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This story hits different now that I'm grown. I was blindsided with a man like Franklin, fell in love with potential. I was successful and young, he struggled with being a provider. I had everything he wanted and he constantly got mad at me. Wish I had a little more guidance, I became pregnant treatment got worse. He destroyed my place and broke up most of things. I had a little girl and gave him chances to step up; he blamed me for everything wrong with his life. I don't know if he got it together but I'm happily married and my daughter is now 14.
@SimplyAdia ... I don't know you abs ah very proud of you and how you decided to improve and let the zero alone. Congratulations on your wonderful life!
So happy for you! I stayed married to this type of man for 8 yrs! Currently getting a divorce and I am soo looking forward to my freedom! I have and a 7yr old and a 7month old!!! Idc, I’m done!
He is home before her, he forgot to pick up his own child. She is washing the dishes and he wanted her to change the baby. Can't he change his child diaper?
If you're a black woman in your forties you've had one of these struggle relationships. The Black movies from the 90's and early 00's had us thinking we can build a man even if we were destroying ourselves in the process. Thank God for deliverance!
I'm in my mid-30s and ALMOST got caught up in one of these type of struggle love situations. Thank God I had the discernment to see it for what it was before I got in too deep!
@Joel Johnson it was real but at the same time it wasn’t because he didn’t really love her when she told him i love you. He hesitated when they were sitting on the stairs. Zora was desperate for a man and the only thing that kept him around was the dick. When he asked her why am i here? He looked at her like u using me for my dick . It comes a time when a woman wants more than a big dick and good sex. That’s what his ex wife told him, she said well tell her to call me I’ll tell her girl a big dick and worth all this stress. That’s on period ….
I had to look at this movie a second time. Taught me a lesson or two: take time to know a man; never moved him into your place; listen to what he's not saying, and don't support him financially and no husband benefits. That man was trash. I felt her pain.
@Joel Johnson It wasn't the goals that was the problem. He made alot of excuses for himself not realizing the world don't stop for nobody. And he just kept digging a deeper hole while dragging women and children down with him. Now she also had a role in that. Its okay to love someone but don't coddle them. He should of never moved in. And she should have allowed him time to get his stuff together. And if he real about wanting better he will be better. He definitely loved her but sadly love...is not enough sometimes.
Women have to realize the business part of the relationship. If a man doesn’t bring anything good to bring to the table or he doesn’t have much to lose as you do, leave him alone.
A wise older woman told me once "if it starts off wrong, it won't end up right" that's what happens, they got together he was still married, and morally it was wrong for him to start another family before tying up the loose ends; the drinking on the job, etcetera. He had to get himself all the way together first in order for him to be the man he wanted to be and needed to be. I was so happy to see him come back as a better man. From experience it doesn't always happen this way for us women of color, sometimes they come back after the children are grown(as was in my case) and too much time has passed and far too much damage has been done(especially to our sons growing up without their fathers). I love Terry McMillen as an author who also gave us "Waiting to exhale" I enjoyed revisiting this film because it ends the way it began, with Love and Black Love is the Best Kind of Love!!! To All of my Black Men out there Stay Strong and just Hold on and Know that You Are So Loved!!
Even tho he was toxic, u can't really blame him for that one lol I mean, they didn't have social media or cell phones back then, so it's not like he could holla at her any other way 🤷🏾♂️
This movie triggers me to no end. My face was drowned throughout the whole movie. Lol! I watched this at age 27 and now at 49 and I’m still pissed with Franklin. Ugh‼️🙄🤦🏽♀️
So many red flags from the beginning. That was some real life sh:+ & still does. Thank God for growth and knowing my worth and to teach other women (young up and coming). Them old ones 🤦🏽♀️
There was three critcal errors she made ....#1 She slept with him on the second night #2 She gave him a key to her apartment and #3 She had a baby by him now let that sink in...
I feel for everybody's situation. Men can really mess up their lives and women accept far too much. Franklin wasn't a bad guy, but he made bad decisions (drinking on the job, not getting his divorce). Zora did too (accepting his excuses). They didn't help each other in the beginning, just made each others' situations harder. A man has no business stepping to a woman with nothing to offer and a woman has no business letting him. Separate what you know from how you feel ladies (and gentlemen).
He told her in the beginning he didn’t had much to offer and she accepted him anyway. She just didn’t know he was so irresponsible. Sex can cloud your judgment.
We'll do anything to NOT BE ALONE 😩 I LOVE MY OWN COMPANY, When we realize this, it becomes a I want you there or I don't. Either way, we good with it.
I loved this movie. It’s so interesting to see how he motivated her and she inspired him. In the end they found each other again he became that successful contractor and she a song writer. She gave him a second chance to put her family back together because she never stopped loving him and he still loved her
Weak male who blames and gets angry at everyone else for his failures. Girl, this is the perfect case of 'I can do bad all by myself.' No one is worth this much stress
@@edger_rush4057 No I am not! I would never waste my days with that type-I’ve wasted days with other types-but never a Franklyn Swift. I’m speaking from 57 yrs of observing human behavior and counseling others. I’m not a fan of any adult who blame others for their failures or take out that anger on others
Where has this movie been hiding? I love love love loved this movie. Thank you for posting it. This leading lady never let you down in whatever movie she stars in. She has a way of making all of her roles come to life.
Sanaa Lathan is a Very Beautiful and Talented actress and I agree she does bring these characters to life. I can't wait to see her win an Oscar someday..
@@nigerjenkins6372 No that’s not her singing. I have the actual DVD (showing my age😳). It’s Melky Jean and Sedeck Jean singing, siblings of Wyclif Jean.
They were two good people just not good together. They both needed to get themselves together before they could have a successful relationship. The timing was just not right.
All women need to watch this movie before they head out on a first date got to be more careful when dating guys that don't have their business together
Unpopular opinion: This is not a romantic movie . It is a typical struggle movie that get promoted to BW to accept any treatment as long as you got a “man”. He purposely did not tell her till she basically fell in love with him all of his problems. She is in a situation where she is paying majority of the bills, working, cooking, cleaning,trying to jumpstart a music career, and has epilepsy. All he brings her is no high school diploma, two kids he can’t take care of, and a wife that he still is married to . Then he basically tries to guilt trip her into keeping his baby when they are both already horribly struggling especially her since she is carrying 80 percent of the weight . He can’t keep a job to save his life .Then he has the audacity to make a comment insinuating that she should be grateful she has man . Once the baby comes, he can’t even remember to pick HIS child up and does not change diapers . When he gets upset, he messes up the furniture that her and HIS a child will have to live in. Unfortunately, this is the reality of many BW who are in relationships. They get gaslighted and treated like mules. A slim amount of intimacy from a man is enough for some women to accept this treatment . I would never thank god.
Thank you. I agree with you 100%. This movie is the same propaganda that is promoted to Black women over and over again to keep us in these struggle relationships and single parents. We are told to settle for not even the bare minimum that other races of women are taught to expect from a man. This is why Terri McMillan books are popular. I’m happy for her success, but all her books and movies are just like Tyler Perry movies. Black woman you are a mule, be happy that any Black man breathed near you, sacrifice your life for everyone but yourself. This movie is what not to do and what not to settle for in relationships and life.
You are on point this is so true he is not a Godly man his life was not in order she had a promising career before he gave her his life now she can’t keep a Job or money she missable like him
@@estherbeckley420 I watched this as a kid and thought their love was sooo strong, growing up it’s shocking to realize how toxic they were to each other lol
Well he did try to find a job, he just kept getting turned down so he played it like he wasnt doing shit and she should've have never tried to baby him in the first place by saying she got him when he told her he couldnt afford to stay with her, she should have said okay let me know when you get it together lol
WOW!! ALWAYS LOVED THIS MOVIE. MY DAUGHTER WAS SIX MONTHS OLD WHEN WE SAT ON THE SOFA WATCHING THIS MOVIE.TOGETHER. SHE IS NOW TWENTY ONE AND A SENIOR IN COLLEGE. MEMPHIS , TENNESSEE AUGUST 30, 2021 6:15am
I don't look at it as a Black man experience, more as a man thing- a life lesson if you will. Sometimes we as women ignore signals because we want love in our lives, passion, desire. To feel beautiful.
Yes I miss my beloved Momm 😢 💔 She will be gone 1 year this May 25th It has been so hard 😫 😪 😢 and I can't Believe she's not with me anymore But I will never ever forget her !!
@@sandraturner3838 my mom passed October 8th 2015 and the pain still the same and her bday is October 11th 😭 I can't say it'll get better the pain never go away and yes she is watching you always so make her proud
@@dimples5257 Yes I will and I have friends that still have their Mom's and don't realize how blessed they are and don't know what's really in store for them Until their Mom's pass away and there's No true way to prepare for it because After the burial you have to force yourself. To get back in your daily routines and J have family but at the same time I feel Soo lonely and very sad 😥 like I was Left and she went on a trip without me And will return soon and everything will be back to normal but everything on Earth will never be the same because Nothing can replace her and she touched Many lives and I will never forget her and Keep her memories alive as much as Possible and she was a noble woman
This movie just tells me to get a private investigator if I'm gonna date a black man. Got the nerve to act like he the prize choosing talmbout "she don't be just yapping like them other girls, she listens" like we dogs. Then gaslighting her to think she's in the wrong to not want the dudes Tyler Perry pushes on us to settle for....or for expecting truthfulness and responsibility. We stay having to raise these fools. Grow up before y'all date and waste black women's time.
I know for real, this movie has a lot of parallels to what BW are dealing with today,. Like he literally smashed up everything he built in her flat out spite, all because he was told that his lazy azz attitude will not be tolerated. 🙄. "I am not divorced, I am separated".... umm no 😒
@Joel Johnson No, a man who strives to do good is not a fool. His erratic behavior and gaslighting is. He throws tantrums and wants to fix it with sex. He watched her struggle while he sat home without taking care of the house. Men don't need this explained to them. They're not angry about a comment section full of women who know better. They agree when they know their rightful places.
@Joel Johnson No, dusty. Real love is having enough respect for yourself and a future partner to be at your best so that you have something of value to bring to the table instead of expecting someone to struggle with you and your toxic bullshit. If you are significantly struggling, especially financially, you shouldn't even be entertaining the thought of dating anyone. You should be so focused on getting your shit together so that you can be an asset to your future partner instead of a liability.
Franklin was selfish . And sadly she let this man knock her up. He was already unstable with two children from a previous relationship (marriage) that he was barely providing for. Girl, you should have RAN !!! 💨💨🏃🏾♀ faster than Hussein Bolt. Franklin was no good. Franklin( his character) represent how grimey NY dudes are, as he only wanted her for stability and to carry his seed. She would have faired well not meeting him.
This brings back so many memories. I remember when the book first came out and when the movie came out I fell in love with black love even more. I wanted to be in love all over again 😘 They both played their roles to the fullest. The concerns in relationships are still relevant today💯The soundtrack is all that and more. Thank you for posting 🔥🔥🔥
It’s sad. My brother is a 16 yr old aspiring actor and he is sad that the “everyday black movie” isnt made anymore. 😟. There ain’t movies like Boyz in the hood, Baby Boy, or Love Jones being made. I love these types of films man
Great for a storyline of what to stay away from. This is struggle love to the max. This movie kinda personifies how a lot of our men became. We empathized with their struggles, support them IN EVERY WAY, deal with that building boy phase and all. These days, many women are over it and the men are trying to get women back into this type of subjection. That's why KS is their voice. They are and have been bullying women into settling for them. The threat is "Well, you'll be alone." They get that from older women too. Explore you racial options. That doesn't mean any others are the holy grail. Still, explore to widen your pool. Its crazy because we can see brothers' pain and we really try to fill that void but we can't. That's why many give up on themselves. They need the Most High before being married and being in relationships. Healing to them and us
I date all, I refuse to put up with bullcrap just bc I'm trying to stay in my race category. Watched many great women in my life do it and saw firsthand how that affected them.
Struggle Dusty... Man leaving another black woman a single parent to raise a male child... another male living off a female and not taking responsibility for his actions....Loved at the time tho.
He was uncertain about his contribution She stayed true to course ..without being bitter because when he did come back he had made honest stride towards his real sense of belonging as a Father and worthy to earn her heart back Great movie !!!!
@@canadamonroe6229 Thank you for saying this!! Only black women are encouraged and even in some ways shamed into accepting struggle love, even by other black women. It's so sick!
No woman should settle for this type of love. A man who has two families and who doesn't do what it takes to support his children and is willing to see the women struggle and support his ass ain't sh!t. The worse part is that when he was leaving, he destroyed her apartment, without even considering that she has his child raising. That speaks volumes of a worthless piece of trash. That attitude can't be changed by education, and a contractor license
No woman should settle for this type of love. A man who has two families and who doesn't do what it takes to support his children and is willing to see the women struggle and support his ass ain't sh!t. The worse part is that when he was leaving, he destroyed her apartment, without even considering that she has his child raising. That speaks volumes of a worthless piece of trash. That attitude can't be changed by education, and a contractor license
@Joel Johnson If that's love, I really don't want it. Thank you. Too often as women maybe out of desperation or from a society that tells us we must have a man-any, so many women settle for toxic mediocre love. Well I will pass.
No matter how much somebody says "oh, I got this" Please pay your half. Nobody really wants to take care of another grown ass person. Love. In love. Good sex. Or other. Always pay your way!!!!
@A cherished Gem, I remember a co worker back then, suggesting Disappearing Acts. I just don't remember reading Mama though. Dang I'll have to revisit it. I enjoy all Terri's book. I have all her hardcovers except those two. You know sometimes, you can just reread a book, because it's like there is always something new that you may not have picked up on before, or it's like you're visiting an old friend, or even transporting yourself, back to the first time your read it. Something very comforting about rereading good books.
@@goodmeasure777 Mama is a very good book. The only 2 books I read twice was Jubilee by Margaret Walker and Morning Glory by LaVyrle Spencer. Morning Glory is now a movie but the book is always better.
This movies shows good and bad of how we as women love and choose men. Its good she so the greatness in him and what he could accomplish, but he should bring something ot the table like you and appreciate you as much as you do him, if not more. Women should uplift and encourage a man, but not when he's married. He didnt deserve her at that time. We are so giving and overlook alot of flaws when sex comes into the picture. It blinds us and some men think that solves everything. It doesn't. Men or women, fix your issues or at least come correct before you start a relationship. Franklin was a good man but you came to this beautiful sister raggedy (i.e full of excuses, lack of drive, married with children). That wasnt fair to her because she had a big heart. Like many of us, we just want to be loved and supported. Timing was bad like she said. How he came in the end was how he should of came in the beginning. Noone can fix us...they can encourage but we must do the work. If we are drained and broken, we have nothing to give.
He got it together! That’s great. We all have different paths. They don’t make happy endings like this no more. Unfortunate events happened, some never recover. But I’m glad he did.
