The problem is everything is a problem when you're with the wrong person. You're too famous and overshadow him, you're not famous enough therefore not good enough for him. You have these 3somes and open yourself to him continuing the cheating, you require monogamy and then he steps out anyway. Don't blame yourself ladies, just walk away.
This is how you control the narrative. She moved in silence and denied problems while planning her future. She exposed the problems when she was ready. She owes us nothing and and I applaud her for doing what’s best for her and her children In her time - not ours.
I was putting on a facade in my emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive marriage for years, but when I left him 2 years ago I let it all out. I'm just grateful the judge granted our divorce in July of this year. Unfortunately, some people put on facades to protect themselves.
We all do that’s why I be so annoyed when they bash other women while hiding their chit and I don’t pay no women any attention that pretends like her man is perfect cause I know we will all cover for our abusers while trying to make others jealous about our trash as relationships
@@DenaliRoseFacts! I just always keep my mouth closed about others relationships. Even if mines is good because there will be bumps in the road either way. No woman ever know what her man is doing. I don't care what anybody says.
@mrs_p_mccraya8552 no problem for the lengthy post. Thank you, I commend you for also leaving, and I agree society does paint a picture of what marriage should look like and when it doesn't fit into that mold then a lot of times we as victims are looked at as if we did something wrong and it was nothing we could have done to fix it. I was married to him for almost 9 years, but I left him at the 6 year mark. I have an adult son who, thankfully, is not by him. My son was a teenager when I married him. My situation with my ex-husband turned physical one night, and even though I already had been planning to leave, I put it into overdrive. I had my son go and live with my parents, and I moved out when my ex-husband was at work. I filed DV charges once I moved out, waited for the year separation for the state I live in, and filed for divorce. I look at all of us who left abusers as survivors, not victims.
There are a lot of married women experiencing this type of abuse from their partners. Unfortunately we as women have been sold a FANTASY that has been programmed into us as little girls, now REALITY has hit and it’s not what it’s cracked up to be. That’s why it bothers me when women are shamed for being single and acknowledging their self worth and not accepting and putting up with bs from a lot of these toxic insecure men. I’m glad Tianna is opening up and is sharing her story with other women who are experiencing the same thing.
Married women are often living the most depressing lives and men have the nerve to shame single women knowing a lot of men aren't invested in being husbands. They think simply paying a bill not even all the bills makes them a husband but not talking, helping with the kids.
Exactly, single women are constantly shamed for being single. Being told you can’t get or keep a man when the whole time she’s prioritizing her peace, using her discernment, not settling, working on herself, being intentional. The people that have something to say are bitter men that know they don’t live up to your standards and married women that want you to join in their misery.
Recently divorced ( no kids ❤) and the dude made less he was so insecure nver get with a man your out of his league. He will resent you. An unhealed man is a boy now matter how old he is!
Open relationships 3 somes NEVER work in a marriage. People get married now for ceremonies and parties and picks no one takes or honors the covenant of a marriage oath serious anymore that’s why they don’t last.
@marlene5494 right she was out of pocket for that one. Speaking of karma. Chris brown ended up attacking her at an usher concert. Usher stepped in and got attacked to. So yea. The very man she defended, whopped her ass too. Ain't that poetic justice.
Thank you!!!! You’re speaking facts! I gotta be honest. It seemed like neither one of them respected their marriage and they probably weren’t equally yoked.
She’s 💯 right about his jealousy; I witnessed it. I worked in a boutique store in L.A. and her and Iman came into the store; this was maybe 7 years ago. My coworkers and I was extremely excited to see her, Iman sad a few things to her like I can get another woman. He was so jealous of the attention she was receiving it was awkward. He gives narcissistic vibes for sure. My ex bf was a narcissist so I definitely know the signs; as a victim it’s embarrassing at first and ability to be delusional; Teyana probably wasn’t mentally ready to expose her toxic relationship when the news first broke. Lets give her some slack. I’m still healing from my narcissistic abuse and it’s been almost 3 years since I left him. Not easy at all; narcissistic abuse is extremely severe it messes with your mental and emotional intelligence.
Tragic waiting to happen and did he was jealous then he should have dated a regular girl so the spot light could be only on him when stepping out I been proud my lady the ish if I was a guy cuz I’m the ish too but his ego got ahead of him
Well said, 💯agree…you have to experience it to understand how bizarre and incredibly hard it is to deal with and get away from. She’s doing what she needs to🙏🏼
Happy Thanksgiving. It’s called façade. I did it in my marriage. Outside was all smiles but behind closed doors it was mentally paralyzing. She tried to hold her marriage together by having third parties. Didn’t work, I feel for her. Hopefully she will be able to get therapy and heal. Wish them both the best.
"Tries to hold her marriage by having third parties"...exactly....then she sold that shit as normal to lost women and girls who were looking up to her ..couldn't tell them nothing about, that ain't a marriage!
It was not him who want to have 3 some it was her pick the woman she wanted to sleep with she love women she rather be with a womans not a man she got a girlfriend not a boyfriend
@@geenelldandridge8536so why call him a cheat? If she can have girlfriends then he should be able to have same too. Lolsss. Truth is she didn’t want it, hence why she called him cheat. Women by nature are bisexual, doesn’t mean any of us wants to explore that aspect of our sexuality, except it is to please the man. Only few women would want a threesome with their husbands and other women, and such women should not call their husbands cheats, cos he isn’t.
Exactly! And feel the need to front like they weren’t with a monster. One day society will make a safe space to truly expose people who mistreat others
This is the year where I hope more people would learn to NOT idolize any celebrity relationship, because again we don’t know what happens behind closed doors!! 🚪👌🏻
The thing is that people think a relationship has to be exciting and therefore have to try to spice it up which leads to chaos. A true relationship is peace and respect at its core.
I remember thinking it was strange that he was silent while she defended him. Now it makes sense. Of course he was jealous because most men can’t handle it when the woman is shining harder… crazy
Ryte she shouldn’t never stop working or fell back on her many talents it didn’t work out no way she n him could have eventually did film together since he tryna be a actor on da chi go figure he was too jelly big tall self he a trip now that she fitta be free she can come out of retirement n go hard in her acting modeling singing dancing her nail salon business she can bounce back date again it’s his lost she gold we all are that are women 🙂
She was having 3sums with him! You can’t let a third party in your bed and then try to stop it later on cause you change your mind. She opened Pandora’s box! I remember her saying they were both sleeping with her! If Will and Jade divorce and say cheating I’m not believing it either.
But how do you know they didn’t start doing that BECAUSE he was cheating. I’m not saying this is right at all, but a lot of women open their bed up thinking it’ll stop the cheating. Why would you assume all of this started because they were having threesomes?
As far as the narcissistic abuse I knew that was going to be an issue. Teyana Taylor is extremely creative to the 10th power. I saw Iman trying to emulate her creativity but it just wasn't hitting. He went to school for the arts and I think that's his main love but Teyana Taylor is just that artist.
I understand Teyana Taylor not wanting to dog out the father in public their children are young and they love their father and they're very impressionable.
@@Heyu7her3 She don't owe her fans nothing more then music and entertainment. The problem is now fans psychologically live in the metaverse and they think they're a part of the artist life.
As a younger woman I didn’t understand when my mom told me that one of my boyfriends was jealous of me. I just couldn’t fathom my partner being jealous of me in any way bc if I’m doing well, we’re doing well. Now that I’m older I’ve experienced that with other partners and I see what she meant. Thankfully, I saw the signs early on and was able to walk away from those men right away. Most of the time they don’t show that side until they have you hooked. I was lucky that my partners were baby narcissists and not able to hide it long enough lol They Ana is a beautiful person, inside and out. She will be fine and he will miss what he lost. My mother also told me that it doesn’t matter if you ever see that they regret losing you. You know what you have to offer and that’s enough. Just know that you are a treasure and don’t waste your energy on a fool who didn’t see it.
I actually think she keeps harping on the “no infidelity” bc she was actually extremely open about bringing people in their bedroom. So she would look crazy if after all that he still cheated.
Agreed. She wants to downplay it now. It’s ok T we all make mistakes. My former friend started acting like she agrees with polyamory after her narc husband said he wants a second wife. She admitted it during a moment of weakness then went back to pretending
Tisa, you're right, but no woman can deal with an insecure man no matter how much he makes. It will always something he is jealous of. If your hair is healthier, if you are more organized, if you eat healthier, if you are more dedicated to your fitness, more dedicated in tojr spirituality, etc. Its like tou can't do or habe anything thar yoj focus on or do better b/c they are constantly trying to compare and compete with you on anything you value. Its exhausting...they're exhausting!
Exactly I see ppl in the shade room comments saying why would he be jealous if he has this this and that. It doesn’t matter to a narc. My ex friend my deals with this. Her husband is extremely successful and he still tries to beat her down mentally and emotionally. He doesn’t want her to be anything no matter how successful he is.
@Tisatells All the facades all crumbling down! People are getting more honest and telling the truth about the facade of certain things in Hollywood. This woman with money or not, is just like many of us. We want to keep the relationship in tact even though its not worth it. She is very beautiful, she will have a long line of money waiting for her. The key now is to get some therapy in order to have a healthier relationship in the near future. I always think people move on too quickly & repeat mistakes. After 2 abusive relationships back to back . I took a break, did lots of therapy & have been in a healthy relationship ever since. I dont get yelled at, I dont get blamed for a bad day, We work as a team.
Your emotions don't always align with reality. If he felt insecure he would have acted insecure. And he wasn't honest about his inability to be monogamous.
I do not even date men who’s income doesn’t double mine, in my past I didn’t and the relationship always felt like they was in competition with me instead of being there to be my provider, and protector.. so if he doesn’t make at least 270,000 to 300,000 a year I ain’t messing with him.., currently single, sick of dating what would turn out to be my Judas
I’m mad at how Iman was treating Teyana-She’s more than paid her dues and, truly is talented. Now, I’m wondering if she retired from music to appease her ex?
Ehhhh...I think her "retirement" is moreso a reaction to how the music industry wasn't taking her seriously. I believe she initially worked with Pharrell, then Kanye. Neither promoted her projects well.
Ryte I would have never stop what I love doing to please him it didn’t work out no way should have went on doing wat she loved he now tryna act on da chi go figure they could have did a film together eventually had he not been as so jealous of her Drive n talents he wanted her then wen he got wit her had kids he was checked out jealous I been proud of my girl was making things green light cameras flashing I’m famous she famous he was too jelly
Exactly! Because the kids will see this one day. I don’t think she’s trying to create a facade just because. She’s trying her best to not have this look too too messy. I remember my mom did the same with me and my siblings until we became adults and THEN she gave us the truth on our father
She could just not say anything about their situation in public. Smile and nod yet handle family matters privately.....that's graceful. She wants to hurt, belittle and embarrass him yet entertained the BS before things went sour😒.
@@zae73 Defend🤔alright.....I hope she tones it all the way down in her next relationship. There is a gracefulness about her that gets overshadowed by her aggressive masculinity (penis envy).
Narcissistic tactics only work on people with low boundaries and low self respect. People with who have a high level of discernment would quickly dismiss a narc. People without it enable it until they learn the necessary self respect to not deal with it. Straight up.
@@kristiemao4275 I heard this type of stuff quite often growing up with 1st comment blaming the victim. I had to leave all of it behind. Literally ran for my life
Exactly only f00lish as ppl I met fall for narcissistic 😅 There's not one narcissist that doesn't show a 100 red flags before These people rush to get pregnant or married, not one, and on top of that. You'll have their family trying to warn you. These women have no self-respect, no self Esteem and don't love themselves plain and simple. They make up all the excuses in the world. Besides, you're not smart and wise enough to discern between a decent person and a demon.😅 They all in the comments crying and complaining and taken 0 accountability. But at the end of the day I've made it past 30 and have avoided all narcissist, divorces and pregnancies😅 so I don't care what anybody says 😅which is something a narcissist could never survive a person not caring about other people's opinions. AKA me a rare breed.😊
Amen sister! They have all these low vibration feelings suppressed and claim they can love you! AHT AHT! You make can fool me but YOU CANNOT fool my Heavenly Father!
When he decided to leave the NBA to become a rapper & flopped i new it was doomed. Teyana is successful in her own right. All those interviews about having 3somes wasn’t helping ether. Her star kept rising while he looked like a house husband instead of a NBA star or rapper.
I always felt like something was going on with them. I wanted to believe it was a healthy relationship because they are so cute together but that’s not what makes a relationship last.
We don't really know how many of the allegations are 100% factual. People say mean, accusatory things when they are mad, hurt or seeking an advantage. It's very sad their marriage didn't make it. I hope they learned lessons. He sounds so childish ex. taking 6 oz's of weed to the airport (???????!!!) & then trying to get on a commercial flight with it. That speaks to his decision making. She better get the child support while she can because he seems like the type who will squander his $. He'll end up like Joe Smith. When ppl lose their careers, especially men, they run from the grief, loss & emptiness they feel. They invest in distractions instead of reinvention. He will always have a hole until he rebuilds life purpose for himself.
This and I hope she never takes him back because I believe her. Most women never want the relationship to end and will do most anything to Lee it together especially with children involved. But when it gets to be too much it’s a wrap!
Well all men are narcissistic even if they don't show it and the women who are narcissistic got it from men so what are you saying? If there's narcissistic behavior we know it's men's fault
I'm like what did she do. It's 2 sides to every story. I see alot of women put the blame on the man until the truth comes out. But hey it's their life.
@@msyayastewart6336 well if hardly matters what she did if HE is cheating and being abusive. And if you think cheating and abuse and justified, Ys women folks sure don't and ibe day, when the collective of women understand that acceptance of abuse and cheating is universal among you men, your marriage prospects will dry up completely.
Unpopular opinion: I feel like there’s more to the story beyond the documents, and I feel like Tisa kind of alluded to that in the video. I just think that their dynamic was a little bit weird and that they force this happy family. Teyana really worked hard to get to this level of recognition and fame, and being blackballed, and not getting the shot that she deserved in her career and life presented itself in her relationship. I think that made her acceptable to this kind of dynamic with her husband. The Instagram post, she was doing so much and I don’t understand why and that’s just weird to me. I hope that she explains what she was going through. I’m sure she’ll be interviewed later on and she may speak her whole truth.
It’s if always questionable to me, I think they had it hood for a while but he started really feeling less than and couldn’t handle her season of leveling up.
@@seasonsofus Keke said something like to uncle Steve. Here we are! A man has that inner need to provide in all areas for people je cares for. Even if incomes are not yet there, he has to have ambitions and the ambition to shower his lady. When he share them with his woman, that's how she knows you are two in this journey and you are his diamond no matter What. When sometimes you will shine more thzn him, he will glad that World Can see a glimps of the woman he loves, behind the scene he made that happen for them.
It is the man's Ego and Pride. He must be ahead, above and stronger than the woman. The man needs this validation. They need ongoing reflection and healing. Get rid of the immaturity!
14:22 Why do I feel like she quit music for him. I know she had issues with men in the industry but I feel like she might have quit because of him. She should move on. He is not worth it.
@@andru596 Yeah I just feel like I hear more about her personal life than her music. Although she did get excellent reviews for her acting in that film she starred in. Maybe that was another thing that pushed Iman over the edge.
Marriage is between two people and two people only.These modern relationships make it acceptable to invite third parties all in the name of being "different ".It goes downhill from there because there no longer be any law that governs that union,nothing is off limits.
I went through this. Being with a man feeling less than because I made more money. No matter how much I said it was fine and I wasn’t bothered by it. It didn’t matter. He treated me horrible because of it. I had to go! Nah
As a licensed clinincal mental health therapist the percentage of individuals being diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder is low. There are alot of various diagnosis in the DSM-5 that present similar traits as NPD.
I have to respectfully disagree. Dr. Romani who is the world leading expert on narcissism states that number is much higher. The problem comes down to the number of people who are able to be diagnosed . People with NPD aren’t likely to seek help bc of their ego. So numbers will be lower. Also most psychologists aren’t experts at NPD as it isn’t taught or stressed as much in the curriculum, so it’s often misdiagnosed for other mental illnesses (depression etc). The number is much higher trust and believe.
@jotor1212121 I respect that opinion. That's why I said it was low because people with NPD often go undiagnosed which leads to the disorder being undetected. Have a Happy Thanksgiving.
Listen, I am a licensed professional counselor and I do know that narcissists don’t often come into therapy for services for narcissism and if ever involved for anything else, they would likely avoid it. I know exactly how it can be missed whether Dr. Ramani (love her) or us other clinicians provide insight. If they don’t get service they can go undiagnosed it narcissism isn’t that easy to diagnose how they make it online. It’s a catchy term on social media.
Bottomline, stop looking to these fake images of “happiness” as your relationship goals. These people do worst than you can imagine to one another and themselves. Be your OWN goals.
Marriage can be abusive, especially if only one person is committed to making it work. I don't like Erica Mena's ways but I was looking exactly like her, gaunt in the face before I was able to separate from my future ex-husband
@@glidkomer a) narcissists hate anything good happening to you b) she has almost 10× his insta following, shes the main attraction, he was resentful, it happens. Also i like how youre saying this as if you know her reality mlbetter than she does. Weirdo!!!
Any relationship where u see people dress up like twins,90 percent it won't last cause its a contrived relationship based on getting approval fr others,its down for likes and not love.
Iman came into the picture when Teyana was vulnerable and had suffered public humiliation when her boyfriend cheated and impregnated her friend. She was ripe for the picking of a narcissist and manipulator. Most poor decisions women make are when they are at a low point in life.
One more reason to have a "closed" marriage. If the 2 of you have brought other ppl into your bedroom during good times, it makes it extremely easy to creep when things get difficult. T is a phenomenal woman and with the N-R-G she will save not placating him, she is about to soar! Praying for that family and for @tisatells for continuing to bring us current events!!!❤
A wife will always protect husband til she can help him heal but they hardly ever do if it's not shared with loved ones the issue having person respects and it becomes hard for outsiders to believe the problem was so extreme. We know the shame they feel and they'll take credit for a spouse acts and reap but still punish. It's sad. Can't save em ever.
He's retired from the NBA and the only gigs he's gotten were from Teyana's connections. Do you people actually watch the full video before you comment?
Ninja’s will be mad and blame you for them not wanting better for themselves or their life😂😂 FEELING INSECURE AND WANT TO BE ACKNOWLEDGED FOR YOUR TALENTS? Do the inner work and BE BETTER!!! do what us women are forced to do every single day
I think a lot of men don’t start out narcissistic. They just have to make themselves feel better when they are no longer the focus of the relationship and/or aren’t seen how they want. They seemed so good together. Sad to see 😢
She made the same mistake that many women make - thinking 3some's would keep him from looking for other women, we all know that does not work. You can bring 1000 women home, but men like to hunt & you cannot control that, but women always believe they can. I saw her in an interview bragging on how she had control of the way it goes down, how she chose the women & all this other mess lolol🤣 That never works, if he is going to cheat, he will do it & bringing other women in will not stop him from cheating, but it will make him look at you crazy when you catch him....
DAM* Tisa you EXPLAINED THIS !!!!!!!!!!!! I was in a twenty six year relationship ( was discussing it with family today, WOW ) they said EXACTLY what your saying in this Video, WOW !
Everything you saying is the truth about abuse! People need th hear that because it’s nothing be ashamed of but I believe she was trying to protect herself! That’s a lot of weight to keep on your shoulders and that’s to much mentally to bare and that’s really something to think about it’s scary being narcissistic and I wish this beautiful black family could have made it I will say if she was abused I am glad she stepped away
It's a proven fact that men are SADDENNED when something good happens to their wife/gf/mate -- that they had nothing to do with.. And this is not made up..They literally have biological changes like heart /respiration rates and other chances that indicate unhappiness
Uuuummm sis. He was the king. The internet says she’s worth bout milli and him 30. They are not the same. You talking all that instead of saying athletes up high on the totem pole of cheating.
He posted on Nov 14: I was their friend, they weren’t mine is a big lesson to learn. I wish them well both beautiful ppl the best. Bc relationships and ppl go through normal human emotions it doesn’t feel that serious to me. He’s made poor decisions and she’s done.
My comments have to be "Be civil be respectful" but this is gossip and truly messy. I made a big mistake clicking on this video. Ppl should not intrude on others lives respectfully!! Public record, famous or not. Personal business is just that personal....smh
10:00 This is a unfortunate generalization ma'am (especially in this day and age). I have several friends and family who live with this dynamic and they are doing just fine. Problem isn't just about more money - dealing with an insecure person is the problem (amongst other character flaws.)
I pray she don't turn down the Dionne Warwick movie...Nooooooooooooooooooo!😫 It's so crazy, Ms. Warwick divorced her husband for the same reason.🙄 Wow!!!!
