00:00 Intro 01:07 1. Expect nothing in return 02:26 2. Always say less than necessary 03:54 3. The most valuable resource is time 04:56 4. Expect the taxes of life 07:04 5. 3 Lessons from Tim Ferriss 8:08 6. 3 Lessons from Robert Greene 8:54 7. 3 Lessons from George Raveling 09:52 8. 3 Lessons from Marcus Aurelius
Dude, you have no idea the impact you’ve had in my life. This past month was a disaster and my mantra was “ the obstacle is the way” and low and behold I’ve used alive time to change my narrative. You’re a GD a hero!
The beautiful thing about stoicism is that it isn't a single person; it's an idea. It's a practice. Ryan didn't do it, he gave you the idea, YOU did the rest.
1. Expect nothing in return - Your job is to come up with ideas, so other people can acknowledge and use your idea - Everything else is extra 2. Always say less than necessary - Don’t interject discussions from other people; you could also try to learn something without trying to say something in the conversation “2 ears in 1 mouth.” - Zeno - We should listen a lot more than we talk Try to ask yourself: 1. Is it what I’m about to say, does it actually mean to be said? 2. Why am I saying and what’s my motivation to saying something? 3. Are the words I want to say an actual important and meaningful contribution? 4. Am I feeling insecure or uncertain that my nervousness is driving me to say something that is not to my or anyone’s benefit? 3. The most valuable resource is time > “It’s wrong to think of death as something in the future.” - Seneca - Every minute passes, and everyday we’re slowly dying - How you spend your time is literally how you spend your life. - Death is everywhere - it’s a passage of time - That’s why you have to live your life and take your time accordingly 4. Expect the taxes of life - There are taxes everywhere: - Tax of having a RU-vid channel - Tax of gossiping - Tax of having children - If you want the income you want, you have to, sooner or later, pay the taxes that come with it - It costs what it costs and there’s no use crying about it “I pay the taxes of life gladly.” - Seneca 5. 3 Lessons from Tim Ferriss 1. Look at what an hour of your time is worth and then try to pay people to do anything that’s less than that amount - It feels reckless to pay people, but time is only non-renewable resource, so the spend it on doing things you’re not good at, is a complete waste of time 2. Think of everything as an experiment - If you think about any change in your life (moving to another city, dropping college, quitting your job...), see it as an experiment 3. You don’t have to be first, you just have to do thing really well - Tim Ferriss wasn’t the first person to start a blog, to start a podcast - You have to do things better than most people and eventually quality will its audience 6. 3 Lessons from Robert Greene 1. Mastery requires a long apprenticeship - Through painfult trial and error or under a great master, it takes a very lot time - The education phase of it is the longest period 2. Life can be defined by a life-time or dead-time - The question you should be asking is are you learning and getting better or are you killing time - Always focus on how we could use the moment in front of us 3. Understand how people are acting in the world and the forces that make them do what they do - Even if you want to be a good person, if you want to be nice and friendly and generous, you have the understand the laws of power (how people react to certain things around them) 7. 3 Lessons from George Raveling 1. There’s money and freedom in books - The slave masters used to keep money in books because they thought the slaves would never read them - There’s a reason powerful people don’t want you to read 2. Are you going to be a positive difference maker today? - A question by George Raveling 3. You can learn from anyone - You can learn from: - People who are younger than you - People who live different lives than you - Even if you disagree with them, you can learn from them and understand their way of thinking 8. 3 Lessons from Marcus Aurelius 1. It’s not what happens, it’s how we respond to what happens - The impediment of action leads us to allows us an opportunity to move forward, to try a different action 2. Ask yourself at every moment: Is this essential? Do I really need to do this? - When you do less, you get the double benefit of doing less better 3. Exercise of Memento Mori - You could live life right now, which determines what you do say and think - Let every action, every decision, every thought be that of a dying person - When you think about life that way, it gives you urgency, clarity and what actually matters
I came up with this, "Just because you don't "get" anything from anyone doesn't mean you're not worth anything. You "get" your behavior, your actions, your honor, your virtues. No one can take that from you and only you can give it to yourself." Being married to a narcissist helps me to realize this, because I'm not getting anything from her.
I watch and rewatch your videos.. at age 63 i need this. Motivation to keep working and finding the way to be successful today. I did not prepare for retirement... it's hard and thank you again for these reminders of the wisdom of the great stoics.
Since my friend told you for you, I listen to you every day and I must say how grateful I am for your sharing wisdom of stoic and your point of view . Life is easier, when I listen to you. I can not bielive, that such a young man has so much wisdom and knowledge. I heard that your grand father is from Slovenia and so am I. So you have once visited Slovenia as I hear.
Time is the only thing that can't be put in your back pocket till your ready to use it. This ONE minutes witll never return, it's gone, forever. Thanks Ryan for all you do. Love your emails. Morning is coffee and Daily Stoic 🗝♥
At 8:52 you say you have to "understand people and the forces that make them do what they do" and *just* then your child scurried by in the background! As a parent of 4, I find that SO beautiful!
I like the fact that You always give references to others like Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, other philosophers and other great people. You are a genuine man.
Here’s the butterfly effect. I listen to your short snippet RU-vid clip. I look up all the authors you mentioned learning three things from. I endeavour to also learn three things from them. I make changes to improve my short, valuable life. You live in Texas USA. I live in Perth, Western Australia. We are worlds apart. Ergo-you have just changed the world in some way.
Thanks for not dropping any "S" bombs. I love to share your videos with my high school/ middle school students. We love your work. That is your job! Great advice.
Dear Ryan, I fortunately bumped into your RU-vid video, “Ego is the Enemy”. I just can’t stop listening. It’s so powerful and brilliant. Can’t comprehend how so much wisdom is packed in such a very young man; and I am 65 years old, don’t have such ability. Thanks so much Ryan. May you have long life, and more wisdom to continue changing the world. Ps. Can you send me, “Daily Stoic”?
The answer you seek is in your statment. The "mistakes" are in the PAST. Mistakes become lessons with a shift in perception. Only if you fail to learn from it, it was a mistake. There is nothing good or bad. Only thinking (judgment) that makes it so. The Devil (guilt) keeps showing you the past, to keep You from seeing your future. Even with best efforts "mistakes" happen. They don't go away with age (time). They only go away with Wisdom, which comes from learning from "mistakes". The process is cyclical and ongoing. Think of Mental Alchemy. Changing a base metal into gold is metaphorical. Changing a mistake into a lesson is invaluable. Love and appreciate your mistakes for the Nugget of gold within.... Hope this helps. Also know that my words may not reflect what Marcus Aurelius or Ryan would say....
I think you can only accept that you made mistakes in the past. But, as the other commenter said, these mistakes are in the PAST. You can only try to not make mistakes in the present, the now. All we have is right now. I am trying right now to understand and accept and let go of the past. I think. I'm not sure, but I'm working on grasping the concepts here.
MissyQ12345 I keep finding myself making the same mistakes even though I’m striving for “right action” I keep making the same mistakes and I’m suffering the consequences of my actions.
@@qsdailydose8970 I can relate to you. I don't have an answer, but I am just trying to change ONE habit that is better e.g., instead of phone scrolling, I'm trying to read - it's BORING AS HELL but I forgot how to read, I was an avid book worm, I literally worked only so I could afford to buy books. NOT a mistake, but I am just changing one habit. Best of luck, it's hard but one day you will get sick of making the same mistake and it will just put you off! I hope things are slightly different for you!
Have heard these things so many times from Ryan over the years, but I heard them again today and I still found something that helped me sort some things out.
Death is an experience in life where we only get to experience once, but when you experience a near death encounter its like the same, and it makes you realize a lot in your life suddenly you remembered your goals, dreams you had.
Thanks to Ryan Holiday I practice, read, and live the "Stoic Life" as best I can daily. I work to control the things I can and leave the things I can't control to their nature. It is a terrific way to beat stress and focus on what is essential in your life.
Ryan, this stuff is pure gold. I follow you to learn from you, and here you are passing on what you have learned from others. To me that's pretty cool. p.s. I am 62 and you are one of my mentors, and I have read most of your books.
Sometimes it’s best to remain quiet and let others wonder about your intelligence, than open your mouth and remove all doubt… Some guy smarter than me.
It's interesting hearing about your supervisor pulling you aside and asking you to consider whether or not you really needed to speak in that meeting. I had the opposite when I was an intern. My supervisor used to strongly ENCOURAGE me TO speak up at every meeting we went to - e.g. ask a question. The more "important" the people we were meeting, the more he encouraged me to speak out! I remember thinking at the time - but surely it's better to only ask a genuine question, and that it seemed crazy to try to make one up just to have something to say. But thinking about it now, I was very shy and quiet then, and wouldn't have dared to ask even a burning question without that encouragement. I'm glad he made me. It really helped build my confidence to speak out. And now, ~15yrs later, I have the confidence to speak/ask when I need to BUT importantly, I now have the choice to speak or not. I really admire people who listen a lot, and when they do speak, it's really considered and interesting to listen too. Watching this is making me want to double down on this years resolution - speak less, listen more!!
Started reading Holidays book and then found his channel, website and daily/weekly passages. Always worth listening to the insight. Great work Mr Holiday!
As far as "stealing my ideas", I can see how one would worry about it sometimes. In today's work world one worries about getting replaced. When a coworker hears your ideas and puts them out there as their own, they may replace you.
Wholeee crap, that 1st bit is so true. I used to get super annoyed with friends using my ideas. I never thought about it the way you explained, how people adopt your ideas.
I usually quote my sources as most ideas are not my own. Found it to be counter productive. Just distracts from getting the point across in timely manor. Not exactly what you’re talking about but relevant. 🙏
The quote from Seneca and your Iron Maiden shirt remind me of the great lyrics to The Clairvoyant “there’s a time to live, but isn’t it strange, as soon as you’re born, you’re dying”. As a kid I just assumed that was morbid metal lyrics but it’s actually very true and wise.
I sent my two (young adult) children a link to this You Tube Easter masterclass instead of getting them Easter eggs. Awesome. The wisdom of the ages... AB
One of your best videos yet; thank you. One thing hit me huge. I’m not the biggest fan of Robert Green at times. He lets his politics seep through into his comments a bit and just rubs me the wrong way (He is brilliant though when it comes to Stoicism). When you mentioned George Raveling and one point was….”You can learn from anyone” and it hit me, that turning away from Greene would be detrimental to my growth. Bravo; great job. I’m not easy to impress…
ARGH: I just want to bottle up ALL your knowledge and the advice and all your videos and just have them play in my head while I'm driving or working! Oh right - I have RU-vid premium I can totally have your videos OFFLINE, I should do that!
Thank you Ryan🙏 I can only imagine the thought and time that went into compiling this video, worth keeping and rewatching! Your humility and authentic drive is inspiring!
Thank you for getting so vulnerable in a public forum. It takes a lot of courage to open yourself up to criticism. You have some beautiful ideas that resonate with many of my experiences and philosophies as a disabled veteran, chronic illness patient and addiction recovery advocate, and amateur philosopher. I wonder if you have ever studied Kierkegaard? Cheers!
Ryan, seeing as either you; via your daily journal, Marcus; via meditations, or my girlfriend. Because. Are usually the first or last people I talk to in a day. You should know she is now my fiancé. Do one thing everyday! Today was a doozy.
I had a little period where I would watch a video about stoicism every morning before going to school (I hate it there). Months later I realize how valuable that habbit was. I started just straight up not going to school for weeks on end because of how disgusting I feel when I go and I feel like things would have turned out differently if I kept the habbit of stoicism
Ryan, I brought all of this to a meeting where gas-lighting and cowardice to face truth filled the room. Keeping my cool (nothing is personal) enabled progress away from crazy town :-) I gladly paid the tax.
As a engineer student that might get a job to come up with ideas that also has adhd and can talk none stop like a waterfall I might wanna take notes. But yeah, a patent cost money and goes out for a reason, for the good of all humans.
I feel like anyone who attacks this channel is likely a fool, who is determined to remain one. "You can not learn that which you think you already know"-Epictetus
going to have to disagree on The talk less part. my quietness during meetings is often mistaken for timidness or not caring when I'm actually just listening and agreeing. unless you work in a workplace that is more sensitive to different types of communication styles, I find that in a lot of situations, you have to speak up even if it's something already reiterated. and whoever speaks louder, is "right" 🙄🙄
