Success is scarier than failure | Jemele Hill | TEDxPSU 

Sometimes you feel the ALL the weight on your shoulders, thinking of the expectation/accountability success brings starts to feel stressful and scary

Also there is the fear of changing who you are as a person. The fear of the hate that comes with success, how your closest people might look at you & treat you differently. There is the fear of no privacy if you become successful enough.

This topic is SO important and yet pretty much overlooked! Success is terrifying to a lot of people without them even realizing. With an essential impact on their lives!

Stop searching for the reasons you can't and START looking for the reasons you WILL. I WILL DO IT BECAUSE....

I was legit embarassed till I realized how common if a struggle this is... thank you ❤ the success does feel achievable and it gives me anxious tbh and It feels like my heart is curling into a knot with my stomach. .

Success sets a standard that people expect, and when you fail people that know you notice. Essentially you fear disappointing everyone around you.

Successful people have something to lose. Unsuccessful people has everything to gain ;)

Success creates expectations/accountability(its imperative to ponder)

I really loved this! What she said about writing was so spot on for me. I spent a good chunk of my life living off welfare, with a mentally ill mother and emotionally unavailable/exhausted father, growing up in a toxic religious environment that I never felt like I really belonged in. I used to write lots of stories about how I wished life could be, and I'm slowly putting together a series of autobiographical novels about my life and experiences so help others that are going through the same thing. No one in my family talked about mum's illness, despite how much it impacted everyone, and everyone in my family has only ever tried to live a normal and what I consider to be mundane life. I'm scared of succeeding because it means going against everything I've ever known and ever been taught, but I know that I've got a lot to share and give to the world, so I don't really have a choice to not succeed.

Watching this 5 years later still has the impact of the first day it was published. Thank you my sister. You are certainly a Queen.

I am so scared of success, every time I am about to succeed I mess up. There is samething within me.

Thank you for sharing your story in such a beautiful way.

As a person who has been told they have potential for many diverse things and who lately has been following their dreams with unexpected success and positive feedback, I am in a state of shock most of the time or feeling on the verge of a panic attack. I'm extremely grateful and I consider myself lucky, at the same time I'm being put on some kind of higher stool and others started glorifying me by saying things like "You're the person others don't compare themselves to because it's just way too out of any league." - at the same time I really am just a normal person and I have troubles finding my place inbetween all of this.

The last thing you said truly hit home. I love your soul.

Shout out to Jemele Hill, she's been a trailblazer for years now. She's balances her intelligence with a "homegirl you've known for years" personality that works well together. Much success!

Honest Joe your last comment was so on point. That women's personality and the way she conducts herself is exactly what makes her beautiful. I just need to run into her one time.

Love this ted talk, and the wisdom she gave ❤ turn your negatives into positives. Thank you Jemele hill.

8 years later and I finally got this message, thanks Miss Jemele ❤️

Hi jemele, just watched your video in my downtime at work here in Sydney Australia. You seem like a wonderful woman. Great video. I’m very talented but at the same time I’m absolutely petrified of success, so I end up wasting my talents. I plan to try and stop this before time runs out!

Cried at the point when she said both her parents had addiction issues Wow she is definitely a role model that speaks on her truths Very well done.

this is why I know my choice to add/follow you and your career is moments like this, so proud of you!

Turn the negative into positive ; that's so good. Thanks for sharing your story . Very inspiring :-)

Wow deep words a wiser way of turning the negatives things in life and use them as your path through sucess.Blessings.

Great job, Jemele, very well spoken, I've always been a big fan of your professionalism and your love of sports and you are a beautiful woman, keep doing what you do.

I had experienced it myself....Turn negatives into positives. Thank you

people who really know how loosing feels like are the ones who win the the most

Thank you for this!

Thank you for keeping it real!

she is so beautiful

Hopeful message..very inspiring..all things work for good..very lady like for sports/tommy

Thanks jemilli for giving us these valuable informations

A humble Lady

Absolutely outstanding attitude. I love her!!!

Great talk Mele and she looks amazing!

Definitely motivation!

Biggest fear is getting to that place you’ve always ruminated on and it’s not what you thought it was, or it’s worse. That’s a disappointment I’ll never be able to handle lmfao it feels a bit safer when ur closer the ground

This helps me! Thank you!

i remember walking 20 minutes to our local newstand in Nongkhai to purchase the Bangkok Post hoping that the Vancouver Canucks had beaten the New York Rangers in Game 7. I remember it, and the distinct feeling I had when reading the results. That feeling will not leave me, not for nothing.

hope full message for us and new generation. penetrating such message to the generation is one of a ways for success. thank you great for suggestion

I love this! This woman is my total package!

Thank you breaking it down for me! I couldn’t put it into words.

Ok, this hit home....so why am I crying.....

Thanks. I needed that

I relate to this feeling. And I’m even afraid of being more successful than my own parents. Her stories were interesting but it took over 8 minutes to actually talk about the actual fear of success.

This was a beautiful speech from a beautiful woman, inside and out. Love me some Jemele Hill.

This whole time I thought she was building up to something right up until the video ended. So the conclusion was that every failure can be turned into success? What about the fear of success? I thought we were gonna talk about how to solve that problem. How did she overcome her deepest fear or how did she deal with it? At 4:30 she says there are two ways to change how we envision success to be more real. Then she says "I think you have to turn all your negatives into positives. All the reasons you can't have to become the reasons that you will." Where is the second way? Did she forget to tell us?

I love her

This actually made me cry ...

hope the failures will be the reason i succeed

Great presentation from Jemele Hill - amazing that success is so scary hey - crazy :)

Amazing

Turning negatives into positives. Thank you so much Jemele!

Thank youu

Thank you, you have awared me of something.

This is so challenging to perspectives !

That was powerful!

Truth

success should not be measured

Luckily I never have success. I’ve never been promoted. Twice when I asked why I didn’t get promoted, I got told it’s because I was by far the most productive in my department. They couldn’t afford to lose me from the productive level into management. So working hard and achieving stellar results is definitely not going to get you success. Be lazy, that’s how you get success.

I know people tell her this all the time but I'm gonna say it anyway. She is beautiful!

WOW what a amazing Video. Don´t stop doing this. Bye Chris

Its true🙂

I got denied the job in at least 10 interviews for a Network Engineer, I really lost count but kept interviewing until I finally got the job. All of the interviews that I was denied the job only made me stronger for the next one. I became an expert at interviewing.

Eloquent.. Inspiring.

Thank you for this :)

I am afraid of success. I know it sounds strange. I've always been an employee, just like my mother, but never a self-employed like my father. My mother had a stable life-long career as a Registered Nurse and made good money at it - enough to support my brother and I with all of our school and sports activities. She also had good benefits so we could see doctors, paraprofessionals, dentists and eye doctors. While Dad was a farmer, he never had benefits (he was covered under Mom's employee plan) and didn't have money for extras the family needed - his income only supporting his farming career and not the rest of the family's expenses. So, naturally, I received a lot of support to get an education with the goal of "getting a good job." As such, I did. I've spent 30 years working for someone else to make THEIR business successful while I've been told when to work and have had to beg for vacation days off at my schedule (boss' vacation days were always a priority with everyone else having to work around them) then came the boss' office pets whose vacation requests were always approved regardless of the ask. I've been at work when others left and kept the place going. This entire time, I envied my Dad's ability to work when he wanted, other than honoring the needs of the crops and the cattle. As I get older, I get more concerned about my career. No longer do I want to be supervised by people younger than me, whose needs prioritize mine. No longer do I want to be victimized by ageism in favor of younger colleagues who have the luxury of living at home and working for a smaller salary or be considered "overqualified" (a fancy term used to prevent me from being paid at a higher income bracket). I want to be self-employed but am fearful of having success after being punched down my entire life of people not believing in me - it affects my self-worth and self-belief - and to lose the "safety net" of having a regular income with benefits that makes me feel stable, a throwback to the stability my Mom had. I want to have the opportunity to be rewarded for my own efforts and to earn an income I deserve based on my work. I have much work to do on this, especially rebuilding my mental health and self-esteem to believe in myself again. Thank you for listening. Sometimes I need to just get things off my chest to be able to breathe again.

HUGE

Magnificent!!!!! No other words needed

😍😉😘🎉🎊jemele hill my love keep # 100 you r espn.💘

Thank you!! This was so inspiring and helpful!

She didn't get that standing ovation though. 😂😂😂😂😂

She's so Fine!!!

Wow, I loved it!

2:08 “Imagine being on the beach 🏖 in Cabo and someone bringing you a Corona..” 🤣 Nooooo..

A good example of personable public speaking

I loves me some Jemele Hill. Continued success.

where's my love emoji when I need it?

She has a beautiful voice!! 🤓👍💙

absolutely correct

Gootd talk

Interesting

What an amazing Ted Talk!!!

She's a true testament to the downfall of Sportscenter/ESPN.

I have this fear I'm failing Hight school not due to resources just I'm scared to succeed and go out in to the world and i don't believe that i can meet those expectations but i have that disire to succeed but its just so much

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video ends at 01:20

She says 'even you guys in the cheap seats' shows how out of touch this human being really is.

I didnt get the option for any stipulations. I had to pay. Why?

For some, being successful means that they can lose everything they built in a blink of an eye, and prefer not to take their chances.

Seriously though; DO NOT touch the Godfather, Hollywood!

suffering from success

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Great job Jemele!

Ah shucks , when I closed my eyes and imagined success, it DID feel real and tangible to me, it felt like I could do it But I was surprised when she said that it didn’t feel real to all of us 🤔

success in what i do would mean fame. and im scared of fame.

Yes but only reason why you are afraid of accountability is because you will not be able to handle it. so it is still fear of failure.

Did she mention the 2nd way to get past this behavior? Also, the first was not very good if it hinges on you being lucky. I liked the first 2 min or so though.

She looks like she could be Oprah's daughter. Both beautiful women.

why does everyone hate this lady