Meet up on Your First Date...somewhere other than a Restaurant....Like a Beach walk, Cycle ride, fun fair or Picnic... That way you get to know a person first and not Expect anything from it other than " Do you want to meet Again " ..that's my advice
Depends though. If each child is from some other dude then yeah. If she’s just 30 and had a husband since 20 or something who she made babies with, nothing to do about.
No what people need to do is stop inviting people on dates if they can't afford to pay for yourself and your date... But it's not the case in this show cause it basically blind date so the women should offer to pay their part.
If he has 10 kids and can't afford a posh place. Don't go out to posh places if you have 10 mouths to feed. She didn't live above her means. But yeah maybe she could of offered something. But he was a rubbish date.
The problem with the first guy is you should discuss it before you pick it up. The fact he grabbed it so fast made it look like he wanted to pay. That's why she was so suprised when he said he wanted to split it.
CJ Kismet A second comment about him that I disagree with...I don’t think there’s any rule that says that if you pick up the bill you’re going to pay for it. What should he have done? Agreed to pick it up at the same time as her? If I were him, the second she made such a fuss about having to pay towards the meal would have been the second I lost any interest.
I think when he saw the bill he realised he couldn't afford the full price. Did you not see the shock on his face. Maybe it was just me. In saying that, I'd rather pay half so I I wouldn't feel indebted to the other. I remember having to go on a second date so I could pay even though I knew I didn't like the guy 🤣🤣
The problem with the first woman she didn't even bother to pick it up and expected him to pay for her. Perhaps she should behave like a grown woman and pay for her own things?
@@mitchellbrough1615 Bill was around £80 since the waiter said it was about 40 each if they were splitting. Still, 80-100 is not an expensive dinner for two in a high end London restaurant. Plenty of places have 100-150 set menu per person, exclusing drinks. I'm not trying to come off as a snob, since I'm not but anybody that expects to pay a bill or at least part of ot should know roughly the amount before even seeing the bill. Menus have prices for this very reason. I've worled in restaurants for many years, the amount of people that have that 'shocked expression when looking over their bill is baffling. Never understood it.
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I think they should pay for their dinners but I think they know it makes for more entertaining TV when they see the reactions which in turn equates to more people watching
I agree. If I've been asked out and know I can't afford a big meal but rather just a simple coffee and cake, I tell them. I prefer to pay my own way on first dates and take turns paying for bits n pieces if you choose to meet up after that.
@@purehyperbole5727 oh spare us. People who can't afford an expensive date simply find other ways to have fun. This almost looks like the show sucks them in then pushes them under all for ratings.
That one was hilarious. She was so obviously prodding him, going, it's good to get your self things and treat yourself and all of that. She actually took a sip of her drink in relief when he paid 😂😂😂 she already knew it wasn't going to go anywhere after he said he had ten kids (!) So she doesn't care what he thinks of her.
@@red36100 yep , when I was dating years ago I lost count of how many inventive ways they found to get out of contributing, the favorite was going to the toilet when we were ready to leave, followed by " oh I forgot my purse", and the old perenial halfheartedly asking if you'd like some cash instead of just saying she'll get the drinks or go halves. Don't mind paying the majority but at least you feel valued if they at least offer to pay the drinks or something.
@@rickysrun6413 what wait to tell them so it becomes even more of a problem when you do because their might be feelings involved and you've hidden it? Nope not a good idea. Honesty is the best policy
@@truthmagpie I never said to lie. I just said don’t open up deep on the 1st date. It also depends on what you want. If you’re looking for an actual relationship, I still think letting out your life story is just weird, especially on the first date. 1st dates are suppose to be a “get to know you a little” experience + good time. If you’re already coming out on the 1st date with your kids and everything else, good luck getting a 2nd date. If you’re only there to smash, then you better keep your mouth closed and just have a good time.
Well he dodged a bullet. She ended up cheating on her husband in another show. They should have paired her up with one of the other guys who didn’t want to pay for their dates. Would have enjoyed her.
@@SummeRain783 Cheating on her husband? wtf she doing on a dating show? Also she seemed sweet for being so attractive, knew she was too good to be true
@@jaymcd8577 yes she went on another show, got married then cheated. Not sure what you mean though by “too sweet for an attractive girl”? Lol. Sorry just have to call that out. Attractive people can be sweet as much as less attractive people can have horrid personality. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover either way. No one is ever “too good to be true” then lol.
yes but theres not any easy way of saying you have kids but just to slide it in during the first time of meeting..It not like they had multiple meetings beforehand... you do realise these are strangers having a first proper conversation with each other, to see if they are a match?
@@shariqsonindahouse9663 Yes, but it's strange when some of them say it along with other less significant aspects of their life as though it's a trivial thing, like having a pet hamster or playing squash on Saturdays.
@@andrewjones575 They tryna ease it in, cuz honestly it's not easy telling someone you have kids, saying it like it's no big deal makes it seems like you are proud of ya children to just talk about them but I get ya point
It’s hella hard to date when you have kids. It just changes the dynamics. First couple on show the chemistry went bad the moment she said she had 5 kids. She’s experienced that multiple times guaranteed, and it sucks when you want to date but you chose to have 5 kids (maybe she was divorced and has 5 kids from it- having been a well meaning wife and mother to have her world completely change- in this case all the rejection by dates wouldn’t really be her fault).
@@hc7092 lmao of course you do. .Who doesn't like having their bills paid? Who doesn't like free money? The point is times have changed. It's about time expectations should as well. 50/50 should be expected. Were/are you fighting against the feminists to keep traditional gender roles and customs?
@@hc7092 you do absolutely nothing to call out modern degeneration of women, therefore we presume you are all the same , you also all switch lanes depending on the double standards at hand .
Can't believe these idiots and complete cheap skates looking at the bill like that.... How embarrassing.... Be a bloody man and pay for the meal 🍴 ffsake!!! Where have all the gentlemen gone!!???
@@thewendigo9263 you are a piece of 💩 who obviously counts every last cent.... You weren't raised to be A GENTLEMAN no? 🤔 You were raised to be a cheapskate... Its okay, its not you're fault... Don't cry. Like you would over a dropped dollar bill 🤣🤣🤣
The last clip made me so angry. If somebody offers to pay for your meal, great, but the absolute cheek expect it. Pay your way or stay the fuck at home.
The guy was being so rude. His eyes were flipping all over the place but he didn't even ask any questions about her. Good for her for not giving this guy any money for the bill! That looked painful for her and she was very charming
£80 for a meal for 2 isn’t that bad in a fine restaurant, I’d happily pay that. The Australian woman who treated the man, I salute you. And I hope this happens at least once in my lifetime.
@@marcofromtropoja4035 Not just that. If you are considering her relationship material it's a good test too. If you just wanna fuck, going to dinner dates is kind of stupid anyway.
@@Justtobe7 alright so the girl should stay at home, clean the clothes, make him food when he wants and mind all the kids. If she’s living in these older times she also has to give her seat up for a man. I don’t care what times you grew up in, things evolve and change. If she wants men to treat women like they did of old, then women should be treated of old aswell
The chick who paid the bill! Loved it! Seemed as if she was gonna order the whole menu and have him pay! Power to ya girl--he should not have felt emasculated in the slightest! But that last lady was an absolute cow for not offering to go halfs when the bloke had 10 kids. Last thing he needs is an 11th mouth to feed.
Maybe the tv told them the tv will pay it , so they have the content for the tv program. As some say the tv shows use some tactics, in Bachelor tv show they gave people alcohol or deprived them from sleep to look more upset etc.
Jesus, that last guy had 10kids. I'd pay for the food wth, why isn't she even offering half half. Making him feel guilty is a crappy thing to do woman. Shame on you
@@RS-xv5qi She could of atleast paid for her meal... its not like he was expecting her to pay for his meal cuz of his 10 kids. She should of known better.
Can't agree 🤷♀️ He made the choice to go out to fancy restaurant for a date. He had to know it be expensive and that he might have to pay for all of it. I mean he knows he has 10 kids 🤔so wouldn't he know this would be expensive.
When I use to go on dates with guys& half way through the evening realised they aren’t the one for me, I paid the bill. Mainly because i didn’t want them to turn around and say “ you owe me XYZ because I took you out and paid for the evening”.
Yes! But I would always suggest going for coffee on the 1st date and insisted on buying my own cup of Joe. By the end of the date, if you wanted to see the person again, great... but if not, neither one of us invested too much so it was a win win.
OMG that's just weird lol. I can imagine how frustrating it would be to go on a date and it suck, but get over it. How do you call up your date and demand a refund? If you're that poor, stay the fuck home.
@@simonaminova2289 Yea I don't see her as marriage material. She seems fun to hang out with but not to be in a serious relationship. I would've had fun at the date but wouldn't see any potential with her because she displayed manipulative characteristics
@@Ofenomeno94 I don’t know if it’s this guy but she’s married now to someone from overseas who looks really similar and they just had a baby, she copped a lot shit for mafs which rightly so but 🤷🏼♀️ people can change..
@@annacatherine6690 she married a beta provider for the cash and will divorce his ass and take half his money the second someone better comes along. She didn’t change - she just got older and can’t get the alphas anymore like she could in her youth. She simply settled with the guy for money and security.
If the last guy knew it would be a struggle to pay the bill, he should of just said I’m sorry but I don’t think I can afford this alone, so you mind chipping in? Sorted! 🙄
Or she says okay ill pay my half... that seems alot more sensible than him having to explain what he can and can't afford to pay for something she should pay for.....
@@ibrarmfaiz Yeah I get where your coming from, but it’s like trying to talk without talking. At some point they have to be straightforward and say “Split it?” Or whatever they want to do.. But you can’t read minds..
@@Freya12 This is a poor comparison but even still it proves my point. The comparison here would be if the woman expects the man to hold it open for them, as is the case here, and then for people to be shocked because a man didnt open it for her when she would never open it for him. See how ridiculous it is?
Felt for the chick who can't have people pay for her. I used to get in trouble as a kid if people bought me things and it took a really really long time to try and stop the feelings of anxiety when people offered to pay for me, even as an adult
@@kayabarlow5623 It does that, yes. My question is why it's considered by millions of people to be a romantic setting. I find that being interrupted by staff & the noise from the other people talking, eating, entering & leaving is annoying & puts a dampener on things.
Couldn't think of anything more I'd like to spend my money on... God bless you mate. Hope your kids cherish you when they grow older. You seem a great dad.
He shouldn;t have had ten kids. Clearly the man can't afford to even take awomen out. How is he paying for 10 children? Moreover, if you can't afford kids you shouldnt have them - specially 10 of them. Period!
@@cu99460 He can have as many "kids" as he wants. Take a woman out? Why would he want to spend money on a strange woman on a blind date? She can pay for her own meals. Too many broke, dusty women trying to get a free meal out of men.
@@hislord1 too many broke man with multiple kids and baby mommas trying to get into women’s pants and don’t even have the money or want to pay for a meal on the first date. If you can’t afford it don’t date simple as that. If he wants to pay for his kids he should have stayed home with them and not go on a date.
Seeing the second girl feel weird about guys buying things like dinner makes me feel better I thought I was the only one as a girl I feel so weird when a guy pays for me because I feel like I owe them something Update: thanks for the likes I am glad I'm not alone but to those who think I don't deserve to be treated, sounds like you don't know your own worth
Yeah @Parxdise, and some weirdo blokes might be expecting something tbh. Refreshing to see a woman pay for dinner though, I mean we're all equal innit!
I felt bad for the last guy. The lady should of at least paid half. She knew he has 10kids and was struggling.. It shameful to go on a date and expect the other to pay for everything.
I felt bad for the woman... A guy with 10 kids should sort himself out before going on a date and complaining about spending money for a date. Stay at home with your 10 kids if you can't afford to pay for your date. If the woman was the one with the 10 Kids, she would have been crucified.
@@VinoBlanco88the guy checked it first then said to split. And paid some in cash some on card. Bro like you know you’re going to be on TV, come a little prepared at least 😂
The lady in the end left to the restroom in order to avoid paying for the bill😂 She knew what she was doing … she avoided eye contact until he paid for the bill thereafter .
@W 9797 i paid up as she was very aggressive. .screamed that I was no gentleman to let a lady pay even a penny. I admire men who stick to their guns and check the bill and say.. here is £22.35 MY SHARE. I wanted to avoid her sharp tongue so I paid for all............. so she had a free meal and £25. She was totally unsuitable for me. Aged 75. looked 95. acted 17. I was told that there were 36 episodes made in total. 6 have been seen... my episode is in November....
That last woman was being so manipulative. Trying to convince him how good it was for HIM to be out and for HIM to he good to himself so he would pay the bill.
I'm a girl and I always offer to pay when I go out on a date. Based on my experience, for the first few dates, the guy will always pay, even if I offer.
@@jeremyweekes2126 no you are saying that. That is not what I am saying. I offer to pay because I can pay. But there are men who wants to pay even if I offer.
I’m a woman and I always insist on paying for my own food. If the guy offers to pay, that’s lovely but I make sure to get his next meal so it’s fair. I don’t feel entitled to a meal if the dates goes well.
As a 36 year old man who knows better, I always give the bill to my date on the first date. If she insists I pay half I will pay half but if not shes paying the bill. And no I don't feel the least bit bad about it haha.
That last lady actually pissed me off!! Like at the end shes like Ahh thank you.. she knew what she was doing. If I was him i would have asked her if shes paying or going half with me
The guy with 10 kids should take her out for coffee not to the restaurant if he could not afford it. This way he could get to know her and she could get to know him too because not every woman wants to be a stepmother to 10 kids it's quite overwhelming. I don't understand why he got 10 kids if he can not afford them ? He's too cheap to get a condoms or get procedure to not to have anymore kids? It makes me think he thinks the wife is like a baby machine and he sperm is like a gold and can not get wast. That lady was smart she was not interested to be a free slave to him and his children.
I remember my ex and I would most often take turns paying the bill, we both worked so could afford it, both contributed to rent, bills, food etc, both enjoyed each others company (at the time lol). When we first met I was asking her out and so picked up a lot of the initial bills, but she always offered. Then once we we'd been dating a while she mentioned she didn't actually like or expect me to pay every time and so we agreed every now and again that she'd pick up the bill. I saw no problem with it, she was happier and it was nice to be treated. There was one time in a café that she paid and the waiter said "no, no he pays the bill." I laughed it off but she went mad at him...we didn't go back there lol
@@amico141 In this regard, yes, she was very fair. However, as I'm sure you understand, there is a lot more that goes into a relationship and it ultimately didn't work out. It happens.
Why do many women think that they're entitled to eat & drink for free & that men are obliged to pay for everything? In this series, they can't even use the excuse that he should pay because he asked for the date, because the show set them up together. In any case, that's ridiculous because very few men ever have the option of being asked on dates by women because most women never ask a man on a date.
@@denzel1989 She's tight if she won't pay for her own food & drink. To expect to eat & drink for free, stay in hotels for free, go on holiday for free, be showered with expensive gifts etc. is ridiculously arrogant gold-digging. It's bizarre that many self-proclaimed proud feminists don't want equality on dates.
@@lukeffrench469 He says that before he realises it's the bill. She then gives him looks to show that she's horrified at his suggestion to pay half each - making him feel guilty for not automatically paying for her food & drink.
The thing I hate are these passive aggressive bitches that will actually ask you to ask them out. I'm like bitch be passive or be aggressive. CHOOSE ONE!
@Peter Phillips The problem with that is that on every occasion in which I've mentioned beforehand that we'll be paying half each, she has refused to go on a date with me.
Hahahaha yesss girl!!! That's my girl!! You go queen!! 👌🏻👌🏻❤❤ I'm traditional too!! And my boyfriend would never let me pay either!! This is why I will accept when he pops the question!!!
@@ZackSilver77 the fact that you’re asking me shows me you have no clue what I’m talking about. Serving in the armed forces doesn’t mean you’re actually mature. Emotionally mature. I am a veteran so I know most people under 30 in the military are not ready to settle down. Either way, you’re still getting on your feet and figuring things out in life. And that’s ok.
@@eletree3 penis=male not necessarily "man". You can have a 30 yr old penie and still act like a 3 yr old. Not referring to this vid, just responding to your comment.
One thing I find so hypocritical nowadays, is that women expect so many things from men (like paying for a date) just because they are men. But if a man ever does even one example of the reverse, he is called sexist and hated.
@@chamboyette853 maybe you just try to date the wrong type of partner for you. Lol it’s pretty easy to ask “how should we do the bill” BEFORE you go on a date with a stranger. Use your balls (or ovaries) and ask the uncomfortable questions.
@@maybelikealittlebit So by expecting the man to "have balls" to ask the uncomfortable question just because he is a man is like expecting an adult, if the adult is with a child, to take control of the situation because they are an adult. Sounds quite degrading for women with such a low bar.
@@chamboyette853 women have balls too. They’re called ovaries and they’re inside us which makes women so strong. Use whatever balls you have AND COMMUNICATE. That’s why you’re probably single and unhappy, you suck and have no clue how to communicate. Again, I pity you.
@@chamboyette853 don’t be a dense idiot and lose the plot when my main comment was USE YOUR WORDS. No wonder you have bad luck dating. Communication is the real failure in most relationships, first dates or marriage. If you can’t communicate, be alone Chamboyette853.
The way she was so spontaneous, warm and accommodating on a first date and paid for dinner saying he deserved to be treated nicely too I would have melted 100%.
Yeah she was on married at first sighht and was part of a cheating scandal,she was all to happy for it, so she was on here for the publicity, not so nice i recon
Larry MacMillan the comments here are so weird. Everyone’s criticising women for being unwilling to pay then she actually insists on paying and you’ve got a problem with it?
@@sarahelizabeth2359 No , actually My run comment had Nothing to do about Her paying obviously. Who would get mad that someone wants to buy Dinner. My Comment had to do with Something else. I hope this satisfies your curiosity!
@@sarahelizabeth2359 men in a nutshell really. when she doesn't pay - shes a golddigger. when she refuses to let him pay - shes a feminist. and then men have the audacity to say women are the ones who are indecisive.
When I would take a girl out on a date, I would go to the bathroom before the check would come and before I would hand the waiter, my debit card. Ask her to ring it up grab my card when I was done then go sit down. Once we were all done, I would ask if she was ready and usually the bill would come up and I would just say it’s already taken care of no awkwardness of paying the bill. Nothing like that get it out the way.
I think someone should always show up ready to split the bill!! With ONE exception. You order one thing and your date orders an atrocious amount of food. Then the date MUST PAY.
The first guy, I felt that due to experience. Since 18 months ago, I'm back in my own home, with my kid(now 6) after his mom left for Canada. Wouldnt change a damn thing about it either.
Why does men have to pay for women??? You are so stupid and not that bright obviously. Who are we women to expect the men should pay, it's disgusting behaviour.
