#istp #intp #16types Here we have real life ISTP (Dave) to shed some light on one of the most enigmatic personality types! Dave's channel / @daveofallpeople
Madeleine D. I connect with men fairly easily, but it’s very difficult to make real female friends, part of it is my own fault because I have the desire to have friends, but I also love my solitude and freedom.
yeah so true! I can become super motivating and energetic around people given the right conditions. But after that, usually what follows is alone time.
Or "I really don't like when people tell me when I am wrong but I will do so at the drop of the hat and even make someone feel responsible in managing my emotions but won't do the same in return."
@@TheElenaNumb as an ENTP, yes! I think we both prefer to debate WHAT was wrong rather than just blanket 'thats wrong.' Its like 'heyyy, i spent a lotta time formulating that, dont devalue my research and make out im dumb -_- '
The lack of communication via texting is so real. I hate when I meet someone and they wanna text me everyday, I don't have something new to report to you every single day lmao leave me alone pls
@@Yasmine-qd6nu exactly the same thing...sometimes it takes him a week to reply or he doesn't reply at all (if i send some music). This drives me crazy.
Like the most draining thing to do and put us on a spot and ya make us get out of their life’s in a faster way 😕 Well it’s also true we don’t care but it drains the shit out of us Ig it’s my thoughts though
(ISTP) I am a very cold person even though I’m open to talk to anyone, and try to help everyone , people still tip toe around me like I’m a walking tiger
Can relate to this. I have had a couple really good friends that told me they were intimidated by me when we first met, before they actually got to know me. I accidentally give out that vibe haha
aahh yes, the problem that an istp have to battle everyday. Like, should i care or should i not? the world still spining even without them but i'm being rude and people will hate me but then again i don't care? lmao, i wish i'm not like this as istp :')
- I think we don’t show a lot of emotion because if we do, we feel fake, exactly what we don’t like in others, but we do feel it inside. - if someone told me they liked me, I’d probably internally freak out. But if you tell what you like about me I’m okay with that. If I connect well with you, you don’t have to tell me. - can we talk about the scowl always on our face? My teenagers friends thought I was mean until they met me or my child told them I’m one of the nicest people you’ll ever meet. I don’t know why I am always scowling but I assure you I am happy, thinking happy thoughts.
I'm ISTP, and my problem is that I feel a lot, I appreciate people, family, friends and shit. I really love them all. But I'm so ashamed of it, and so afraid that people will judge me for that, that I refuse to express it. I can spit out the words sometimes, but the feels associated are stuck inside. And since people trust the feels more than they trust the words (which I completly understand), they believe I'm fake. And it hurts. :/ Idk what you think about it. I've been recently trying to develop my Fe but it's complicated.
Your description of why an ISTP is often quiet is spot on. There is a phrase that I think applies to us well: It is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. When I don't know what to say or am worried that I will say the wrong thing, I'll say nothing. That has gotten me in trouble a couple of times, but it generally has kept me out of trouble more than it has not.
This is correct. I still remember, when I made the error of following my mother's advice to be more chatty because I will be far away, and people tend to like talkative people, and I needed friends. Biggest mistake of my life, following her advice.
I do agree it is better to be silent than talkative, but I believe your motivation kinda goes against the whole idea of being authentic and secure within yourself. I absolutely agree you should not be saying things just for the sake of saying something, but if you have an idea that you believe insecurity shouldn’t stop you from saying it. It is actually smarter to express yourself, be wrong, learn that you are wrong and thus improve. Otherwise you’re just stuck with your wrong ideas and you’re insecure and inauthentic. INFP here - prioritizing authenticity above all else :)
@@sashamotovylets1753 Like I said it has gotten me into trouble sometimes, but more often than not it has kept me out if trouble. The reason being is I can often see the zeitgeist of the room or the group I'm with, but I have struggled with relating to that zeitgeist because I often don't understand the reasons behind it. It is particularly bad if I don't know the people I'm around very well. Many times I've said something intended to be funny and hurt someone's feelings instead. So I just learned better to be silent until I have a good idea of the people around me. It's not being inauthentic. It's about not being an asshole unnecessarily because I misread the situation.
It's so refreshing to watch this as an ISTP myself. I can 100% relate on the texting/calling...it's a waste of my time. "I just don't give a crap" couldn't be more accurate lmao.
Glad you enjoyed Dave’s video. Also, feel free to check out our discord server (the links are in the description) - there are quite a few ISTPs on there that I’ve noticed! ~ Nathan
Infj. Been married to an ISTP for 10 years. We were friends in high school, and I eventually confessed to him straight up through text by saying, "I like you." I guess I played the right move 😂 We were dating shortly after that 🥰 I love how I can be my authentic quirky INFJ self around my ISTP, and he totally accepts it and defends my right to be me. "Screw whatever anyone else thinks. Be yourself," is his attitude. What's more attractive than that? 😍🔥
This is so wonderful and brought tears to my ENFP eyes as my ex (ISTP) always made me feel like I was just too much. He hasn't accepted my boundaries and doesn't have access to his feelings vs. me who is overwhelmed by her feelings. He has a lot of pride, communication is not his thing, while I want to build a connection through deep conversations so that I can let myself go. He also has so many great qualities and I still love him very much, but maybe it's a good thing that he gave up on us - it would have been very hard work for both of us, even in the first few years of the relationship.
I am an ISTP female and I find phone convos and txts exhausting. For me, communication is a process that has to have a concrete means to an end: problem solving, support, strategizing (because I am not good at it), quick check ins to see about loved ones. Small talk is maddening and uncomfortable. Feels like a waste of time and energy.
INTJs will love you. And no worries about not being able to strategize. The fact that you WANT to, means you value it, and INTJs can strategize in their sleep. It's a favorite pastime that doesn't cause them to break a sweat. Unless you're in certain fields, you may never meet an INTJ out in the wild. I *am* one, and I've never met one, at least, only in passing maybe once or twice. Online in these typology-related communities is probably a good start. :)
“ one day I wake up and I don’t have many people in my life.” Omg yes! All of a sudden bam! Friends are gone... they think I don’t care... when I really need time to myself. Yes we are naive we don’t see things coming because we are so focused on thinking about some problem to solve. I learned we do need people in our lives, the problem is how do we accomplish that? It’s not easy. I’m trying to be nice and put myself in other’s shoes, I’m getting better at that.
Not going to lie.. this video hurt as an INFJ with an ISTP ex :( Particularly when you mentioned the lower Fe function and not always wanting to talk/text. TMI but I always felt like I was reaching out with no/little response back and that stung! Thanks for sharing your vulnerabilities & point of view, appreciate it and I understand it more now :)
A year too late - but I have an INFJ friend who is going through something VERY similar. She has a tendency to expect other people to empathize as easily as she empathizes, and because of that, she interprets a lack of attention through her own perspective of what she would feel like if she acted the way those people act. One of her issues is that she has this habit of undermining the things she’s good at. So when she is better at something that everyone else, she has a hard time seeing that quality in herself. I think understanding a bit about what it’s like to be a lead Ti can help someone with dominant Fe to realize just how disassociated Ti doms can be from their own emotions. Anyways. Best of luck in finding ~ the one! :)
INFJ here, being in love with an ISTP. I am really thankfull that some ISTPs are willing to speak about them selves so others can understand them in such a clear manner. As an INFJ, I over analyse everything and it was a real struggle for me to get any signs of body language from my crush since this type of persons is kinda cold, an ISTP don't really express his emotions, even though his really feel them.
I am an ISTPish female with an INFJ sister. I've yet to be communicative enough for her, I think, but she's finally realizing I honestly do observe and listen to her enough to know her well and love her. She has also said that when I do choose to speak, it raises her blood pressure. So, of course, that causes me to speak even less...and, yes, that's possible. I'm not going to be fake in my communication; so, if the truth is offensive, my option is to not communicate.
I'm late but I (INFJ) thought exactly the same. It hurt's so much to think about my ISTP Ex. I loved him so much and still do. But I just wasn't able to handle his struggle with expressing his love and thoughts in words. Other than that we where such a wondeful match...I think I hurt him deeply when I ended the relationship and it breaks my heart.
I’m an INFP dating an ISTP for three years. As soon as I opened the video he gave me the a similar feeling as my boyfriend - as in I could tell they are similar in their being. Very accurate description of my perception and experience with ISTP. It’s an interesting pairing, and my boyfriend acts a lot as a grounding force in my life, whereas I think I’ve helped him be softer and to put himself in other people’s shoes - I think my intense and unrelenting emotions broke him down 😂 . The lack of emotional reaction STILL bothers me sometimes! Haha. I am intensely afraid of rejection and have internal feeling as a dominant function but I was the one - for the first time in my life - to make the first move with him because he I could tell he wanted to but he was MORE SCARED of rejection than me!!! I didn’t know that could exist. Lol. Thanks for the video!
I'm an INFP with a huge crush on an ISTP (for 5 freaking years) and the lack of emotional response is really frustrating. It's as if I just "have a feeling" that they have emotions on the inside but I can't prove anything! It's interesting because they are really good at talking about/accepting that OTHER people have feelings, but not when it comes to themselves. Like, maybe they are just trying to communicate with all my NF-ness, but in the end it's all logic to them.
As an INTJ myself, I can honestly say my ISTP boyfriend of 4 years is the first (and only) person whose ever made me feel like I'm "at home". Love ya'll.
32 y/o ISTP female and I can't like this enough. It's refreshing to see another ISTP lay everything out, and how much it relates directly to my life. For the longest time, in my younger years especially, I thought something was wrong with me I couldnt relate to my peers, more so other females, and was misunderstood all the time by those around me. It's only in the last few years everything has clicked and I've never looked back. I'm working on developing my weaknesses, it's not always easy but I'm thankful that those important to me understand and let me be me
I think my mom is an ISTP. Growing up, she only had one friend who lathered stabbed her in the back so much she gave up on the friendship. She’s had a pretty rough life in a lot of ways. She settled down with my dad in a posh small town where she was never really accepted. She’s also the most amazing mom, though. When my siblings and I were growing up - everyone knew we had the coolest mom. She taught my sister and I to be tough. She never stopped telling me I was smart. Taught me how to solve my own problems and take chances. She taught me to love singing and have a curious mind. She’s the kind of person that, once you’re loved by her, she would die for you. In my mind, she’s the perfect female. There’s a lone wolf streak to her for sure. But as she got older - she softened. I think she’ll always be a little lonely, but she has so much else going for her, I can’t see her as being a less happy person than the average individual. I think things will just get easier here on out for you. It could be useful to keep your eyes open for opportunities to make intellectual friends who you can socialize with in a practical, unemotional fashion. That could help. Good luck on your ISTP journey. I hope you have kids some day if that’s your thing - or dogs at the very least. I’m working on my personality defects, myself, lol. It’s not easy for me to admit I have to change my behavior. 😬
He gives me *Mr. Robot* vibes... might just be the hoodie and his jaw line, but he also mentioned that he's a programmer and that he's expressionless most of the time. (pretty sure Elliot's also a ti dom... although I can't remember if he was more on the ne-si or se-ni axis... either way I meant it as a compliment).
Being bored is the worst. Problem is, we ISTPs get bored easily. Activities can't keep up with our energy most of the time so we usually get to the point where we have nothing to do. Also explains why I was always so frustrated when I had nothing to do back in high school. Told my friends that I was "lonely" and "sad", even though I was actually just bored.
As an ISTP I never had trouble with talking about my own or other person feelings, in fact I prefer to do it because I know the consequences of not doing it, but it's always my Ti trying to solve the Fe Problems, not a real or sincere Fe.
Ive been working for an ISTP for the past month and half, and it’s really interesting to see his Fe fluctuate, lol. He’s always friendly and will always say hi and good morning and joke around with you and laugh at your jokes, but he still manages not to come off as warm. It’s a good lesson in how I come across to other people. I think his Se is developed really well and he’s very successful because of that, but he still comes off as very hot and cold with that Fe. He goes back and forth between being very serious and being very laid back. I think what wins me over the most is he lets you do your own thing and he only cares about certain things that really matter, and he just leaves you alone otherwise. He doesn’t act like he’s better than you, even though a ton of people are in awe of him. He really does love and let live. I’m glad this video had a lot of content explaining why ISTPs are so bad at making connections and how we feel when we aren’t making them with people. I think ISTPs (or I’ll just say me) don’t like when people say “you’re wrong,” is firstly, like Dave said it invalidates people, and a simple statement like that seems like a cop out without an explanation. I would never just tell someone they are wrong. I would critique their statement. If they offered up an idea to me I may accept or veto it, which may come off as saying “your wrong,” but I never want to avoid discussing the specifics of the ideas.
I relate to so much of how you described both yourself and your boss, especially "live and let live." I've never really been in a position of management or authority (because ahh that's like the people-est job you could do) but if I did, I imagine that's how I'd be.
INTJ here. My grandfather was an ISTP for sure. I remember him always out tinkering in his massive garage. I found a bunch of his old pocket knives from the 40s/50s when he was in the Navy. The collecting hobby became one of mine as well. Now I have multiple generations of this collection to give to my son. ISTPs are definitely interesting people to me. That 'tune out the world' sort of focus on projects and interests that he described in the beginning of the video is shared by INTJs as well, just in a more mental/less physical sort of way. Also, the talk about alienation and feeling like people just dislike you is a shared part of a young INTJs life struggle as well. I have a good friend that is ISTP and I find that we can connect better than most by finding a mutually enjoyable hobby/project and going about it together. My bluntness lets him ease up a bit and his genuine interest in things gives me great insights into things I did not consider. Tl;dr I miss my ISTP grandpa.
11:50 - I’m INTP and i share this so bad. I hate texting people, especially if they want to ‘just catch up’. Talking in person is better, chat rooms okay, texting bad, do not call me. Lol. 22:55 here too. I feel the same way about authenticity- i prefer people to be genuine and not a fabricated version of themselves. I don’t know how to deal with someone who does that, and it’s not worth figuring out either. Respect is given to the ones who respect who they actually are.
It freaks me out too. Especially when it's just not recognized as such. Or way later in the form of "I was only ( maybe, not even sure, only a possibility) cold on the surface, inside I was not!, so I was not." It makes it even harder to accept when it's dealt with this way.
Just recently tested myself and I am an ISTP-T. Even though you're a guy, you really helped me understand myself a little more. I was able to relate a lot. Thanks for the insight.
I have just stumbled fatefully on this video. Crazy! I am an INFJ woman and I am now dealing with my depressed ISTP man of 23 years in a partnership with 2 beautiful daughters. I have been dragged through the pits of hell, free falled down the grand canyon and fed to the sharks emotionally. I have come to that point when I am numb, just like you. At the end of the day, we are not too indifferent. My Ti plays a much bigger part in my later life and I love it. Thankyou sooooooooo much for this insightful video. I will show this to my relevant other half. ISTPs I believe with their Ti wil only comply with a starting point with people of their own understanding. You guys need a massive bloody wake up call from your Ti . It makes you look terribly narrow minded to a point. It is so annoying, but you do have your quirks. At the end of the day, we would be boring being the same. Thanks again and much appreciated.
So good to hear from an ISTP! As an INFJ I feel similarly protective of my Ni/Ti thoughts and reasonings, it can feel vulnerable to put it out there. I hope you make more videos :)
its so nice to finally see a video about ISTPs featuring an ISTP haha i feel like we're a bit underrepresented in the youtube community so this is great!!
I've never really been able to pinpoint my type, but I have to say when you started talking about a younger ISTP's issue with Ni and how the possibilities can be overwhelming that really hit home; that's exactly what I'm going through right now as a 22 year old College Student who doesn't know what to do with his life. I also really liked how you gave real life examples; I find a lot of mbti channels don't do that, and it makes it difficult for me to really understand what they're talking about without realistic examples.
this ISTP jamie dornan-rami malek is making a lot of sense. thanks for the honesty, really helpful to understanding what i think is a pretty misunderstood type
I’m an infp and I just feel compelled to say that I have two istps of which I know of in my life and they’re both such adorable, funny people when you actually get to know them :)
I have no ISTP's in my life, that I'm aware of. Interesting to hear the ISTP, much like the INFJ, wake up one day and say "Hey, I don't think I really have any friends in my life. When did that happen?" 😱 *Also similar insecurities/paranoia
This is super relatable. For me, I value my personal space and time, and if I want to spend it with someone they'd have to respect it as I would theirs. As a result, it's really difficult to allow people into my space, and it comes off as cold and distant. The communication part is super accurate, people often freak out at me for not responding to messages or keep constant communications _even if_ I'll get to them eventually. I hate pointless chatter, but most people don't seen to get that.
People: why won't you text back? ISTP: we just don't give a shit really. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 This is beyond confusing to me as an ENFP 😂 I can't even. Doesn't stop me from crushing on this cutie. #enfpthirst
Im an ENFP lol. His texting is shit. When we are together he is attentive only dating a couple of months. Difficult to figure out their investment of they show flakiness 🤪
Lol sometimes I'm just like "Not today, or tomorrow, try me in a few days" I legit ignore text until I can't no longer. I don't do it to intentionally make others feel bad, but in the end it does sometimes.
Completely off topic but I've noticed that I can always tell when an ENFP writes something because only ENFP's use that many (often of the same) emojis and sound that enthusiastic through text - ISTP
Thank you for your contribution!! I'm a newly discovered ISTP (I thought I was an ESTP for the last two years 🙄 - annoyed that I was wrong) and I relate so much to a lot of what you've said here. You put words to the things that I intuitively know, but have never even tried to verbalize. I'm going to have my husband watch!! Thanks again! 👍♥️
The same thing happened to me I also thought I was an estp for the past couple years and turned out to be istp csjoseph opened my eyes with his very accurate assessment
I am loving this series, i m looking forward for the intp in his own words, i m trying to understand which type of intuition I mostly use (ne or ni). Great Idea Nathan
Thanks man for posting this. This is spot on and explains a lot. I'm so bad at trying to learn myself. Because I just go through life. But man this stuff is a wake up call.
LOL - you are so spot on! From my aloofness to controlling my brain's tendency to go to the worst cast scenario. and O.M.G. I am the WORST about keeping in touch - I can't stand small talk - I have to do that all day. YES on non-judgmental :-). If you can get past my social awkwardness I can totally get past anything you throw at me, haha.
Well done I identify with being an ISTP too and I mostly agree with everything you said (that's the biggest compliment you'll ever get from us :D - Dave Knows)
I’m INFP but I totally relate to you with the whole dont show much emotion regarding other people’s big life events, and the like. This is why I can’t work with kids. I feel so fake when I try to be bubbly and overly happy.
@Summer Light the istp i knew he always ended up snapping at me lol. But at the same time saying im nice. Which confused me. Needless to say we aint spoken in a long while lol. Im an infp btw
The mother of my kids is an INFP, so is my ex wife and current girlfriend. ISTP and INFP are drawn to each other even tho they are vastly different. We like to feel useful and INFP always seem to need us. Lol. That attracts us, i guess.
Bloody hell 8:40 describes about a year of my life when i had constant anxiety every day when a friend who i talked to a lot left messages on “seen” on facebook, they always eventually replied but the amount of crazy stories and explanations id come up with is absolutely insane Your example of getting paranoid that you called them in your sleep and yelled at them then forgot all about it is completely relatable to me, scarily so
Really enjoyed hearing your thoughts on being ISTP. I was surprised that I could relate to nearly all of it (I'm INFP). I guess both groups share that feeling of being in our own heads, shut off from other people, but privately wanting connection.
Definitely can relate to the under-reaction part. I have learned to fake a more visible reaction to a certain extent. Then I quickly move on to ask follow up questions. It helps me cope if I can interrogate them about the factual details of their situation.
Never met an istp that wasn't damn crafty at working the physical world. Despite their solitary nature and initial distrust, they can be adept with showing no fear. Their will and desire often complements their competitive tenacity. If a weakness is found, either with character or design flaws, then there is an exploitable path to complete submission and control. Survey and surveillance are their indispensable tool used as strategy, manage risk, and problem solve. I'm sure the front of their wallet reads ' Bad Ass MOFO '.
Spot on, and very well articulated, If I may say so. I can relate to the struggles of being Fe "impaired". Sometimes the Ti dominant types become so engrossed in their "mental structure and building" they come off as cold, unsympathetic and plain rude. Especially for people that are less confident in their Ti and more vulnerable to criticism.
Thank you for your vulnerability and diplomatic information. My husband is an ISTP and I am an INTJ. We are so compatible to isolate and be alone together lol. But where we struggle is my husband having the sense of confidence to engage with me or have sensitivity to what matters to me and prioritize that. And I struggle to honor him in his masculinity or to encourage him in that area to help him overcome those insecurities to lead. It is a challenge but knowing our personality types has opened a lot of insight. I can see where a lot of the work will fall on me at first to get some momentum going in his esteem and reassurance but once he grows in that, I'm confident he will be my perfect counterpart.
😂 this is so amaizing! So my husband is an ISTP and I'm an ENFJ. I literally just did the Fe thing and said I liked him, and here we are 5years later. This is so helpful, because I've found the ISTP can be very non expressive, and I want to know how to please #Fe 😋
I agree with the thing about disagreeing as an INTP. Often times hearing that im straight up wrong after I’ve gone through my reasoning will just frustrate me because it’s as if they arent considering or completely disregarding every logical point of how I came to that conclusion. It can definitely make me feel irritated in the moment as my first instinct is that they’re just trying to size me up rather than have a constructive conversation. In short, just let me know you understand my points because if we cant find anything we agree on then why even have a discussion. Edited: Im actually an ISTP but this still applies.
I'm an intp too bro and i hate it. People clearly dont understand me even with my reasons all laid out. Also as an intp I'm brutally honest (though i lie a bit sometimes) about what i think about something. But if i think it could offend someone i try at least to give a... Uhmm remark? But i feel misunderstood
I pretty much agree with this. Though, if someone tells me I’m wrong I go back and sift through everything. If I find that they were wrong about me being wrong I will completely disregard their opinion from then on. I suppose I shouldn’t do that, but I really just deem them as someone too different than me to be constructive and go on my merry way.
I had to deal with a lot of arguments with my ISTJ boss because he won't listen to my side and always imposing that I'm wrong and his methods are correct, literally shoving me his dominance because he's the boss and I don't need to express my voice over my work . As an INTP it's very frustrating to deal with that kind of interaction. I'm glad that I resigned.
My gosh, this was great to listen to and try to understand the ISTP's in my life. It makes so much sense now. And I also appreciate the humor. Thank you.
Wow, I think I’m in love 😍 haha I actually see lots of developed Fe in you. Your delivery was charming, linear and relatable. I think the Ni description was a little weak though. I think Ni is good at understanding perspectives, so maybe the Ne thoughts were actually perspectives, instead of possibilities? I think I see Ni show up in ISTP’s in nihilism, basically jumping ahead to a worst case scenario, or falling into traps of thinking nothing matters and struggling to set goals with lower confidence in their Ni. In contrast, I think with developed Ni, istp’s are pretty amazing at helping their closest loved ones see the best next step and get them into action. They also develop Ni to have some of THE best understandings of theory, like MBTI :) They can list out practical reasons for why it makes sense, and how it works. Thanks for sharing. (ENFJ :))
I've never felt so accurately described as my younger self. Thank you for speaking about this. You did well. Now that I'm older and had 50 years of observing people, I've actually mastered knowing them. I can be more of an INFJ. Still, few know me. I'm a listener, so people are attracted.
Thank you so much. I'm an ENFP and I've been trying to tone myself down for months with my ISTP boyfriend. You saying that I am OK to show my emotions, weaknesses and who I really am has greatly helped me because I have been so scared of driving him away if I did that. Also, I have strong urges to show him so much affection but I hold back because I think he doesn't feel the same way but I'm going to try not to do that anymore.
This story with the manager is so relatable :D i literally do everything, but i don't often see the need to notify ppl about it, it doesn't seem that important to me.. when there is a problem that i can fix, and i fix it, i just wont find it important to say, and everyone is like, WHAT? It's a common sense that the first thing you do is call someone :D to me it's not common sense and after a while i started focusing a lot on is this important enough? Lol... Struggles
I relate so much to the whole talking on the phone/texting thing. Answering a phone call even from someone that I love dearly forces me to shift modes dramatically. It forces me out of my inner world and makes me to use an entirely different part of myself. I find that I've gotten to the point where I'm super hesitant to answer the phone, not even because I don't feel like talking, because let's face it, I'm usually already talking to myself, but more so that after the call, it takes a while to transition back into the headspace that I was in prior to the call. It can change my whole mood, which is probably that sort of juvenile, underdeveloped Fe popping through, and in fact change my whole mood to the point where it can derail an entire section of my day before I am able to return to the brain train I was on before the call.
How about telling people you like them when you actually like them ? "Getting someone to like you by telling them you like them seems dishonest to me, not genius nor common sense. Maybe I'm wrong.
dude, you called me in the middle of the night and yelled at me!!! LOL also, thank you (and Nathan) so dam^ much for this video... my dad is an ISTP and my entire (ENFP) life my mom has been saying "dad loves you very much he just doesn't know how to show it" to console me bc i didn't understand why he "insert a million things here" i have a golden retriever personality and legit, for real this moment i know my mom wasn't lying... he does love me he just doesn't show it in golden retriever speak... love yall so much for this really so much baggage i don't need to pick back up thx
I need an enfp/esfp boyfriend. Only a golden retriever, sunshine embodying, Manic pixie dream boy can fix me now. - A troubled, pessimistic Infp in need for some love
@@amna0alhawaj Couldn't have agreed more. My sister just told me i am mean on the phone, like i just want to get her off my back, I hate phone calls with a passion. -ENFP
@@XavierGuillaume exactly! But what we mean here are small talk phone calls, i do the exact same thing with my best friend who is an INFP, we hardly ever talk, neither text nor phone, but once we do, it takes hours (1-2 hours)
@@TheElenaNumb whats weird is. I dont like talking on the phone im an infp and the istp i know doesnt like texting but was always calling me or trying to speak to me on the phone lol. So it didnt work out. But for an istp he did want to always call me so thats kind of weird
I totally understand, I share a small portion of my thoughts and feelings. They’re mine to navigate, understand, and control, nobody else’s. I would be furious if someone tried to tell me how to think and feel. I have no right to interfere with someone else’s process. I’m okay with giving an outstanding perspective. The solution maybe outside of their skill and they’re just working on themselves. They’ll figure it out eventually even without me, I could be working on something else that benefits us all.
Omg. Thanks so much for sharing. Strangely, ISTPs are similar to INTJs in certain ways. Especially with the emotions, low affect, and the texting/phone bit, LOL.
Thank you...ENTP here..and I really like this ISTP ...you equipped me to at least try better lol I see so many things which I do ‘wrong’...but also so many points of connection..kind of makes me sad about missing out on sth really cool and valuable
i waited to here about your work in more details and what jobs are best for us, also searched the comments and find nothing ,if there will be a video on work it will be great and thanks for the video it is nice to see how someone like your personality do on youtube 👌
It's so true!!! I had a fight with my ex-best friend, thing is that she didn't return any of my calls nor texts for like 2 weeks, she had like 40 messages from me asking her is she was ok, or if something bad happened, or wtf is going on, or what did I do to deserve your evident rejection towards me. All that stuff, my head was going crazy, she was in another continent btw, and I just couldn't stand the days passing by and not have any news from her. She said that I was being very exaggerated and overwhelming and overprotective, that's why she decided to ignore me, and it was a pretty hard punch to me. And I was like, wtf is wrong with you!! All I did was care about you and you smack the door in my face!! So she blocked me, and that was a turning point in our relationship. How is it possible that your best friend turns their back on you within 2 weeks after a very long friendship?!! Obviously that made no sense to me, so I started asking questions, like really hard questions with easy answers, you know want I mean? And in my attempt to make thinks right I made everything worse 🤣🤣 now we don't talk anymore because of that stupid conflict, I hate bullshit issues LOL
Interesting. Thank you for this. My mom, brother, and 2 of my exes were ISTPs. I see a kindred spirit in them, we get along remarkably well. - INTP female.
There is something so earthy about this ISTP- I only know one other male istp and he is very grounded ! Awesome interview 🤙🏽 very honest and clear ! However I feel like the whole “feeling cut off from others” is really more universal to most introverted types : what is everyone else’s opinion ? Pretty well every IXXX has spoken about this feeling EDIT: I have to say I relate to underreactions, I generally underreact unless I sense the person really requires me too be the over the top expressionist. It comes from often not wanting to fully engage (especially if it’s a draining person or a person I don’t keep close to my heart) it takes a lot of energy sometimes to tap into Fe if it’s not genuine, so I usually keep my reactions to a small smile and a “good job” or whatever- oh shit, here I go down the “maybe I’m not an infj tunnel” lol jk. I physically refuse to take phone calls- I have my business appointments even all set up through text or email. I can text novels 👆🏽 obviously, but phone calls feel like I’m restricted and it’s overwhelming.
@@ChantelStays Well it took me a year to settle on ENTP. Embracing it, but trying to figure out how to keep in touch with an INFJ friend I have, the extroversion at parties is deceiving I’m thinking he was putting on a front with drinks lol. Happy holidays!
i think another thing that would get on our nerves is, when you’re in an argument, and someone uses something unrelated to make you feel bad or to guilt you into saying they’re right. that’s happened to me before and it really bothered me. not being able to separate emotion from logic and reason, at least for the most part, is an easy way to lose an ISTP’s respect.
Thanks for this video! I'm an ISTP female and can't relate much to female peers. But I'm glad to know I'm not the only one experiencing these feelings and anxieties. I love your honesty! I agree that honesty and authenticity are important to ISTPs.
Oh and it seems like ISTPs are pretty cool! But I do have to confess that I stared at those eyes for the whole time, so my opinion might not be the most objective one 😂
You know what, you guys have it right. When you said, I don’t know what the other person is thinking, it’s not my responsibility. You are so right. I am an INFP and we make everyone else’s feelings out business. It’s not our business! We are only responsible for ourselves, this is probably why I love ISTPs, I love people that are different from me.
Yea this is pretty standard for me as well. I do like to curse alot too. And the coldness too, me and the mrs are getting married after 11 years (mainly because of me putting it off) and her and her folks are so excited verbally. Then they ask me and im just like, yea its cool. I dont think I need to show emotion like that, im happy on the inside. Also yes the phone "problem". Why do I need to update whats going? Why not wait until we have more to say. I literally shut out everyone and either put one music or enjoy solo player games and repairing my electronics.
