The EVIL 8 

What Becky did was a set up. It is evil.

@Querencia7779 What if the person is diagnosed with f.ex Aspergers, ADHD, PTSD? Is that something they can use as an excuse?

Thank you for this comprehensive list. My former mother in law was like this. She lived to create havoc for other people and enjoyed the results. She ended up with lots of other people’s disdain. The last time she tried to humiliate me publicly at a family event I walked away from her, and turned the tables in private.

​@@clairevandenberg8204 I know people with ADHD and autism who met 6 on the list except the lack of empathy and remorse.

The tongue 👅 in there mouth 👄 doesn’t match the tongue 👅 in there SHOES 👞 😉😳

You aren't as smart as Dr Phil. Stop trying.

Amen. 🎉You are so correct!

EXACTLY!!! 100%👍👍

​@@lovewhitey2027 Good one! 😂😂😂

Because it's what's familiar.

Yep dad is narcissist so I married one didn’t realize this for 20 years 23 years together. 2020 God opened my eyes to the truth. Mental abuse. I am always wrong I don’t know anything in his eyes. Love bomb first 5 years then started changing. I thought in beginning I love him so much do things to make him happy but wasn’t me. Tells me how to dress. Things sex fix’s everything I told him it doesn’t fix anything. I tried it for 20 years our problems go deeper. He doesn’t like it cause I have learned to control my emotions. It’s hard 2 kids together. Yes they are. Thanks for sharing

Took me 58 years to realize this.

It's exactly a lot of people who grew up in narcissistic families have complex pdsd and just attract toxic people

Some are telling the truth when they brag BC their parents are rich narcissistic people themselves. Sad.

enjoy seeing people (myself included) grow and understand what abnormal physiological behaviors are. We don’t need to shame anyone or put them down for the behavior, but we can protect ourselves from future harm😇 I’ve got my Christmas gift 🎁 and will only let a few people know, knowing who to trust was the problem.

No contact saved my life.

Ditto in my family. I do the same but now have to deal with them due to family business issue. It’s been unbearable & making me physically sick🤢😵‍💫❗️Looking for attorney who can handel NPD types so I do not have to interact with 🙃

You’re exactly right, no contact is the only way to respond. Anything else leaves the door open for baiting or raging.

Same here. One would think that provides an advantage, but only if you can remember to remain guarded, because the familiarity can pull you into the same old cycles if you're not very careful. It's very sad how comfortable one can get in that dysfunction.

Been there done that, hugs

I am sorry that happened to you. I can relate, to the struggle, and I think topics like this should be taught in middle /high school.

I agree, your mental health is priceless. If you can afford to live alone, that is the best situation. If you cannot afford to then try to find individuals who are mentally healthy, mature, responsible, respect personal boundaries, are trustworthy, and honest. No one should EVER become homeless, bankrupt, or both because they have been horribly victimized by someone in their own family, someone in society, or both !

@ricardo angel I am sorry that you have a family like that. I know what it is like to have individuals in your family who do not look at you like a human being, but an object with zero feelings.

So true, can very strongly relate

No one should ever end up bankrupt, homeless, or both because they have been horribly victimized by someone in their family, and the outside.

I agree !!

You know, Johnny Cash sung a song about how these people end up. Sooner or later, God's gonna cut you down.

I have had enough drama, Dr. Phil Let's play some tennis!

@lylux4985 I agree... They are pathological liers. I married one. Had no idea what was behind the mask...He was kind, manipulated me, lied pathologically... He fits each of the 8...As with Dr. Phill, my parents taught me to give people the benefit of the doubt, but to be wise & not let them take advantage of me; to make good choices.... With that, I was still too trusting & naive...I learned the hard way. His family is filled with them... Had I known what I know now, I never would have married him. He has heard me say that in front of others when the question was asked. I held up my own, stood up to him but it was/is still a struggle.

I have quit 2 old friends in the last few years. It feels really good!

Me too.

Me too

This does give me affirmation that I cut the appropriate person out of my life. Took me a couple of years to heal but I’m on the other side…

Totally relate!!

So true, dog poop collectors. All the doom and gloom they wanna show you to keep u in a state of fear...🙄

All I can say is WOW. This type of use of others is often hard to define. And often, these are people you love or are concerned for. You see their need for help. They do not see their need for help.

But if this is happening to somebody what do you do to stop it

@@RubyThompson-jo1ns you have to find someone willing to help. I can tell you a million things that don't work. I can't tell you one that will work for everyone. But the more you have supporting the victim, and the more complicated you can make it for the perp, the less chance the perp is going to be successful. One thing about it, is it takes years after the stalking stops, for the person to ever stop looking over their shoulder, and they will never be the same afterwards.

Thank you for your inspiring bravery In order to understand what’s behind the toxic way of being… frightening though that ppl can be this toxic & in complete denial

Beautiful

How profound, beautiful & compassionate your perspective is. I will remember your words…… “ I no longer sit with anger towards them , but a sadness that their shame & insecurities will probably never allow them to know and feel their authentic self and the authenticity of others.” Thank you for sharing your healing thoughts.⛑.

Higuoy. You sound well adjusted in your thoughts. I am trying to adjust my thoughts as well. Though not diagnosed…I have all the behaviors of a person with BPD. I always believed my actions,thoughts,emotions, and behaviors were normal. Was I ever wrong!!! I have sadly pushed so many people away. Currently I am isolated and alone. My heart literally hurts from my actions and loss. I know what my triggers are and try hard to shooo them away when they come back which is nearly daily unless my time is limited with others. I have lived with this my whole life since early childhood. I was severely abused in my opinion and includes what I believe is part of a genetic condition. I appreciate your empathy for those few who suffer from personality disorders and appreciate the love and grace of Jesus dying words on the cross as he said, “forgive them Father for they do not know what they do”. This would include everyone… ✝️🏃‍♂️

Define your borders to yourself, write them down if necessary. Announce them to offenders especially people who installed the buttons they push. If you want to manage your own life don't complain just defend your borders they contain the quality of your life.

Recognize it’s a mental illness. Accept it and surrender to the idea they will never change. See the opportunity to become strong and independent. Be fully non- attached.

You "audited" your relationships. Hats off to you!!! I had an awakening 10 years ago.

Yes, right, great questions for him!!!!! Really wish he would go into all of those things you're saying here for us!! 😣 👍👍👍👍

I just posted about that without reading this. The sad thing is that they use you, for whatever reason, and once they get what they want, they will pick fights, or sadistically antagonize, until you are either caught in a vicious cycle of defending yourself, and become highly agitated, or you walk away. They may also mock you and state they are "Just joking", (which they are really not/more sadistic behavior), and it will shock you because it comes out of nowhere. Also, they may ghost you altogether, and you may never hear from them again. Sometimes it is so hard to detect, because some of these jokers are so under the radar, however, follow your gut, because sometimes their mask will slip, and you see how they really are !! I know it can be very hurtful, because you do not use, or manipulate people for your benefit, however, there are others in society, and possibly in your own family that do. The problem is you may have done nothing wrong, however, they may have no use for you anymore, and they will treat you like trash. Conversely, you may have started to detect their deviant schemes, they may ghost you, lie to you, or try to SET YOU UP, because their "Jig is up". They may also smear you to others, out of malignant jealousy, or because they are angry due to detection. In addition, if you are being gaslit, psychologically manipulated, STALKED, exploited, you may want to report that to the police, and try to move on. Also, if you have been physically assaulted, financially abused/victimized, and suffered other physical issues, that must be reported, as well. I am sorry that you have experienced this, however, if you are now free from this individual who is causing you emotional pain, consider yourself lucky !👍 For some of us, the pain, abuse, and REAL crimes have been reported and IGNORED, thus allowing the cycle of VICTIMIZATION to perpetuate ! It is diabolical, sick, twisted, evil, clinically insane and HIGHLY CRIMINAL ! My situation has gone on for over 16+ years, with NO relief, until now... #arrests #lawsuit

@Elana Hammer Think again. Baiting is never appropriate in any situation. Not even with fish. What did the fish do to deserve baiting. They are trying to survive too. Would you bait your dog or your cat? An animal too.

Stay out of the swamp and you should be fine ! 😉

Yes, and further to that, what does it say about human kind that they, en masse, do not properly and fully check the other side of the story. Even when the victim implores them to do so. It tells me human kind, en masse, is a superficial, factitious, brick wall of nothingness.

Yep, my own sister.....my sister !!! She made up things about me that were totally made up. She emailed people we knew. It was a blind copy email. One person told me about the email. I ignore that sister since 2010. Now as it suits her agenda my sis emails me and sends me DM on Fb. Its doesn't work as I ignore her messages.

Amen to that brother!!!! 👍👍👍☺

Jean Wetherbee said "were". Once a narcissist, always a narcissist. there is no 'were". The correct phrase Jean Wetherbee should have used is 'are and will always be".