Thaum Txog Kuv Kuv Mam Paub. 7/2/24 

Spoiled child will always be selfish and self center for life. They won't realized until they reach rock bottom line maybe few will learn something but most won't until they go in the ground.

As a daughter, you are not obligated to help your brothers financially equal, but I still agree that a few thousands with the cow wouldn't hurt you or your husband. In the story, you didn't say you were poor, so we were assumed you have money, but refused to help. Afterall, she is still your biological mom and your family. From what I see, deep inside you didn't want to help with your mom's funeral too. Just a cow is nothing these days. If you really want to help, no need for a second opinion. As for your your husband, he is narrow-minded. He only wants to help if the mother is his biological mother. However, keep in mind that you will be helping him with his parents' funeral too. Not fair. Again, just a few thousands to help out your brothers will not hurt. Do it for your mom!

Seems like you and your husband were stingy and didn't help your sibling.

Tus menyuam twg niam&txiv hlub tshaj plaws, poob nyiaj ntau, tawv ncauj, tus ntawd yeej qia dub tshaj, hlub tsis tau, pab tsis tau, muab tsis tau nyiaj rau niam&txiv. Txhob hlub 1 tug tshaj cov hlob cov yau.

Koj yeej tsis txawj xav

Culture should not dictate one's responsibility to their parents. It should be everyones responsibility if your parents have loved and go above and beyond for you. It irks me when I hear people say that its just the son's responsibility. I'm a daughter and I don't mind contributing when it comes to my mom. If you love your mom, it shouldn't be an issue.

If all ur siblings and their spouses are against you than you're the problem. Since your parent loved u most, you should had helped ur siblings with ur parents funeral. At least 5k.

Sister, you want all your siblings to continue to love you but you cannot love them back including your parents. You only take from the people that loved you. Glad that you learned your lesson and come to your senses.

I think we need to normalize preparing for our own funerals and if you can’t afford your wife don’t get married. We live in a time where all things are possible. We don’t need our parents to pay for our wives/spouse. I think daughters have to remember that yes your parents paid for your brother’s wives but your parents did give you dowry, gold, silver etc. which at the end is way more then a wife for your brothers. So I do understand the brother’s standpoint too. If they want all siblings to equally contribute I understand.

I have children too and I don’t think any parents would love one of their children more than another, but sometimes the younger ones are always get to spoiled little more than the older ones. But, that was Not your fault, you ask/make your parents to do that. It was your mom and dad’s choice. Your siblings are selfish and that just wanted you to be the bad one. You shouldn’t even have to apologize for what so ever. Stupid siab phem siblings. Sorry for the loss of your older child sis.

Lady, it’s not your fault that your parents seems to love you more from your siblings point of view. Shame on them! Any parents that had a child that was in your situation growing up, they would’ve done the same and prayer that you changed to be better before they closed their eyes. Your siblings just not very understanding that’s all!

There's something missing with this story because it doesn't make sense.

2 sides to every story. The fact that all the siblings stuck together n left u out means u did more than just what u claimed. U were rotten to the core for so long they all stood against u.

Niam thiab txiv ces yeej hlub ib yam xwb tab sis yog tus twg tawv ncauj dua ces yuav tau ywj tus ntawv me ntsis xwb yog tsis ywj thiab hlub heev zog ces tus me nyuam ntawv yuav mus tsis los lawm xwb es cov ho mloog lus zog los txhob khib es nej thiaj li sib haum os.

The brother can't demand funeral expenses from their sister.

Your story doesn’t make sense. You’re not telling the whole story.

Actually the brothers can’t demand their sisters to help out with the funeral. It’s the brothers’ responsibility whether they get lots of love from the parents or not.

Honestly, your siblings must realize that when your parents had each of you, they were at different phases in life. So they can provide more or less for each child. How sad that siblings can’t overlook this and just love each other.

Aws..my lil sis need to listen to this story, my mom loves her more then any of us because she's the baby & now a day, she doesnt listen to my mom, always with her friends, every weekend

May change the battery in your smoke detector. It is beeping again!

Very happy that you come to realize the love of your parents, especially that of your mother. But I don't believe what your brothers did was correct. Hopefully it's not too late for you to salvage the relationship now.

Everyone thinks they're the victim, like you never look from your siblings point of view.

How selfish are these siblings? Of course, the baby of the family will be the most loved! You are better off without those siblings...Go to God, his love is unconditional ❤

Me ntxhais Niam Ntsuab teev. cas koj yuav hais neej neeg luag tej dab neeg xwb cas yuav raug hmoob ua luaj li nas cas yuav khib hmoob ua luaj li nas, niag hais kev lom zem xwb, hmoob yuav npam ua luaj li nas.

Tus ntxhais yeej tsis muaj feem yuav los nrog cov nyab nus them tej nuj tej nqi funeral. Never heard of it.

I’m heart goes out to you for the loss of your son. You were rebellious but turned your life around. Your brothers shouldn’t have been so heartless, jealous, and compare your parent’s love, and expected you to pay the same amount for your mother’s funeral because you received more love from your parents. From what I understand your parents were old when they had you, the siblings were married and out of the house. If they’re grown adults why would they pout about the love you received from your parents? That’s what I don’t understand. May you find peace and comfort.

your siblings are messed up to put you in that situation

Koj yog ib leeg ntxhai xwb Koj twb muaj neej lawm lawv sau koj nqe tag lawm lawv Yuav tau zam txim rau Koj thiab vim Koj yog ib tug ntxhai xwb twb tsi yog ib tug tub qhov cov laus hlub thiab tsi hlub nyob ntawm tej laus xwb kuv xav

I don't know if I believe in all that dreams and superstitious beliefs bc i have some messed up dreams lol..I would never take it as a sign..lol. in any case Sorry to hear that you lost your baby. I am saddened for you. But as far as your siblings are concerned..they are horrible and jealous people. I wouldn't have apologized and beg for their forgiveness. It's not your fault your parents "loved" you more. If you had asked your parents they would probably say that they loved your siblings all the same. If your siblings feel that way then they must love all their kids differently right?! Crazy thinking..lol *rolleyes*

I don't think the parents favor her more. Everything changed with time. At the time when the older kids were still young, the parents were probably poor and couldn't give much to them. When the youngest was born, all the other kids were older so she's the smallest one and maybe the parents were able to give her more. We shouldn't compare our childhood to our siblings childhood if we all didn't grow up at the same time. Just like how when our hmong people came to the USA in the 80's and 90's, a lot of us were poor and we grew up poor, but now our kids grow up with ipads and iphones. Big time difference. The siblings shouldn't use that against her. Instead, they should be glad that their baby sister was able to receive and enjoy the things they couldn't enjoy. It's not that the parents love her more or favor her more, but it's bc she was born at a time when they're able to give more.

Damn these older siblings are jealous af, y’all know everyone was poor back in the days. I ain’t tripping about my 12 year old sister getting an iPhone..had to buy my own first phone 20 years ago. Sure this lady should help a little more, but the other sisters only killed a cow too..

I understand your siblings getting mad at u for not giving them money for your mom's funeral, but for your siblings to tell u to go home at the funeral and to prevent u from seeing your mom's burial, that is just pure selfish and evil. This shows that your siblings are not just jealous, but they dislike u, they hate u, they don't care about u, and they are not good people. If i were u i would stay far away from them.

YOUR SIBLINGS ARE JUST FULL OF JEALEOUSY.... WE MAY HAVE SOME UPS AND DOWN, BUT OVER ALL YOUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS ARE ALSO NEED TO GO AND GET THIER TREATMENTSNAS OF BEING SIBLINGS, EVERYONE WAS BORN IN A DIFFERENT TIME AND WE RAISED IN A NEW TIME OF EXPOSURES.... LEARN TO LOVE AS WELL.

Bad siblings. Just because ypir parents love you does not mean yoir brothers and sisters should treat you badly. They're the ones who owe you an apology for NOT loving you during the funeral.

I assumed this sister must got a lot phij cuam from her parents that’s possibly why they demanded so much from her.

Vary good story a it’s touching my heart I which my own children’s can hear this true story after they heard this story the. Can my children’s will understand a mother lov and what is the real love is thank you for understanding thank you for sharing.

Makes me remember my only childbirth experience - I had a c-section not a natural childbirth. I was in labor for 26 hours....it was painful and he had issues and was in ICU for almost a month before he was able to come home. I had post partum depression too. It was a struggle but OMG I loved him so very much. He has been called home to our Father in heaven....but he left me 7 miracles. I see him in all my grandkids. We all miss him so much. RIP my baby Meng

Your parents loved you more because they are older and more patient when they had you. I'm one of this parent too. Not necessarily mean thry love the others less. You just happened to be the last one

Koj hais Tom ntej Tom qab es tsi meej per li os

Niam tsuab teev Kuv mloog koj cov neej neeg Los ua ntu su. Cov neeg tuaj muab neej neeg rau koj piav no es cas yog tib cov neeg txawj ntse muaj degree xwb. Kuv xav tias Twb txawj txawj ntse ntse lawm yus tej secret yus yuav tau keep thiab.

Gangster BOO😂😂😂

Koj niam txawm muaj 2 lub ntxa nav😂

Wow that family of yours are something else the jealousy of them all they thought about was that your parents loved you more then them that’s such a unreasonable hatred towards you that’s so sad about their hatred of you.

Your siblings are not jealous of you, they hate you. You are a selfish person. They saw your true color when you refuse to help with your mother’s funeral expense. You’re the favorite child, your mother threw you a grand wedding. The least you could’ve done was contribute what you can towards your own mother’s funeral. It is wrong of your brothers to request an x amount but you choose to be selfish. You are not a baby anymore and now it’s your time to help the family. It took for your child to passed to realize the love your parents and siblings had for you. What a shame.

Sister aw vim thaum koj yau koj hluas koj tawv2 ua2 laib koj niam koj txiv hais2 tsi tau koj nkawm txhawj2 koj los koj tawv2 phem ces koj niam thawj los ua ib tug me nyuam los sim kom koj mob siab li thaum koj niam koj txiv mob siab koj no xwb nawv sorry os😢😢

Let me tell you sister. For what your mom did was maybe it’s your karma. But for your sibling trying to make you help for the funeral is WRONG!! You are married to your husband. Your siblings had no right to tell you to do your part. You had no part. It’s up to you if you wanted to help. That’s your brother and the nyab part . You have nothing to be involved with.

Nej yog caj ces hmoob tsis huv, qhov no yog qhov hmoob ib txwm haistias noj nceb kom taug cav, yuav tis nruab tis ze kom xaiv neej xaiv tsav ces txawm yog ntshai tsam yuav tau tej caj ces zoo li no.

This beeping/chirping noise is very annoying.

Do not make such blind deals or say such things at the grave. That wasn't your mother whom you saw. Continue to do good, and good will come your way.

Typical old fashion Hmong family who do no know how to love one another. Some people still have a lot to learn about how to love others. Sounds like the siblings are self center people.

Your family has no right to be mad at you for not contributing. It’s the son’s responsibility. Men want all the privileges over women until it comes to burying their parents, then they want equal “rights” with their sisters 🙄🙄

Y this story repeat again..couple week ago this story on..here

vim koj tsis hlub koj niam es koj thiab npam xwb nawb

Txoj kev es yus tsis muaj menyuam mus thov li ko kuv hnov los ntau tus lawm tus menyuam yeej tsis nyob ntev

It goes both ways!! Jealousy and greed!

Aunty change your fire detector battery 🔋 that’s the beep in the background

Cov tibneeg uas tsis ntseeg Vajtswv es yog lawv ib khub txwj nkawm twg muaj tsis taus menyuam es tsis mus thov kom Vajtswv muab pub rau es mus fiv kom dab pab kom muaj menyuam lossis zoo li khub niam txiv no es nws niam twb tuag lawm tabsi tseem xav kom nws niam los thawj yug ua nkawv li menyuam ces yog dab muab menyuam dab los xwb es yeej yuav muaj ib hnub twg ces dab yeej yuav rov qab los coj kom tau tus menyuam ntawd rov mus ua dab lawm xwb. Tus menyuam uas yog Vajtswv pub los mas yuav ua neej nyob ntev mam li tuag mus xwb. Thov tseg kiag txojkev mus thov menyuam los ntawm tej txiv neeb lossis tej saub nawb.

Zaum no koj niam tsua los ua kom koj mob siab thiab tu siab npaum lis thaum ub koj ua rau koj niam xwb

Qhia kiag lub npe es kom neeg zej zog paub kiag ma

Poob peev kawg

Kv yog tu 1 lawm o

Good morning

Koj niam txhob txwm los ua rau koj paub hai tia koj niam koj txiv mob siab rau koj npaum lis ca ce tib yam nkau lis koj mob siab rau koj tus me nyuam ntag luaj tej lau yeej ibtxwm hai tia tsi txhob ua rau luag mob siab ce yog zoo liskos tiag

I don't quite understand why it's your fault for your parents' love for you would be a brick wall between you & your siblings. But yes parents love for their children are unconditional.

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😭😭

It doesn't matter who your mother loves more. Trust me, when you have children their is always one saying that you never loved them equally. That's when you remember your mom said you will know until when you have your own children. 😅

Cov ntxhais coj Li koj ces neeg hu ua poj Laib cov poj Laib ces kawg yawg Laib thiaj yuav xwb Tus neeg tsim txiaj yeej tsis yuav ib tug ntxhais coj zoo Li koj nawb,