How To Make Small Talk Interesting And Fun

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What’s the goal of small talk? Think of small talk as a way to A.) learn about each other or learn what’s new with each other, B.) see if you connect on anything and want to form or strengthen a relationship, and C.) enjoy yourself.
This video will show you how to do that without asking a bunch of questions and making it feel like an interview, and avoid forced conversation or awkward silences.
0:56 What's the point of small talk?
1:37 How to combine a compliment & a cold read to replace a boring question with interesting, fun conversation
2:59 The kinds of questions that lead to excited conversation that flows naturally vs. the questions that lead to awkward silences
4:36 My favorite conversation game that is easy to work into conversation without it seeing weird, and makes small talk enjoyable for both people
5:44 How to guide the conversation towards things you're interested in, by eliciting their advice/opinion
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@Charismaoncommand 6 лет назад

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@logicmonkey1034 6 лет назад

lol worth $500 dollars? i'll continue with the common google search for information or simply asking the people I know and don't know on the topics xD And not expecting to be $500 out of pocket out of 3 hours of genuine attempts of learning from others.

@waqarikram8323 6 лет назад

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@najibcasa2745 6 лет назад

Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else wants to learn about best books for getting over shyness try Wiltapar Simple Shyness Secrets (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my cousin got excellent results with it.

@miasvera3214 6 лет назад

Charisma on Command The where are you from question guessing game pisses me off. It stereotype based and in my opinion it can get rude if not careful. Talk about yourself and if they want, they will engage and talk about themselves.

@Yuqideqiko 6 лет назад

Mias Vera yea you have a good point miss, in directly conversation that kinda guessing game can be misunderstood as assuming their origin based on stereotype. I never practice it in real life, but I did ever have this kinda game while talking to people online, I was initiative to make them guessing where am I come from, but I think I should consider about implementing it irl 🤔

@achild5864 6 лет назад

that moment when you're so awkward you need to watch a tutorial on how to socialize

@chrispotter3190 6 лет назад

Bridget E. I’m worse. I’m awkward and also have a stutter. Pls pray for me 😂

@moist_ulfhedinn7818 6 лет назад

lol me too mate

@friedrichhayek7655 6 лет назад

do u wanna to be my friend? :v

@nickz.6994 5 лет назад

Cole Parker ..... you and I both lmao and I have a phone interview in like 13 minutes. Yayyyyy lol!

@tombrady7039 5 лет назад

There's nothing wrong with that some people just aren't born with the ability to socialise well don't worry about it at least you're trying to improve

@ArjanPaijers 6 лет назад

5. Realise that is't not only your responsibility to keep the conversation going. The other one has to put some effort in it too. So if a conversation turns out into an akward silence, it's not only your fault, but also his/hers. Don't blame yourself too much if it doesn't work out every now and then.

@rassiebarrie6424 Год назад

Thanks 😊

@mariamkettani Год назад

You can get ANY PERSON to talk if ur social enough

@the_kleetus-yeeyee48 Год назад

Not His/Hers, They/them

@Ghryst Год назад

@@the_kleetus-yeeyee48 "theirs" will be either a "his" or a "hers". very occasionally there might be a "him" or "her" that has a physiological deformity, but exceptions do not create the rule, they prove the rule.

@sebbi3e Год назад

@@Ghryst bro came back 4 years later to correct someone 💀

@jeffersfilms 6 лет назад

1. Compliment + Cold Read 2. Open-ended Questions 3. Turn it Into a Game ("Hang on, let me guess") 4. Elicit their Advice or Opinion

@DanielCarlson 6 лет назад

jeffersfilms you just saved me 9 minutes

@quantumleap4023 6 лет назад

What is an open ended question?

@Thatguy7242 6 лет назад

Anything that isn't answered with yes/no

@KyleHarmieson 6 лет назад

Quantum Leap Funnily enough, you just asked one. A question that takes more to answer than just a standard "yes", "no" "I think", etc. A question that can be answered with either a fact, opinion, or guess.

@quantumleap4023 6 лет назад

Kyle Harmieson I think you nearly cought on to my subtle humor.

@binal-flecki2387 5 лет назад

"oh my god you're so funny are you a comedian" i can't say that without coming of as sarcastic

@PrimeBrenon 5 лет назад

Bin al-Flecki, that’s not just you

@hannah6254 5 лет назад

Same ppl think I’m sarcastic even if I’m not 😂

@forestnraindeers3690 5 лет назад

IKR

@milandiu5455 5 лет назад

😂😂

@evakim2282 5 лет назад

I tried saying this line soooo many times and it always comes out weird

@russbg1827 6 лет назад

I hate when people ask what I do for fun. I have to tell them I watch youtube videos.

@JamesOsyris 6 лет назад

Pretty obvious solution. Get a hobby

@Ae0liann 6 лет назад

Pik Osyris sounds boring

@Violet-tf1rd 6 лет назад

rbg 1827 then... go find yourself a sport or start drawing or get yourself a pet or start a diary or try at photography

@person8203 6 лет назад

Someone once asked me what my passion was. Told them I couldn't think of anything and they proceeded to talk about their love of photography. That's my experience of smalltalk, it's a gateway for people to talk about themselves.

@lsour8546 6 лет назад

I tell ppl my hobby is watching youtube videos and constantly learning things. Like dafuq good for you Judy who likes to paint, I watch psychology and social based videos out of curiosity.

@Amirableu 4 года назад

This is what helped me: The main solution to conversate without it being awkward is not over analyzing so much. Stop focusing on small things like “how to talk to people” and stuff and you will naturally become more good at speaking to other people because the reason we are so awkward is, our head goes blank and you end not knowing what to say, if we do have something to say we overthink that its not a good question or response so we sit their silent or we have serious social anxiety that makes us think everything we say or do is wrong and every one is judging us. We over analyze people so much but if you really help yourself realize these are just humans they are not superior for you to get nervous to just talk to them the conversation will literally flow as if you were talking to a close friend. I remember watching this video a long while ago and I was binge watching videos on how to act in public and all and non of the advice stuck in my head when it was time to talk or something I literally forgot what to do and how to act and than I realized if I just stop over analyzing everything, everything wouldn’t be so fu**ing hard! YOU GUYS DONT NEED HELP TALKING TO PEOPLE YOH NEED HELP BEING MORE CONFIDENT🤎

@bananacat9139 2 года назад

I've to thank you for this, felt like a huge burden just lifted off from my shoulders. I can't agree more with you.

@musiclearner6799 2 года назад

effing true

@MintyCrate2200 2 года назад

Woah that is a lot of words.

@hourglassentertainment237 Год назад

Thanks so much!

@vano7235 Год назад

Facts!

@aidangittings 5 лет назад

All these comments are really funny Wish we could be like this irl...

@jmillol5509 5 лет назад

Ikr

@TREBLEandGANGSTA 5 лет назад

mood

@jasmine_milkyflower 5 лет назад

i thought you would say we should all be comedians

@prolific568 5 лет назад

I had to pause the video because the comment are so funny...I’m just scrolling through dying of laughter.

@dyslexicdarling898 4 года назад

I wish 😭

@wengya2170 6 лет назад

Lmao, I'll end up saying- *"why are you 23 years old?"*

@walbervalente5581 5 лет назад

@What a beast lmao

@InklanUtterfield 5 лет назад

It was a leap year.

@plague6716 5 лет назад

*why aren't you 60!?!?*

@Strength_In_Wisdom 5 лет назад

Could make it fun

@kevin-7091 5 лет назад

Lmaoooo

@Kenopsyaa 6 лет назад

I should be studying but somehow mastering the art of small talk just feels more important at the moment

@oDuckology 2 года назад

@Joe Mama 3 days later but same

@Jk-qd4yr 2 года назад

@@oDuckology one month later but same

@jinhitlabels2585 2 года назад

@@Jk-qd4yr 2 months later but same

@IXGIGACHADXI 2 года назад

@Hari one month later but the same

@yoholas4036 2 года назад

@@IXGIGACHADXI 9 days later but same

@philipeaderson2373 5 лет назад

* me as a doctor in hospital * Me: how are you? What brings you here todayy? Oh no, actually I want to guess!!

@NehaDrawsyoutube 6 лет назад

Everyone’s a introvert here....

@theone7059 5 лет назад

I'm not, I just love learning more things about communicating with people :D

@Matthew-ll3fp 5 лет назад

@manishj3080 5 лет назад

Yes I'm

@aperson8215 5 лет назад

@sockeyesoren 5 лет назад

Ambivert actually, just socially awkward :)

@danielfelipetrivinosantana4197 6 лет назад

Me: Hi Her: Hi Me: so, how you doin? Her: pretty well Me: .. ok Her: ok Me:...bye Her: bye

@user-jc2jp7rd9f 5 лет назад

Daniel Felipe in that case, it’s the girls fault lmao 😂

@boldone66 5 лет назад

Oblivion dialogue system

@mustafadzafic998 5 лет назад

A minute of silence for the fallen brother...

@liamculbertson3349 5 лет назад

Daniel Felipe me in 6th grade 😂

@QuikScoper45 5 лет назад

Daniel Felipe right???? Like what are you supposed to say after that?? I don’t understand how people carry conversations

@nikkibelair8899 5 лет назад

People should stop thinking awkward silences are undesirable. Live with it. Russians never worry about awkward silences, it's basically a part of conversation.

@colonel_crackers6586 5 лет назад

Sam Knaip good thing over there

@kslepets 5 лет назад

What are you talking about? Have you met any Russians like that? I'm just asking because I've never ever experienced that in my entire life, maybe it has to do with my personality but still.. Russians seems to be outgoing

@nick624179 5 лет назад

Yep, Russians have a saying "if you dont have anything to say, then don't"

@Arsenico971 5 лет назад

Russians, both men and women, can be very talkative when talking is interesting to them, but they don't mind keeping silent otherwise. They don't need to keep talking continuously no matter what.

@DrewskiTheLegend 5 лет назад

Sam Knaip you see this in inexperienced public speakers. They feel like they have to fill every second of their speech time with them talking or making noises. They end up using more vocal fillers, speaking too quickly when they do that. The real expert speakers and storytellers use silence and pauses as a device to command control of the audience and punctuate their strong points.

@callumwilliams2233 6 лет назад

So how long have you been 23? Wait no Shite Nvm

@forestnraindeers3690 5 лет назад

Lmao

@onichan8472 4 года назад

😂

@EmmaBybee 4 года назад

“ wait no gimme hints “

@flintlock178 4 года назад

I mean, this is fixable. Just try to find a way to angle the question to the month they were born. Go like: So how long have you been 23? I want to see if our astral signs/birthdays line up. Maybe add a joke in after about your perception of people born that month.

@zf5656 5 лет назад

"what do you do for fun" is an annoying question. It's right up there with, what kind of music do you like?

@linked3970 4 года назад

Why are you always quiet? Is the most annoying question to me

@noeliarte6783 4 года назад

the only thing I would like people to ask me about would be: What kind of music do you like and I would never stop talking.

@ancientprezent7916 4 года назад

@@linked3970 why are you so quiet

@WellPlayedDetective 4 года назад

@@noeliarte6783 For me it would be kind of a bad question, since I don't like the same music genre as the majority of people here. But while I'm at it what kind of music do you like? :) haha

@heavenonearth3316 3 года назад

When I hear questions like this I forget who I am and just say " idk"

@me0101001000 6 лет назад

I'm always practising when I take an Uber or Lyft. I'd say that's the best place to practise.

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Aku brilliant idea, great way to practice

@Blueeyesinthesky 6 лет назад

Oh my gosh! I use it for practice too lol Its great, I've gotten into really good conversations before too

@canturk_e9651 6 лет назад

practiCe

@me0101001000 6 лет назад

Dr. Marvel, it's both. Practise is British English, whereas practice is American.

@iansanchez331 6 лет назад

Sadly doesn't work if you own a car and therefore have no need for such a peasant lifestyle

@alexbabin3127 6 лет назад

Hey Ben, I just want to say that you are really good at what you do. A lot of people have been commenting about them missing Charlie; but that's probably because of them being more used to him - I can understand that. Nevertheless, you are doing an equally amazing job. Introducing a new face to the audience is never easy, but you DO fit in this channel's theme as if you've been here since the very beginning. Great work and keep it up!

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Thanks Alex! I really appreciate your comment :-) I totally get the growing pains and understand where they’re coming from, but it isn’t always fun to read. Comments like yours really bring me up and inspire me to try to make great videos for you :-)

@organiqselfawareness8492 2 года назад

@@benjaminaltman4895 I am new to this channel and I would have never said that you were new to the channel either. I appreciate what this channel provides to those as myself who are feeling trapped by not being able to socialize. I was only able to socialize easily when I was drinking and when I stopped drinking I started feeling stuck, shy and unconfident like I have no personality. I am learning so much from you and this channel thank you, you are an a amazing soul.

@arkqFN 2 года назад

Me: Wow nice hair Them: Thanks Me: How old is your hair? *Awkward silence*

@JiihaaS 4 года назад

"No more awkward silences." Step 1: stop thinking silence is awkward.

@mrcool2107 Год назад

It's not akward but according to script they should talk to us more when we talk to them

@just_ise4418 Год назад

@@mrcool2107 and it's also their fault if there is somehow awkward silence. Anyways, that is inevitable and therefore take it as a learning experience and learn to be comfortable.

@Chiramisudo 4 года назад

As someone who struggles with their social filter and for that reason loathes small talk because of the accompanying awkwardness, I appreciate this video.

@nickthorpe7567 6 лет назад

Ben’s teeth are whiter than his shirt!!! Do you drink coffee/ wine?

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Nick Thorpe hahaha thanks Nick. So I’m just gonna out myself here, I do drink coffee but I use a Koffee Straw (from Amazon). I feel like a goofball doing it but it keeps my teeth from going brown haha

@AwksomeAna 6 лет назад

did u just use the first technique

@harisditta5695 6 лет назад

Compliment plus cold read

@simpleman7203 6 лет назад

Damn, boy, you learn fast 😁

@nickthorpe7567 6 лет назад

I didn’t even realize I did it 😂

@ac9938 2 года назад

This helps because I am an introvert. I DISLIKE small talk but talk to me about life, what makes you happy, etc & ill be talking for hours.

@rods2887 5 лет назад

I liked your tips. I would add "be fully present during the conversation" because many times I feel like we just don't pay attention to someone so there's just some strange "energy" going on that shows you might be not real interested because you are worring if you are doing right and trying to think about the next question so you end up being disconnected, which is the opposite of what you wanted. A big hello from Brazil. Thanks!

@KreeZafi 5 лет назад

I have Aspergers and trying to improve my small talk skills. Perhaps I am too critical but I'm not feeling too sure about some of what you say. Like the first one, compliment and then make a sort of guess, it feels like it can come off as really cheesy. It made me instantly think of creepy dudes who message me on Facebook with stuff like "you're so pretty, are you a model?" which is really just insanely cringey - even I with my terrible social skills know this. The guessing game also feels pretty weird, like the kind of thing super outgoing people do that makes everyone else slightly annoyed or uncomfortable.

@onezestytambourinebeat6215 4 года назад

A pretty good conversation question is “what’s a favourite book of yours?” Either you get some good book recs or you can give some book recs if they don’t have an answer

@DaughterofYHWH77 6 лет назад

Merry Christmas! I have a nagging issue that I know you could make a video about. You do a lot of videos about how to be more attractive and escape the friend zone but what I need, as a female is how to be friendly without people thinking I'm interested in a relationship. I am naturally a people person and have never struggled with conversations or charisma, but what I find happens a lot is that it's often mistaken for me being "into" them, when I'm just being nice. I hate having friend zone people, because they ask me out and say I was giving them signs I like them. it makes me feel really bad and I wonder how many times I can get away with saying no before someone takes it badly and something bad happens. Thank you for your time, I hope this gives you a new video topic, have a great day :)

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Opheliacinthelake hi! Did you see the Wonder Woman video? Charlie and I don’t have firsthand experience being a woman so to be candid we have to imagine or ask female friends for something like this, but Charlie included something on this when talking about Gal Gadot that will hopefully be helpful!

@djWOOF 6 лет назад

fart in front of them

@DaughterofYHWH77 6 лет назад

Hi Benjamin Altman no I didn't see that one, I don't think it was in my feed :/ thank you so much for your reply, it's greatly appreciated for you to take time to read and reply. I will do and check out the video now. 😁 sorry for late reply, wasn't feeling well over the last week. Have a fabulous new year BTW Gratitude and best wishes from England

@DaughterofYHWH77 6 лет назад

DJ Woof lmao good idea 😉

@DaBezzzz 6 лет назад

Benjamin Altman Also, a video about how to tell the difference between a girl just being nice versus her actually liking you would be very, VERY helpful. Keep up the good work, man. You're awesome.

@TheSingleGuy 6 лет назад

I like videos like this, everyone wants to get past small talk but I always see it as an avenue to cool and interesting topics about the person. You have to start somewhere and small talk, if done right is a great way to do it.

@mordecaiepsilon 6 лет назад

I love when I learn that I'm already doing something good without even thinking about it and although I'm already doing said thing, I can develop it now that I'm aware.

@jendrivesajeep6656 6 лет назад

Merry Christmas Ben! I'll be seeing family today so I'm excited to use these tips!

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Jennifer Micek Merry Christmas to you too Jennifer! Hope you have fun with this :-)

@adrianhosak734 6 лет назад

@michealnick8732 3 года назад

H.e.l.l.o

@xcvsdxvsx 6 лет назад

This seems way too hard. I would never remember any of this in the high stress situation of interacting with a human being.

@Flacojhit Год назад

how else is watching this on Christmas 2022 crazy how i searched this up and its the same month still tells you how advanced yt has gotten

@11219tt 6 лет назад

I appreciate the effort to be much more enthusiastic and extroverted. Definitely giving me ideas of how to chill out not be so nervous and keep it light and fun like I was talking to a friend. It seems like it’s about being really relaxed and taking those thoughts we have in our heads and saying them out loud.

@RandageJr 6 лет назад

That first tip actually works. And I did it before without even thinking. I took English classes and there was a beautiful Korean girl I really liked, I said to her that she looked really cute in her clothes and asked her if she was a model. That absolutely made the conversation really open and without any problem I asked her for a date. It really works!

@Charismaoncommand 6 лет назад

~ That's awesome!

@ManuelHernandezSalazar 6 лет назад

PLS guys! Make a video about 'How to meet people when you just moved', I actually need it :D

@peaoat3608 4 года назад

Silence is seriously under rated.

@zootoo1977 5 лет назад

Me: *Oh! you wear clothes are you... ENHALES* a modern human who was probably born on 2000 and now is 25yrs old because he traveled back in time and now is drinking cofee and sucking oxygen through his mouth and exhaling carbondioxide with a mom who likes bread? Him: Uhhh Yea..... Me: OMG SAME WE HAVE SOOO MUCH IN COMMON Him: ok. Me: ok. Him: Bye Me: Bye *Both ends up walking in the same direction which gets even more akward*

@valeriesze Год назад

I had some nervous meeting with my boss, then I decide to search for this in RU-vid. It never disappoints me.

@absw6129 4 года назад

My way of making small talk: "Hey, so I just watched a tutorial on small talk. Can I try some techniques on you?"

@StillmanSpinningSteel 5 лет назад

In real life: Me: Hahaha are you a comedian? Person: No. --------------- Me: Have you heard of the high elves? Me: Goodbye.

@joselinehernandez1405 5 лет назад

Such an underrated comment lmaooo

@m_atty413 5 лет назад

I hate socializing but I realized I need it to network.Glad I landed here.

@Charismaoncommand 5 лет назад

~ Glad you found our channel, Maryanne! Hopefully, we'll have lots more good stuff for you :-)

@johnnyray9107 6 лет назад

I've been trying to talk to this girl and she is really hard to talk to. Me: What exciting things have you done this break? Her: nothing She aknowleges that she doesn't talk a lot. Her sister says she doesn't dislike me. I don't know what to do when she does this.

@eirrac 6 лет назад

I’d advise that you keep trying. It might take her some time to open up if she’s shy and/or introverted. She might enjoy listening to what you find interesting, what you do for fun, etc.

@viktorilskov1333 6 лет назад

I ran into a similar problem. What worked for me was to tell her stuff instead of asking. If we go with your example: Me/you: what'd you do last week? Her: nothing Me/you: *make eye contact and giggle* okay, that's exciting haha. I went to.... Her: oh really? How was it? This keeps the conversation going even if she is a little shy. If you make sure she knows that you want to have a conversation she will most likely be more engaging

@LtFoodstamp 6 лет назад

What to do: Find someone who's actually fun. You're welcome.

@pumpkinking365 6 лет назад

Tell her a interesting or funny story that happened to you over the break or whenever, eg talk about pets or what you did in the snow (if it snowed their that is) anything that exited you?

@vladb420 6 лет назад

lucky bastard.

@nickynoodles88 Год назад

I’m 34 years old, recently been diagnosed with ASD and after all these years I am still learning how to have conversations with people, except at this point it’s more about getting by each day than making friends.

@ok_e3w 2 года назад

not bad at socializing but i honestly NEVER know what to talk about

@ryvyr 6 лет назад

For us non-gregarious introverts interested in deep conversation quickly, and quickly tired by small talk, what might you suggest? Or, does it seem a rhetorical question, and we should simply ping their interest on a given topic? I am not bothered by silence itself, but do quickly begin worrying if others are uncomfortable, which means I attempt to rectify their perceived displeasure.

@1BlueEyeCreativeStudio 6 лет назад

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, Ben & Charlie! I hope that you had a great holiday! ...I just thought I'd share this with you... People on the autism spectrum could really benefit from some of the life lessons that you guys teach, especially in regard to conversational etiquette. Autistic people often have an inability to judge what kinds of interactions are appropriate, and which are not. They have to learn the appropriate responses to each individual situation, and often have trouble applying what they've learn to other situations. I think that the format you have might be helpful to individuals that have trouble interacting on the fly. This'd be especially true if they have difficulty reading facial expressions. Obviously, it's not going to fix all of the challenges that autism comes with, but it could be a step in the right direction towards living a fuller life. Workplace etiquette, appropriate social interactions, how to know when someone isn't interested in your chosen topic of conversation, etc. You guys give very specific suggestions that may help people with autism, for whom simple interactions can be confusing and intimidating. I don't know how you would attract this particular audience, or how (or if) the focus of the company would change if you did. But, it's a whole new target market that might really benefit from the work you do. Could even be an opportunity to do some non-profit work. Just throwing the idea out there.

@Victoria-mp4bc 5 лет назад

That first technique some seller did on me a while ago. I'm into makeup and was all dressed up. So he walked up to me and said "Hi I'm x. I just wanted to say you look really good with that makeup, are you a stylist?". He also followed up with a new compliment, and I was flattered the rest of the day 😅

@Victoria-mp4bc 5 лет назад

@Dominique Lavalle I think I can decide for myself what I consider a compliment or an insult. Thank you for your concern though.

@Bladeclaw00100 6 лет назад

Really awesome. All these methods are great. For the first one "Compliment + Cold Read", I'm pretty sure that example is not a cold read but rather it's an assumption. I have seen before that playful guessing assumptions are great ways to get people responding and chatting. This method I learned from (Kezia Noble) However a cold read is a common generalization feels like it's specific to them but i true to everyone. For example "I bet you love to open up when the right people are with you and other times you just want to hide away from everyone." That is a Cold read because it specifically talks about them while it's a truism and generally works for everyone. This method I learned from (Carlos Xuma) Both methods are great and I have used them in the past to keep the conversation engaging and fun. Hope you enjoyed your holidays.

@TomtheMagician21 Год назад

Man I can't wait to become a human this is a really good revision resource for learning to person

@luisiana1121 5 лет назад

This can be put into practice with Uber or Lyft drivers. Just strike up a random (and appropriate) topic and before you know it, you've talked about 8 things already! I actually talked to a lyft driver from eating spaghetti to spaghetti in Shakey's in the Philippines out of nowhere. Friendly people really!

@kitcat2449 5 лет назад

I'm anxious even watching this

@brianrocketleaguegalaxy9413 Год назад

I'm trying to work on small talk myself. I'm thinking about being a photographer and I want to go around and just ask people for interview and ask fun questions you know to make it more fun and not asking the boring generic questions just to keep them engaged.

@ClickerPets 6 лет назад

Hey Ben and Charlie! I love watching your videos. I’ve seen a huge difference in my charisma and confidence since watching your videos. I’d love it if you could make a video about how to converse with and brighten a customer’s day when your interaction with them is very short (under 1-2 minutes). I work at Chipotle and while I usually converse and joke with our regulars, I often run out of questions for the average guest apart from “how’s your day going” or “how are you going to enjoy this beautiful day” or compliments. What are some good questions to make a connection with our guests? Thanks and Merry Christmas!

@lukethomas5053 6 лет назад

It’s funny because, thinking back, anytime I’ve been in a chatty mood and done these things it always leads to really engaging conversation. It’s neat seeing them laid out as tactics like this. Thanks for sharing!

@Charismaoncommand 6 лет назад

~ Happy to share them Luke!

@AnastasiaIoppolo 4 года назад

Him: Oh your very extroverted, you must be great at sales! PSATs: WeLL aCtUaLLy AMBIVERTS-

@georgehiggins1320 4 года назад

Kale Chip Krunch wait... that's illegal. 🤣

@AnastasiaIoppolo 4 года назад

George Higgins oops😂

@georgehiggins1320 4 года назад

Kale Chip Krunch I think it's fine since the scores are available on the internet now though. How'd you do on it?

@AnastasiaIoppolo 4 года назад

George Higgins mmm not quite as well as I’d hoped😂 I got an 1190 but I didn’t study this year since I couldn’t qualify for the national merit scholarship till next year anyway. I’d definitely try harder in advance for next year though

@AnastasiaIoppolo 4 года назад

George Higgins how about you

@DADA_._ Год назад

Most of the time it's just a compatibility issue, if you're not compatible with someone just don't push it that conversation isn't gonna work, there's plenty of people out there that you'll be able to talk to naturally without trying to make an effort you don't have to be able to do that with everyone

@JustChill_1031 5 лет назад

Person: What do you do for fun? How long have you lived in LA? Me: None of your damn business...

@joselinehernandez1405 5 лет назад

It'd be like *wanting to actually socialize for once* *goes up to random person to socialize* Them: "Hello how are you " Me: "Compliment, cold read so yea....." *unbearable akward silence* Me: "what???" Them: ..........nothing *realizing wut I just said* "ight ima go kms now"

@gulnozaabdurahmonova2266 2 года назад

Awkward silence unpleasant feel I hate I liked this video and you are so fun and easy going really confident .

@niko-oy1cq 5 лет назад

I need this to talk to my crush. We both know eachother and we were friends but now its so hrd for me to talk to him :(

@tobeyw3772 6 лет назад

500$ an hour? Hire me

@trashonspeed5845 6 лет назад

that's lawyers too xd

@tacos1308 6 лет назад

trashonspeed lawyers go up to 850 per hour, top tier lawyers ☻

@meditacaocomlila8235 8 месяцев назад

I just gotta say that you are very, very cute! You and your friend are so lucky to have each other as a partner in this channel!

@learnenglishasap-charlotte4784 5 лет назад

Small talk is such a valuable skill. Thanks for the video!

@RorschakFX 5 лет назад

I’m mad y’all are handsome af like “oh yeah just do this and people will like you!” Look at your face. People are going to like you.

@Elit3KD 6 лет назад

$500 for an hour session guys

@quantumleap4023 6 лет назад

Where do I pay?

@maketheinternetgreatagain5146 6 лет назад

I used to do all this stuff all of time being a complete social pleaser but I got kind of tired of it and have sort of started being myself but people don't like me that much when I'm myself so I've gotta train myself again

@munyaradzimurapa6738 6 лет назад

Appreciate the video man. You mentioned a charismatic way to respond to one word questions... how do you go about it?

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Hey Munyaradzi! So it’s a long answer, we answer it in the first several emails of our email list. But the short answer is to work in other details, like Why as well as just What, so people learn more about you and have more material to ping back on :-)

@TheUnbotheredTexan 2 года назад

The comments are really the funniest things I've ever read, there's no meme refernce or plottwist or soemthing just PURE DIALOGUE COMEDY.

@bxbank 5 лет назад

My opener is 'Tell me a story.' :)

@annagreiner5167 4 года назад

me: where do u live other person: oh i live in..... me : oh wait! Lets play a guessing game !!!!!! other person: umm i gotta go..(_slowly backing away_) me: _(awkwardly walks away) :/ yeah not happening

@nibbax7772 4 года назад

I don't think your supposed to say it like that? I'm pretty it's more like "oh wait! Let me guess! You live in Utah?" Pretty this would be more acceptable

@gilangprasetyo7018 Год назад

Man i just want to make a small talk, not manipulating them to liked me. I may be an awkward misanthrope but i believe that i'm also a realist. I don't want to spend the rest of my life pleasing and seeking validation from people who actually don't like me for who i am.

@alicer3271 6 лет назад

"OMG, you're so funny. Are you a comedian?" NO DUDE THAT'S NOT A COMPLIMENT. LMAO

@arieszne 5 лет назад

Finally I can talk to my grandma. I only talk to her when I’m told to or something

@modestas2890 6 лет назад

merry christmas

@nopeyeee7903 6 лет назад

Great stuff. Do a House MD breakdown on Dr. House. He has a strong frame and wit that stands out.

@TF80s 5 лет назад

what if you don't have a job and don't have friends so have no life? conversation gets really awkward fast!!!

@shinunotenshi 6 лет назад

Great video. I don't think most of these things apply in Germany and Nordic countries though. It's basically impossible to induce an "avalanche" of answers from people who don't know you here. Or if it's possible, it must work in some different way. If I ask people "What's exciting at work" or "Whats new in your life" here, I just get a "Oh, not much", or "Oh, the usual." People don't seem to want to talk about themselves too much...

@MyJunior09 6 лет назад

Why didn't you posted earlier??? My god cristhmas was hard

@strawberrycheesecake6899 6 лет назад

Please make a video about finding out your calling /what you want to with your life

@Charismaoncommand 6 лет назад

~ We actually have a video on this topic. Feel free to check it out: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-qmiBcHJpKR0.html

@davidconrad7970 4 года назад

Me: Hey, you're decent looking, are you a model? Her: What? No! Goodbye!

@NS-du4gb 6 лет назад

I am glad I found this channel. Thank you 😊

@Charismaoncommand 6 лет назад

~ Glad to see you here :-)

@Zynchu23 5 лет назад

I tried this and got arrested for sexual assault

@Alice-du8ob 5 лет назад

Zyn hahhahaha

@mattresswater7143 5 лет назад

Watched this to go to sleep, it worked. Thank you !

@DrSeanKennedy 6 лет назад

Love the videos, but are any of these tips supported by empirical data, or are they mostly experienced based?

@anantray6785 3 года назад

My case of compliment + cold read didnt went well It went like this: "You know a lot about history, Are you a book worm ?" I dont know why but the person got angry😅

@theo-gk 6 лет назад

that's brilliant advice. I hate boring small talks

@MichaelAres 6 лет назад

Just in time for Christmas. My family is awkward.

@benjaminaltman4895 6 лет назад

Michael Ares haha you are not alone there. I was kind of hoping this would help people with family, high school people they run into while home, etc. Hope it helps make things more fun!

@MichaelAres 6 лет назад

It did help thanks! Can you and Charlie make a video on what to say to people that you already know? People you see at least once a week? Or have known for years? Any videos would be helpful.

@sadboiwithaguitar2362 3 года назад

I taught the 'Complement + Cold read' technique to one of my friends. Dude goes up to a girl and says "Wow! You look really pretty, are you a makeup artist?"

@antmanplays387 5 лет назад

thank you guys for these videos I'm gona be moving to a new school and I'll have to make new friends which i havent had to do in a long time so im watching these videos hoping it will make things easier

@fairtree3 5 лет назад

what if you have social anxiety and are nervous to talk to someone?

@flannsixtyseven7489 5 лет назад

actually i rather find small talk awkward than silence

@GreenSnapShot 6 лет назад

i like that u use real life examples to explain techniques, really helps understand :)

@Charismaoncommand 6 лет назад

~ Awesome!

@marcpanther7924 6 лет назад

what's your secret to super white teeth?

@Xgil2Play 6 лет назад

Bleach.

@CriticalThought004 6 лет назад

Totoro Zhen ink corrector

@n3wt 6 лет назад

Totoro Zhen crest strips

@Hawksby 6 лет назад

Vanity.

@jamesgrey13 6 лет назад

Pearls + Blowtorch

@ThorsShadow 6 лет назад

I watched this video to maybe get some tips and tricks, because I am really introvert and insanely bad at small talk. Like, really. And I just now realized how bad I actually am at socializing. All those tips and "questions to ask them", "things to say to them"....I just found them really weird and were like: "Who would want to be asked things like this? I wouldn't be." Like...I'm really difficult to talk to. I have some topics I love to talk about and listen to people talking about (history, science, movies, music,...), but no...."normal/usual/standard conversational stuff". I'm sure this video isn't bad and is actually really good, it just didn't do anything for me. Still, A for effort. :) Also, Merry Christmas.

@eeshan3955 6 лет назад

WHO ARE YOU?

@skillustrates 6 лет назад

Eeshan Narula 🤣

@CriticalThought004 6 лет назад

Eeshan Narula Charlie

@xuancong1998 6 лет назад

The other guy

@maturegambino6182 6 лет назад

Hi,im Ajit Pai

@adamred5449 6 лет назад

skyrim

@sarahd1706 5 лет назад

I don't like small talk in general (esp if it feels fake/interviewy, they ask the same questions as everyone else, or there just seems to be no point to it), but sometimes being asked questions up front is too much. I just want to say it's non of their business, or I wonder why they are trying to make me talk when I clearly don't have to/want to. It seems better if they start by making their own comments first (what they think of the event/surroundings/etc), warming things up between us first. Then I don't feel jarred out of my personal space, & I feel better like they're willing to give before expecting me to give, if that makes sense.