The Harsh Realities Of Dating Dutch Women

The Selfish Codependent's Life in The Netherlands

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In this video, we are diving into a topic many of you have been asking about-dating Dutch women! I've made quite a few videos about dating Dutch men, and many of you were curious about the other side of the story. So, here it is!
I gathered a lot of stories from men sharing their experiences and tips on how to approach Dutch women. I also spoke with expat ladies and Dutch women themselves to get a well-rounded view. If you're interested in the results of my research and want to know what I have to say on the topic, keep watching!
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Contents:
00:00 Intro
00:30 1. Equality
01:01 2. Natural look
01:35 3. Self-expression
02:12 4. Laid-back approach
02:30 5. Not so direct
03:15 6. Planning
03:48 7. Low expectations
04:19 8. I don't date non-Dutch
05:47 How to approach a Dutch woman
07:58 My thoughts
08:33 The most important tip
09:20 Ontro
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@chris24j48 Месяц назад

All good advice 🎉!

@theselfishcodependent Месяц назад

Thank you for watching 💙

@dimrrider9133 Месяц назад

I think the most important thing is that there is a spark because if it isnt there all your points can threw in a bin

@theselfishcodependent Месяц назад

Thank you for sharing your perspective!

@ClintonSnow 2 месяца назад

Great video, please do more videos about DATING DUTCH WOMEN.

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

Thank you! What would you be interested in?

@ClintonSnow 2 месяца назад

@@theselfishcodependent how foreign guy date a Dutch woman with success?

@athos5359 Месяц назад

@@ClintonSnow be tal and good looking,and not to old for her.

@user-xo9lu6vj8u Месяц назад

@@ClintonSnow depends where your from the norms are different in the lowlands (Belgium & Nederlands)

@user-rh4sq9cx1e 2 месяца назад

If expats and migrants were to learn the language first, it would make dating or building friendships with a Dutch person easier!!

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

Possibly! That's one of the reasons I included in the video. Thank you for watching! :)

@user-ns2ll7dm1i 2 месяца назад

Is their any app we can chat with Dutch people? If their is then plz let us know. International subscribers r waiting 😊

@theselfishcodependent Месяц назад

I'm not aware of an app for Dutch people only ;) You can try language exchange websites if you want to speak Dutch with the Dutch 😀

@ReinhardtVerster Месяц назад

Dutch is not complicated it’s a culture and a very successful i am Afrikaans but I hear Dutch speak it and write it. But the Netherlands is where I come from

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

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@user-rh4sq9cx1e 2 месяца назад

Well, I have been following videos here of expats and migrants for years, and I find it interesting to see how they deal with culture and traditions.I think that is nice to see, and it also makes my vision of our country a little more positive.Because, as a born Dutchman, I look at our country very differently than expats and migrants do.But I often notice in the videos that after years of living here, not much has been done with the language.And my opinion is that that should be number 1 if you are going to live in another country. I would do that, if only out of respect for the population, and so that I understand better what is going on in the country.

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

@@user-rh4sq9cx1e awesome that you are interested in it! Since you mentioned that you'd like to learn different view points, I suggest you watch this video about learning Dutch. Perhaps, it can bring another perspective :) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WBihk_N-VJQ.htmlsi=PQ6x1Aa7lLUjEYQi

@user-rh4sq9cx1e 2 месяца назад

@@theselfishcodependent I have seen this video and already liked it, as a Dutch person I can only speak for myself. As expats and migrants, no matter how poorly Dutch they speak, I have the utmost respect for them.Maybe that is also because I have the principle that when I migrate to another country, I want to learn the language first because I want to make myself understood by the population.But you're doing well, respect. You're one of the people I regularly follow and like, but I'm just not a big chatter or texter myself.

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

@@user-rh4sq9cx1e oh so nice to hear :) Thanks so much for your support, I really appreciate it!

@user-xo9lu6vj8u Месяц назад

Als a halve Azish (Japanses van mij mouder) en Wit; Ik vind dat vrouwen uit Nederland leuk mij meer dan vrouwen uit Amerika of VK. It hulps dat Ik ben lang (185cm) en Nederlands spreken of probeer 😂 As as a half Asian (Japanese from my mum) and white; I like that Dutch women like me more than women from America or UK. It helps that I am tall (6'1") and I speak Dutch or try to. 😂

@theselfishcodependent Месяц назад

Interessant! Bedankt voor het delen 😀

@shutting88 2 месяца назад

My female friend told me that almost her all likes on Tinder would become a match so it's hard to balance between quality and quantity.

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

Good point! It's a flip side of the coin: what happens when there is too much variety?

@jannetteberends8730 17 дней назад

You forgot a fourth reason women don’t want to date foreigners. Because in a lot of cases it would be a step back. Dutch relations are very egalitarian. I’ve had several friends that dated a foreigner, and this was always the breaking point. Men expecting respect when they don’t deserve it. A little example from statistics of teen pregnancies: Dutch teenagers use double protection during sex. A condom and contraceptive jelly. So Dutch boys take their responsibility. It’s the only country in the table (=world) for which this is mentioned. So the first time a Dutch girl has sex with a foreigner she’s often confronted with a man that has no idea about his role in preventing pregnancies and STDs. Of course foreign women like to date Dutch men. For them it’s a step forward.

@williamgeardener2509 16 дней назад

And you should also include the fact that in a lot of cultures when a woman has had sex with a man without being married, they are automatically regarded as cheap whores which deserve to be treated as cheap whores. This conflicts with the open mindedness of Dutch women.

@shutting88 2 месяца назад

Dating starts from attracting people, so if you are as tall as or as good looking as local guys, you may have a higher chance compared to other internationals. Working on style, being jacked, improved social skills, and financial status would definitely help. A tall black guy may attract a Dutch girl in a club easily for a night but keeping her would be more challenfing because of cultural differences.

@theselfishcodependent 2 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your point of view! I think while certain traits might catch someone's eye initially, genuine compatibility and understanding play crucial roles in the longevity of a relationship. And that requires a whole different set of skills that focuses more on connecting on a deeper level.

@WilliamJones-sf5pt Месяц назад

How many ponies will it cost me to purchase a Dutch woman? Can I purchase multiple Dutch women with a single horse? An elephant?

@jannetteberends8730 17 дней назад

Can you change a diaper?

@WilliamJones-sf5pt 17 дней назад

@@jannetteberends8730 So? Dutch women don't have a sense of humor then. I think that was the point of the video. I was just testing whether this was true ✔

@jannetteberends8730 17 дней назад

@@WilliamJones-sf5pt you are a perfect example of the forth reason we don’t want to date foreigners. First, your joke isn’t funny at all for women with some self respect. Second, you didn’t get the hint. Most Dutch women don’t want a relationship with a man they have to educate to their own level.