The 2 Worst Ways Women Emasculate Men 

I would add: shaming for things that happened years ago. Those things cannot be changed or fixed. The only reason to bring them up again and again is to put him in a position of weakness.

The worst thing is what you omitted: If you change for her, she will DESPISE you for changing.

This is exactly why my marriage ended , constantly complaining,put downs , criticism of everything I did including my breathing ,, I was a complete mess at the end trying to make her happy , emasculated , I stopped listening to her , trying to change me , we fought all the time , and when I did try to communicate to my wife the way I felt that was the day she ended our marriage,, ,,

When she criticized me for putting the milk in the refrigerator the wrong way, I knew it was time to end our 2-year engagement.

Thanks for the information, this is useful to know. As the saying goes "A good woman will make you, but a bad woman will break you."

My malignant narcissistic mother used to nag and nit pick my behaviors constantly. There was no relief, she was just constantly on me. I found out later, after I studied narcissism, that she was projecting her misery onto me and using me as an emotional punching bag. I was the scapegoat for her flaws. When she yelled and nagged me, she got temporary relief from the voices in her head telling her she was just a worthless piece of sh*t. My remedy was to go 'no contact' with her. I haven't spoken to her for five years.

Brother, this hit home. this happened to me over 4-5 years in my last relationship. Im born with mild/invisible cp also and have grown up with the pressure to improve and do better. =Me never good enough. Well, thanks for this bit, a newly uncovered hurt to integrate. There is alot to integrate from my last ltr. One side is to accept the damage i caused her, the other is to grow from the damage she caused me

A had a girl try to change me on the second date lol. I cut her off so quick

Challenging your husband on tiny things that don't matter (like the brand of kitchen bags) is soul crushing and causes men to pull back from the pain and ... the relationship is over.

Very enlightening and relatable to my previous relationship. That point about men wanting to fix problems they see or hear about compounds and often multiples the emasculation in that, if it's told that "they need to change" and no help or ways to work towards that are provided; they not only internalize the blame but then it almost blankets into self-doubt (loss of confidence). "Great another problem, is this somehow going to be another finger pointed at me?" The longer it goes on, the farther the distance between the two in the relationship tend to drift away. I'm not saying that "this is all women." Again, it's stereotyping, but we have stereotypes for a reason. There are hints and fragments of truth there.

My last girlfriend tried to change me once she realized she wanted to marry me. From that point on the relationship entered a slow death. She had other issues, but that one was probably the nail in the coffin for me.

never give any woman the benefit of the doubt, they're all the fucking same, don't get too invested in any of them or you will pay for it

"The Happy Wife School" channel on youtube has uploaded many videos on this subject.

My ex wife tried controlling me to the bitter end and I explained to her that’s not how I work repeatedly, so I can’t feel bad for her and I do not miss her bull shit.

This isn’t exclusive to males - EVERYONE WANTS FREEDOM and to not be treated like a CHILD. WOMEN AND MEN.

Real talk

This is everything my mother's been doing both to me and my dad. 😂

Here is one. At some point, the relationship becomes so broken that the wife or significant other starts complaining to her inner circle. I was in a 30-year marriage to a woman, and I was going through an MDD. I discovered she was interacting with one of her friends, who had developed a particularly cruel set of names for me. This only increased my suffering. Fast forward 3 years after the end of the marriage and the MDD is over, I am a better version of myself, and I become an active member of a yoga studio. On multiple occasions, married women are describing what wimps, a-holes, or whatever their husbands are, obviously after they understand I am there for yoga, not pick-ups. At this point, I will probably find another yoga studio (I have been there for several years) because I have noticed that I am getting triggered. What women do not understand that when you are insulting or complaining to your inner circle, you are emasculating them, and the emasculation extends to men that you complain to.

R u trying to give advice to girls? Do u know how pointless that is ?

this is 10000000000000% accurate!

So she doesn’t like my therapist - wants me to loose wait, join and gym and have new friends - might be a sign?

I guess a woman trying to change a man is her way of finding a solution but funny they get annoyed when we go into our own solution mode. Hmmmm

so at the beginning you say the man feels small if the woman is in control. so the man has to be in control.so he doesn't get to feel small. but what about the woman feeling small if the man is in control. thats ok is it? old womans thoughts.

Yes, they do that, just as we, as men, do things that hurt them. Ninety-nine percent of the time, these actions are survival mechanisms driven mainly by anxiety. Anxiety can cause people to attack, criticize, control, overcompensate, flee, and so on. As mature individuals, we can understand why they or we act this way and approach it with curiosity and kindness. Being kind and curious is a powerful combination that can mitigate any anxious behavior. This approach is essential for a relationship to progress. If your partner continues to mistreat you despite this, you have the right to leave. However, if you impose your rules with authority and immaturity, you contribute to the problem. Failing to adopt this approach is like falling into the myth of the charming prince, which suggests that everyone has a perfect match somewhere on earth. This simply doesn’t exist. A loving relationship involves learning to love things we wouldn’t typically love and growing through adversity. Most of us desire someone who matches our exact preferences, but that expectation is delusional. Approaching relationships with maturity will inevitably lead to a long and happy partnership.

In addition to being controlling, she also has a guy on the side

This is very interesting. I started watching bcuz I have a friend who's wife withholds sex from him. And I didn't believe him. But you have really opened my eyes. Is there anymore content on this subject? Please let me know. I'd really like to know more. Bcuz as a woman that just disgusts me.

Try asking ChatGPT the title of this video.

Men try to fix problems. Women try to fix men. I like that. It's too bad that these good insights will be rejected by today's gender politics.

I agree that it’s wrong to be controlling, manipulative, or to try to change the other person. But why call those behaviors “emasculating”? Surely it’s just as wrong, and just as devastating, to do those things to a woman as it is to do them to a man!

We were planning for me to visit a third time. The next time, I noticed her dating app profile had been updated. I asked why. She said he was extremely unhappy with me. I asked why she had invited me to come see her then… I guess she wanted to play all options… Now I’m blocked everywhere lol

No woman will not control me couse she will be not allowed.

Expecting a partner to make the bed like a grown up is not controlling smh.

Boy, does this all sound all too familiar! Good to hear it though. Stuff I knew in my heart, but without others making the same observations, or conclusions, when it is just you and her, and she is chipping away, tiny chip by tiny chip, after a while, I start to second guess myself. Yeah, I married late in life, been married 25 years, and for the most part, my wife is a Jewel. 6 months into my marriage, after she and I had a meaningful squabble about setting up the TV, which she knows absolutely nothing about, but she insisted that she do the setting up, I knew then, I was in for a rough marriage. Her inability to let someone else share in, or do the Task, was going to be a Big Big problem. This Revelation should have came sooner, but until that moment, I had not noticed her needing to control so much. And it was a bit too late to bow out of the relationship. So, I attempted to work with her, around her, and she was, and still is, immovable about her need to control. A few years ago, I realized, I was her "?Black Lab". Single women sometimes will have a Pet Dog, which they literally control every aspect. So, as long as I acted like her obedient Black Lab, she was Happy, but I was mostly miserable. We would get into these squabbles over nothing, and I would tell her, STOP BEING MY BIG SISTER! STOP BEING MY MOTHER! She couldn't see it, and thus didn't hear it. I am almost 70, and I have no intentions to look around for another woman. Sure, I've thought about splitting up, but frankly, neither one of us could survive financially. So, I spend a lot of time in my Den, or in my Work Room. She spends a lot of time in her areas of the home. We still talk, and we still enjoy a good conversation with one another. but, we still, after all of these years, have a Piss Poor Relationship when working together on the same project, and I find it ironically hilarious, and Pitiful at the same time, because if we could just work together, the two of us could do a lot of Good for others and ourselves. I find it baffling, that I can Love someone, and yet, half the time, I don't really Like them much.

Video started good and ended up toxic. How about instead if buying him books and trying to manipulate him into changing, just accept him for how he is.

I also crave freedom and choice. And I am a woman. This content is so good, but the gender bias is annoying. As if only men or "the masculine energy" would crave freedom. All people crave it, it is a basic human desire! It has nothing to do with sex or gender.

Palestine…? Or you mean Israel..

Experienced divorce lawyer here. The issues mentioned in this video are very common and difficult to change for many women. When men reach out to me for a prenup consult, I always ask about the level of control the prospective wife tries to exert over him. It very rarely gets better. It often leads to a bad ending. Stay safe. Stay single!

Does any woman like their man the way he is? Surely that only happens in movies.

Women aren't trying to change their men most of the time because they are in pain, hurting or suffering. Most of those men were all doing just fine on their own before those women. No, they are simply vying for control in the relationship. And if they get that control they will no longer want him. My mother told me once, "You have to take a stand against this aggression." The problem is the Jezebel culture we are living through- there are very few XX who truly desire peace.

I would add SIGN LANGUAGE (RIP…KS) Shame Insult Guilt Tripping The most important…. THE NEED TO RIGHT!

I think a big one is when they ask you to do small things for them that they can clearly do themselves, often in public. Like at a party with friends and asking mid-conversation to go to the car and get her a phone charger. Or stuff like throw this away for me, grab me a drink, hold this thing, and in the household small chores. I find it is a way of her asserting subtle control and the task is so inconsequential that you are the asshole if you say no or "make a big deal" out of it. The amount of times ramps up if the relationship is in a rockier place too. When the relationship is in a really good place she will not only stop asking as much but start doing little things for you. That's why I think it is a semi-conscious means of asserting control and manufacturing consent in relationships for women

Another thing: Never, ever marry - because then you are her slave forever!

These words/the topic have a Impact (on me)...I grew up with a borderline mother (well, growing up...that just didn't exist!)..it took many decades until I realized this " game". Not only did she "bend" me, my father and, for 20 years, my stepfather into a dachshund that was always on a leash... she also made sure that not only did my puberty "fail", but that I had massive relationship problems with women, Now, at the age of 54, I had to break off contact with her. She insulted and threatened my aunt because she "dared" to talk to me on the phone and "didn't tell her"...that was all...and mind you...on Christmas Eve. She lived extremely promiscuously in her life, but always blamed my father for it...she destroyed the family...and massively influenced the relationship between the family members. My father was never a strict man, rather gentle...nevertheless, she manipulated him so much that he (even though he has been separated from his mother for 30 years) has now completely "forgotten" what he is really like. I could never recognize the real man in the emasculated father, which perhaps he really once was! By the way, she never did therapy...I suggested it to her 30 years ago...but she didn't want that either..."because my stepfather supposedly didn't want that.. As I said... it's always someone else's fault, always! All I can give the men out there is good advice: if my lines sound at all familiar to you...then pull the plug today rather than tomorrow! Thanks for the video. Greetings from Germany.

I solved this problem years ago. Never cohabitated and never married a woman. Ever.

Noone can disrespect you, or treat you badly, unless you accept it. Noone can masculate you unless you want to fall for that. When bad things happen - you leave! Simple as that! Nothing gained, nothing lost.

You are describing my marriage. 29 years. Moved out 9 months ago. Two young adults kids. Still financially supporting the family.

Women just want to mold raw material 😆

They only get away with it because of the police

It's called nagging. You know, the nagging shrew, as in Shakespeare (we haven't changed). She lives within most women and will emerge at a certain point if the relationship starts to stultify (most marriages)

This is so very true. It's the yearning for freedom which really cuts deep and makes you apathetic about the survival of the relationship. If someone fresh and pleasant comes along, it's curtains and tears for the ex.

Wow, you know my ex girlfriend well!

I bought the books and did the listening to RU-vid together and nothing changes unless a person chooses to. Walk away sooner rather than later if someone says "I am who I am" was something I learned.

"where we control......we lack trust" - you just explained 99% of all women

Quick FIX: Don’t tell you woman your problems, stress, or struggles.

In a second marriage, this time with an asian. There is a difference in how women relate to men in asian cultures. My current wife gives me feedback without making demands.

If your woman is not afraid of losing you..... you are going to have problems with her

I once got this advice: "pray that God turns you into the man she needs." The problem is that often times that once that transformation takes place it comes into conflict with the kind of man she THINKS she needs.

Often that urge to control over perceived failures is an overreaction. Men, in general, see the bigger picture while women zero in on the details of a thing. Often when something doesn't work out like we had hoped a man will know that it's not the end of the world. In most domestic cases when something doesn't work quite the way you hope there are no dire consequences because of it. At work a man knows he usually can't afford to get things wrong and will go to great lengths to do it right the first time. That's a stress many of us know we don't need to take home from work. nobody can stress over every little detail and not have it effect you negatively.

In this case she’s falling inlove with the idea of you she has created in her head

I don’t want kids & I’m age 31 not everyone needs kids for happiness

Double standards 😒

Totally unrelated to the topic, but, i just want to add about being controlling: more people need to hear this. Often times people are unaware that what they are doing is being controlling and disempowering others from even trying the next time to be better, do better. I had some negative experience as a kid when my mom and dad, both kind of perfectionistic and "doing it my way or no way" attitude, didn't exactly encourage me and my older brother to do things, help them with the chores etc. Even if it is to mess up and them learn it the next time. We both grew up not doing things in and around the house or helping them (learned to be more proactive later on) and then they'd complain how we're lazy and don't want to help. It's contradictory. So, it's definitely important to recognize these tendencies within yourself. Rant over ^^

Thing is, all women emasculate men to some degree, as it's in their collective evolutionary hardwiring. It's really just one big S test of many that women ALL throw at men they are invested in. The first one, if they start living together, is leaving the toilet seat down at all times for her. The moment the man caves in, with the best intentions of pleasing her, it starts a snowball effect of tests that last forever. Now he can't enjoy beer but drinks red wine instead, doesn't play in his band anymore, gives up hockey and whatever sport, can't watch sports unless she allows it, endures her hyperfeminine interior design everywhere, can't meet his friends for coffee once a month or go anywhere without her permission, only watches rom-coms and chick-flicks, becomes a vegetarian if she's one....if the man feels that he's jumping successfully through all of those hoops and gives everything up for to be her "idealized" man, then she dumps him. His head is left spinning, as he did everything that she wanted, but he failed her test. All of those demands were to test whether he's either and alpha or a beta, or an alpha that can be changed into a beta. If he says no to most of her demands, doesn't give a crap and does what he wants when he wants, then he passes. She stays with him for years and puts him on the pedestal. It's all about her knocking him off of his masculine as an evolutionary tactic for survival. If he ends up being a weak beta, then that's very dangerous if she's pregnant with 4 other babies and no ability to provide for herself. If he stays mostly true to himself and manhood, then she might appear annoyed at first that he's not cow-towing, but she stays with him with burning desire. She knows if she leaves, or if she dumps him, he will immediately be with a better, hotter, younger woman with a more pleasing personality.

Married 18 years. My wife kept giving me a chore of planting her flowers and a magnolia tree. If i tried to plant something of what i bought i'd get more digging from her. I'm bi-polar, this doesn't help me, i get stressed easily can't think straight. Yes, i struggled through this marriage, it wasn't easy. Now im out on a limb with nowhere to go, no family in the area or friends to help.

women do for themself men want to do for "some together" women need some together to be, at the moment they miss the way to got to our self fleeing the rat race that's from me

When we control we are anxious!

Narcissism

I don't get involved

wise

On time, bro. Thanks

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My man does this to me and says that I am controlling. I don’t know what to do because when I ask him what to do he will tell me to figure it out or you decide or something of the sort. If we are having an argument and I ask him if I can speak or say something then when he says yes and I start to say what I’m saying he will say you just want to control the conversation because I told you that I don’t care about what you say or want etc until you meet my sexual needs (a multiple times a day). The nagging comes from him though. What am I doing wrong?

I became like this because the man I was with betrayed and lied to me and instead of leaving, I had hope he would want to choose to become a healthier person. But it became abusive. He had all the freedom at the start of our relationship until 1 by 1 he broke every agreement we had made together in in the best interest of our relationship. Like smoking pot, watching porn and so many other disgusting behaviors.

Ur still ripping off rollo?? Lol let's sanitize the "red pill"

Why men just can't be men withaut blaming women for not being a men?

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