They absolutely have zero conscience. Once you've met one,youll never forget it. Its soul shattering to think that they actually tried to kill or ruin your life. Sick evil people.
Now imagine that it's your own aunt and she's trained her daughters to be the same way from birth, and they've spread the hatred of you through the whole Family. (Upper or lower case F. Both apply.)
Yes, after 20+ yrs of emotional torture, then came the death threats and statements indicating she's a serial killer. Since I've gone no contact, I've finally realized I'm a good person. Better than the narcissist, for sure. Dangerous ppl. Bad leaders too.
@@jumpinjohnnyruss Now imagine growing up with one. Those cold and dead eyes. His sadistic pleasure in causing emotional turmoil. The long on eggshell years I had to live through.
Too right about them getting super angry. The punishment never fits the crime. There's a sadistic pleasure mixed with getting off on the anger. They love being angry, but blame you for triggering them.
yes, I dated one who thought I spilled his nut mix on his keyboard (it was the cat) and as punishment he calmly walked up to me, held my heirloom $3k Italian marble antique cherub in his hand (20" tall and wide) & let it crash on the stone floor. I felt like I was in a horror film. It was absolutely surreal - the blank look in his eye, my having no idea what was happening. I tried to rush out of the room and he slammed the door on my hands and threw me against a cabinet. I was absolutely gobsmacked. He was a charming church going good ole boy on the outside but he was eventually incarcerated for child porn and molesting his step sons.
It's difficult to imagine sociopathy without narcissism. The massive sense of entitlement and complete void of empathy. There is redundancy with malignant narcissist, narcissistic sociopath etc.
It would be great if you could do a video on the FEMALE narcissistic sociopath, which are quite distinct from males. It doesn't seem like females are touched on very often. Videos are often geared toward talking about men. The female sociopath is quite different to males. I'm talking about the women who are incredibly superficially charming - this is what many people don't get because often in these videos it is said that sociopaths are anti-social or show no regard for others, but when dealing with the cunning female sociopath, she will throw on the charm as thick as she possibly can and make others think that she is the most charming, sweet, amazing person in the entire world, but everything about her is fake. She pretends to be oh so wonderful, and collects information on you, only to stick a dagger in your back when you least expect it. There is very little out there about the female sociopath - who craves control and is sly and cunning, she is out to destroy lives with a smile on her face. She can be beautiful and pretends to have a heart, she has so many people fooled. It can take 10 years or longer to figure out the lies that she has hidden. It would be nice if someone could put together a video on the evil of the female sociopath and how she destroys anything and everything around her if you do not worship her or play her games. It might help others discover the truth about her sooner.
Hey, your comment has an amazing information! Your advice to know and play her games in a smart way is very good. Do you know how we can beat people like her and which are her weaknesses?
It sounds like you should do a video. This really is a lot of good information. They are extremely hard to catch and well hidden behind their false, pure intentions act.
Yeah, their shallow minds can't deal with the fogginess of an indistinct social hierarchy that most people don't have much trouble with. It causes them great distress to wonder even for a moment whether they're really at the top.
Absolutely. I’m a very private and reserved person around most people, though I’m open and fully expressed with my close friends (because they’ve earned my trust). Recently, two of my coworkers, a narcissist and a sociopath hacked my personal phone and poured through all of my personal information and data, including my family and friends. I can’t even begin to describe the anguish, emotional pain, and violation I feel…especially as an introvert who regards her privacy as sacred. They hacked my phone because they wanted information and control. They want me to be compliant and obedient, but here’s the thing: I don’t care if they spread gossip and begin rumors, I don’t care about what they think or say. I DO care about what is right and just, and my ace in the whole is having proof of their illegal activity, and then proceeding to take legal action against their immoral activities. Gossiping and rumors don’t hold a flame to the truth…and when the truth comes out, the gossiping and rumors will then retrograde into known, VERIFIABLE truth about THEM.
Whoever feeds of negative energy - drama, chaos and pain of other people’s which they create are simply evil people and we should protect ourselves from them. Thank you.
You have described my mother over and over again in your videos! Thank you so much for helping this 64 year old have some clarity after so many years of pain and frustration.
My ex is definitely the Malignant variety...I've been fighting him in court for going on 3 years...in a case that is based upon lies. It's truly amazing what these idiots do and what they get away with
Wasting money, walk away this is what they enjoy. Don't react to him again. Stop it completely and he will go because there will be nothing for him in your relationship anymore.
@@margaretmac50 If this court case didn't involve our 6 yr old daughter whom he has tried to alienate me from, I would wipe my hands of the moron. However, I will do what it takes to protect my daughter.
Idem. they take great pleasure when they drag things out in court. It gives them power over your actions for years, they cause you financial problems and stress and this fills their empty lives. They have no remorse about building cases on full-blasted lies and they are so good at the lying game that they can charm even the court into believing them. I am in the same boat. Keep safe.
When their not in control- they go out of control very easily. Been there, seen it … best advice I can give is to walk out, enforce your boundaries & go no contact if at all possible.
Sounds like my sister. She would laugh and look happy when attacking me or others. She’s an Evil narcissist who I showed to her face what she was, walked away and will never return.
My father and one of my brothers. There’s never a clean break due to the family network which is the main conduit for abuse and manipulation, especially via family events such as funerals, weddings, emergencies.
Your videos have been incredibly informative and useful. This one in particular sounds like you are describing to a T someone from the ex-Jehovahs-Witness community. They are incredibly thin-skinned, have bullied and driven away many other voices in the community, and claim they advocate for survivors of child sexual abuse but see nothing wrong with cheating on their wife with prostitutes for many years (including trips to problematic countries such as Thailand). He's even turned on an ex BBC interviewer and threatened legal action if he allowed someone else to be interviewed who he wanted to silence. He's done so many things, but it's like you've summed him up in this one video.
The sadistic element was the hardest to deal with. The instant rage and violence from what seemed like out of nowhere. Still stalking me after my escape following a brutal rage. Challenging them through the court system or police is not an option because their focus will shift back onto me. New supply (several) is obviously not cutting it when he stalks me. I have been total no contact, but even that (after 1.5 years) does not seem to do the trick. What is the best option? I have moved many times. Blocked all social media, changed my phone number, done what I can to delete him from my life after 14 years of abuse, but it is still not enough...
And it never will be. The fact that he is still disrupting your life by all the moves and blocking etc. They want to know they can do this as reacting tells them they still have power over you. I decided I would never utter another word to him or react to anything he did and that is what I I did. I would never move or anything else. They enjoy your misery and the control they have. Don't react and they will go away.
Thriving Now - absolutely no one understands except those us that became their victim. Mine is a vile cockroach, a maggot, a blood sucking leach. Their black eyes that don't have a soul and their damn smirks. You are not alone.
They presume everyone is like them and will hit you with 100 questions accusing you of lying. They also break promises. Nothing ever eventuates. They may as well say nothing.
You have just described Amber Heard. Despite slowly being exposed as a liar, she still went to court. It’s hard to understand them. They are terrifying.
And Donald Trump. They can't believe that their lies did not pay off so they want a second attempt. AH with the decision in JDs favour and DT in not convincing all those people that he won the election and he just needed them to give him several thousand votes.
My brother is a Malignant Narc and I'll be the first to say this is the absolute worst type of Narc! They are absolute hell to deal with! My brother and I are full blood siblings. He's 4 years older than me and my sister is 6 years older than me. I'm the baby. Being his sibling was absolute hell! He had signs of being a future Narc even as a kid. Was always bullying me and other kids. He was always getting into it with kids in the neighborhood and fighting. He caused behavioral problems at school, too. On into our teens, he was so rebellious. He constantly, argued with our mom. He will break the law at the drop of the hat to get whatever he wants or if he needs to get payback on someone, he feels has wronged him. I have always seen him for the scum he is and would call him out, starting around age 18 yrs old. So needless to say, I was never one of his favorite ppl because he received many "Narcissistic Injuries", via courtesy of my mouth. LOL!!! Constantly cheating on his wife and looking down on others. I can write a book about his behavior. The holidays were always so rough for me because I knew I would have to see him at Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings. The night before the dinners, my stomach would be in knots!! I would be so anxious and tense. Having dinners with him was the worst!!! Some of you may be wondering if he has passed because I am using past tense with my verbs. No, he's still alive. When our mom passed of cancer in January 2020, I cut all contact with him. I waited until she passed because I didn't want her to die, seeing 2 of her kids not speaking. But the last time we spoke was during our mom's funeral. When I got home from it, I deleted and blocked all his number and emails in my phone. Life has never been more peaceful!!! No longer is he able to call out the clear blue and drop drama on top of me. He started a smear campaign after I cut him off. Going to every family member and telling them "Why he had to severe a relationship with his impossible baby sister and how awful she is", when he knows he didn't severe anything. Whenever he sees one of my sons, he asks them how I am doing and to tell me he said hello. You think I'm going to pen that door of communication back up? F--CK NO! Our dad calls me one day and says, "Your brother really misses you. He says he would like to repair the relationship with you. He said he doesn't know what he's ever done to you, but he's willing to forgive you and move forward cause life is short." Classic Narcissism! No accountability for nothing!! Its always the other person! Anyway, let me stop typing. I have written a book and got my blood pressure up thinking about that clown! 😂😂
This describes my narcissistic mother and sister. The former stills threatens to commit filicide on me while the latter enables her maliciously. They are both the covert types as well.
I'm dealing with this behavior in my spouse. She is having effair in our marriage, telling my kids it not bad! This has been going on for 7months. Last week I got in trouble for spending money, when I make a majority of the income. So, I came home and said, I was going to the the bank to get a print out of our checking account for the last 7 months so I could she were all our money was going. Then she broke out in a rage of anger, saying I was stupid for wasting the money to do that.( Which was on 35$) and how it was all in the budget app. Then after she was done she started laughing a little and said you got me. Then blamed it on me like I was trying to push her buttons or something, which I wasn't. She been threatening to divorce me for 7 months, in a way to excuse the behavior. My kids are getting sick from the behavior and I'm too. 2 weeks ago I said gentle to her, May is still the month to divorce me? I said you have crossed my boundaries and also our kids Then she started the paperwork. If it's was for these videos I would be lost thanks. I was having PTSD and was confused.
I have an appointment with my lawyer on Monday.......I'm need to prove that there was emotional abuse and financial abuse in the marriage, which there is. It's costing me alot of money to get a lawyer. She is the 2nd best in the area. 1st is to much money. I have to borrow the money just to pay the lawyer. She tried to pull a fast one on me, by not going to court over this. I just want transparency and peace. She told me I'm going to be paying for her lawyer.........
Some of the traits here sound like the worst aspects that some people have with some other conditions, such as ADHD and conduct disorder. I believe they're often comorbid. I wonder if in years to come, we'll find a link between different conditions and personality disorders. The ICD (the standard used in many countries outside America) has for example now scrapped all the old personality disorders and replaced them with a dimensional, spectrum type model that records traits and severity. The idea being that it's artificial and reductive to split the traits into separate personality disorder boxes (many people under the DSM system are diagnosed with more than one personality disorder in any event, indicating there is some kind of spectrum). The ICD system reflects some of the thinking of people like the famous psychoanalyst, Otto Kernberg. He believed that narcissism was actually a defence mechanism against an underlying borderline type personality.
My father is a malignant narcissist. He accused one of his girlfriends of stealing a car. He accused another of his girlfriends of robbing him of $1.5 million. She was put in jail.
That’s my daughter !! I had to completely walk away from her. I’m never going to live that way again ! I feel so much better, It’s been a year since I had any contact with her. Her Dad is worse than she is, he has always used my daughter’s to try n destroy me. My daughter told me 1 time, I’m sorry I hurt you, I just wanted my Dad’s love & attention ! 😳😳 Her Dad has never given them his time & attention or his 2 Granddaughters. My oldest Grand is like her Mother. I’ve raised my youngest Granddaughter & she is different. A very caring strong Christian young woman. 💖
My nextdoor neighbors are Narcissistic sociopaths the mother and son are both aggressive. The son threatened to poison my dogs, beats up on his mother and she beats up on him , he has years of DUI's, wrecked his cars, been in and out of jail for domestic violence and he has intimidated my family narcissistic toxic stare of intimidation. The mother is verbally, emotionally abusive, dominance, intimidation, insidious accusations, insults humiliations, gaslighting she spews out obscenities has used my own family against me and smear campaigns. I have called the police many times and have police reports i was told to get a restraining order.
This sounds like Megan Markle. It's scary. My ex sister in law is one and she made my brothers life hell. She then ran off with another man after. Two of her sons won't have anything to do with her. At 2 parties, she sat on her own because over the years, she'd upset so many people. I guess what comes around, turns around.
I known a narcissistic sociopath she is also s caregiver she is one of the worst people I ever came across she stolen from the company she works with so this describes her perfectly she is very abusive I reported her for scamming hope she gets in trouble with the law to because she is dangerous manipulative woman every thing you said dr Darren there so dangerous I removed her from my life I understand why these people are wicked and evil wish they never existed!
I meet these types all the time on Instagram for some reason. I could be commenting something completely innocuous and unoffensive and they would explode at me with insults and bragging about their number of followers.
You just described my brother in law perfectly! He has spent 2 decades destroying my wife's sister, whom she loves, now he has forbade them from contact because I voted for the wrong president (or so the excuse goes) The real problem seems to be that I am unafraid of him and do not kiss his feet. My main fear is a bullet!
He might look at the utter failure of modern psychology and delude himself into thinking he could entice our trust in it if he professes it's all actually impeccablely sound practice
Other people should be useful to them, if not they discard them... Now the whole family is dead, offended because of nothing, and lately assuming that he didn't let me grow because his ex sued the family for money . He took pleasure on having had a career vmwhike he had me go through Cataracts and fusion surgery, after expecting me to be a doctor when he was denied his medical license because he had tried to commit suicide. And so we worked in law and he calked us lawyers, but at the same time firvud me to go to school, saying he studied in vain and I should learn by isnosys - when Fauci locked down the. Ourts he said we failed and sent me to the Wild West, as I had been placed with 4 rods on my back and 4 broken vertebras and one broken rib. A failed marriage, according to my brother, and let's move on. But he has asked me to Google Liberato Vasquez Mendoza who was an 18th century Count from Alava, birth Spain. His great grand father, lineage of his mother, a Countess. And so he was half count and half Lawyer, because his father has a cabbage of lawyers. - but I wasn't allowed to go to law school, even though I told him I needed my post graduation. As a result, he asked me to produce 70.000, and 278.090, then 190.000, and 50000, then 30000. Finally he dragged me to We urioe to show me Royals often commit suicide vabd he would look at me and say "you don't have to do anything, just be beautiful and you will have European roads with me and You damn"t have to sue me, I will give you the money as he asked me to clean cook and make a million dollars I told him he had to choose,vabd it was in Luxembourg that at 6 pm they would light up the Duke's palace, at 5:45 the tour guide left us there and he insisted he wanted to walk around. I wanted to see the palace lights and saw no interest going about the dark roads. The tour guide would find us there. He was upset I said no and said he would be a butler to the Duke's to find out their ways. I knew, then, my punishment. They spoke German and french - from then on I started studying languages before every trip,band got to control 3 languages, Portuguese, Spanish and English, while understanding Italian and French. It was my way if navigating the trips. I was even able to order in German. I filmed the tours and he bought Redford the soundtrack. I made videos of the tours that he showed to his licensed colleagues, who were in his studying group and got accepted in the matching program. It was when he was dealing with the matching program that he had tried to place me as help in a psychiatrist household, being told to get me an apartment while he was doing his residency. I had worked as a child Monitor when he was studying and asked me to pay rent. After 7 years I went to work in the movie Business, as he asked me to finance his trips to interview for residency. I even got him to stay at a cousin's in New Jersey because he promised me I would have a sweet life . But he was denied and started projecting on me why wasn't I a doctor. He had taken me to Guatemala, where he studied at San Carlos' University and people aimed guns at me because I looked American. "You come from California!" Back here I started working at WCAB Boards and he calked us lawyers. He had a career in law,meanwhile I slammed my middle finger iand he has me go to a doctor who found I had centralized Cataracts and 2 shingles. - One he removed, the other one was in my left eye cornes. Well, my husband had me heal in the apartment,vabd came to pick me up in a brand new Nreerxedez, complaining that my eyes were tearing uo - he had covered the place in wool carpeting, and I was allergic to wool. He took out for sweets and my teeth were falling he insisted that I are at Chilli's when my stomach was hurting. Something was wrong with me,vabd as I worked back in WCAB Boards everywhere, he stationed in one board. In 2018 I had another surgery, 4 vertebras we're broken, one by compression a rib had been broken, as well. I was rodded and diagnosed with ostiogeneses Imperfecta and he said - "Look what doctors did to our bodies!" As I was sent back to a different Court,know"Royals have bad teeth," he said, as I kept visiting his other Guatemalan friend, who got his license as a dentist. He spent his earned money on those trips and paying for my surgeries, as I was told not to contradict him right before the booking agent showed up. Then he would throw in my face the w do expenses, as if it was my fault. I was told he did it in purpose, gaslighted me and was defensive because his ex sued his family for money and that was the reason he didn't let me grow. Now, at 62, with a broken back and blind, after he calked everyone around us nobodies,because they were working for 25/hr, claiming that his wife would not work for 15/hen I was told I had to pay his radiotherapy and funeral, as he paid for my fusion and Cataracts,bas I crashed yet another car, because if the glare, and his car coming over at 10'30 pm on a crowded freeway, just awakening from my Bubble as a Countess, with my brother, whin I calked to help me get to the apartment. He is Costumer Service and his wife is a Social Worker. My brother sent in 5 sets of cops and 4 Social Workers, after yrging me to get Social Security since Courts had been locked down in the Pandemic. I was healing up from the latest surgery, with sliced cut open vertebras kept me from sleeping, as I paid his 44900 treatment for Colon cancer, and renovation bills here, trying to balance the budget as a new car was bought, to replace the crashed ones, because my husband said I was supposed to come out okay from the surgeries. He also said he was going to s kk due but I would heal up. The vertebras turned back inwards but my sleeping is messed up after 2 years of intense pain. To make it matters worst I was advised to get a roomate, abd got a home invader instead. He slammed to door in my right hand and after 11990 I was sent home, where I would charge him for rent and ve attached again. After 3 months I managed to get him out, after getting restraining order and unlawful drainer. I am receiving 25k in Survivor benefits, since he was my only husband and 33 years of marriage went by,, as I try to understand what happened. Because he fed me tranquilizers as he made my legs shake. Why? I could not accept that he was not a doctor, and without even high school I found myself at the mercy of my brother and his wife, chanting they had high school abd driver"s Ed I don't think driving lessons would help me. I am taking Collagen supplement as my husband exclaimed he was well borght up and didn't need to eat. Then I noticed in Venice we only had milk chocolate for 4ge whole day, as he said we would eat back in the hotel. he only had us share a mini diet coke in Lugano. Beautiful places, and CDs from all those places, in order to produce the videos to sweet gus friends, licensed physicians now -:Being told I had to pay I ended up paying after all, and I couldn't escape it. I don't understand why I had to pay for his trips and studies, but he made it up with the European tours. Now I am getting benefits and can't tell the night from day. My money doesn't allow me to get care,c and I sit here with flashbacks if Europe, as Uber drivers take me to Marriott, instead l. 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As I was looking for a roommate, under her suggestion,they asked me what did I have in my storage room they don't feel guilty,there's a rivalry between here and Santa Monica. "Why did you go to the other place?" ."To work" She asked me what I wanted to do for Christmas, that I made the videos. I said I worked during weekdays and made the videos on weekend's. She went to a trans house, instead vi am very hurt with my surgeries and lack of study. My brother says it doesn't m as tree, since I made money v. I sit here and could offer to share with he is mother in law. But I was suggested aging care,only to find out I can't afford them . I can't afford health care, and it is non-existent conditioner v Right now they say I am hiding. Abd I woke up again, in Europe u rt open to ine zone. Th as t made my husband happy, as he as rated that Americans SC tile Guatemalan"s gold and that I had to keep Americans from stealing the Apartment. My getting rid of the home Invader only confirmed their suspicions that I was a bidding by my husband. Now the DA will change his posture not to prosecute class B 750 dollars theft, Law 47 said uh nde Rd 1000 would not be oleos we cute, and this was the a we irks he left me in. - today the DA said his intention was to relieve prisons but it stopped today vi am told I am geriatric, with 64 go going 65. abd my bro to her made me call Medical "To our husband paid for you oou and now to get give Ed moment is firm in Ng you money. I sit here and ponder,, remembering the red flowers stop a tree in Portugal. "To hey cannot steal you our memories," my husband said. As the priest remarked that I was taking care of people that everybody hated, he said that priests were bad.
Narcissistic sociopaths can also be abusive (emotionally, mentally, psychologically and financially). When they don't get their way or if you tell them no, they resort to anger and hostility by laying shame and guilt onto you by making you as the monstrous villain.
I can never agree with that more I wish I had taken more time healing with the right people- I have personally seen the predatorial people in my life in hindsight
It can happen by family members, a spouse, ex- spouse, former friend, employer, someone else in a position of power, or a combination of sadistic psychopaths !
This was fantastic. My life has been completely dominated by these monsters. Now that it's all over I spend hours thinking about what I should have said to them, but I was trauma bonded and all I wanted to do was keep the peace and make them happy. It's so clear now that they never loved me at all, they just loved hurting me. God bless you all xxx
My mother, father, and wife were all malignant narcissists. I can't imagine how they can treat others so bad, but then I remember that they don't love themselves so how can they love others? Hope you're doing well, there is no god, but I personally wish you well.
They enjoy hurting!! They enjoy hurting for the sake of it!! It is incredible how evil they are and can punish for absolute stupid things!! When they feel ignored or offended the can even have murder onn their mind or try to drive you in to suicide!! 👀
Yes. Mine did both too. I was shocked when the mask came off. I have to believe that one day Karma will find them. Either in this life or after death. Otherwise I would feel like there's no justice. I'm really sorry for everything you've gone through. I believe you are strong to make it through one of those monsters. You got this.
My life has been shadowed by the malignant narcissist. They came into my life at young age. Relatively short amount of time but, left the scars behind. As a consequence I have invited other narcissists into my life (unintentionally) I now see what has happened and plan to continue to heal.
Hi Christina - that's really interesting. Have you ever had any therapy yourself, if so, did it give you any insights? I say that because narcissists often tend to gravitate towards certain types of people. Once you become aware of what they are picking up on, it can help you to form defences and heal.
Coverts are narcissistic sociopaths. This is my ex boyfriend to a t. He is very charismatic and likable but has a dark side that is nothing like his public persona and can be sadistic, I believe he poisoned my coffee. At this point I went no contact, pathological liar serial cheater.
Mary...Yes they are..I was with Covert narcissist whom I realised after 26 yrs had almost 10 of the sociopathic traits too. I got away after 28 yrs by brutal discard from him and 4 yrs out Im still healing and damaged psychological especially and can't function just on day to day things a major struggle and low motivation so on..he keeps me as a..friend..in narcissist harem..triangulated with his Ex..only a friend again..she was with him in the 80s..its totally crazy..warped stuff..😒🙁
I grow up with my sister with this disorder. She was/is older than me. I would be different person if I would not have the constant insults in my life. Now she is old and much worst. I'm glad that there is the whole United States and the ocean between us. But, she never stops. Now she is trying to turn my children against me. She can't stand our good relationship and loosing her power. But, she can be very destructive. VERY !!!
@@sashakartus3435 My older sister lashed out at me and nearly 50 years after the fact; shouted, "Oh you are the pretty little powder- parlor girl aren't you!!" (I'm female.) Then she rushed to me to hit me: I stepped forward having become sick of an angry tirade of false accusations that must've gone on 3 quarters an hour which I silently endured (stuck in a car with her driving.) I'd had it by then, so when she ran to hit me (we were in her house) I stepped forward and said coldly, "Go ahead and hit me! Please do!" She must've guessed I was angry enough to hit her back so she stepped back. I gathered my weekend bag of clothes etc and struggled up the street with them and sat on the curb wondering where to go with no money for a motel. I'd been overseas years and was at my father's house, when she found our that I was going to visit a friend I'd not seen in 30 years. Somehow that was going to stuff up her plan (no she wasn't to drive me anywhere, I'd have used public transport,) there is NO way it could've interfered with her plan of a trip north that weekend (bearing in mind she could go ANY weekend she chose to anyway!) She called me a selfish, nasty little bitch and other unprintable names. Then she dragged up how I had been a child model when a baby (I don't even remember it! My photo was in all photographers windows; I was supposedly pretty!) She must've absolutely *hated* that as she was plump, with buck teeth and a bossy disposition. She usedto bash me and my brother. I had tried showing her the genuine love I had felt in my heart for her in so many ways and she'd respond with cruelty. It broke my heart. So I was sitting in the dark on the curb with my bag in the dark. I had nowhere. Next day she got on the phone and told lies to my 3 brothers, her children and made me look so bad that they were rude and mean to me. I have never known how to stand up for myself if I feel crushed inside, so I didn't bother giving rhe true story. I just carry the hurt. Eventually, at a family do she put on an act as if nothing whatever had happened! I was glad to fly out back overseas. I've had many occasions of physical and other abuse from her over the years. She acts syrupy toward me in front of siblings but when no one is round says, "You're a stupid bitch and it's a pity you can't actually sing!" (Because I used to be a public singer at venues and produced a CD.) So much I've put up with. One thing though, watching Mr. McGees videos about narcissm, helped me realise that I need to just avoid her because no amount of love and kindness from me will ever change her. She has a good life now with a great husband and 3 grown kids, a lovely house and they had tons of overseas holidays etc. So I feel happy for her in that; at least she's not poor and living alone - so she won't miss me.
They’re doing horrible shady things to people so they assume everyone does those things, it never crosses their minds that they’re the only evil ones which is why they project so much. It’s pathetic. My ex will withhold money to feed his kids knowing my mother will have to help us thinking it punishes me but it just shows that he has no soul.
My husband wouldn’t buy our children cloths so I went to work so the kids and I could buy what we needed. Nowadays he says I turned the kids into latch key kids because I was selfish.
My father was like this. When I won art queen for my homecoming parade, I had to beg him to buy me an appropriate dress. He told me to pay him back instead of congratulating me.
My narcissistic husband does the same thing and my mother has to help me . But he sure try’s to get supply from my daughter achievements, and the thing is we’ve paid so she can do like marching band, neck and stuff but boy he’s there for the concert. You know he never pitches in any money.
I see it as a spectrum. Milder versions manifest as 'Narcissistic' , moderate versions manifest as 'Sociopathic', and severe forms as 'Psychopathic'. To me they are all cousins in a very sick, dark, egoic family.
"they get to feel something" that's very sad. They never developed their much needed range of emotions in infancy. Horrible mothers, who probably are ignorant and/or oblivious to the catastrophy they create.
Ever try and show them how to do something. It's impossible they cannot let u teach them. How these people ever learn anything is beyond me. They must learn stuff in private then pretend it's theirs.
“Violates the rights of others” is what comes to my mind on the difference between a garden variety narcissist and what is worse than that. With that said, now I will listen to the content. 🤔
I've justbeen blamed by my husband for the fact that he just dropped a tin of paint over our new tiled floor.. it was my fault because if I'd been painting the door he wouldn't have dropped it. I then saw him smirk when I became upset. He then denied blaming me.
Get out now. I had 20 years of that and my 55 year old son is doing it to me, blame, blame, blame. What I do say to him though is, "Oh it's my fault again" He has no answer to that. Say nothing else because that sentence let's them know that you know their game.
Get out of there asap. It's not going to get better, only worse. The person needs years of professional help to love themselves before they can even think of you.
Don't ever think they'll "see the light" as they relish the darkness. Narcissists cannot ever see you as a human being. Note that I said, "cannot" not "will not". These are broken souls who cannot achieve wellness, as that requires a certain humility
Everything you said about the narcissistic sociopath fits the ex like a glove. I would add that they also like trying to take everything away from you, (I am left with nothing. You have no right to anything we once shared - although it may have been yours in the first place) even if this means filing endless court cases that they will finish up losing, but in the meantime will cause stress, money problems and anxiety to the person who has dared to leave them. After months of their malicious messages you really get scared for your safety and the safety of the ones you love.
YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE. I got rid of the narccasist who blamed me for his actions and tried to put me down. I threatened to take him to civil court and for some strange reason, he did not want to be taken to civil court and paid me money he owed me, but still tried to blame me. I told him what you said that he no longer has control over me, he cannot belittle me, he can't tell me what to do, he has no control and that I would show the offensive emails to the civil court. I believe this has happened before and I guess he will blame me for the rest of his life, but he can't control me know more and I guess he did not like hearing that.
In all seriousness, I've known a few of these, including my mother. I find that people who tend to need to have one person to blame currently in their life always, tend to have other traits listed here too. For example, someone who has a co-worker or family member that they always complain about.
They always need an enemy, chaos, and an emotional punching bag- all to keep their DELUSIONAL beliefs that they are NOT the problem (although the cycle repeats itself in every single friendship, etc. over and over again.) The lack of self awareness is ALMOST impressive, for a person to be so blind to any possible self responsibility or fault in ANYTHING ever. Almost laughable if it wasn't so sad!
Right on the money. After I left my wife I got Counselling. At the end of the 1st session my therapist said to me, "From what you've been telling me it sounds like your wife is a narcissistic sociopath." Cue lots of research on my part. I wasn't even aware of Personality Disorders. This video set off a number of light bulbs with memories that echoed your video but one sticks out vividly. We had a Preschool business with 5 employees. 3 of those ladies all quit their jobs on the same day. I reckon they timed their quitting for maximum effect to stick it to my wife or else it was one hell of a coincidence. I have absolutely no doubt it was my ex wifes' Controlling, Perfectionism, Bullying, Demeaning and Superiority that led to 3 good women saying enough is enough. I left my wife at the end of 2018. I now live about 2 miles from her and she regularly does drive byes past my house for no good reason that I am aware of and tried to Hoover me last Dec 21. I ignored her. Being in a relationship with a Narcissistic Sociopath is very harmful to oneself. Get out, stay out and stay 200% No Contact is my advice to anyone involved with a Narcopath. Thanks for your Videos Darren they are very helpful.
@@jujubes570 No I don't thank God because this was my 2nd marriage and married at 53yrs. My 1st wife turned out to be a narc as well and actually abandoned me and our 3 kids to be free to screw any low hanging fruit. So I was a single parent family for 10 yrs. Happiest years of my life. Apparently if you had a narc caretaker you can gravitate to relationships with narcs. I married 2. Apparently they are familiar in a deeply psychological way. I really feel for you if you have to have stay with your narc because of the kids as they will always be controlling, manipulative etc etc. I was in the same place. In my case I went through hell in the 2 years before my wife left. I figured the more rope I gave her that she will eventually hang herself which she did. She went too far with her blatant cheating and ignoring the kids. But you can do your kids a lot of good by showing them what a healthy adult looks like. In my case my 3 kids and I are close whilst their relationship with their mum is non-existent Good luck
@@spindrifter7519 As awful the situation must have been for your kids, that was a blessing that she just left. I know mine will just keep hanging around. He’s still involved in my business and I’m slowly getting him out, but meaning I’m taking on more work which is challenging bc I’m already feeling over my head with everything. I have been doing so much work on myself. I pray i never attract this type of personality again. Looking back tho, so many of my relationships or people i was attracted to, I’m certain now, are narcissists. Thanks for your comment.
The video, audio, and content quality keeps improving with each new video! I have no doubt that this channel will continue to grow rapidly as the information and message resonates clearly with so many people. Channels such as these help SO many people across the world, keep up the great work! As a suggested topic, I think triangulation/gaslighting in a way that hasn't been covered could be helpful...such as when information is withheld or falsely created to essentially keep victims distracted enough to where they won't realize what is going on for far longer than they would otherwise. The lengths that the malignant NPD/ASPD will go to are just astounding. And super desperate. Would love to hear your take!
My malignant narcissist brother had a paranoid anger episode one night and smashed through our door in the middle of the night, screamed accusations, physically assaulted us then got arrested. He was angry and bitter not at himself, but because he was arrested with no top on and we didn’t see if HE was okay the next day. He is no longer in my life, I wish I knew what he was years ago. We all suffered so much emotional, psychological and physical abuse from him and lived in fear. You couldn’t even have a different opinion. They are like a deep dark creepy vortex wearing a fake smile
Thank you. My ex-wife is described in this video. I have learned that I married my mother since they were both sociopaths. And being vindictive wow! I have been divorced for 20 years and my ex still does nasty things to me. It was like I needed to go through this ugly experience in order to see who my parents really were like. I would say the sociopath is extremely satanic and I thank God that I had the courage to leave my ex.
I got married to my ex narcissist last year and within a few months of marriage I left him. Officially divorced now and honestly I have no idea how people manage to live with such people.
I split from my (now) ex wife 11 years ago. She was harassing me up until about a year ago. The divorce was long and excruciating due to her petty, vindictive narcissistic behaviour. I lost so much. I never know when she'll raise her ugly head again.
@@brakenoodle105 It is amazing how a person can be so vindictive. I believe she thinks she is entitled. I have not been in contact with my ex since our divorce and I want it to remain that way.
Similar situation here. My husband (who resembles my mother) snapped 13 years into our relationship (close to 2 yrs ago) meaning he took his mask off once and for all. I am still really grappling with this experience. We have young kids, so i feel it’s complex and i don’t want to be without them.
Damn. I Think That's What I Have... She Put Lemon Cleaner in the Soup and Sat to Watch Our Reactions Sipping Soup. She Drops Pins & Needles on the Carpet and Said: Those Aren’t Mine & I Didn't Do it. Then Who Did? She Did. She's a Quilter for Charity. Mine is a Full-Blown Covert Narc. 82 yr Old Sadistic Granny w/ a Grin. A Cheshire Cat Grin...
Such malice! That's part of what makes these relationships so painful. To know that someone who's supposed to love and care for you actually intends to and enjoys doing you harm. I think I understand brainwashing and the Stockholm syndrome to some degree as a result of my experience as a child.
I have encounter one for certain and speculative about some others. In both cases, I am glad that they are out of my life. No remorse, no empathy, no sense loyalty, and interact with you later as though nothing happened and can't understand why you are upset or haven't let it go. It's taken me some time to get here, but it's well enough just to be rid of them.
1) My father was a narcissistic sociopath. Vicious. Screaming bloody murder every day. 2) Then, later in life, the girl I thought I would marry -- beautiful, sophisticated, adorable, tri-lingual -- turned out to be a covert narcissist who did incredible damage to me (and still does, to this day). At this point, I learned what a "sociopath" is (via Martha Stout's book "The Sociopath Next Door). Found out that, without question, my father was a sociopath. As for the girl, two different doctors, years apart, told me that "the girl you're telling me about sounds like a sociopath." It was through these videos that I found out that she was a covert narcissist. (Example? Think "The Talented Mr. Ripley.") 3) Then, finally, a supervisor at work, who took my name off of my work every day and put his own name on it. Stole my project and made me invisible. The final straw. At this point, I think "something about me attracts these people. They target me. It's safer to just stay the hell away from people altogether." I'll say this, too: I'm American, born in 1963. The TV show "All in the Family" was all the rage -- an ACCLAIMED Norman Lear production -- when I was a kid. I never found it funny. I found it difficult to watch Archie's constant verbal abuse of his family, calling his wife "Dingbat" all the time, calling his son-in-law "Meathead" all the time. Funny? Not to me. It was too close to reality in my house; constant verbal and psychological abuse, explosive rage. Walking on eggshells all the time. And HAVING NO NAME FOR IT, NO WAY TO DESCRIBE IT TO OTHERS THAT ANYONE WOULD BELIEVE. Because, my father was an ENTIRELY different person out in public versus behind closed doors with his own family. Hell on Earth.
Oh boy! My ex wife described to a T. We separated 11 years ago and the memories of her behaviour still haunt me. These people are like emotional wrecking balls.
I was raised by one. They like to feel like they are sovereign. I find them very interesting because they have a different flavor comparing to your average NPD. They super value loyalty, their sadism is usually a punishment of something you "did to hurt/disrespect" them, they lack empathy but then they have those causes where they have actual empathy and cry over, donate money and etc, the core is a very wounded one (my dad would always vent on me when I grew up) and they seem to be a mix of vulnerable, grandiose NPD with a shot of psycopathy. As it go for malignant narcissist fathers, they always justify their abuse as a "fatherly correction that had to be done because you were out of line" but the punishment is far greater than the crime. The household will tremble in fear but thank God and rejoice when they are in a good mood (they can be fun times). The good thing about this type is that the red flags show up real soon and you can run away fast.
Vindictiveness lasts a lifetime and beyond. They recruit others to carry on their destructive agendas 😢. Shocking to me how they can engage so many different people to go along with their narrative and carry out vengeance plans.
Some of those recruits will eventually back away from it when they see a person has involved or reported it (some don’t). Some will back away bc they’re repulsed by the sadism or over the top abuse (it doesn’t make them look good). And even if you didn’t make mistakes or do wrong?Theyll leave out chucks of the story that puts you into a relatable light or parts where you were wronged. I’m dealing with it and have been for a long time and my life (and my spouses life) is pretty darn boring. Stalking has been a factor in my life for one full decade and the worst of it the past four years or so….. If I listed all of the things they have pulled to keep the dysfunction going (bc they enjoy chaos drama and trouble and revenge) people may or may not believe it. I’ve read similar accounts and know I’m not the only person enduring severe stalking and basically terrorism. Malignant or Covert seems to fit this particular mold.Their day to day lives seem to revolve around the stalking,etc. The most excitement they’ve had in years is my watching narcissism videos and learning. Of course,the hack and stalk devices.They’re a pack of crazies…..
I am not perfect but I wouldn't' torture my children. However I am not great with relationships but my children I love unconditionally. Why was she able to adopt ? I am staying single until I am healed from trauma. Childhood
If I didn't have firsthand experience, it would be almost impossible for me to believe that such individuals actually exist, because the characteristics and behavior is just so far out there.
Like any other narcissist, when the narcissist crosses the line, bring in the police otherwise the malignant narcissist will believe you are extremely weak and walk all over you and treat you like a piece garbage.
@@cynthiacole6140 Cops will also tend to side with the narcissist since narcissists are extremely good at lying. As one psychologist posted, "The worst narcissists are the ones who believe their own lies."
You should report it and get it,naming them, and why you’re filing the report. That way,if something happens to you ? There is a history via the reports to refer to and yes use caution with police.
My husband had an affair and when I found out he blamed me. He gets mad for the simplest of things. If I’m happy he has to do make sure I’m not. He feels that what ever I earn is his, but what he earned is his. He makes life a living hell.
@@garryyoung8945 thankfully he moved 600 miles away and now most contact is by phone. Last conversation I had with him I hung up because he started a verbal attack. Been 2 weeks since he’s called. I don’t need the added stress.
@@robynmarler3839 thankfully he lives hours away. I found it strange that we’d be having a wonderful day and all of a sudden he’d be blaming me for something I hadn’t done. Now I figure he was actually projecting his guilt onto me. My best friend witnessed firsthand how he explodes. She told me it was him and not me causing the problem. He decided to move and live off grid in a jamboree motorhome and I stayed in the house. I’m okay living alone.
I’ve stopped questioning myself when I realised THE DANGER WAS REAL. “The PARANOIA that others are trying to harm them” led my father to murder my brother’s best friend at his birthday party last year. I’m now starting to believe my mother when she tells me she couldn’t leave her marriage sooner by fear for her life… I now have only 2 categories for narcissists: 1)the pitiful annoying ones and 2)the criminal ones. Will we ever fully recover from the trauma? (I’ve been in therapy for YEARS but sometimes I don’t know what recovery looks like)
@@bobbarker1798 thank you! I’ve gone no-contact for about 8 years now, but every now and again it hits me harder than I’d wished. He’s done some jail time for that crime and now is wearing an anklet for home detention. It doesn’t feel like a real compensation but I don’t care much anymore as long as he’s still 7.000miles away from me 😅
Tasks like unloading bricks over the side of the pick-up instead of the tailgate. Bringing in a leather sofa through the small side door rather than the double doors in the same room!
@V Or, how about unloading firewood onto a flagstone patio by throwing it down with force from above your head? Ten years after that incident, which I witnessed from a basement window without them being aware that I could see them, the mortar is, of course, cracking up all around the stones. But they wanted to give the impression of being "so helpful." Because that person is a known liar and would vehemently deny such behavior, I ran to get my video camera. I would have taken them to court for repairs to the patio. The battery in my video camera was dead!
Thank you. I think my abusive ex might have been a narcissistic sociopath; she blamed me for her decisions and actions, cheated on me and abused me (apologies? nope my fault), and after the relationship ended she has been terminating services with no warning. (She took control of all of our assets when we separated) What really disturbs me is her claim she wants to be 'amicable'. The letter she wrote to my solicitor was really weird, it felt like she was pretending things didn't end how they did. She also spent the last few months before leaving drilling into my head that I was the abuser. I'm still struggling with that even though I think it was just another way to keep me compliant and quiet. The flash of rage in her eyes when I told her I wasn't accepting more criticism or requests for change because no matter how much I listened and tried it wasn't good enough was like nothing I'd ever seen before.
I had a similar experience with my ex-husband. I told him I was done apologizing for things he wouldn't get over or forgive me for anyway. He always brought up the same stuff. It didn't matter what I did, he'd never let it go. Then all the manipulating and gaslighting. I really did feel like I was the bad guy. When I said I was done, that's when he realized I was not going to be so easily controlled, and he turned up the nastiness until he was ready to discard me. Toward the end, I sent him information about codependency because I recognized that I was. He wanted to know what happens to the other person in the relationship. The answer was right there, staring me in the face, but I couldn't make myself say it: the other person is the abuser. He probably never picked up on it, or if he did, he ignored it. He was info gathering to see what he could use against me, rather than taking that knowledge to understand me or change his ways. If I told him he was an abuser, he probably would have hit me and then blamed me for it. His self-awareness was nonexistent. I hope you are doing much, much better now.
