Trans people, Non-binary people, all people, we are all just humans wanting to be safe, loved and respected for who we are. Thank you for sharing your story and the choir. Absolutely stunning.
I thought it was quite presumptuous of them to think they needed to SPEAK “fix it” because someone in the elevator saw them & looked uncomfortable. Why do they think they have to fix anything? If you’re comfortable leave it at that. Straight people feel the same about other straight people, it’s not all about you.
Partly because for the most part people can't transition until after puberty so if the voice has dropped it's dropped and won't transition to typical female register. Women's voices will drop but there are limits. The few trans men I know look fairly masculine but not ultramasculine I also know cis men and women who get mistaken for the opposite gender. Tamsin Greig the actress is often misgendered! I think people are overconfident in this regard. My own difficulty is with older people and teenagers I often cannot tell.
First off, she doesn’t sound like she has a mans voice. Secondly, she most likely couldn’t transition till after puberty and testosterone does so much more physically than estrogen. T changes the body a lot, that’s why the tiny tiny percentage of detransitioners can never go back to how their body once was.
As I read your post I was bothered by the fact that you worry way too much about what's in other peoples pants, what they look and sound like, that the rest of the world that's far better than you is living rent-free in your head.