I realized this year the sheer volume of narcissists I had in my life. VERY close to my life. My most recent ex is a textbook vulnerable narcissist. My father and two closest best friends are grandiose narcissists. My ex who I'm still veey close friends with is a diagnosed covert narcissist. Looking back at my life both as a child and younger adult I've noticed the pattern of people I've looked up to. I idolized my "fun aunt" for msny years of my adolescent life. Around the age of twenty-something I met a woman who became exactly who I thought I wanted to be 'when I grew up'. Both this woman and my aunt are narcissists, my aunt being the grandiose type and the woman being the malignant type, the most dangerous type. Since the beginning of the year I've removed my ex and the woman I spoke of from my life completely. I've made strides to place significant space between my male best friend and I. I used to speak with him at least a few times a week and now we speak maybe twice a month and I'm more than ok with that. I told one of my female beat friends that we needed to establish some major boundaries in our relationship. It didn't go over too well initially but both of us are scarily honest with each other, something we BOTH greatly appreciate, and I think because we are both very aware of ourselves, flaws and all, we were able to understand what the relationship needed to thrive and now it's better than ever. My ex from long ago, well, he's aware of himself as well and knows me very well so we ended up having a long face to face talk about our friendship. He personally knows my dad and helped me realize that the reason I attract so many narcs in my life is because I'm so used to dealing with my father's in-your-face narcissism for all of my life and feel a sick "comfort" around people like that because I'm always trying to change them. I have zero romantic feelings for my ex, but in that moment I could have kissed him, lol. What he was saying just kicked me in the face, it all made sense. I felt horrible for coming to terms with the fact that I've been trying to heal (AKA change) people. Accepting reality is difficult but I'm so grateful he helped me find the puzzle pieces to my self-sabotaging life. When your entire life has been taken over by the types that crave attention, feel the need to always have more and more and more, those in the deepest need of love but who dint know how to accept it, it rrally messes you up. I'm a messed up person. I want to keep these people in my life and I will because I love them, but I don't want to continue this pattern of attracting emotiinally selfish people. I need help with that so I'm going to purchase this book immediately. Thanks for the video (and the comment section self-reflective therapy sessions, lol 😊)
Criticism. Could not handle criticism of ANY magnitude, yet handed it out regularly. Talked about himself aaaall the time and told the same stories about himself over and over and over again. And then again. Manipulative. Dishonest. Cheated. The gaslighting is the worst, right? I'm almost certain he's manipulated his therapist. He doesn't seem to have really learned anything and I believe it may be the reason he felt comfortable enough to keep returning. His therapist was new to the profession so I'm more inclined to believe he's in the driver's seat of his own "healing". They don't change. I've finally accepted this l. I've accepted this most recently with my father, hence the reason I'm watching this video. I have FINALLY learned that no amount of love given can ever change a narcissist. I now understand that the only way to deal with these types of people is to either throw in the towel completely or create a mountain of boundaries and ENFORCE THEM.
It sounds like you have had difficult experiences with someone you perceive as a narcissist, and it's understandable that you feel frustrated and drained from the situation. It's important to recognize that individuals with narcissistic traits can be challenging to deal with, as they may struggle with handling criticism and can be manipulative and dishonest. Gaslighting is a harmful tactic, and if you suspect that someone is manipulating their therapist, it's important to bring this up with the therapist directly or seek support from a different mental health professional. It's also worth noting that change is possible, but it requires a willingness to acknowledge and address one's behaviors and patterns. Setting boundaries and prioritizing your own well-being is important when dealing with difficult individuals. It's important to remember that you cannot control someone else's behavior, but you can control your own responses and reactions. It may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor to help you navigate your feelings and experiences.
It annoys me when narcissism is referred to as a personality disorder. These evil creatures ruin the lives of others, plotting, planning and executing. They are fully aware what they are doing and it should be a punishable crime. 🤔
@@BooksinBlinks neighbours from hell family members so called friends ex partners I'm a sucker for punishment but! also with the understanding I carry the karma of my ancestors of that of more than most people I've just got to pull my socks up and keep rolling with the punches life is a lesson that we never stop learning 🫡
My whole life. I had a job and my boss was a Pro in this, it leads to PTSD Depression and Personally Disorder. This people are true evil. They are so toxic in behavior you just want to punch them. But they are just poor people who have no personality. Im an Empath and it was a war. A war you can not win, you just can not win. But i destroyed this motherf* and he was shaking of fear near me.
