The ADHD You Don't See: The Truth About Women's Struggles 

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You left out the cultural differences between boys and girls. My brother and I had pretty much similar symptoms. He got treatment: I got shamed and spankings. I learned to mask and, even though I thought I was crazy, I learned to organize and find my way through. Finally, in my 60s I found a doctor who look beyond my femaleness and I finally got treatment.

I'm female, never diagnosed. I have always had these symptoms. But I was written off as bored, nervous, anxious, and of course "you take things personally."

I've seen in the classroom how diagnosis is "distributed." Boys are diagnosed for the benefit of those around them while girls need a diagnosis more for their own wellbeing. A spaced out girl looks like a model student. (Quiet boys too.) Dark skinned boys are overlooked because of racism, and dark skinned girls are overlooked as a combo of both. There needs to be awareness. Seen this in the classroom with children with similar behavior get treated differently by staff, doctors, and family. Heartbreaking.

I bump into things, have no spacial awareness, fidget, cant sleep, can't focus, get lost easily, react to loud things, can't handle change, lose things, highly anxious, can't organize, never had a plan for life rather have been swept up by a current I don't control. I wish my parents had treated this instead of getting mad when I didn't perform. I'm starting to think this wasn't my choice, it was my brain. I wish someone had taken my stuff seriously instead of writing me off as just a lazy, disorganized, disinterested kid with no clear path. Now I'm a confused adult. Am I to blame or am I wired differently?

"One persons productivity ritual is another's cage. instead of mindlessly adopting other's habits, be mindful of the ones that serve YOU well." ~Adam Grant

I have had severe ADHD since childhood and I am low functioning. It is by far the worst thing anyone can suffer from. It ruined a lot of my relationships and friendships. To this day it really hurts me inside thinking of when my former partners always asking me during our conversations, “Are you even listening?” I would get distracted so easily, and people would dismiss me as being very insensitive.

I was diagnosed late in my 30’s with ADHD. I thought I was losing my mind so I went to speak with a psychiatrist. He had me tested and sure enough I have ADHD. I am now medicated and feel so much better. My work has improved and I can finally sleep through the night!

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

We need one of these for autism. Differences that lead to girls and women not getting diagnosed til they have high support needs. Scoring as autistic in all the tests but the examiner just chopping it up to mood disorder personality disorder they don't have test results in a test for.

I think another telling symptom is what seems like memory problems. You can’t remember where you put things, even though you had them in your hand seconds ago. Even when you don’t get “distracted” during a conversation, you sometimes can’t remember what someone just said. And so on. When I was diagnosed, I wasn’t there to get tested for ADHD. I went because I thought I had some sort of neurological memory problem. One of my friends had even nicknamed me “goldfish” because my memory is so bad. Turns out, it’s because of ADHD and often stems from one of two things: I get distracted and then snap back in without ever realizing I’d been distracted, or I’m paying attention but immediately afterward a different thought pops up and replaces the previous one before it can be put into my memory.

I'm glad that the difference between womens health and mens health gets slowly but surely more attention. It's scary that there are still so many people out there thinking women have the same symptoms like men when it comes to a heart attack.

Newly diagnosed 51 year-old psychiatric nurse practitioner here. Great video! Especially more likely to be missed if you have individuals with higher intelligence or kids with good grades. Work with two psychiatrist who told me they weren’t even diagnosed until residency.

I have severe adhd all of my life and had just got diagnosed and treated. It’s a very difficult life losing jobs and relationships

Since kindergarten I would get notes on all my report cards “daydreams” “does not pay attention” etc… adulthood and 15 years of therapy later and I’m just figuring this out for myself.

A psychiatrist refused to treat my ADD because I wasnt failing my college classes YET. I scored very high on the screening test. It is well known, and has been for a while, that not treating ADD causes permanant damage to intelligence (and i should know), and yes, i had to retake classes. Dr Marks is great and im not here to dissagree with her, but ADD "not being obvious" in women isnt the biggest part of the problem. The biggest part of the problem is mysogeny. The more i talk to people and read stuff, the more typical i believe my experience to be. Why didnt I know I had ADD earlier? Why do boys get diagnosed? Because if boys are failing, the fact that they might have an excuse is considered. If a girl is failing it is because she is bad. Lazy. Spoiled. Dramatic. We get called all the nasty names. If we try to explain ourselves or ask for help, we are interrupted, and told that we are "making excuses" or "being a smart a$$" or something. Dispite the fact that ADD can be seen in an MRI (because it it REAL) most psychologists and psychiatrists do not believe how much women with ADD struggle. If you try to tell them the grim realities, they will assume your attitude is the problem. They will say something "encouraging" some and smile in a self-satisfied way. The deafness, and self rightousness is truely... evil. Yeah, im calling them evil and i do mean it. Because if they had even considered the fact that I was sane and honest, not some crazy dramatic pity-party person, they could have helped, but instead they invalidated and belittled me. They tried to treat me for low self esteem for effs sake, which if you know me, is hilarious. I eventually found some professionals with listening and thinking skills. I wanted a therapist with knowledge of what ADD is like and strategies around its handicaps, but in leui of that, a smart person who believed me was a good thing.

As a 40 year old woman with ADHD, I'm so so relieved to see it's being TALKED ABOUT. Reviewing my childhood years and behavioral issues in school, it's so painfully obvious how ADHD affected those years, but now that I have severe anxiety acting as a "coping mechanism" to deal with what ADHD does, it's honestly worse.

I am very angry that my former health professionals did not detect that I may have adhd. I had to push through and specifically pay to get a diagnosis through a private clinic (with 3K of fees!!!!) because I did not want to wait 2-3 years in the public system in Quebec (Canada). Nobody saw or recognized the symptoms. I have just been diagnosed at 59. I have the mixed type, with both hyperactivity and inattentiveness. Now getting treatment with medication and therapy. I probably wasted decades because of the misogynistic bias prevailing in the medical system until recently. Words cannot describe how mad I am about this.

I was diagnosed with autism and adhd this year at age 29. I suffered all my life not knowing why I seemed so different. Thank you for making this video. It’s great to see more mental health professionals speak up about how symptoms present differently in women.

It’s only taken 70 years to find this out. I’m glad there is more awareness of this now so women can be properly diagnosed. I don’t think any of my several therapists between my late 20s and my early 50s considered this possibility. 😢

I was recently tested for ADHD and was told I don’t have it. I don’t agree with their assessment. I have most of the symptoms, but because I didn’t cause or get in trouble in school as a child they say I don’t have it. It’s so frustrating.

I’m a 43 year old man and this is exactly what happened to me too. I didn’t have the hyperactivity on the “outside” but only on the inside. As a child I wasn’t aloud to express that part as I would be met with repercussions. It’s only 3 months ago that I tried ADHD medication. Unfortunately living with untreated ADHD for 43 years had its toll on me. ACE, CPTSD, anxiety disorder, chronic depression, PTSD, panic attacks, nervous breakdown, all of this made me almost non functional and living on a disability income at the moment.

Thank you, this has been the best description of all my struggles as a woman with ADHD, diagnosed at 30. I feel so seen I'm crying.

I know a lot of mums getting diagnosed after trying to help their children. So we've struggled half our lives (you're just depressed) with no help, and now we're trying to help our children as single(mostly) mums. While severely burned out and needing support ourselves. And we're looked down on for not also holding full time jobs! 😅 I'm not punting fingers. It just sux.

This just upsets me so much. I’m now 47 years old, I was ok at school, college, the first time was ok but I never got accepted for 2nd year because they said I was too immature, I got jobs but nothing career worthy. I’ve felt different my whole adult life, always late then had kids and I became glaringly obvious that I was not organised much but I could handle it just about. As the kids have progressed through school it’s become harder to keep house, I struggle to plan days out, getting shopping for the week etc. After finding out my younger brother was diagnosed ADHD I sought a diagnosis or myself. I got to tell the psychiatrist 1 thing from my long list & he said no, you’re just anxious & that was me diagnosed with GAD. I don’t disagree I am anxious, I am depressed I am undiagnosed ADHD (I’ve even considered bi-polar) I have an autistic son that we’re awaiting assessment for ADHD for, I worry my daughter is undiagnosed but we’re starting the process of treating her OCD (which I’m certain I caused with my scattyness), my husband is nonexistent emotionally & in managing the house, kids etc (he’s like a pen friend you give certain life updates to), my elderly parents are extremely unwell & my sister has been recently diagnosed with terminal breast cancer, so I have a lot going on but what would help is to have a psychiatrist actually listen & take an appropriate amount of time to diagnose me. I was undergoing “therapy” with I think a psychologist in training but it got to the point where keeping the diary she wanted me to keep was causing so much anxiety that I’ve stopped attending. I’m just so lucky that my kids are understanding

This is SO SO SO SO important. I was not diagnosed until last year when my counselor of over 4 years put the pieces together and I was so stunned because I just did not know that ADHD could look like THIS and i think SOOOOO many people are unaware as well, which is sad. It is so great seeing you discuss it on a platform like this, so thanks so much! Also seeing you list all of the symptoms again for women is so wild because they all apply so much to me that hearing how these are ACTUAL issues related to ADHD and not me just being lazy. Please keep up the good work on this! On the topic of gendered discussions about mental health, it would nice to see you put out a video regarding mental health of transgender individuals cause I think that is something not often touched on on platforms such as your own! Much love! 💕🥰

1,5 yrs ago I was diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD. Life is hard, but at least now I can focus on acceptance.

It's awful. I was a smart kid, and a very good student. Everyone expected me to do so well. But I was always disorganized. I fell apart when I got to college, and never really recovered. I graduated, but never really launched. I am now 48, and watching the children of my cousins surpass me in life. Also, I never can keep up with my chores, my car is a mess, and I just can never seem to get my shyt together. For a black woman, this is the worst, because how you keep your home and car is very important. I feel constantly judged by family, and coworkers. I was diagnosed a few years ago, but my psychologist did not want to medicate. I have tried to learn some life skills with my therapist. It also helped when I got a less demanding job, and had time to think. I am still recovering, and will probably be recovering from all this until the day I die. 🤷🏿‍♀️

I was diagnosed at 45 because I couldn’t complete my dissertation. It took ten years. Once diagnosed and on medication I lost 50 pounds and was able to write my dissertation (217 pp) in less than three months. 5:29 Finding out regardless of age is never too late. It has forever changed my life and I’m grateful.

I have been diagnosed with full-blown ADHD in 2021 at the age of 37. My doctor literally said “Seems you don’t have ADHD, you ARE ADHD!” Changed my diet in 2023. One year in I have close to zero symptoms of ADHD, no meds needed anymore.

I have late diagnosed ADHD. it's a devastating condition. Also too sensitive to meds. 68 years old and really starting to understand what my life could have been had I not had this. Trying meditation - guided meditation, which seems to help some, but I have no sense of purpose or focus. It's heartbreaking.

I was FINALLY diagnosed at 52!! Everyone always called me hairbrained, or a BRAT! It never dawned on me that I ever had ADHD, until I went to a psychologist and she sent me to their psychiatrist who immediately diagnosed me with ADD. The H had long gone. lol I felt SO VENDICATED by it!!

Boy, this is like a mirror. Listening to this video as an adult is crazy because as I have been discovering how my ADHD affects me as an adult is completely different. I am trying to start meds but have a hard time remaining consistent because I lose them frequently and it becomes overwhelming. I feel a bit overwhelmed and stuck in a loop but looking at videos like these make me feel less different. I feel lazy at times and like I don't fully balance out the responsibilities I have and it is overwhelming. I think I honestly suffer from ADHD burnout and I don't want to be burned out emotionally anymore. Managing adult responsibilities can be too much for me due to feeling as if I am stuck in a permanent cycle of debt and money mismanagement that make the rest of my life insurmountable. But I am trying actively to change all of this without asking for help but I know at some point, I'll need it to truly release it.

Aww maaan! I am really NOT looking forward to menopause…hormonal changes in my cycle already make my ADHD symptoms worse-my anxiety goes through the friggin’ roof for example-and my mom struggled with menopause for OVER 10 YEARS! 😨

I have had difficulty focusing on goals and tasks throughout life, feeling low energy, and sad about life circumstances. I got distracted in school and still find it a challenge to pay attention in conversations, meetings, while reading, or watching a show. It takes me a while to get through tasks. I tend to juggle many things at once. It took me 5 years to complete a 2 year degree while I was raising a child and supporting aging parents. My father told me 40 years ago while we were watching a 20/20 episode on ADHD that he thought I had it since I would start and leave courses and projects before completing them. Many of us struggle and find ways to get through life without a diagnosis of ADHD when we could have lived a more thriving and abundant life with greater joy had we gotten assessed and treated earlier in life. Thank God, there is more information, insight, newer therapies and treatments, and less stigma about ADHD and other mental conditions than 40 years ago. It is never too late to improve one's life by seeking help. Dr. Tracey, thank you for shedding light on ADHD and other health issues. 5:39

I'm a man and I recognize myself 100% in the symptoms for women's ADHD. And not the symptoms for men you mentioned. Although when I was younger I had some of the male symptoms mentioned

At 53 I was diagnosed when a college friend suggested I get tested. Elementary school report cards ALWAYS mentioned day dreaming. Married at 19 (😢), my ex husband was ALWAYS berating me for things: lazy, not finishing anything. I’ve never finished a conversation, and luckily I have a good sense of humor. Looking forward to the Skills Training. Thank you. ❤️💔❤️

I’m 23 and just got my diagnosis it would have been helpful to know as a child.

Part of the reason why girls with the hyperactive trait were less diagnosed was the pressure to be “ladylike”. It wasn’t ladylike to bounce or jitter around or throw yourself at the furniture at full speed like my younger (male) cousin did openly. I conformed to expectation and did those things when noone was around. I was tested multiple times and the results were negative, once because the neuropsych said, “she paid too much attention”. Well, what we were doing was interesting! If he has filmed me during the paper test alone, he would have seen the struggle it was to complete. After that, I would suggest the testing standard should include leaving the person alone in a room with little stimulation while being filmed and see what they do.

😩 I was diagnosed at 2! I’m glad my mom decided against medication, but nothing else was done. Granted, this was in the 80’s and there wasn’t as much information. Fast forward to me being a 40 something, and my life is a wreck. I’m struggling with so many things and even just getting out of bed is overwhelming. Then I feel guilty because of my lack of discipline and a down on myself. It’s made even trickier because to everyone else it simply looks like I’m lazy or am making excuses. Trying to explain how I feel or what I’m experiencing falls on deaf ears too as not many seem to understand. I also have CPTSD, OCD, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. The reckless behavior is something I display as well. I speed without meaning to and make decisions that haunt me because they could’ve had serious outcomes. It’s a heavy load to bear up under (especially given stigma or misunderstanding). Looking for my light at the end of the tunnel and trying to change my outlook. But recognition really is a big thing.

ADHD, Autism, depression, fibromyalgia, etc. I’m living with so many disabilities that people assume just aren’t theee because they can’t see them. It’s so frustrating when people expect me to function at full capacity like they do because they are 100% healthy. It’s even worse when they get mad at me because I can’t.

Thanks Dr Marks for this video! I am female with ADHD, inattentive type, diagnosed at 15. It's a pretty disabling condition. It's great that female ADHD is being diagnosed so much more, but now so many of my friends are being diagnosed in their late 20s/early 30s and I'm getting sick of them all grieving for this idealised imagining of how different/better their lives could have been if they were diagnosed early. In reality, diagnosis didn't help at all in my case. Back then, 15 years ago when I was diagnosed, there was so much stigma that you were really better off keeping it a secret anyway, and there weren't great resources for support. I'm still struggling after all this time and have failed to thrive even more than many of my late diagnosis friends. I feel like a bit of a reality check is needed with them sometimes as they are making themselves miserable imagining unrealistic possibilities that will now never come to be anyway.

Tracy, thank you SO much for your videos. I'm 71 and have finally been diagnosised. EVERYTHING in my life has now been explained...it is freeing to have the diagnosis. I only wish I had had the time and money to have been diagnosised earlier. It certainly would have made life easier for me and everyone around me...

Thank you for this video. I was diagnosed at 47, and lived with labels like "space cadette" and "weirdo." I got good enough grades with not much effort, but never fit in anywhere, and struggled to stick with anything. My conspicuous daydreaming got me violently shaken by my first grade teacher, in the days when teachers did what they wanted. She gave me closed head injuries, which lead to antisocial behavior and hallucinations. I got diagnosed two weeks after my younger son, as I was studying ADHD to figure HIM and HIS DAD out! As ever, those of us with this particular neurological set-up don't perceive our own issues. Two years after the diagnosis, I was able to quit 29 years of heavy drinking, and have stayed alcohol free 21 years. I'm currently studying the theories that ADHD for some of us is generated not hereditarily but from ongoing childhood traumas like neglect, physical abuse, parental addiction, etc. I had all of that. The more I learn, the easier life gets. Thanks again.

This makes me so sad because I was treated as a kid after my child psych had suspected it (&also because at that time the antidepressant medicines we were trying weren’t really helping “in the way that they should’ve”) Anyway he gave us adderall and while I don’t remember too much of it, I do remember the very first time I took it I cried, I went and told my mom how for the first time in my life I was able to think clearly, how perfectly organized everything was. I was going on and on about how clear and easy it was to think for the very first time in all of my life, that day I realized what I was actually missing and why it seemed so easy to everyone else, because without it I was at a disadvantage, we are not on equal playing fields. However when I became an adult I had to get a different doctor and after a few years with her and my primary going back-and-forth with each one pointing at the other person saying you need to find out why I was the way I was and why the meds weren’t really helping me the way they should (they were basically saying it wasn’t their job, it was the other person’s job aka not physical so I need to go to mental and so then we went and played this game of seesaw, like yes maybe we need some more whiplash that’ll help us find out the answer) *smh* Well we did a while of that and then I turned 21 when she had to redo my paperwork (since it’s highly controlled they have to do papers saying how/ why I can have it) well she didn’t think I needed it and decided to cut it, she told me that it was only a Band-Aid, I don’t need it and she didn’t want to continue to enable me, so she decided to cut it. That truly was the end of it all because after that I only went so much farther down. Everything got worse and worse and after a few years of us trying to deal with that she slowly stopped knowing what to do with me, she wanted me to get another opinion and didn’t wanna hold me back so she dropped me. I’ve had two other doctors since then and that hoesntly probably just made it much worse, however I think that the worst thing by far was that medicine being taken like it was for the first time in my life I was actually doing good, I was consistently progressing like it was a thing and I was doing it, I was almost there and looking at the light at the end of the tunnel (me being a functional adult) The hardest thing was after that day that I knew it was all over because from there it wasn’t gonna ever be like there was no way I could keep up, I just had to sit there and allow it because it was gonna happen whether I wanted it to or not because I couldn’t keep up, I couldn’t hold it together, and it all just came crashing down in front of me. I couldn’t compete with that. I could never compare to her. Her and I aren’t the same (or we are, but no one can see that *so they don’t care* all they see now is that I’m just lazy lol like that is the one thing, the only difference to other people, like the only thing they can see different is that because I don’t try, and I mean she did call it a bandaid, right?) Its been years and I’m still broken &CONFUSED over all of that but if anyone has any thoughts or ideas on what the heck she meant with that whole bandaid thing please do let me know *fr it haunts me lol*

Excellent video! I'm so glad you brought up the hormonal factor. I think this is definitely missing in mental health conversations. I try to remember to tell my female clients to track their hormonal cycle so that they can track how their mental health conditions are affected throughout the month. Thanks Tracey!

I am 60 and have only recently realised I have had ADHD my entire life. Menopause has definitely enhanced my anxiety, noise sensitivity, disorganisation, and feelings of being overwhelmed by daily tasks. I have always felt as though I don't fit in, struggled at work to get along with colleagues, and with my personal relationship. It feels as though I have wasted so much time being trapped in a mind that I still don't understand.

Omg Jaiden animation’s video on adhd is in this video 🎉🎉

I think what's interesting is my son who is high functioning Autism. He almost falls more into the girls list of symptoms. The ADHD is definitely there. Now, I found later that I'm also on the spectrum, but not really sure if ADHD fits me, or if it's the Autism, or the legit CPTSD from a traumatic childhood in an abusive household. It all gets so tricky. I think regardless, therapy is pretty necessary for all of us.

I’m not sure if having this info makes me feel better or worse. I mourn the life I could’ve had. So much potential wasted.

I'm a 53 year old man awaiting adhd assessment, now your saying i could have a woman's brain🫣. Being serious your describing me perfectly, so it can be anyone.

Me who's autistic, has brain damage, eating disorder, severe back problems and several other physical disabilities trying to get an adhd diagnosis.... 👀 It feels like a loosing battle

I diagnosed myself at 40 years old. Depressed all my life because I couldn’t do what other girls could.

Thank you so much for talking about this! I was diagnosed in my early 30's and have struggled with PPMD and experienced peripardum depression. Now I'm beginning to feel the emotional challenges of peri menopause which can be overwhelming to typical women but with my history feels even more so. I would love to hear more about managing all these factors. Thank you again, so much!

Can we just talk about how amazing Jaden’s animation has a reach on the adhd community even before her adhd video came out? I loved seeing her videos in this video, kinda sad her channel wasn’t referenced in the description though her content was used.

I was diagnosed in my 30’s, it was hiding behind the ptsd. This was a major game changer.

Thanks for the video as a trans woman who's gotten a lot better recently with this it feels validating to hear that I've ALWAYS had ADHD just the one that fits my gender identity.

I am a senior citizen! And I have been struggling with ADHD all my life! As a child, I remember I could never learn no matter how hard I would study! But at the time they didn't know about it! I like to know how can I find out in today's world?! my daughter tell me that I don't have such a thing! Because they didn't go through now I feel like I'm getting dementia. what I went through all my life, abuse suffering mental torture! Please help me! Now I feel like I'm

Thank you for this explainer! Always appreciative when videos like this come out and of your content. I hope you give credit to some of the animators in the future. Using Jaiden Animations as well as other artists can be unethical if no permission was given or credit passed on.

Hi Dr. Marks. Great video! I have not been dx'd with ADHD and am currently 42 yo man. Thing is, I've had all these complaints (symptoms) all my life, they're just the ones you described as the female version of ADHD. Which could be why every time I asked my mother if I could have it, she would tell me 'no! Look at your cousin, that's what ADHD looks like'.

I had my daughter tested in middle school, everything was negative. She had a rough time in her first year of college which forced her to seek a second evaluation, and it showed all the typical signs of. With help she was able to obtain a Masters degree. Many sad years we had with her😢

I LOVE your videos on ADHD. Thank you for shining a light on this condition that is incredibly underdiagnosed, especially among BIPOC women.

thank you so much for talking about this. I was diagnosed when I was 29 and spent all of my 20s wracking my brain and fumbling through life because I was misdiagnosed with - you guessed it - depression and anxiety. No one bothered to dig deeper and realize I had a host of different conditions: autism, ADHD, and bipolar II. My ADHD symptoms are the most obvious however, and yet I was still repeatedly misdiagnosed until I sought a second opinion from another doctor and was very firm with my suspicions that this was not mere depression or anxiety. I reached a point in my life where trying to focus on my college assignments was nearly impossible and it felt as though I was consistently trying to fight against my own mind. staying organized was a struggle and I didn’t have friends during my childhood because of my impulsivity and tendency to hyperfixate on things other people found ‘weird’. What kind of depression and anxiety do that? No wonder I wasn’t getting better, no one was treating the root cause of these symptoms. Two years after being diagnosed with ADHD, I was diagnosed with bipolar. So that explained why my ADHD meds did NOTHING to control my cyclical emotional imbalances and atrocious sleep patterns. LOL. Women/AFAB people honestly have to work double just for an accurate diagnosis and it is SO frustrating. It shouldn’t be this hard for us but it constantly is.

Big changes with menopause. Very good info. Ty

Hey! I resemble that! 😊 Seriously tho, I'm a 63yr old woman who has finally been diagnosed with adhd (combined type) and asd within this year. It's so relieving to know that it's not just the laziness I've heard most of my life. Thank you, Dr

I was diagnosed in kindergarten. I had a lot of the classic symptoms like boys do. Hitting menopause has really derailed my life with organizational difficulty, memory issues, and emotional dysregulation. There seems to be less research and answers for this stage but I finally told my doctors I wanted hormone replacement therapy and it has helped some.

Undiagnosed and misdiagnosed my entire life. Not till my 40. Thank you

Glad to hear, I just requested to get adhd medication after being off for many years. during the meeting, I was worried about being diagnosed for depression instead because i answered no to questions like do you have a problem with being still. Like im an older woman, how stupid would i look at work not being able to stay seated. Now i do struggle with focusing, but as an adult my behavior will not match a 4 year boy. I know how to conduct myself. At least one doctor recognizes this, thank you

As a former special education teacher and mother of an adult ADD son I found this video to one of the very best ADHD videos I’ve ever seen and covers male and females.

Diagnosed in 2021. In the dumps right now because I had a great time with a new relationship, but they lost a prized possession when riding home with me. I can’t shake the guilt attached to forgetting items, not being able to help them much in finding it, and knowing it could possibly be lost forever because I didn’t plug into my mask of hyper vigilance to double check and handle the needs of all those around me. The guilt from masking through ADHD and emotional regulation difficulties is a legitimate downer, that can drain my energy and delay my ability to go through my day or not carry shame in the relationship from this point on. I’m being careful by allowing myself to cry through the stress, and saying what I’m feeling out loud, but it’s important to remember management of symptoms won’t ever stop the symptoms. It’s a legitimate condition that cannot be “fixed”

I'd love a video on combined type ADHD. Just because one type is more common in one sex doesn't mean that's always the case. I'm wondering if I have ADHD, but even though I'm female, I fit more of the hyperactive presentation.

This makes so much sense. I’ve been wondering what’s wrong with me and it never occurred me. It could possibly be ADHD but I suffered from a lot of those symptoms and it makes a lot more sense than depression.

I got diagnosed at age 27 and I love it now in my 50’s😂 I don’t listen to people and stay detached from everything around me💗

Thank you so much. This makes since why my anxiety medication doesn't work. I'm currently suffering at my job and I'm trying to get help.

Great presentation. I was diagnosed af 65. Explains a lot, but hard to make changes at this point in life. Something to grow on, I suppose. Happy to learn that it's not laziness or being stupid, though. 😅

Now that I'm 40, looking back many things make more sense as far as why I struggled with what I did knowing how ADHD affects everything, but now that I am aware of all this I have never felt so isolated. I do not have anyone left to really connect with and feel safe to share my struggles with, and I guess I never did.

I am 59 and have just been diagnosed with ADHD

Hello, I'm a dude with ADHD of the not-very-hyper variant. I was diagnosed late in life. For the longest time it didn't occur to me that I could belong under the same umbrella as those with DAMP, as it was once called. But now it makes so much sense.

My Psychiatrist thinks I have ADHD My oldest son was diagnosed age 4 so its a Huge possibility I have BPD and CPTSD & Bipolar I just went through 2 months of Paranoia and I cry all the time - fun times Thanks Dr Marks

Thank you for talking about this!

I have definitely noticed a huge change with my symptoms since I've entered menopause. My procrastination levels have hit an all-time high

Hi! I wonder how ADHD and C-PTSD symptoms might overlap, sometimes even leading to misdiagnosis. I've been through complex trauma and now share many of ADHD symptoms myself, but not all of them. Nevertheless I struggle with time management, focus, emotional regulation and hormonal fluctuations as well, and I'd truly appreciate it if you made a video about this topic.

I wish all doctors in the world could learn from you. As a woman with ADHD I went through all of these ugh it's really sad.

I have had ADHD since I was a child and I still struggle to this day...I have many things I need to work on...sigh let's stick together yall WE WILL MAKE IT 🙏🏾

I would love to see a video about psychedelics and microdosing in ADHD

Diagnosed at 54. The doctor doing the test even apologized to me, saying: you are among the generation of femals who was lost, and we now know how much you all suffered. Thanks, doc, very much appreciated. You are in a completely different class. PS: thank you Dr. Marks for including German in your auto audio thing - it will help educate my fellow females who do not understand the native soundtrack. Myself however annoyed as I can't switch this off on my mobile. And, having worked for Americans, I listen to English videos only: the knowledge in the English speaking realm is 10 years ahead of the mainstream. In fact two days before my diagnosis I received my order from an online pharmacy, and the marketing leaflet stated: most all ADHD'ers outgrow it. Hell no! 🤯 See, the neglect is real 😤

I’m a 32 y/o woman and only got diagnosed with ADHD a couple months ago. As a kid, I was obsessively organized when it came to school because I was terrified of getting in trouble, but my bedroom was an absolute wreck. I learned to mask all my symptoms and no one ever figured it out. Unfortunately that didn’t turn out well in the long run and led to a lot of mental and physical health issues that have made me disabled. I wonder what it would’ve been like to have someone notice and treat my symptoms when I was young. Parents, please try to be open and nonjudgmental with your children so they won’t hide their struggles from you and can receive any help they need.

GR8! Video Dr Tracy

I was a few months short of being half a century when I was finally diagnosed with ADD! And almost a quarter century later, I'm still learning new information about it! In the beginning, I read Sari Solden's book, Adult Women with ADD, and it not only made my life so much more understandable but greatly helped me in so many ways. I'm so grateful for every bit of additional information as each new piece fills in the jigsaw puzzle picture that is my life. Thank you for what you do with your videos.

Between always having fidgeting issues and attention issues and then add a TBI onto it makea my brain just a blast to deal with on a daily basis.

I was blind-sided by my ADHD diagnosis at age 63. I went to see a psychiatrist for anxiety and left with ADHD.😂 He said he first noticed that my eyes were darting around the room, and that is a sign of ADD and ADHD in girls and women.

diagnosed at 59 post menopausal so close to committing suicide till I was. One day of meds and hrt the light went on a very dark room. Going to b living my best life now

I was diagnosed during Covid in my 40s life changing with meds. ❤ video

Wow! Definitely need treatment I feel for ADHD! This video explains a lot in how I feel just having trouble focusing but also sometimes have anxiety and depression! But also feel I have anxiety related to hormonal imbalances and emotional regulation! I know I need to see a psychiatrist about it! I am scared of the meds but I know it will probably make me feel a lot better! It’s almost time to face my fears!

I was diagnosed at the age 37.. it really is a challenge within ourselves. I myself need music to comfortably function.. then will take the time to search and search for music that fits my mood. Things do get accomplished but not in “correct time” … actually often pieces also due to having 3 kids and my youngest is 3

Another wonderful informative video! Thank you!

Once upon a time it was ADD and ADHD. ADD was usually ascribed to girls, as it rarely had the hyperactivity component. Then they joined the two diagnoses. Now, apparently, it is hard to spot in females. Big shocker, I know. 🙄

Thank you Dr Marks…again. You have helped me understand what is going on for me, and understand that it is real. I’ve been able to take what I learn from your channel to articulate to my Dr. what happens for me so she can help me. I appreciate you and your service to all of us.

I’m a female who was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 13. This video is very spot on. I have terrible time management, I misplace things just about every day, and I am so easily distracted. However, I have additional psychiatric conditions which influences how my ADHD presents itself.

For a while now I thought I might have ADHD. I was diagnosed with depression, but sometimes I feel like my possible ADD is making my depression worse. Other times I feel like my depression is causing my possible ADD symptoms. I also have a history of trauma, so I know that would complicate getting diagnosed with it even further.