The ‘Family Diversity’ Myth | Guest: Dr. Brad Wilcox | Ep 656 

It’s sad that saying a stable mother and father is important could be controversial.

Oh my! Family is so important! I was as a 6 month old put in a foster family, and was then adopted as a 1 year old to adoptive parents who divorced when I was 14. I wish I had a stable family! Children need it! They deserve it! Family (with a mother and a father) should be the norm, cause anything else would be crazy!

As a child of divorce, I take comfort from my Heavenly Father now, but the impacts of growing up in an abusive single family home will be with me for the rest of my life. How can anyone deny the difference between a stable home life and chaos? Maybe these people saying there's no difference, had good childhoods and think they know what's best. They're not running around in the ghetto raising themselves but they want everyone else to so they can maintain their power. So sad. Do not believe the lie!

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Straight out the gate 🔥🔥🔥 the introduction is worth the price of the whole show!

I had the same findings in my research. Thank you for your presentation.

Thank you very much

Completely ignored the effects on girls/women. Only focused on boys/men.

If a kid has lost their bio parents for some reason then adding any stability and financial resource and a heroic thing to so. Intentionally depriving a child of that especially to fulfill an adult desire...is a despicable theft of their best interest and natural right.

He had great information, but then totally crumbled in the end when it came to policy recommendations. He ignored completely the devastation done to kids since no-fault divorce statutes were passed ~50 years ago, which triggered a divorce boom around 1970-71, and how since that time we see about 85% of divorces filed by the wife. No-fault divorce created mother-favoring family courts and these statutes eliminated the need to show wrongdoing by a spouse--adultery, abandonment, physical abuse, etc--and instead created a dynamic whereby women could on their mere whim opt out of the marriage and expect primary custody of the children (thereby rendering fathers mere every other weekend "visitors" instead of dads) the house and its contents and a guaranteed monthly income to support her lifestyle and that of her new man/men extracted from the father. Further, parental alienation and outright disregard of a dad's visitation were met with no real penalty, so the children post-divorce are effectively the mere property of their mother. Kids who do not live with their dads are 40 TIMES more likely to suffer abuse and the statistically most dangerous man in a child's life by far is their mother's new husband or BF. Kids, as the mother's property, are forced to endure these men, whose mere presence they nearly always resent. Generally divorced mothers will rationalize away the cruelty of their selfish acts in breaking up their families and forcing new men into their kids' lives, but the unwillingness of women to accept responsibility is nothing new and does not mean our child-harming, woman-favoring policies are sound. Add to all of this horror show the fact that under a 1975 federal statute, Title IV-D of the Social Security Act, the states receive federal matching dollars for child support collected, so under the child support schedules of most states the more time a child is kept away from their dad in a given month the higher the support award--the cap on that is reflected in the current, every-other-weekend alternating weekday "standard custody". So, the states literally PROFIT via federal matching dollars from the blood, misery and suffering of little children, they MAKE MONEY by these kids being kept from their own dads. Sadly, even most Republican governors and state legislatures are loathe to jeopardize that flow of sweet, sweet federal money by changing no-fault statutes or going with Equal Parenting reforms like a 50/50 physical custody default, which would greatly benefit the children, but would cause the states to forgo billions in federal blood money. Wilcox's government school marriage education programs are a joke and while his recommendation to end the marriage penalty in welfare has merit and would benefit the lower economic class kids he turned a blind eye to that which is most obvious and would do the greater good for the vast majority of kids, particularly those in the middle class, which he and so many supposed conservatives are content to ignore and allow to suffer. His cowardice in even acknowledging the role no-fault divorce, associated mother-favoring family courts and Social Security IV-D play in all of this horror for America's children was disappointing, but surely not surprising.

Newsflash...over 300 million people did not shoot anyone today...imagine that. Food 4 thought.

Trade schools - You're singing my song! Look at the amazing number of trade school options in Phoenix - the country needs to follow their lead.

Many things are undermining the family. Young mothers are to be encouraged and taught their roles as wives and mothers by older women in the church after the biblical model put forth in Titus 2:3-5. Aged women are commanded to teach the younger women with respect to loving their husbands and children. Scripturally and physically, women are gifted and called to be helpers to their husbands and nurturers of their children (ref. Genesis 2:18, 21-24, Titus 2:4, 1 Timothy 5:14, and others). Their bodies are equipped to carry, bear, and nurse children; their temperaments and talents are suited to child rearing, homemaking, and all of interesting and varied tasks that accompany them (Proverbs 31 and others). A mother’s natural maternal instincts lead her to want to be with her children, to love and protect them (Isaiah 49:15). Scripturally and physically, they are the weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:7). Traditional roles, which are scriptural, recognize and value the contributions of both men and women to marriage and the home. It is an interdependent relationship by design; all benefit from it, especially vulnerable children. It takes the best of a young mother’s time, energy and presence to fulfill these roles, especially when dependent children are in the home. Institutions and care centers are poor replacements for the care that a godly mother provides for her child--body, soul, and spirit. Today’s women are being led to believe that selected verses from Proverbs 31 mean that a young mother should work 40+ hours a week outside of the home, leaving her precious children, her heritage according to Psalm 127:3, to the care of strangers. Having followed this pattern, many young mothers later realize that they would like to be at home with their children, but have student loan debt, a two-income lifestyle, unsupportive husbands, etc., that are obstacles to coming home. Many men complain that their wives with both career and children are too tired for physical intimacy. Many young women pursue demanding college and career paths, unaware that they may be forever missing the window for marriage and children in so doing. None of these things serve marriage and family well; they are a detriment to them. Three times in scripture, women are identified and called keepers at home (Psalm 113:9, 1 Timothy 5:14, and Titus 2:5 “keepers at home”). I do not know of any passages that in a like manner command men. Statistically, many men are shrinking back from their roles as providers as feminist thought has taken hold, blurring the distinctions between men and women as seen in the trend of stay-at-home dads (illness/disability, notwithstanding). God has not left us without a pattern to follow in marriage and the home, both in nature and in scripture. Godly mothers are greatly needed in their homes. A woman’s home and family can be her primary endeavors during her children’s formative years and is a blessed form of service to God and others.

Jesus Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures and that he was buried and that he rose again the third day praying for everyone everyday God bless you all

You do not need a study for this but good job.

"Them Before Us" covers a LOT of this research. Glad to see this wrong idea being debunked

I would like to know about adopted kids and kids being raised by grandparents- compared to drug parents

Wow! What do you know? The LORD’S design is the best design!? 🤯

Every individual can rise up no matter their family.Today the family is broken because of society.

What about biological vs adoptive fathers? Several times it referenced better eith biological parents. I am an adoptive parent, and it is harder, which we knew going into it. Similar for step parents.

My God. Yes. We know. I know. I'm going to destroy my child and ruin his prospects of a healthy, happy life. How can other mothers like myself who were in seriously abusive relationships that resulted in a pregnancy due to constant assault help ourselves heal and raise children that succeed? Where are these conversations on the right? There's many women like me who are late to the Christian conservative game and have been through true hell. All I hear is how I'm failing before I begin and my son has no hope. It's very frustrating. I can assure everyone, having the father around would be detrimental to mine and my son's safety. He's never even met him. He left when I was 5 months pregnant, shortly after body slamming me and choking me unconscious. I swear it was God that sent him away. He knew what would have happened. Please....just one time.....give mothers like me an ounce of hope.

Dr. Wilcox, how would you comment on the types of societies based on the family as expounded by Dr. Carle Zimmerman? Do you see this as valid or coincidental? If valid, should we be more worried about the US and Western Civilization as a whole?

I don't like how this situation is framed as 2 parent homes are better because the father helps which is true, but the notion that single mothers are in themselves dangerous to their children needs to be brought into the equation.

🔉 The sound from the guest is too low and scratchy!

Anybody here have resources on kids that grow up without their bio mom or a mother? I've heard less research on this compared to the proof of need for a father.

This was an important episode but my goodness, your guest sounds like he’a using a potato as a microphone 🤦

Pass on this research to your friends

The poor male child raised by lesbian mother's

MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE IN ALL AND THE BED UNDEFILED,BUT HOEMUNGGERS AND ADULTERERS GOD WILL JUDGE

If you don’t make 100k, don’t bother

You should talk about the value of the Classical Christian school movement!

We are not even 1 minute in and there's already a commercial. Can you PLEASE stop putting commercials right as the video starts? All this does is make me want to turn off the video. It's just too much.

Thank you for this interview!

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