Listened to the whole talk Alhamdulillah and as a 16 y/o , it was of exorbitant necessity and importance for me. Jazakallah Khairan Ustadh and the person who uploaded this
I agree " you never give up on your family". If you are investing your time , effort, love in family. You can not give up on them. It is hard and extremely difficult.
Alhamdulillah! This is Amazing! I have added this lecture to my favorites. This is awesome advice. MashaAllah! May Allah help us and give us strength to raise our kids who are honest, kind, loving, grateful and righteous. Ameen!
Assalamoalikum , thanks for uploading. the advices in the qna session was VERY helpful as a parent. may ALLAH protect you and family, Brother Nouman and team and believing viewers and give lofty places in Jannat ul Firdous . may ALLAH give the disbelieves insight to believe.
subhan'allaah, ma sha Allah, al hamdu lillah allahumma barak, may Allah Subhanu Wa Tala give this brother and his family the best in this life and the next, aammeen ya rabbil.alameen
What I don't understand though is that growing up my parents were pretty clear on what was acceptable and what wasn't. We were corrected on the smallest things that we couldn't fathom doing anything bigger out of fear. If they were lenient as I have seem some family friends or relatives then their kids feel like oh it's ok my parents don't care they won't get upset so it gives them more leeway to do other things.
I would really appreciate a response to that because I find it hard to find the balance of being stern with your kids and giving them freedoms the same time
I hope you are well. But, if you have kids of your own then work at the mentality of your own children. You can take tips and advice from other people, but only you can assess the ability of your own child. If you are disciplining your child in a correct way such as the child is offering their salah, doing their homework, good behaviour etc then reward them by giving them the freedom i.e treat them. But, that does mean their freedom is such that they can do whatever they want. Explain to your child the dangers of the world, give them real life examples of people who had too much freedom. But, freedom is something that the child should earn upon good behaviour. If the child is not doing well or has rude manners etc then discipline the child by removing certain aspects of something they enjoy, but do so in a merciful manner. I think patience is the key. It is hard, but hopefully your child will aspire to be like you and how you behave. I am not sure if this above advice is beneficial or whether you will even get it. But, just make dua and try your best. Ask Allah to help you find the right balance. You can do this. May Allah bless you. Ameen
You have control over your kids the first 5 years since they are born. so don't give into them when they cry for the new toy. that will make them think that if they cry you will end up giving in. If you want your kids to grow up healthy, dont shower them with junk food when they are kids. etc
