The New Feminine: Why WOMEN SETTLE for LESS! 

Another excellent video Chole, you can make this a 10 part series and never run out of content. For me, it's simply that I was never taught about self esteem and my worth as it relates to men. I was taught to get an education, work hard so that I can take care of myself. Now I'm mid 50s, 6 figure income, own my home, drive no kids, have savings etc, and divorced twice (married the same dusty twice, just different names, and height). Long story short I haven't been on a date in 7 years because I just gave up after being hurt. I learned the hard way ladies. My family is the same as me, so I had no guidance..I'm not giving up though. Young ladies listen to Chole, don't waste your youth and your pretty on dusties. Get your self together and I learn your worth.

Highly educated and low self worth, needs to be a whole video in itself.

She said: "Many women are afraid of success, because with success comes attacks". Boom!

I can’t tell you how good therapy has been. I was that hurt little girl in a 28 year old woman’s body. But healing those issues with my mom has been amazing. Seek it ladies, & God. It’s sad that therapy is so stigmatized in the black community

I was just talking about this recently,, I’ve seen lazy, no ambition having women with men who treat them like gold. They only care about their looks and what they want and men flock to them. And I’m over here independent, getting promotions, and raises, in school to get certified and single as a Kraft cheese slice😒

I’m here for it! Potential is a no go! Either it is or it ain’t. 💯🤷🏽‍♀️

I don't know why I never have a channel like this when I was in high school.

Yes! I'm so here for this girl. I saw a beautiful woman who could have easily passed for a model dumpster diving (I mean climbing in an actual dumpster behind a grocery store to get food) while her "man" sat on the curb waiting for her to bring the food to him. I couldn't believe it! Why didn't anyone teach her about value!

Powerful video. I honestly wish someone would have taught me this as an adolescent. My great grandmother, grandmother, mom, and myself have struggled through the curse of abuse and low self esteem. I pray that I can end the curse with my daughters.

Women who are single can be shamed into toxic relationships, the old "that's why you don't have a man" or "why you can't keep a man" or " you're going to be a cat Lady and alone". The list goes on, society needs to accept some women find it more fulfilling and peaceful being single and enjoy her life on her own terms. Women that chooses to remain single should have as much support as women who wants to be married. Truth is many women live in "shame" because they don't want what society say women should want. As long as women are happy, it makes for a healthy feminine woman.

The title alone on this early, Sunday morning 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️😹. Chloe never disappoints & knows how to jumpstart the day

Great video Chloe! I’d rather be single and at peace than with a man who only has potential 🙌🏾

“Why women try to turn relationship crumbs into a whole meal.”😂😂😂

“Dumpster diving..” 😂

Thank you so much Chloe_! So many women are jumping into the bed with men to get validated. Sex is expected and that is why these guys think everyone will do it. NO! I know my value!

Great you mentioned the fact that many bw equate obtaining a degree/degrees/PHDs & what not to the ultimate success & boost their self esteem. Like this is it in life, they’ve made it & anyone who hasn’t accomplished the same isn’t even on their “level” including men that may be interested in them, friends even family members🤷🏽‍♀️. They look/talk down @ people but certain aspects in their lives are a mess or they have a shitty personality

The inexperience with men. Spot on.

“Heal the broken little girl inside of you” 💕✨

Honestly, it hurts me to hear how women have been brainwashed thoroughly. I know this from seeing how grateful they act when dusties do the bare minimum.

Choosing a life partner and someone to MAKE HUMANS WITH is a life skill. The unhealthy cycle stops with me.

“Stuckness or addiction to being victims” girl.....that right there.

Perfect video to compliment my keto breakfast! Thank you Chloe your videos have helped me so much !! You are a GEM in the Black women community. Because of you I have been getting my mind right , losing weight , began getting my hair done again, got my nails done. I am getting the old me back. THANK YOU SO MUCH !

I love the hypergamy movement. Currently I am separated but prior to getting married I can remember times Where I did not settle for the b.s. and carried myself in a very feminine way ( probably how I attracted my husband). Long story short, I have decided not to take my husband back after the infidelity, and I have raised the bar for myself. I appreciate this channel but I would like to ask if we could speak to each other in an uplifting way instead of condescending.

"ladies...and lurkers who are listening" LMBO!

My momma used to tell me don't show a man how to treat you tell him and then show how you won't accept anything less. I didn't really start getting it until now. Love the messages keep it up sis.

I have the “package” but it’s seems that men around me are not interested because I want too much. I’m 26, no children and it seems like men look at me as if something is wrong with me if no man has wanted to make me a mother. I just don’t want kids until I’m married. I get treated like I’m naive for expecting marriage.

Thanks Chloe. I appreciate what you do. I feel really late to the game being in my 30s and I try not to be sad about it lol. But I missed a lot of these lessons in life and they would’ve saved me a lot of headache smh. But better late than never ✊🏾

I Love your channel Chloe! I am the hypergamist wife who happily takes my place as the contributor not the head. I am very well taken care of by my husband and it shows. My coworkers hate me for it. I speak about my position as a woman/wife and many despise my ability to meet suitable men. I have been on the hypergamy path for decades and completely understand and agree with the words you speak. Now in my early forties, I'm pretty much "established" compared to most 30s 40s 50s females who can't understand how. These are the bitter broken & envious women. Oftentimes, I'm not the subject of your conversations but listen daily and share your videos with my daughters & friends. I make sure if anything in my marriage goes wrong, I have established financial security by opening business with my husband. I manage all the books and take care of my home and my husband. You remind me of myself and you voice exactly what I talk about with Black Women daily. Great Job! Keep Teaching ♥

'Dumpster Diving'. Wow. That's a hell of a toxic term that should get a lot of women's attention.

I need some advice: I have a friend who I believe is dating a dusty. I want to tell her she needs to higher her standards but I also don’t want her to feel like I’m being judgmental. Here are the red flags I’ve noticed. 1. When she first told me about him she gave me the impression that it was a platonic friendship. She told me he asked if he could live with her until he get his own place and that he’ll be sleeping on the couch. AT FIRST I didn’t think anything of it because again I was under the impression that the friendship was platonic and the situation was temporary. 2. One day she had to get surgery and I had texted her wishing her a safe surgery and fast recovery. HE REPLIED sending me a picture of himself. I felt like it was very inappropriate for him to respond to me when he doesn’t know me. Then once I realized he had her phone I stopped texting him and he continued to text me from her phone. 3. We went on a double date and he constantly kept insulting me. Constantly cracking jokes I told her about how it made me uncomfortable and all she said was “he tends to play too much” 4. He drives her car 5. He shacked up with her I believe that he does the bare minimum to be able to live with her and to continue to drive her car. Do I say something to her or do I allow her to learn on her own?

I’ve learned that the truth I’m not ready to hear usually feels like an attack, but it’s actually meant to bring about healing. Chloe is passionate about women but more specifically BW leveling up. Please don’t take offense, just do the work. It’s a tough pill to swallow, when many of us know majority of many BM aren’t leveling up. So many are either gay, hobosexual, hurt and not seeking healing, or unaware of the value of their masculine ability to be a provider.. It’s disheartening but irregardless of the lack of capable partners, we still have an obligation to heal. These words come from a place of love.❤️

“A blunt” I almost thought I heard that wrong. Who is worth a blunt? 😂😂😂

Chloe stay coming with the Sunday morning treats as I have my coffee ☕️ 🧁

Thank you Chloe for reminding me that accomplishments are different from self worth. I often confuse these two because of the way I was raised (I was raised with very high expectations); so whenever things aren't straight with my career or education I feel like I'm worthless. But after listening to this, I won't anymore.

When you talked about a blunt and a big mac date I fell out !!!

Put yourself first for that Creates miracles. Love it Chloe!!!

All of those reasons you mentioned about settling are absolutely true! It's either those or we settle for being alone...yikes!!

As always... Tru Gems... I literally listen to you EVERYDAY!!!! Even tho I’ve listened to almost everything you’ve posted. Thank you my dear. I’m 41, divorced, mother of a beautiful teenager and I’m absolutely falling in love with me through your words. I honestly appreciate your work. I speak to my daughter often about loving herself and being the best version of herself. Thanks again Chloe_❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕🔥🔥🔥😁😁😁😊😊😊😊

this channel has dropped so many gems and made me understand so much. I thought I knew, but I can acknowledge those generational curses.

Currently walking at the park listening to her videos 😂

“With success comes being attacked “ I felt this with my entire being! 🙌🏾

This info is so freeing. I'm so glad to be getting this while I'm young (with no ties). You are so fierce in your delivery, but your message is so perfect and right on time.

PhD. women settling for GED men.

The lady looking through the blinds is the funniest part 😂

We women have to be strong because there are not many men that will hold their own weight. As far as settling: It's just a self hatred/ low self-esteem issue. It's better to be without a bum than held back by one. 🤔

Yes ! Focusing On Solutions..it’s all in your head. Put Yourself First and Feel free to hit them with a plot twist. EXECUTE. Thank You Chloe.💕

That’s why I hate being apart of a very religious Christian family - we were told our worth is solely based in God and that we are low and disgusting creatures our whole lives. So when I denounced that life, I made so many bad choices because I felt that no one would ever love me especially because my own family didn’t, so it wouldn’t matter how bad I was. Thankfully I realize that I’m not the only one who has struggles and I can heal, even if I never find a solid partner at least I will be happy with myself ❤️

I really get valuable insight from your vids and knowledge. Things I have been trying to fix for yrs. with excerisise, New job, New this, New that. But kept having the same issue. since Sept 2018 I began my journey of self love and acceptance. It was really important for me to be accountable in this process to end toxic behavior. I saw my patterns and as I was near breaking things off. I felt an urge to play victim, but I resisted and now I feel I'm be in aligned with proper thinking and behaviors. Thank you for being awesome and the informations is pure and align w my beliefs. Ijs I'm glad I came across your page or I would be still conducting experiments lol!

I CAN'T BELIEVE I HAD THIS DUSTY MINDSET I NEED A WHOLE HYPERGAMUS MAKEOVER FOR ME & MY CHILDREN FUTURE

“Addiction to Being Victims.” Very well stated 👌🏻 I think I heard you mentioning something about wanting to hold onto self-righteousness too. Pretty sure this is tying in with taking pride in the struggle mindset. I’ve decided to stop talking about my old life and previous struggles. I’ve learned and don’t want to look back. I sure don’t want to reattract it by glorifying it. Your videos are conducive to my self reflection ❤️

SPEAK LIFE INTO YOUR SELF-WORTH!!!! Yassss...I felt that in my spirit!!!!

Chloe, this was right on time!

Another great topic. I think it comes from a scarcity mindset instead of effectively planning, working on yourself and dating with a purpose. Its just like everything else in your life if you set a goal determine your objectives (your why) and map out how you want to achieve your goal and put your plan into action and most of all DON’T WAIVER until you achieve your goal you will be successful. Also i think what is missing is the inner self work that must be done to strengthen your mindset and increase your appraisal of yourself and you cant be afraid to be single while you are working on yourself. People oftentimes mistake single for being lonely. Dating is no different. You have to date with a CLEAR purpose and a plan. In regards to Chloe’s analogy about professional/education success being mistaken as self esteem is accurate. We see it everyday with women and men. They can have $1 million in the bank, spent $100 of thousands on material possessions and education but have a $2 mindset and opinion of themselves and the people they choose to entertain. I use this analogy all the time which is the weight-loss surgery people use to lose weight. If you have not lap banded your mind you will return to old habits and regain the weight. Love your content. That picture of Taraji always has me crying.

Gawd this woman just speaks to my soul on a different level. Everything being said I know is me and I was lead here because of my current situation. Thank you really, hopefully I can gain the confidence to walk away.

Lurkers who are listening 🤣🤣🤣

Chloe, I SALUTE YOU! Your channel is much needed. It promotes HEALING. It's quite THERAPEUTIC to watch. Peace and Blessings!

I don't know why i call my mother mother or family family. They will just push you onto men that just don't cut it because in their eyes it's getting "late". Gosh!. I am not desperate. I want what i deserve and what i deserve is goodness. I'd rather die looking for it then to be as miserable and lost as them.

Hollering at the images lol 😆

Bless your life, bless your work, Chloe.

This used to be me but Lord God I am so happy I woke up (after a really bad and toxic relationship cycle) and made changes whilst still in my 20’s.

Self worth is based on what you believe you deserve, Real worth is dictated by the marketplace.

It’s a blessing that my first child from my abusive marriage was a boy. I was not ready for a baby girl. Hypergamy has only entered my life in my mid 30’s and I am committed to it...this mindset has already pushed away some deeply deceptive men. When I am blessed with a king and should I have a daughter, I most certainly will pass down the hypergamous mindset

Thank u, Chloe. This was the scripture I needed this morning. 🙏🏾

YES GURL!!!!! Say that!!! Sunday church!!

Reading these comments like yes ladies 🙌🏾 Chloe_ dropping knowledge on us again thank you for the video

Wow you described me. I am critical of others and myself. This is something I am working on during my feminine journey. Thank you for these videos.

GrandRising! Another truthful beacon of self-interest & self-awareness: full moon alchemy anyone? Time to manifest! BlessUP

You said a word. Happy Sunday y’all!

🤦🏽‍♀️ and it’s worse for my professional /successful sisters over 50 smh they have it going on EXCEPT when it comes to keeping their legs closed to garbage men

I think alot of woman know the type of man they want, unfortunately those men are sooo hard to find..... the majority are the cheap, broken, no chivalry, non masculine 50 50 loser's..... they are everywhere.... If you have any advice on where to meet a real man, please, im listening

I am so sick of settling for less and the more i upgrade the less men in the pool...leading to singlton in late 30s and 40s+

Thank you Chloe for this message! ‼️❤️

I fall into this category but I'm only critical towards myself and believe only great things for others but as I binge watch your channel I see a bit of change.

Sometimes women hide in broken or bad guys bc they can focus on how horrible he is or focus on trying to fix him in order to avoid getting her own shit together. She doesn’t have to deal with her flaws when she focuses on his, which is dumb bc he’s hurting her in the process and now she got more issues!!!

I forward these videos to my friends to enlighten them! Keep them coming Chole_! ✌️🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💗💗💗

Can you please do a video on the role mother's and fathers respectively play in the creation of a "dusty" (man)? This would be soooo helpful.. thanks and keep up the good work!

Always hit like before I watch because Chloe is that good. Teach. This old dog. Can you teach us about healthy friendships?

This title had me dying this morning lmaooo

My sister at 40 y.o. and has always conducted her life and made decisions from a low self esteem, low vibration mindset. When you talk to her about coming up higher she makes excuses and talks like picking better quality men is a bad thing. The brainwashing began with our mother who raised both of us. She makes excuses for all my sister's shortcomings and blames everybody else that's came in her life as the reason. Her and my mother are alcoholics and extremely narcissistic. They're extremely critical of others and hate that I demand the best from the people i pick to be around me, and loved and respected by others.

Wow ! this is an powerful message.

This channel is so informative and hilarious 😂😂. @Chloe is so smooth with the insults "dumpster diving "😂😂

Hey 👋🏽 Chloe. Happy Sunday. Happy Jetsetting wherever the day brings. 🥰

I am learning this and introducing my mother to these concepts at the same time.

Great message! So accurate! 🎯💯🙌🏽

You won't believe my mother told me that there are many other single women my age, when I told her I have a challenge in finding a healthy relationship. Mind you she's on her second marriage. 🚮🚮

Once Again!! Great video, great editing, great commentary!! Many blessings to u!💜💜💜

I am running this video back selector!!! Need all the sentiments of this message in my spirit at “such a time as this”!!!!!!

Can you do a video on how to work on your self-worth please. You talk about all the time. Please show us how

Awesome video Chloe also information all the love and support you have for women especially women of color Im a light skin woman I was treated no better,because I do not have good luck with black man but now I know why it was never anything wrong with Me!! I know now those were- dustyass Men and they could see that I am a hypergamy type Woman and they were treating a cold so now I understand I just have to walk and know my FULLWorth again

I settled because he was all the support I had. No family and fake friends, no support system. Still miss him because now I'm alone. Even if I had good friends and family, romantic partners and a father of your child can't be replaced by that

Lord I pray I never settle for less :((((

Choose wisely and take accountability for it.

Very real enlightening information.

Powerful message. Thank you!!!!

Thank you Chloe. Blessings.

Very powerful & helpful video. Thank you 💓

Hey sis keep up the great work up up up ❤️🔥💯

No broke men, No 50/50's, Get your inner child therapy, Focus on solutions, most of the all PUT YOU FIRST, PLEASE 😍👊🙏😍

The beginning 🤣

low self worth and low self esteem is prevalent in women that were rejected by their fathers or have had no masculine figure in their upbringing they have an obnormal desire to just be in a relationship nomatter what