. Bless you for doing these free videos to help all 💕

Dylan, I want to thank you too! You are really a blessing to me. You have taught me so much and have caused me to find myself again. I can’t believe that it is so easy to just monitor your thoughts and know it is done and things start changing. I love falling asleep to your affirmations. Crazy how all my old beliefs want to pop up and how after 30 days I started experiencing almost physic abilities. Everything you go over in your content really explains every process. You are the best teacher I have ever followed. I m so glad I found you. You are truly a blessing to me. 💕💖💕

Dylan, i want to tell you that your advices are both spiritual and practical and you are so good at putting the theory into a way that all people can practice. thank you so much Dylan!

Yes I’m learning 🙌 I kinda thought 💭 of it as when a kid is grumpy 😡 you know they are only behaving this way because they are tired and after the have a nap they will be them selves.

That’s it right there. “If I need my partner to show up in a specific way to feel loved, I’m always going to be chasing.” CLOCKED ME RIGHT THERE!!! THATS WHERE IVE BEEN FUCKIN UP AT!

I am not afraid to walk away and I even know he will come back if I call him out. However, some where in my belief system makes it SO HARD to talk about it.

The thought that ‘they love me being this strong confident being’ is so opposite of my experience in my childhood home

Omggg I said The exact same sentence when I had a moment with my partner he actually responded kindly and it was so kind it took me a moment to see what I was doing, what I was up to & how my energy was. It was amazing.

Dylan spitting bars!

I'm so glad you're back dylan ❤️😭 missed you so much

who needs therapy when you have Dylan James!!

This is so true. This is exactly what my current situation is. I let my sp stop by my house whenever he wants but then he ghosts me on the weekends which tells me he’s with someone else. I told him we needed to stop the booty calls and he just replied “ok” that’s it! I haven’t heard from him since that text

Thank you so much. I’m so afraid of the loss that I’ve let myself live in fear. You words are the backbone I needed.

My SP has told me he's not ready because of where he is at mentally and emotionally. He cares about me and wants to be with me but he doesn't feel worthy of being in a relationship and I feel like he's pushing me away because of how he feels about himself. I don't know how to help him believe in himself.

This is literally the video that I needed to see today! Thank you for everything that you do Dylan! Sending lots of love to you and everybody out there! 🙏💕😍

Daily mental massage💆

Thanks!

Dylan i tried following your guides throughout a few months , and i can say that every time i get near something i seemingly want it gets drastically worse , i have kind of stopped listening to the tapes and stopped affirming things since pretty much none of them happened , and when it seemed like something is gonna happen it just turns a complete 180 on me , so yeah i do understand that you're helping a lot of people and i respect that but i just cant fix my mentality enough to match my reality cause my reality keeps being disappointing

Fkn needed this right now

OMG Dylan I don’t know how these things pop up on my algorithm but they do. I shifted six 1222 and I could feel it I know it the old me is gone she’s gone and now I am confident and I am happy and I just want to be the best version of me as far as the SP goes he’s not gonna be happy when I tell him we are no longer friends with benefits. I want more I need more I deserve more I’m worth more. I would like him to give it to me and I will manifest him showing up the way I need him. But ultimately in the end if heCannot. Then I will move on without a problem. You say we’re not supposed to feel good every day let me tell you after the shift I can’t wait to wake up I laugh I smile people are coming up to me and saying what is going on with you you are so different. And thank the gods that I am. Thank you Dylan

Yes, sir! ❤ I want a committed relationship full of laughter, trust, mutual support, fun & sexy, Frank Sinatra in the kitchen, and adventuring. I am so done with bickering, short tempers, and knit-picking. I cleaned my boyfriends’s entire house to support his residency efforts. He comes home & knit picks my acne, my hair, my clothes, the lights were left on (when I’m standing in the room) and…that hit a chord. It’s decided. I want to be the best option as a friend, romantic partner, and co-worker and get what I desire. I want that vibrant social life again that I had before the pandemic. I want a more interesting career. I want to cultivate the life I want & done listening to doubts and fears and complaining. ❤ Let the adventure being!

i’ve been listening to your tapes and okg i feel sm lighter i even do your guided meditations in the morning and before your the best i can’t wait to see better results after some time i’ll update you guys i even find myself feeling more confident with myself love you x

Love your work, love your honesty.. But just wondering am i the only one that is having trouble watching this video though? Your voice seems to be glitching/lagging. Still is good, message still came through. I love how you give examples from your own experiences.

I so appreciate hearing this explanation...wasn't really worried about him going away as I was causing more of it or him showing u up like that because I was focusing on it instead of ignoring it 🥰❤

My BFF Dylan!! You always deliver 💙✨

This right here is exactly what I needed today. Like EXACTLY! It’s one of my favorites.

This video..wow Dylan. Beautifully articulated. Thank you for sharing, it is so clearly explained i now need to start putting into action

Nothing better a talk from you first thing in the morning thank you

This is exactly what I needed to hear! You are an angel on earth!!! Thank you sooo much! 🙏🏼❤️

The first three minutes were golden!!!!

Thank you for your content. My life has changed bc of your videos. You are great and handsome!

You're one of my favorite teachers.

Holy f*uck thank you!!! Answers that really helped me conceptualize a few things!

I love listening to you! You’re amazing Dylan. Thank you for being stern and telling it like it is! That’s what I love about you. 💕✨

Thanks Dylan. My dads in hospital on a blood transfusion i want him to get well and be home

This video is simply divine timing for me

You better preach 🙌,

You make me feel good DJ 💥!! So right now my focus is you 😁

I never will again, amen.

You're truly an angel 😇 thank you!

I have such huge appreciation respect for allll that you share! Thank you ever so much 💓

Even if this is a glitchy video thank you so much for it! One of my fav videos now! ♥️

Guys if you change the speed to a little faster then it sounds a bit smoother :)

Totally resonated with me today !!! Love u and ur videos. Perfectly said everything I needed to hear to cement it in

You’re brilliant, Dylan!!

Awesome! Glad you’re back!