As someone that suffers with BPD and who’s desperately trying to raise awareness of how damaging services can be and how awful the stigma is...Thankyou so much for this documentary
Same here. I've been diagnosed repeatedly to my face but never once on paper. Therefore I in no way benefit or get any help. It is a constant cycle of bureaucracy.
@@jwilcox4726 Its matter of where you live at this point. I am in nordic country myself and been waiting months in line for treatment and hoping they will help me in time. And even if one gets into treatment it's not 100% that you will get "cured" and cured in this point means you get shown how you can manage to live with it. Bpd dont leave you just like that.
Having BPD myself and understanding the nightmare that it is I spent years researching my illness trying to overcome it and thankfully today I am there, we need to help each other those of us who made it through I believe.
I just can't stand how this illness is so maligned on RU-vid. So many just hate people suffering with BPD. It's like it's an excuse for every ex partner to blame only the pwBPD. Some of those people have their own mental health issues too.
This is, for once, a very accurate documentary and hopefully will help a lot of people to understand, whether those with BPD or family/friends of those diagnosed
Painful is not the word to describe what BPD feels like. It's like you'd rather be dead than to deal with life. Every emotion is more intense for us with BPD. IT SUCKS. You literally have to be medicated all the time to be able to deal with it
@@agamemnon2458 true however that makes it sound a lot more clinical and less like I'm just a bitch like EUPD just sounds like a bitchy areshole who you don't want to meet yet people with bpd are the opposite to bitchy
I have BPD and I feel like this video was made for me. Thank you so much. It is a horrible disease and should be seen by clinicians as being as severe as bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. Only together do we make this condition heard. Love y’all ❤️
Most BPD a sufferers have experienced severe and sustained abuse especially sexual abuse and severe bullying and devaluation. No one wants to look at the causes of this disorder
Id had bullying all through school but certainly not abuse from parents or anybody my parents idolised me My dad also died from a massive cardaric arrest at home and was dead straight away the cardaric arrest was so bad Then a teacher verballybullyed the kids on free school meals and humiliated me cos my dinner tickets were messy. Then same teacher humiliated me cos I couldn't see the holes in sampler we were sewing. I was so upset that mum went up to middle school over this teacher I also felt left out in games cos I couldn't hit it catch a ball etc I had a breakdown at age 14 and when I went back to school was in special needs unit and kids in normal school belittled kids in unit After three years of college when I had been symptom free my mum became ill I was a sole carer for her , when she died in 2014 my world fell apart I couldn't cope and in 2017 tried to end my life and was in mental health unit where I got bpd diagnosis As a child I'd been in hospital and stayed in hospital at night when parents wernt allowed to stay or go imto operating theatre with their kids and feeling very desolate The psychiatrist said that trauma can be any sorts trauma, complex grief I'm same had massive stamping meltdown when psychiatrist said how bpd was usually caused I guess that's partly how he got to diagnosis as I saw what he was saying as black and white nit a wide range thing and was having the five year old paddy in corridor cos I thought he was having a go at mum and dad
I used to live in the UK when I was 18 and was looking for therapy. For a while I had found my symptoms matching those of BPD. Any therapist, psychiatrist, etc. I went to said they didn't want to diagnose me or put me in a box. They gave me antidepressants and counseling, that was it. I really wanted a diagnosis though because then I could finally understand what was going on with me. When I moved to Austria, I found a counselor and told him about my struggles and the idea I might have BPD. He forwarded me to a specialist and after 3 sessions I got a diagnosis and have been in therapy for two years now. My insurance covers all of it. The difference in the mental health system is astounding.
Thank you for highlighting the voices of some of the most silenced people in society. And thank you for validating our experiences. It is people like you who give us glimmers of hope to hold on to. 🙏💖
Cluster B includes Borderline PD, Narcissistic PD, Histrionic PD and Antisocial PD. What all cluster B PD's have in common is dramatic, emotional and erratic behavior. These PD's all originate from childhood abuse (except psychopathy, which has genetic origins). So, in the first place, why call it a PD? In fact one is nothing more (or less) than traumatized in youth, and there is nothing wrong with the personality itself, in my opinion. It's the way the child reacts to the traumatic experiences that creates a Borderliner, a Narcissist, a Histrionic or an Antisocial. All cluster B PD's are just diiferent ''solutions'' of dealing with pain and fear: ergo reality. So becoming sane again means healing from your trauma, no matter what professor Peter Kindermann says.
Am I alone is crying my eyes out whole watching this?! BPD diagnosis 5 years ago. I'm 49. I spent my entire life being told I'm ridiculous, it's just a bit of depression and fobbed off with antidepressants. Since getting diagnosed, I've researched the condition, I understand why I do things (impulsivity, uncontrollable emotions, suicidal ideation) Sadly, a medical condition I have prevents me taking antidepressants now I'm older (cyclic vomiting syndrome, hit fully when I turned 40). I don't hate myself any more, but the psychiatric profession and medical doctors use my BPD to dismiss and vilify me. I've come to conclude that as BPD patients, we are more straight speaking, honest about how we're feeling and what we need. The medical profession mistakes this honesty as manipulation. Imo it speaks more about them than it does us. Personally, I don't manipulate, ever. I hate it. My mum was the worst for it (she's the reason for my BPD) I would never try to manipulate, I prefer to be direct and honest. Which is what normal folks claim they want, until they experience honesty and then, all of a sudden, we're awful people for being direct 🙄 I no longer have anything to do with other humans. I prefer cats. They only judge you for feeding them late and as soon as that's resolved, you're back to the best person ever 😊❤️
I can imagine how horrible it must have been to only get diagnosed at 49 :( i got diagnosed 2 months ago (im 17) so i feel fortunate i dont have to live my whole life confused. It was nice reading this comment as i relate to you
Totally relate to you❤️❤️❤️❤️ Im outside the law somewhere in an abandoned house cause i get denied a real adress No healthcare either And i also take care of cats Lol🤪🙃😘🙋 Well i was thinking of starting a community in Portugal And have our own world and do things how we need for us to function They austricice us So why continuing to try to fit in While were judged as criminals without a fair trial and probation
I’m 38. I have the diagnosis of BPD. I too have been dismissed, insulted, rejected and ignored by the mental health services. It has been heartbreaking. A cycle of fighting my own mind, getting stable enough to be able to the discuss episode, to being shut down, told to try and relax and have you downloaded this app?.. To Relenting to the realisation that, I must not matter because they just nodded me out the room again.. to accepting your just fucked and start again to pick up your life more exhausted, more anxious then the last time. I write this in solidarity not for sympathy.
Wow every word you said I felt! I've had same prob THE HELP JUST IS NOT THERE ITS ALL BULLSHIT !. I've lost all hope of ever getting better . This disease is a slow tortuous death sentence !.EVEN TRYD SUICIDE TWICE BUT SOMEHOW!! WAS FOUND 😤And the bare sleep i get is killing me ALL I WANT IS A PEACEFUL MIND and sleep a normal nights sleep . Yet they throw all sorts of meds at ya just to shut ya up. I'm on Sertraline, Depekote, and ZOPICLONE! ALTHOUGH I HARDLY EVER SLEEP!😤🤯. I feel like my brain is mush ,YET RACING A THOUSAND MILES AN HR feel like I'm drowning and not allowed to die. Like I'm walking in quicksand in the fog ALL ALONE WITH MY THOUGHTS🤯😤. So glad I'm not on my own and just going CRAZY!
Same here with the constantly being told to download bloody apps 😡 if only it were that simple eh? My thoughts are with you, i mean that. Youre not alone xx
Ive just been doped up with pills since i was 18. No ones cares. Thats what it feels like. No one takes you seriously it feels like and it breaks your heart every single time Bpd has ruined my life. Im a constantly scared child inside. Either that or I'm full of rage or crippling anxiety and depression. There is help out there there really is. My heart goes out to everyone wirh this horrible illness.
I was just diagnosed yesterday (after a few months of evaluation), and I want to say thank you for this documentary. This is the most inspiring thing I've seen in my months long obsessive research about BPD.
I was bullied and beaten up as a little kid and no one did anything to help me. I grew up and was struggling with mental health. I was diagnosed with BPD and no one did anything to help me. Seems like a vicious cycle. 😞
I suffer from bpd. This is so painful. It's real and so damn painful. Some days I can't even see my friends. Everything is just to much for me to handle. The stigma has to stop.
I believe that mental health dismisses people with this diagnosis because they have yet to develop an effective treatment strategy. It is disgraceful that such deeply vulnerable people are treated so cruelly. Mental health should be ashamed.
thank you so much to everyone who took part in this video, for sharing your stories & for raising awareness about BPD. nobody deserves to be turned away by mental health services. these issues need to be brought to light. well done👏🏻
Firstly everyone needs to stop calling it Borderline, now EUPD. So much love to everyone. Thanks for the doc. So many of us. I’m 42, live alone & no relationships so I stick with animals. Still experiencing intense emotions. Mood changes 5 times in a day. Being alive hurts. If you don’t suffer from it impossible to understand. My FAM & old friends can’t understand it so lots of my friends left me. Very Lonely now but not much I can do. Done DBT but not helped much. OMG could cry, thank you so much to the Doc at the end. We are so devalued after a lifetime of abuse & trauma totally understandable why I am the way I am. DOGS are the answer, all animals!!
As an American recently diagnosed with BPD (with a wonderful therapist), thank you for sharing this. I wish more people would know how serious this disorder truly is and that we aren't attention seekers or faking it. We are truly in pain. Also, I have BPD due to genetic traits. My mother had it, my brother had it and my sister has it. I disagree with Dr. Kinderman stating that we are like this because of how we were raised or treated in our lives. Not everyone has the same experience. Sure, I suffered abuse, but to say that is the cause of my BPD is wrong and quite frankly, abhorrent. It just goes to show the stigma still lives well and deep in the mental health practitioner community and I'm really sick of it. I'm proud of being labeled as BPD, and the ones who need to change are the mental health practitioners, not our label.
Generally loved this documentary, thank you. Some questionable left-wing/intersectional terminology and conceptions but that’s to be expected. Not happy with the psychiatrist at the talking about BPD being a “non-existent disease”. Like, yes it is a flawed diagnosis and has huge stigma, but it does “exist” - look at our amygdalas and the distinctive way our emotions fluctuate, it is a thing, it’s just “the consequences of trauma”, which is what he implied. Also found all the singular “they” pronouns quite jarring and difficult but that’s a discussion for another setting. My BPD has blighted every day of my life for years now, I try to use the DBT skills, but there have been overdoses and psych unit admissions and constant suicidal thoughts- plus it interacts with my autism in a fairly horrendous way. So I related to a lot of stuff in this documentary - thank you.
This is so terrible. When getting diagnosis I remember seeing the vast amount of distain and negativity all over the internet towards this it was utterly ghastly. I couldn't understand how people could be so horrible to others that are clearly suffering. If anything it makes me want to do what I can to stop this.
Thank you for sharing this documentary. There're days it feels like you don't deserve help or to live and having people who advocate for your chance of existence really matters.
Since getting my diagnosis 3 years ago I haven't attempted suicide since, I think my diagnosis has saved my life but at the same time everyday is a total struggle, i know it's a mental illness and I think that helps me realize that it's not my fault as to why I feel the way I do but I don't know what I would be like if I didn't have my mam or brother, my dad passed away just before I got my diagnosis and if i didn't get the opportunity to be diagnosed I don't know if i would still be here. The government needs to help the nhs with mental health, waiting lists are agnonising when you don't want to exist.
Thank you for this documentary, definitely one of the better and more accurate resource. [TW: suicide] I have suicidal thoughts every day and I really think the only reason I'm still here is because I can't access a method that will work, because the day I do I won't even have to think about it.
I have BPD, I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RU-vid channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates.
I’ve also been dismissed by professionals. One therapist said I was fine, discharged me and 2 months later I made my second attempt. The follow up with the psych after that discharge told me it was my fault for not taking the medication he prescribed me. “If you would have just taken the Latuda like I told you this wouldn’t have happened.” New therapist treated our sessions like friends catching up. He often talked about himself. I just gave up on “professional” help. Started doing my research and self help.
Grayson's words that were said to him by mental health professionals "here's your diagnosis, we don't really like you, now off you go" really rang a bell with me and highlights what many mental health staff think of service users with PBD (now renamed EUPD). I am going back to when I was first diagnosed in 1990, and if it weren't for Linehan, it would still be seen as untreatable (although I don't agree that DBT is the 'cure-all' for all sufferers!). I would like to say things have improved now at least a bit but it is not enough. A great start would be changing the diagnosis to remove the 'personality disorder' part, which makes you feel as if you, as a very being, are a 'disorder'. The diagnosis needs to reflect that those suffering from it are a victim of childhood abuse or neglect of some form. If you are given this 'label', please I urge you not to let it define you or let so-called mental health professionals dismiss you as unworthy of care.
The pain is very real. Sometimes, all we need is just someone who gets it. Someone who can just sit with us. So we don’t have to feel so alone. Because it’s a very terrifying space to be, to do it alone.
I'm a diagnosed BPD, just out of curiosity, it's rare at least at the beginning to find someone who really gets it, it's seems that nobody is capable to fully understand you, is that an enormous source of anger, frustration and despair to you? Something that drives you mad? It was for me, and it stills is to some degree but it's much much lower after so many years.
@@DocStrange0123 Yes! It’s so unlike me as well. Coz I’m not an angry person. It’s been two years now, I couldn’t wrap my head around at first. And a lot issues go straight back to the roots (our heritage), certainly felt like the reality was flipped upside down, the family I had was not what I thought. (That’s hard to accept) Lots of dumb shit I did to deliberately hurt myself. BPD is painful, the tears didn’t dry for 6months. I was seriously thinking about “leaving”. But here is the thing, when we are in that level of distress, we really don’t know what we are doing. Never mind know how to pull ourselves out. Don’t lie to your doctor, if you don’t have a good support. A good doctor can be your lifeline!! Overcome again and again! You are so much stronger than the fucking beast!!
@@EvaDeChevigny Yes, it is, it's a living hell, it gets more beareable as times passes, treatment is key. I also thought about "leaving" too, actually I tried. Fortunately years ago I found a really excellent doctor who metaphorically and literally saved my life, and a very supportive family. I call it the Monster, or the Dragon. Now I'm lightyears better, although I still have "my moments". It's been nice to share experiences, thanks for your reply. Wish you the best, yes, we are stronger, we never knew how much until we had to face this thing. Take care. :)
@@DocStrange0123 it is amazing to have a good doctor. I do too, although we have to play with my meds quite often. A bit too much sent me straight to mania. (Too high to fly lol) it’s called most painful mental disorder for a reason. We are soldiers who fought many wars and still among the 9 out of 10 alive. You know I know, we suffered. And we don’t back down. I call my PTSD monster, that one keeps me awake at night (night terror is a bitch) I can’t beat.
@@EvaDeChevigny Having an early diagnose and a good doctor is crucial. Same here, changing meds a lot in he beginning, now it's more stable, to some extent. Absolutely, I wouldn't wish this thing inside us to my worst enemy, it's too much. People think we are weak, that we cry, that we are temperamental, etc etc etc... they don't truly know what we've been trough and how tough we actually are, because most days just to survive the day was a sucess, and in some sense, they better never know how it's really like, for their own sake. I had not exactly night terrors, that must be horrible, but some sort of "the world is too much" so I closed myself inside a cupboard in the dark quite often, I don't do that anymore, I'm better.
I got diagnosed with eupd that's also know as bpd, one of the hardest things I struggle with is having the best day or being arou d my kids but yet still wanting to leave this life/world because I am not worthy of it. Some people would kill to have this life yet can't and yet I live it and don't much want it.
Even though I suffer chronically from BPD, and I feel helpless about it, I know that the solution is to love yourself. If I could love myself, then when someone (anyone) invalidates me, I could simply disagree with them and move on. But when someone I love invalidates me I feel immediate severe pain. When someone I do not love invalidates me I feel angry because I just want to be accepted and valued in the world. I cannot stop these feelings because at the heart of the matter is that I feel like I have no value myself. Try to validate yourself and try to navigate the invalidation of others without emotional reaction.
@@crissieroserose you are almost entirely wrong. I'm basing my comment partly on myself and partly on people I've known from DBT. You seem to have misunderstood and perhaps you should rewatch the video or seek out others to understand better Yes we people with BPD can be tricky. There can be an element of manipulation but this is done to try to find the help/ friendship/ love you need. Because we don't know how to ask for what we want/ need we do it in tricky ways. We do it in the only way(s) we know or think will get us what we want without making us more vulnerable. If you've been bullied/ abused/ not loved/ not cared for properly in early years when neural pathways are forming you simply don't have the safe sound reasoning to know how to ask for what you want. You don't have the knowledge of self that it's alright to not know how to ask or even what to ask for. You don't trust that people will be kind if you ask for what you want, you try to "manipulate" a situation to benefit you to get what you're in need of not to be horrible to others. It is not done to be horrible or nasty or because we are bad people. it is because we have been badly hurt and don't know how to ask or how to trust. We have to learn those things, where as, non BPD people have learnt those things just by living in a natural way. I understand you may have been hurt by someone with BPD but I urge you to look into the real reasons we borderlines can be tricky and not just assume we're horrible bad people
I've been told when in hospital (sectioned under the mental health act) that i was taking up a bed someone else needed. Needless to say i lied about how bad i was feeling just to get out of there. Kept saying i felt better when all i wanted was to die
i was dignosed with bpd back 2018 its such a hard illness to deal with im now in my 50s and things can get really hard at times i feel like i push people away and have a few close freinds who i see as family im lucky cos i have moved into indpenant assisted living were there is real help. im not the type of person to generrally like people round me. its so hard to describe how you feel with such complex emotions going on i self harmed in the past and was an alcohic for long time been clean sober 12 years now. Sometimes i just feel so tierd of trying to live but i wake up everyday esp since the pandemic trying to find postive things about life. lost a few close freinds to covid. i really hope those if us who have this can find some sort of comfort and anyone who ever wants to chat im only a message away
I was diagnosed in my twenties and yes the mental health team/system doesn’t care or really understand. We are to difficult. It just makes everything worse and you end up thinking you must deserve being turned down. You really start to believe that. Then you get worse and end up acting out in a self destructive way….abusing drugs, alcohol and self harming…engaging in risky behaviour. It’s an outlet. Then they say you are being rude and uncalled for…just because you can’t deal with your emotions and the pressures of life. And being in bad circumstances and maybe in a crisis - whatever it is, makes it so much worse. Then you think of killing yourself because you feel like a burden, that you are thick and stupid and what’s the point. I know I won’t live much longer. I am 42 and I won’t reach 50. Not coping anymore. And I am being let down by the services time and time again. I am tired. I just hope one day people will be educated enough about this illness and stop the stigma. It’s to late for me but for future generations I pray that they will get the help they need. My heart goes out for all who suffer with BPD. One day God will call you home and there will be no more injustice, loneliness, emptiness, boredom, pain and suffering. Sometimes I am angry with God why he let me be like this. I don’t know the answer for that. I am lost. Life is a strange thing. Thank you for making this documentary and I hope people will keep fighting to be heard and understood. But I know what it’s like wanting to give up. After a while you just think fuck this. To much. Enough is enough. I’m tired. God bless you all. Love - Dean. ♥️🙏
Very accurate and I am in the mist of this at the moment and this documentary couldn't have explained it more accurately I've had medical staff say it's ok he's a regular slagged off by them about how many times I've been assessed or how many times I've had an attempt on my life and all the other comments that follow I'm now in s mental health unit and the Dr a seen today said this is what he thinks I have I was to look it up and here I find myself watching this in absolute tears as it just explains and answers so much that's been going on in my life.
I think ive got this disorder off of my mums gene, she definitely has it but never admits it which pisses me off, some pills do help with my anger, sadness, rage, depression ect, but its a horrible illness and it makes me really mad when some gps don't take you seriously.
I am living with BPD and it is painful but I also believe that I am strong, a lot of ups and downs ...once you are full of live and energy and the next hour or day you are in the middle of a black hole of depression and anxiety Find people who really love you for who you are and support you this will soothe you a lot
Hi New Jack, I'm sorry if this film was triggering for you. If you're struggling right now, the Samaritans helpline is open 24/7. It's free, and you can talk to them about anything. Their number is 116 123. You can email them too, at jo@samaritans.org. And if you're not from the UK, this is a list of helplines from different countries around the world: unitedgmh.org/mental-health-support.
The Samaritans aren't healthcare. When I've been in dark and dangerous headspaces, I've found that emailing them can be very helpful, as I'm often too upset/disassociated to articulate myself verbally. It will take them a day to reply. Good luck Jack.
@@katfish287 Thanks Katfish. Any response is helpful. My comment was not so much about "healthcare" as it was "trust". I do not velieve that anyone cares about my life at all. Members of my family for example seem to gauge their happiness by how much better they are than me. I feel condemned by them. I was disparaged publicly in my divorce with lies. But now that I am diagnosed borderline, I question the validity of my own perspective. I am a musician (by God's designation) but I feel unwanted and devalued when I try to fit into that community. Everything seems to hurt my feelings even your correction of my use of the word "healthcare". I do not see a recovery in my future. I am frustrated that I continue to wake up. Every dream I remember is a nightmare about the events of the divorce. It's been four years. I believe "healthcare" workers including all these Samaritans turn my suffering (lemons) into money (lemonade) without a real regard for improving my existence. I believe your attempt to engage is designed on some level to make yourself feel better,while I just think about your correction. I'm sure that this thinking seems distorted but I believe it's the truth. God bless you Katfish.
After many hospitalizations and multiple meds they finally decided to stop all my meds and discharge me. The nurse told me I might have bpd and there is nothing they can do.
I am not an 'expert' but why label it as BPD and not just look at these people individually as people who have been severely traumatized and feel hurt, depressed and in despair?
I have BPD and it's exactly like this, i think GP's need retraining. I run a support group on MS Teams for people with BPD (myself include because we have nothing else).
Bryan is a beautiful man I hope he finds somebody and if he doesn’t I’ll be here with open arms. I know what it’s like to live with BPD and I understand what he’s going through. Bryan, if you’re reading this, I’m here for you
This is the part that these documentaries don’t cover. They talk about “stigma” again and again. But why is the stigma there? Because of people like you who have been abused and manipulated by someone with BPD. These documentaries make it seem like there is no reason for the stigma and that people with BPD are just innocent people who are living in pain. I don’t hear any real regret or remorse for how people can be terrified by, stalked by and terrorized by people with BPD. The medical system sucks in general and people get turned away all the time for “faking” or “being manipulative” it is not a solely BPD issue. There really seems to be a lack of real acknowledgment by people with BPD (even quiet BPD which can have a devastating effects on people who are involved with them). If you only watched these videos you would think there was some grand conspiracy against “wholly” innocent people with BPD. I know they are in immense pain and life is unbearable. I truly get that. But there is a reason why some medical professionals will not treat BPD, one being that they don’t want threatening calls in the middle of the night and they don’t want to be berated and harassed by someone they are trying to treat. Not saying everyone with BPD is like this but there are enough that people’s lives can be ruined because of BPD emotions.
Where I live, if you have a diagnosis of BPD you are automatically not eligible for mainstream mental health services. As a result, there is a reluctance to diagnose it
So bizzare as twenty years ago mental health services were saying they were working hard to de stigmatise it and provide adequate non judgemental help, but it costs, so its been binned off, that and the crap quality of staff makes it a no win
Thank you so much for this. I share experiences with all of those involved including not being taken seriously. I am so grateful to hear that I am not alone in this ❤
And so what if we need attention and reassurance that is normal when one is in Danger And others invaliting and dismissing what one has been through is retraumetizing And the people in charge do it on purpose this is defenition of medical gaslichting and terrorism One of my alter egos said that I cant remember which one
bpd is so hard to understand , i find it selfish and destructive , and they have no idea of the harm and damage they cause on the lives of people around them ,
I suffered for years with mental health issues then I got off sugar nd started to feel better so decided to get off process food nd I felt even more better. I still have problems but nothing like I used to. Chemicals can be so bad on the mind nd body. Hope this will help.
Last year I became particularly ill. I managed to avoid going inpatient by agreeing to the home treatment team visiting me everyday to check i was taking my meds and ask if i wanted to unalive myself. They tried to discharge me to the community mental health team, who decided not to take me on as they were too busy. I was then referred back to the psychological therapy service & they won't take me on as they say I'm too ill. My GP won't help as they say I should be back in secondary services. I've lost my job and become incredibly isolated with the worst emotional pain Ive ever been in. The icing on the cake was being told the physical illness I was experiencing was anxiety, not real- it's the BPD. It took a year to get my GP to help me and it turns out it wasn't anxiety, I have chronic kidney disease. I hate having BPD. It's lonely and painful.
Same happened to me i.e. GP referred to IAPT, IAPT said they would not take me on as past psychiatric history and they referred me to secondary mental health team, who then they tried to refuse referral and said IAPT should take me! Anyway, I did a complaint to PALS (Patient Advice Liaision Service) and suddently the secondary mental health team decided to take me! So my suggestion is put a complaint in to the mental health Trust PALS department (do an email to them as it gives you written evidence rather than a phone call) - hope this helps x.
Would be nice if they'd attempt to truly understand and quit lying about borderlines being manipulative. I had to quit watching after I heard that BS. They'll never fully understand but most of them couldn't handle the pain anyway and they're so afraid of death when we can't wait for it LOL
Is this documentary not demonstrating the real life of people who have to endure the attitude of people with BPD being “manpulative” etc though? I’m featured in the documentary and I felt really grateful for the opportunity to highlight the prejudice and misinformation surrounding the BPD diagnosis! 🙂
Iv been let down badly by my mht Iv had no help from them in over a year until 6 weeks ago I was so low wanted to kill myself and all they did was give me 5 pills 1 a day and that’s it left me! I’m hearing voices smelling smells sh and they ask me what do I want them to do? What do I want them to do? HELP ME that’s what I want!
this is amazing. i showed symptoms of BPD from the age of 14 but because generally it’s only diagnosed for adults, it was dismissed as anxiety and depression until i was 22. thank you so much for speaking the story of so many, through the words of so few. this video made me feel heard and made me feel just a little less alone. thank you for trying to de-stigmatise this
@@c.s473 If your very very very lucky you will get offered that , i've been cut off from services all my life , and even when you do get offered that its the best part of a year to two years before you see someone , and even when you eventually get to the first appointment they still don't take you seriously , they still feel the services they provide aren't well fitted to BPD. I've been stuck inside my home now for the best part of 4 years and no one cares , before covid struck i was making strides with graded exposure but that soon became telephone calls which was practically useless for me , and now im left with 0 support again because i know when i phone the doctors they do everything so half assed for people with mental illness issues (BPD) Its sad but i've made my peace with the NHS not be able to help me anymore , so what will be will be.
@@ThePillzandSkillz i waited a decade or treatment. It’s not readily available but eventually I received it. Sorry you’re still struggling to receive it x
I have BPD. It took me many years to finally be diagnosed with something that really ticked all the boxes for my struggles and behaviour. Hearing a medical professional call it a non-existent disease triggered me badly. Yes, a lot of people have been through traumas that may have led to a diagnosis but many haven’t. I have never been through a significant trauma (that I’m aware of) but tick every box for BPD and trust me, it is still very real. The diagnosis and realising I am not the only one has helped me so much despite not being offered the support from the NHS that I believe I should have been so I think scrapping BPD as a diagnosis would be hugely detrimental. As stigmatised as it may be, the information available about the diagnosis can help bring sufferers to a level of awareness that may well draw them away from suicide. It did for me. Great documentary and I wish people were more willing to understand the illness and the pain that goes along with it. If I wasn’t diagnosed, and people had continued to just label me as “over-sensitive”, “attention-seeking” and told me to “grow up”, I know for a fact I wouldn’t be here today. BPD is a diagnosis that is NEEDED and is HELPFUL.
Omg this is how iv been feeling like know one is helping me. Yesterday I got a discharge letter even though I just just come out of hospital last week because of a overdose I feel so alone and not heard I really don't know what to do.
I'm currently in a psychiatric hospital I was raging when I came in scaring the staff and patients. I really didn't think I'd get better I lost any hope I didn't want to go home for my son to see me so unwell I was thinking about sleeping on the streets😢 had 11 suicide attempts last year and cut my arm badly in hospital and a ligature round my neck. Sleeping in soaking sheets in the hope I'd get hypothermia and I had it and was told by staff you've done it to yourself! This last year has been hell I've been so desperate I don't know how I've survived I really am lucky I'm here and starting to feel better but god it was the hardest year of my life
Nobody he isnt diagnosed with it,can really understand the whole tragedy of IT....but you can struggle and win or you loose,when you give up...BPD is a hard job the entire life!It contains a lot of serious symptoms,I know what Im talking about!
Well after burning my life and everything around me to the ground through self sabotage I got diagnosed last year and im 42 years old. Been dealing with mental health issues since i was 12. Honestly cant believe im still alive after suffering with this shit for this long. It all makes sense though. I have other coexisting disorders but they never explained the impulsivity, reckless behavior, self harm, and intense anger outbursts. I was relieved they finally gave me a diagnosis. Everyday is a war with myself to keep fighting to stay alive even though a lot of days im just so tired and want to give up. To everyone suffering with this please know that you have my utmost respect and you are the strongest people i know.
I have BPD and comorbid schitzotypal personality disorder and this video is spot on. My Psych doctor said men can't suffer from this bpd, and it seems that way across the board unfortunately. How can they be bias like that and refuse males hospital treatment saying its impossible for males to suffer this....
BPD is TREATABLE. Did you hear that. BPD is TREATABLE. Call a health professional and ask. This is true. If you have BPD get TREATMENT NOW. Yeah happy.
