100% Or at the very least, keep your intrusive thoughts to yourself. I used to bartend myself and I never once blatantly judged or teased a patron over their order to put them down. Everyone likes what they like. At most I would offer polite suggestions if I felt they may have the wrong idea about what a certain cocktail/drink might taste like, but always in a non-judgemental "you're in the driver's seat" type way. I'd ask if they've had it before but even then that might come across poorly if not careful. If they insist, I make it. Even if they still send it back I offer to make them something they might enjoy based off of a quick conversation if I'm not completely swamped with other orders. I wanted to put a smile on everyone's faces and any bartender worth their salt rimmed margaritas will want the same. If the person serving or mixing your drinks is a judgemental jerk, don't give them your business.
Maybe she was thinking of an inside joke or something. OP is the AH whether it's about his "bundle of sticks" behavior given a SPORTS BAR or not. Sometime snickers and you get entitled to label them a meanie face and take umbrage? The real world might be a bit to unsafe for OP without his helmet.
@@liviavalverde1599i was gonna say the same, I have a friend whose skin is so sensitive every time she does something to it she gets an infection, onw time we tried to dye her hair and her skalp got burns (and it was a safe dye for the other sensitive friend)
To Noah’s point of not feeling like men can can have aesthetic photos like that - you can. I’m a photographer who specializes in lifestyle and boudoir. I highly recommend that everyone gets at least one boudoir shoot in their life. Any gender, any orientation, any size… absolutely find a photographer with a style you like and who makes you comfortable. It’s very empowering to see yourself as the art you are.
I agree. I find it sad that dudes don't feel like they can be sexy a lot. Like many think the only sexy photos they can do is a dickpic. which in most cases imo is hella UNsexy, because a lot of the time they're unsolicited.
Yeah I have seen so many boudoir photoshoots of peoople from many genders, particularly gravitate towards ones with more masc presenting peeps. And they are so beautiful and fantastic. Amd something that I hope to be able to do, because it truly makes me sad how many masc peeps (and specifically men) think of themselves as being unattractive or straight up ugly, just because of their body presentation or body type 😢
For the bread story, it's not about being stupid, it's about thinking about your partner. This sounds like a trend. He's not thinking about her at all. Like this isn't about intelligence, this is about consideration.
Yup I kept thinking this sounds like an inconsiderate person to me. I could never eat the food I know someone at my house purchased to make a meal. This guy keeps doing this to his wife AND kids. He probably thinks they can just eat whatever is in the fridge they'll be fine.
I don't really agree... I prepare all the food my husband and I eat, and if there's anything I need to not be eaten, it's much easier for me to mention what is intended for a recipe, instead of making my husband asking what he's allowed to eat everyday like a child. I just say "I got ___ to make ___"
@@baileescott401 if there is an entire snack cabinet, why would she have to make it her task to tell him. He wants something outside of the cabinet, then ask if its for a meal. Cause you know when she tells him he is either not going to listen or complain about her being "annoying and nagging"
As a woman who got lucky in middle school and was able to grow hair back after alopecia, just to get diagnosed with telogen effluvium in my 30s, I can tell you the guy with the toupee is probably dealing with a lot of emotions. I've spent nights crying sticking my hair to pieces of tape trying to save it while it just falls off my head. It's heartbreaking. We don't always think rationally and the world really does treat you differently when you are balding/experiencing hair loss. You either get laughed at, avoided or sometimes awkward attempted sympathy. Sounds like he needs support and kindness from his partner right now, not forced to share something extremely personal when he's clearly not ready. Edit: One thing to remember is that people going through illness/struggles may not be even ready to admit it's happening to themselves. I find myself often trying to deny it's happening. Why would this guy share something to his partner if he may not be able to accept it himself yet?
I agree that love and kindness are needed. To me, the pair sound too insecure to be a good match, at least at this time. One struggles with vulnerability, and the other is personalizing that struggle as a trust issue. Both seem too anxious to meet the other’s needs.
I think balding is one of those things that people don't really understand until they go through it. Or until someone they love has an extreme experience with. I never really understood it myself until my niece was born with alopecia. She has it so bad that she never even grew peach fuzzy on her head. And she doesn't have eyebrows or eye lashes either. With that being said. And the fact that I'm not even 39 yet and I already have a pretty good bald spot going on. I can completely understand why someone would wear a toupee or a wig and not want to talk about it. You can't expect everyone to have the same level of comfortability on an issue as you. If he's not ready to talk about it, even with his partner. He's not ready.
“As a woman who got lucky in middle school…” I thought your comment was going to be about something else. 😅Glad I kept reading lol great points. It’s nice to be reminded that there are other people with empathy around.
@@ArdentSmilesTo be fair, they did acknowledge that there is nothing wrong with being bald. The humor came from the lengths he went to hide it (as to why they were laughing), so they talked about it like adults afterwards. That being said, the laughter was more directed at the girlfriend’s insecurity with the situation (that it was a “breach of trust”) rather than the guy’s circumstances.
The wig story really resonates me. My bf and I started dating in June, I let him know when we first started talking that I had to shave my hair (for a medical reason) and that while parts are growing back I have balding in some areas still and it’s a major insecurity for me. For this reason if I don’t wear a wig I always wear a head wrap, even around him. He’s told me for months that he doesn’t care and would like to see it, I just told him I really don’t feel comfortable w that and he respected that. 2 weeks ago I finally showed him and he told me he loved my hair so much, and thought I looked beautiful and how grateful he was I felt comfortable enough to show him. Since then I’ve been able to walk around his house without the head wrap/wig and I feel SOOO much better having that support from him. But it is hard, when an insecurity takes you over like that. Losing something like your hair can really affect how you view your physical self and I’m happy I was able to share on my own time and to have someone that respected that boundary of mine.
It's been nearly a year since I shaved my head. It was partly motivated by the fact that I have lupus and both lupus and the meds for it can cause hair thinning so it's been frustrating sometimes. I mainly did it because I love the look. I watched a few videos about scalp care when I finally decided to go for it. One thing I'm doing to help is I've added rosemary oil to the lotion I use because it's clinically proven to help rejuvenate hair follicles so when I eventually grow it back out it'll be thicker again. I'm so glad your boyfriend supports you and has helped your confidence. 😊
For the mom who opens packages story: Sounds like a great way to teach your mom to mind her own business. I'd start sending increasingly horrifying/uncomfortable things until she cracks.
With the baguette story, I don't think it's being highlighted enough that they have *kids.* Those pizzas were *also for the kids.* So…not only did he gorge himself on his own dinner, and his wife's, he also left their kids without the pizza. Edit: Coming back cuz I listen to these at work, and I think about this one too much. Lol. From the comments it looks like they did split, and while I don’t know the context, I would think it’s due to things like a neglectful father (at 37?? who acts like an aloof teen??). Another thing that really rubbed me the wrong way was this dude’s way of “apology” was making food for him and his wife…after the kids went to bed. So. Take that how you will.
Omg thank you. I kept thinking are we going to ignore she said the bread was for a meal she was making for him AND the kids. He was clearly being self-centered and didn't give a fuck he essentially ate his kids dinner, time and time again. 🙄
The dude double fisting six inches off two separate baguettes has worse food guarding behavior and lack of impulse control than a shelter dog or a 2 year old 😂
true but we cant really blame him maybe is not the only problem he has this is all relative to perspective we dont know his past nor his medical record or how he interacts with things or just copes there is a lot of factors being not willingly left out is stuff that most humans dont think to include in deduction.
@@candygaming1312 I don’t understand that. What perspective and medical record or coping? Like maybe he craves certain food, so goes for things even though she has them planned for meals? If that’s the case, he can go shopping for those things for himself, or ask her to pick up for him at the store. I might say “well I planned to make _____ for dinner, but don’t have the ingredients now so……” and make something else that he hates.
I'd love it if the woman who's mum would always open her mail, intentionally send a package to her parents house adressed to herself, that's just a print that says "opening someone else's mail is a federal crime"
For the wig story, I just keep picturing that interview of Elijah Wood being asked, "Do you wear wigs? Have you worn wigs? Will you wear wigs? When will you wear wigs?!"
I've never seen that. He has a point, they're good questions and destigmatize it. However, the way I'm sure he did it with his energy is so funny even just to imagine. Sounds like a meme
@@traditionalnativeI think it was a fake lord of the rings interview where Elijah didn’t *know* it was fake, so I believe another actor was fake-interviewing him with a very silly german accent and asking him stupid questions until he cracked and eventually realised it was fake. Funny as shit, there’s a couple reuploads on youtube if you search up elijah wood fake interview
Side note: some men get vasectomies to help their partner. Specifically with people who have female anatomy, there arent really a lot of non-invasive or or chemically altering options. If standard birth control messes with them too much, it would be a considerate decision to get a vasectomy due to the reversability and general ease of the operation.
Yes, 100%. The way birth control wreaked havoc on my last gf was so eye opening. Physically and mentally. It was crazy. If dudes had to be the ones to have to completely destroy their own mind and bodies in the name of avoiding pregnancies we'd have invented side-effect free birth control by now immediately after the world's biggest population boom in history. I understand why vasectomies are seen as a more extreme option because it's literally a medical procedure but I wish more guys understood how much women go through. It's not like popping an Advil... like, at all.
@@SmokeyChipOatleyExactly. hormonal BC is no joke, it can wreck your mental/emotional state and kill your libido, and it can cause DVT or pulmonary embolisms if you're even more unlucky. We need better options for birth control as well as for women's health issues in general. Doctors keep just throwing hormonal BC at us as a bandaid for so many problems.
If ya'll want a really dumb reddit story, there's this one where this guy gets mad when his wife tells their daughter if there was ever an alien invasion or some other apocalyptic scenario, she and the OP would sacrifice each other to save the daughter. It obviously wasn't serious at all, but the OP was so mad that he left and ran to his sister's house and she let him stay for dinner.
Dumbest one goes to the story where OP tells their niece and nephew that their father is a silly goose and their brother got super fuckin pissed over being called a silly goose.
I once ordered an item from a popular online adult shop. The box wasn't marked in any suspicious way. I came home the day it was delivered and my mom told me she had opened my box and found the item and mentioned how uncomfortable it made her. I asked why she opened my mail. She told me that since she does so much online shopping she had just assumed the package was hers. I just shrugged and thanked her for letting me know the item was here and put it away. She never brought it up again but more importantly she never opened my mail again. She didn't do it all the time but every once in a while it happened. Till that point.
Slip ups can happen when everyone is ordering stuff but I’ve never accidentally opened my parents stuff because I just read the label…that small act is lost on a lot of people. But glad she stopped opening your stuff
I feel for the baguette lady. I bought specific items for thanksgiving early this week because I wanted to avoid the holiday crowds. My family has already eaten two items! I hope they have fun waiting in line to replace them, because I’m sure as heck not going back to the store. In this digital age, how hard is it to shoot me a text saying, “Hey, is it okay if I eat this?”
Same! I bought a special Amish cherry pie because I don't like pumpkin pie (I wish I did, it's a texture thing). I came home and my husband baked it and finished half. In his defense, I didn't leave explicit instructions to NOT eat it.
@@anonymoususer5853 But in your defense, is it something you would normally buy? Does he know that this pie is only bought for special occasions? Does he normally just pull things out of the fridge or freezer to bake for himself?
@alisaishere not normally, but I usually buy special snacks or treats if one of us is having a "treat yo self" 3 day weekend (which he was, we're celebrating his birthday tonight). It was an honest mistake, and he did offer to replace it when he realized he ate my special pie. If it were anyone else, I would assume malice, but this was a genuine misunderstanding. It was honestly more funny than frustrating. It's just a pie. It wasn't that deep. But relating to the op's post, baguette-eater is being an inconsiderate ass and, like most reddit offenders, needs better communication skills. I'm glad OP and her husband could come to an understanding. Hopefully, he abides by the agreement, respects culinary boundaries, and stays in his snack cabinet.
Everyone I've ever lived with has done this constantly, and most of them either yell at me for bringing it up or put on a big "I'm SORRY I'll replace it!" show. They never have.
I feel like, as a woman, the lady version of getting boudoir photos from you girlfriend would be something like, him half naked oiled up doing housework, splitting logs, etc 😂😂
The whole Keith saying that he'd "prefer to eat a cheesburger without bread" was hilarious. XD Especially Noah's reaction and Shane's "...that's not a cheeseburger."
@@Direk091 I’m sorry to tell you but it actually is. I went to culinary so I do know this, but the thing that makes it a cheeseburger is not the bread, and a patty itself is called a hamburger. What makes it a cheeseburger is simply adding cheese at the end to make it melt. Once it’s in patty form, it’s considered a burger
I work at a pub with food, not in the US, and people order our burgers without bread all the time. or don't eat the top half of the bread. sometimes people don't want to fill up on the bread. I do love the reaction and quick cut after that though ahhaa
When I talked to my doctor about the options between me and my husband they told us not to consider either reversible because there is definitely no guarantee. However, a vasectomy is both more likely to be able to be reversed and less invasive than a tubal ligation. I think it was Noah that said they’re about the same.
I love that the editors left in Shayne accidentally using the wrong pronouns (that post was written in a confusing way) and correcting himself immediately after. As a FTM, I appreciate normalising that, too.
The person telling the wifi story 100% has no regret and posted their story entirely to brag. And it's hilarious. And Noah theorizing the guy was eating the baguettes in an attempt to sabotage a meal he didn't like is amazing.
@@zacharycarvalho1383right? He just happens to see him at the exact time he sold the tv with the cash and the people taking the tv. There were a lot of coincidences in that story, that was the one that gave it away.
@@RafaJLopez and when you cast RU-vid that way it shows who is logging in, it puts the picture on the TV. My wife and I cast to the TV all the time and I don't believe I can pause her videos with my phone, only my own or with the tv remote
@@zacharycarvalho1383 and off course the walls are so thin that he knew everything he needed to know about his reaction. Off coursd the neighbor knew how to use a chromecast but didn’t put 2+2 together in six months and no one told him. The op even said he considered pausing everytime he said certaim words or he went to the bathroom, like, do I even need to say anything 😭😭😭
i think the trans guy got some divine information when they started that rumor cause defending being accused of dating your cousin instead of denying it is insane
I have few issues with that story - 1. OP got "confirmation" of rumor being true only through gossip mill back, not directly from source, not seeing them togheter and believe me gossip mill in small town can be CRAZY (i lived in town like that) - "truth" in those cases can be twisted so much it has barely anyth with real events.(Espec if gossip is so juicy) Plus OP prob. didnt look much more into it and just accepted that version as truth bec. it absolved them of guilt for spreading such rumor. 2. Even if they mirac. were right about that gossip they still started one VERY deliberately and strategically, working on that over time WITHOUT even thinking its true at that time. That kind of thing espec. in small town can pretty much destroys your reputation your social life, your family realtionships, your future ... its seriously messed up. Even IF she would be lucky to be right with that rumor (??) - that dont absolve you from your orig. action - in my opinion you should never go route "if that person hurt me i hurt him twice as much" that is way to become as bad (or worse) person as him in the end.
I mean you can do whatever you want, and that includes eating and drinking things meant for children. Chocolate milk is just sugar and fat, not really something an adult conscious about their health chooses to drink, but the great thing about being an adult is you get to do what you want to yourself.
I order white milk (I don't like chocolate milk) with dinner sometimes when I go out to eat and I'm in my thirties. I don't drink alcohol so I'm also all about the "mocktail" list including virgin piña coladas and daiquiris. Had an alcohol free blackberry mojito and it was legit one of the best things I've had in my life.
As a gay man I agree. I think all bodies are a beatiful work of art. And yes I said ALL of them and I stand by it. Not being physically/ sexually attracted to something doesn't mean it isn't beautiful in some way.
@@CibantiAs an aro/ace person, "people are just beautiful to look at, like art" is my go-to for describing asexual attraction. Glad to know others think the same!
As an odd aro/ace, there are mildly spicy photoshoots of very regular looking people that are just, *chef's kiss* . Guys in the video have no idea how beautiful men's bodies can be.
I was judged at a café/coffeeshop once, but not by staff. I don't drink coffee or tea, but I love hot chocolate. And some dude was like "why are you ordering a hot chocolate?" and I say "because I like them", and he rolls his eyes and said "this is a coffee shop", to which I just raise an eyebrow and reply "if they didn't want people to order it, then it wouldn't be on the menu smartass"
Perfect clapback! Gotta love people who can't mind their own business over such small things. Ironically, those who claim that drinking hot chocolate/watching cartoons/dressing up for Halloween/etc. is childish are the ones that have the mind of a child, in my book. Being that insecure must be miserable.
@@JUNJYR Thank you! Yeah, I've had some "that's childish/for kids" comments directed at me. Like it's not my fault that I enjoy chicken nuggets. Where does it say they are restricted to children? Some people just can't keep their opinions to themselves 🤣
The fact that this was a small town and the saying about small towns is that everybody knows everybody and no secret stays a secret so it was probably bound to come out EVENTUALLY
Noah’s look of betrayal and confusion when Keith said he prefers a cheeseburger without bread and then Shane trying to change the subject like his friend’s whole reality didn’t just shatter🤣
@@dennismorris5244 weaponized incompetence doesn't have a gender. Men and women can do it. It mostly talked about in context of men, mostly married men, but women can 100% do this too. Just like domestic violence, it doesn't have a gender, abuse is abuse, it's just more women come forward than men.
45:50 My dad had 3 kids with his ex wife then had a vasectomy. After they divorced and he married my mom, they decided they wanted 1 kid and he had to get the reversal surgery. From what I've heard, it's not that bad, just expensive. Then they had me, they always joke that I'm the opposite of an accident lol.
When Shayne used "she" the first time I was like. Oh no. And let out a HUGE sigh of relief when he corrected himself. What an unfortunate story to have that happen on.
exactly, and he responds just as the OP in the story says: apologies, quickly corrects himself, and moves on. very respectful and a great display of his good character
when i was 22 i was at a bar for a show and i ordered a shirley temple. the bartender laughed but she gave it to me for free, including refills. i was a little embarrassed at first but then my friends who bought alcohol told me how much they paid. felt a lot better about it after that 😂
So real, dude! I don't drink alcohol and therefore have NEVER had to pay more than like $5 for a drink at a concert or bar, and if I ask for something simple like a ginger ale then it's usually free. You think I'm gonna feel embarrassed by ordering something that costs 3x less than what my friends are spending whenever we go out? Nah 😂
Regarding the toupee story: Given the age, it's very likely that the guy is balding, emphasis on *ing*, and not fully bald. You wouldn't look twice at a 40 year old who's got a big bald spot in the back of their head. But what if someone like, say, one of this episode's cast members had some tough patches on their scalp? When you're balding, you're basically down to covering it up (hat or so), shaving your head (lots of regular work), or owning it (can also be a lot of work). And, unfortunately, a lot of cultures would see a young person that's balding as unappealing, unhealthy or just unattractive. And like with the height thing that Shayne mentioned, there's an element of it being out of one's control. Most male baldness is purely genetic 🤷🏻♀ I empathize with the guy. And I hope he comes to terms with it and is able to be comfortable in his body. It sounds like the woman wants to be supportive and help him through that journey. But it also sounds like she's taking it personally; which could make things worse for him if approached that way. Reader, if you're a balding person, just know that most people will forget about it if you do too (:
I noticed my hair thinning a number of years back, so I started shaving it all off. Wasn't that big a deal for me as I already kept it buzzed. And honestly, its really not that much of an upkeep. I use a Skull Shaver and shave it daily, takes about half minute on average, and sometimes ill skip a day. Oddly enough, it was after I started shaving my head that I found out the birthmark on the back of my head is almost perfectly snapped like Africa (including Madagascar lol). A coworker at the time started calling me African princess (I'm a very large man by the way, and not remotely feminate XD).
@@dhelor I didn't know about Skull Shaver. Looks like a great product! I'm glad you're able to just accept and roll with it and that it feels good (: And cool tattoo haha I typically keep my hair buzzed short. I started thinning over ten years ago. Top back of my head is about fully bald. Rest of the top is pretty thin. I think I'd be comfortable shaving~
i think a lot of younger adults get very insecure about their hair especially if they're balding, all my parental figures are fairly young and they take their hair pretty seriously either dyeing it or just wearing hats all the time. what u said about her taking it personally i agree with honestly, she wants to be supportive but at the same time is just "ugh why wont he tell me!" if she wanted to be 100% supportive she'd just wait until he did cause clearly it's probably an insecurity thing.
Going off the toupee story: when my parents first started dating back in the early 90’s, my dad had a mullet that was really really long in the back. And one day my mom went over to my dad’s house and while he was in the shower, she snuck in to grab something and saw his toupee on the counter. And she panicked because she said she thought he had cancer. But it turns out he had just been balding for years and the entire top part of his mullet was fake 😂😂😂
@@ZacLJones yes yes this is what I was picturing, stories about just either the most painful nerd in a social situation, or nerds owning a W for a change or any gaming rage AITAs could be fun too
My mom used to do this to me all the time. Finally, she opened up my college transcript-an envelope that clearly said VOID IF OPENED, and I told her she just delayed my college applications. She stopped after that thankfully 😅
As far as vasectomies being reversible goes, my uncle got one when he married his second wife, but got it reversed for his third wife, but got ANOTHER vasectomy after he had two kids. So you can go back and forth at least one time.
Not to mention they're very early in their relationship. He probably doesn't want to risk her telling a lot of people if they break up. He's allowed to want to keep some things private until the relationship is in a more sure and stable place
@@RedFreaderdI don’t think it’s super early in the relationship. At the beginning she mentioned being together for “a few months” or “several months”. So it’s not like they just started seeing each other a couple weeks ago.
@@hexinthelilypond4213 I believe she said they'd been together 6 months, and I consider anything under a year to be early. It takes a long time to form deep levels of genuine trust and connections and a collection of months rarely covers all that for most people. Intimacy means different things for different people. I'd feel differently if she said they were on terms of preparing to move in together. Then yeah, a little weird he didn't bring it up. But people have so so many layers. You're not gonna see a fraction of that in less than a year. I stand by what I said, even if some people think "months" is a long relationship. He's still allowed to reveal that stuff on his own terms. He deserves the respect to decide what his timeframe is for big secrets or insecurities.
@@RedFreaderd at the point where it is obvious and you decide to bold facedly lie to them when they ask about it... that's a red flag. It's honestly disrespectful and if he's willing to lie about something insignificant just because he feels insecure, imagine what he's willing to lie about elsewhere. Also, I don't think that a few months is a long relationship at all.. but that first year of a relationship is about getting to know someone intimately. No one should be sticking around for a year waiting for someone to stop lying to them, that's an unreasonable ask.
@@jacforswear18 Talk about the most microscopic red flag ever. I think people are deserving of more patience and understanding than that. You can't treat people like their default is malicious intent. Compassion goes a long way. He's hiding a bald spot not a dead body. This whole situation could be completely defused with a mature conversation 🙄
Rumors of murder definitely happen. There were tons of rumours about me in my HS, but my favourite was when I was sick for a week, and my sister came home halfway through "hey, did you know you killed someone and you're in juvie for it?" It wasn't just that I wasn't in class, I skipped school all the time, but I was frequently seen walking around in town, but I was nowhere to be seen because I couldn't leave bed. The next Monday was easily my favourite day at school *ever*
I gotta ask for an episode that features Matt Mercer and they are reading DND related drama stories from reddit. It’s something I absolutely need in my life. Maybe bring in Brennan or Aabria too, I’d watch the shit outta it
Especially if it's done well. A lot of unsolicited nude pics from dudes are so poorly lit. As long as there's some effort and composition, nude men look amazing in pictures too.
Its also about posing. Knowing how to pose for pictures in a natural way is so crucial to how tasteful the photos will turn out. Some guys never realize when theyre more relaxed is when they pose really natural and great. The stiff poses they give are what makes them not so tasteful.
I will say, as a balding dude, especially a bigger balding dude, there is such a stigma and I’ll just say bullying atmosphere to balding. Like I get insults by grown ass adults (especially women) so much that I HAVE to wear hats to hide it.
Baguette story: I did something similar to a special chocolate cake my mom made for a coworker of hers going on maternity leave. I scooped handfuls of cake with my unwashed hands and ate it in my bedroom without plates or napkins. The thing was I was 6 when I did this. Op’s husband is on the same level as a disrespectful 6 year old, and this situation might not be divorce worthy but I bet that he’s like this to her in other areas of their marriage.
