Surviving and Recovering from an Unavailable, Married Man Breakup 

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I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but I'm also so happy you decided to block him. A few things to consider. Please, be patient with yourself. This bond is not easy to break. I remember blocking someone and then unblocking him and falling into the same cycle. Please be kind to yourself if you find yourself making a few steps backwards. I'm also very happy for you. You have so many fun things ahead of you that don't involve someone who can never truly choose you. This is your new beginning 😍 Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to leave this comment. Means a lot x

nah just so they can go be gay with their chauvinistic pals

Hi Elizabeth.. This absolutely breaks my heart. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been. You're right. Women should stick together. That's why I'd like to ask you a personal question if you don't mind. If one of your husband's lovers called or sent you a message on social media about his affairs, would you have believed? And do you think that the other woman should ever tell a wife or do you think it's up to her to find out? And if I don't hear from you, I hope you come across more men that treat women right because they are out there. Trust me ❤️

@@IEVAKambarovaite On one side I think I would have appreciated someone at least, having been honest with me! However, in some some ways it seems to have worked out for the best. (Of course, the story is not over. Perhaps my husband will cheat again, and then I'll leave) Since I was in the dark until my youngest was 14, my children had a mostly wonderful childhood. I found out about my husband's affairs 2 years after he stopped. It has come out in therapy that my he some pretty dramatic experiences with women as a teen and young adult. This may have led to how he went on the behave as an adult. Life is complicated! This may sound naive, but sometimes I feel God has put me in my husband's life for a reason. Even if he is unable to heal, and I am forced to leave him, I hope to always be his friend.

@@IEVAKambarovaite I thought I had replied earlier, but I think it didn't go through. If someone would have reached out, I probably would have believed. Every now and then things were....off. Should the "other woman" say something....that is so tricky. Depends on her motives, which I would imagine would be to ultimately get the married man. You probably know this, only about 5% of married men leave their wives for the affair partner. My husband would have never left me for most of his partners, and the one he would have left me for, had she been attracted to him, almost certainly would not have worked out. That said, I was dealing with a serial cheater, and serial cheating speaks to a larger problem. My husband, and I'm willing to bet most men, crave a partner he can feel safe with. If a woman is willing to enter a relationship that's based on a lie, why should she be trusted?

Thank you so much for sharing that with me. It sounds that you've been through a lot and it's a never ending discovery. Relationships are complicated. It's not just black and white. I love that you're able to focus on your family and look for the good in your husband and the relationship you have. It's a big sacrifice. I wish you all the best.

Unfortunately, people fall in love with who they fall in love with. "Married man" sounds like "bought and paid for." I do not think marriage can control such happenings, neither can a false sense of "sisterhood." When relationships end, they simply do. If the man cheats, that relationship is over. Humanity would fare better if it could acknowledge this simple truth.

I'm so sorry, Mariana. This is something I don't want any woman to experience ever. It truly breaks my heart just thinking about this pain. I hope you were able to dig in deeper within yourself to understand why you got interested in that man in the first place. I'm so happy you've found someone who appreciates you ❤️

Good for you for having the courage to move on!!! Wishing you the best.

Exactly! And you've found one just like that 🤗🥰 but you've done sooooo much work on yourself

@@IEVAKambarovaite well… he also had to do a ton of work on himself to become this way 😋

I grew up in a household where I witnessed infidelity and I always wondered as a child why these women couldn't understand that this man is married and why wouldn't they just leave him alone. Calling him, flirting.. That was my interpretation. Took me years to learn to trust women. How do you cope with it? How do you explain what's happening to your children?

A married jackass of 35 years thinks having a girlfriend out of state is Grand😭

My genuine question is - if you know your husband is having an affair and doesn’t want to spend time at home, why are you still married or with him? Genuinely curious. I am still healing from a relationship with a married man who was not a bad person. He was my best friend. His wife knew we were having an affair but she refused to leave because she is financially tied to him. He is a coward, she is a bully. It was all too much so I ended it but yea, why would you stay if there is no more love? I never understood that.

They do it to justify their behavior. You are not crazy at all ❤

@@lingy74why would you feel worthy of being the other woman is the real question you should ask yourself, not why a WIFE choses to stay. Respect yourself more, don’t be so desperate

I can see why a young girl would be easily impressed by someone who's double her age. That can negatively shape how she views men based on that experience. I hope she found a way to overcome it and understands that not all men are like that, some are truly honest, honourable and respectful.

it sounds cruel - but the balance won't be restored until women start acting like men towards men in relationships

That's definitely karma. I remember bumping into my ex and seeing him with a missing tooth and baby #5 on the way. So glad it wasn't me. There's a reason the universe was fighting so hard for you not to have that man. It had a different plan for you, a much better one. I'm glad to hear you're on the other side.

@@IEVAKambarovaite aww thank you I never thought about it that way . And you made me tear up when I saw this video 🥹 but I’m glad you made it on the other side too

@@Iam_alicialove thank you 💕🤗

I know.. It is a little sad. This huge longing for love

Thank you so much for watching. What did you find helpful in this video? It helps me to understand what works, so then I can create more videos like that 😊💖

Thank you darling 💕

Ofcourse they aren’t available. They are married! Learn about limerence and traumabonds. It can help with your healing journey and start therapy if you are getting obsessed with unavailble people. You could be an avoidant yourself. I always thought I was anxiously attached, when my therapist told me I was FA, I didn’t believe her for like 8 months. When I started dating again, I could see what she meant. I believe her now

@@Moe90ies thanks so much for your thoughts..does the FA stand for fearful avoidant...I will look into that

@@Tiffany90-gb2md yes. You get anxious with an avoidant but avoidant with an anxious. If you always think “I’m never attracted to the ones who are attracted to me” you likely are FA. It’s the worst attachment style of them all. So if you are one, better start working on it sooner than later

@@Moe90ies thanks so much..I'm FA for sure..I appreciate the feedback as I would never had known about it...

@@Tiffany90-gb2md your welcome. Therapy would help a lot. I honestly wouldn’t be able to date again if it weren’t for my therapists help and support

Very true. But I also think those scars heal with time. I hope yours do

Hi. Thanks for watching 😊

Thank you so much for watching

You're very right. Chasing an unavailable partner isn't foreign to men either. 7 years is a long time.. What was it that made you finally walk away?

Thank you. What did you think about this video?

It wasn't behind the window. I just filmed it vertically and when I cut it the quality was so poor, so it kind of looks like behind the window 😁 now you know my biggest cinematography tricks 🤭

@@IEVAKambarovaite I loved it!

@@WhenAphroditeSpeaks thank you darling 🤗💕

Definitely not. And guess what? As painful as that experience was, it also got me to the place where I am now. I'm in a great relationship with a man that truly adores me. How about you?

I'm happy for you! Regarding my story, I think I will never forget it and I don't know if I will ever love someone so much❤🤗

I wouldn’t, that could get real messy.. take it as a lesson learned and take time to heal.

Very well said. Unfortunately, some struggle to break those painful patterns or don't even know how to recognise the true good ones.

I agree, that's why I use the term "True Guy" instead of "The Nice Guy" because The "bad boy" will use Niceness to deceive, manipulate women. They only seek 1 thing and could care less about anything else. They play games. The True Guy simply seeks his diamond so to speak, he cares of nothing else. He is loyal, faithful, seeks equal in partnership yet exalts his woman while remaining Masculine (protective). Women are now becoming the men and that hurts The True Guy as The true Guy loves his feminine woman. It's a mess for sure. There should be no struggle, if you can't stand abuse/use leave and don't look back. Think with logic and not emotions. Women need to really research and learn who the guy they're with is and vice versa. You'll learn the True Ones thru time and yes they exist. I was a true Guy (I still am) so here's what to look for: A true Guy seeks 1) Heart, 2) Loyalty/Faithful,Trust Worthy, 3) Personality, 4) Intelligence, 5) Looks ( "A perfect 10" not required), 6) Energy/Fun, 7) Togetherness/Partnership etc....notice the 1 thing not mentioned that the "Bad Boy" only seeks, That comes Later with the above mentioned--The True Guy will seek for his "Diamond" and nothing more for nothing else matters to him. There are many guys like this but they're the ones who get hurt so to speak. So they walk away. 8) If the girl/woman he seeks to partner with, if she has a troubled past or Trauma (use/abuse) He will look her in the face and tell her to unleash her issues on him, he will try to absorb her issues, comfort her, yet set Boundries to stay away from what will hurt her so she can start healing and getting a clear mind and 9) He will have no issues showing all of his social media accounts and phone usage to her but will expect the same in return. Hope this helps to anyone who sees this.