Sadly, these parents do t be active with their children. She should be his mentor before anyone else. Like she woke up and said he’s a good kid yes but wasn’t participating In his studies . Smh
I guarantee that she doesn't give the school a working phone number or has the school blocked. She doesn't look at reports. She doesn't attend conferences. She lets him decide when he wants to attend.
for the most part, it's the kid that gets the info card or report card. helicopter parents fill it out. also, parents tend to phase out by high school if their kid isn't in AP, DC, Sports, or Band. Students are also the first to find out about the online grade tracking system and fill out as the parent.
Exactly! Despite being in high school students are still minors, and the parents should be keeping up with their education as well. And like you said, her address contact info possibly was not correct in the system. Parenting doesn't stop once your kid enters high school.
@@TheCommonGentry If I hadn't seen a report card, I'd have been up there trying to find out what was going on. He might have slid by one quarter, but not more than one.
That mother should be ashamed of herself. Did she never look at his report cards? SHE is to blame for not being an active participant in her sons education!!
There are only 2 people that she can truly blame for this situation. Her son and herself. As the mother of a Black Son, I wouldn't dare leave him totally up to the school system. Unsupported young black men are targets of the school system.
So she never once looked at a report card to see what his GPA looked like? In other words, he was raising himself. She never once scheduled a meeting with his teachers. The apple does not fall far from the tree. These parents do not want to be held accountable just like the children don’t want any accountability for anything.
They make me call parents every time a kid is late, or fails a quiz. That many absences means teacher calls, admin calls, calls from guidance. There is no way they weren't trying to contact her. She's been dodging the school's calls for four years. I deal with this every day. It's never their fault Little Timmy is failing all his classes and hasn't been to school in over a month.
Exactly. I have had students return to school with notes that said they weee sick and the students would tell me that they weren’t sick but that they had to babysit, get their hair done, went to get their nails did, etc.. so mom probably knew he wasn’t in school
My friend would drive to the next city over to drop her step kid off at his high school and watch him walk in the front doors every school day he was with them. Months later they learned he had been walking right out the back door. They finally learned this from the school when they gained access to information - the mother knew the attendance record and just didn't care. Kid and his brother dropped out after age 16.
He was "Absent" or Tardy more than an entire school year. How is that not on the child AND parent?! It's called straight out laziness. "I don't wanna go...."
I feel bad for the child, I also have never heard of sending a student back! There are a lot of parents who have no idea what their child does during the day! I also know of Parents that don't answer the phone when a child is sick or in trouble! There was a failure all around!
@@laurieadams7236 A child will be sent back to a lower grade if they do not pass the required state exams. They need to pass to move up a grade. The exception is Sped students who can have a committee decide (with the parents) to accept their score. The parent had literally no involvement! How did did she not know that her kid was out of school for more than an entire school year? At my high school we phone (voicemail is usually full), email (no longer working), send notifications home and then get authorities involved. There is no way that this "parent" had no clue.
As a high school teacher I have seen it first hand. So many parents wait until months before their kid is supposed to graduate to suddenly care and get involved...smh
The mistake that is made at this point is that the school will actually try to get the kid up to speed in that short time. This is wrong and does a disservice to the students as the world will not work that way.
In my first year teaching, I didn't understand why I had so many parents show up to the last parent teacher conferences in late April. A veteran teacher said, "They want to make sure that their child will pass to the next grade." 😮😮
I have been teaching in some manner for almost 20 years. I remember a friend of mine when he first started teaching I gave him a piece of insight about the profession. I told him all students fall into one of two groups. The first group, when the kid does something wrong, the parent will hold their kid responsible for their behavior. These parents are loved by teachers and admins. The second group is made up of kids when they do something wrong, the parent hold someone other than there kid responsible. The second group is why you keep detailed records of assignments, call logs and include an admin in email chains with problem parents. Not to mention the counselor meetings with all the student's teachers that was setup with the parents days ahead of time that they magically never show up to; I lost track how many times this happened. Don't misunderstand you can still have a failure on the school side if they didn't do there due diligence, but often in my experience the failure point was with the parent.
Ugh. I can't stand parents who believe that their little angel could do no wrong. Much respect for you and your profession. That is one TOUGH job, and getting tougher as time goes on.
There are also two groups of students that come to school The first group comes to school to actively participate in their education. These children want to learn and are eagerly engaged. The second group are students that come to socialize and care absolutely nothing about learning or their future. They just come to see their friends. They can be disruptive but not all are but they are certainly not engaged in anything other than free time and lunch. If a grade was offered for this they would pass with flying colors. It should be a priority of every parent to find out what group their child is in and either accept their failing grades or climb on board with the teachers and staff to partner in their child’s education. The first group is generally no worries, although I have had some students who I have never seen a parent yet the child is invested heavily in their own education but for the most part parents make the choice of which group their child belongs to.
@@dawnwalton1099 What I discovered with my daughter, is that she just didn't react well to the curriculum. She is a visual learner, rather than a book learner. She waa also on ADD meds, that made her more ADD. I think that alternative schools are the place for kids like her. She dropped out in 10th grade.
@@gaylechristensen6285 congratulations. Your comment states that clearly you are an active participant in your daughter’s education and schooling but as you can tell everyone is not. I hope that your daughter is progressing well through her journey. She might benefit from a self pace online program to obtain her diploma or GED God bless
Exactly where's the you? Good parents are up on their kids. She made herself look crazy by not accepting responsibility and placing blame elsewhere. I would imagine that at least one teacher requested to see her in those 4 years. And she appeared to be reasonably intelligent. She failed him more than anyone else. I hope she sees that at some point. And also for him this doesn't mean that his life is over that he'll never amount to anything. He can use this moment to change the trajectory of his life. God bless him
@@rejoyce318 The whole district probably knows who she is. Unless you’re a transfer, you don’t just pop up in 9th grade failing nearly every class every grading period. It’s likely they’ve been reaching out since mid-elementary due to him ruining the state testing average. Every state doesn’t have the same policies for holding kids back and pushing forward. Texas will hold you back as early as kindergarten and will do it for 2 years before sending forward no matter what. Illinois doesn’t hold kids back until high school , because 1) they actually have an understanding of why they’re being held back and 2) the curriculum is set up just like college. Both scenarios have their pros and cons. Either way, she’s an active non-participant waiting for him to get out of her house and now she’s been inconvenienced. If she decides to take anyone to court, they’ll eat her alive and crap her out before lunch.
When parents have never been involved from the start. You don’t just wake up and start failing everything. Education can builds on itself. You fail the foundations, you fail everything.
This is sad to watch. As a retired educator and mom of three, she truly needs a mom mentor and academic support herself. Parents are their child’s first teacher. Expectations for them established in preschool and your expected to be fully present through college graduation as a parent. How do you not know what’s happening with ALL that schools are required by law to do? 🙏🏾
My mom was a teacher and worked in the next town (30 min drive) over. Dad was at work by the time we would eat breakfast. For a year, Mom was working in the next COUNTY over before landing a job at the local university. Out of 3 of us, I think my baby brother had the lowest GPA (3.0), and the only time school was missed was when my sister brought home chicken pox when I was a junior. I don't think my brother got sick.
@@shaunaholmes6561 Awesome parents! When we make our children a priority, as we should, success is inevitable. My story is similar to yours. All are excelling in life! To God be all the glory!
The school failed him? Let’s run with that for a minute. Why would you leave your child in a place where he was being failed for that long? How is the woman not charged with neglect?
I work in a childcare facility. Where we had to unfortunately put children out not do to the child’s behavior but the parents and on a couple of occasions when this happened an irate parent would accuse us of neglect. My Director would look them straight in the eye and say “If you believe we did this, then why did you keep them in our facility” Then proceed to give them the number to the Child Neglect Hotline. That silenced them quickly.
The school, the parent, ANDDDD he failed! ALL school districts need a recovery school for repeating 9th grade students separate from the hs campus so they can experience a more focused and direct learning environment. At least get them from the beginning of their high school experience before they get to where this child was.
@@colettehawkins4715nah, she failed him PERIOD. Ain’t no way for three years you don’t look at your child’s report card and not see he was failing every class and not intervene once in 3 years!! She should have been asking for help long before now. Social promotion is real, but she has no one to blame for allowing the school system to do so.
@@colettehawkins4715 They do. It’s called special education. The teachers/counselors reach out to parents after the first report card. Meaning the parent never responded for 3 straight years. That’s on her, not the school. And there’s always home school. I’m sure she’d be real successful with that.
@denyshadials5702 I know the is Sped Ed. But what I meant was sending him to a 9th grade recovery program separate from the high school. I know it's too late for him now, but I know some districts have such a program that's meant for repeating 9th graders to focus and earn their credits to return to high school. 9th grade is the largest population of students, which includes repeating 9th graders. They're just enamored with being in hs without doing the work. But on the flip, someone like this student was never motivated to stay in school, and possibly, just possibly, truency officers never followed up on him to make sure he came to school. Who truly knows the full story of this issue, but we all know this situation is unfortunate. I taught in public schools for 30 years; this situation is not new, but this one is more unique than others.
This situation is on both the mother and child. After so many absences he would have been flagged by the counselors and targeted for summer school. Then when he turned 16 our school system would have flagged him, and called him and his mom in for a meeting. He would have been given two choices alternative or night school to bring his credit’s current. His other option is dropping out which is beyond sad.
Up until about 25 years ago, students in my area, with multiple absences, were collected by officers and taken to a Juvenile Detention Facility until they made up their missing time. It was an effective deterrent, but it was expensive. Easier to just pass them up and then "graduate" them into society... so we can support the prisons, and deal with the social fallout from rising crime and welfare recipients... I would rather pay for the JD Facility up front, and save a lot of money later.
Baltimore City Public schools are not good at accountability. And so the kids don't attempt to learn at all. Throw in an oblivious parent, and here you go...An educational disaster.
The school I volunteer at gives ISS for tardies and will send you to the alternative school for a while. Parents are informed about a conference to talk about the kid going to ISS and there's a hearing with district admin before alternative school enrollment. Nope. Can't tell ME she didn't know.
Where is his Father? Mom and Dad were neglecting their responsibility to ensure that he had went to school. A loving and caring parent would have been sitting in the classroom right behind him if that was needed. Mom had made herself look real dumb in front of the world 🌎
There is no way she didn’t know unless she didn’t WANT to know. The attendance alone would’ve required multiple phone calls, social worker involvement, and reports to the state board for truancy. Yes, the system is very broken and how we promote kids who are not ready to go on. But there is absolutely no way that this mother did not know what was going on unless she wouldn’t give the school working phone numbers or addresses, and never once checked on her child’s progress.
Oh Hell Nah!!! Yes the school should have notified her multiple times during his freshman year. But she never looked at or asked to see his report cards and progress reports?!?! Did she ever go to any parent conferences or at least spoke to any of the teachers?!? My parents were always in our backpacks looking at homework, letters, etc. and asking, "Where is OUR report card?" This was because my Dad always helped me with my homework so my grade was HiS grade LOL! There was no getting around them or hiding anything from them. And when my mother had a day off she would just pop up and sit in my class in elementary school ( then I had to share my mom and I wasn't too fond of that LOL) and by the time I got to middle and high school that lady was popping up in different classes on my schedule and then buy us lunch. I always told my friends, "Don't get it twisted, that was roll call. She was checking to see who's here at school. She will call your parents if ya @$$ ditch." I wasn't the type of kid that would test God or HER so I was a reasonably good kid but baby I believed my parents would get me together with the quickness if I wasn't found trying my best in school.
They don't let parents pop up on the kids anymore. I used to do that with my oldest son. Now I have an autistic granddaughter who's in school where we have to make an appointment to pop up. Smh. The pop up is for both my granddaughter and staff/teachers and that rubbed me the wrong way because she doesn't want to go to school anymore and she Loves being around other kids. It's making me wonder what the staff has to hide. It's scary because she's only 4 and can't tell us what's going on.
@@keishaterrell1935You should be able to check in on your grandchild. I know during the pandemic and afterward when the virus was prevalent (and more virulent), parents were asked to stay out for health reasons; today you should be allowed. Please get an advocate to go with you to the school so that you can pop in on your grandchild-if need be, add that in the IEP. You can request a meeting.
@@keishaterrell1935 I'm sorry that your granddaughter doesn't want to go to school anymore. I can tell that upsets you, and her parents. I know that with necessary increases in school security, pop-in visits are in the past, and that's for your granddaughter's safety. I'm a retired special educator, as well as guardian for a family member. Please keep an open, supportive relationship with your granddaughter's school staff. I know I used to communicate daily with parents when I taught, and I continue to communicate with my family member's caregivers on a regular basis.
I had a parent who would just pop up on his kindergarten child. I would be teaching a lesson and would see him peeking through the window. More than once, he caught her not listening and would take her, and either talk to her or take her home.
Maybe she needs to go back to ninth grade with him if she couldn't figure out his report card. And now she's going to embarrass him in front of everybody.
I tutored a guy in my 12th Grade class, trying to help him graduate. He didn't even know how to write his name when I started helping him. I was completely appalled that they had kept passing him through.
@@MrTee12 No. He was just in our normal class. He was one of those guys that everyone bullied, because he was very dirty and always wore the same clothes. I felt sorry for him, and that's how I came to find out just under educated he was. The test I helped him study for was the first one he'd ever passed since 6th grade.
My mom was huge on education and hounded me for report cards and updates but I played football and I was pretty damn good. On Friday’s in high school you only had to go to school for a half day to be eligible to play in the game. So I got to school at lunch (skipping the first three periods), had sports marketing taught by an assistant football coach for 5th period and then got a pass to skip 7th period so i could watch film for the game that night. I can’t believe teachers passed me but that was my routine for four years even during offseason. Mon-Thurs I kinda went when I felt like it but I had practice so I had to go eventually. Luckily for me it wasn’t aptitude, I was just stupid enough to believe I was going to the NFL and didn’t need school. Shattered my ankle in college, couldn’t run the same, scholarship pulled, dream world obliterated so I had to figure it out. Now I have a PhD in Economics and work in capital markets but sometimes I really wonder what if I wasn’t blessed enough to get it. They really passed me for doing damn near nothing and it’s crazy looking back at it
Taught for over 22 years. "Mothers" like this are ubiquitous, and highly annoying. Yes, the system will push the kids through; there is no definitive plan or recourse for educating a student who doesn't wish to cooperate. If the parents aren't monitoring their children's health and education, who will? The idea that Society is responsible for doing a parent's job is ludicrous, but it is the current trend. This situation is all too common, which makes it both pathetic and frightening. Love the commentary, though! It felt like you were reading my mind!!
I had a single father who worked full time and then some - he still made time to help me with my home work and see that got at least a B in my classes. What's her excuse?
I would be embarrassed to have this on the news for everyone to see! No responsible parent would have a child in school for 4 years and not know he’d only passed like 3 classes, total!! 🤦🏼♀️
My district has robo calls for tardies and absences. It will call, text, and email you. We have online report cards and a system where you can check your childs grades daily. You can even set up alerts for when their grade falls below a certain percentage. But, you would not believe the number of parents who have never logged into their childs gradebook.
This is a big issue in public schools. I have seen this type of stuff for 23 years and am happy I don't have to deal with it anymore. The parents blamed the school for their child failing, but they are not involved in their kids education. There is no way she didn't know. Nah, she's embarrassed now because she failed her own kid.
Looks like a kid has been born again---as a ninth grader. Preach, Eddie B. If a kid is absent or late 272 times, then that is over a year and a half of schooling.
Exactly, there is typically an automatic phone system that goes out when students are marked absent. For there to be no record of any calls, then she either didn't supply a phone number or didn't give a correct number, because that is tracked in the system as its the system sending out the calls. Teacher calls home, not automatically tracked because it doesn't go through the computer system when they manually call home.
First step is always at home. I’m a parent and I make damn sure I know what going on with my kid in each of his classes. It’s easy to check their bag everyday and see what they are bringing home or working on. Especially when the teachers provide so much information and many ways to contact them. My kids school sends out two mini report cards between each session so you always have an idea of where your kid is at. That’s on the parent to pay attention to it all.
she’s obviously not involved because report cards come home at least 3 times a year and to not know for four years means you never checked homework or anything
I'm not hearing any of that SHE failed her son. The school played their part with just passing him on to the next grade but that mother didn't take care of her responsibilities.
I remember this story years ago out of Baltimore. I also remember Baltimore logo in the 90's, Baltimore, The City That Reads. Well, that aged just as solid as a rock!
As an educator, I'm glad he was held accountable for his actions. As a parent, the only reason you did not know is because you didn't want to know. Bottom line. The school calls me when my scholar misses a class, not the day a class. When she is sick, I get about 6 phone calls in one day. I go to conferences and everything. This is not on the school. This is a parenting issue.
It's not the school's fault. It's her fault. I promise she hasn't been to the school for any conferences or pop-ups. Parents need to stop this foolishness!! Where were the mentors and such??? Where were you mom???
A principal from a school where I worked used to say that some parents think that school is like a sausage factory: meat comes in, sausage comes out. Some parents do not believe they have to participate in their kids’ education. Also, here in Florida they take parents’ drivers licenses if the kids are absent too many times.
😂How did she not know? I have 3 kids and all 3 have IEP and I try to make sure I check at least once a week (especially my youngest) how they are doing. I keep in constant contact with the teachers ESPECIALLY if something is going wrong. Sounds like (by the many absences and tardiness) he failed himself. I had no idea they can send someone back like that! What state is this? And why did they even promote him? If my son fails even one major core class he has to go to summer school to be promoted. Geez
The way this parent ENRAGES me....when are you and your child held accountable? And if you think he's the only kid in this type of academic situation with this type of parent, you haven't been paying attention. Talk to a teacher.
That mother is ridiculous. It is embarrassing and awful. It’s everyone’s fault except for her poor parenting. They should make her take parenting classes as well.
Typical parents. No accountability. No checking in. Nothing. How could you NOT know your kid failed 22 classes and missed 272 days of school? WHERE WERE YOU?
That No Child Left Behind is messing these kids up! I used to work with 5th graders who were on a 1st grade reading level & one who I tested for a teacher & she didnt even know sight words that was learned in kindergarten...im talking bout 'the' 'and'...etc. I was so shocked I had to ask the teacher if this little girl was playing with me. Smh. sad, but true. Parents YOU ARE UR CHILD’S 1ST TEACHERS!! Be active in their learning
The concept of "No Child Left Behind" is a good one; the pathetic execution of this philosophy is the crux of the problem in Public Education. In order to make it work, someone has to be accountable. Parents don't want to be accountable, and schools don't want to force that issue. The court system in my city told school district superintendents that they did NOT want to deal with a lot of juvenile cases; they were too backed up as it was. Therefore, school districts (not wanting to divert limited funds into a viable program to either educate or expel the unruly) have played a shell game of paperwork. Students are moved around to various classes, passed up into other grade levels, contaminating other students with their welfare attitude. I've seen this in many schools, across many ethnicities. It's not a symptom of poverty; it's a symptom of entitlement. If accountability was enforced (school administrators being fired; parents being sued by school districts; disruptive students going to juvenile detention) the quality of education would skyrocket. Unfortunately, we don't have politicians with the guts for that sort of social re-engineering.
No Child Left Behind left many behind, and Marty defined this issue. Common Core has been out for over a decade now, and we are experiencing many students who are years behind grade level fail because they lack the foundational skills to understand the concepts that are being taught. Many struggle with reading fluency, comprehension and vocabulary, so they will fail across math and science because students must be able to apply written/comprehension/vocabulary knowledge across all subjects. Parents that have supplemented/taught their children the basic skills tend to have kids who succeed.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't it take TWO people to make a child?? WHERE WAS HIS FATHER!?? He has responsibility in this as well! ALL the blame doesn't go on just the mother! "Where da pappy!??"
Obviously she’s a single mother. His father may be deceased or anything, we have no way of knowing that. What we do know is report cards come out every quarter and schools call when you miss attendance. SHE is at fault. Let’s not move that goalpost to make everything men’s fault. Accountability really can’t be this hard for women. And I’m sure the ones passing him were women too. Men don’t do stupid shit like that
@@miamimercenary9623 I assure you, in my experience, both male and female teachers are coerced into passing kids along by both male and female administrators. It's not about gender; it's about school systems with ridiculous (many times unofficial) policies.
😮... 🤦🏾♀️. After watching the Mom's interview, I just know in my heart that she cussed out a teacher and principal earlier in his high school career because he failed a class and they just passed him through every year after that.
So Mom, you didn’t know your son was failing 22 classes and missed our been late 272 times. This is crazy Mom you knew you got to take accountability for this!!!!
For 4 years she had no clue? After 3 absences, the school was probably calling. But the most disturbing part is he's ranked in the top half of his class? Oh no! Why don't these parents know what's going on? I check my grandkids. There is a huge hole in those families.
I had about 15 absences in each class during one cardmarking in my junior year. My mom was not called. I continued to skip in my senior year, but only some classes instead of whole days. Still no calls. But that one cardmarking, I brought home my first Cs, Ds, and an F! Thankfully it was one that didn't go on record and I was able to bring my GPA back up to a 3.8 I was grounded for just about ever after that. My mom is a teacher and didn't play about report cards and progress reports.
She KNOW she is lying. This B hasn't checked not one report card, checked no homework, ignored truancy automated warnings, Nada, Zilch, Zero, NOTHING. Her and her son are just sorry individuals!!!
No I wouldn’t call the son a sorry individual. He is still a child. He needed guidance from his mother and he obviously didn’t receive it. Now the school didn’t help by passing him to the next grade either.
I retired from teaching because of parents. They are NEVER wrong - always teachers’ fault. Students have zero to no work ethic, have no concept of manners and time management (like their parents). And, schools are penalized for keeping students behind. So, your choice is a large adult size student in the right elementary setting, or do social promotions and have this situation.
Keywords: *schools are penalized for keeping students behind* Interpreted: students are not priority. Yes, the parent was neglectful... but so was the school. Sometimes the teachers are at fault. I've encountered teachers railroad students to save their own azz.
JUST WOW, as a parent how could you not know your child’s progress in school or any other matter? These young parents need to talk to these kids instead of trying to be cool with them.
No, Mom. You failed him and she should have been ashamed getting on television putting the blame on others and not taking any responsibility that she took no part in his education but wants to get mad that he has to “go back” to 9th grade. Hell based on his grades and absenteeism he never left.
This is the type of mother who gives a disconnected number and fake email to the school and blocks them as soon as they get her real digits from their child or their kids' friends or another parent .....The only reason she is offended now is that dead beat SHE created is about to be living rent-free and unemployable even at the most remedial position, so in her space and face ALL DAY LONG, OR she is about to lose her SSI check for him.
I am in my fifties and it hasn't changed since I was in school. You are either getting a report card or a progress report, at minimum, every six weeks! Sounds like parents are in denial.
100% no way that the mom didn’t all of this starting in 9th grade when he was failing nearly all his classes. How did she never ask to see a report card? And they call, text or email the parent of a child is failing or if a child is late/absent. She knew all of this was going on. It’s not the school’s responsibility to find your child a mentor or to make sure your child is during his work. Those are the mother’s responsibilities
School did drop the ball, but ultimately its the parent's responsibility to supervise, monitor, and advocate for their child. No excuse for being this clueless and absent from your child's education.
As his mother, where's your accountability for your child's education? He gets a report card, and you mean to tell me that you never noticed an issue? There's no way he was failing 22 classes, absent almost every day, and you didn't know. Stop blaming others for the job you, as his parent, should've been doing.
Are you spending most of your time shopping for Vogue clothes and fake hair instead of in the parent teacher conferences at school? Sho looks that way. How much homework have you seen? How many times have you asked, what did you learn today? What's A teachers' name? Do you understand that YOU'RE who the report card is to be reported to? Where's the school located? It's not in the mall or in Sephora ya know 🤦🏾♀️
Parents like this always are ready to blame, everyone else. But in reality, the parents failed their own children . You should have checked his grades.
No Child Left Behind…was left behind by the Federal Government 😂😂😂😂! Common Core is the new mandate now and has been for over a decade. But yes, he was mostly under the No Child Left Behind era that CERTAINLY left many behind.
Did this grown woman who had this kid really just named everybody but herself????? Ok wheres the daddy? Wheres the family members??? What were YOU doing????
Why aren’t parents going to the school the first day of school each year talking to their children teachers to find out what expected. Do follow up visits during each month. You as a parent should know what your child is doing in these classroom. Hold the child, teacher and board of education accountable by you as parents being responsibly involved. Don’t allow the child to make decisions. They are not adults. Parents have to make choices and time for their children.
😂😂😂 She is a liar, she and he knew he hadn't passed. If she didn't know he passed his classes in these 3yrs, how did she find out he wasn't on track to graduate? She should be fined for being unfit.
Why would she think that. She did absolutely nothing in regards to her child’s education and I’m pretty sure the school has paperwork and records showing them trying to contact her about his grades, tardiness and absenteeism.