"...you aren't trying to force them." Not only do you not need to stay where you aren't wanted - you don't need to be where you aren't enthusiastically embraced
Coach Ken, I’m the dumpee. We work in same building and she doesn’t want it to be weird and still just be friends. Is it wise to go nc even if we see each other every day?
@@o0oStillWeRiseo0oNEVER accept the friend zone. She doesn’t get to have her cake and eat it too. She doesn’t get to chose the type of access she has to you.
No contact has worked for me. It helped speed up my healing process and save my dignity. You can't humiliate and embarrass yourself by doing nothing .😂😂😂😂Im walking with my head held high, knowing that i did not dragg my dignity in the mud trying to hold on to my ex...Go no contact you will thank yourself.I realised that my ex was not worth it.😂😂😂I dodged a bullet.
next month will be 6 months of no contact. im in acceptance that he is gone forever. while it still hurts just as much as it did after day 1... im proud of myself that i decided to just let him go and have the breakup. thank you coach lee! your videos got me through some really tough and emotional times
Good for you. I'm at 11 months of No Contact, 12 months since the breakup. The daily pain mostly faded away after 4 months, and gradually found my center again. I have seen her 10 times in social setting (dance) but nothing more than brief eye contact. One year anniversary brought up more memories and feelings, but I just allowed them to flow and processed them. Allowing myself to cherish the positive memories and experiences because I co-created them. But I have moved on energetically and emotionally. Been dating since Month 5. Your grieving process will be your own and will unfold in its own time. I hope you are able to care for yourself during NC, including simple things like exercise and time with your close friends, or pursuing new interests.
*HELLO COACH* 3year relationship, was in love Ex broke up with me by calling the cops, I never contacted the ex ever again! When you get betrayed by someone calling the authorities on you, You will always be sleeping with one eye open, if you go back!
I miss you but I miss me more. I love you but I need to love myself. I don't want to live with out you but I did before. Time will take me forward one day at a time.
It has been about 6 1/2 months for NC, never tried to contact her or reach out. As coach Lee says the dumper has to break the NC. at first I was anxious if she was coming back or not. Now im slowly starting to fee like myself again. Im becoming a better and healthier version of myself, thank you Coach Lee. I can truly say Im slowly finding my true self.
I’m 31 years old and I’ve been through various relationships throughout my life. I can say with certainty everything in this video is spot on. It was such a hard concept for me to grasp in my late teens and honestly until my late 20s. When you finally have clarity on situations, you will see no contact is the best chance
Omg! After 7 months of religiously watching and following your videos, I just got a message from him today. He asked for forgiveness! It feels vindictive, but now the new challenge of setting boundaries is on the horizon.
no contact really works guys!!! it did. my ex meet up after a year of no contact, followed every coach lee's advice, we have a good time when we met again, hopefully i didn't do too much. let's see what will happen 🤞 we agreed to meet again
Nice one coach thanks for all your videos. They were a god send when I was a mess 5 months ago. I'm now 5 months NC after 8 years together and in a much better place. I succumbed to the realisation the NC rule is for me and not her. I've refound myself and healed. I do still miss her but I wish her the best of luck in life. Thanks again for helping someone during a painfully difficult breakup who handled it like a gent by going NC day 1. I wish I'd be writing here as a success story to reclaim our relationship but I've reclaimed myself. Best of luck for anyone going through a breakup. It's tough but you'll get through it.
Thank you, coach Lee after using the no contact my ex called me 8 days later, and she wants to start over and fresh. I will keep watching your videos because they're so much good information. Thank you once again.
Thank you so much, coach Lee. it worked! Mine back after 31 days of NC. She came with a small chit-chat at first, until she confessed that she missed me a lot and apologized me for everything that she had done to me. But i remember your words that i should take it one day at a time. Excuse my bad English (it's not my primary language) but i wanna thank you for all of your golden advice. You can do it too guys, Trust the process of NC, i know that it hurts a lot, but stay focused on yourself and your goals. 💪
5 year relationship and she cheated. No contact has without a doubt helped me find myself again and get over her. I would be lying if I said I didn't think about her still everyday but it's normal. The biggest part of no contact I have applied for me, is genuinely not holding resentment towards my ex. She made a horrible decision in the end but not holding onto hatred or anger for the betrayal I think is key in my situation.
I'm in a similar situation (10 year relationship) - hard not to feel anger. I think anger helps sometimes. I guess forgive and forget will take some time. Staying strong and focused on (re)building a lifestyle is key in my situation.
I am 2 months in NC, I still think of her sometimes but I honestly feel so good because I focused on personal growth and I’ve made so much progress. In the first month all I wanted was to get back that person but now I can honestly say that I am good on my own and if you want me you have to try to get me back not me because you left me. Focus on yourself give it time and everything will be alright I promise.
@@Hyper0100 I feel so good on my own brother I realised that my relationship was holding me back from so many things. I can say that I feel alive after a long long time. It’s weird when I used to think that she was my “soulmate”. The best thing you can do is mute unfollow or even block your ex so you can move on completely from them and simply focus on yourself and trust me life will become good again.
Thank you Coach Lee for helping me get through this difficult time. My ex broke up with me a month ago and we had been together for 13 years. For 13 years I’ve been doing the chasing, the sacrificing, and all of the work. I didn’t ask him for anything except one day a week and one 15 minute call a day. We had our issues but he always knew that I loved him. He felt unattracted to me by the end because i ended up pulling away and holding resentment because after not being appreciated for 13 years I can only take so much heartache but I still love him and want him back. I know the only way it’s going to happened is if he experiences my loss. I’ve always been there and he knows that. As much as I love him, I’m done chasing. It’s his turn now. I know I was a good gf and brought a lot to the table. He took me for granted and now he’s going to have to feel some grief. I don’t want him to but sadly I know it’s the only way I know that he will come back around.
Stay no Contact and don't break it. Overcome your anxiety no matter what. Do not call him, neither write him at least 2 months. You must be really really STRONG.... Take care of yourself, do some exercise, find activities to do, go out with friends try to keep busy, pamper you, love yourself, don't think and try not to talk about him.
@@myriampatriciaroblesI’ve been in no contact for almost three weeks now and I will not break it. No matter how hard it gets. He’s going to have to figure it out for himself.
I was questioning this method at the beginning but had no other option. 6 weeks later, I bumped into my ex in a concert. Anyway, 6 weeks later, things are good between us. Thanks for your videos.
Please do no contact! My friends don't do this and wonder why their exes don't come back. Argh! Buy the break up kit and binge watch the Coach Lee videos. I did back in 2021. My partner left me for someone else after more than 6 years. We got back together after 5 months. They grew a sensitivity chip.
Similar to me end of October been trying to understand why until last week I gave up , I haven’t heard from her since end of October , we had a business together that built and I got cut out from everything , I’m now learning from this no contact . I lost myself dealing with her . 8 years down the drain
13:13 he wanted a break, I didn’t want that. Whatever issue we have can be resolved but no he wanted a break so I told him I appreciate this is what you want I am gonna give it to you. But I would appreciate if we don’t communicate with each other. His responses was “if this is what I want is fine” 3 weeks NC. I am still struggling but I will get there😢😢
We broke up as a long distance couple about to set up home together. I guess he got cold feet 3 yrs ago just after the pandemic and not able to see each other. He's still at the back of my mind but rarely on my mind. I have changed and see him differently now in a clearer light. He would now have to convince me he was worth being in my life again. We are not kids but a couple in our 60s. Cold feet or lack of attraction after a pandemic lockdown . Nothing out there to side step our breakup.
It works only took 2 weeks. She slept with someone else. But so did I. Trying to mend things. We can't live with out each other. We got to this point at year 3. Stay up on watering your garden early and this may not happen.
What impressively worked in my case was your statement that exes tend to return you the forgotten things when the right time comes 😊That is when I thought : “Doctor Lee, you must have known something”))))
My ex who i was with for about 2 years now recently left two sundays ago after i cheated. Yes i know im a pos and im not proud but its been two weeks on NC i sent a hope your feeling well text and she started pouring her heart out about how much she misses us and that her rebound isnt working. Not sure if this gonna be a success or not but wasnt expecting to hear from her again she said i was dead to her. Keep your hopes up 🙏🏽
Stay strong everyone give your ex the break up in time your ex will come back when your stay away your ex mind will start to miss you no contact does work give it time
My ex and I of 6 years on and off have split 4-5 times. No contact works everytime in my situation. Unfortunately she comes back for awhile then leaves and enters a rebound every single time. Then after weeks or a month or so calls and says how she was wrong and this and that. Use the no contact for yourself and if you see no change in them don’t waste your time no matter how hard it is
I was so scared to ever be in a relationship ever again. I forgot how horrible these break ups feel. I developed avoidant like habits so i wasnt hurt as bad but out of full on fear of abandonment. So i dont put in enough and feel hurt when im left for not being enough. This one i dont think will ever reach out. She would suffer silently rather than risk being rejected and hurt. Shes definitely still in relief stage because ive broken NC every 6 days at most since 2.5 weeks. But after that probably will get the feelings she needs else where, maybe an ex and never look to me again and honestly its killing me more and more every day
Hi Coach, thanks for the video! Long story short I suggested to take a break with my girl as she wasn’t communicating a lot we were in a long distance relationship she Spain and me in Portugal. She didn’t want a break so told me exactly the cliche stories about having to work on herself and I deserve someone better and basically countered the break into a breakup. This all happened in December now almost 4 months later I haven’t heard a single thing however, she’s watching every single story on IG not one but all. I’m currently travelling through Asia and sharing nice pictures with me included. I don’t think her ego will allow her to break no-contact. I notice I’m not seeing any of her stories on IG so I believe she has limited me or she isn’t posting anything she never posted much but I think she limited me. Wondering if I should limit her as well from seeing my stories.
My ex came for a visit to see his baby but kept making nasty sexual comments about a friend of mine and then got really mad cause he tried to kiss me and I said no so he tried to make me kiss him claiming im obsessed with him but I think he's projecting because he's the one that texts me every single day even tho he's hanging out with another woman, it's annoying, I love him but I'm starting to not be able to stand him.
It is, I try to keep communication about our baby and I let him video chat to see her and when he comes to see her he usually stays a night or two on my couch cause he doesn't have a car and lives a bit away, however it's difficult because I'm starting to pull away more and heal and he's getting more obsessive like, it's uncomfortable sometimes
Works!Works!Works!....the dumper does contact you fs...maybe not necesarrily to get back...mine did contact me after 50+ days crying and telling how much he misses me however he did not clearly state that he wanted to get back together ... any which ways its put the ball in my court as they say it.....gotta have patience fellas.
My ex of 4 yrs reached out for the 2nd time jn 3 months of her rebound relationship. She only sees this dude on weekends because she travels but call me to tell me her relationship is "moving quickly" with this new guy. I guess insinuating engagement? After 3 months? Also during the call she tells me she missed me and said she was sad talking to me and was all over the place with emotions talking about my ex wife and all that. I brought the level back down with talking about something more light hearted but I didnt reciprocate feelings. But she kept me on the phone for an hour! And several times was telling me how happy she was in her new relationship. Without me prompting her. It was like she was trying to convince herself she was really happy in the relationship or something. If you have truly moved on and are happy, are you calling your ex while out of town and talking to them for an hour and telling them you miss them? And reminiscing some? Like what gives?
Boy, why you even dealing with her if she already in relation with another guy? She clearly using you to get over emotions n feelings she had for you. How i know that? Cuz i've done that once myself when i was in toxic on/off relation with a guy for 6years who treated me like shit but we was emotionally attached to one another. And i brokeup with him cuz dat but i started talkin to someone new during dat time. He would call me everyday on ph, beg me wanting me back askin for forgiveness giving him 2nd chance N i was emotionally involved with him while dealing with new guy So do not fall for this Next time she contacts u Simply tell her that you think that you n her shouldnt talk anymore till u dealing with another guy N if ure happy with him then goodluck but u cant be part of her daily life anymore. Stop the calls immediately n give her taste of ur abscence Otherwise she gon get over u n move on with her new guy
@@diaryofseresha she has only reached out 2 times in Over 3 months. Last time I didn't hear from her for 2 months and I didn't beg her and I don't break no contact. She was one reach out to me. So she is feeling the loss I guarantee. Especially with a low hanging fruit rebound. This guy doesn't even compare to me on paper. I beat him in everything in life. So makes no sense. He was available and she jumped into it within the same week. So she was distracting herself with him and stayed there.
@@sloanmagnum5009mainly my lack of commitment but she found out I had an engagement ring after but said was too late. The other thing is I took her for granted too long. She felt I didn't appreciate her. I admitted all this and worked on myself and became a better person. She still won't come back. But stayed with a guy who is below me on every level. He literally was the first option and she grabbed on. Now talking marriage with this guy because he was the first option that is showing her tons of attention!! That's not how you pick your marriage partner!! Out of a 4 year relationship! Especially one where we talked marriage and she called me her soulmate! Lol
Thank you! I have followed you for a long time. I implemented a 6 month NC (radio silence) on my 1.5 year relationship when he got cold feet. We are talking again now and his feelings didn't fade - they got stronger. He tried to move on and could not. He said he was depressed and started having panic attacks about me. He expected I'd call and after I didn't he didn't know what to do. No Contact works.
I am managing my emotions as @CoachKen has mentioned in previous videos. Matching his energy. He confessed his love and asked me if I still loved him, I said I wasn't there yet. But I am open to seeing where it goes. I also mentioned that I was dating. There's still work to make sure that the same mistakes do not repeat themselves. He has started going to church and getting counseling to deal with his childhood traumas which he never acknowledged until the breakup. So we will see where it goes. I am also bettering myself in different ways so it's a win win whether it works out or not. But they always come back.
@@diaryofseresha A picture of a restaurant in my state that he loved with a picture of my favorite meal and said hello. I took a couple of hours to respond. And said "hello, I was just there recently, the food (named the dish he liked) at the restaurant and mentioned it was still delicious.
@@patriciaolaleye7299 He was watching all my stories for 2 months, until he told me he don't have time for me. Now he has stopped watching my stories. It's a vicious cycle but i can't stop wondering why he aint watching me anymore. Has he found someone else How to get out of this trap where i literally won't even care if he watching me or not anymore
Haven’t contacted her for 3 weeks after she ghosted me…just found out she hasn’t been at work for 3 weeks, so I just asked if she was ok.. yeh I know stupid but still guilty for not asking if something happened to her.
Give her the space she asked for, work on yourself and just leave her alone. If she reaches out great, if not just accept her decision man thats all you can do
I blew no contact this morning we text a few tines but she didnt show any signs of missing me, thsts 14 days of no contact down the pan, all she said when i stopped texting was " it was nice hearing from you" o well start all over again I was making good progress within myself as well, so dissapointed after she reached out yesterday as well , i cant take it back so move on as best i can now
@@jaydub7386 i just regretted it so mucb afterwards and so disapointed in myself after her reaching out yesterday to say "Hope your ok" feel like I got mugged 😂😂
@@jaydub7386 cheers buddy im trying, shes done so many things out of character since we split so maybe someone else in the pic but its out of my control so just doing day to day of no contact again
I think I messed up. I was no contact for a few weeks and was feeling terrible so ended up messaging my ex that I couldn’t offer my friendship as I needed space and time to work on myself and goals. Been almost 3 months NC since that message. It’s strange/sad that I want to reach out now more so than I did previously…
NC worked for me kind of. I never got my ex back (he never reached out) but I am over him. The breakup is two years ago, since then I was in no contact. My life is now far better and what I know his life went downhill after the breakup.(still single, father and dog died, jobless, doesnt do any hobbies, vacation, trips anymore) A few weeks ago I bumped into him on the streets for the first time since the breakup. He was really hostile and angry, said I should leave him and his family alone he never wants to have contact again. I didnt know if I should laugh or cry. The relationship was 2 years long, wonderful, and the breakup was because of some bullshit excuses. Of course I still wonder, why he is so angry at me after all this time. But I know it is because of him not because of me
Part of his life going downhill is him being "still single"? Perhaps he's grateful to be single? Perhaps he's thankful that you're no longer in his life?
I was doing NC and my ex reached out 2 times within the first 4 weeks.On the 2nd reach out..I asked my ex to have a conversation over phone n my ex left me on seen.Then we had a huge fight over phone n my ex blocked me.Should I continue my NC or move on?
Hello every one here. Coach I wanted to say thank yo. Your videos help curb the anxiety a lot, which is very helpful. I've had a few questions before, but I wonder one thing: Do dumpers generally think badly of the relationship for a while but then over time stop seeing their previous relationship negatively? Or is their opinion not likely to change ever?
@@sloanmagnum5009We had been together for 6 years total with ups and downs but the last year was where the downs became too much to handle for him and it ultimately ended. I would love to believe if it was that long, it couldn't have been a bad relationship (it wasn't for me) but by the end he didn't see it that way. And unfortunately it's been quite a few months since the breakup. So I can't help wondering if seeing the relationship in a bad light is forever or for maybe just a long while.
No contact can have two results either they will contact you or they won't if they do don't take them back because they will hurt you again if they don't they didn't care from day one so you shouldn't either my mind tells me this and I want to accept it wish me luck
she blocked me from everywhere and she blame me because i contacted her. the reason i contacted her because from my credit card it was taken money from platforms and she told me that i dont trust you anymore and bye we havent talked for 3 months. and i blocked her. too
Not sure it applies to me but I officially ended the situation-ship, instead of him. So I dumped him. But here to see if I can learn anything for my future.
Something in my breakup is really bugging me. We've been broken up over 2 months. She said she'd been wanting to split 3 months prior to that. We have a child together and get on ok. She isn't giving me anything to go off. BUT, on facebook, she's still got us as being in a relationship, specifically with me. She's on facebook a lot and she's told all her good friends. Surely one of her friends must have noticed it and questioned her??? I find it confusing and funny. I do want to try rekindle our love, but I'm not going to tell her about the facebook thing.
My girl and I just broke up 3 days ago. It was mutual. Going to do this for the first time and no contact… but she’s on my softball team that I Run, how do I go about no contact when I have to see her once a a week?
Coach, "no contact" did work for me after my breakup with my ex.. However, shortly after he came back around, he said he only wanted to be friends and "sext".. How can I win him back emotionally? 😢
My partner of 14yrs broke up the relationship about 5 weeks ago.. it cut me in two. No explanation as to why!!. So tried getting answers ove the next 2 weeks and got nothing ..then i started the NC after finding your videos , they have helped me get through a tough time . To a point where my ex decided to call around , on the pretense of arranging selling the house .but she started fishing for how i was doing and bringing up issues that she had never mentioned previously about what i didnt do.. take her out more often , but her flowers etc etc.. I just kept calm and said I didn't want to talk about that, it's irrelevant now. Is this her way of seeing if I would take her back , because she regrets her decision.?? What should i do ? Continue with the NC or something else....
@sloanmagnum5009 I thought the relationship was really good , apart from the last 4/5 months where she gradually started to become distant and cold. I put it down to a new promotion at work, so didn't press the fact.. then it was a totally non emotional person I saw in front of me.
@Reina10 she won't initiate, she only cares about herself . And when she does come to the house to do laundry , all she tries to do is fish ,and to see what I know.. I had an idea of the person she was seeing behind my back, and after going to view an apartment . Low and behold the same guys walks out , and when he saw me had went bright red and had a guilty look on his face.. you may ask there nothing wrong with that !!. The guy lives 2 miles from his work place, this apartment is 28 miles from the workplace and 1 mile away from where my ex partner is currently living with daughter.. it is no a coincidence , that after this, my ex arrived at the house . Obviously to see if I would mention it.. I didn't.. I'm done with lies , cheating attitude, and looking forward to moving on to better and brighter things 😁
Coach Lee, If the person expressed that they need time to just be alone and not have to worry about a relationship and to work on themself... Is No Contact for 1 year too much... is there a length of time that seems to work the best? What length of time is too long and should try to move on? Thanks
What about something like church? It’s the last point of contact. I could dip, but then I short myself in other ways. I could stay, but then there is no absence and scarcity. I’m also forced to encounter them and be friendly and be in the same environmenf.
I had to leave my church once over a break up. It was awful to lose the relationship but also the church.. That person was the golden stage boy.. You may need to move churches.
My ex wrote me 2 weeks after she broke up. Then 5 days later and then 2 days after that and then another 6 days later. No idea why. I do reply in a very neutral way when she messages me. It's not me as a person to just ignore, I don't want to come across rude even tho she broke up with me and I was hurt badly. I don't ever reach out and contact her tho.
She just reached out this night, after 3 weeks of breakup and 2 weeks of NC from my part. She asked if i took any initiative to cancel the act of marriage (we were supposed to get married this summer) and to know if i sold the gift i bought for her birthday. I don’t really know if i should answer today or take a few days.
Not every break up is the same ..I mean man on man there was some brutal things said by other side and each side said they want it ..but I still didnt want it but told her I want her to go ..Should I try and do the no contact or should I just wait a few days then call her
So if I agreed to be friends and it’s been 2 weeks now but I haven’t lost feelings is it too late? Or if I start pulling away do you think I can make a come back
My ex girlfriend ended things in a weird way 3 weeks ago, kicking me off her family holiday. She returned from the family holiday just over a week ago and broke no contact to ask I delete any photo's of her and her daughter? Ploy to get my attention or is she really done? Kinda feels like if she's going to process things, it'll be now she's back off holiday?
do you have any videos/advice on nc when walking away because they were playing games? not an ex, never got past the talking/texting stage. I think she's just narcissistic but I think it shook her ego when I walked away. Seems like she just wanted attention but I don't think she's used to being rejected. she's still watching some of my stories, liked a post about a month after I walked away. I've been completely nc since walking away with a very short "take care" text about 5 months ago. I unfollowed her instagram, she's still following mine. I'm just curious what the heck is going on in her head...mutual friends say she's still monkey branching from guy to guy. But then interacting with my social media still...why? I've been focusing on myself, in the gym, focusing on my business. But am I going to hear from her again? Do I even respond if she does. At this point, I feel like I will hear from her again but I'd need accountability and an apology to even care. Most of your videos talk about nc if you were the one who got dumped. What if you rejected them because they weren't taking you seriously?
Coach Lee, he ended things but then after 7 days no contact he started calling- like your other videos where he was testing me he was just calling to speak about random things as if we hadn’t even broke up. He has called a few times .. do I stop answering? Help
Hey Coach, my girl broke up withe me a week ago on the 9th of March. I‘ve sent her a text a day later where i basically said that i do not want the breakout. And another text the next day because of her stuff she needs to pick up. Now a week later i had a moment where i put a a text where i‘ve noted down many many good memories and feelings in a heartwarming text. I would State again, that i respect her decision but i do not agree and i do not expect an answer. Is it okay to send such a text and then go not contact again?
She came back to talk after 5 days of no contact but said she still loves me but she doesn't want to come back but just wanted to hear my voice now I am on no contact again what to do now
What should i do if the person has broken up but wants to be a friend? Like I'm on no contact and it's so hard being friends with someone i see my future with. So i avoid talking to him but now it seems like I'm ignoring him
@@crushnheal not sure, I never said it clearly about not being friends as this conversation happened after our breakup and I couldn't figure out what to say because I knew that being friends won't come out naturally as I still hold deeper feelings for this man. What should I do? What would be the right thing to do? Because I can't have a single conversation with him as a friend and that makes him angry and he thinks I'm ignoring him.
Here is a suggestion for you since I can't find anything on your RU-vid Channel about this particular topic. Can you make a video discussing about what you should do if your ex files a restraining order or signs you aren't getting your ex back like what Brad Browning did.
In this case you should not waste your time waiting, focus on yourself and if it's for you then it's going to be for you, a real lover cannot be stolen
WOW, cant believe its been 7 months. October was the day of our breakup, I've watched Coach Lee on a daily basis while my crying ass off, sleepless nights and this channel helped me calmed down, take control of what I can do, focus everyday on me. Listen to what he says, The situation may vary differently on all of us, but for me, It worked. We got Back at December, no tricks, no manipulation. Everything that he said is true. Calm Down Trust the Process and Focus on you and Let the Chips fall where they may. Thanks Coach Lee! Praying for all of you who are going thru this Gutwrenching scenario.
bc their new lovers dumped them. They will leave you again when they can find a new and more attractive than you. They already betrayed you they will do the same in the future. FAKE HAPPYNESS NOW CRY LATER. IF THEY FOOL YOU ONE SHAME OF THEM, IF THEY FOOL YOU TWICE FOOL OF YOU. DON'T BE STUPID AGAIN.
No contact absolutely works you just have to have patience, they think they have the power over you by dumping you but you need to remember there is only one you and you cannot be replaced!!!
The best revenge for someone ghosted or blocked you is to give them no reaction and Walk away, and take your energy back to yourself and leave them trying to figure out your silence and wondering if you've ever loved them!
Best revenge is no revenge at all. Having no need to do so because you have healed, grown and have become the better version of yourself. Moving on with any remaining bitterness or resentment still gives them rent-free space in your life. Aim to remove that room in your life and be filled with inner peace and inner joy of who you want to become moving forward.
Indeed there is no greater display of power and self worth than walking away. But you have to mean it and never look back unless they reach out to you. Whenever your dignity and self respect is falling apart then you can regain it by walking away once and for all. If they reach out to you then now the power is in your hand whether to consider them or not.
@@Tugus_Mugus I haven't even hurt him , he ghosted me and I just didn't question it, like asking him what happened and why did you do that to me ..I just ignored that and moved on with my life !
Please listen to this man. Not only does it make sense, but twice this has worked for me. This most recent time she wants me back after 14 days. The first time I did not leave her alone and begged like an idiot. I sent all of these stupid emotional messages. Then I started watching coach Lee, I went no contact and in about 6 months she came back. It is a powerful position to be in. I was very confident this time. So happy, sorry for rambling. It really does work folks Update - She has proposed to me and we are getting Married 😂 the same night she came back! I understand that this must be a rare situation but this time she really must have been afraid to lose me during no contact!
NC worked for me. Not to get back with my ex. NC worked for me to get over my ex. I found coach lees videos shortly after my breakup in Aug 2022. 2 yrs almost NC and I’m emotionally detached now from my ex. I still watch the videos even tho I have no hopes of getting my ex back. I don’t want her. I don’t even like her no more. Thanks coach lee for your help in helping me break free from the hurt and pain that was in front of me at that time but not anymore
Why do you say " I still watch the videos even tho I have no hopes of getting my ex back".? Do you mean you have no hope your ex will ever come back. Or, do you mean you have no desire for them anymore even if they did come back? I'm just curious
Keep going strong I've been doing no contact for two months now I have no intentions nor interest to reach out to my ex don't even want a friendship with them. I really want to just heal myself and let them go, they're not the person for me soon they're realize what they've lost
@@sloanmagnum5009 He’s a relationship coach of course he’s covered the topic, but new information comes out. It’s a fast paced world you have to stay on top of what’s happening there is new gems in this one
@@sloanmagnum5009 You don’t get it. This topic has been covered tons of tines, but there’s different nuances to the subject that need updating and refreshing. The older videos are gems, but you’re missing out on key points if you don’t stay current.
we are back in contact after 4 months no contact , we talk everyday and she initiates every call and conversation, she told me she left the rebound because of how he acted, and she realised love with me flowed and felt unconditional. we plan on meeting soon 🙏
I tried the no contact rule. It's been fifteen days, he came back to tell me that he missed me (and I didn't reply). I honestly don't like the way he treated me, but I struggle to come to terms with the fact that from the beginning he wasn't the type of man I expected and I should have trusted my gut feeling. I guess I'm just having trouble forgiving myself. I started to watch your videos to get him back, and now I'm realizing I don't want that. It's hard. I'll update next month, for whoever is in a similar situation. Let's get out of this together :)
@@noahnesambi9845 Hi! Still doing no contact, it's been around two weeks since he stopped texting me after I left him on read like three times lol. I can tell you I'm doing much better, still thinking of him everyday unfortunately but it does get better! I did block his social media so I wouldn't see his life, that helps a lot.
I'm almost a year in NC with my dumper, it made me reflect on my past and I just reached out to my prior ex the other day. Gave her that "aha my ex finally contacted me" moment considering she's getting married soon. Had no intention of getting back with her, and she's doing well and we both wished each other the best. For her it was 3 years to finally hear back from me, so NC does work in ways you don't expect, and in the journey you're growing as a person.
No contact is the only option. It sucks, but it is what it is. You wake up to the feeling of not being able to talk to the most special person you have/had in your life. The feeling of them not being there with you just sucks life out of you. But with time, a month or two, it starts getting easier and you will blossom again.
Try to resist the urge to soothe anxiety by watching no contact videos all the time only in hopes of your ex coming back. Please don’t make the same mistake as me and prolong your grief. Truly do NC for yourself and try to improve anyway you can and let things play out how they will. I know it’s hard to do but please try.
Agreed. Jocko says this, move on and don't look back. It's the only way to have a shot. It's the only move for a shot. Also if you have that mind set you are really trying to move on and probably will which is also good. Tate says sacrifice your Queen. May fail bit It's only way to possibly make a huge comeback.
