The Connection the Addict Craves 

I agree (!!) This man's blowing me away w/such astute observations..perfectly delivered & correlated FOR listeners..w/o his great sewing skills, some points would've gotten "lost in translation" on me anyway:) ❤ Your "kaleidoscope" ref is truly brilliant, I appreciate you!

San Juan de la Cruz would approve it too. He was the one who coined "the Dark Night of the Soul " in his poetry. Even people who are not religious use that sentence for spiritual awakening.

I Absolutely agree with eveything you’ve written❤

💯% agreed, Tim Fletcher IS The BEST. As a mental health addiction recovery nurse and journey my own recovery, he expands upon every milestone we endure along an addicts journey to wellness. Plus at the end of each topic, he illustrates a moral or spiritual lesson, as told by Jesus in the Gospels, a parable ✝️🙏🏽💛

Emotional addiction is as powerful and as physiological as any addiction. Codepency is emotional addiction rooted in a fear of abandonment and it’s a full body visceral response.

THIS!!!

The Childhood Fairy does that very well, although I prefer Tim's way of putting things down is second to none on RU-vid.

He did when he talked about fantasy, oxytocine and getting distracted to avoid uncomfortable emotions. English is my second language but I have not found a translation in Spanish for limerance and enmeshment...I have lost so many skills since the final shock (finding out about narcissistic mothers and scapegoats) I don't think I would ever regain my memory and cognitive skills. My mother destroyed almost everything what was good in me, except for that piece of my soul I'm hanging on.

​@@frizzyrascal1493 Tim has a way to explain cptsd that covered all aspects of it. The only thing is that is more oriented to alcohol and drugs recovery but I also like his spiritual approach.

@@Lyrielonwind Thanks for your response. I will try to find his teaching on that. I'm struggling too. What encourages me is that the brain is plastic, meaning it can be changed, healed and grow new neurons and pathways until we die even in old age. It takes hard work but if we're determined to improve our brain and soul and spirit and body, all will be better. You're not alone and you're a overcomer!

@@appleofhiseye104 Thanks for your comforting words. I have been studying for five years about psychology. First in Spanish but I find more knowledge in English. I can tell you some interesting authors: Alice Miller, Gabor Mate, Pete Walker (From surviving to thriving), Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk (The body keeps the score). I have been doing EMDR, mindfulness and now studying TRE (Trauma Release Exercises) and somatic theory. You might know them already but, just in case. I understand you can't change your thinking pattern and core beliefs in a few weeks but I am discouraged... this is so slow and the worst thing is I can't find healthy friendships. Anyway, I hope you are doing better than me. I wish I could have found out about my mother's narcissistic personality disorder sooner in life. I feel like I need another lifetime just to heal from this one. I like how Tim explains complex trauma in simple terms. Makes it easier to understand it. I had a psychologist who claims his methods "scientific" but he was mixing psychology with Catholic teaching when I have been spiritually abuse (meaning that religion was used as a tool to make me a slave) and that's why I appreciate he makes two parts in his teaching although I listen to the second one based on the Bible and I like he separated both things although he connects both parts and that's ok with me. He's a good, clever guy and I appreciate his experience. Victims of complex trauma feel very isolated and we are (somehow I needed too) but it's amazing the amount of people suffering of the so called generational curse. I know it's not witchcraft but it feels like being cursed. Hoping and wishing you the best in life. We all deserve having a taste of true love and freedom 💜☘️

Me too! I listen regularly and it has helped me a great deal ❤

"Comes love" and nothing can't be done...Sam Cooke. Except for...it's not love, it's desperation 😅

It is very hard to come by healthy people these days. Maybe you can ask God to point one out for you and if God can take "the lead" and you follow. Just a thought. Works for me, although I need more patience 🙄😊

Upsetting I am going to have to skip this one

​@@jtcheezussubtitles? It's definitely an enlightening video ❤

Dark side in terms of "Shadow" (Jung). He separate both, the complex trauma advice from the spiritual part related so, you can skip that part if you don't like it.

Who are the lost sheeps? Those who are manipulative and narcissistic, their victims or all of them? The world is a crappy mess.

@@Lyrielonwind I do my best to remember that were all lost until we ask messiah to save us from ourselves..........

@@krustysurfer Just a minute before I saw your comment I was asking God what's the meaning of all and what kind of help I have tried to bring to my narcissistic family serving them as their scapegoat. The question was philosophical, please, don't take it personal. It wasn't an attack. I pray to God to help us all and guard us from ourselves and others because I was raised hearing about "sacrificing myself" to others (my family). Therapist denied complex PTSD as a generational curse but I don't care; it feels like a curse in my opinion. Take care and God bless you 💓

@@Lyrielonwind God bless you I wish you well

@@krustysurfer Same to you 💓

What you need to understand is that the traditional way of perceiving "God" is actually incorrect. God is not a Deity. God is the breath and spirit that enlivens all. In other words, God is that which has given everything life, and we who are living by God's breath, are gifted with the awesome gift of using this life that has been breathed into us to the best of our abilities. It is an immense responsibility. We all stumble and some of us stumble a terrible lot. Many, many then must pay the price for the errors of others. But,in the end, I believe, through the unfurling of time and life and lives not yet lived those thus harmed move to places that are better and sweeter, places that only these so very difficult routes could have taken them to. Try looking at the situation this way. I have met those who are devout Christians who do understand this. It is paradoxical, and difficult to make sense of. Perhaps we need to all remember that we are only here for a while, that this is a school, and that the lessons, however awful they may be are, in the end, simply lessons, and in good time we will move on to the next place. Perhaps that could help put everything into some kind of understandable context.

@@sarahnitins and you KNOW this how? You write as if you have some special insider knowledge on spiritual truth. Lol. The truth is you don't know any more than I do. Also if this life is a testing ground, I refuse to be a rat in "God's" laboratory. The truth is, the universe behaves exactly as it would if there was no personal deity.

@@formerfundienowfree4235 exactly. If you read my comment carefully, my point is indeed, there IS no personal deity. I guess you just didn't understand what I was getting at. I must have thrown you off when I used the words "God is that which has given everything life", not a very good choice of words in this discussion really. You read that and imagined that I was referring to some God person, sitting up there in Heaven making living things... ha ha ha...! Well, I certainly wasn't. i should have used the word "consciousness". Explain consciousness,... that's a big consideration,... and then ask yourself why things are the way they are. How can there be divinity without a "personal" divinity character of sorts present? I don't know how to explain that. But, then on the other hand, I do know that the nature of reality is of infinite expanse and breadth, a few good mathematical formulas are about all you need to prove as much (if you happen to be good at that sort of stuff). We tend to be so confined by the limits of our perception, assuming therefor that that all we can see and feel is all there is. But, clearly that is not the case, there is plenty of evidence to support such an assertion. Relax. Everything is going to be ok in the end, even if it is quite horrible at present.

@@sarahnitins yes. Thank you for the clarification.

You are getting God and the church and religion mixed up. The visible church is not necessarily the true expression of God. So often it is just like a dysfunctional family. Where did the people come from that comprise the visible church? Complex trauma families that are looking for help just like everyone else. God had nothing to do with your trauma accept that He suffered and died so that you might be healed and forgive the people that subconsciously perpetrated the neglect and abuse. Take responsibility for your stuff and forgive the a users for their stuff and do what you need to do. Take your abusers to a meeting. They need it just as much as you do.

I don't know but it could start with "get your 💩 together". I guess it start with not lying to yourself and others. Everything good start with honesty (getting rational and not allowing the limbic brain to get in charge). I wish I could help you. Good luck.

Fair enough, I appreciate that.

@@forestpark73 Get some time to yourself. Just you and your thoughts. It's hard to think clearly if you surrounded by people. Take a walk in nature, a park...it helps to clear your mind. I had my share of unhealthy relationship and that "getting your sh!t together" means getting clarity and you won't get it if you don't spend quality time on your own. No scrolling or getting distracted. Maybe a paper and pen...or recording your thoughts. Meditation. Try not taking any desition if you are in fight or fight mode. Sending love from Spain.

@@Lyrielonwind thanks I will 🙏

@@forestpark73 💪🙏💫