Hey nat and Jake! i know how you guys were talking about exploring different places and I think that is so amazing and healthy for yourself and your relationship together. Nat was talking about wanting to go to Tennessee and I have a great place I stayed at there it’s called Kelly’s jubilee it’s so beautiful and the experience there is like none other! Hope this helps.
This is actually a really interesting topic because it’s really noticeable between Hispanic and white families, Hispanic families always want to be together and don’t accept that once you find your partner your nuclear family now becomes your partner and your kids, this is also why Hispanic families always have so much drama and conflict between family members
Yes!!! Coming from a Hispanic family I agree. I’ve been with my bf for 4yrs now and talk about living together and building a life together so that’s my main priority. Making that happen. And I don’t think my family understands that once that happens I won’t be going to every single family gathering with all the cousins and relatives because I have my own relationship and goals to prioritize. I grew up going to family gatherings 2hrs from where I live on weekends. I don’t think they realize that once I build my own life I will want to just chill on the weekends and enjoy the two days I have off from my full time. Or take that time to go explore or run errands that I don’t have time for during the week because of my schedule of work + gym. I won’t cut family off but I don’t think they realize that it still can’t be just family this and family that for the rest of my life…and it’s frustrating. Should I feel bad?
literally having this problem rn, i come from a hispanic family that grew up doing everything together and when i got in a relationship i haven’t been able to do everything together and my parents get upset when i spend my day off with my boyfriend and they make it seem like i need to chose either my family or my relationship which is never fun
@@stephaniegamez2346 no because it’s the same for me. I feel like if you don’t fight for wanting what you and your partner want while still occasionally hanging out with your fam here and there then you will forever feel stuck in the same place. That’s something I don’t want. I want my own routine with a sprinkle of family not my family and a sprinkle of me and my partners routine.
As someone who is 24 and married, I COMPLETELY agree about your partner becoming a priority, because they are the family you are creating. You guys are so mature, it’s insane. I see many relationships try to put their family before their partner and it never works out. If they can’t respect your partner, I believe they shouldn’t have access to you. But also (those of you reading this) remember if they isolate you from your family/friends for no good reason besides jealousy, it is TOXIC & you are better off without them.
Not Nat talking shit about Fresno while barely knowing the area 💀 Fresno is way more developed and better than Bakersfield. That’s why everyone recognizes Fresno as the main city in Central California
Noticed the red flags but was blinded by the relationship and trying to make it all work. I moved on and broke up with him and am with my current boyfriend of two years and he has never ever made me feel like i have to choose between anyone, however he did show me the people who were draining my energy and causing me sadness and that was truly what I needed to start healing and develop healthy relationships with my family and friends
I have a boyfriend and we’ve been together for 4yrs and we just had our first babygirl together but when we first met he introduced me to his family and it went well for about a week or so and what made this come about is there was a day my bf was just ranting to his mom about me and had mentioned I was a foster kid this information didn’t make her happy and she would send me disrespectful text and try to keep him from seeing me by keeping him from church and school this went on for two years as well as his siblings jumping me but for me and him we just needed to figure out how to prioritize our relationship and not try to fix his family’s feelings towards me and this process was very hard my bf had to cut his family off which he knew was better for us but I still hated that it had to be like that but our relationship is getting better and better everyday we are learning more and more to communicate and listen even if we don’t agree with eachother I would say it just takes a lot of time and a lot of wanting to change together but one person can’t do it alone it’s definitely teamwork !
Yesss , I totally understand and agree with prioritizing your relationship over your family. It even says in the Bible “From the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Mark 10:6-9).
I just got broken up with 2 days ago, I’ve been on a binge watch with all of your videos and it’s been helping out so much. Seeing you guys post today made me look forward on seeing something today. Thank you ❤️
You guys should come to San Francisco to visit everything at least once! Im from here born and raised❤. San Francisco is beautiful you just need to know where to be.
To me my partner and kids come first. You know how Mexicans are like, working for their rent and giving the rest to their parents because their parents manipulate them thinking that they did everything for them and now it’s their turn? 🤣 that’s some bullcrap to me and I let my parents know that I ain’t helping them out until my kids are gone out of my house. and once I see that my parents are old ass heck to where they can’t work anymore theeennnn I help them out with what I can 🤷🏻♀️ that’s just me😊 cause that’s some toxic parents when they wanna depend on their kids to pay for everything just because the kids work now.
This was a really good topic. i got out of a relatiobship in august of this year and he always tried to prioritize his family over me. i fell out of love wayyy before we broke up. i told him that we’re supposed to be a family now cause at that point we were engaged. so he really did try to prioritize me. but at one point they didn’t like me because he started prioritizing me so then his family and i were basically always at each other’s throats because he always picked me. he would cry to me about how he wanted his family and i to have a relationship , but his family made it that way !! i couldn’t take it anymore and left. now im with someone who always wants me around and makes me a priority. ❤
43:12 this is so real it was so hard to see my sister move away to college I didn’t want to see her have a new family and a new “home”? That kept thinking I didn’t want her home to be that place just because she slept there home is HOME idk hoe to explain but your home can be more than one place but at some point I accepted it because people need to grow up it’s just a hard feeling because you then feel your behind in life when everyone else is growing up
I have such a desire to travel to other states like you guys, I’m from RI ( which is in New England btw 😂 ). It’s so interesting hearing your perspectives on the east coast vs the west coast/ your hometown!
this! better communication branches out to so many things and I believe this is one of the many things that can help a toxic relationship@@anonymousgoose5213
I 100% agree with yall on the relationship topic, partner should always be your 1st priority, then comes family and friends. Love yall sm, i could watch your podcasts all day 🫶🏻
i really like the relationship part of this podcast bc i feel like when me and my bf got together at first he would always want to be with his boys all the time and barely made enough time for me but we had a connection and over time he did learn to put me first and prioritize me and it was such a beautiful feeling when our relationship started to mature and we realized this is actually what we wanted and wanted to build a future together while still having the balance between his and my friends ever so often and with family, now we’re hoping to move in together!
Omgggg guys visit NorCal it is way different from SoCal, and there’s way more nature!! And you guys can bring your fam since it’s only a couple hour road trip. Specifically visit Lake Tahoe or the redwoods !!!
bruh. if you aren’t married you don’t belong to anyone. technically one of y’all could walkout like nothing since there’s no marriage. family comes first if you aren’t married.
And that’s why relationships fail. Thank you for proving our point. Someone can walk out even if ur married. If you want to even get to marriage- show ur partner they are the one by prioritizing them.
You don’t need to be married to consider your partner your family. If your partner is who you make a life with, they’re still your family, and you should prioritize who you are building your life with, rather than the people that already helped you grow. They were there to teach you, and both you and them should understand that you gotta make a life and family of your own. Titles (marriage) is not needed for this, and even if you are ever married that doesn’t mean you cannot walk out like nothing as well. If you aren’t happy, you’re not forced to stayed married. It’s not about being owned by anyone.
i feel like whenever you are in a long term relationship thats gonna end in marriage then your significant other should be #1 because thats the person you are gonna spend the rest of your life with. you grew up with your family and now your in a new part of your life journey so that should be your main focus. i also feel like its super important for your significant other to build a relationship with the people in your family. im in a 5 year relationship and the first 3 years i had kept my boyfriend a secret from my dad (he’s a very strict hispanic dad) and i regret it so so much because now its hard for me to bring my boyfriend around and have him feel comfortable with my family. i was also super young tho when we started dating so i cant blame myself either but yeah whenever you’re living with someone and you get married they NEED to be your #1 priority
this is soooo true! my family made me feel bad for prioritizing my boyfriend when we were together which created soo much drama and we broke up😬other reasons made us break up as well but family going against partners can truly break relationships
Sameee, I eventually stopped letting them get to me and ever since then they have not bothered me. We plan on getting married and moving in together so now I have to prioritize us we’ve been together for 3 years+:)!
@saratrinidad2480 awww congratulations! me and him have recently started rekindling our relationship (we both matured a bunch) so hopefully it goes well.
I have a boyfriend. Mind you we just started dating but our connection is really strong and our relationship is going pretty fast but it's a pace we're both comfortable with. I met his parents and his mom doesn't like me because of my skin color but he still decides to stick by me and stand up for me when his mom talks badly about me. I was in a toxic relationship before this so I'm not used to this kind of treatment but it's the fact that I didn't even have to ask this man to defend me that shows that he really loves and cares for me. I appreciate him so much and I hope everyone finds their person
Same here, me and my boyfriend are together 4 years now and it’s kind of hard to say she doesn’t talk badly about me but sometimes she does and my boyfriend always stuck up for our relationship and me even when his father was still around. She tries to make people not to like me when they are around making something out of nothing like if I just say hi to everyone but not hug them or her she tries to say something about that. I know she doesn’t like me at all even though she said she does but you can see and feel that she doesn’t I don’t care my relationship with my boyfriend is so great.
I think yall should come to North carolina because you can go to carowinds because right now its having "scarowinds" because it like scary scence it halloween BUT sence yall have busy plans they also have some stuff during christmas there and there some rides. NAT will love the malls for sure.
i remember a while back when the podcast was just created, y’all talked a bit about the toxic stage you both had, i’m happy y’all finally chose to make a video about it🤍
Not you guys talking bad about the bay area:(. I live in the county right about san francisco and i think it’s so beautiful as well as san francisco. All the wineyards are extremely beautiful up north.
I dealt for 2 years of my ex’s family being jealous after i moved in with them. It made our relationship super toxic and i ended up having to move out and we broke up. I still deal with them shaming me for “ruining” their family and keeping him away from his family mind you I’m the one who moved away from my family because we were also long distance just like you guys were. Still till this day my family has never dare to say similar words about him taking me away from them yet his family always blames me for their own family issues. I’m no longer in their family and I’m still the blame for their current issues. But i have always said. Depends on the family because i have never dealt with any type of family like this before.
I definitely agree with you guys because at the end of the day, you’re making your own family like our parents did. Yes, you should never let your friends behind but again, that person that you’re with should be priority.
i’ve been with my bf for almost two years and my family does no like him even tho they can tolerate him for a bit lol it gets hard because they will always say bad stuff about him and it’s so annoying because i love my bf and my family is over saying stuff abt him all the time so that’s one of my struggles lol p.a love you guys 🩷when are you coming to orlando fl?🥲
Love the dynamic both of y’all share as well with being real. This is a true meaning of ‘growing together’ love the serious and funny topics, love yall 🫶🏼☺️
I really loved this episode and I agree with the relationship and with the family. Just hope my family understands that. LOVE BOTH OF YOUR VIDEOS!!!!!!!!
Can y’all visit Texas 😂I want to see yalls reaction on visiting Houston, San Antonio, Austin etc because it’s something way different from what y’all being used to or visiting nothing but flat land. Now in some part of Texas is the YEHAWW😂 y’all should look into it.
I love this podcast but in my relationship we are on a great past but I’m dealing with my family being jealous of us they’re they are just not happy but the thing is my happy in the relationship and I see a future in this relationship I just wish they could be happy for me
if you guys come up north you guys should come to lake tahoe :) during the summer tho, it’s packed but great. winter you’d have a nice time and it’s beautiful but could definitely run into some problems lol. stick to big bear or colorado for snow. nat would love our resorts/house
As a UK resident myself (London to ease your geography deficiencies), I find it weird how I watch u guys too 🤣 I actually forget that you’re real people
I feel like you guys will like Minnesota depending what month you guys come . the reason why is they have four seasons as well the only thing is the mf snow is the pain in the ass , but they do have some good places you can go eat and the city in the night it more pretty , also there’s not a lot good places to bc it’s more small it’s not that local but I feel like you guys will enjoy it ❤ because I live in Minnesota but I hope one day you guys can visit hereeeee💗 love you guys podcast and I love yall together and you guys are very funny too❣️ hopefully one day I could meet you guys in person 💜
39:03 I’m from the Sacramento area of NorCal and to me it’s a big city with small-town vibes. There’s lots of good places to eat and cute areas to explore. But I HIGHLY recommend exploring Lake Tahoe! My family and I go every summer and I never get bored of it. The scenery is beautiful and the towns around the lake are so cute!! Btw I love your guys’ podcast! 🫶🏻
I hate how wise you guys are!!😅 And how together you have your ish for your young age. ❤❤ Have been with the same person for 18 years and you're comments that you touched on in regards to the relationships and where knowing to differentiate those relationships to where Now, Your previous immediate family is no longer your immediate family But now your person you're with along with your children that you're having are your immediate family and priority... this speak to me on so many levels. Sometimes in watching you guys. I catch myself like what the h*** am I doing watching these kids? 😂😂😅😅 But you guys are wise beyond your years, hilarious and you're great especially together. when my kids reach our guys as age I hope they will be as successful as you guys especially in relationships.
im rewatching this and hearing u guys talk about the bay has me LMAOO 😭😭 you should look into the Palo Alto or Atherton area, its bougie compared to the rest of the bay theres beautiful restaurants and homes worth like 11 Million or more😭
When y’all were talking about Vermont and how people from there might sometimes take it for granted because they live there…..that’s how I feel about NY. I’m from Long Island NY (born and raised) and while NY definitely has its issues that need to be fixed…..we still have so much to see and do. First off there’s the city, there’s different parts of the city not just Manhattan and there’s the outer boroughs like Queens, Brooklyn, The Bronx, and Staten Island and there’s things to do in each borough. If you don’t wanna be in the city, you can go upstate which has the vibes of states like Vermont with all the nature and even some mountains and it’s gorgeous during the Fall. If you don’t wanna go upstate, there’s Long Island….Long Island is known for the beaches: Jones Beach, Long Beach, Gilgo Beach, Lido Beach etc and we have so much nightlife, plenty of parks and nature preserves plus we actually get all 4 seasons. I feel like because it’s so expensive to live here….a lot of us NYers hate it, but we take for granted how much we have here.
Hearing you talk about Vermont reminds me so much of where I live in Washington. I know you’ve been here before but I think you need to visit more of it before you decide what the area and climate are like, it’s not all city like Seattle, so many trails, waterfalls, scenic areas, mountains etc. you really need to come back!
I know I am late on this but personally for me like I am in my last year of secondary school which is high school for ye and I’m in a friend group of three but they both have boyfriends and I don’t so obviously we like stopped hanging out and I really only saw them at school and when we hung out I’d be like a ghost walking behind them but they introduced a new girl into the friend group and she was also single but then it was like they replaced me with her and they became a trio so now I am like a ghost to them. Now don’t get me wrong I still sit with them at lunch n stuff and hang out when they do but I have to make the effort to hang out all the time and it’s so draining and I just feel lonely all the time but I have no one else so I just have to suck it up. Please someone help me or give me some advice in what ye think I should do. Oh and they also liked teased on me and started to gang up so it was bound to end like this eventually 😅
as someone who lived in nashville, it is very yeehaw. It’s also very hectic and a lil scary so be safe!! I would be so happy if you got to experience it though… TN is absolutely gorgeous
