The Astonishing Truth About Your Identity

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The key to living your greatest fulfillment and your highest potential is found in understanding your identity. Watch the video to learn more!
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This channel is about giving you the understandings, the mindsets, tools, processes and techniques of mastering your life so you can take charge and live the life of your desires and values.
NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming has created an incredible foundation for me in my pursuit of mastering my life, which is why I teach it in my self improvement trainings and apply it when I do life coaching or help people with their businesses. NLP is a powerful model that will help you accelerate your results. It's also the ultimate state management toolkit.
Ever wonder where Tony Robbins got his understandings of human behavior and influence? NLP was a major part of his education as a self improvement guru.
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@JaiviEsatiqis Год назад

Replay: Takeaway: My self concept is the sum total of all of my beliefs about myself. If I don't believe myself to be in accordance with the values that I espouse, I will feel badly about who I perceive myself to be, resulting in negative confidence. This is my first time trying to learn NLP and I'm really enjoying how it's removing limitations that I could not previously articulate out of fear of rejection from, for instance, group belief systems that I had taken on for what I perceived I needed at that time.

@DamonCart Год назад

Unfortunately very few people are teaching this in the NLP arena.

@stanislavapertlikova9410 Год назад

Watching from replay I have realised that I have never considered a possibility that I could be a succesful person, even that succes could be something that I'd value because it sounds like something that I am worth it. It's not in my role to be succesful. That I am here to support others to be succesful but not me. That explain why I feel most of my life as such a failure because I cannot even succeed on supporting others if I hold such a belief. So maybe it is a time that I could allow myself to change this belief and I can do so by changing the perception on my life and look for the evidence of my success. And there are many. Thank you

@stanislavapertlikova9410 Год назад

I meant to say, that I feel that I am not worht it (the success). It won't let me to edit the comment

@colingeddes2792 Год назад

Replay. Take away - by reorganizing and highlighting my past experiences that align with my values, I can change my self/identity. If I want to be successful, let me itemize the instances where I had success and have them at the forefront, rather than any instances where I had failure. Don't let the past experiences of failure stick in the list/timeline of that value.

@theelizardqueen Год назад

This reminds me of how I recently learned from my college about a "growth mindset" vs. a "fixed mindset"

@manifestation_queen_christine 8 месяцев назад

Takeaway: the resistant part was keeping me safe from discouragement. Wants success & happiness. New role is to cheer me on and remind me that people LOVE my work & content

@DamonCart 8 месяцев назад

Beautiful

@argyribriels Год назад

Replay: Hey Damon, I am sooo greatful for what your are doing here. I think it helped me extremely fast with my journey in healing limiting beliefs and following my dream of organising group workshops for neurodiverse women. I try to watch everything you put out here because it is so valuable to me. Lots of love too you and all your helpers! ❤️🙏 Argyri from Belgium

@DamonCart Год назад

Thank you. Really appreciate your comment.

@ron250k 4 месяца назад

Replay...I know when i review my experiences....the negatives tend to stand out. I think (believe) this is conditioning from childhood, parents specifically my mom. Extremely loving and generous yet disciplined and held us (kids) to some high standards, which is not a bad thing. However she did focus on the negative more then the positive. I attribute this to growing up during the depression, going through world war 2...moving from Europe to North America to make a better life....Life was a struggle was the recurring message...because at that time (50's) it was.

@oohlalascateringservice7679 26 дней назад

Takeaway: I am one continuous stream of consciousness and I choose which experiences impact me most. Knowing I can restructure experiences to change what I believe about myself is monumental. I swear I'm kicking down the door of who it is I think I am vs who it is I REALLY AM. Lonely times ahead as this inner work can't have spectators

@DamonCart 26 дней назад

It doesn't have to be lonely. There are plenty of others doing the same work.

@rebeccateseneer1166 Год назад

Replay Takeaway: ALL my beliefs about anything first start with the beliefs about myself. This teaching will be replayed again and again. So very good!

@fabman101fabman5 Год назад

Replay, Super important info. Thanks

@brendaarnold9090 Год назад

WoW WOW WOW, YOU R A GEM! ❤

@DamonCart Год назад

Thank you.

@MrWilliamPorter 10 месяцев назад

Become the qualities that you value. Reorganize your experiences so that you change your beliefs about your so that they align with your values.

@lesleebowman2861 Год назад

Replay: feel better. -Belief that you can change your qualities

@93_93Love_Will Год назад

... ❤amazing post , just straight Love your throwing down. Thank you again Damon. -Victor Dean

@evelynsnell2293 4 месяца назад

Replay. Thank you!

@DamonCart 4 месяца назад

You're welcome.

@tatianapouladian7901 Год назад

Replay - my beliefs about myself are only the generalization of my past experiences.

@brockmiller574 Год назад

Replay. Thank you for this information.

@DamonCart Год назад

You're welcome.

@danielblake8255 Год назад

Class

@jeanettecouldry1611 Год назад

Replay. Thank you Damon

@waynehutchison4874 Год назад

Replay Revision. Takeaway Identity Level is so useful

@babayada Год назад

Replay. Take away: When you said it could be one million times *worse* I was like, holy crap! It could be! Made me very grateful for the imperfect but thankfully pretty good database of experiences and sets of qualities I currently have. Going to keep on working on those qualities as I go through the program.

@DamonCart Год назад

Did I say a million times worse? Are you referring to when I said, whoever you perceive yourself to be right now is only 1, 1 millionth of possibilities of who you could be?

@babayada Год назад

@@DamonCart Yes. You said it could be in either direction, good or bad... And I was like, @_@, OMG, it *can* be.

@bodhitrent192 Год назад

Replay. SO MUCH to take in and work with. Definitely need to watch these again to clarify my takeaways! Lol I have noticed that the beginning of your talk is cut off on all the videos I've watched... Don't know how much you've said before the videos start, but they all start in the middle of a sentence. I've said this before, and I feel the need to say it again, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for all of the knowledge you gift to us! Once I change my reality and am actively creating the income I imagine and hope for (*post day 5 video, authentic edit* OH NO! Scratch that! Change "hope for" to "intend"! Then I'm not using hope as a value! 😉) Regardless, my point was that I'm definitely signing up for your program at some point in the future, and will see you then!! Until then, I will continue to work with what you offer to the world for free through your channel. This may seem like a corny statement, but I also feel it's complete truth to say that you are an angel given to us by the Universe. Truly a being of light. And I can't begin to tell you how much I appreciate the teachings you give us!!!

@DamonCart Год назад

Thank you so much for the kind words. Really appreciate it and I'm glad you're finding this so useful. Yes, I noticed that my words got cut off from the first few videos. It was only a few words per video. You didn't really miss anything.

@omneyahamdy7240 Год назад

Hope you got better soon ! Love it 👍👍

@DamonCart Год назад

Yes, I have healed. Thank you.

@rickboiardimindshiftingaca6975 Год назад

Replay Biggest takeaway - I’m moving towards my values. Memories come up from the past where I didn’t live my values. Those memories allow me to takeaway learnings and move towards living my values.

@MaryKayRanger Год назад

Speedy healing! 🙏💙

@GLI4U 4 месяца назад

Replay...thank you!

@DamonCart 4 месяца назад

You're welcome.

@ConorSantry 7 месяцев назад

Replay! Biggest takeaway - the power of becoming/embodying your values

@bluepearl4806 Год назад

Replay, Dear Damon I am Soo so sorry for your injury♥️ I wish you heal soon and be freed from all those pain❤️🙏

@DamonCart Год назад

Thank you. I'm doing alright.

@bluepearl4806 Год назад

@@DamonCart I am glad to hear this hope you heal soon🙏🙏🙏🙏

@bluepi3104 9 месяцев назад

Replay. Once again, this is amazing. The beliefs you have about yourself are your reality. We can transform at the identity level. *Boom

@shilpask4201 8 месяцев назад

I appreciate you, Sir, for the way u maintain your state despite the discomfort 👏👏 and do correct me to know with what we are identified as, we need to start collaborating with our feelings, with a situation or people's behavior or things we are dealing with??!! And, with a verbal package and NLP techniques!!

@eviemoore1756 Год назад

replay, then going to watch the replay again. Still unsure of how qualities fit in. Thanks

@DamonCart Год назад

Qualities are the, both negative and positive, aspects of who you are. They are generalizations you make about yourself based on your experiences.

@justinrobinson9583 Год назад

Replay; Your identity is one big generalization..which is based on many generalizations..which can call qualities. Will have to dissect and reflect on this one. Thank you Damon!

@DamonCart Год назад

You're welcome.

@paulhornsey-pennell1931 Год назад

Replay: 'HOW DO I CREATE THE MEANING OF ME?" .... that has to be possibly the most intriguing question anyone can ask about themselves ... loved this. i genuinely find myself getting excited when i consider what you are saying, like there is a "truth" that i can finally access. one thing i noticed in your first example of if i believe i live in a hostel world then i must believe that i am a victim ... can one not live in a hostile world and still thrive? terrific session thanks.

@DamonCart Год назад

It depends on what else you believe about the world and yourself. The example I gave is just a way to explain how your beliefs about the world are informed by your beliefs about yourself.

@SandyAVideos Год назад

Replay - had a bit of a OMG moment today. I want to change from being X to being Y. But I'm not comfortable today being totally, full-on Y at this moment in time. I am however, comfy with being a bit more Y than I currently am. So by re-organising my examples, I can move towards being more Y and still work on my resistance so I can move closer to Y in the future (when it feels comfy to do so). I've been a bit black and white in my thinking, either I am Y or I'm not. Middle ground here I come :) And thank you for your team's email support in the background, it's appreciated.

@elskar1 9 месяцев назад

Replay.thank you🙏I hope your ribs are all better!!🙂

@DamonCart 9 месяцев назад

Yes, they are. Thank you for the well wish.

@elskar1 9 месяцев назад

@@DamonCart I’m glad to hear that! 🥰

@emmyn2060 2 месяца назад

Ваши убеждения о чем-либо основаны на ваших убеждениях о себе. Трансформировав ваши убеждения о себе, вам будет казаться, что ваша реальность поменялась, и ваши убеждения об окружающем мире также поменяются. Это не просто мимолетные чувства или состояния, которые временны и быстро улетучиваются, но это то, кем вы являетесь, это ваши новые трансформированные качества, которые вы будете нести с собой всюду, и вы не будете прежним... Это самая мощная техника для трансформации себя, которую я когда-либо встречал в своей жизни, касательно НЛП и касательно психологии.

@DamonCart 2 месяца назад

I don't speak this language.

@emmyn2060 2 месяца назад

@@DamonCart I know) but my English is not so good. I thought you can translate by Google

@DamonCart 2 месяца назад

@@emmyn2060 is it Russian?

@emmyn2060 Месяц назад

@@DamonCart Yes, it is.

@itsgorac Год назад

Watching replay

@marzy__ 10 месяцев назад

Replay: work on your self concept = change everything

@triciacarlson341 Год назад

Replayed:)

@santasnorthpolechallenge2020 Год назад

Big takeaways listen to the replay. Our beliefs about ourselves form our identities. We can’t lie to ourselves and expect it to change our beliefs. It will cause an internal conflict. You go to war with yourself over the lie you expect your subconscious to believe

@Tammymolinelli Год назад

Replay!!

@williamsrodriguez700 11 месяцев назад

Replay July 2023 Thanks

@DamonCart 11 месяцев назад

You're welcome.

@MaryKayRanger Год назад

Replay 🥰

@manmeetmakkar 3 месяца назад

Replay. Can you please share video link of contrastive analysis

@DamonCart 3 месяца назад

I'm not quite sure what you're referring to. You can post a timestamp in the video of when I referred to it. Also, check the description above these comments and below the video. What you're looking for might be there.

@lynnscholes1617 Год назад

I always enjoy and learn things from your content. However to introduce such an powerful and foundational concept and then say the only way to work on this is to signup for your 18 month course isn’t helpful. To simplify it into small steps that those that aren’t able to join your course , would enable us to start the journey and begin the transformational. It would also align to your value that making a difference is more important than making a fortune. Get well soon

@DamonCart Год назад

That's what all of these lives are about. They're all free to everyone.

@babayada Год назад

I had this same thought a while back, Lynn. I bit the hook and joined the program. In all fairness, I see Damon doing what he can, realistically. Unfortunately, it really isn't something that I see most people doing without support from others who have experience and proper training in it. You can go a long way solo, for sure. There are, at the same time, bumps in the road that are navigated well with the help of others who have traveled and are traveling along the same path. I see that Damon is doing what he can. In the program there is a very clear structure, very cogent and clear video lectures, demonstrations, and an entire community supporting you in a variety of mediums including social media and zoom meetings... And there are a lot of people available to meet and support at many times and days during the week. And everyone is at different levels and we are all rooting for each other and sharing and helping. It's a beautiful thing, really. I had some of the best and most magical experiences of my life at NLP Comprehensive run by the Andreases. While this isn't a month of face to face in the beautiful Colorado mountain at Winter Park... It's pretty damned good. It's the kind of work that does take a long time with the support of a community.

@kevindowney3139 Год назад

Replay .speedy recovery with your ribs

@DamonCart Год назад

Thank you.

@mariaalcantar1231 Год назад

Replay. 😊

@EnglishwithAlan Год назад

oh noooo. get better soon. that sounds really rought.

@donnatidmarsh9350 5 месяцев назад

My takeaway. My perception of myself is based on information I have gathered throughout my life and organised into generalisations that become my personality. Watch your thoughts; They become words. Watch your words; They become actions. Watch your actions; They become habits. Watch your habits; They become your character. Watch you character; It becomes your Destiny. Lao Tzu

@donnatidmarsh9350 5 месяцев назад

If I may quote the late, great Wayne Dyer "If you change the way you look at the world, the way the world looks changes" Thank you Damon. I watched the replay xx

@DamonCart 5 месяцев назад

You're welcome.

@bernadettkoltai3565 Год назад

replay 🙂

@EnglishwithAlan Год назад

I get this one a very real level. my trouble is that I really do believe I'm worthwhile and that I have something valuable to contribute. for someone, that's countered by a belief that OTHERS don't believe that about me, and it gets in the way of my being successful and following my values. I've told others this, including therapists and coaches and they never seem to know what to do with it.

@DamonCart Год назад

How do others get in your way of being successful and living your values?

@EnglishwithAlan Год назад

@@DamonCart hmm. Good question. I guess when I present my talents and gifts and even myself to people as a potential asset for them to use and for us to collaborate with, they rarely seem to value what it is I’m offering. It’s like they don’t see the value I see and offer. Friends are always telling me I’m talented in various ways, but the people who could help me make something more of my life don’t seem interested.

@DamonCart Год назад

@@EnglishwithAlan sounds like you're depending too much on the validation of others. Your personal values are yours to validate. Other people can give you feedback, but you decide if it's useful or not for the fulfillment of your values.

@EnglishwithAlan Год назад

@@DamonCart that’s been something I’ve been aware of for a few years now. I just don’t know how to change it. Big reason I’m excited about your series here.

@elskar1 9 месяцев назад

This all sounds amazing and I’m really interested and at the same time I’m curious to know with the reference to 18 months in learning this how that came up? I’m not Quite sure I’ve got all that time to learn all these things, as amazing as it sounds

@DamonCart 9 месяцев назад

What is more important to you than transforming into the person you need to be in order to live the fulfilling life you want to live? What else is more worth your time than that?

@elskar1 9 месяцев назад

@@DamonCart spot on! I actually asked myself what I would do if I won the lottery? A lot of good deeds came up and I know what I would do when it came to me… What would I invest in and it would be something similar to this where I had all the time in the world and didn’t have to worry about other commitments or money, and I could just embark on all of the above. You might be saying well what’s stopping you in this busy world where there’s so much going on ?😀 that’s a short answer for now, because I can’t see your reply, even though I try to scroll up

@DamonCart 9 месяцев назад

@@elskar1 there are millions of things we can blame for distracting us from living the life that will truly transform you into who you want to be. Some distraction is necessary, but it really is a matter of how distracted will you allow yourself to be from what's most important?

@elskar1 9 месяцев назад

@@DamonCart true and that will require motivation and discipline also What I need to give up sugar comforts..

@DamonCart 9 месяцев назад

@@elskar1 you can make major changes in your life by making minor changes in the way you think. What is motivation? It's not something that comes and goes with the wind and you're only luck if it lands on you randomly. It's also not something you have to conjure. All motivation is is clarity about what you want and what having what you want will do for you. In other words, when you know your values, you won't have to search or wait for motivation. Relying on discipline is a sure way to fail and make yourself feel terrible about it. If you use discipline and you succeed, the success will feel empty. I explain more in this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KMe2hnyjzuA.html

@user-sm7tx9bt8n 3 месяца назад

How can I get info on 18 month training?

@DamonCart 3 месяца назад

Reach out to my associate Henning at henning@selfconcept.com and let him know you're interested.

@grantsparkescarroll Год назад

thanks deep diving into your content, @damoncart Do values fit into qualities? self-esteem (feeling) self-concept (identity) qualities (values?) experience (categorise)

@DamonCart Год назад

Yes. A value is a generalization about experiences that are important to you. A quality is a generalization you make about yourself based on your behavior, as in an aspect of who you are (identity). When you behave in alignment with a value, you experience self-esteem. In other words, you like yourself. When you possess the qualities you value, you sustain a stable and healthy self-esteem. For example, I can value happiness but if I value happiness and I don't believe I'm a happy person, there will be suffering. If I value happiness and I truly believe I'm a happy person, not only do I get to enjoy being a happy person, I also get to enjoy valuing myself for being a happy person. Values and qualities share the same names so it can be confusing for some people at first to understand this but once you get it, you'll understand the difference. You can value creativity and also be a creative person, as another example.

@grantsparkescarroll Год назад

@@DamonCart thank you! It seems like the levels are more flexible than the neurological levels framework. You compared them in another video which had the content embedded in the NL and seemed more forced. Although I liked that model, I can see the problems. This LL model tries to capture how an upper level is impacted in the way we categorize the level below. The levels are more flexible but you still make meaning of things based on more concrete ideas below. Have I got it? The feelings at the top I wasn't sure about, ie surely our identity is not influenced by how we feel? But maybe so? Is it more a confirmation if it sits well with us or not, and if not, it's a sign or flag, that we are not being congruent with our values so it needs to be addressed in a level below?

@DamonCart Год назад

@@grantsparkescarroll I'm not sure what you mean by flexible. NL is not a real NLP model and for me it created more problems than it solved. With the Self-Concept Model, it becomes obvious that how we feel about ourselves is not going to be determined necessarily by how we want to feel or saying affirmations. We need to go to the structure of our beliefs about ourselves to make changes that will result in feeling differently, in feeling the way we want to feel about ourselves. In order to know what that is, we turn to our values. Our identity is determined consciously by how we feel and more unconsciously based on what we believe about ourselves. I might want to be a happy and successful person, but if I feel like I am not, there's a good chance I never will be no matter how much success I have and no matter how many things I do that make most people happy because I don't feel that way. Yes, if something doesn't feel right, it probably means what you believe about yourself doesn't align with your values. Also it could mean that something needs to be integrated. All parts of you are trying to fulfill a positive intention (value), but sometimes our parts become disconnected. Even though they're serving the same master, you and your fulfillment, sometimes the parts aren't communicating so they're working against each other, which is what we call an internal conflict.

@grantsparkescarroll Год назад

@@DamonCart Great thanks! btw I did mean and agree that LL is more flexible than NL (not the other way round), sorry for the lack of clarity. I agree with you and that it has issues (NL). Ive been trying on the LL framework over the weekend and think it is great. Thanks for your replies

@abelgebre4332 Год назад

replay.

@danaburks6285 9 месяцев назад

Replay…. ❤

@vidhuchaudharypersonal 5 месяцев назад

Replay.

@333tammuz 6 месяцев назад

Replayin

@janelennon7701 3 месяца назад

Replay 🎉

@manmeetmakkar 3 месяца назад

Wish u are fine from your ribs issue

@DamonCart 3 месяца назад

Yes I'm all healed now. Thank you.

@CalmLisa Год назад

Replay 🎉🎉

@lesleebowman2861 Год назад

Replay

@emmyn2060 2 месяца назад

Удивительная правда о своей личности. Это реально удивительно..

@DamonCart 2 месяца назад

I don't speak this language.

@GaryC308 Год назад

replay

@bleeone Год назад

Skip the jiu jitsu. A brush up on your sleight of mouth technique might help you usefully presuppose the nested frames of human experience… where identity is the sum of one’s beliefs structure. Beliefs are structured like a giant bowl of full big, red, juicy, delicious cherries. Dig in DEEP and grab one from the bottom to alter the structure and affect the slightest changes on all the rest. Let that integrate. Repeat. ID level reimprinting is possible however rarely integrates for lasting change.

@DamonCart Год назад

No I'm not going to skip BJJ. You're just using a metaphor, not nested loops. Hire a new coach if reimprinting hasn't worked for you.

@bleeone Год назад

@@DamonCart Krav Maga is the juice. I used a simile, not a metaphor to effectively elicit response. Although I’m really curious what these ‘nested loops’ are that you mention, I was referring to the nested frames (I.e. Russian dolls) of human experience- from identity spanning outward through our beliefs, behavior, and external stimuli. There’s a quantum holographic level to it as well, however it may only be useful to one’s practice after integration of masters level work. Speaking of which, reimprinting, is an incredibly useful tool for changework; it’s important to remember that the tiniest shifts often elicited the most significant changes and that the inverse was probably true as well, especially as it refers to lasting change.

@BetteUlla Год назад

Replay 🙂

@MsKHADIJA2 9 месяцев назад

English is not my mother tounge. Is it possible to have subtitles?

@DamonCart 9 месяцев назад

All of my videos have Closed Captioning. It's the CC down at the bottom of the screen. The auto-generated subtitles are usually quite accurate.

@julier6806 Год назад

replay :)

@jyotsnamohanta Год назад

REPLAY

@AmandaMG6 Год назад

I have a little hiccup with my "known" trait. I only know I'm smart bc an IQ test got me in to Mensa. Hahah. Fact based. How do I map something when I only accept proof like this?

@DamonCart Год назад

Open the scope of your definition of what it means to be smart and allow in more examples.

@AmandaMG6 Год назад

@@DamonCart oh boy. Okay. I'll scrape and see what I find. Thx!