It was a long clip too long for a short - but also wanted to add that right before what you see in this video Taylor also said: “I was hoping to ask you, as we lead up to this album coming out, I would love for that kindness & gentleness to extend onto our Internet activities.” She then said she is putting this album out because she wants to own her masters and she doesn’t care about what happened when she was 19 (as I mentioned) etc. Then followed by the clip you see in this short where she says “what I’m trying to say is you don’t need to defend me online” etc ❤️❤️❤️
That's weird bc would've could've should've is on Midnights/ most recent album and references when she was 19 🤔 I think it's nice she makes this request here bc I can only imagine being one of these ex's she aired all the dirty laundry about..makes for a good song but these are ppl the world knows about and there are always 2 sides to every story... the internet is modern day mob with pitch forks, just looking for something to be involved in to feel important. Never mind if there is any moral to it 🙄 I don't have a problem with the songs or what she is saying here EXCEPT the part where she says she doesn't care about the past...maybe not about John specifically but she definitely cares about things that have happened her...! 🤔
Asking her fans not to defend her is to victimize herself. She should ask them not to attack or hate other people because cyberbullying is crap, anyway, it's rare for her to say that she doesn't care what happened many years ago, when five minutes ago he wrote an infamous song accusing John Mayer of stealing her girlhood. She was a grown woman, she was not a little girl
@@gerardovazquez6441 “oh my god, she’s insane, she wrote a song about me” vibes. He was 33, she was 19 (not a grown woman, a TEENAGER) definitely brings the word grooming to mind. Also, she once said she wouldn’t have to write songs about people treating her shitty if they didn’t do it so, you get what you ask for 🤷🏻♀️
@@fannypliers3716 You have to stop romanticizing victimization. She was a grown woman, responsible, with the right to vote, with a credit card and a driver's license, as you can say she was in her teens. What century are you living in? Even if that age difference was as traumatic as it was later She was related to Jake Gyllenhaal. Not thinking that perhaps her temper tends towards drama and victimization? Don't you think there is enough evidence?
@@gerardovazquez6441 and to add, "Stealing her girlhood" doesn’t necessarily mean taking her virginity. It doesn’t mean SA as some people have been saying. It can very well just mean making her aware that she’s not living in a rom com or fantasy land. Personally, I don’t even fully believe they really dated. I feel they worked together, grew close, he’s naturally flirty and charming and she mistook that for something more. Then she realized the truth and took it personal. Many of us have been there, some of us have been that person. Lol
@@Dolphin2048literally how do u know 🤨weirdo. she’s 33 not 19 anymore. god people love painting her out to be some evil witch who is not over any of her ex’s
@@whoisdis8201 they've been spreading misinformation too djdjjd like taylor and her ex's age gap aren't big and considered college/university relationships
If the music is written against someone it's hard to not think about that person I still don't know y artists do it anyways I don't support the practice
@@hsd287 There is a difference between thinking about a person when you listen to a song and going to that person's instagram to send hate. The fans shouldn't send hate to the person they think the song is about, but the doesn't mean is wrong to write songs from personal experience, every artist does it.
If someone hurt Taylor and she wrote a song and performed it it obviously is gonna cause outrage Taylor is being nice but no he doesn't deserve the defense
I'm so glad that she finally said something about this tho. It's been YEARS that her fans send alot of hate to the guys they think she wrote her songs about and she never told them to stop until now. I think she saw what swifties did to jake and decided to finally speak up. That's it guys, if Taylor doesn't care about what happened years ago then we shouldn't care too, let's just enjoy the music and be kind💜💜
Even if she doesn't care there are many fans who can't bear that she was hurt by someone that caused her to write actual songs about it if she's on good terms that's fine but Im sure she's still hurt in few relationships
I have been saying this for awhile. She no longer lives the emotions so strongly as she did when she originally went thru the emotions that helped her write the songs. Anyone with a brain knows this. Its nice to support her, but support the talent and not her personal life. Thats her business.
@@Matej-vf1nm 1. You know your not asking anyone for their opinion, you just wanna make people mad. 2. Your literally copying and pasting this same reply on every comment in this comment section. Get a life
@@hsd287 Because people act like all she did was suffer in and from that relationship when she actually greatly and directly benefited from it in many ways. It does not justify any bad thing John has done, but to say he doesnt deserve to be forgiven when he did better himself and when he did actually help her in many ways is very simple minded at best
My sisters went to this concert cause we live in Minnesota and they said they wouldn’t trade anything for those tickets because it was so amazing LMFAI
Maybe she wasn't expecting quite the reaction that some fans had during Reds re-release so that's why she's saying it now. Maybe she wishes she had said it prior to the release of red. Better late than never I guess
@@Matej-vf1nmBro, seriously though, get some sort of hobby or life coz I see you everywhere, across multiple channels spamming this same bs comment. I can tell by the way you type that you're not a little kid, which makes it more cringe and embarrassing that you're most likely a grown man saying this shit but to answer your question so you can maybe get some peace of mind... yes, she probably did let Joe finish on her face at some point. They're adults in their 30s, they had a sex life. He probably put it in her ass too. What about it? Are you that immature you find talking about sex funny?
I am really happy that she said it to be honest. John got the backlash over a decade ago and it doesn't need to be repeated. I hope that Camilla Belle doesn't get misogynistic shaming attacks from fans again either. I personally wasn't cool with Jake being dragged through the mud by fans yet again either. I think it's important that anyone she may have written a song about to not be cyberbullied.
@@gerardovazquez6441 Song writers just like film makers, poets, Painters etc.. get inspired by their personal experiences…. She never named names and never gave details about what she went through. All she did was write and sing about her life in a vague way. The fans are acting purely based on speculation. Plus If karma was real it’s not the fans or Taylor who’ll be affected. The attack John Mayers received was Karma itself 🤷♀️ He emotionally manipulated and dated a teenager when he was 33.
@@Orvvv200 It seems to me that a song called Dear John leaves no doubt who is speaking. Then you say what we all know; There are no details of what happened, however you take it for granted that he manipulated her. and what is even worse, do you think the harassment she received is fair - All this for a relationship that lasted 3 months, she was not a teenager she was a 19-year-old woman, in the 21st century there are no 19-year-old adolescents, let to romanticize victimization
@@gerardovazquez6441 “Dear John” is an old expression referring to a letter written to a man by his wife/girlfriend to inform him that their relationship is over. The song itself is written in a form of a letter. Of course it’s obvious who the song is about.. the double meaning behind the title is very clever. But nevertheless she never mentioned John Mayers name although she was asked about it many times she always replied by explaining the meaning of the old expression. I don’t think it’s bad for artists to write about their experiences. It makes their work more personal to them and I’m sure it helps them get over whatever it is they’re going through. Not only that I think the songs helps some of the fans who can relate to her experiences. The same thing could be said about poems, books etc.. I don’t agree with the fans attacking John Mayers. Her fans are way too invested in her personal life and they cross the line a lot. I’m glad she spoke up about it. But I also don’t agree with your point that she is the reason why this is happening. And I don’t think she did anything wrong by writing about her life. All she needs to do is set more boundaries with her fans.
i'm not a swiftie but i remember coming across comments saying she doesn't perform this song anymore specifically because it did not age well. i feel like women putting down women is not really her thing anymore, but i could be wrong
@@isurehopeitdoesyou are very correct she has talked about how she disagrees with the song’s connotation now that she is older, but im pretty sure the song is still gonna stay the same on the rerecording to avoid hitches in the taylors version world. she has even weitten other songs where she talks about similar topics and in more recent years has expressed that she doesnt believe people can be ‘stolen’ from you.
Please Swifties respect her feeling and wishes. I have already seen/heard where a lot of us have been still attacking him. We are only making ourselves look bad and Taylor look bad. If we care about her we need to respect her and focus on the concert and positive things about her. I think she really liked Matty and broke up with him, I think because of us, not her own feelings. I didn't know anything about him but watched one video and it was enough for me to have negative feelings but she saw a different side of him. Remember the words he said to the camera about her and she mouthed them back to him at her concert and blushed when she did. Jack and Phebe are both friends with him so he can't be that bad. He has said/done some things I didn't like but haven't most of our friends boyfriends done the same. People can change if they like a person enough. My husband did. I didn't ask him to but he realized when we got serious he changed and became a much better person. I did watch a video of a 1975 fan defending him and she was very honest about his behavior, pointing out the main issues Swifties had with him and it made me change my feelings some towards him. Some of the things she explained that we took out of context and some she agreed were stupid on his part. In an interview with him he explained how he enjoys playing a bad boy image and it was part of him being bored and his fans knew it was a character as he said it was. I forgot what video it was. If anyone wants me to go back and find it let me know on here and I will. No one knows what goes on in people's real lives. She doesn't owe us anything. We are making it so No One will ever date her again. It seemed like we ruined something good for her whether it was a fling, something she needed to get over Joe or true love. We all love her and her music but feel like we can make better decisions about her than she can. Her friends and family accepted him. I am a die hard Swiftie but we need to back off on those things or she will stop sharing things with us. Please write something like this if you agree on every Taylor site on RU-vid or Social Media. I know all of us don't act like this but so many do. Like she said she is an adult now. She also hates bullying. 💜🙏
That's so stupid what nonsense y would she breakup with Matty Healy becoz of us ? What proof do u have that she did that ? Also ppl are allowed to have their own opinions don't force urs on anyone
Good Swifties really need to start countering the bad ones on IG at this point. The toxic Swifties have made themselves look even worse now than when Red TV dropped. I bought John Mayer tickets and plan to see him perform partly because of his haters, but also cause I haven’t seen him yet and have been a fan of his for years now.
Honestly, as someone who has always disliked this particular aspect of her fandom, I actually really like that Taylor told her fans this. She's definitely matured a lot over the years and she's showing it.
@@m780dff Lol, you aren't entirely wrong, however to my (limited knowledge) she's now friends with many of her exes (to me that shows that she doesn't blame them the way she did before). I've heard parts of her newest album and it feels more thematically mature too. I think it's because her last relationship was actually long term and she probably has more time to understand her feelings rather than just lashing out. Also even though her last album was about her now-ex, she did a lot less bashing/directly calling him out/making it obvious that the songs were about him. I've called out Taylor Swift fans for years for her immaturity, but I'll also say when I think she's improved.
@@gerardovazquez6441 John needed a bit of the hate to bring him down a notch je was starting to get superdouchey. Now we have the specimen and musician that he is because of it and because it made him re evaluate himself
❤❤❤ I loved Dear John too, like in 2012. There was a whole month of my life when I played in everyday. I loved it because the lyrics were pretty cool. ❤❤❤
Honestly I appreciate that. I love Taylor and I call myself a swiftie with confidence. But with that being said I do have a few things that I don't like and one of the things I don't like it she tends to put information out without like specifying not to attack the person that the information is about and so her fans filled the insatiable need to attack these people and she never calls it out or says anything so I appreciate that she has said something this time cuz she didn't say anything last time and Jake Gyllenhaal got hell.
They’re one reason why me and another online friend decided to buy tickets to see John perform at his autumn tour. We’ve been fans of his for years now but figured it was time to see him perform for the first time anyway.
@@TheClickParade I’m not even a fan of his! It’s just the extremeness of some swifties who have a fit if you criticize anything Taylor does. I don’t like Midnights as an album. I like maybe 6 of the however many songs were released. Does that make me a bad person? no. Do i hate Taylor? No. but saying something as simple as that makes them lose their minds.
@@kant12how has he been trash his entire career? He may have had a period of time where he tried too hard to be funny and witty and made himself seem like a douchebag. But it’s been over a decade that he’s grown up, matured and has had nothing but positive things said about him from people who know him now. Goodness if I were to judge everyone I met based on who they were 10 years ago, I’d be a very lonely person.
That song is on her album midnights, midnights are songs about sleepless nights, obviously one of her worst relationships was with John mayer which caused her sleepless nights , so she wrote a song about it.
If Ronan is the biggest low blow of his career. Would've Could've Should've is without a doubt the most infamous, someone has to remind Tay that she wasn't a little girl, she was a grown woman.
@@gerardovazquez6441 not sure I’d call 19 a grown woman. You’re only legally considered an adult because public school is done around then - not because your brain is done.
@@lbeard7661 so how is it that you can vote, have a bank account, buy alcohol at ease, have a driver's license, you can have children, but you are a fool to relate to an older boy
Its ironic, Because RU-vidrs like these are one of the first of people who actually perpetuates the hate on taylor's ex's by making conspiracy theory videos...
Perhaps it’s a blanket statement. But then again… people are starting to make up flat out lies and accusations that are borderline illegal to make up about Mayer.
I feel like John might have said something to her. Where as Jake kinda made a joke about it with a photoshoot he did at the time of Red TV release. Plus we really did get 10x more brutal with John even during red tv era
@@ZainAli-ul8vxlmao she was the mature one in the entire relationship. Even after releasing speak now, she handled the situation maturely unlike John Mayer who acted like a baby and tried to attack Taylor.
@@ZainAli-ul8vx he went to the media and said some pretty weird stuff about her and said that Dear John “humiliated” him. But Taylor didn’t confirm that the song was about him. He also said in an interview that when he first saw Taylor, he saw her as a cute child (which is a weird way to describe your gf at the time).
That’s why I love mom! She’s amazing for telling the fans this because some people will go crazy on John because of the song just like they did to Jake and I’m sure Taylor doesn’t want that.
Fu-k you it's all about Taylor and her fans she's a beautiful person and it's the earth responding to the baddest chick out there and when people mess with her that's who there messing with.
She’s a gangster and not in a good way-A woman in her mid-thirties holding a grudge she formed at 19 years of age, now pretending to be the better person. If she were she’d have stopped doing that song years ago. She never would have written it-And she certainly would have apologized to John Mayer, privately and publicly. She’s utter trash.
So do I. He’s a brilliant lyricist and musician. And so witty and funny. I do like Taylor Swift. She is talented and her songs are great. But I hate how her Swifties can be.
@@squinsmileA womanizer who constantly sexualizes women? How is it he gets the bad reputation for dating the women he did, and Taylor gets a pass by her Swifties for the men she’s dated? They’ve both dated multiple people. There’s actually nothing wrong with that.
Despite the fact that she says this before Dear John, (therefore alluding to John Mayer). Make no mistake people, this extends beyond John, it's about ALL her exes. There is no reason to exhibit toxic behaviours and negativity to no one. Taylor is a musician, hence all she wants is for us to enjoy the music, nothing else. She's just a musician, not a cult leader like Charles Manson who asks their followers to do their bidding of harming/hounding someone. So Swifties (not all of course, just the rabid subsection), I hope the speech that Taylor made will finally end this toxic and cultish behaviour from you. (PS: of course it won't, asking inherently flawed creatures that is human beings to act perfectly right is like asking for a unicorn)
That's weird bc would've could've should've is on Midnights/ most recent album and references when she was 19 🤔 I think it's nice she makes this request here bc I can only imagine being one of these ex's she aired all the dirty laundry about..makes for a good song but these are ppl the world knows about and there are always 2 sides to every story... the internet is modern day mob with pitch forks, just looking for something to be involved in to feel important. Never mind if there is any moral to it 🙄 I don't have a problem with the songs or what she is saying here EXCEPT the part where she says she doesn't care about the past...maybe not about John specifically but she definitely cares about things that have happened her...! 🤔
She's allowed to write about her feelings and care about things that have happened to her. She never really has gone into any specific details about what each song is about. Fans have only ever assumed. But there's been a lot of talk about dear John again online because of the upcoming re-release of one of her old albums. And she's been seeing some of the things that people have said about him so she's just asking them to be nice
@@ZainAli-ul8vx no it's not.. she's allowed to name whatever song she writes whatever she want to. Taylor's not the only artist to write about her feelings that's it literally every artist does
@@brooke9225 it is worst , because what really happened between them nobody knows, she names a song after him and she gets to paint whatever picture she wants through that song, nobody knows the other side of their story. Maybe thn just write a song about you 'Feelings" not name it "Dear John", she's is equally to be blamed for her toxic fanbase behavior.
@@brooke9225 It is one thing to make songs with your feelings and another to talk about specific people, with their own lives who are later threatened with death.
I was there and I love how people say she’s demonic or is a witch but she’s literally telling people to be nice and kind online to a guy who destroyed her for awhile that she couldn’t play that song for like 12 years it just baffles me
