By the way this setting that goes all the way around is the most secure setting you can get!! And diamond and sapphire is a SUPERB choice for gems. Mohs scale 10 and 9!!!❤
Girl, get out of my head!!😂 You literally read my mind, "I was like, she doesn't like the cathedral style? OH because the one she got is even more secure!"
I will never get the whole "proposal should be a surprise" thing, it's a major decision, and even if the girl doesn't pick the ring, the proposal should be something of discussion and not a complete surprise.
I don’t actually know anyone who was completely surprised (and honestly I think anyone who says they were are lying). You HAVE to discuss marriage before the proposal, to propose without first discussing what you both want out of a potential marriage is recipe for disaster but also screams to me a lack of respect for the other person.
@@VisenyaAtoms same! it was a month discussion every morning in the car before he dropped me off to work and then after a month we decided to get married 😂
I’m so happy for you! Haters will be haters but the real ones will always be so grateful and excited that you’re getting to move on to the next big moment of your life!!! Ahhhhh
In my experience, a lot of women are jealous. They don't like their ring or singleness so their envious,that you get to pick out your own ring... At least that's what I went through with my x hating friends experience.
Actually wild that people are annoyed you knew 😂 Like some people want their significant other to really feel appreciated and incorporate them in the process, nothing wrong with that! Congratulations to you both!
Can’t we just support and be happy for people the ring is yours not anyone else’s the proposal was yours not any one else’s Chris is obvisously a special person who just wanted to plan and do it right with both of you making the commitment that you take seriously and you can tell ! There going to have lots to say about the wedding if this is already what’s happening Congrats glad you found your person to go through life with each other you can do anything !!!
I knew about my proposal, I helped pick the ring and I love it. My SIL didn't know about her proposal, didn't have any say in her ring REGARDLESS of the many hints her and her mom dropped, and ended up with a ring she really hates. It doesn't reflect her at all. I urged her to say something but she was too afraid of hurting her husband's feelings. She doesn't wear the ring anyway bc of work, but just a food for thought about people that don't like to know about their engagements.
That actually is the sweetest reasoning behind the choice of your engagement ring. But first, congratulations on your upcoming wedding and marriage. Secondly, you don't owe anyone an explanation as to why or how you knew about the engagement before he proposed. A couple should have multiple and numerous conversations about their future together and whether or what direction they see the relationship going. Meaning why be together just to say you've got someone. Be together because you are in love with one another and want to build a life with one another. That being said, I love the meaning behind the ring and it's setting. Wishing you and your fiancé a long, healthy, joyous and prosperous relationship and marriage.
I actually sent my husband different gemstones, cuts and settings I loved. In the end he was very close to my absolute dream but what made it more special is when he told me "it's a bit of you and me put together". That was the best.
I love this idea my current boyfriend’s birthstone is the green and want to customize my wedding ring. I want to incorporate it just in case anything happens it’s a constant reminder he is still with me. 💚
Honestly I’m so big on proposals not being fully surprises! It’s a huge life decision and it’s not one to be made under pressure. Not to mention you can choose a ring you’ll love forever rather than a one you’re just ok about and have to be polite about. That sounds like a nightmare tbh!
Honestly I’ve never heard of this concept before but those 2 stones are both beautiful on their own, let alone combined! Wonderful meaning behind it too. Congrats!
Engagements should be talked about beforehand. It’s a two party decision to make a lifelong commitment. The only thing that should come as a surprise is where and how.
Custom making my toi et moi ring now! It's a huge amount of money to spend on a ring that's not perfect! My partner also said he'd feel a lot of pressure to have to pick a design himself and preferred I have my say. It's been such good quality time to collaborate during the ring consultations with our custom jeweler! He ended up finding the whole gemstone education process fun 😌
The whole "getting engaged needs to be a surprise" is so interesting to me. The only thing that was a surprise to me was where my husband proposed. We had been seriously discussing marriage for a while before he proposed. I knew he was going to propose, I just didn't know where.
That is such a beautiful reason why. It's so cute. I'm sorry that you were made to feel lonely Monica But now you are with the right person. Congratulations on this journey
Congrats to you both! My husband and I shopped for my engagement ring together because he wanted to make sure it was something I loved. Mine is 3 square cut blue topaz with tiny diamonds. I liked the spiritual meaning of the stone and it reminded me of the ocean.(which I love)
I’ve always been very hopelessly romantic and dreamt about surprises but thinking about it, they can’t read our minds, so I would rather know what I’m getting instead of getting something I don’t like
Absolutely obsessed with the ring! That’s exactly the kind of thing I would go for. Big big congratulations to you both on the engagement. It’s so awesome seeing your exciting news 🎉❤
Girl....who's the one wearing the ring? YOU....not anyone else! Let them be annoyed! That ring is GORG & looks so beautiful sitting on YOUR finger, not your fans! Congratulations gorgeous one💚🤍
It’s gorgeous Monica and perfect for you 😍😍 I got engaged in November and I knew it was happening but I didn’t know when the proposal would be, how he’d propose or where. And I was still taken by surprise haha IMO the engagement itself should never be a complete surprise. It should be well discussed to ensure both people are on the same page about the future. The ring is such a big purchase that this should also be discussed. My hubby to be asked if I wanted to pick or if he should give me a shortlist of his favs or if he should just surprise and we could exchange it if required. - I let him surprise me while you picked yours out. Giving your partner the choice and having that talk is the safest and maturest way to handle these things.
Congratulations, Monica!! You are so amazing, kind, and thank you for being an amazing influencer. You have taught so many people and please don’t let the hate get to you. Your engagement ring is absolutely beautiful, and I love the meaning behind it. Congratulations again! Can’t wait to see everything for your wedding! Your makeup looks stunning (as always)! 💚
Jeweler here! Your ring is absolutely STUNNING! And the bezel setting is a great choice for longevity and security ❤ Also, to whoever was surprised that you knew about the engagement: Yeah. You’re supposed to know its coming. A proposal isn’t truly a surprise. That shit only happens in movies lol. You’re supposed to know its coming, or at least have talked about your intentions to marry. How and when the proposal can happen is where the surprise comes in. And picking out your ring definitely doesnt ‘ruin the surprise.’ You want the ring to be something you love and want to wear for the rest of your life ❤️
Couples knowing their engagement, arranging it and planning it is a very common thing in Indian culture. We don't get "surprise" proposals because it first needs to be family approved before getting official😂
Normal people plan to get engaged. It's just the actual engagement is the surprise. Which makes sense cuz you got the ring you like. Forget the upset people.
Personally I would love to be surprised by an engagement with a cheap ring and then customize my own ring. Your ring is grogeous and I am so happy for you!!!🩷🩷🩷
i would think it would be best for the engagement to be something that’s agreed upon, because it would suck to do all this preparation just to be told no.
OMG I literally commented on your engagement post asking if it was marrow fine!!! I’m so thrilled for you and I guess I browse their website a lil too much😂❤
I let my partner know I was going to propose if he wanted to “beat me to it” haha and he ended up proposing to me first the night I was going to. It felt good knowing it was coming and knowing he would say yes. ❤
That’s so sweet🥹 I find it so embarrassing when people hate on others for being happy lol. Like why are you so concerned about another person’s life/choices💀💀
When I first saw this randomly pop up on my feed I was like ew, I hated it. But I watched the whole video and the meaning behind it and it's actually really cute.
Traditionally a woman knows she is getting proposed 🙄. There is always a full decision. The surprise part is when and how it is executed. DUH! So many ppl be on some delulu shiiiiit! Your wedding, your husband, engagement, your life. Not theirs.
Hahaha I don't understand why people saying this if this is engagement, according to Indian wedding and all everyone knows about the engagement before it to prepare and all so it's cool and normal as. She is saying again and again it's engagement not a proposal by her husband so chill out.
Its crazy ppl are getting pissy about you knowing about the engagement. Especially now a days this is pretty common. Ive seen like 5 content creators in the last like 3 months going through this same process. Ppl just wanna be mad for no reason.
I will never understand the western tradition of a surprise marriage proposal and wedding ring. In my culture, the marriage is thoroughly thought of with anticipation and if they both want to get married, the woman gets to choose the ring she wants to wear, in the man's budget.
i thought it was pretty common to discuss or decide on marriage before proposing. at lest to me, it makes more sense than springing a proposal on someone and not knowing if they want to be married
Exactly! And as far as the ring goes, you have to wear that everyday for the rest of your life. It shouldn’t be a total surprise, what if you hate it? Even if you don’t design it yourself your partner should at the very least be made aware of what you like or want in a ring.
well usually when someone proposes or is proposed to they already know they want to get married. but the person being proposed to shouldn’t be knowing when they are being proposed to UNLESS they both decided to plan it together which is what she did. idk tho to me the whole point is for it to be a surprise
I've never been a huge fan of surprises- and to me, planning a lovely engagement and wedding is also something I'm really excited and passionate about. I think it's actually quite smart to communicate and know ahead of time; you also still left a bit of the surprise aspect to it anyways!
I don’t understand why people are obsessed with the idea that a proposal Has to be a surprise. It makes more sense to me to discuss it with your partner prior. That way you are able to get the ring you wanted and be in agreement with your partner.
It just gives me over-bearing bridezilla vibes. To want to control even tge engagement ring, which is basically a gift from your future life partner. The "I don't trust him to make a decision about an accessory" doesn't seem like the right vibe to start a partnership.
@@golnarebrahimi1985 I love my partner very much, but I absolutely wouldn't trust that he would choose the perfect ring for me. I gave him 3 options and he chose one of them. There was still a small element of surprise, but it didn't end in me getting a ring that is completely wrong color, size, style etc.
@@golnarebrahimi1985 it doesnt necessarily mean distrust tho?? it can be "i want the ring to be something i like because its going to be something i wear as a symbol of our union, might as well love it" it depends on couples i guess but if both are okay with discussing the ring choice, the person paying for it is gonna be fine with paying for a ring their lover loves
No bc I worked in the jewelry industry for 9 years and think it’s amazing when women pick out their own rings. Some guys have zero clue and a) appreciate their partner’s input to take the guesswork out of a forever symbol and b) have um questionable taste when they do pick the ring themselves. I think it’s modern and even practical. You created a stunning ring and love the unique stone choice of green sapphire and both stone shapes. Unique and stunning just like you ❤ Congratulations on the engagement and many blessing to you and your partner
