I suffer from it every day. I try to stay positive in front of people, but sometimes i cannot hold my tears fallling down. I try and try but it's pointless
Students hate school not because they hate learning. In fact, we all love learning; you learn things even if you don't realize it. They hate school because of its system and how it works. It puts too much pressure and stress to students.
I get so stressed over school, because I am pressured into getting good grades and it makes me feel stressed ALL OF THE TIME. Sometimes I feel like I am just a huge failure, even though people tell me “no you’re not, your so smart” but that constant stress leads me to think I am failing😔
@@The_Electric_54 So I need to learn multi step equations if I want to be a project manager? Okay, bud. That’s like saying somebody who wants to be a musician needs to learn and memorize the periodic table. Get real.
Same. I never know when my teachers are gonna get upset with me. Never know when there's gonna be friend trouble. Never know when I'm gonna forget to do something for homework. It's scary, and hard. But I have to try to trust that it's gonna be ok. That my teachers will be patient and understanding. That me and my friends will get along. That I'll remember to do what I need to do. And that I'll just over all have a good day. I totally know how you feel, but we just gotta trust that it'll be ok.
Schools fail to help kids to socialize and for many that creates lots of stress. It's not normal to be around 20 or 30 persons in a classroom and not giving them the chance to interact w each other. That creates a disconnection that generates distrust and fear of others. Workshop based on interactive activities are needed to help kids to learn good COMMUNICATION skills.
my class has 34 people ...when we try to talk during the class, the teacher always trys to make us stop talking, like dude u literally said in school u can make friends yet u want us to shut up!?
I once had massive social issues, and even went non-verbal for a while because during a 'transitional' age, when most people know how to communicate properly, I never learned how to interact with people. School thought I was clever because I was quiet, and never picked up on, or cared how I was struggling.
People are so worried about what she said about Africa, when you should be listening to the truth about school. It’s so stressful and I feel like teachers don’t completely understand that
I agree that having good grades adds to stress. I have developed what can only be called an obsession with my English grade. I have had all 100s since the beginning of the year, and every time there is something to turn in for a grade I have a panic attack. This mostly stems from the fact that I want to establish a career as an author. I love my English class, but it stresses me out because it makes me feel like I _have_ to be the best. I can’t help but think that everything would be different if my first English grade had been even slightly lower than 100.
It won’t matter in the real world. Let that stress go. Look up john taylor gatto on RU-vid for the history of why schools were created. Striving to please these people is pointless and won’t help you in the real world. Schools are frustrating and hard because they are designed to brainwash you to be obedient and jump through hoops for authority figures. They aren’t for educating you or bettering your life. Take it from someone who was an overachiever who has been out of school for a long time now. It won’t matter later. What will matter is your ability to educate yourself when you’re done with school and your ability to unlearn all the lies you’ve been taught and truly educate yourself.
Don’t worry too much about your English grade You will become an author But your whole career doesn’t depend on your own grammar knowledge You still have an editor
It’s hard because I try hard to get the very best on everything, and that becomes my best. My best isn’t my personal best, but the grade that I’m given. For one of my classes, we had to draw an entire world map by hand, and I lost sleep and energy and had so much stress over it, and I got a c, while people that didn’t do as well as I did got a’s and b’s. I was so sad for the rest of the day and couldn’t think straight. I am a person that is surrounded by people telling me that grades are the most important thing and that I need good grades in order to achieve greatness. I don’t know how true that is, but st this point, it just doesn’t seem worth it anymore. I want to be a happy kid, but I can’t anymore.
She's a high schooler talking to a large stadium of mainly adults, god I can't even talk to people at school idk, let alone that many... I think she has a pass here
I feel like if I relax I would become different from other people, and fall in the eyes of my parents, teachers etc. This Is why I burnout. Self satisfaction is everything for me.
i’m a freshman in college and i have had this struggle ever since i was in high school. sometimes i feel like school isn’t about learning anymore and more about just passing and getting good grades. we shouldn’t let school consume our lives. we should set boundaries so it doesn’t give us so much stress.
It's their only chance in life, they have no insurance (parents money and support, our countries public insurances) like we do, so I suppose that could stress some in their place out..?
It’s like that for me. Sometimes, I can’t take it anymore. I’m too afraid to, and I don’t want to give things up. It’s going to get worse.. I know I’m too young and people with think I’m edgy.. I’m 12 and I can’t wait for it to get harder :/
I'm currently failing classes because of the stress to do everything perfect and to do the homework on the free time that i don't have. I thought I was supposed to learn in school but one hour on youtube can teach me more than stressful years of my life!
My parents are probably the biggest source of my pressure, if I get a bad grade or god forbid if I get a C on my report card I feel absolutely terrible and they make me feel terrible about it too, they act disappointed and I can't blame them but it's just too much. I just can't deal with this stress in my life. I worry constantly about my grades and I always think about how I can improve, I will fly into anxiety attacks over poor grades because I think I will grow to become a failure and I will never be good enough.
I’m a freshman in high school, and I can’t take it anymore. I go on social media and see all these kids my age becoming famous and not having to do anything but “make tiktoks” or “make RU-vid videos”, but then I get back to my terrible life and realize that I have to go to school, and deal with all this bs. My father died 2 months ago, and I’ve been taking it pretty hard, but my school could care less about what I’m going through. School is very inconvenient right now to be honest, I just truly do not want to go anymore. And yes, I know some people in other parts of the world would kill to be educated, but sadly I am just not one of those people who want to learn. I just want to travel the world and get a decent paying job, at somewhere where I can work the night shift. People say that’s not a good life to live, but I don’t care. That’s how I want to live. I don’t want to go to college, I don’t want to finish high school. And I do not want to go through what I’m going through any longer. I have had it up to my breaking point with school. There is no hope for me, and there is no hope that I will get my happiness back. It is 5:00am right now and I still have not gone to sleep. I have to wake up at 6:00am. So there is really no point in going to sleep. I guess this is just going to be yet another sleepless night. I go to one of the worst schools in my town, and the people there are just so horrible, they are all so mean and cruel to each other, I do not want to go there anymore. I do not want to continue this vicious cycle that we call life. I just cannot take it anymore. Please, if anyone feels the way I do, please reply to me, and tell me your story, I would love to hear🖤
Hey i hope you’re doing okay. I know its been a year but I just want you to know you’re not alone. I feel the same way lately and its breaking me apart.
Education doesn't have to be a miserable experience as it is with most standard schools. Look into Self-Directed Education. And the idea that an impoverished kid in another country would love to take your place as a student in school, doesn't make your plight any less unacceptable. Also western compulsory education isn't exactly the beacon of hope you make it out to be. Watch the film: Schooling the World.
stressing over school, cause my mom forces me to go to every spelling bees, and stressed over bad grades, this is so bad, im just being forced, i love education but this is not how i do it, being locked in my bedroom and crying to sleep?..
hi, if ur like me, stressed, crying over homework, I just wanted to let you know that you dont need to die. you dont need to be sad. sit there for a few more minutes, cry, and then you'll realise there's some hope. now get on with that assignment.
I get really stressed because of grades and tests and I’m always just studying and I can’t relax or go out with friends because I always feel stressed about the next exam and I feel guilty that I’m not studying It’s just terrible 😭
really sorry you have such an inconsiderate learning system at school. I hope something at some point will be done and next generations won't have to deal with that @Fatimah XD
Alright, as a freshman, I just wanted to say that I’m in a rut right now. I’ve been in high school for exactly 6 full days, and I’m already looking at 2 hours of homework every night. As someone that has never gotten lower than a 92 on a report card (and doesn’t plan on it), I breakdown when the most minuscule things happen in class, and I think it’s taking me apart. I used to go to school excited to learn new things and develop my skills in different classes, but now it just feels like pure stress, and I’m scared that if I let the stress get to me I won’t get good grades anymore, and what does that mean for my future?? My father was the first person in his family to go to college, and I want to continue the pattern, so how do I do that without the little stresses of excess homework, no free time, and loss of motivation restraining me?? I don’t know what to do with my life anymore.
Im a sophomore in high school i can completely relate to your situation. My grandfather went from living in a squatter home to becoming a major figure in the agricultural industry. He was able to give my dad the resources to go to a good college and he ended up going to UC Berkeley even though he went to a high school in a small Poor agricultural town. Now as I’m getting into high school I want to continue the progression of growth that my Family has had so I want to achieve even more than what my dad was able to accomplish. Freshman year I took the hardest classes offered that year and I was able to manage getting good grades which made my parents very proud, however, this ambition to take the hardest classes would be much more than I expected come sophomore year. Again I chose a very difficult and homework heavy class schedule. I was able to get through the first semester with a 4.5 GPA which made my parents very proud but as a I looked back on what I accomplished I felt nothing, I felt like I had accomplished nothing and I just met the expectations that I set for myself. I looked back on the memorable moments of my first semester and o could think of almost nothing. I was always rushed all the time to get my homework done that I was unable to just enjoy life and this rushed and stressed lifestyle made it difficult for me to maintain healthy relationships and make new friends. I feel like my parents think that i am going to be super successful in life and they are now thinking about college programs for me and other things like that but I’m afraid I won’t meet the standard that they believe I can meet. Now I’m in my second semester and I was afraid I was going to feel the emptiness and loneliness I felt the first so I tried to be more calm and not be so stressed but that has only caused more stress as I’ve been struggling to finish my homework on time. I’ve had constant breakdowns telling myself that I’m going to be a failure if I don’t get good grades and although my parents have supported me when I feel the most down I’m afraid I have to go through that same cycle of stress and emptiness when I have to start the school week again . I’m not sure what I’m gonna do since the school year is about to end but I don’t want to continue suffering and I just want to enjoy life. I just realized you wrote this comment thee years ago so I hope you were able to overcome your situation.
It causes me stress and depression / anger some times, and if i don’t want to do something at school that i think is very scary, i cry myself to sleep because they put so much weight on top of me.. 😓
Why can’t they just let kids be kids?? After school we should be socializing, hanging out with friends, practicing hobbies, experiencing the world! But we are stuck sitting at our desks all night doing endless pages of homework. That’s a major flaw in the system. Homework should only be assigned if it was actually school work that was failed to be completed in class, and if the student had enough time in general to complete it in class. Homework should not be assigned in heaps and piles because it is detrimental to student’s mental health. High stress, depression, and anxiety often are products of school. Student’s simply don’t have the time to do any self work or self reflection, nor time to process emotions properly because of the demand on time that school has on them. On average, a school day does not end. The student wakes up, goes to school and studies/learns/does work, and then gets home and studies/learns/does work. It’s a draining cycle that doesn’t end. Please. Let kids be kids. Let us enjoy our lives instead of miserably spending all of it on school work. Let us learn about the world and socialize after we spent a long day at school. Let us have time to process our emotions and do self work.
school doesn’t teach us about things that would help us in life, they teach us about how to pass our grades but not things that would actually help us survive
Teachers literally think you have all the time in the world to revise and do homework, eg: my English teacher wants me to read for 35 minutes a day and if we don’t we get a detention, my private maths tutor wants me to do an hour of maths a day, and then I get like 3 pieces of homework a day and then I want to revise for an hour of geography and science as they are what I also need to get good grades in- btw I am in yr 9/ 8th grade, and I still dek when my GCSE’s start lol
Honestly I've heard this message so many times and it's just a guilt-trip. It sounds to me like 'you don't deserve to feel bad about school because some people in a far off country have it worse than you'. no thanks.
When I was at school, I experienced a lot of this stress as well. I put myself through it, hoping that good grades would give me success in later life. Now I am so burnt out from school, that 5 years later, I find myself so ill that I can not work at all. Where is the success?
I guess we all struggle with school and especially being pressured about grades that for me I start seeing nothing except that number judging me I keep comparing myself with everyone and end up procrastinating to escape stress and end up stressing way more. I think viewing school like said Adisa will give us new respectives and doing school for ourselves and our sake of knowledge instead of impressing or pleasing others will help us even with our grades in an indirect way. School doesn’t have to be this negative reality beating us but a blessing we get.
most of my highschool stress came from the socialising aspect.. I was so anxious in class everyday that I couldn't focus on my grades. looking back i spent a lifetime of time I should've used hanging out and identifying the mysteries of life and cracking jokes with friends on playing video games alone. this can go on a tangent about "the woes of excessive gaming" but I guess I would say hang out with your friends more instead of becoming a hermit.
Everyone thinks life is unfair, it indeed is. She was talking abt adisa who can give anything to get her place, but at the end of the day neither adisa nor her is happy, and thats life🙂
I'm a teacher myself and i teach for teenagers between 12-16 , we'll discuss something related to teenage daily before going into the subject, i can't do much about their problems but I'll just listen and i have no clue what to do. I need your opinion (only teen agers please ) 1. about what do you expect a teacher to be in your life. 2. How do you expect them to treat you. 3. How does a teacher impact your life.
School is so important to me! My parents didn’t get the right education, and I want to be able to prove to them that I will succeed in school. Everyone in my family has good grades! Not trying to brag but it’s been 2 years and I only get straight A’s but the thing is people think school comes easy to me cause I am the “smartest” people sometimes stereotype! They think I don’t try because it comes easy to me! I stress so much about school because i am so used of getting straight A’s
Especially in this pandemic, I've been very stressed about assignments, and with my social anxiety, I can't ask for help. I've been lacking the will to do anything. And since online schooling, I've been very tired for some odd reason. I've been out of it for the past couple months, and I've been pretty sad, despite the fact I have a great family, and have lots of things that should make me happy. I've also lost many friends. I was thinking of dropping out, but my parents would be very disappointed in me. I always just want to give up. And I do give up. Then I think of all the negative things my parents would say about me. Then I try to do all the assignments I gave up on, just to make my parents proud. I tried to tell them how I feel and I can't. I keep all my emotions bottled up inside of me. The only chance I get to vent is in the comments since they can't judge me in anyway except my story.
I know how some people suffer, I myself suffered many times at school. But say to yourself you're lucky, cause if you stop school before being able to find a job (like if you have no diploma) and you have no alternative, you're really in trouble.
I wake up at 9 am, I go to school at 11 or 12 am, I stay at school 7 hours or 6 hours, I come home at 6, I eat than i am doing my homework the rest of my "free" time and I go sleep at 11. What a beautiful life I HAVE.. And I also struggle at school with bullies, fake friends and embrassment everyday. + Here in Romania we have hard school. Like what Americans are doing in 8 grade we are doing in 5 grade. And we have 7 hours/ 6 hours per day with 10 minute pauses each hour. I hate my life, I better die
I recently moved to an entirely different city and am attending a new school from the second semester. I’ve only gone a few days so far but can’t seem to make any friends, because everyone else already has their tight knit friend groups. To me, it’s not so much the classes that make me dread school, it’s just how disconnected I feel from the whole school. When you have lots of school work, you often have your friends by your side and you help each other get through, but I have nobody at the moment, so I feel extremely lost and unmotivated. I dread French class because I don’t get most of the stuff my teacher says, and there’s no one who can help me because the people in my table all only communicate together and it makes sitting with them feel like dead weight. I honestly think I won’t be making friends anytime soon😭
I feel you, girl. Even in my college, it feels like no one from my class is emotionally connecting with me. They are helpful, but no one involves me in their groups. You won't believe it when I say that almost the entire class hung out somewhere and I wasn't even told about it. It hurts to be an outcast in one's class but I think we just have to accept it. After all, we can't just go around asking for validation and connection. But I have a few senior friends, and it's lovely to have them in my life. I am very grateful for that. I was just pointing things out from my class. I am very well satisfied emotionally now, but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and that if I can get through this, there's hope for you too. Sending love.
right now we are all quarantined and it's summer now i thought i could take some rest from all the after school activities and other sorts of things but my parents made me take online summer school while making me do other stressful things
Usually I get like three months of summer vacation but instead, this year my Mom made me take two summer classes so basically I had just one month of summer vacation. I feel like summer this year went by TOO fast
I hate how people keep up this thing where if you aren’t having the worst thing happen to you then your problems aren’t important. Just because I’m not a starving kid in Africa doesn’t mean that me having a crippling fear of passing my tests in school so that my parents will let me keep the things that I have fun with isn’t a problem.
I know I am smart and I know I can do it. I tend to have sharp thinking, great intuition and I don't give up easily. One thing I'm truly terrible at is school. I have a few subjects that I like: Biology, English, Psychology, but in the end I still have to study the other subjects as well. And I can't learn something I truly find interesting: about criminals, detective work etc.
Teachers in my school compares us because others complain about how hard it is to go to school when you have only few hours to sleep. They say that they do their lesson plans and etc then sleep for like 3-4 hours when we 'students' sleep for 1-2 hours because of the assignments, projects, reports and other school works. The other teachers would give their works to me because of how tired they are they say. Im always checking my classmates's homeworks, seatworks and quizzes and I can't complain because it is no help to argue with them. Im also the one who is assigned for putting some of my classmates grade on the class card. Im a student but I felt like im more of a teacher.
I'm a freshman, and I'm an overachiever. By far, my marks lately haven't been very high, and I'm on the brink of collapsing. I'm so tired high school has me burnt out. I want to graduate, but I also want to drop out. I don't actually want to drop out, but I have so many passions. I just don't know what exactly I want to do with my life. I can't take this anymore it's so depressing.
Last year I loved school so much then in September I still loved school new year I didn't love homework but I didn't stress then God was like it's time for you to go trough some hard time and I cry everyday I have everything mom and dad sister brother but I cry even tough I get good grades I put pressure for no reason I have to try to not cry in school and keep it inside cus it's not a good impression to my friends
The stress and anxiety I get from school is even worse now that I’m turning 16 in 6 days so now I’m going to have to juggle school a job homework and fitness
Im 14 years old, not embarrassed to say that, i think about school and sometimes even think about bad stuff, very bad stuff. Its because i dont know and i cant do those difficult tasks they request us to do..
I can't sleep anymore because I discipline myself to stay up and do what feels like an endless amount of work, and having to stay along with the attendance 😩
The real problem about the school is that they dont teach us how to learn they teach us how to memorize and got good grades. I'm not a bad student cause I learned how to be still intersted in new knowledge, but all I found its a not improving education system that is making my partners getting a nonsense information overload.
The better grades you get the more your parents push you, I’m a a student but how do you get better than that? And I really stress over group projects because most kids in my class doesn’t even try. Usually I get stuck with someone that doesn’t do anything and I have to do the project all by myself! Why!
YES,of course we need to study to have a better future for but does not mean we need to sacrifice our childhood which will never come back !... having anxiety and stress or etc,..in young age shows that we aren't doing right.why is the world like this? :(
Learning should not be about finding it hard to even get up in the morning, about high levels of stress, achieving high grades above all things. Learning should ideally be about gaining wisdom. What wisdom are we passing on to our children by imposing all these pressures and stresses upon them? This is the most ridiculous situation that children in so many schools in so many cities in so many countries find themselves in now. This is just not healthy! In fact it is CRUEL! They need less homework and more free time to just be. Just to run around, hang out with their friends, chill out, relax, simply have a laugh, just to have fun and learn from each other. This is also valuable learning. Then they will feel refreshed and ready to start a new day of learning. It’s all about balance. The balance between work and play has been lost! How can any child learn when they are sad, when they are stressed out of their heads, when they don’t have time simply to think. How can they become who they really need to be, when everything they are exposed to puts them under such dreadful pressure. To be dictated to, to lose ones sense of self, when their true potential is lost with ridiculous impositions of such heavy expectation. All schools, in all cities in all countries should review their situation and think about it from the perspective of the child. Our children are our most precious commodity. Treat them with respect, don’t abuse them. Change school practice NOW, then your precious children will be able to give to the world every unique gift they can offer. Think about it! ❤️❤️❤️
I have almost drop out of secondary school, because of homeworks and my parents pressuring me to get good grades since I've come to Spain and Ireland I am originally from the Philippines
Also timing standardized tests is so wrong. I was doing my practice ap exam and i had to read a spanish article and answer question in like 10 mins and I got it all wrong but when I took my time I got it all right. Like- they’re measuring how fast you can work, not how well you understand the subject
The problem isn’t, “I am not grateful and feel guilty, I need to start looking at school from a new perspective so I am more grateful and less guilty.” Is that a solution to the constant mental health problems students face? Is that a solution to the suicide epidemic for young people in the U.S.? Suicide in the second leading cause of death for individuals 15 to 34 years old in the United States. You wonder why countries like Finland rank so highly in education compared to the U.S., because they pay there teachers much higher salaries, they pay there students, etc.
Even doing school at home, I'm so stressed. We have 25 things due this sunday. I have so many essays due as well. I'm very stressed right now. This helped me a bit.