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I'm at a loss for words. More conversations with Martha, please. This is the most authentic conversation I have heard on your podcast. When she says the "light" has never left her, I believe it because I can feel it, she radiates it. Thank you for the opportunity to be a fly on the wall in such an important conversation!
The opposite of anxiety isn't calm, it's creativity. When you go into control mode, you're anxious. When you open yourself up to all possibilities, you're creative. Such a great lesson, thank you Tim + Dr. Martha Beck
Every athlete knows that we "play up" when we meet our match. Our excellence meets their excellence and a dance of intellectual/emotional joy ensues. Martha and Tim: This was a 1+1=11 synchronistic interaction where all involved were elevated, and that includes us listeners and viewers fortunate enough to tune in - literally and figuratively. You asked, "When was the last time we felt joy in our body? Well, I felt joy in my mind AND body in this delightful, rising-tide conversation. Kudos to you for this mind/soul dance that was Exhibit A of why it's a blessing to be alive and to learn from two smart, talented, incredibly compatible individuals who were mutually lit up.
Finished and just-WOW. Every yes! 💫 YES to tracking joy lions. YES to practical experiments. YES to compassion bonfires with internal nemeses. YES to Martha’s yarfy gratitude. And hell YES to liminal mischief! Going to see my surgeon now about a left brain hemispherectomy. 😂 🙏🏻🔥🐒 🙏🏻🔥🐒 🙏🏻🔥🐒
I told my friend back in 2012 that I wouldn't be going to her party because I didn't want to (I should perhaps have been more honest and said it was due to feeling social anxiety at the time). She sent me a really nasty email, ending: and don't bother coming to my funeral because you won't be welcome. We had been friends for 30 years from age 16. I didn't dignify the email with a reply. In fact I have no regrets. I miss our friendship for what i had thought it was, but i accept it's better not to have it as it REALLY was. I'm not sure what my point is, I just wanted to share this.
I don’t think it’s ok to not give an explanation. I know that the dysfunctional and unnecessary habit of always overexplaining oneself is often discussed in trauma circles. But as a friend we do carry some accountability and if it’s a birthday I feel we deserve an honest explanation if it’s a good friend and they can’t come to our party. There’s a good article called THE GOLDEN AGE OF BAILING. It explains that. You weren’t vulnerable with your friend and not honest about why you couldn’t come to the party. That’s not a friendship if there’s no safety to be honest. So I guess it wasn’t a good friendship in the first place. But I feel both of you can take responsibility for that.
@@elsagrace3893 there's a lot of background you aren't aware of. For one, for years I put up with her calling me to come over, and telling me there was no one else there. I'd turn up and there would be a house full of her friends (we were in our 40s so she wasn't a child!) I overlooked it at the time, but shouldn't have. I should have addressed it. But...shoulda woulda coulda! It's all in the past and doesn't matter now. The important things is that we learn from our own mistakes.
Martha Beck's insights on living with integrity are truly eye-opening. For entrepreneurs, applying her "year of living lie-lessly" concept can be transformative, especially when making tough business decisions. It's about aligning actions with core values, which not only fosters trust with clients and partners but also improves personal well-being.
Martha's story about the light she saw during her surgery brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, Tim for creating such a safe space for her (and for all your guests) to open up and share some of their most personal, intimate, sometimes beautiful and sometimes painful experiences. LOVE and authenticity should be at the core of everything we do. We're all in this journey together. Please bring Martha back for another conversation, thank you.
Wow. This has been one of the most captivating talks I’ve heard in so long. This just really tied together some loose ends for me in such a fun way. I’m a fan!
At ~ 1:51:20 Martha Beck speaks about switching from attempts at control to curiosity (in a fear context). This reminds me of Chris Voss who teaches to ask/say, "You must have a good reason for asking that?". Instead of seeking control Chris is seeking more information. Stephen Covey might say he seeks first to understand. I will remember to be curious (in times of fear, in negotiations, in life, etc....).
Tim Ferris’s work has inspired me over the last decade to become an independent adult who had to work against a lot of family dysfunction. The fear setting Ted Talk is the one that’s ingrained in my head. I am so fortunate I came across this conversation of his with Martha Beck. It got me out of a 2 week long rumination of doubt and fear and this is all I needed!
Wow what an amazing conversation. It lit up my brain. Hope there are more- such a great synergy btwn Tim & Martha. It inspires me to look for relationships who are this synergistic to me in my own life- it seems next level. Thank you for generously sharing this convo.
What a genuinely incredible conversation. I don't know Tim Ferris' stuff well, but I know it a little, and I feel like the conversation with Martha Beck brings out things in him I've never seen. She is one of a kind. I bless the universe for the gift of her!
Tim - when you talked about that mirror in the room and how you knew it was an eighth of an inch off, oh my. I definitely have the same brain propensity and have to turn it off pretty often. I crave symmetry, precision and alignment. It is a real curse a lot of the time. You helped me feel less alone in this. Thank you. Really enjoying this interview! You and Martha have great chemistry.
A delightful conversation. I listened to the podcast driving a few hundred miles. I was so moved I then pulled up this version, and watched the whole thing. I'd never heard of Martha until two days ago, and now she's one of my all-time favorite people to share virtual company with. Tim, you're an excellent interviewer, you bring out the best in people. Now I've got to go order Martha's book.
I’m only 40:43 in so far (just past where you told about your son also seeing the light), and this is absolutely enlightening. Martha, you radiate joy and I’ve felt joy while watching this. By nature I’m often skeptical of things like that, but I keep an open mind towards it, and your story opened my mind and heart even further. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, and for taking the journey you have taken to bring that wisdom and joy to us.
One way to tell the truth more delicately in a way that FBI hostage negotiators do, is say everything after the 'but' to the person up front. For example, Tim mentioned he didn't want to go to a mask party on a Thursday BUT he didn't want to upset the person, she would probably feel let down, it would be really important to her and valuable to her and yada yada. Say all of that first, and then say you don't want to go. So something like "I know this is probably going to upset you because I know this party is really important to you but I just don't want to go. I'm sorry." People have an innate natural tendency to want to disagree or disprove what you just said about them. So you can use that to your advantage. For further study, Chris Voss provides a lot of insight here.
@6980869 Frankly, I think using 'and', rather than 'but' in a scenario such as this would ruin the spirit in which it was said. 'And' has a 'piling-on' connotation - this, this,this AND this... Whereas using 'but' here conveys, imo, a softer meaning. It implies an exception Using 'but' after explaining why implies ... 'but for those reasons...I would've wanted to go' (Jmo)😊
I am only half way into this and am in stitches! Thanks for putting words to my whole life philosophy and explaining why I am so lonely!;) we need more people like both of you!
My favourite of your interviews yet, and I’ve loved so many of them! What a phenomenal, alive, inspiring human being Martha is! I’m definitely going to listen again and make notes! Oh and I’ve just ordered A Lion Trackers Guide to Life! Can’t wait to read it! I’m South African so particularly keen to read the work of a fascinating fellow countryman! (I’ll be watching your interview with Boyd next, downloaded and ready for my drive tomorrow!) Thank you for a wonderful, honest, authentic and thoroughly interesting show, I’ve learnt so much by listening!
Conversation, connection and explorations between 2 of my favorite people 🙏🏻 This was a treat for the heart 💝 so expanding!!! Thank you both for sharing your genius, insights and care! Thanks you for all you go through being you, and then chosing to share the gems 💎 along the way as you track your path. Wow! 🙏🏻 Please, do have Martha on again Tim! This connection and exploration was fire 🔥
Loved this interview so much! Immediately afterward, I started listening to the audiobook, The Way of Integrity. It doesn't disappoint and I LOVE Dr. Martha Beck's narration.
Hi guys, thank you for your interest in my story and my understanding of how changing your language changes your life and aligns you with yourself. It started for me with a family separation that gave me the opportunity to ask myself some very solid questions of what could I have done differently. The answers pointed me towards my my lack of actively stepping up in life as well as speaking up An example would be when someone you care about friend, partner or child being in a position of defending themselves and I didn't say something to help... Or when I didn't want to be in a relationship but stayed due to fear of change of hurting someone else etc... I found that looking back I had to be more authentic I created a very important saying "We have gone to school for a very long time to learn how to spell.. We should then be casting them more correctly" That saying alone is very powerful It incorporates the fact the all words have vibration and cause an effect at a quantum level It also shows the how we have been misled by the word spell as being how to write a word. Whereas it it actually referring to casting a spell and how powerful every word we think and speak is.. especially to ourselves Bad self talk is extremely bad spelling for health, self love and keeps you holding yourself closed and not connected to yourself and the outer world. It also adds a lot of confusion the can last your whole life. Leaving you never aligned with reality and yourself.. There is a lot more to add but I'll leave it there for now and wait for more questions
Thank you, for this beautiful conversation. Just love listening to Martha Beck. Have her book "Way to Integrity"...even have her on my vision-action board, as a reminder to integrate her concept of Integrity, in my life and relationships.
Most intersting amazing stream of subconsciousness I have witnessed. alien siblings finding each other after several lifetimes apart - Eternally grateful to be allowed to witness this.
Interesting story about how making decisions based on feelings can cause destruction. Avoiding suffering brings short term pleasure not long term joy. Being able to endure difficulty makes you stronger. This pleasure seeking society is making us weak.
I am throughly enjoying this podcast. "Finding my joy" appears to me the essence of a truthful (true to yourself) life. I am considering embarking on a MA in Classics based on The Great Books. My hesitation (fear) concerns my lack of a rigorous writing experience. I feel that I will not be able to "do the work" of writing the required essays in an A level form. I have A BS from Grand Canyon U. and several AA degrees in Xray & Ultrasound. I am a retired Army officer and my JOY has always been reading, almost anything and everything. My focus has always been The Great Books. Mortimer Adler is my intellectual muse. I am fascinated by his written output and his verbal ability to explain things to a layperson. My "ASK" is what do you recommend to free my block?
I don’t know if Tim will answer you, but I have the feeling that he could recommend “the war of art” by Stephen Pressfield. He’s got a podcast with him by the way and credit it like a great anti procrastination (and more) book. Good luck!
This was just awesomeness stacked on top of awesomeness! Thank you for all that you do Tim, and thanks to Martha for doing the show. Lots of profound things have been said during this show. Aloha😘😄
Found myself googling nearby equestrian center. Will definitely be enjoying the magic of liminal states more from now on, every day starts and ends with one, and there are so many more to catch. Thank you for this delightful conversation: you two are splendidly extraordinary creatures!
Wow.. what a fascinating person, she is.., what a tour de force! I had a blast listening to this. Thank you both!, for the back & forth. Now I'm going to listen to it again, :P , and most definitely check out some of the books you mentioned, throughout. Kudos from Portugal
Leaf blowers drive me nuts too 🤬 Key takeaways: - “Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic” (Arthur C. Clarke), what seems like “uneducated” indigenous magic might be a technology we don’t understand - Do things that give you (embodied) joy and energy, follow those tracks -Speak no lies, don’t say yes to things you don’t want to do and instead reframe to things you do want -Everything we yearn for is a feeling state
I have had such a connection with you Tim, 4 hr body. Changed my life, you still keep my energy supper engaged. I totally feel that you both may be “my tribe”. Getting book..Trickster? I have had a few experiences that may fit into Right Side…will be many show notes..I read Lion Tracker…because of your recommendation again a long time ago. Life lifting as well…will read again. Grateful to the max
It’s true. You speak truth and they go away. OR if narcissistic, they try to stay in just enough to cause chaos IF you don’t set a boundaries immediately
@kathie8742 Yah...Im gonna order that book too. I listened to that podcast and ❤ it. In fact, shared it with my son, who loved it as well. I was all enthused about getting Lion Tracker then, and just forgot all about it🙄 P.S.. If you didn't catch that podcast...it was a few yrs ago, should still be up. Yah...he's a master storyteller. I was mesmerized. 🤩 ( wish that Tim had linked it here. I want to hear it again...now will have to hunt for it🙄
Being unashamed to just be... Providing it is honest, good, and kind (of course!). Fun vibes! Ps. Have had a 1minute charcoal up framed for a while, was thinking to move onto something else. It’s no “work of art”, but a good reminder that art school ain’t for wimps. Really enjoyed. Thank you!! 💫
Living with integrity is a very Japanese principle stemming from Buddhism. Canada is also known for their honesty. Americans would change their country by embracing truthfulness and shunning leaders who lie and judges who do not hold them accountable.
Shame, Tim also wants to find his 'species' woman! He will I'm certain of it. Wow !! What an episode ! There is soooo much here. One incredible concept after the other. I absolutely loved this.
I find her riveting. Frustrated that just when she was on to something that could have been elaborated, a question which didn't seem to flow brought it off track. Hoping for a sequel.
