The Concept Of Feeling Safe Changed My Life | Stacey Mason | TEDxCoventry 

I guess you have to pay to find out.

She is promoting her work, but you can find a lot of free resources if you want!! check out the video that I found.

If you're curious how to make yourself feel safe I can share my story of how I've worked on this with a therapist years ago, so my therapist Natalie taught me that to feel safe I can imagine in my head that I have gone to a past, to a place where I was years ago where I felt good (It can be a beach by the ocean, it can be a house of a friend, it can be a forest with squirrels and butterflies) so imagine you're in this place where you felt very good when you were a kid, now imagine what you would like to be holding in your hands (that can be a ball, a plush toy, a stick, a yoyo) , now imagine what you would like to do in that place (run around happily, just sit there and observe, or maybe lay down and stare at the clouds), now imagine who you would like to be by your side (it can be a friendly little dog, or cat, or your childhood friend or maybe your grandma) in your imagination you can pet that dog and play with it, or talk to your grandma while also playing with the toy you have in your hands, try to imagine all of that like it's a good dream that you're having at night, exept that this is your daydream, in this daydream you may water a flower or pet some animals, you may talk to someone you trust in your imagination, you may imagine talking to a guardian angel, some people like to think that they are talking to God or some other higher being, and other people feel more comfortable imagining that they are talking to their friend or grandparents and that's okay too. Choose whatever version of this that you feel comfortable with (you may add characters from movies to that imagination/fantasy of yours if you like) also if you're imagining a forest in your head it does help to actually do that outside in a garden or in a real forest, somewhere where you can hear the birds, and if you're imagining swimming in the sea than it helps if you do that in a bathtub or swimming pool. Make sure to stay hydrated and to breathe calmly during your fantasy and have a nice experience!!

Seeking Safety book by Lisa M. Najavits

How you getting on now? 💪🏻