It was midnight when Jake left Peter’s house. He was there for 4 hours, listening to Peter’s rant about money, about work, and even about the weather. Peter didn’t stop once to ask Jake how he was doing. Peter just needed to rant. Jake didn’t particularly like it, but Peter was his friend. So he tolerated. You must be nice to people, that’s what his mama always said.
Jake was the first to die, among all of his friends.
In this video, we drive deep on the reason why nice people more common than not die earlier than others. If you are a nice person, you probably need to see how it has affect your life, and let me know in the comment below.
Thank for watching my videos. And remember, just because being nice might harm you one way or another, that's no reason to be a jerk. Cheers
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SOURCES AND MATERIAL
- Findings and materials used in this video are from The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, by Daniel Maté & Gabor Maté. Get the book here: www.amazon.com/Myth-Normal-Il... (And no, this is not an affiliate link).
- Correlation between niceness and ALS: Mehl T, Jordan B, Zierz S. "Patients with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) are usually nice persons"-How physicians experienced in ALS see the personality characteristics of their patients. Brain Behav. 2016 Nov 10;7(1):e00599. doi: 10.1002/brb3.599. PMID: 28127517; PMCID: PMC5256182.
- On Attachment vs Authenticity: Gillath, O. et al. (2010) ‘Attachment, authenticity, and honesty: Dispositional and experimentally induced security can reduce self- and other-deception.’, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 98(5), pp. 841-855. doi:10.1037/a0019206.
21 янв 2024
