To summarize 23 minutes. Matt found his dream horse in January, wanted to vet and buy him, owners said there was another person coming to look at horse first, turned out to be an acquaintance/friend. Said friend was a cow and told Matt she was interested in buying the horse with full knowledge that Matt wanted the horse. She strung him along, horse failed vet check with cracked hoof, Matt stops talking to said friend. She buys another horse. He waits for hoof crack to be fixed, is now flying out to see horse with trainer.
@Belinda Barham cow just means the woman was inconsiderate. Plus Matt likes sharing his business with us, so of course we are interested. It's why he makes videos.
I hardly think she was a cow. He put her in an awkward position by basically expecting her to drop her own interests just because he wanted to look. She had already scheduled to see the horse. I can fully understand why she might have felt weird talking to him about it especially if he talked to her like he did in the video. (“My” horse etc) That might have led to the stringing along feeling because the communication wasn’t clear. Either way we only have his side of the story and characterizing someone based off one interaction is not great either. I’m about 50/50 on them sharing the blame here and I don’t think it was drama. I think it turned into drama because Matt didn’t get what he wanted immediately and took it personally.
"I'm not gonna bad-mouth you, because I have too many positive things going on in my life..." is gold, and I love that Matt has that kind of energy. It's what made me subscribe in the first place. I would love to have my grand children grow up to have the same lovely energy you do, Matt (and they're on their way, actually - just not interested in horses :()
Matt, I don’t know how much this relates to your industry (I’m a Reiner) but I was given extremely good advice by a friend who is a $7 million dollar rider in our industry. That many horses he’s trained/showed did NOT have flawless X-rays or vet checks. He said a vet check should never be the last nail in the coffin. He said as long as the horse isn’t showing signs of lameness in exam and nothing major on X-rays then don’t always fault the horse. Instead he said to be aware of the flaw and speak to your trainer/vet/farrier if this flaw is something that can be managed very easily throughout their life. You’d be shocked how many amazing horses I’ve purchased for myself and clients that had minor flaws but showed no issues in live work/training and are still doing 100% fine. I bought an older stallion (15yo now) who had the beginning stages of arthritis, but with my farrier doing special shoeing, and a monthly injection of Legend & Adequan IM you’d never know. He gets ridden 5-6x a week. I have another mare that got a severe case of EPM as a 2yo. You’d never know today and I still work cattle on her regularly (she’s 13). Another mare tore her ACL as a 2yo, we did stem cell injections, hydro therapy and turned her out for 3yrs. From age 5 to now 13 she’s as sound as can be and is an extremely high caliber show mare who just had 3 embryos pulled. Just my take on things, but I totally understand the frustration and caution. Wishing you well and I hope you find what you’re looking for!!! P.s. I know you are friends with Erin Williams, she came out to our ranch in Texas for a week and rode our horses. She can testify what I say is true!! We still speak regularly about horses all the time. 🥰 If you ever want someone to talk horses to feel free to message me!
Great advice! Of course you can't let your heart overrule common sense, but how many of us are perfect? You can invest a small fortune in the perfect horse and sometimes they just don't enjoy the work. Having the heart, a willingness to please, and a strong relationship can overcome many minor flaws.
TBH no one has to consider anyone else, friend or not, when they're buying something for themselves. Aside from sensing she was being shady towards you, the truth is, even if you want something and you think you want it more than someone else, it doesn't mean that the other person should give it up either. Those thoughts and feelings are totally subjective. What probably happened is the sellers knew the horse wouldn't meet your standards because of the hoof and they didn't want to discard another potential buyer. They were right to do that. However, they should have disclosed the hoof problem to you way early on. The real lesson here is "wanting" is equal opportunity even if you think you want or deserve something or someone more than another.
I agree, but she could have simply said up front that she was interested in the horse and would buy it if she liked it, and sorry but this is business. Instead she played this weird cat-and-mouse game. I would stay away from her after that also.
This is an intelligent assessment. Well tought out. The reality is probably everyone goes through an experience with something they really, really want, be it a romantic partner, horse, career position, or another desire. They think it is just the right one for them. It seems absolutely perfect after having searched and waited usually for years to find excatly the right one. Then, it is snatched out from under them. They are strung ao along at first, made to think they have a chance, offered a second rate compromise in exchange. It is a pretty miserable experience. I hope this is the right horse for Matt. However, often you find "Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers".
It sounds like a frustrating situation but at the same time, the owners were in the right to allow her to see the horse. Equal opportunity. Also, I'm a little confused as to the whole "dream horse" thing. What about Chase, or Emporio, or Sureno. I thought those were all "dream horses"?
@@sarahwales6276 I guess she means that when he says, he wants to find his dreamhorse it sound like that he hasnt found it jet. Othetwise he could have said "find another dreamhorse"....i guess he meant that and is misunderstood here
Well… the woman knew she was annoying him and she was having fun troubling him… also he didn’t say he doesn’t love the other horses… he wants one more horse… that’s it!
@@das_gurl That’s what I meant! Every time he buys another horse it’s “the dream horse” and then he ends up buying another that’s “the dream horse.” He makes it seem like the ones he has aren’t the one. And he can buy as many as he wants, nothing wrong with that.
He has the means and takes excellent care of his horses. If I were in his position, I could easily see having as many horses as I want and they all be dream horses!!
This whole situation has managed to show your former friend's true colours. And even though it's been stressful, I'm so glad she's no longer part of your life and it's finally allowed the right person all along for this horse to go out to meet him. It was meant to be - for you. Good luck!! ❤
I'm a fan of Matt and here's my honest opinion - this video comes across as entitled. Matt is a millionaire equestrian influencer who has all the means in the world to find him his "dream horse". The girl in the video was said to be a small influencer, which makes me think - is she at all in a comparable situation to be able to give up on a horse she flew out to see, just because her friend wants the same horse? And not to mention, Matt decided only based on ONE video that this was the horse that he wanted - he hadn't even seen the horse in person nor ridden him, yet was already pressuring his friend to give up on the horse. Had I been the friend in this situation, I wouldn't have been able to take him seriously. There's no way for Matt to know that the girl didn't also strongly like this horse after riding him. Not everyone expresses feelings the same. Also, not everyone needs to view a horse as some special, never-before-seen Unicorn to want to buy it. It's not her fault that Matt is so picky about his horses that no other horse is good enough for him - again, Matt has all the means in the world to find the perfect horse. There wasn't any valid reason that the owner should have let Matt vet check the horse first either just because he was willing to pay a deposit. I'm not super well versed on Spanish horse culture, but here in northern europe it would in fact be seen as a red flag and suspicious if a buyer is offering to buy a horse just based on a video. A lot of sellers here would feel more comfortable showing a horse to a buyer who's acting normal and not rushing to immediately buy it at first glance. So yeah, the vibe in this whole video was kinda off. It made me think that even though Matt might be ethnically european, he is not culturally so. He's a white male who grew up in a hyper-capitalist English-speaking country (Australia in his case) and acts as expected.
@@Hwy.Runner Don't be rude. Everyone is free to offer their opinions on a public video. Lets not passively and aggressively attack them. Because your comment shows that you are reflecting.
Hi Matt.....here’s your proud grandma!!!! You brought proud tears to my eyes. You are the most kind, loving soul!!!!! You be you!!!! Listen to your intuition!!! It never lies. I would be so proud to call you my grandson!!!!!! This horse will have the best life ever. I know what you mean , when you said ,,,it’s more than just a horse. 💚💗
I would argue that when you’re buying a horse, it’s first come first served when going to view them. Otherwise the owners could be putting off potential buyers for one person who also might string them along. However, when ye went as far as to put down a deposit, that should have been the thing that meant the original owners pulled the horse off the market then. It showed you were serious and it paid them for the time that they were keeping the horse off the market away from other buyers for. Also, I would take vet checks with a pinch of salt. It’s just one point in time and as someone once said, if you were vet check us humans, you’d find a lot of faults with us too. So why treat horses the same way. A lot of stuff vet checks pick up can be treated or superficial and not impact on them at all eg. The hoof crack. Use a vet check to aid your decision, not to finalise it.
I agree entirely! Hop on a plane immediately if you like the horse that much!! How’s anyone supposed to sell a horse if they’re constantly waiting for people and their vet checks. People back out of sales all the time.
I hope everything works out for you with this horse, good luck! I admire your strait-forwardness and honesty when discussing the drama and your feelings.
I get that the going back and forth and not being clear in her messages is annoying and can come of malicious, but aside from that, I know this might be a controversial opinion: neither the owner letting someone else come, nor the woman for going to visit and being interested in the horse and not taking you into consideration in the first place (she has to put her own search first, you do too) did anything wrong up until that point. I wouldn't let someone else, not even a friend, talk me out of considering a horse myself because they want them too, neither I think would you in what you know is a difficult proces. I don't think you can ask that, especially of someone that you only know a little from online, like you said, not even in real life. Bad luck happens in this search, like someone else having the chance to go visit and make an offer sooner than you...
Who else is jumping out their skin to see Matt's dream horse??!!!🙋♀️ To the person that did that to you shame on them, but like you said Matt maybe its a sign from the universe that it was meant to be that he is still around and the crack has improved and he's waiting for you.
Omg Matt, after all this drama you really deserve a happy ending! I got my fingers crossed for real, hope to finally see your dream horse safe and sound at your stable 🤞❤️
Years ago I was very involved in showing/raising AKC dogs. Going to shows, dealing with stud owners and some showing. I understand EXACTLY the kind if person you were dealing with. A friend to your face but they are hiding the knife behind their back to do you harm when they can. Best of luck in your visit and vet checking the Bay. Will be watching for updates. 💘 🐎 🐕 🐱 🇺🇸
Lord do I understand you! I have my first Swissy, who has been successful both in conformation and working events....who also just went BOB at our National Specialty, the amount of back stabbing is disheartening.
Amen to that -I also show dogs. But my philosophy is things happen for a reason and just accept it. There are always drama kings and queens that we just need to move past. If this dream horse is for Matt it will happen. I cannot wait to see him and Matt it will happen.
It’s said that “Good things come to those who wait”, Matt I hope that this this is the case with your “new horse”. Wishing you all the very best when you go to have a look at him. I can’t wait for an update
Matt, people cross our path for a reason. This situation, although stressful and challenging, had its purpose. Often we understand the reason only later. Anyway, I must say that you have behaved with grace and confidence. And for the horse, if this is THE ONE, maybe you had to fight for him to further develop the bond. Just follow your instinct and you will find out soon. ❤️
Matt, what a story. The best advice I have received in my own work: Do not talk about your “ideas.” Ideas are potential. I hope this horse finds your home. 💕👍
I admire your integrity, you deserve a happy ending to this saga. Best wishes for the best life for you and your dream horse ❤️❤️❤️ and for Jesse and all your other horses too!
Clearly for her it's business, and business has nothing to do with friendship! It would be interesting to see how many actual friends she has or is able to keep. Life has a way of teaching us painful but important lessons, and Matt this is one with several caveats. Most important, always be the gentleman you are, life works for those who are thoughtful and compassionate, it's the way of the universe. Sincerely hoping this beautiful dream horse will be exactly what you hoped for. Have a safe and successful journey!
BKM --What a beautiful way to express this. Matt, wishing you and yours the very best, "keep being the gentleman you are." I'm so sorry you went through this.
Good for you Matt. I so hoping you get this horse! Sending you all good thoughts. This happened to me twice. It’s sad that people have to be this way. I will keep any horse I am interested in to myself from here on out. I wish you the best and I hope you get your dream horse ❤️❤️
Matt, I know my previous comments come across as harsh, but I truly truly pray that this horse is everything you hoped he would be and that you and he have many wonderful years together. I know for sure that any animal that is lucky enough to be in your care is blessed, because you always put theirs needs first. Sometimes, when someone or something comes into our lives easily, we tend to take them for granted, but when we have to fight, or the road is filled with adversities, that makes the adventure so much more rememberable.
Omg Matt I’m so so sorry that happened but I hope that everything goes well and your visit will surpass your expectations and this bourse will be everything you ever wanted and more!
Can't wait until you get to meet him if you tell us about that! It's so special when you have a bond with certain animals- I can definitely relate even though I'm not a rider I've had a bond with certain horses and other animals before as well. Also just wanted to encourage you that sometimes when something good is really supposed to happen, a bunch of bad things can precede it, almost making it more worth it in the end, and it makes you more appreciative for the hardships. (Kind of like when people have a rainy wedding day they see it as good luck, Lol). I'm sorry you went through that with your former friend, but I totally agree with you about cutting people off who aren't right for you. I hope that it works out with this horse- so excited for you!
The situation you were put in was heartbreaking and upsetting to hear especially coming from someone you thought was your friend. I wish you the best with going to see your dream horse and I hope everything went well and he is yours now!
Everyone is so excited for you, you truly deserve all the good things in life. Thankfully you recognised the red flags as regards to this woman’s intentions and her manipulative behaviour, you did the absolute best thing and cut her off immediately. It never makes you a bad person because you refuse to allow someone to treat you like dirt, you are worth more than to be someone’s games. The best of luck with this adventure, if it’s meant to be all will work out in your favour. Hopefully we see good news and joy in your next update. Be safe and stay kind. 💜🇦🇺
Embrace positive and follow your heart…. Best to you and those you can trust. Every horse is a charm … and special in every way. Thank you for sharing your adventures!
I’ve been looking for a year and I think I’ve finally found one, luckily they haven’t advertised him yet and aren’t going to until I say no. However, I hope everything goes well for you, and you get the horse. Good luck Matt!
Wouldn’t it be funny if Matt replied and said oh my god the horse you want is the same one as I’m interested in but you heard about it first. You’d gone to the effort and cost of flying to another country to see it and you liked it enough to pay for a vetting. Having never met Matt would you walk away from the horse because Matt wanted it? Because that’s EXACTLY what he expects this person to do. I really hope all goes well with your new horse, I’ll be 🤞🏻fingers for you xx
Hi Matt, I've been watching you for awhile. I just popped on RU-vid today, to go to one of my gratitude meditation videos as I start my day, but I immediately paused because I had this strong sense to watch this video! Soooo, yes, wow this story brings me to tears! THIS HORSE IS YOUR HORSE! You were a beautiful soul through that whole drama and yes, DIVINE INTERVENTION is at play here. You did do everything right on how you handled everything with that woman and your patience and kindness is finally being returned/rewarded with "exactly" the horse you've been looking to have in your life!! Go from your soul instincts, just like you correctly & intuitively picked up on that lady's manipulation and enjoying the "game"--which also angers me she did that & it is good that unlinked from her energy! Her loss right?! Because you are SUCH a beautiful human being Matt! The immediate connection you had watching the very first video, PLS TRUST THAT 🙏🏻💯; and those "goosebumps" feeling you had intuitively, I call them "Godbumps"...it IS all being perfectly aligned and arranged for you by God/spirit/universe/higher source (whatever you may call it). This horse leapt off the screen at you for a REASON! Everything DOES happen for a reason & in divine timing. If the hoof crack is really a huge concern, I understand, but it sounds like it will heal with proper care & time, so DO NOT let that interfere with this connection you're already feeling or this purchase! 💝 I IMMEDIATELY had the same SOUL reaction just from you telling us this story on RU-vid! Most importantly Matt, this HORSE has been waiting for a "Matt" human forever too. 🥲💝I KNOW the owners love the horse, take great care of him...but not at that same emotional connection level you are about to experience; not even close to the depth you will have as you grow older together and bond even more!! Horses are very sentient beings (as your horse communicator showed you --that was an amazing video btw!). So TRUST these inner/higher realm feelings or just "gut" sense! PLS if everything else is perfect w/the vet check & the hoof (or anything that the vet may find) that you KNOW is VERY treatable & not a complicated, high financial cost) DO NOT HESITATE with buying this horse. HE's YOUR HORSE MATT! The horse I feel/KNOW (yes I am a strong intuitive & huge animal lover- I'm being driven to AFFIRM what you are feeling! This the immediate Angel blessed reaction I got from hearing the story. The horse I believe has had 2 or 3 owners (remember they ARE SELLING the horse). He's feeling like he's just another horse among many in these last two he has been sad 😢 for awhile. He saw & understood this "dream" connection & relationship ( I believe at the previous owners) another horse had with their human! You've been very THOUGHT-full & you said you put it out into the universe, you DEFINITELY wanted a horse that you had a deeper, soulful connection, it's not just another purchase to you. AGAIN, HE wants/has been waiting years to be connected & loved in this way and will give as much love back, along with all the riding skills he has! He WANTS to SHINE for you, above and beyond. He'll be very excited when you get there, pls do not dwell in little things that CAN be fixed with care, love and training. He will ADJUST very quickly and well to his WHOLE new horse family as long as YOU explain your relationships with your other fur babies! Well ENJOY & remember every minute of this trip, that your heart has been guided on after 2-3 yrs! You have waited this long for a reason & already you feel so emotionally invested! Trust that, this is a start to a very long beautiful horse love story and bond. I pray you get this message! Love & light ✨🙏🏻💝...go get your horse Matt! 😁✌🏻
I love the personal telling of things. Thank you for that. I have my fingers crossed. I always feel badly that if a horse has a flaw they don't get taken. What happens to them if no one wants them? But anyway, I pray that his hoof looks good and that it happens for yall to be together. Any horse you choose will be a lucky one. I do think of horse communicator Simone who said that Emporio doesn't want competition! But who knows? Maybe they could end up bonding eventually and be life-long equine companions!
🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 can’t wait to see the video where you show us your dream horse!!! Everything for a reason xxx you handled it very well and I can’t wait for you to own this new bay.
Matt she sounds like a piece of work ( that’s being polite ) I am glad she didn’t get to buy this horse and I hope you love him when you see him - he sounds like he was meant for you x
Also one question as I’m not a pro rider. Why do you keep buying more horses when you don’t compete or anything? It’s it better to focus on one horse only and put all energy and resources on one horse and compete with it and succeed ? I’m only asking to know. No hate or judgement or anything.
It’s insane how people be playing with your feelings like this. You actually respond so good not giving her any more attention, some people have just this crazy pleasure to have people in their power. I’m really happy for you Matt, I wish you the best and hope you find your soulemate 🥰.
Yeah agreed that was a crap thing to do from her. I get the cut throat of buying horses but the continued conversations and drama is just so unnecessary. We just went through a similar situation in Wellington. We did eventually get the horse but the up and down drama and rollercoaster was just exhausting. Made the horse’s arrival that much sweeter though! Great horse and was worth the wait! I hope this story has the same outcome! 🎉 Also, Totally support the cutting off people who cause havoc in your life. Life’s too short for that!
This must've been a very special horse. 🐴 I understand how hard that must've been, but honestly I believe you will find the horse that is everything you want and more whether that connection is with him or another horse. I am impressed with your conduct and how you handled that situation.
🤞I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. I’m happy you are able to finally see this horse. Although longer than expected hopefully it all goes to plan.
I look forward to seeing the new horse. Sometimes things all fall into place so easily and other times it may be a challenge. Always something to learn from the experience. Matt your resolve in how you handle this and take the high road shows your character and what a good person you truly are. People like this woman make things in life tougher for us all. Shame on her, but karma will sort it out. Karma's only a bitch if you are! 😊
What a stressful situation! I had something similar happen to me when i was younger, a horse bought out from underneath me. Which in return started a snowball effect of my trainer severing ties with the facility, which had been a family facility for years, the family selling it, the place going down the drain basically. Butttt i cant wait to see the next upload!
Like you said, fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼 I really hope it works out for you, you seem so kind and honest. It looks like you needed to take that story of your chest, I hope it did you good. One can really feel your emotions and mindset through the video I think. Wish you luck, love and health for that horse 💙
i know exactly what you mean when you felt an instant connection to a horse, even down to the shivers down the spine. It's happened to me three times in my life...and all three horses ended up being "the right horse." One did have soundness issues from an old injury, yet I was able to do almost everything you could do with a horse with her, and she gave me a beautiful filly. She is now semi-retired and still has a career teaching young riders. I also bought horses when I didn't have that feeling, even though objectively speaking, they should have been the right horse. I learned to listen to that inner voice. I am just an ordinary horseman that's aging out of riding. I never had the means to buy expensive or elite horses. But the impact of decisions impacts me just as much, emotionally and financially, as an elite horseman. The few things I have learned: 1. When the "right" one comes along, be ready to jump, immediately. Of course a good outcome depends on being clear on what you want and need (the non negotiables) versus "would be nice" or "I can live with that" (the negotiables). Sounds like you are crystal clear on all that. In my case, being ready to jump meant waiving a vet check, once. Something I would never recommend to anyone else! But then, I wasn't paying big bucks, and I was willing to accept the risk. (My gamble paid off). 2. If at all possible, get a pre-purchase contract with the seller, which puts in writing that you have first right to purchase within a set timeframe. This really helps the seller's reputation too. The seller is at least partially at fault here by not having a clear process for "order of go" in place. 3. Especially in elite and high end horses, it's a cutthroat business. What happened to you has happened to many others. It's best to assume that this kind of situation WILL happen, sooner or later. If you can protect yourself with a pre-purchase contract all the better. (I realize that international sales make this difficult to impossible--but getting something is writing is good.) Everyone knows everyone in these circles, and I am sure it's not uncommon for one buyer to let another one test the waters or get a vet check, and then swoop in. And, in some sales I am sure there is an element of deliberately buying a horse just to keep a competitor from getting their hands on it! Good luck, and I look forward to hearing "the rest of the story."
I'm SO GLAD that the opportunity to look at your dream horse presented itself again. You totally deserve it for always trying to do the right thing. I really hope it works out for you 🙂.
Matt, you handled yourself with maturity and kindness. I surely hope your trip to Spain is very successful. After what you have been thru, you deserve it.
Sadly most of my friends have been this way, this can be damaging when you let it happen long enough. Glad you saw those signs quickly and shut it down hun! I’ve also dealt with with horse buying, I’ve got six horses of my own (4 paints, and 2 Appaloosas) but I hope you get your dream horse much love from Texas!
Feel you about this whole situation. I have rare breed horses, and I will tell you it's sheer torture "searching" for the ONE, and finding so many issues, dead ends, personalities, drama. And seeing folks true colors. It's also a lot of mojo in a sense, you "know" when you know it "could" be the one. And sometimes it's just a photo or description and then it is your due diligence to get the final answer. But what an adventure.. It is worth it when it all comes together. Vet check to the max, never regret it. Bless the horse and all the best luck seeing him! Can't wait to see what happens & to see the horse! Edge of our seats.
What a roller coaster! Those moments in life where you discover that have fundamentally different values than a friend are so hard. Wishing you the best.
Im so glad you were able to get that off your chest and reduce the stress from everything. Good luck and i hope all works out well and better than expected!!!
Hey Matt! Your story has created the ultimate cliffhanger. Sadly, I’ve known, and known of to many people that are very similar to the friend you describe. I’ll never understand people like her. I’m very impressed that you’ve taken the high road, and didn’t name this person. It speaks volumes about your character. I really hope things work out for you with the horse, and that he’s everything you’ve dreamed of. Please be very careful not to let your heart overrule your head. It’s going to be difficult since you’ve been looking for another heart horse for so long. Good luck! I’ll be waiting for that next video with bated breath.
Sorry but what has this person done wrong? She heard about the horse, made enquiries and paid to fly to another country to view it before Matt had even heard about it. She’s viewed it and likes it enough to pay more money to get it vetted but because she won’t walk away from a horse she likes so that Matt can have have it she’s the bad person, how does that work?
@@smurfmonster ya she is not a good person. She is supposed to be his friend and pulled this shit. Friends don't do that to eachother and those that do aren't true friends.
@@janetoconnell8295 they weren’t friends tho, they messaged on line, they never even met. So you’re telling me if you saw a horse, spent time and money to fly to another country to view it, liked it so much you were prepared to pay for a viewing then a relative stranger off the internet told you they’d heard about the horse and they wanted it you’d simply turn around and walk away from the horse?
@@smurfmonster she snaked the horse out from under him (or at least tried to). matt was in the process of actively buying the horse and the sellers were still letting other people come, look and potentially buy the horse, which is strange in the first place. he tells his friend about how he's finally found his dream horse but he's really disappointed with the way the sellers have handled the interaction - they essentially brushed aside matt who was waiting at the checkout to prioritise someone who was still trying things on and had, at that point, made no commitment to buying the horse. friend realises that the random horse she's taking a look at happens to be matt's potential heart horse that he's in the process of buying and not only does she proceed to go to look at the horse despite it not being what she's looking for, but then tells matt that she likes the horse a lot and might buy it. then instead of leaving him alone, she decides to essentially tease him by messaging about how maybe she won't buy it, but maybe she will - consistently getting his hopes up and then destroying them over and over again. like... that's such a bitchy move. any good friend wouldn't even seriously look at the horse if they knew how much it meant to their friend. and any good person wouldn't then tease their friend in that way. she's definitely the bad person here lmao.
@@pogpogpog7507 if the timing of things had been different I would completely agree with you but when Mat was making arrangements to have the horse vetted the sellers told Matt that they already had someone else interested and that they had made prior arrangements to come to view, so in effect the seller had already got into negotiations (for want of a better term) with the other party BEFORE they got into the discussions with Matt. The other party found the horse first and made arrangements to fly out and see it before Matt spoke about getting a vetting done. Matt was no further forward in the purchasing process than the other lady, (they both said they wanted the horse subject to a positive vetting) the other lady simply found the horse first and made her arrangements with the seller. I think it’s unfair of Matt to expect someone to rule out a horse simply because he’s interested in it. Matt makes it sound like this person isn’t really interested in the horse and is stringing him along for the sake of it. If she was just stringing him along she wouldn’t have gone to the effort and cost of flying out to view it and actually GETTING a vetting done (we all know how damn expensive they are right🙈), she genuinely wanted the horse the same as Matt. What right has Matt to say the horse is or isn’t what she’s looking for thus giving him priority, he doesn’t know exactly what she’s looking for she could have been buying it for a client and frankly it’s none of his business. For me it boils down to the fact she found the horse before Matt did and she made her enquiries and arrangements to view with the sellers before Matt was on the scene and the sellers honoured this. Matt made his enquiries after her but he expected her to forget about all the time and money she’d invested in a horse she wanted to buy and to step aside for him just because he wanted it, it was his “dream horse”, this is the epitome of entitlement and spoilt behaviour (incidentally when he bought his other two horses they were his “dream horse” at the time of purchase as well). He then says “I would never tell her not to buy the horse because I’m not like that” but then he says he expects her “to do the right thing” and blasts her on his RU-vid channel accusing her of being manipulative. The “right thing” to do would be to get in line behind the person that got there first, not try and emotionally blackmail them and wait in turn to see if the horse is sold or not THEN decide if you want to proceed or not. I’m really disappointed, I’ve always held Matt in high regard and have actively fought his corner in comments but his attitude and actions on this have made me see him in a different light.😢
It’s been 5 days Matt, WHAT WAS YOUR DECISION? I am beyond excited for you, hope everything went well, waiting patiently (well, kind of patiently) for an update.
Man, I wouldn’t have broadcast this news until the horse was 100% mine! Given what you said about her I wouldn’t be surprised to see her jump back in the picture and undercut you again. Can’t wait to see your update, and I hope she stays out it.
All the best Matt with your viewing of what sounds like the most beautiful horse! You deserve every bit of happiness possible, you’re a special human and there needs to be more people like you in the world! Good luck! 🤞❤️🐴
You just gained a subscriber! Notifications on and looking forward to following your journey with this horse. I admire how you handled the situation, but I'm sorry you were treated that way. I hope this turns out to be your dream horse and gets to come home with you.
I totally understand what you mean about how special it is to find that connection after looking for years. I was looking for a horse for some time, but my heart horse found me when one day he came in as a sale horse in our barn. As soon as I saw him, I knew I wanted him to be my horse. I even cried once when I thought about him being sold to someone else. Eventually my trainer could see how much I loved him and offered him to me as a gift. He is my dream horse ❤️
Best of luck Matt. The lady taught you a hard lesson. We class a lot of people as friends when they are nothing more than an acquaintance. Good luck I hope he is everything you're looking for.
Hi Matt, I've been watching you for awhile. But I just popped on to go to one of my gratitude meditation videos as I start my day, but I paused immediately because I had this strong sense to watch this video! Soooo, yes, wow this story brings me to tears! THIS HORSE IS YOUR HORSE! You were a beautiful soul through that whole drama and yes, DIVINE INTERVENTION is at play here. You did do everything right on how you handled everything with that woman and your patience and kindness is finally being reward with "exactly" the horse you've been looking to have in your life!! Go from your soul instincts, just like you correctly & intuitively picked up on that lady's manipulation and enjoying the "game"--which also angers me she does that with people and it was horrible, and it is good that her energy is no longer around you! Her loss right, because you are SUCH a beautiful human being Matt! That immediate connection you had watching the very first video, TRUST THAT; and those "goosebumps" feeling you had, I call them "Godbumps", because it IS all being perfectly aligned and arranged for you by God/spirit/universe/higher source (whatever you may call it). Pls 🙏🏻 TRUST THAT immediate instictual & intuitive feeling you had; this horse leapt off the screen for a REASON! Everything DOES happen for a reason & in divine timing. If the hoof crack is really a huge concern, I understand but it sounds like it will heal with proper care & time, so DO NOT let that interfere with this connection you already have with the horse. This purchase for sure is from the heart and soul not your head! And most importantly you should know I immediately had the same intuitive reaction even from just your telling us this story! Most importantly above all else, this HORSE has been waiting for a "Matt" owner forever too!!! 🥲💝I know & feel the owners love the horse, they take great care of him...but not at that same emotional connection level, not even close to the depth that you will have as you grow older together and bond even more!! This horse/your horse wants this deeper connection too; they are very sentient beings (as your horse communicator showed you --that was an amazing video btw!). So TRUST these inner/higher realm feelings...your intuition or just "gut" sense! Again if everything else is perfect with the vet check and the hoof (or anything that the vet may find that you KNOW is VERY treatable and not a complicated, high financial cost) DO NOT HESITATE with buying this horse. HE's YOUR HORSE MATT! The horse I feel/KNOW (yes I am a strong intuitive & huge animal lover-- @beingme1 on IG & I will copy this & this on your IG acct as well...that's chow much I'm being driven to CONFIRM/AFFIRM what you are feeling! This the immediate Angel blessed reaction I got from hearing the full (well shortened drama version) story. The horse I believe has had 2 or 3 owners (remember they ARE SELLING the horse), again the current owners love and care for him but it is NOT the same as to what you are about to experience with this new horse love in your light. You've been THOUGHT-full and yourself you said you put it out there, that you definitely wanted a horse that you had a deeper, soulful connection, it's not just another purchase to you. And again, the horse IS WANTING/has been waiting for the SAME soulful connection with HIS HUMAN IN THIS LIFE! HE wants/has been waiting years to be loved in this way and give as much love back and all the other riding skills he will SHINE for you, above and beyond. He's feeling like he's just another horse among many in these last two stables/owners...but he has been sad 😢 for awhile after saw/understood this "dream" connection & relationship ( I believe at the previous owners...maybe this one) that this other horse had with their human/ owner! He will be very excited when you get there, please do not dwell in little things that CAN be fixed with time, love and training or care. Congratulations on finding you new love, horse to become part of your beautiful family of horses! Oh and he'll ADJUST very quickly and well to his new family! Ok well ENJOY every minute of this trip, your heart is being guided after 2-3 yrs, you wouldn't have waited this long & already feel so emotionally invested!! Trust that, this is a start to a very long beautiful love and bond. I do pray you get this message! Love & light ✨🙏🏻💝...go get your horse Matt! 😁✌🏻
Did I miss something? I always thought the last 2 Spanish horses you got were your dream horses? Or did they turn out not to be after a while? Or is it just the 3rd (or 4th?) dream horse?
I think he likes the drama. Thats why he's on you tube. His friend found the horse first. He shouldn't expect her to bow out . How selfish and spoiled. He's bought other "dream" horses. How many dreams does he need ?
They’re not, he never wanted a gray from the beginning which he stated in the previous horse searching videos but the grays are what happened to be the ones for him. He loves them but he still wants a bay, and if he’s financially able to then thats great
I'm always so impressed by how mature and established you and Jesse are for such a young age. I really enjoy your videos. I can't wait for the next video.
Matt I really like your channel and tell everyone to come watch and follow so please don’t take this as snarky or harsh as I don’t mean for it to come across that way via text, but I think it’s unfortunate you turned what was essentially two people looking for horses with a total coincidence of ending up both at the same barn, into a “non drama”. You said this person was a friendly acquaintance. To expect her to just drop going to see a horse because you love it isn’t really fair. If she was a close friend you should be happy for her as well, and operate with the idea that if it’s meant to be it will work out.
Thank you for sharing your story. Gosh that's terrible that you had to go through that stress. I hope you get this horse and everything goes well ☺️❤️❤️
I don't understand why you seem to think you should have had dibs on the horse? This woman was interested before you and had the chance to see it before you. It was only fair she went first. It's a first come first served thing. Also, don't forget the owners have the right to choose who would be the perfect owner of their horse and it's their choice to choose who they think would be the better fit. Yes she should have just been straight with you. But she also clearly didn't want to fall out, that's probably why she was wishy washy with you. I wouldn't call it stringing you along. Saying it was your perfect horse (my horse) not hers, sounds weird. Like you think that gives you more rights to the horse. To be honest you sound entitled. It's gross.
@@pjequinelady That maybe the case. But I only have what he says to go on and what he said was entitled behavour. I'm not sure what you mean by "in asked opinion" Also that's not what projecting means. Having an opinion on an open comment board, isn't the same as believing you entitled to something that doesn't belong to you, before anyone else.
@Belinda Barham Regardless, the owner still has the right to pick their prefered owner over another. I was in a similar situation when I had to sell a beloved horse. I picked the person who I felt would give him a better life and turned down someone else, who came to see him first. It was my horse, my choice. And weather he felt he had the right to call it his horse before it was or not, he was behaving intitled.
@Belinda Barham I don’t need to take a breath. Please don’t patronise me. I think you need to watch the video again. The owner made him aware they had decided to let the other interested party view the horse first, before he spend money on a vet check. So he invested nothing at the time. If he did, say in flights. He would have been jumping the gun and that would have been his fault. I don’t think he did though. Also buyers have no rights until a deposit as been paid. They clearly didn’t accept a deposit because they wanted the other interested person to see the horse first.
@Belinda Barham Just because I don’t agree with you, that make me combative? People are allowed different opinions you know. Doesn’t mean you can be rude to them when you can’t make them see things your way. Potential buyer may have legal rights in your country. But not in mine or in most European counties. If there is no contract and no money exchange. There is no right. No one could force me to sell my horse to them. You’re "not visiting this RU-vid channel to argue" and yet you still are. Bye 👋
Proud of you, bud! That was a hard situation, but you handled it with composure and grace. Definitely will be praying that this bay is the answer to your heart’s cry. Can’t wait to see the update!
Super excited right now!!!!! Almost as much as when I got my Psylver boy!!!!! I have to comment that you, Matt are a very mature and good person. You have a great outlook that will carry you through the many storms that life has to offer. Now go get your horsey 😆
Very classy response Matt. I'm so sorry you had to experience this with your ♥️ horse. That deep, instant connection (esp. when you look into their eyes) is rare. I say "BS" - that type of person is not a friend & I believe she only wanted this horse because you were so invested in this particular horse. The fact that she said he's a Bay & I really didn't want that... he'll never be her heart-horse. Really hoping he comes home to you, and - I would cut that false-friend out of my life. I was too kind & naive when younger & it's sad to learn that some people are just horrible. PS: I saved my OTTBs front hooves - instead of Farrier treatment of hardener ( it failed) I removed his shoes 😱 & filed everyday & then applied Farnam's "Rainmaker" moisturizer - from coronet band to his horribly chipped off tips. Farrier was stunned, 9 weeks later, shoes back on. I never stopped using Rainmaker after that & we never had another problem!
Ohhh Matt, I am super excited to watch your next video!!! I keep my fingers crossed because you deserve this horse!!! (and the horse deserves you!💕) 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞
I remember the bay that you liked that failed the vet check and a nice german lady finally bought him and you went to visit them. Thank God for that crack. Maybe this is the one. Everything happens for a reason. Look at the possitive side. She saved you 2000 euro in january.
