Temitope Olowoniyan Shares All: Tears and Truths about Daddy Issues | Freaky Table S3 Episode 5 

Miss Tope served in my secondary school and she was such a sweet soul, I remember having an issue then that made me cry so much, she called me to the staff room and asked if I was willing to share, and I said no and she didn't pressure me, she just comforted me. Thank you for being you❤

Soo relatable with Joan My dad was a living dead, he never contributed to anything. Apparently my mom dead and my siblings were taken away by my mom's siblings and finally my dad left me to myself, at 17. I'm 23 now left all by myself since 17. I'm healing because i had to convince myself that I'm an orphan and by the grace of God I'm doing soo well by myself It's not easy but then that's my reality 😢

Hope y'all heal completely in Jesus' name🙏🏾. For all those who have been through or are going through the same, the joy of the Lord is your strength.

I’m here crying my eyes out knowing mine was the opposite. Mine was mummy issues. Imagine me been the Frist daughter and up till now I still can’t forgive my mum for leaving us and getting married to another man. My mum left me when I was 6, my younger sister was 4 and my younger brother was just 1 years old. My dad is my hero and my man 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Joan needs to go for therapy if she has not started already. That really caught me off guard but he must be very much arrested! And Joan you should be very proud of yourself! Very proud!

Even though you think you have forgiven some events triggers you and you realize you haven’t forgiven.

Daddy issues are not easy at all. The realisation that you never got to experience the presence of a father not because he passed away but because he chose himself over you. Then witnessing other dads going above and beyond for their kids. Only God can mend that ….

Tope is so mature 🥺 I love me a healed/ing woman ❤❤❤❤❤

Waooooo, daddy issues I had it too, the annoying thing is that they are still proud about it, I didn't only have daddy issues,I also had mummy issues because I look so much like my father so it was like my mother saw him in me and was very mean 😢😢😢😢, I just thank God for life now, because am married with kids and doing well, and they In arms length.

The inactive Dad is the absolute nasty work. Those ones that are present in the physical but never present. They are zero active in their rule

After watching this interview, please parents lets make a decision to train our boys better. Better groomed boys turn into better groomed men. Joan, Charles n Temitope i pray the holy spirit heals you all. My prayers are with you all. Stay blessed and strong.❤

I lost my dad when I was barely 6 months, my mum did the best in raising us all and others, thank God for church families and good friends who stood in as fathers to us. I wish my dad was here, some decision I made would have been better with his influence, I didn’t realize this until recently my husband said it after giving him some gists on what I did. After 15 years my mum remarried and gave us a father. My step dad is truly a father, you can hardly tell he is our step dad. He also has lost his wife. I thank God I get to experience the love of a father through him.

Nah cry una com cry. Me self d cry join. God Abeg. This one touch me

This is really traumatic Joan. We really pray for deep healing for you and family. Sending you so much love and support

So many deadbeat dads can't imagine the hurt they cause the children left behind. Charles, I was in your position, I was raised by my mum, she singlehandedly raised myself and my siblings... He's late now. His absence hurt me so much, made me crave love so much from the opposite sex, I had to drop out of Uni because my mum went broke and my dad refused to pay, said I should move back with him. After years of abandoning us, I didn't want to, my siblings left eventually, I left last because things got really bad with my mum... My story is pretty long and sad, the absence of a father, even when he was with my mum, he was still absent, I had very few memories of him. Charles I hope you can come to forgive him for yourself, not for him, do it for you. I realized my father couldn't do better best he didn't know better, and had a draining childhood, so he had no love left to give, the Holy Spirit helped me understand this. So, it's possible your father didn't have a good example as a father too, truth is, if he knew better he'd do better. I hope you can eventually forgive him. It's my first time watching this show, I totally related with this, keep up the good work.

I had a mummy issue Still having a mummy issue and all i can say is may God heal us all completely ❤

Joan Dear, your healing just begun. Sending prayers and hugs your way and to your family, too. You don't have to carry it alone anymore. ❤❤❤

This got me seriously. It’s hard to talk about daddy issues in our African settings. Thank you for such great vulnerability. I am a victim of daddy issues….. but one thing that helped me deal with mine was inner healing….. it’s not over though… it’s a whole process but there is always some level of healing and wholeness you feel when you forgive and let God deal with the hurts…..

Oh God, I love Charles for letting himself feel and not trying to live up to society's standard of being a man and not cry or not be emotional. But hey Charles, you really need to forgive him, not even for him now but for you because you're hurting a lot and you do not deserve it because you've been hurt too much. You deserve to be free of any hate or anger or whatever you're feeling for him right now. Nobody is worth making you hurt yourself this much. I am here just if you ever wanna talk. Like TOPE said, don't focus on the past and please let others love you because you deserve a Good kind of love where you'd be loved with no holding back and I love you too 🧡

Joan I am happy you have spoken up…I wish I can give you a hug…God loves you and he understands

The child protection agencies in Nigeria needs to wake up, cause I don't want to be hearing things like this in the 21st century, God help us😭❤️

Wow 32:59 This is a whole lot. Thank you for this episode. I pray for total healing for everyone dealing with one form of daddy issues or the other. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Social media will groom you to be a responsible person if only you see the positive value.sweet to see people talk about their past boldly I will never be a disgrace to my generation 🙏thanks for this show😊

Tope has depth!!!

This tells you that when you think you’ve had it bad ,someone has had it worse. I love this Tope Lady!!! Daddy issues … I’m almost fifty, I had daddy issues and it made me form my defense mechanism. I blocked my father off mentally, I didn’t feel anything for him. I would do anything asked of me when he asks but that was it. When my father died I didn’t feel anything. I think I was more relieved for him that he would be better off dead than the being alive because he had suffered stroke and was already shadow of himself. I’m living my life and being intentional. I chose a good father for my children. My husband is a fantastic father.

From watching this video, i have learnt a lot, and i realised that i am not alone. Daddy issues come in different shapes and sizes from what i have heard today, but one thing i know for sure is that this "thing" makes us want to be better people and not repeat the mistakes of the humans who contributed to our existence. Also, i think everyone with daddy issues or some kind of trauma from growing up needs to speak to a therapist and unpack. We need it, and i believe in therapy.

Mine is the woman that called herself my mother🥹🥹 I don’t even know my dad and it is so sad that I am bearing my mum’s family surname. But then again, I never let that weigh me down, I am hustling and trying to make lemonade out of the lemon life throws at me. I won’t stop until I become the BEST part of myself.

This is why women need to shine their eyes before picking a partner and never get pressured to marry because the children always suffer it. Men also need to start organising programs and confrences for fellow men because these things i'm Hearing ehn

😢😢😢 WE need to be intentional parents as adults. We can't be doing this to our kids

I didn’t have daddy issues but rather mummy issues, I had to question myself severally if she was my mum, I had to go through a lot of mental torture but even though I have forgiven her now it’s something no child should have to go through, it made me loss self worth and I had to get into the wrong hands just coz I was trying to run away from all that pain but ended up getting hurt over and over again. It’s not easy to heal from childhood traumas but it’s worth it for your mental health. ❤ & light

I don’t think we understand the story Joan just shared it’s traumatic she need GOD and constant counseling even with that she will still feel that scare , cried all through this episode, praying Y’ll to heal , so sorry Joan .

Doubtless thou art our father, though Abraham be ignorant of us, and Israel acknowledge us not: thou, O LORD, art our father, our redeemer; thy name is from everlasting. Isaiah 63 : 16

From one healing person to another, I'd like you to know that God ALWAYS causes all things to work together for your good because he loves you. He didn't cause the situation. In fact, he's not pleased with it because it doesn't align with his design of what family should be. But he gave man the freewill to do what man wants within this domain and that's why man has chosen to consistently make stupid decisions including rejecting him and being selfish. That said, he's weaving the broken pieces of your life to make a full picture. He's a master repairer who's an expert at giving beauty for ashes. He'll make such a perfect repair of your life that there will be no visible scars. If you let him heal you, trust me, you'll not recognize the beauty he'll make out of your life. God loves you and you don't have to carry the baggage around for the rest of your life. He delights in your wholeness and freedom. Let him show you how much he loves you in Christ.

I wish you guys understood the greatness of this conversation. Just absolutely mind blowing. We are living in such different times but I respect how you three have the boldness to talk about it with such calmness, very mature, extremely bold and admitting that you all are still learning and growing. This will one day be remembered as an iconic conversation. The good lord will continue to guide all of you the way only he knows how to. Because these are 3 separate testimonies and common denominator is God. He alone knows the depth of your stories and he alone will write your history as it should be written. Mad respect to all three of you. Just incredible ❤

Thanks for this. For those people who do not exactly have daddy issues like this, but are married to someone who’s had daddy issues. You have to help your partner heal especially if there’s willingness to change coz most toxic marriages / people are a result of wounded people or partner who’s carried those baggage’s into marriage. Most times they are unaware of the effect of this trauma they’ve carried for years. I pray God heals us all

This is really emotional for me to watch Daddy issues is really big , funny thing is some people whose dad were present still has this this Daddy issues God help us

This episode is so personal to me… I had daddy issues n worst m, mummy issues… my mother is responsible for my mental instability. Thank you guys for sharing your stories. Joan, u are really an inspiration. I’m literally in tears right now. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

This was really emotional for me to watch. I cried so much..seeing how vulnerable and real you all were. My dad died before I was five(5);most times I wish my reality was different.

People have dark pains they are holding up I pray we all heal from the things we have bottled up inside

Very very relatable😢d pain of having a living Dad yet wasn’t der and now just cause ur faith u still try as much as possible to take care of him frm d little u mkin ….thought u healed and boom y remember some bad treatment n dat triggers d anger in you all over😞😞

I just want to say kudos( for lack of a better word) and thank you to the panellist for being vulnerable.

My dad died when I was 1 year, 9months old😢 and all I can say is I miss him so much, my mum remarried after 10years hoping to give us the father we didn’t have but that was the greatest mistake she made in her life time, she is late now😢 this step father showed us shege😢 he can’t stand the sight of us at all😢 he fights our mum everyday because of us😢 I remembered him telling my mum to send me away if she wants peace in the house😢 this man is still alive and always looking for way to apologize and talk to me😢 he is broke and always needed money😢 I always wished my dad stayed longer for me😢 now my mum is no more due to stress and over work😩 I miss them both.

Aunty Joan 💕💕💕💕 you’re the strongest person I know. I love you to the moon and back!

I’m so sorry Joan you had to go through that.

Ooh no, this real life story is deep, o Lord, have mercy.

Funny how Tope's story is my life story... I am literally alone without any biological family, no sibling, didn't ever get to meet my dad, then loosed my mum when I was 6... Omoh I am single at 27 cos of Daddy issues, mehn it's alot but thank God for grace and supportive family.

Who cried when she said my dad 😢

It is true that when you stay home, you will think your story is worse. No deserves to go through any of these 😢😢😢

Wow.. I’m literally blown away😢😢. There are so many things to unpick from the three narratives but the common theme for me here is a cue to choose WISELY the parent to your children- “he/she loves me” is not enough reason to procreate with them.. In all like Charles said, seek God🙏🤔

Tope speaks so much like pastor Bolaji . The words sound so exact. So much wisdom 😢😢

I can't believe i cried watching this 😢 So sorry for the pains you guys have to go through...May the lord heal your pains...

Men really need to be intentional. I'm so sorry to hear this Joan. I pray for total healing and restoration. This episode is very educative. Thanks for sharing your moments with us. Well done guys ❤️

This episode hit me in so many ways. I just sent an email to my father last week detailing the impact of his absence in my life and he told me he could not go back and forth with me via email and I should find time for both of us to meet. This was after 8 months of not speaking. I pray God will heal us and we don’t repeat these mistakes with our own kids.

Joannnnnnnn! I really wanna huggggg youuuuuu

For some reason I have always dreaded watching this episode of Freaky Table “Tears and Truths about Daddy Issues”.. It just got me more right now into my shells the more 🥹😔😔 I have NEVER felt what it feels like to have a FATHER and hearing Joan’s experience I feel worst right now. 😭😭 So I promised myself to be a FATHER FIGURE to anyone, sister/brother or junior friend who looks up to me as a BIGIE. To my girlfriend, be her protector.. more of the father type. Sometimes my girlfriend don’t get why I get to over protective of her. It causes us problems sometimes. I pray she gets to understand me better 😔 And to a child, who looks up to me as a dad, I love them without boundaries. Especially my sister, brother, my cousins’ kids and my girlfriend’s daughter 🥰🥰❤️❤️ The kinda love I expected to receive from him that I still haven’t received is what I try to give back. The ONLY time I give what I don’t have.. That’s how I battle that hate and rage in me for this man who has NEVER shown up in my life 😔😢 This episode is has made me realized we all are just going through a lot personally and we just try to act OK.. I pray God sees us through.. 😊🙏🏻🙏🏻

Imagine Charles still tearing up after so many years that this have happened 😢

This is some form of therapy for me cause i could relate, it felt good to see that regardless , one could make the most of life without allowing the hurt our parents passed down be a negative significane in how life turned out. 😢 It’s not easy, but that’s our win, that we survived and tried to live our best life regardless ❤

The pain parents cause is the worst heartbreak 💔 one will ever feel . We’ll heel I pray ❤

I thought mine was crazy but hearing Joan story is wild. I hope she heals coz it isn't easy.

This is so therapeutic i love this show so much . I'm going through daddy issues currently and in this time and era its kind of hard healing but hearing you all speak its a huge step to acceptance.

Dear Joan, sending you hugs. You are strong and bold for sharing this. Your dad was so wrong and he should have just left than to do that to you. Thank you for sharing and I will be praying for you.

Charles....you are amazing. Your father was a deadbeat, all of your fathers are. So sorry that you experienced this. You are a powerful man.

Alot of kids are going through alot,sometimes i asked my mom hw she met my dad because mehnnn💔 Daddy issues/paternal family issues 💔 God help me not to k#ll anyone at dis moment.

"If you show me any signs of my dad i will run" - i felt this in my soul

Thank you @Temitope, Joan and Charles. This is beautiful and healing. I have 2yr old and absent partner, this gave me a lot of clarity on how to be there for my child and myself. We gon' be alright 💛

I and tope share the same story and it was so hard for me ti accept the fact that this is my reality, I still hurt sometimes and I’m still trying to let go of the pains though it’s not easy But I know God is in the story I just pray for his help and mercy 😢🙏🏻

Tope, you are such a champion. I am so proud of you, for how far you have come!!!! I am proud of you.

😢😢😢😢 I can relate to their stories mine was not present and never cared , grew up with my grandparents from my maternal side as my parents even up till university level it’s so hurtful 🥲🥲🥲

I’m dumb founded! This episode is crazy 😩😩

You guys are so brave and I thank you for this episode. I hope you all find healing from this, it's not easy ❤❤❤

This episode was intense... The profound impact of parental pain and childhood trauma can be staggering. Some people may not even realize they have unresolved issues with their father or mother, but it can still affect how they react to certain situations and interact with others. It's a testament to the lasting effects of trauma and the importance of confronting and healing from it." Childhood trauma can have a lasting impact, shaping our relationships and reactions in ways we may not even realize. It's essential to acknowledge and heal from this pain to move forward

All I can say is kudos to you all for been real, ,unassam while been vulnerable . I hope all the fathers get to watch this

Sending hugs to Joan. This must have been hard for you but i am glad you got the courage to speak for the first time. I pray you, Charles and Tope truly heal completely. I feel like healing is more of a continuous process. May God be your ultimate comfort as you go through it.

forgiveness is really hard. It only takes the grace of God to forgive and let go. I also love Tope's say on being intentional with life and not letting things define us.❤ A lot of lessons to be learnt here fr

I lost my daddy when i was 11 and when i thought i was going to have a father figure in my life, i was almost raped.. i feel like there are a lot of mistakes i wouldn't have made if my dad was still in the picture. It's been 9 years now and i honestly wish i have a father figure in my life 🥺 I hope we all find peace and love😢

Wow sending special hug to Joan I actually watched the highlights on Charles born IG my whole day was ruin bringing back old memories dt I am running away from sometimes when you think ur life is messy goshhhh😢tope has gotten a fan and marvelled about how strong her spirit is lovely and infectious wow dtx a strong woman right there 🎉🎉 love this episodes you guy rock!!!

Stoicism is the only way to survive this wild earth 🌍! I am just now learning the stoic teachings and it is helping me greatly to navigate my messy pain 😢 this earth is ghetto frfr.

This is the realest conversation, my goodness. The impact on our esteem and worth and how we show up. It’s acceptance and accountability for your life after gaining awareness

Praying for you all to heal completely, this kind of healing actually needs a lot of time, but I pray that you all find that time in Jesus name.

Joan this is huge, I just want to give you a tight hug, God I can’t stop crying

This is so emotional😢😢😢. Everyone has one healing journey or the other they are gone. Many God console us all. This is so pathetic😢

Wow! Takes a lot of courage to speak about this and I'm so glad that people can speak on this from a place of understanding! Tope you're so brave, gosh! I'm proud of you!

Thanks so much for speaking out and speaking up. You have blessed many. They now know they are not alone. Thank you and pray God Almighty heal you all beautifully, aamiin kunfayakun 🤲🏾

😭😭😭 thank you all for this video. I thought I had a problem not being able to get over my absent father . We are so many of us, I pray we all can find healing and move past this

Daddy 😭 I hope you see dis thanks so much for being the best father, the best person and the best daddy I love you so much and I really hope my husband really becomes more better person like you 😭🤲🏻 (Amen)

Daddy issues took my Mom’s life at 40. Awww Joan you are such a brave lady. Let’ go of the past Mama, your beautiful Mom is a strong woman. She is beautiful like her heart. I wish I could give you a hug.

It’s really emotional 😭 Watching you all cry, sometimes you thought you have healed or forgiven but after hearing a similar story it triggers the pain you went through. I just hope y’all find peace with yourself someday. ❤❤❤

The way God writes our lives....u just have to go through them but you can choose how Togo through them

Joan’s story resonates with mine, Mr Felix( like I call him) was living with us and fending off my mum. He was a total douche bag. Although he didn’t touch me inappropriately because I wasn’t always home,( faraway from home schooling) which was God’s doing!! He made me hate pictures cos he told me I didn’t look good on my 10th birthday celebration!! I forgive him because I needed to heal!!

I can relate cos I battle with accepting people as mother or father figures

It is today I got t o know this thing I have struggled with and still struggling with for years is called Daddy issues . The fact that had a present father even made it worse . there were day i wished this man could just disappear and never come back because the emotional pain and torture was to much. A man that would talk down on us in front of people especially his family members. As a result we lost our respect in the hands of is family too. . there are day I would just cry for no reason. I cry for my school fees to be paid and school things, are paid for, while tis man is out there spending money on women and other ridiculous things. while this same this man would reign insult on my mother and on us. My father will always make these statement " He would see what we would become in live" " My siblings are enough for me as children" those words so many more pierced my heart. I lost my self esteem , i was always angry and never happy. By next year i will be 40 and it been difficult getting into a relation because of this baggage. I have this huge wall around as a form of defence mechanisms when I hear the the word I love you from any man , I intentionally mess thing up . 😭 Its so hard moving on

One perspective I believe will help the healing process is to see it from the point that the daddy also has his own unresolved daddy issues. Some daddy issues have been handed from generation to generation such that every perpetrator is also a victim. We must continue to raise awareness. Until more people become aware of of what they are dealing with, the cycle continues. More than just healing, we want to make sure it ends with our generation. Ultimately, parents pass on what they don’t heal from. Selah!

Never know my father, never seen him, not even a memory. Growing up a lot of things would happen and I would just wish I had my dad there but naa. Not dead, like my grandma would say living dead 😂 we will heal just one day inshallah

I’ve always loved this Tope. There’s so much depth to her and to be honest it shows in everything she does. Loved this episode. Joan is a blessing, God bless and compensate you for all your pain.

I broke down when Joan shared her story. It is interesting how I can relate to the guy's story. I always wanted my dad to be present but alas! Tope's statement is succinct. I pray they all find healing. I also pray we do better as parents to our own kids.

I can’t believe Joan has dis lot to say. I was crying so hard for her. Didn’t see that coming at all. May Almighty Allah be with U guys(Ameen). Mehn some men are so evil

Charles is making me want to cry 😢

Joan am proud of you. Speaking is healing. Out of 5 girls, atleast 2 of them are victims from relative or even close friends at a tender age but are very ashamed to speak out.Your testimony will help alot of girls to get healing. Thanks for sharing 🙏

There are some realities avout people that you can never really know. This episode was amazing

This episode touched me a lot and I know I have daddy and mummy issues and for the longest I’ve been so in-denial and hurt because of things I went through in life, but after this episode I know that it had to happen so I’d be who I am today.