The Greatest Technique for Letting Go | Do This When You Can't Do Anything 

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As Nansen put it several hundred years ago -- "... give yourself the same freedom as the sky. You call it neither good nor not-good."

I lost my oldest 15 years ago. You really only have 2 choices. You can be bitter, angry, full of blame, miserable, or you can understand that nobody, nothing is "yours". Everthing is on loan.

Hello Todd, I’ve been on a journey of healing after my wife’s death 13 months ago. I’ve been practicing Nichiren Buddhism, breathing, chanting, and meditation. I had no choice but to let it all go. Or we could say cancer took it all away from our young son and myself. I just want to thank you for your guidance. I was born with happiness in my soul, and I’m finding it again. Love you man.

Interesting! I also heard a hypnotist who said the subconscious is like an extremely loyal but not very bright dog, in that the subconscious mind takes every word very literally (never say "it broke my heart" for example), and it does not even understand negations (words like "no" or "not" which reflect things that aren't reality) so it blips right past them. If I say "My life does not need to be perfect," for example, the subconscious hears, "My life does need to be perfect." So instead of telling myself, "I do not need to be perfect, my life doesn't need to be perfect" maybe I will say instead, "I release my craving to be perfect and my craving to have a perfect life. I am always happy now."

Or “I am imperfect! I am ok with an imperfect life!” Love the message brother!

when you lose you gain ....be grateful

I loved today’s message Todd. Since leaving my unfaithful, emotionally abusive husband 3 yrs ago, I been slowly rebuilding a new,happy and peaceful life. My Psychiatrist is extremely pleased with the progress I’ve made and has reduced my medication to a minimum. MYSELF as well as my two daughters, grandson and very loyal friends have helped me more than they could ever imagine. They are the reason I’m still alive and enjoying my second chance of living the life, I only ever dreamt of, for the past 13 long and mentally challenging years. I have slowly illuminated all the unnecessary things from my life. Donating them to my local charities. You’re so right Todd, I felt great lifting the unnecessary weight from my shoulders. All that is left, is for me to forgive the two men, who hurt me so much in my life. Only then will I feel ready to join my GOD in eternal life ! I’m 69 years of age, so guess I better get working on that one. !! I’m sure with prayer, meditation and your encouragement Todd, I will get there. Kind regards your Aussie fan😘 Pam . 11:46 🤗🙏😃

Oh boy, that finally gave me a profound release from the burden I’ve been carrying around all my adult life!!!! Thank you so much!!!!!

I am approaching my 73rd birthday and I can still hear my mother's angry voice saying to the child me " If you can't do it right the first time, don't bother doing it at all ! " The need to be perfect is paralyzing .

I don’t believe in coincidences and this video proves it. I am in my 60s and I’m still struggling with acceptance of what was and is. I know this video was divinely sent to me. Someone who is very spiritually enlightened likened mantras to records in a jukebox. Replacing the old records with new ones. It does work but it’s not magical. It has to be maintained and nurtured just like our bodies do. Thank you brother for the calming reminder. ❤

I accept myself the way I am I accept life the way it goes I am here to be

I needed this,my spouse ended it after 12 yrs,I'm beyond heartbroken,your video helps me 👍

Love the nature walk. Thanks for this helpful perspective. After 24 years together my wife left me, out of the blue, for another guy at her work, and I'm in the process of letting go completely.

I need to listen to this message every morning for the rest of my life.

I've been pondering this message for a couple of days now and it has had a profound effect on my well being. Much gratitude! 🥰🙏

You have a friendly face and I like the nature, sounds of little birds. Very nice presentation and powerfull message. Thank you. 🙏

Thank you, my daughter is healing too with your teachings. a traumatized world needs and thanks you.

When you said „you do not need to be perfect.“ my whole face muscles started relaxing and everything tingled in my body as I became aware. It was really an spiritual experience and definitely what I needed to hear at this exact moment. Thank you from my heart ❤️🙏🏼

i needed this ive been smoking weed for 25 years to escape my problems im quitting for a while now

I'm not seeking perfection. I'm asking for respect. The same respect I give.

I love this. I need this every day. We are all perfect beings having a conditional experience to learn from it for expansion and evolution for the collective. Our personal challenge is to wake up in it and bring forth heaven on earth. And we will realize perfection is unconditional love & perfect understanding of our true connection to each other no matter what is going on. No judgement.

I really needed this message today.. 😭 I've never come across amy of your videos before, but I woke up in a pit of despair and regret and self judgment today, and said "I don't know how to let these feelings go."...Really I was asking for guidance. I opened up RU-vid and received this. My humble thanks to you, and also my spirit guides 💓🙏

Todd, you are the wise older brother I wish I met earlier in my life. Thank you and bless u x infinity ❤❤❤

There is a higher truth: 'Everything is always in perfect harmony'. In other words: stop seeking, you are already perfect. Just start looking more inside. Om shanti...

Good stuff....I've found as I get older I agonize over embarrassments and traumas of the past still feeling the pain. I realized how silly it was when I was reliving an episode of humiliation. It dawned on me that, "wait a minute! I was 7 years old when that happened! It wasn't my fault. Why the hell should I care about it now!" What's helped me get over such things is realizing what the physicists call Super-determinism....that is, everything that happened was going to happen. People hate this because it negates 'Free Will', but really how much free will do you think you have? How often has free will overridden your bad decisions? Even if you had made different choices shitty results would still have come your way. We're all just on a ride to who knows where. We can get dragged through it kicking and screaming, or we can do what Thoreau said, choose to live our lives deliberately and let come what may.

I have said this mantra 2 times and already I feel my system relax, settle and feel at ease. Thank you so much

I was feeling very sad since morning, thinking about all the struggles i've been going through, my health, my sister always giving me problem for no reason being sarcastic all the time, my husband always putting me down but i take it all in for the love of GOD. I feel better after watching your video. I don't have to be perfect for anyone and i'm not perfect.

Wow! I totally needed this; it just popped up… I suffered a horrible childhood and this helps me to remember to not let my mind go back to those awful days but to stay present and grateful for today ❤

Thank you, thank you, thank you - as a “perfectionist” this mantra is what I needed today 🙏😊🔥🔥🔥

I needed this. Idealism was my suffering. How l and others and life should be. Thank you

Beautiful setting!!!! These issues are just all the layers that were put upon us after we were born into this life as pure love…… our journey here is full of choices. Our greatest gift in this life is freedom of choice. We get to choose which layers to keep and which to remove….

We know these things, yet somehow, our humanity makes us strive for more. Thankyou for verbalising such simplicity, but I do think that we have been on a treadmill and we have forgotten that we are just 'ordinary' with a few special pieces. Somehow, all my life, ordinary was not good enough..... there was always more. These days, yeah, you are right..... we can't let go even if the dream was shattered, we still want what we want. We have never really been shown how to just 'be' and see what happens.

Todd you may not read this but I'm happy to hear you touch on manifestation, mantra's, positive thoughts. I've been reading deeply into spirituality and having a somewhat Christian background, I feel like I've finally found what I've been looking for in "God". It makes me feel less crazy to know there are other people out there walking a path similar to my own. Thank you for your thoughts on this and I hope all is well. Stay blessed

This saved my life I think. It came to me in a great time of struggle and honestly, I'm so much happier after meditating on this, and truly giving it some thought. Your 100% correct. Thank you for your great words of wisdom.

Thank you, if practiced daily I can see how this would heal anyone's heart. Self mercy is the greatest gift bestowed onto mankind. Blessings and appreciation

One of the times I'm grateful for the algorithms of RU-vid LOL what we are talking about and pretty much what we're thinking LOL and then these things pop up in perfect timing.. grateful for your video!

It helps to remind myself that everything is happening exactly as it is supposed to.

Thank you Todd, wabi sabi, practice of being okay with imperfection. I bought this symbol ENSO, it is in metal art form to remind me I am not perfect and neither is all of reality. It keeps me in the moment that I am okay with my fate (amor fati, love your fate) and that I accept my world as it is now. I didnt say it out loud as you say but now I will say it and shout it. I do not need to be perfect! Peace and love to you.

Was laid off last week from a startup. I have been going through a process of healing and letting go of certain things and people in my life. This is my fourth lay off in my tech career. I mention this because I have a tendency to always wanting the perfect job or the perfect tech. Letting go of past hurts am is very hard for me ( diagnosed with adhd earlier this yr at 46) and letting go of the perfect future. So glad I came across this reminder that life is. It meant to be perfect. We suffer in our own intelligence.

The way this took a huge weight out of my chest, honestly, I feel like a feather after listening to you. This is one of the most valuable messages I've heard, I will put a reminder to listen to this every week, thanks so much 🙏

Amen ❤ our quest for perfection is truly damaging

I've been thinking exactly this for some time now. My original motivation was to be kinder on myself so not too look back on things too critically and give myself a hard time. I was also expecting that it would also motivate me to do more things as my big problem is procrastination which holds me back, in fear I think, fear of embarking upon a task that I will put pressure on myself to do. But it didn't actually do that. I became less critical of myself when I didn't do things perfectly but I didn't do more. The trap I fell into of procrastination was always there. However, with the mantra you give here "I do not need to be perfect, I do not need to have a perfect life" this phraseology seems to appeal directly to my motivation and procrastination manifests like an opaque wall that slowly crumbles and then disappears before my very eyes revealing to me that what lay behind it was composed of exactly the same material as the things that are all around me already and that truly the only thing in the way of myself doing it was actually myself. What a beautiful lesson you have given me. Heartfelt thanks 🙏

I also love how every one's mantra to this, is slightly different reading the comments. Meaning it worked brotha.... so beautiful.

"All you had to do was being perfect" and then abandoning me and going totally uninterested left me with hurt anger and most stupidly guild and now unable to let go also bc I held this person in such high regard. It is true I don't have to be perfect but still wish my life was getting better without being hurt once again. I'll have to accept though. But my mantra feels better saying you are perfect as you are and my life is perfect as it is.

There is so much valuable content in this video I don’t even know where to begin, I’ll just say thank you sir!!!! Saved this baby for future reference, the one thing that I’ve been struggling with is getting older and not having reached my goals in my mind. So true, the lucky ones do get to grow old and die, and life is never perfect. 👏🙌🏽

One of my friends shared the link to this video. It has been very helpful as I have going through some very tough times. Thank you so much for being a source of light for me during these dark days.

Thank you. I appreciate your wisdom and that you share with all the wild green around you. I'm in a barren dessert in life, figuratively and literally and have been stuck in my mind, spiraling around in circles trying to make sense of it all.

It's really trying to make ourselves perfect that causes a great deal of trouble. You can't perfect what is already perfected

This is some of the best advice I've ever heard. I'm definitely going to do this.

I have made mistakes that have had lasting consequences. I've tried to let go and forgive myself but nothing seems to make me feel any better at all. Some decisions I have made were because I didn't know what else to do but they didn't make me happier.

A truly magnificent message! Life changing.

Sometimes, the system wrongly oppresses us, and it's not "wrong" to point that out.

I heard the mantra, and tears come up to my eyes. I'm just in the middle of a crisis in the aftermath of pushing hard with meditation and zillion ideas - coz I wanted the enlightenment so badly.

Thank you. Just listening to you has made me realise why I’m finding it so hard to let go of the need to keep trying to help my 56 year old daughter with her weight issue. I realise that it has to come from her. Her health is already suffering and she’s in complete denial. It is guilt I am Holding on to, because as a Mother, I feel there must have been a time in her life that I didn’t listen or pay attention to….. I think I’m going to write her a letter, as she lives a long distance as away, Then talk to her x

When I found out about myself by using psilocybin, through unusual means and a desperate way to find the source of my depression. It lead me through two years of hell to understand that I can't get what I want from something so powerful. Then I had to work backwards, not in time or the past. My perception of it was aligned with the fact I can't change it, only what I thought of it. The mantra you have displayed was of great use, for my hour walk to work I repeated it over and over. It resonated with my being. I am forever grateful for your guidance. Nameste

What a magical video with even the background peace and nature.. and the mantra I LOVE

Deep wisdom given with clarity. I felt immediate peace and relief. Great to know that this is THE ONE doable mantra I can use everyday and teach to my kids.

I think we all struggle with being humble so we can be our best selves and at the same time making sure we aren’t getting too depressed from thinking we will never measure up and get that approval from ourselves and others that we crave. Humans are incredibly social creatures and we ALL strive for approval. That’s normal. What’s not normal is the lack of acceptance and approval from friends and extended family from a young age all the way through adulthood. Everyone else’s worries and fears come to the surface and then they crush your spirit with their words. Words are incredibly powerful, almost like a spell where they form reality from mere thought. So pls everyone be super careful about what you say outloud. It can cause serious damage to others.

RU-vid algorithm brought me here needed this message thanks man ❤

Thanks so much. As a perfectionist "do-gooder", I really needed to hear this today. Nameste.

I'm not sure if I understood what you meant well. But I feel very good now after listening to you and watching you. Don't know why.

With great power comes great responsibility ❤

Great advice. Thank you! Knowing that we don’t need to be perfect is really freeing.

Your content is wonderful and addictive. Thank you❤. You're wise and straight to the point, without rushing one bit. Perfect for us adhd-ers😂.

Hi Todd, believe it, the mantra would only work for those who are impure inside. But whose soul has gone through purification through certain practices, it will drop one down instead of lifting up.

Thank you Todd, your words are a blessing to me right now.

Timely...synchronicity nicity.....You are the Sky and NOT the clouds!

Thank you, Todd!! The mantra helps me so much in letting go of expectations that I put on myself and on my life. I occasionally wake up in the middle of the night feeling sudden stress/anger (mostly from dealing with students as a high school teacher), and last night I was able to find peace and ease by focusing on the mantra. This is something I want to continually practice and live by. Thank you 🙏🏼

Thank you! This resonates so much to me. It opened my eyes, my heart. Yes I am both and I have struggled my whole life with this. Now I will let go! Thank you! ❤️🤗🙏

Man your teachings hit home , im grateful , im watching you from central KY

Saw you the first time on YT today. Wise man. Thank you!

Best video I have yet seen on RU-vid wow so deep and meaningful ty so much !!!

Wow! This video was a big out breath for me. This mantra is beautiful and so helpful! Thank you❤

i thought this was going to be about 'letting go of possessions'....what a surprise!! i would not even have considered my emotional 'drags' of what i am holding onto mentally and spiritually! how my anger and hatred against those who have harmed me and my family is damaging me. how holding onto the loss in my life is hurting me daily. i AM a perfectionist, to the point of giving up because i KNOW i will never achieve perfection!! i am so full of self hate, it spills over onto anyone i have contact with, so now i am alone also. and fierce-fully lonely.

Thank you for this video. This message kind of came to me softly the last few days and this the absolute confirmation that I needed to hear this. Letting go is so powerful. Thank you thank you thank you

Thank you 😊❤️very inspiring

Thank u for sharing this ❤it’s really important to understand how to let go of things that are not serving us

Thank you🙏. It’s easy to listen to you. What a great spark you are🌷

Thank you, this changed the way I look at life and myself.

Where attention goes energy flows, bring energy back to the I am and detach from self concept to analyze and transform it

I am so glad I found this part of youtube in the darkest time of realizing the end for my dad (terminal cancer) and being stood up by the former “love of my life” who was gonna be there and see him with me. It hurt so much, thinking he ghosted me because I wasn’t good enough at managing my grief, but he told me it was fate that scared him away. Feel blessed I got closure, but I was destroyed by all this at once. I barely worked 20 hours, and I’m normally a 60-90 hour a week workaholic due to my obsession with perfection. I broke…I let the mercy of Jesus wash over me even though I beat myself up so hard that I believed I didn’t deserve it. I conditioned myself this way, a lot of Christianity does. I realized, maybe this simple, minimal place of doing absolutely nothing is where God really is for any religion. I gained so much strength letting go of my perfectionism and the illusion that my life is together…who was that for, anyway? Hope everyone here in the comments can heal and know their pain and grief are important, and everyone deals with it differently. Put perfection aside…but choose to build and get up for your purpose, even if that purpose is just being. Nothing wrong with that. People in this world are becoming self-centered and unavailable for support. I’m choosing with love and being wary of overgiving, to be in a place where I can be of support to people I can help when they’re in pain and grief like this, and not beat myself up I didn’t perfectly give enough. I’ll always give more than what was given to me in my darkest time. That helped me let go and remember my purpose. Hope you all do, too, in time.

I've only discovered you yesterday and ❤ what you say

I don't need to be perfect i dont need to have the perfect life. Thank Q🙏💚

Many people belive they have to be perfect in other peoples eyes. We have to be perfect for ourselves. Live our own life and not listen to others and how they want us to be. Living the life that makes us happy and joyful, do the things we love no matter what others think or say. When we live our own highest and best then we shine and we affect others with our joy, our love and our positive energy.

This is very interesting. We all have things we know we should let go. And yet, it sometimes feels as if it is impossible. Thank you. 🍀

Well spoken video presentation on a tough topic! Many thanks.

Thank you so much, Todd 🙏🏻 I’ll follow your advice and letting go and accept what is 🙏🏻 Nothing but love

Definitely programmed from our Childhood~Ty and Happy Mother Earth Day🙌🙏✌️💚

I do need to have perfect life but I have to learn to control this feeling and suppress it deep down.. I think that is the best way....

Thank you so much for this message

That is why I am here, hoping this will help me.

Virgo rising here. Thank you for making this video.

Currently living a life much more on the hellish side than both the general person would prefer, but also more on the hellish side than the general person will experience. Hoping to chime in here with how I survive. It's simply a matter of aversion and clinging. Aversion is any state you could call "not wanting", "not liking" , "pushing away". Clinging is the opposite-- wanting, liking, desiring. These two modes cause suffering. Now, this does not solve things. The solution is only really achieved through daily practice, in the form of training attention(I recommend paying careful attention to breathing to the point that you can recognize thoughts in the mind, postures in the mind, attitudes, as objects-- not as things you are so lost in, that you cannot even detect them, which is the default state of the mind). This is great news, because it means the solution is SIMPLE-- sit daily, watch the breath carefully. Once you can pay careful attention, you can detect aversion. Imagine you are locked in a prison cell. This is the kind of cell you will not escape. It's not up to you, not in your control. But there can be this cornered animal effect, this torturous "not wanting" when you are imprisoned. It is possible to bang your head against the bars of this prison for years and years, and suffer deeply. This is what is unskillful and what potentiates your suffering. The moment you fully accept that you are in this prison and you getting out is not up to you, you can stop this fighting, and therefore, stop this suffering. But you cannot, I stress, you cannot hope to do this, if you do not recognize aversion as a posture in your mind. While we are busy with this "no no no" posture, this "I don't want this! This is horrible!" , while you're telling yourself a story all about how awful the people who are harming you are, while you are telling yourself how unfair this is, you are actually lost in thought, and unaware of this posture of aversion. This is the key. Recognize the posture of aversion with clarity, and aversion goes away, and then suffering goes away. It is as if you are clenching a fist, causing yourself pain through clenching, but you are not realizing. What happens when you recognize clearly? You relax the fist. Not through effort, through non-effort. You do not need willpower to unclench a fist, and your suffering can vanish as if by magic. Please keep trying, because this is a process that takes time and training Best wishes

This video and this mantra may be the one thing which can help me. Thank you.

Thank You so much. I needed to hear this exactly at this moment.

I love this! You are awesome!!! Thank you for this ♥️❤️♥️❤️😎😎😎😎🌠✨🌠✨

I am happy to have seen your video. You are such a great person that inspired me a lot. I wish I had friends like you. Glad you're in my world too!

Accept - Accept - Accept what is.

Love this, thank you!