The Lotus Blossom Stereotype - Dangers of the Asian Fetish 

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As a black woman, I grew up a girl envious of Asian women because they were viewed as feminine while black women were viewed as manly and aggressive. I now see how harmful this stereotype is but even today in my community, the men say every woman is the most feminine and we are undesirable and masculine. It all boils down to sexism. Asian women don't deserve to be seen as objects like this. It's actually pretty disgusting. This stereotype objectifies Asian women and emasculates Asian men while dehumanizing both of them.

Can we get a separate video diving deeper into the immasculization of Asian men? As someone who's dated Asian men it's really sad to me. I've had several instances where jealous men would say something racist and degrading about my bf's masculinity when he's more confident in his sexuality than any of them. I'm tired of this stereotype.

An acquaintance of mine (we used to play together) always expressed how much he wanted to marry an Asian (Japanese) woman because they are soft, good wives, subservient and submissive. He is a white dude who watches a lot of anime. I was very surprised because I had met many many Asian women in my life, especially Chinese and Korean and none of them were submissive. On the contrary... I felt sorry for this man. Now he is 27, still watching a lot of anime (nothing wrong with that) and dreaming about a 2D Asian woman because he went to Japan and got disappointed with the real thang.

as a Vietnamese woman who is living in Vietnam, this trope is really toxic in terms of how white people see us in general. Let’s me break this down as I’m writing. So I’ve been seeing a lot of white men who come here to “teach English” and they Only date Viet women but not all Viet women, they pick and choose women who are kinda clueless about how women should be treated because those men will use the excuse that it’s “cultural differences” to treat local women like literal dirt. Also, a really sad fact is a lot of beautiful Viet women would date really older and Shrek-looking white men because they’re white. It’s like a white supremacy/superior kinda thing here and it’s honestly so depressing. And those men brag about how they can score such beautiful girlfriends when they treat them like shit. It’s super messed up. I’m definitely not one of the “sweet” “submissive” Vietnamese here and so for those men, I’m seen as someone who is loud and too opinionated and pretty much undesirable. The white men here want Vietnamese women who are cool with whatever they do and obey them basically. Also, a lot of older white men come here to prey on much younger women (I’m talking 50s men and 20ish women). It’s very disturbing. For white women, I notice a pattern that even tho they don’t appear as rude or anything, they secretly jealous of Asian women because of these toxic stereotypes about us. They see us as someone who are more desired by white men and they view us as more sexual so even tho it’s not that strong, I can still tell that white women look down on us. Another thing is white men here in Vietnam definitely treat white women more respectfully than with Viet women, well because they objectify local women and they see local women as the inferior. It’s a sad sad truth

Can we just stop fetishizing anyone? Ever? People are precious! Excellent video as always!

I noticed that it seems that any woman who is non-white always has very similar stereotypes linked to them. The "Jezebel" stereotypes of the African woman, the "Spicy Latina" of the South American woman and the "Lotus Blossom" of the Asian women, and these stereotypes are all do to colonialism and the belief of whiteness being equated to perfection and everything that is pure and good. And anyone who deviates from whiteness must have their own narratives which are often always negative. Even these racial preferences (which make absolutely NO sense) is just due to colonialism. I am not Asian but I am an African and it is honestly quite sad and nearly impossible to escape and deviate from these set "standards" which are unattainable for a person of colour. We should be allowed to be multifaceted, loving different things that are not in any way connected to any stereotypes.

I'd love to see a video about stereotyping russian women and russians in general one day, because oh. my. god. is it worth challenging.

I’m asian and was talking to a guy and laughing until he said “FINALLY MY DREAM OF TALKING TO AN ASIAN GIRL HAS COME TRUE”. I was not gonna handle that shit, I said “ your dream ended, bye”and quit.

I'm starting to see this now but with the reverse being white and non-Asian girls fetishizing Asian men, specifically Korean men and the male idols from Asian countries. My sister is a K-pop fan but she simply likes the music and personalities of the groups she likes, she doesn't see them as a model for all Asian men, and complains about the K-pop fans who fetishize and even infantilize these very much adult men that happen to be idols for teen girls.

Speaking on that massacre in Atlanta I'm still pissed off at the amount of justifying the shooter that continues to happen. I don't care what you think of those women, they're still people and they were murdered because they were dehumanized and that is awful. My heart goes out for those who lost loved ones at the hands at the hands of that sicko.

While reading "Eleanor and Park" as a preteen, it always bothered me somewhat that Eleanor compared Park's mother to a dainty, porcelain China doll several times, despite her being Korean, not Chinese. Eleanor constantly calls Park "Stupid Asian Kid", and Park is insecure about his heritage.

it's also worth mentioning that while this fetishization of asian women is by white men and western society, many white women also buy into this concept (as seen by amy schumer's clip) and view asian women as competition for white men. i can't count the number of times i've tried to talk about my love life with other women only to be shut down and told that i don't have to worry and all men want me for [insert racial stereotype here] thus silencing and invalidating me.

I kinda wished they'd go into the fact that asians (particularly asian women) are only portrayed as the "far east" asians. There are far more than just "far east" asians. We are a very diverse people.

appreciate you calling out Japan's objecitfication of young femme characters in anime that also pereptuates western's fetishization of asian women as well as just contributing to asian men's objecitifcation towards us. People (creepy weebs) keep excusing it as just "fiction" when sexual and predatory harassment in Japan is a huuuge problem! That "fiction" was created by a real life person that has this image/fantasy of asian women in their heads to put it into their shows and in turn normalize it to the audience.

Also this continues to have a huge effect on Asia, where hundreds of Western male backpackers travel as either tourists or English teachers just to visit brothels and find Asian wives. A lot of them also outwardly treat Asian women as objects in their own countries.

The dislikes are from Big Ed’s fake accounts.

"Memoirs of a geisha" deserves its own video analysis.

I kind of like that with K-pop having garnered so much attention over the past years in the west, Korean men have managed to break away a bit from that "sexless butt of the joke" stereotype. On the contrary, it's now even challenging what some western men still believe western women want in a man and what is consider masculine. On the other hand it does open up the gates to more fetishization again, so it's a complex subject.

I’m so tired of Hollywood casting Asian actors just because they’re asian and the character is asian. If the character is Japanese, cast a Japanese actor. It’s that simple.

As an Asian teenage girl, thank you just thank you

I think you need to change your definition of "Asian" to "East Asian". Please stop propagating the idea that Asian are only East Asians. Japan, China, Korea are "East Asian". Thailand, Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, Vietnam, Philippines, Laos, Cambodia are "South-East Asian". Mongolia, former soviet countries(in Asia) are "Central Asian". India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Afghanistan are "South Asian". Iran, Iraq, Israel, Syria, Saudi Arabia, UAE, Yemen, Qatar, Oman, etc are "West Asian"

This was another hit guys! I always found it strange as a Caribbean woman how overtly sexual Asian women were portrayed in movies because in my country they are seen just as 'Miss Chin' which is a whole other stereotype of the disapproving workaholic Asian. But growing up with Asian friends I never once thought of them as sexual beings, just as people. Which is how you should view all people of all races.

Looks like y'all finally heard me. Please cover the WHOLE trope of "exotic" girls

Why is it so hard, no matter the race, to consider women as people, and not just sex objects? I know certain races are fetishized for different things, but it's so stupid. Women are people and they want to be treated as such. It's also oddly creepy to be that certain men want both childishness and sexuality. It's gross, truly.

The sad part is my Asian grandma still believes this.

I cringed so hard throughout this well analyzed and written video. As an adult Asian woman I very recently came to the realization all the things pointed out here, and now realize I was a fetish to a lot of my exes (and not just from white guys). It feels disgusting and dehumanizing

Yes, omg, when non asian writers name their characters without actually looking up asian names is so annoyinggggg! Also casting the wrong ethnic asian because they can't tell us apart and can't be bothered to be accurate/expect the audience to not notice or care either. It basically makes a statement that this wasn't done for asians.

As a South Asian woman, I used to wish we were as desired as East Asians girls or Latinas, but now I'm glad that we aren't. Makes it easier to get into a relationship based on true love and not some weird racial fetish.

I find that the hypersexualization of asian women has gone relatively unacknowledged, just as the larger invisibility of Asians in the discussion of racial justice! A lot of racism towards Asians, before the spike of hate crimes due to COVID-19, often perpetuated the stereotype of the Model Minorty. All my life, I've been asked to take these generalizations as compliments. I'm a child of immigrants, a first generation Canadian who grew up with Chinese values at home but had to adapt to western values on the playground, classroom, workplace, etc. I've had everything from guys bowing to me, trying to speak to me in Japanese or comparing me to an "anime schoolgirl" to professionals coming up to me after hearing my keynote speech to say, "you're quite educated for a woman of your background" or "your english is very fluent, I'm surprised!". See, there's a spectrum. For the latter scenario, I knew that these professionals meant well but the assumptions and stereotypes they unwittingly perpetuated were harmful nonetheless. Hell, this Lotus Blossom / Dragon Lady dilemma even shows up in mainstream television like the silent, stoic dragon lady, "broadly Chinese" as drugpin villain in the pilot of Daredevil. Contrast this with more nuanced takes of asian identity in The Farewell, exploring individualism vs conformism through the moral dilemma of her grandma's terminal diagnosis. Ultimately, I'm grateful for this ever-evolving discourse. As a screenwriter, I'm excited to contribute to a new age of diverse and innovative stories!

I remember a girl I met when I studied in Korea was telling me and two other girls about a weird Asian-fetish guy she dated when she studied abroad in the US... The man was rapey and so creepy. He just wanted her to be submissive and kinda like a stereotypical anime girl

We still need people to know the difference between East Asian and southeast Asian. As well as South Asian. Too many people seem to forget people from India are Asian

You've done Asians, you've done Blacks, you've done Latinas, I'll be waiting for Indian and Middle Eastern women tropes in Hollywood/media. We seem to always be excluded from the "Asian" category, and interestingly are always portrayed in a negative (dirty, illiterate, angry, unattractive) way. Where is our representation? I know that the way middle eastern ("arabian") women are portrayed (if they are portrayed at all) is very different from the way desi ("brown") women are portrayed.

One thing that REALLY upsets me is Lara Jean’s character from To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before. It’s not REALLY positive representation when the actor Lana Condor is VIETNAMESE but Lara Jean’s character is canonically Korean-Caucasian and wears traditional Korean clothing throughout the film. It’s angered me to NO END how many publications were championing TATBILB for “fantastic Asian representation” when it only further serves to homogenize and diminish the very real cultural and ethnic differences among Asian features and Asian communities for a primarily Western audience.

12 years ago this guy came on the bus and started talking to me about how he's never been with an asian girl before. I tried to politely disengage with him, but he just wouldn't stop. We were on that bus together for 1.5 hours and ended up getting off at the same stop. Fortunately, he didn't follow me but that event has stayed w me to this day.

“As a lotus flower is born in water, grows in water and rises out of water to stand above it unsoiled, so I, born in the world, raised in the world having overcome the world, live unsoiled by the world.” - Buddha

As an Asian women I hate it when some men comment how much they prefer Asian women, like why are you saying this to me? I am not flattered when you objectify my race or my identity, I am not something for you to “prefer”.

Oh wow finally someone’s talking about this

From the model minority to the fetishization of Asian women, they deserve better. I was sad thinking how I had seen The Joy Luck Club so many years ago and how only recently seen either all Asian casts or Asian leads in films even receiving high accolades. With the surge of violent attacks on Asian people within the past year, these horrific acts are bring this to a much wider awareness as with the BLM movement. Let’s just hope that this is a continuing and progressive discussion that reaps something more than a talking point that fades from the social consciousness, but permeates to real social change.

As a half-Asian, I felt this stereotype harm a lot of healthy relationships who view me and my friends as objects and ideals versus people. A lethal fantasy that I am glad is finally being challenged by American culture.

gay Asian men often experience this too, unfortunately.

Growing up in a rural part of America as one of the few Asian people I never imagined myself marrying anyone other than an Asian woman. Humorously enough I ended up marrying a black woman.

In my opinion, Crazy Rich Asians still has many underlying problems, though it involves the emasculation of Asian Males instead. I’m not sure how many ppl in the west actually know this, because all I seem to hear is praise for the movie. I am a female Chinese-Malaysian , and it honestly angered me that Henry Golding was cast as the male lead, who is supposed to be ethnically Chinese-Singaporean. Henry Golding is half caucasian and half Iban (an indigenous group native to the Borneo region in Malaysia), which yes, I understand that he is technically half Asian, but above all he is NOT Chinese. He has openly came out to defend this casting choice by saying that he is through and through Malaysian, and that I truly believe. But what I can’t get over is the fact that Crazy Rich Asians was one of the most HYPED and renowned all-asian cast, yet the MALE LEAD just had to be half caucasian and not a single ounce of Chinese blood, further perpetuating the notion that ethnically asian man are undesirable or deemed as not being macho or conventionally handsome. Just seems to me that it’s just another reiteration of the white savior complex... something that I’ve seen and heard my entire life- with people always praising mixed asians as ALWAYS being the prettiest or most handsome. The movie honestly could have been such a good opportunity to make good change in the movie industry but Hollywood just works that way I suppose. (PS: I have much more to say about their accents all being such a mixed bag i.e British, Australian and American; while the native Singlish slang is only used for comedic relief lol) but that would be way too long of a comment haha

Thank you so much for calling this out. I'm not Asian but African, but I've been studying AsAm history and cultures, and I came across this Miss Saigon is guilty of this. I love the performers and sets, but the story is so conflicting.

That's the reason why I prefer to stay single and not date anyone. I'm tired of people projecting their stereotypes/imagination on to me. Having to explain why I don't do certain things and why it's not okay. Calling them out always leads to them telling me to "chill it was just a joke". Well no it's not a joke and I won't accept people telling me what I'm supposed to think or feel.

As an Asian person it doesn’t necessarily make me mad when Asian actors don’t play their specific ethnicity, because there aren’t really that many roles available, and because I don’t think other ethnicities are held to the same standard. I think Sandra Oh spoke out about that exact thing. If Anna Karenina can be stuffed full of British actors then I can’t fault Memoirs of a Geisha, a western movie based off a white man’s novel, for mainly casting Chinese actresses who were familiar to western audiences. At least in 2021 there are way more Asian actors known in the west to fill these parts!

legend has it Emma Stone is still shouting "I'm sorry"

I feel like not only I had guys who fetishizes me, but also girl friends that may have fetishized me. Saying that I was "cold and distant" and that "men love women like you" is simply just throwing fetishizing bombs at me.

Nice! When you ever do the Dragon Lady stereotype, please mention how Bridget Jones's Diary perpetuates it through Mark's unseen and unheard ex wife who is reduced to her promiscuity and race. And isn't given the same grace as Bridget and Daniel for hurting Mark.

aaahh so early but i love you guys, you knock it out of the park in LITERALLY every video, ty for your content

Maybe that Amy Schumer clip needed more context but that was pretty yikes 😱

When me and other students from the Korean class walked to a little café with our teacher who is a Korean woman, we encountered on this short walk alone two man who came up to our teacher and one greeted her in Chinese and called her a derogatory word and another asked "how much" in a stereotypical "asian" accent smh we were all furious and told them off, while she walked along and seemed kind of downhearted :(

After a buglary the other day, my fellow thieves asked, "What's the take?" I said, "an awesome YT channel". Long story short, I got kicked off the heist team.

Can you do one for just anime? I’d love to see a breakdown. Especially having to do with anime women and their baby like features. It’s weird.

Such a good video, as an Asian woman who deals with being fetishized against my will often, this video being made makes me feel seen and makes me feel optimistic that maybe it's possible for people to understand and things can get better despite how bad the past year has been.

Trang is actually a legitimate female first name in Vietnamese. The point about Pak being a Korean surname still stands.

Back when I was a sheltered little homeschooled girl, one of the things I loved and was never questioned about was my love of opera! I adored the drama and the music, and I remember one summer I rented a bunch of opera DVDs I found tucked away in a BOOK shelf at the library. One of them was Madame Butterfly, and not knowing anything about it I popped it on expecting a Japanese drama with beautiful costumes and a cool story. What I GOT was a shock as a third of the way through I had to turn it off because I couldn't stomach it anymore. You have to understand: when I say I was sheltered I didn't know anything about social justice or inequality, I didn't have any POC in my rather small social circle, and the word "feminist" was one that vaguely represented extremist crazy women. Even with all that I KNEW something was wrong with how the character of Butterfly was spoken about and treated, and the discomfort I felt at the eerie way the characters interacted with her was enough to ruin the show for me entirely. How bad does it have to be when someone as clueless as me picked up on how gross and disgusting the situation was? I know that the story represents how real Asian women were treated, but it didn't act like the power imbalance and the blatant exploitation was the tragic part--what was tragic was how the lovers were separated by their different worlds and how noble Butterfly was. Bull-effin'-shit it is! What's tragic is that anyone still puts on productions of that opera.

Is there a Take video on the Mandingo stereotype i.e. the hypersexualization of black men?

I loved Miss Saigon for its magical songs and how well the actors/singers do their part but I hated the white saviour aspect. We south Vietnamese suffered so much.

This is so true. I am Hawaiian, Chinese, and Irish. I look like a good blend, but I have to say a favor “the white side.” My father is Hawaiian/Chinese, and my mom is Irish. You wouldn’t believe how many comments I get from guys still. Hell, it was one of the things that attracted my husband. I feel like Hawaiian women also get fetishized. You wouldn’t believe how many racist “jokes” I get also. I think, just cause I look part white, they think it’s OK to say them. Hell, my part Chinese father had just left a family event when my mother-in-law’s ex-husband decided to start making Chinese and Mexican jokes. I told him he needed to stop, or get out of my house. I was dumbfounded that he even thought he had the right.

Can ya'll make a video on Indians or south asians?? like the stereotypes and racism that we face? Especially in the uk

These films have no idea how strong and independent Asian women can be. Far from the submissive stereotype. My mom used to be called “beautiful but scary” back in her native home in China. And before you attack me, my mom takes pride in that title. She knows she speaks her mind and doesn’t submit to anyone and she’s proud about it, even if some men called her scary. My dad to this day is still scared of her and let’s her have the pants in the family 😂

I understand how annoying it is when people assume just because you're Asian, you must be Japanese or Chinese. People always assume I'm Mexican or Puerto Rican because I'm a Latina. While these countries are beautiful and amazing, other countries are just as good.

stereotypes like these made me change my mind about dating non-Asian men.

I feel so guilty for perpetuating this problem. Ever since I was a teenager, I always had a preference for Asian girls. But I had no idea how deep this stereotype and fetishizing went and how long it's been around. I wish I could apologize to all Asian women for unintentionally adding to their problems with how the public perceives them.

I would love to see a video discussing the emasculation of Asian men in media, and the hyper-sexualization/colorist casting of black women in media. Thanks!

I find it interesting that all Lotus Blossom women seemed to be mostly Japanese with a few South asian women sprinkled in between, while the Dragon Lady was for the most part Chinese (correct me if I'm wrong, it at least seemed to me like that). It's telling when taking geopolitics into consideration and the general perception of and attitudes towards Asian countries in western society.

I have always really loved the songs in Miss Saigon but wow there are so many things in that musical that are just not right, even without the yellow face in the original run.

Thank you for this MUCH NEEDED video. I cannot express the amount of annoyance, dehumanization and objetification I've experienced my whole life, being a brazilian-born chinese. It's exhausting.

My dad is Asian and my mom is white. I think I grew up a lot differently than people who had a white dad and Asian mom. The people I've known like that, it seemed like the dad colonized the mom lol

I worked in Korea for a year and I had SO MANY male coworkers who were open about the fact that they came to Korea to get a Korean girlfriend/had a fetish. It was appalling.

This was very important to be covered: Asian Fetish! But, sometimes my partner (caucasian) gets labelled as fetishizing me when it's not true at all. Existing in this stereotype is very difficult.

This reminds me of a thread I came across where a white guy was talking about his "conundrum" of having an Asian SO. He was excited for the prospect of having a Hapa daughter but not a Hapa son because.... reasons

You should do a video on the hijab trope when the oppressed Muslim girl falls in love with a white boy and takes off her hijab and is seen as better somehow

I once did bridal makeup for an Asian lady and she described to me the story of how she met her husband to be. She said he was really nice and (I think she said he would buy her stuff? I can’t remember) but she said she wasn’t into him at first because she thought he was too old for her. Then not long after he came into the room to check on her and see how far along we were with getting ready, and he was a much older white man. I don’t want to believe what I thought was happening was really happening, but I still think about it from time to time😬 also she spoke with a slight broken English, I don’t know if that helps paint the picture clearer or not. Maybe I think too negatively lol.

Emma Stone shouting "I'm sorry" at the Golden Globes is the funniest thing, I love it ahahaha

Amazing analysis as always. I hope one day you guys do the black disposable girlfriend trope

This is why I can’t stand american movies and shows.

As a non east asian, I find it annoying how non-asians try to separate other non east asians from other asians. We are so culturally and ethnically diverse but they still think it revolves around east asians.

i liked that you brought up how anime plays into this, i would love to see a full video about dangers of anime tropes like that. because being into anime is becoming a lot more accepted now and i see so many people on the internet completely fine with the way that it portrays women but as someone who does watch anime i feel like there are so many harmful things in it that are normalized :/

As a Vietnamese, the Broadway musical Miss Saigon disgusts me. I have no idea how it won so many awards - sure, the music is nice, the casts are superb, but the story is just outright blasphemy

Thank you for this vid. I’m a writer and I have a Japanese protagonist that I don’t want to fall into this traps of Asian representation. Black men and women are also fetishized on dating apps. For men we are expected to be dominated rough and thuggish in the sacks because we are well endowed (🙄) And I imagine the same it’s just as bad (if not worse) for black women.

There's so little good representation of Asian women and trans women already that as an Asian trans woman, I feel like there's literally no representation at all. Just very very invisible :/

I have such a complicated relationship with Miss Saigon. While the music is beautiful and I'm just happy for any mentions of my country in western media now, it has such an icky plot that surrounds racist stereotypes and yellowface acts in the older productions and i fear of speaking up about it since it's such a beloved play, and even praised by my fellow asians/vietnamese. Thank you The Take for mentioning this very problematic trope in the play

Can you do a "harem girl" trope video? It's extremely pervasive in movies about Middle Eastern and even South Asian characters despite being culturally and historically inaccurate.

I have seen miss Saigon once when I was a kid but didn’t realize how problematic it was. The white savior narrative is really unpalatable as an adult, now that I understand what I am watching

I used to work with a guy, 28yo white guy obsessed with anime, and one time an Japanese woman came in and he literally was yelling about hot and sexy she was…like near her…there’s no way she didn’t hear him. I hope he’s doing bad today

I remember Community Channel talking about Asian stereotypes and how there are actually less of them in sci-fi and fantasy. For example Steven Yeun in Walking dead. The character Glen was in a loving respectful relationship and he was a trusted and valued member of the team with strategic skills and saved other characters from zombies multiple times. He was never the stereotypical asian man, he was a fully developed character.

It was basically about Non-South Asian women and hence the continuous usage of the broad term 'Asian' was so annoying. -An Indian.

This was hard to watch. It's crazy how numb and desensitized we've become to this shit. I really love this channel for opening my eyes to everything.

Looking very much to the Eastearn European women stereotypes trope)).

The weirdest part isn't the fact that this trope was (and perhaps is) wide spread in the west, but it is the reality that even the media portrayals of women in the Asian countries are somewhat identical to lotus blossom. The problem isn't that we Asian women adhere to this idea of a 'perfect woman'. However, it is the whole societal expectations that women have to be submissive, never stand up for themselves and always in need of a man to save them are the reasons of its prevalence. The female main characters are always potrayed as an innocent, docile village girl who is looking for a good potential husband. Whenever she faces a challenge (that most of the time involved some supposedly romantic bullshit), she will always end up submitting themselves to her misery eg letting the man to hurt her, letting her mother in law to abuse her, etc. Her life revolves around being a good wife. She has no hobbies, no interest, no motivation, no goals- basically zero character. It's always about her journey trying to find the right man. But do we Asian (in my case Malaysian) women agree on this potrayal of woman? Definitely not. We despise it to its very core. Fortunately, recently, there have been attempts to stop this trend....honestly, it is more of people stopped watching local TV series and movies to instead watch the Korean ones 😂😂😂

You know, reflecting on these comments and the video, it occurs to me how harmful it is to my own self-worth and self-image as a half-Korean girl who loves movies that these tropes are soooo ubiquitous in Western media. Even many of my "comfort movies/TV" like Mean Girls or The Office or Scott Pilgrim vs. the World just are so *casual* about the subtle anti-Asian racism that for a long time I just accepted that Americans don't see racism/sexism towards Asian women to even be a big deal. When I was growing up, you certainly didn't see people acknowledging its existence in the same way they do nowadays. As a result, I kind of pretended that those kinds of subtle jabs about "submissive Asian women" didn't bother me, that I thought they were funny because it's "just a joke," that I'm "above" it all because I appreciate *good filmmaking* for what it is, etc. etc. I'm so glad that I can now have a more nuanced look on these things. I'll still always love these films, but I also don't feel guilty or bad for allowing myself to feel ANGRY at certain aspects of them. It also makes me feel less alone (and less like I'm going crazy) to know that other people who AREN'T Asian American also recognize that it's not okay to be racist towards us.

Holy fucking shit thank you for this video it's way too fucking real

to all the asian women who went through trauma , you're strong and we're all here to hear your stories ; might the future have less bullshit in your and our lives - yours truly an arabic woman

westerners be like... asian = chinese or japanese

My grandma remarried with an American because of the whole "American dream" trope. She suffered under him and was abused for almost 20 yrs. He's dead now tho

It would be interesting to one day explore if this kind of mentality is spreading to Asian men. Cause like, it is. Not to the same extent of the same way, but kpop and kdrama (although I love them) are a mixed bag for a reason. Kpop also pushes this mentality about Asian women sometimes, too Also though on a more positive note, I showed an Asian-American friend of mine kpop in high school, and I think I got her into kdramas as well? And she said she was really happy to have some sort of representation available to her. I don't think I had even thought about that before I showed her kpop mvs. I was just happy to have a friend be interested. She never got as into kpop or anything as I did, but she still dabbles and from what she said it did mean something to her at the time. She is understandably really frustrated by the lotus blossom and dragon lady stereotypes! Then when Crazy Rich Asians came out she LOVED it! And again I completely understood why!

Does the US have a toxic masculinity problem? I hate toxic masculinity.I'm so sorry for my rudeness.

Thank you for this study. This touches deep for me. Do you guys also have a video on Asian males being emasculated in Hollywood and pop culture? I know it was touched on a little in this one. Thanks again!!