The Masculinity Crisis- Feminists Want To DESTROY “Toxic Masculinity” 

I hold the door open for women and men. It's literally a common courtesy.

Dating should not be a hassle. Dating is just spending time with someone you love and care for, if you don’t feel that connection then it’s probably not worth it. That simple.

we are in the 4th turning..."weak men create hard times," and it will take "strong men to create good times."

I was raised as a masculine man and still consider myself such. However, I was also raised at the exact same time to respect women and treat them with a lot of respect in all situations. I am the door opening, first date paying type of guy. The problem I have trying to date now is that a lot of women have equated 150 sexual partners as girl power and I just find it very unlady like. When I express that I just get slammed with the girl oppression stuff and all that. I kind of just find myself in a society now where old values don’t fit in. I think old values is exactly what we need again, things have gone way to far.

The reason all these people are confused about masculinity is because they grew up without a father. Fathers teach their sons how to be a man. A boy raised by only a woman misses out on that.

The non-binary person cutting off the guy saying he was sexually harassed in the workplace and saying what they said has me shaking my head. Men are just as subjected to SA as women, they just don't report it because of the stigma. Stereotypes go both ways. And maybe I'm bias because the first time I found out about a friend/family member that also experienced being assaulted (physically and mentally) was my MALE COUSIN. He was assaulted by his GF at the time and she put him in the hospital. To this day I'm fairly certain he never told the rest of our family. Most of the SA survivors I know personally are men. The reason people think women are assaulted more is because men are taught not to report it, even more so than women struggle to report it. Society has done BOTH sides dirty. And it almost feels like it's pining us against each other. Men and Women have different primal traits and those are meant to compliment each other. For community, protection, and reproduction. Period. Every person also holds a duality of masculine and feminine within themselves. I personally think when your inner world is off balance is when it's a problem. Sorry for the tangent. But Misha, thank you. Your videos are wonderful.

Something I find important for myself is that I and a lot of my online friends consider ourselves more emotional on average for most men, either because of personalities or problems- but we never considered each other less masculine as a result and we’ve built a sort of instinctual support group. Brothers help brothers.

I have one advice my grandpa passed to me when I was younger, if you're in relationship, and ur sec-half did/said something wrong in public, NEVER! and I mean NEVER! confront him/her around people, guests or YOUR KIDS! This way, u showing your partner no respect, and other will follow it, and do the same.

I am metrosexual, which means I have a sense of fashion, and come off as gay, because of the way I talk, and act, except you are not actually gay. These bio guys take it to the next level acting like they have the same say as actual women. Yes I have femininity in me, but it doesn't mean I want to be a woman. I'm perfectly fine as a boy, and I'm not into guys.

Thank you for bringing light to these issues Misha! I would never be aware of how bad things have become in our society today if not for you. Keep up the Good work! ❤️

These people just want to erase the differences between man and women- the one thing that makes us so beautiful

Must say I'm shocked that nobody mentioned how nasty and shady it was of the non-binary guy to minimize Christian and his struggles/trauma regarding his father not being present. Calling it "that Freudian daddy issue stuff" is just so condescending in my opinion, and just because Christian doesn't have the same viewpoints or mindset as him, he felt comfortable enough to behave that way. I'm sure if it was someone who was more similar to the non-binary guy regarding ideology and beliefs, the reaction wouldn't have been the same. Men, masculine or not, face all kinds of struggles throughout their lives and it's so disheartening to see that until they finally speak up (especially in forums as public as this one and with total strangers), they're just putting each other down.

Finally! Thank you Misha for talking about healthy masculinity without shaming men who don't fully conform to masculine roles. Men should accept their masculinity without shaming other men for not being as masculine as they are. As a gay man, I find it extremely insulting when a guy identifies as nonbinary because they are not "masculine enough." Men and women should be allowed to embrace both their masculinity and femininity without changing their gender.

There are a lot of expectations for men. Women almost always get a pass for everything. 😢 He wasnt complaining about holding the door for the female, he was saying that females expect a lot. 🤦‍♂️

I have to say, a little tip for men, don't pay for things till the girl has demonstrated they actually have some basic level of commitment. It is a simple case of not being naive.

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

Well done, Misha! Many of these things are- ужас. :) Growing up in a Serbian household, I was taught that men should be able to take care of women because it's an honorable thing that helps you be even more masculine. This is how, in my opinion, a man shows he truly cares about you- therefore, he is also able to show his emotions in a healthy, productive way. Women, on the other hand, will take care of the whole family even better when they feel protected- and this is how the whole family stays safe and sound, especially the children. The children in question will also have good role models in this way. Whenever I would mention going out with someone to my grandma, she would always ask two things- "Is he a good man?", and "Can he fix anything around the house?", which pretty much sums up everything I have explained so far. :)) I would also like to add that both "healthy" masculinity and "healthy" femininity are shown in someone's character, not someone's clothes.

Hard times create strong man , Strong man create good times, Good times create weak men and Weak men create hard times.

It is the fact that men will complain about doing the bare minimum but at the same time, they want a traditional woman. 2+2 is not equaling 4 like make it make sense.

1:27 That's the bare minimum when a woman is doing her side of the bargain as well. When women are sleeping with everything that moves that's going above and beyond. Your rolling your eyes is dismissing what we want people to do. Why the fuck should they do it if that's your response? And you just continue being a feminist. 'Women can use you and you should just take it because that's what I expect you to do.'

Being more feminine or masculine isn’t about being female or male. It’s not even about what freaking colors you like or if you like make-up or not - that’s what society created. Every human, man or woman, has feminine and masculine energy. Also being male or female isn’t a personality trait as some people like to treat it nowadays.

I understand that women being selective is a good thing, because it is otherwise they'd be at risk of being manipulated. But as a man the return on dating culture, and I hate to use the word as it's expecting something for being nice, which isn't how being nice should work, but I have no better way to describe it, is simply not worth it at all, the effort you need to put in these days just to be noticed is simply not worth it at all for even the best case scenario so I choose not to partake in it at all.

I'm so glad you included a video of ezra butler because im fed up of her influencing kids to change their gender and start hormone blockers, etc

"Crazy makeup", for sure! Even deeper than the paint.

Man I’m glad I fell in love with my husband before all this crazy shit happened lol

For the first time I disagree with some Misha points in this video the main one being paying for dates. Personally with equality comes financial stability for both genders/sexes and if that is truly something that society strives for then the old traditions of when women were more oppressed have to be less prevalent in todays western culture. I took my current girlfriend to the park for our first date and then costa for our second. Cost effective 🤣🤣At the end of the Misha is a very young intelligent women but her worldview/perspective will never fully represent what young men go through on the dating market and vice verse because I'm never going to truly know what women go through on the dating market as well

حال سكان الغرب وصل لمنطقة أعمق من الحضيض الاخت هذي الي عليها عشرين الف ثغرة بافكارها هي أعقل مخلوق ممكن تشوفه بالغرب وتعتبر مكروهة عندهم عجيب والله 😭😭😭

I think it has more to do with women not adhering to their traditional gender norms but men still being expected to adhere to theirs.

They can have fun being feminine, I'll live my life happy as a "toxic male"

Nowadays I am DEFINITELY not paying for first dates, luckily I am not in the dating game anymore and I have an amazing woman, but damn I feel bad for men in the dating game nowadays, I saw a video just the other day about woman who didn't have to buy herself dinner for a year buy playing on dating apps and having a new date every night.

Women who tell men to show their emotions more, and act like they're masters of emotions are not only irritating, but incorrect. You don't go to a piano and hammer notes indiscriminantly and say you're a master pianist. It's much more important to identify, talk about and be able to explain your emotions. That also helps with, wouldn't ya know it, knowing when and when not to let them show.

He wasn't complaining about what's expected of him. He was just expressing that A LOT is expected of him, whereas women think they just need to "show up and be themselves". I can see how that can be exhausting and deflating when you're not getting anything in return.

Good thing there is a growing trend of actual men preserving masculinity in this country. As with history past, the weak will get weeded out, and the strong will persevere.

Thank you for your sanity, ma'am. Men still exist....even in this country...

"being a man" includes the negative problems that comes with it, same thing with women having their own set of problems

I hated myself growing up, I hated being a man, I hated that men were perceived as the problem, and I hated being considered a part of that group. Enough said. I've had enough of this shit and I'm done. I will not be villified for what I am. I am who I am, not what I am.

How the hell does that creature at the beginning wipes his "yes" his arse?

Great video, Misha! For anyone interested in this topic - The Authentic Observer also made great videos about masculinity and femininity 😊

Yes, men are more logical and less emotional 😭

The worlds just diff now Social media and all this bs Ruined relationships and more

0:09 Wolverine from Walmart 💀

The idea that men are more logical than women is a harmful stereotype. Differences in reasoning and decision-making are more likely to be influenced by individual experiences, education, and cultural factors rather than gender. Men and women are both emotional in different ways. The difference in emotional expression between men and women may be due to cultural and societal expectations. Men are often socialized to express anger or frustration, while women may be socialized to express sadness or vulnerability.

Why do we even allow men and women to go to a medical facility where the people there have sworn an oath to supposedly "never do harm" and get top or bottom surgery? Removing a body part from someone (even with their consent) is still doing harm to their body and shouldn't even be considered (unless they have cancer or something). I don't understand how people can come to the conclusion that they want their penis or breasts removed and think they are completely fine in the head.

1. ''putting down other men'' is unavoidable between men, I know that this may sound "Toxic" but unless you are a man you wont understand it, there is no fair competition between men ( all life is unfair) you need to strive to become the best at a every aspect of life to get what every men other men want, I would say that competition between men today is so intense that it has never been before because of how valuable the prize is !! 2. I cant buy the idea that toxic masculinity, if it even exist, is a reason why suicide rates among men are so high! I would argue the opposite! we are living in an age were men are weaker than ever before, and if they had that level of masculinity, they would never give up their lives! a masculine man is far from committing suicide because he want to live the best life possible and accepts the "unfair competition " between men and strives to be a winner, he never gives up, he will never kill himself

I totally agree with you about identity. Clothing style and make-up has absolutely nothing to do with gender identity. A different clothing style does not make you trans nor gay! I am a man, happily married (to a woman) and have two lovely children. I like to wear skirts and feminine sweaters and blouses and occasionally paint my nails. Purely and only because I just like that style much better. And not because I want attention! But nevertheless I am and remain a man and then not the ′′ stereo ′′ macho type who walks with the herd like a sheep because he wants to belong somewhere and has to prove himself every time through ′′ exaggerated ′′ toxic rooster behavior 😊 Deviating clothing style should not be a reason for a gender change and or transition!

I'm glad you also brought up the women trying to be unique and the same with men. I'm down with tomboy thus women who dress in clothes. I don't mind the whole breaking the gender stereotypes where it's okay for a woman to dressing guy clothes and like things men typically and predominantly like, same with there being feminine guys doing some female dressing. I only wear a granny sweater. That's as far as I'm going with cross dressing and some would probably assume my makeup is for the whole trying to look like a chick thing....no, it's for my Alternative style and music taste as I have stated in one of your previous videos, but anyway, with the whole thing of women dressing and liking things that are predominantly for men is fine same with men liking some girly stuff and dressing girly, that's fine, but this woke crowd that's obsessed with labels have really killed the purpose of breaking gender stereotypes and individuality. These crackheads claim to be against gender stereotypes, but lack awareness of their contradictory by contributing to the problem where the see a tomboy, they assume she's trans and tells her she's trans and insist she gets surgery and pump hormones into her to become a man or say she's nonbinary and must go by they them, when she should just be a woman and be allowed to like what guys like and still be a woman, just because she likes things men like and wear what men wear doesn't mean she should be trans or be nonbinary. Then pull the same crap on men as well. These are the same people THE SAME PEOPLE who claim to be against gender stereotypes, but when the woman dresses like a man and enjoy what is predominantly enjoyed by men just being a tomboy, then she must turn into a man and then men who like female stuff must turn into women, breaking gender stereotypes huh...more like contributing to gender stereotypes right there. In other words, they do think that men must only like men stuff and women must only like women stuff. Yeah, they let themselves wide open on their contradictory there. Without fail, every time, they always trip over their own logics every single time and still continue to not use their brains. It's all because of these weirdos, they have killed off tomboys and feminine guys. We can't be unique individuals anymore.

What is the worst crisis we are currently facing?

Men don't have to listen to shit, no gender should control another, period. I don't get why people feel the need to erase masculinity. These people think masculinity is toxic, because maybe they had bad experiences by some in their personal lives? I mean you can't just say it's all masculine. I'd call that masculine individual specifically a bully. The bully picks on the weak who can't fight back, because they aren't tough enough and so the bully fucks with him for that, that's a coward right there. If we weakened masculine folks, specifically men....we'd have a very weak military, very weak fire fighters, very weak cops, etc. Certain careers and lifestyles require strength.

I think that this tradition of man paying the bill on a date is way outdated, not culturally but in practice. In todays world both parents work becouse one person income is not enough. In the past paying for a bill was mans way of showing they can provide, but in todays world its equally important for woman to be able to provide. Woman also need to signal their independence and maturity. I belive that splitting the bill is sign of maturity and capability to sustain and take responsibility for family

I refuse to ever go to a therapist, not because I don't think masculine men can't see a therapist. I refuse to because I don't trust the integrity of the therapy industry. If I can't trust therapists to not encourage kids to mutilate themselves, how can I trust them to be able to help me if I had any mental problems?

Jesus Christ was the ultimate real man.

I was never confused.

This makes me miss the days of 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.'

Non of them can protect anybody, even themselves

Don't know if the individual at the beginning was parody or serious, but I've gotten the broad strokes of that lecture from women who were being serious.

Yup that always gets your point across Throwing a tantrum like a 5 year old Like we are going to listen to you There blue shirt guy

Stuff like this is the reason I am so glad I wasn't born in the US. I'm so proud of where I'm from.

The guy was simply saying that he's doing a lot and not getting out of it what he wanted.

There is unending amounts of illogical men and women and many men and women who can think and can be considered logical.

a few years from now when men are completely gone from managing positions, you are going to notice the big fall of society.

if you want to have a good laugh, press back at the very beginning of the video repeatedly

Misha, where's my sammich, damn it?!

I don't have the ability to think for my self. Errrr i am an mechanical engineer! Sure

We “women” says the guy! 😂

I think you missed the entire point in the very first part from that one dude. Hes talking about the OTHER expectations from women for men. You cannot deny that there are an INSANE amount of pressures, and expectations placed on men when it comes to dating. The holding the door open however is just.. common curtesy for men and women lol. However, it just comes down to some really old outdated traditions in which men are highly expected to do so many things and pay for dates becuse of how women in the past for many decades werent allowed to work etc, and didn't have their own money. Today we STILL have this dumb ideology even with women earning more than men, and even the same amount. This is something that needs to be looked at from a male perspective. Its not something that is easily recognized. Its even to the point that many men blindly just follow this from society. When you as a man question this or try to talk about it, we are called "broke" etc or we are looked down upon for being "weak". When in reality its just questioning something that doesn't even make any sense to uphold in current society. There are many things like this that are placed on both men and women, but its only being focused on for women to stop things from happening. In the end society cares significantly less about men.

0:16 Was partially waiting for Zyzz and the after dark music to come up. To comment on the video, men should not show their emotions about 95% of the time. We have made it difficult to find male only spaces and that is another reason why men are so depressed and suicidal. Men need advice from other men not from women. Men want to feel brotherhood and it is heathy for them to have that. Bring back male only spaces.

i agree with almost everything other than the "men are less emotional than women" and I do not want to come across as like a very radical feminist, chronically online person, multiple studies have been done on this, and the whole "women are more emotional" idea has been always brought up to disregard our actual emotions as women and have people, especially men in power speak over us and deem us "emotional" so that it seems as if we are not thinking rationally and logically. this is a product of toxic/fragile masculinity. Estrogen is not responsible for emotions, it is testosterone in our bodies that make us much more emotional, great video nonetheless

🗣The asian dude is right it is like defusing a bomb and the so called bare minimum is quite alot of shit for woman u will never see again after hearing all of that i see why dating is a burden to men FYI do that for a lady that u know aleast likes u not a blind date

We Love you! I’m living in a very feminine society, were i can discriminated against because I’m acting more masculine and have more masculine characteristics…. 😢

I am a guy with generally conservative social values and i actually particularly enjoy women with colorful hair, tattoos and piercings. I actually see them as feminine. It is a huge turn-on for me despite (or maybe it’s because) I have no body modifications myself. I don’t even wear jewelry unless you count a watch on my wrist. Of course, the girl has to be conventionally attractive to begin with, otherwise all those body modifications will make her look less like a piece of art and more like a circus clown.

It's not a woman's place to define masculinity.

Men and women are physically different from one another. Men are not "better" than women, and women are not "better" than men. Our differences compliment each other. We must respect our natural differences, and respect each other. Nothing can change our natural differences, and that's a very good thing. You can't change a lion into a bunny rabbit, no matter the delusion.

The male sexual abuse part is so real. I’ve had my female bosses do some pretty disgusting shit and I just have to stomach it.

Just watching the non-binary guy and the guy in the cowboy hat roll their eyes at each other is worth the time.

I always believe in not letting society tell people how to be masciline or feminine. Just be authentic and true to yourselves

I feel for that guy in the cowboy hat. I'm a woman who used to get sexually harassed at work on a near daily basis by my fellow employees and customers. It is genuinely taxing to constantly be analyzing your every move to avoid drawing unwanted attention to yourself. After the first time I was harassed, I started breaking dress code and leaving my shirt untucked to cover my butt and I stopped wearing a belt because I was afraid to be seen in form fitting clothes. I was a stocker and I learned to squat rather than bend over when reaching for things because a male coworker would always say something inappropriate to me when I did. I was leery about climbing ladders or lifting heavy objects because some of my coworkers took it as an opportunity to touch my backside while pretending to "help" me. Working in that kind of environment is extremely draining and uncomfortable. It is so disgusting that when a man reports sexual assault or harassment, it is not met with the same energy as when a woman reports the same experience. Wrong is wrong regardless of gender.

when people say men don't cry i laugh at them. i mean we're all a product of our experience, maybe someone has a father or father figure that beat the hell out of them when they were growing up.. it's pretty normal for everyone to show emotion there's no shame in crying or letting it out.

Todays society is extremely hard to navigate, in my opinion for everyone. Men always be told that they should show emotions, that they should not be masculine, that they should not do x, y, z. And when they do show emotions, they are shamed for it. When they are not masculine, they are shamed for it. There are women that are saying ”if he is not paying $300 on the first date, I will ghost him”. 1 big problem is that the extremes are always the one that are showing in media. Both traditional media and social media. It's the outrageous that gets clicks, comments, dislikes/likes so it gets pushed in the algorithm. While the logic more real content are just dissapearing. If a woman demands the guy pays $300 on the first date, that a coffee date or a walk in the park is not acceptable, if he doesn't pick you up in his brand new car he is a bum. What can men expect from women? Just to be clear. Men should not expect sex just because he paid alot of money. But can we expect that you are not inviting your friend to the date? Can we expect that you do not sit on your phone all date? Can we expect that you are polite and not ghost us the day after? Can we expect that you view us as a human being and not a walking atm? So all what men are seeing on social media today is you should be soft, but hard. You should be masculine, but not toxic masculine. You should be chivalrys, but if you are not enough we will just use you. And if I hold the door open for 1 woman, she can be offended because ”How dare you hold the door open for me? Don't you see me as a human that can open the door herself?” How can you navigate that? Then comes stories like Busta Rhymes recently. ”He reacted to much”? So a man is not allowed to react when a stranger grabs his butt? If the exact same thing had happened but swapped genders, the offender would get 5 years in prison? How is that even a topic? A man was SA-d in public, threw a drink in the persons face, and she is the victim(according to some. Most of the comments I've read about it says Busta reacted within reason)? In my opinion, what all men needs to learn. When you can be weak and when you need to be strong. It's a skill that you need to work up. ”ooh, a girl said a mean thing to me”. Chin up, be strong, be logical. Does it really matter? ”I feel lonely and like I have no one to talk to”. Come here, I'll listen without judgment. We also need to learn when to say man up and when to be a soft and understanding to each other. Because if you say man up to someone that really needs to talk. That can lead to very bad things. What is toxic masculinity? What is good masculinity? What is toxic feminity? What is good femininity? We need to start there, and actually be honest with each other. Because if you are saying that you want good masculinity and then only date men that are toxic. Then it is not mens fault, is it?

Ok. Whatever that hyper freak is going on about at the start is beyond me. The problem with the situation is simply that these feminists see ALL masculinity as "toxic." Someone should inform them that masculinity created the western world, eg, its brilliant inventions, government, medicine, pioneering spirit, etc.

And people wonder why I spend less time on the internet than before

I shaved my head for exactly that reason. My ex told me he would never date a bald woman. He wouldn't leave me alone. So I shaved my head. Now I am married with 2 lovely intelligent children, and I dye my hair crazy colors often, but I think that's a generational thing as I am a 90s baby

I've NEVER paid 150 for a date - if pizza ain't good enuf we ain't right for each other

Tate's popularity is a result of that famous pendulum swing feminists love to talk about. You know... the one that almost never swings back the other way.

"We woman".... Sir, do you know what you are?

It would have been nice if Vice had gotten a man on that panel.

I guess men aren't taught that they can be normal men and still be vulnerable. It's cool to be strong and protective, but still be able to cry and share their feelings with their loved ones.

Please Misha, never give up the great work you're doing. 👏

What sad world we are living in! Listening to these men and how you explain different scenarios makes me appreciate being older. My heart hurts for young people today so confused and chaotic. I personally think social media is making people brain dead and just being sheep following the trends. Just heartbreaking.

The same-sex attracted guy is spot on regarding how his lack of a father makes him look for men to fulfil that gap in his life and he is being totally honest. I respect that. I experienced the same thing when I was SSA.

We are still out here , but we have checked out. This isn’t a world we can or want to operate in. When men don’t want anything to do with you, we leave. Adult men don’t want drama, we don’t want to talk about it, or argue . We just leave . When presented with something so ridiculous and full of emotion , please don’t expect us to participate . We are busy providing for our family, being with like minded friends, and pursuing our interests.

Thank you for your videos. It's rare to see someone so young stand up and speak the truth.

The problem in my eyes started when we slowly normalized hyper sexualizing homosexuality. I think the new James Bond was the trojan horse, the last movies in the Daniel Craig series seemed a little off. I remember watching Ralph the movie maker review of one of them, he critiqued the intro song and it did seem really off. Fast forward into today, same dude who did that song literally created video vomit for any hetero or mild mannered person. It's just raw shock for attentions sake, but young people are most vulnerable to this form of stealth entertainment.

0:10 "We women" Long pink fingernails don't make you a woman bro

There's no such thing as "toxic masculinity." People can be all different kinds of toxic and it's not tied to what kind of chromosomes they have. If someone is being toxic, they're being toxic. Period.

First dude is not a woman wtf

"Oh NO... Fathers are NOT needed in the family" 🤨...I've always been secure in my identity. A LOT of that has to do with (being lucky enough in my life) having MASSCULINE role models to look up to. My rule in life passed down to me is to be the type of man that I would want my Mother, my Grandmothers, my Nieces, MY WIFE to encounter when they go out into the World... Stoic, grounded, confident, reliable, responsible, protective, helpful, mannered and cultured, humorous... and yes, at times aggressive and forceful if the situation calls for it. But with the preconceived notions MOST modern women have been brainwashed into having about men like me, WE are seen as the problem AND continuing cause of their perceived victimhood and issues.... You can't be a man these days. They won't LET YOU be one. And it starts as young as they can by treating males as 'defective girls' in our society.....

We women?? what?????????????????

Just found your channel so I'm binging. I have to tell you that you are definitely a "breath of fresh air" after all the usual lunatics we encounter on social media. You are young but so together and intelligent! I really enjoy your outlook on things. Keep up the great work!

I don't think that masculinity is dying, I just think that many people get caught up in their gender as if it were their complete identity. In my case, I am a woman, but I focus on the things that make up for my identity to feel like myself. So for example, I may not wear lots of jewelry and makeup but that doesn't make me any less of a woman because I my femininity in a way that is right for my identity. I don't know if i expressed correclty my point.

the whole male SA victims being ignored really sucks especially when there are videos of women talk about it as a joke or in extreme cases talking about it as an employer and saying he won't be listened to...