Isolation dented me tremendously in my early childhood. My coddling mother would refuse to let me spend time with school friends after school. At the same time, she didn't even listen to me or wish to hear my feelings, especially as I longed for my estranged dad. Hers were more important. I had to mirror her. She would brainwash me into feeling what she wanted me to feel for given situations. Later in life, I've been in awful schooling positions, awful jobs, where I've had to shut down and hide myself from the outside world. It reminds me so much of those times growing up. Having begun to recover and love myself, I've grown to absolutely hate my colleagues, my detractors, the people making me shut down and isolate just for their benefit, for their emotional worth. I'm sick of being a puppet, a prop, in someone else's grand little life stage. Ironically... before I'd begun to do self-work, self-therapy, work on myself, I could actually FUNCTION in these environments and friend groups, as this 'false self' who was always cheery and happy and didn't care for the mislabels, the slander, the shit-talking and abuse. It was as if I thought it was NORMAL to just be fake and trapped in a shell. Now that I realise it ISN'T normal, it's like I've lost all of 'immunity' for it. I've lost my vaccination against being treated this way - I'm having a complete adverse reaction, I'm socially convulsing. I'm now absolutely determined to get myself into a place career-wise where I can choose my own company. I will allow people into my life who honour me, respect me and see me for who I ACTUALLY am.
I totally understand.. for me an absolutely VITAL step has been to get control over my surroundings and who can access me. This has been the work of a life time..because there is quite literally... huge forces at play, funnelling victims into the hands of predators. A game that predators the world over work on establishing. It's the larger narcissistic system of predators, enablers and scapegoating. Once you can get control of your physical and energetic space, they become relatively powerless. So the no 1 goal is DISTANCE. See Jay Reids work, he's fantastic, youtube channel. Distance and a safe space are the essential starting point. Then you can start to transform your life. I wish you a speedy escape and joyful journey.
People in comments are conflating solitude and isolation. Isolation is being completely cut off from needed connection. The needs to be seen, heard, touched are at the core of our nature. Isolation in early childhood can be esp. traumatic
@@brandykare you already fed up and done using the “ones” readily available for your exploitation? Since you identify with the “World”, I’ll let you have it - You folks are weird, how most of you live is proof you were spoilt as children. Isolation heals and healing takes a long time. If interested, find more videos like “the rest of us” and begin your lesson on self-healing. Shalom
Yes, I’ve noticed people conflating the two a lot. Isolation is extremely damaging! I appreciate solitude & healthy alone time, but isolation is horrible!! It’s one of the worst things I’ve experienced, and I’ve been through a lot of truly terrible things over the years
Meanwhile if you actually talk about that you are blamed for it. Saying "you're blaming everyone else but yourself" when it literally is the case with social ostracism at an early age.
@@Malikmurad2010I have never heard a man openly say they are “ a suspected gay “. It’s usually us suspecting them and they just act oblivious. If you do not want to be lonely any more on your days off get into a hobby and also LEARN TO DANCE.! There are a lot of ladies in the dance studios looking for a partner to dance with. You will definitely connect there and if you are as you say you are you will get a lot of women’s attention because they will trust you more. Just be sure to make it known from the beginning that you like women. Usually the guys I’ve met that I’ve suspected were gay made it known in the 1st encounter that they like women in some way so they don’t get friend zoned. I have met a guy I thought was gay and he got married to this girl and everyone was floored.. As he was pursuing her , he made KNOWN.. I’m into you. It was pretty awesome.❤
@TryMe749honestly I think at some point it just comes down to intelligence. Some people just don’t have the capacity to think that deep. Only the capacity to survive and meet their needs day to day. They aren’t capable of handling the “what ifs” that we love to explore.
I've been living in solitude for years because everytime I tried to connect to others and get listened to and all people did was treat me like shit and push me away. People ain't worth too much as a whole I've learned and that if you struggle fitting in or have issues most people just don't want to know. I'd rather be alone than be around a bunch of a**holes. When I'm around other people I feel nothing but rage and anxiety. Alone I'm content. People are rotten.
Same with me. I need to recover from human interaction now because I get so excited and hopeful but now I know it's just a total joke that people could ever connect with me.
I understand. I think there’s a whole process that needs to happen - to avoid this. It is possible. But most advice is mind blowing my simplistic!! The fact is many many people are dangerous. This always seems to be ignored in advice about the positives of human connection. The process of first of all trusting ourselves- then building our ability to discern who the safe people are. Is not a simple one! Many people who ‘seem’ to have connection are either being preyed upon by someone or they are the predator. So I think isolation is a really good thing, it’s step 1
Interesting to see how one's life experiences shape one's perspectives. I used to think people were rotten, but over time (and perhaps a bit of luck) I've met people worth fighting for. Of course, there's bad apples here and there, but overall I love connecting with others.
Medications made me not want to be around anyone. They also took away my ability to feel any pleasure/happiness which is the main reason. Also,if you live in the US the meaning of life is money and materialism and not being able to make enough to survive...
Something I realized about where I live is that people don't actually care about your wellbeing. They care about you being well, and when you're unwell they run away. At least that's been my experience. I've come to terms with this fact in my life and stopped trying to make things work that weren't working. Now I'm alone and it hurts, but at least I've got myself to back me up.
Im in the throws of it at the moment, the more vulnerable i become the less people want to know. Something I also equate to where I live. Ive been ostracized in the past but as I grow (???) its become extreme to this point where ive literally 2 people i can call on.Ive currently resorted to self isolation and am about 6 weeks deep. I came here ,to these comments specifically, to be reminded that im not alone. Not sure how validating it will be, but the comments on the channel are the only place i know to find people like myself. So thanks joseph.
I've struggled with crippling anxiety my entire life as a black man. And ive come to the conclusion that my Anxiety may have been operating as another name all along - SHAME. When you isolate someone it forces them to doubt, ruminate, resent. This is very similar to negative SELF aspects and never having internal peace.
How do you recover from deep Shame? For example being a black man in America, you can mistake SHAME for your identity. How do you learn let go? How do you stop projecting? How do have the capacity to open your heart when all of the media, societies and culture both domestic and international make you internalize a deep shame?
@@wombat7961 If you have identified the source of the problem then you are in a much better position to get to the source of the solution (that your essence is and has always been pure innocence in truth). Releasing the cultural lies, the personal past blunders, the burdens others projected onto us is the work all of us are doing regardless of our avatar particulars in this incarnation.
my brother i love you and i hope you never ever feel deep shame ever again for being a beautiful and strong and courageous black African man ❤❤ what helps me shake the shackles off of my racial shame is learning about African history, our people in the diaspora, and our political struggles. i have so much pride in being a black African woman that no one can ever that take away or make me ever feel shameful about it. its hard being a black man!!!! but you're doing great sweetie and i pray you connect to your ancestors and history!!!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤ we are a beautiful and diverse people and fk anyone that tries to bring you down!!!!!!
p.s. im jamaican so listening to classic pan-african Reggae music is my lifeline!!! Bob Marley and Peter Tosh are my go-tos--i loveeee Marley's "Roots," "Trench Town," "Africa Unite," and "Zimbabwe" and for Tosh you can't go wrong with "African," "Mama Africa," "Not Gonna Give it Up" ❤❤❤❤ bless up brother and i hope you're healing!!!!!
I've been isolated most of my life from hiding in my room growing up to marrying a narc and losing everything about myself. I don't fear being alone. I want to be alone because everyone I had around me was not a good person. Being stuck with monsters and withdrawing was how I spent my childhood. My "marriage" had everything taken from me until my husband was all that remained, and he abused and neglected me in turn. It was a harrowing experience to have NOBODY, and the man I was married to didn't want me unless I was being beneficial to his life while caring nothing about my existence. I didn't know any different. I was and am starved for wholesome connection that is next to impossible to get in this broken, messed up society. All I want now is peace. Solitude. I've been lonely all my life. I imagine this trend will continue. It isn't what I want, but I haven't found the good, healthy people who allegedly exist. Perhaps as I work on myself to beat my trauma and become healthy I will attract them rather than narcissistic abusers. Thanks, Daniel.
I think most people trick themselves to think that others are good. In reality, people are self serving idiots. It you’re a special, unique person, you’ll realise soon that people don’t have your best interest in mind
when people see homelessness and think it's a substance abuse or mental health crises we're facing, rest assured they're missing the true picture: it's an isolation crisis. There are people huddling up under bridges who are less isolated than I am. The feeling if being isolated precludes mental health and substance abuse issues, my friends. We dont understand each other. We are without culture
Normies are the worst. Society is overrun with them and many of them are unevolved. When I learned that I was an INTP personality that gave me the reason I was always looking for to stay away from them.
Thank you for the video. As a child, my feelings were always invalidated, I was told that adults got it much harder. But growing up I became so dissociated that nothing seems to matter, everything is so light. My childhood was way scarier than life now. After a difficult period of time, I became isolated and like you said, the trauma resurfaced. I struggled and then became more aware. I'm getting used to and accepting myself very slowly now, but building relationships with others is important too. I desperately crave human connection but at the same time terrified of it. Thank you for this and also your other videos. Wishing you the best.
I used to sing and dance and love easily. A lifetime of self hatred and isolation has destroyed that part of me, and despite how hard I try I fear I'll never be able to get back a semblance of who I once was. I've sought therapy several times but I've never found a therapist that seems to care at all about my recovery or who I am beyond trying to get me on a bunch of pills. I'm trying to stay strong but it's hard.
I moved to this country at the age of 18 from Mexico City, new culture new language sometimes months passed without talking to anyone and the feeling is unbearable but after a while you get numb to it. Glad I’m not in that position anymore.
Ive been in solitary confinement and it really is truly awful. I also grew up in a family that didnt accept me fully because I'm gay. We as humans are social beings and when that is taken away it shakes our core.
As much as I profoundly resent the practise of "reframing" adversarial life experiences, always looking for a silver lining really as if allergic to reality, and how nonchalantly this often harmful advice rolls off the tongues of unscrupulous psychotherapists with no caveats, the sheer audacity it takes to suggest we should neglect our hurting selves, there is nonetheless something gay people accomplish merely through their existence. I mean if you want to know who the people in your community are to avoid at all costs in the interest of personal safety, just associate yourself with someone that is visibly gay. Those who won't stop themselves from violating people's fundamental rights will reveal themselves, as they do especially to visibly gay men. As they do to minorities. The difference with sexual and gender minorities compared to racial minorities is that you cannot "send them back where they came from", so the remaining option is harassment and death from a thousand cuts. So thank you, even though you surely never asked for the job.
Is the basic form of punishment, and it may be found in every structure along the life, from family and school, place of work, community, hospital and prison, etc. Oh, I forgot, pandemics...
Hi, I was obnoxious to someone called Bastion in these comments a few weeks ago, and I feel really bad. Who do I think I am, anyway? If Bastion sees this, I am very sorry for how I talked to you.
@@ABeautifulEarthForOurChildrenLmao sorry it's just what came to my mind with the "tear at my heart" (tear in my heart tøp song) and the other comment that talked about taco bell (TB saga is an old funny song of them) I hope you had a great day ☀️
@@Kim-wt2gl love and accept yourself. Even if it hurts, look at the parts of yourself you rejected and the parts you don't like and take ownership of them. Accept those parts and find a way to love them and to love your whole being. I love you unconditionally You can do it :)
Do we exist, can we exist of theres no one to witness or mirror us? I think a whole person would have an easier time in isolation. I have an experience of being in a community where im isolated so alot of what i experience is not mirrored in those around me, so then is what i experience just afigment of my imagination? No, because i learn to trust myself in isolation, i learn compassion for the self in isolation 🙏
That last part about growing up feeling isolated in a family resonated so much! Till this day I'm struggling to feel a normal sense of connection to people, like truly belonging somewhere and not being the odd one out, an alien amongst humans lol
The alien analogy hits hard 🥲 I remember writing in my notebook that I didn't feel like I was born for this world and maybe I was an alien. Something about experiencing isolation growing up left you feeling intrinsically defected.
Im in isolation for 3 years now, today is my birthday and few ppl congratulated me writing me that they miss me but I feel nothing anymore I became super apathetic. I feel like they really don’t mean it because I exactly missing these parts of myself I have lost in my childhood so whenever someone tells me they miss me they care about me it’s never ME, it’s a fake me I feel unseen they don’t know me, I don’t know myself, I am lost
I have been living on my own, no friends, no family in a foreign country for over 35 years.... I can’t connect with people, they don’t get me,mthey don’t find value in me yet I have a plethora of interests that I explore in depth, but when when I express myself they either dismiss me or they become jealous/ envious or they straight up hate me, and go as far as harrass me and stalk me. If I signed a contract with higher beings before encarnating in this planet, I certainly didn’t read the fine print, or was to arrogant and eager to participate in this experience called life.
Try being a woman on her own, in the midst of resolving my own trauma & having moved to a small rural town with a neighbour who is a socially isolated, mentally unstable ex-soldier who keeps putting gifts over the fence ... I'm frickin terrified of him but moving yet again will also traumatise me more. I am stuck & now have weapons around my house, ready for the day he finally cracks.
I hate loneliness, everyone can say it's good and peaceful but it won't change my view of how traumatizing and soul-sucking it is to never be part of a group, of always being disconnected from everyone, this is sickening and should not be romanticized
I was often locked up in a hotel room and in my bedroom as a child. I am writing a book about those experiences and my work with my internal parts. I love your work here.
I speculate that what this losing your mind process really is it's just being unable to integrate those isolated broken off parts of yourself with your everyday persona
I wonder if you can talk about how we know when we are avoiding relationships and connections in an unhealthy way vs. being discerning and true to ourselves? My husband and I have been together for a long time and, in a very loving way, he was curious about some changes in me as I have gotten older. I seem to have become very minimalist when it comes to relationships and connections. I don't want to have pets anymore, because it's just so devastating watching them start to get old and sick and having to make decisions about letting them go. I don't want to be friends with co-workers anymore, because I have found that trying to be friends with co-workers is an incredibly disappointing experience. I like to keep my circle small now. I have a very small number of friends and that's fine with me. I also struggle with sex now, which does affect my husband and I/we are trying to figure it out.
The isolation from our true self is the most painful one and it strikes hard when we have no other human being to mirror our emotions, bringing up all the pain of the early abandonment. But we have to feel all these painful emotions that we denied for so long. Alone. But we also know that we are not the only ones...
During my time in secondary school, I faced isolation for the first time due to bullying from other girls. However, this experience taught me how to be comfortable with being alone. Now, I would sometimes withdraw and enjoy my solitude time. I'm not entirely sure if this is healthy, but I find myself not fearing being alone. In fact, I sometimes find solace in this state of solitude.
I just posted on your website about this issue, but I didn’t even think to call it isolation… I can relate very heavily, as I feel as though I have begun my “waking up” process, but my peers don’t understand and try and put me back to sleep. I think what I need to do is surrender to them and let them think I’ve gone back to sleep, when in reality there’s a lot of things going on inside of me. The song Surrender by Cheap Trick tells all: “Surrender, surrender, But don’t give yourself away.”
Yeah the world is insane and sad…well we live our lives hyper vigilant. People are crazy and we get revictimized for weird crap…Weird vibes and abuse in life with different friends, family and random people we meet. It seems abnormal. I think it is difficult and confusing
Many people who ‘seem’ to ‘have connection’ are either being preyed upon by someone.. or they are the predator. Knowing that and actually analysing all these seeming happy connections - reveals so much ‘fake connection’!! That makes me feel a lot less lonely. However that fake connection - is very valuable for most people in it except the victims - as it helps all those people survive and progress socially. That’s the majority of society. The victims hopefully eventually figure out how they are being exploited and they leave.. So I believe it’s often only the victims that become the truly whole deep people. Maybe I’m wrong but that’s my hope for them.
That hit. I concluded this and wonder if scientifically if isolation kills do fake relationships maintain health and longevity I think they do. The exploitation is what romantic relationships are all about.
@@thearough Spoken like one broken hearted. There is much in the aether about how "Lonely people don't live as long'? How, "Isolation kills". I wonder if that is true, or if it is social maneuvering, like religion and sports.
Getting stuck in the healing step of separation from others is easy to do bc our culture is fraught with political and interpersonal toxicity. It's exhausting to navigate while trying to find ur authenticity ❤
Indeed. I follow a mainstream religion that his whole country once followed and people just hate me because of it. I therefore live an isolated life. I don't tell people what my religion is unless they ask, and when they ask I tell the truth. My religious social norms are not in conflict with the societal norms around me, human beings are human beings after all. I have adapted to my isolation, I experienced it as a child, locked in a dark cellar and I am familiar with it. Being alone in the dark, damp cellar is better than being out there facing relentless hostility and violence. Once a year I seek out people who don't completely hate me.
Is there a facebook group or some forum for the viewers of thus channel? Some place where we can discuss further? I have so much I'd like to discuss further and ideas about the subjects in this chanel.
I know what I need from people now and what kind of traits to look for, but it's rare to meet those people in my small Southern Baptist and I need to drive an hour to the city for social connections. Which I can't do anymore because my car keeps having problems and I can't afford to lose it. Well off people get to have literally everything poor people can't, even good social life. I feel like all self improvements I've made over the years get me nowhere as our system just crumbles more and more.
My brother spent two years in isolation in prison. It was totally unnecessary and uncalled for but the system is twisted. But these people talking about how much they love being alone don't know what isolation is.
This is weird. Ive been cutting back on distraction and just sitting with my feelings the last few days and thinking “I think Im in a horror movie, I think this is a psychological horror movie” just observing my perception of myself, the world, my mind and feelings while I lay there or sit there.
i 'm on the pro-isolation side. never been good with people. clumsy with words, small, shy and introverted. being alone is freedom especially in nature away from any sign of humans. being accepted is nice but i don't feel comfortable dependent on anyone other than myself or having anyone dependent on me. if i could have my dream i would wish to live like an animal completely isolated on a deserted tropical island abundant in nature without a care in the world and without these goddamned schitzo entities inside me.
Im alone alot. I work from home. I have animals and yes I get lonely but love the peace. It can he hard to be around people Im very sensitive to people, feelings etc I see it from both perspectives. Healthy people great to be around but many people hard to be around.
I have to watch your videos in chunks and take breaks to journal, play music and process all of it because dealing with all these topics are sometimes overwhelming yet the videos speaks to me directly and I'm grateful for your all your insights and sharing of experience. It is so helpful.
About half of humanity isn't human. Of the half that are human, most are warped by trauma and the bad things to do for self preservation. The tiny few you can actually connect with are hidden out there among them.
Some of us are not hiding and are speaking loud and clear. Like me. GOD Is a loner. But not alone. Coz I love GOD and Love is my home@@user-kl8lo6rj5i
Thanks for sharing, I'm constantly reaching out and connecting with people, cus i see how lonely people are, and I feel myself being lonely. Most of them are just afraid of being hurt.
My family judged and criticized me so much I developed social anxiety. My social anxiety and avoidant attachment has made me unable to withstand friendships. I leave friends at the very moment I perceive abandonment. Can’t be abandoned if you abandon them first! Can’t wait to die alone
Comment on Freud's concept of the 'Devouring Mother,' and what do you think of people who choose to die alone? For I'm facing a forced isolation, following a life-time of abandonment and social isolation (my mom divorced my dad when I was two), and find that I relish the prospect. It gives free reign to my drive for solitude, I'm a Lone Wolf. Also, I'm drifting into absolute silence verbally.
Hello, Daniel. Could you please give me some advice? Maybe a lot of people with the following problems would really appreciate it as well. Well, I've watched your videos on why you don't recommend forgiveness and I couldn't agree more. I could really relate to them. But I feel I need a practical advice. I come from an broken, abusive household and I don't seem to get past it. I try to move on, but everyday I get really, really mad because of the things that happened to me in life and they held back for so long. How do I wake up without feeling like I'm gonna explode in this huge ball of hate and anger? I can't really afford therapy and self reflection hasn't been much effective.
I experienced the gut wrenchingly deep pain of isolation from childhood and way into adulthood. Then I fell into God’s loving arms. Now I am happy in my own skin and enjoy the blessed peace of solitude. 👐
Amen💛🙏 That's also my experience! Jesus came to heal the broken hearted! I can testify to that 💛 HE is my safe place, my Home, my containment in which to grow, heal and blossom 🌸
I actually remember sitting in my baby chair and looking around gasping at what I saw. My brother liked taking knives to my sister's throat and my Mom would watch and pet my head. I was his next victim as he'd get my other brother and sisters to tap forks and knives on the table and chant baby brat in unison as I screamed, cried, rocked, turned pitch red and pulled my hair. My Mom wouldn't stop him I was about 3😮 It was a Rob Zombie movie.
Loneliness is the human condition. The key is to make friends and become comfortable with isolation. This is a cruel selfish world and everyone is concerned about themselves first and foremost. No one is losing any sleep over your problems.
I hate when people focus on immigrants rather than real, suffering citizens here 😠. Your focusing on them instead of Americans such as me who have suffered directly and indirectly from immigrants is a huge slap in the face.
I haven’t had a true friend in years.. and because of my high degree of self consciousness and softened character, authentic honest character, it becomes much harder to find a real friend who can actually hold space for me. In a way, it really is like I am dying. RU-vid serves as like a somewhat satiating artificial food source for my craving of communion. So I make long comments and delete them once I realize time and time again OH that person posting videos wasn’t and isn’t actually isolated like me. They’re just toying with isolation but never actually let themself enter into it fully, or only to certain degrees. It is all a matter of degrees. My few years of pretty painful isolation may be child’s play compared to some people in decades of isolation. Did you ever hear about a specific New England man who up and left his job and life around age 30 and lived alone in the woods, pillaging small amounts of food from a nearby home and he literally stayed isolated for a few decades or more I think. What does his silent psychosis truly conceal? We may not be mature enough yet as souls to understand these levels of ego death.. perhaps. Well, I don’t remember the exact outcome. But I never forgot this general story, because so often I have desired to do the same. But I’ve done soft core versions of it. Camping a few days here and there, you know literally people came up to my private camp site just to say some utter nonsense, I swear people have a meter sense of how much oil one has in their lamp ie how much maturity, healed ness, how much God they have. How much they are able to handle isolation. One who is under great chains of weakness and trepidation will gravitate toward another who is well on their way toward independence. Paradoxical is the nature of this, sense independence with solitude-isolation (is there truly a hard line between the two? No there isn’t. There are shades of degrees between, how much one is willing to compromise. And to be a bit fake or reserved just to fit in and get some social time, versus leaving that behind and being more isolated by “choice”. Well it’s not too much of a choice when you literally have trouble finding anybody on your wavelength.) it is like fasting. You are kind of “dying” when fasting, in certain degrees. But you are being cleansed and invigorated and you are getting big gainz from your travails. Eat to live eat to die. Fast to die, but fast to live! Socialize to live, socialize to die. Assimilate to survive, but assimilate to be watered down and inauthentic. Can you see the paradox more clearly now? It can be an annoying paradox to accept. It can seem absurd. Such a world of strange gradients. Deus ex machina events are not required for this self adjusting process, this self-propelled mechanism, to have the tables turned. Many theorize, philosophies about the religious ideas of heaven, of doing hard penance here to have rewards in heaven. Dying as a warrior here to be accepted into Valhalla as a god. It’s in all cultures because it is inherent to this incarnation.. does it ever end though, the yo yo effect of being exalted after a humbling, and then being abased after some self exaltation. Isolating to become more socially valuable.. growing apart To get closer. Alone together. Or together alone. 😂 peace
In japan there are a large democratic of man called Hikikomri that have withdrawn from society because of the high demand from Japanese culture sadly I think here in America we are becoming just like them western Hikikomori it is a reality and as a society we have to be compassionate and understanding to one another no one should dies alone but that seems to be the fate for so many.
I was isolated since infancy, adopted by my dad because he didn't want his bastard kid in foster care, his wife who hated everything about this arrangement, both pretending to be White Picket Fence Good while inwardly teeming in anger and resentment. I was special needs but obviously that wasn't on their radar so my needs weren't met. Seeing that this was the 90's being special needs but forced to keep up with the other kids meant that I was H A T E D but the other kids. Absolutely hated. If those kids could have killed me ans escaped punishment, they would have without hesitation. That's how it was until high school graduation. As a result I prefer solitude because other people have always hated me and have always been isolated. It feels safe at this point. I'm not interested in people outside of an anthropological level. Gotta keep them at arms length.
Just got out of involuntary inpatient psych a week ago for talking about suicide. "Do no harm" is a VERY funny line. I never realized doctors are primarily known for the masterful use of irony.
Grew up isolated after a chaotic first 10-12 years of my life but seemed to not be wanted by the people who were taking care of us at the time From then i didnt really know how to live or interact with anyone and stumbled through the next years trying to figure stuff out And even after figuring certain things it still seems like im out of place Ill take it day by day and can hopefully live a decent life
What is a sense of belonging? It is knowing that you will be with them for a long time..... be with me for a long time... be long. But the person how is shamed and isolated will always have that feeling as swans of a fleeting glimpse. Yes, isolation makes you crazy. Even in the animal kingdom, it is usually never good for them to be alone. There are no answers for this problem., you can't make someone love you and if they are false, it twists the pain just that little bit more.
Isolation can be a source of power to control another person and form a dependency. Controlling the narrative enables other possibilities for manipulation and grooming desired behaviors, including cutting off outside support to keep a person isolated. Social media has expanded the ability to break free.
Isolation as an elder with a narcissistic next door who has already targeted me to this new neighborhood in a rural area. Narcissists enjoy hurting those who they perceive has already been damaged is a crime against God herself.
Other than your immediate family, and in some cases not even them, no one cares. I mean no one. If you are doing well, you will have lots of friends, if you aren't so much, there will be no friends.
I think as we go through life, some realize sooner or later, we learn that really everything is about judgement, your state of consciousness and whether you are open to a particular state, sensation or emotion or whether you resist it and fight it. That dynamic is internal. Once you realize that everybody is doing their best to keep this fact at bay, because it's way too painful you'll never look at the world the same. You realize that the enemy is inside of you. It's never out there. There is no place you can go and nothing you can do where you aren't you. And you realize that the only way out is in. And that the only way past is through. And so there cannot be a connection with people who still blame. Who still make war. Who still make fun of xyz.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the loneliness epidemic. I believe it’s related to what you’re talking about. People feel unseen, unwitnessed, because parts of them are banished to solitary confinement, even if they are around people. As a therapist treating kids and teens right now temporarily I see how parents’ unmetabolized trauma and split off parts are simply passed on to their children. I wonder how people cannot realize that any of their unresolved issues are going to manifest in their children, who are 50% them genetically. Fortunately the state of the art is parent training, so I get to explain this to them in whatever degree I sense they can begin to hear it. I get to say in essence “The degree to which you can do the inner work of healing will directly affect your child’s development.” It’s fascinating watching what happened to me with my parents happen in real time in other families. Thanks again for spreading this awareness. You are always a pleasure to watch. ✌🏽☺️💚
Unfortunately,this isolation feeling is reinforced when you pass from childhood trauma to toxic relationship. You live with someone and feel alone because of isolation and I agree you can loose your mind… or you can start to work on yourself to break free, it’s the good news !
AI chatbots emerge as a contemporary apparatus of isolation. They are not as officially rubricised means to cut costs on personnel expenses but means of cultivating isolation, which is extremely profitable. A little off-topic, but a little on-topic.
Solitude is voluntary " I want to experience my world" Isolation is involuntary cohersed withdrawal of connections very damaging and traumatic especially in early childhood and even at all stages of development
Daniel's accounts of the unconscious and of healing are the clearest and most straightforward I've ever come across. Everything just slots together once you view the whole process in terms of desperate ways of coping with trauma. Perhaps that was always the big idea going back to Freud, but somehow I have just never heard it expressed so clearly and precisely as on these videos, and so it always remained a bit mysterious. Whereas listening to these explanations of the cause of psychological splitting, it really comes to seem just bleeding obvious that we bury our feelings simply to protect ourselves.
