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Mate your a great Interviewer but that piece of work you interviewed I have a very REPULSIVE feeling towards & would Never work for him if I had a choice. As a boss I had people virtually fighting over being able to work for me over anyone else, which made it real easy to get men & women for a job to be done which made it a low stress site & I virtually never had to get on anyone's case about being slack.. His reflection on things at least it is mostly right about kindness & not being an A-hole boss, I had plenty of those & had ZERO RESPECT for. I see early on in the interview he is Massively Wrong about many very Important things. And one last thing, DRIVING WEDGES INTO PEOPLE IS NOT BEING Patriotic, that is A VICIOUS ACT.
The current market/economy is unnecessarily tougher for boomers/senior citizens, I’m used to just buying and holding assets which doesn’t seem applicable to the current rollercoaster market plus inflation is catching up with my portfolio. I’m really worried about survival after retirement.
Yes, gold is a great investment and a good bet against the devaluating dollar, been holding some for awhile now, I’m grateful my adviser’s moment by moment changes in the market are lightening quick, cos who know how much losses I would’ve had by now.
I envy you, I’m still trying to recover from losses I incurred in 2021/2022, who is this investment adviser you work with, I’m intrigued and I could use some quality guidance
My CFA ‘’Aileen Gertrude Tippy” , a renowned figure in her line of work. I recommend researching her credentials further. She has many years of experience and is a valuable resource for anyone looking to navigate the financial market.
our economic succes has become so important and fewer people are thriving in the rat race matrix. the problem is we value ourselves based on our economic survival or success. Would you say a stray dog is less valuable being than a dog living in a mansion and being owned by one celebrety. Don't give in. i know how hard it can be when you start believing that you are unworthy for not being successful in this crazy culture(gabor mate has written a wonderfull book explainng this) I do not buy into this guy's explenation of depression being a disease you catch. when you ask if people are feeling happy most of the time they will not catch depression. it is how hopefull you are of being happy in the future and the less you like yr life or think it will improve the higher you will feel down chronically. depression is a wrong term. You feel down temporary or long time.
Volunteer if you can find some time can find something that you feel strongly about, doing for others develops a feeling of purpose & can help towards you feeling good about your self. It is pretty hard growing yourself up & finding other people who are wanting to reach heart in a similar position. good luck 👍🏼
I had a bit of a depression break down at 26, im still here at 55. Seek help, get advice from wherever you can. Don't think that the darkness and bad times stay forever.
"There is nothing wrong with asking someone for a coffee. It is not a problem to show interest." So simple but still so powerful. For most, this first step may be the hardest, the fear of rejection is real. Awesome episode.
It’s not even the fear of rejection anymore, its the fear or retaliation. How is that going to get spun later? It’s a fear propped up by twitter psychos but it keeps seeping itself into daily life for a lot of young men
Powerful words indeed. It took a couple of brain tumors and some painful moments in my life to realize this. Now I have no problem chatting with the people around me. It’s amazing how good it feels to lose the fear of rejection. Be it rejection from friends and family or strangers, I lost that fear or at least 95% of the time, 5% is because I am still human. 🎃
So many gems in this, but my favorite was the first thing he started with (when talking about his mom)...."The most important thing in anyone's life is to have someone who is irrationally passionate about your well being." Truth.
Totally agree! but what happens when that is ill-received and perceived as infantilizing? I think they are Six love languages, the sixth being CARING which is perhaps the most important because it’s universal and constantly expressed with whomever one interacts.
The segment about the most important decision you'll ever make is 100% spot on. Your choice of partner is more important than your choice of school or career.
@@ALCRAN2010 Or, mostly in a woman's case, the right choice for the first one will remove the need for the other two. The commitment of a productive man can secure a woman's life such that her career and education are irrelevant. Women have put love and reproduction on the backburner to their own detriment.
@@NOCDIB It’s not quite that simple. As a wife of nearly 35 years, homeschooling mother of 9 beautiful children, and, of course, homemaker…..a woman places herself in one of thee most vulnerable places ever! Her whole life becomes controlled by another person….where she lives…as in what country, city, living quarters….what means she is given to care for, feed, educate, and nurture her family…..while she balances keeping her husband happy and her children well loved and cared for and progressing forward. It is a given that many of her own needs will be tossed aside….the need for sleep, self time, affirmation of her work or accomplishments (since she is completely at her husband’s mercy for words and show of appreciation for her labors) and often completely losing her own sense of self and suffering through spousal neglect and awful sex! Get real! The man has the upper hand and too many walk away leaving her holding the bag, picking up the pieces in the lives of their children and solely finishing the work of raising them to maturity the best she can with a sudden loss of resources. Unfortunately, I have watched as many women who’ve been home 20 plus years and sacrificed their career and subsequent retirement funds, end up working at the corner pharmacy for $10 an hour trying to feed her children and keep a roof over their heads because her husband ran off with a 24 year old for some pipe dream he had and it didn’t last six months!!! I’ve been one of the lucky ones. My home is still together, my children are prospering. But if I was on the outside looking in, I’d say, “No way!” What young woman would want this?
Exactly. In a capitalistic and sexist society, whoever holds the MONEY holds the POWER. If you set down your bag, you (and your children) could be in BIG TROUBLE. That’s what the purple purse project is about. You always need money to walk away and a way to sustain yourself and your children just in case. “You never really know a man until you marry him.” is a saying for a reason. You never know what someone will do with power after he encourages you to put yourself (and therefore your kids too) in a vulnerable position. Keep that mother bear for yourself and your children out of hibernation! And vet vet vet as much as you can before marriage but even that’s not a guarantee because you can’t control people’s spiritual character and choices! Thanks for writing what you did. My sister is going through it.
I was a boss too & was disgusted in his VICIOUS methods. I'm REPULSED by him & what he did to people. He at least kind of gets it right by telling some of his mistakes at the end at least but he still even now has a very MEAN SPIRIT hidden not too far underneath, I can't stand these people.
@@brianfrederick9219 he admitted he was a Vicious piece of work as a boss to his people working for him & I can see it in his face he still has the mean streak even though he regrets his behavior. He still has a lot of self work to do I think.
@@hiteck007 I've never heard of him before today and know nothing of what he did to anyone. I don't need to know. There are enough meanies I can find on my own.
When I was 23, both my parents were dead. I have no family. I'd moved around a lot while growing up and ended up settling in a city where I knew no one and found it hard to meet friends. I still live and work in that city and earn ok. Having relationships and being part of a social community is just something I've never really considered normal or a god given right. It's actually a fragile thing and not to be taken for granted and difficult to cultivate from scratch if you haven't had it all done for you.
Enjoy every day and the relationship with your siblings. Having projects or doing puzzles, planning a trip are all things to look forward to. In my case I rather be by myself. My children are grown and they have their own lives. As a man you have much more time to have a family so don't be in a hury; find someone that your comfortable with that respects you. Life is not simple for anyone. Even getting your groceries from different stores makes a difference. Go to places with activities that interest you so you meet someone you'll share activities with. Don't focus on what you don't have focus on the family you do have. This video is definately useful so informative.
when a woman doesn't wanna date you it is saving you time to find the right one to be in a relationship with. A woman wants someone that she can trust that is not codescending. Just helpful advice from someone old enough to speak the truth and be realistic.
Well said. I'm sorry for your losses....that is rough. Lost my mother at 14, lost my father just before I turned 31. People think if you're an adult, you should be fine without parents. So we get no credit for shouldering all the extra burdens that come with being parentless. No safety net, no nothing.
Growing up in California in the 70s was paradise compared to what young people have to face now. I worked from 16 and went to school at night and weekends, eventually becoming an an attorney. Even doing a slow start bought my first new car at 18 and my first house at 22 working as a Sheriff's Deputy. (my father co-signed but I did the payments.) It was easy back then if you were willing to work, young people now have my sympathy, they have nothing to look forward to and it just keeps getting worse.
I disagree to some extent. I work at a major univeristy and I have seen kids who can barely pass my course get great jobs at high salaries at major investment firms with GPAs that are a fraction of what mine was decades ago when a C was what most students earned in a class. The reality is that the world is great for a tiny percentage of the students who are the chosen ones for whatever reason. The other students who are just as good or better do not get those few jobs. Yes, you have to work hard once you are hired, but how many people are working two or three jobs to make ends meet now and who may have been doing so for years. The falsehood is in telling college-bound students that a great degree means that you will get a great job. There are probably 100 equally qualified people, if not far more, for everyone of those great jobs. You got it because of your connections or just plain luck of the draw.
At 63 not regretting having no children, reflecting on this msg i realize my whole life has been getting my head straight responding to being a wild, ADHD, rebellious teenager who originally had a promising academic career, but I squandered it at time. Time. Lots of spiritual stuff going on, finally finding God, now looking at maybe 20 years remaining. Lifespan, who knows could be less or more. Realizing that deep core issues can steer you like a rudder. If you don't have extreme issues, and or you can get hold of yourself as a young person, get away from p***, directly interact with women, as a man, you can learn to walk in the way you were created. I find myself relating to younger people and a healthy way, but also attracted to women a half or third my age. Trying to make up for lost time? How much success is really to be found in that regard? Seek God, and walking his ways, eternity awaits us all.
If the price of a typical tattoo or computer or firearm would have been invested in the stock of: Apple, or Amazon, or Nvidia, or Nike, or Home Depot, or Monster Beverage, or any of many dozens and dozens of other, well-known companies when many of the kids today were younger, or if this had been done so over any twenty-year period in the past half century, that one small investment would likely be worth a quarter-of-a-million dollars today. 💲 😮 🌼 - j q t -
It’s very wise to realize one’s shortcomings and to work on improving yourself. I was a 20 year opiate addict, and after just 4 years clean, I own a home, have a career, marriage, and I have all my kids under my roof. You can do it bro. Just don’t be an asshole. Kindness is cool.
@@paradimebeats It's an honest reality that I accepted, but doesn't mean I'm giving up on life. I only say that behind closed doors, why would I say that in front of someone? we're considered terrorists already lol
I graduated from UCLA with a 3.89 GPA at a time when the acceptance rate was about 10%. I was very motivated, but not in business. I was motivated by academia. Thanks to the corporatization of academia, I barely made enough money to survive. I moved to another country so that I could have a life instead of work for three different universities, and never have enough money or time to live a life. The US is a brutal country.
Congratulations! The US is a terrible place and you're better off for leaving. I wish I could. I always wanted to live in New Zealand. Hopefully someday. Peace.
It's awful here. I've never experienced living in another country so I base that assessment on absolutely nothing. Visiting places and living in them are quite different. I'm 56 years old. Single, never married, no kids, just retired. Not living huge by any means. Will eventually need to work again. Will stay out of corporate/gov arena more than likely.
Costs in the U.S. are way too high, especially on the 3Hs (housing, health care, higher education). You'll hear from some commentators about how TVs or flights are so much cheaper than 50 years ago, but they're just trying to mislead you because it doesn't offset the 3Hs.
Very much so, and is getting consistently worse! I have friends from other countries that tell me how they work to live and not live to work, even having siestas in the middle of the day. I can't imagine it, although that would really be nice.
Just wanted to congratulate you on your professionalism. The guest can fully express all their views without interruption, it's fresh and relaxing opposed to mainstream interviews. Great job.
That's true, unlike Bilyeu who notoriously likes to drive the conversation towards himself and his wife all the time. This guy here is so altruistic that he even forgot to put on shoes when filming the show...
Yes! I’m a 28yo male and growing up I entirely believed that expressing romantic interest in a girl was bad and unwanted. (Needless to say I have some real regrets) I was obviously scared which didn’t help, but I received the message repeatedly from trusted adults. This was before the cyber-pc culture even existed, I can’t imagine how it feels now.
I hear you and feel the same. My whole life beat into me from media to respect women, don't do anything that will make them uncomfortable, don't touch, etc which has lead me too not be aggressive enough by women's standards or desires for dating.
@@scott1294 I do think respecting women is important. I think the mistake that guys like us make is internalizing the opinion that our desire is unwanted. We heard the message somewhere. Maybe our mother figures suffered abuse, maybe they were caught up in a cultural ideal that demonized masculine assertiveness, maybe we were just scared. It ultimately doesn’t matter. The truth is, everyone wants to be desired, desire is nothing to be embarrassed about. Reclaiming your desire and creating the world you want is the important part. That’s what women are attracted to and that’s what men respect. The catch is, you have to consider the whole world you are creating. If you go down the dark-psychology rabbit hole, you will just be spreading a ton of unnecessary pain and it probably won’t work anyway because there’s a lot to misinterpret there which will just cause you more pain. If you’re overbearing and needy, you’re sending the message that you need a lot from them and no one wants that regardless of gender. The world I want to create is direct and respectful. I now approach when I’m interested (and feeling brave) and gracefully accept a “no” when I get one and move on. It’s terrifying but it gets easier every time and I’m surrounded more and more by quality people who reciprocate that behavior. My world is getting better.
@@gusmcmanus6159 I knew the women desire men, more specific confident masculine males but those years of being told to not make women uncomfortable take a while to deprogram. I didn't mean, to not respect girls or males, just not care what they think but still be considerate and kind to people. For me, I am almost too kind, and I do it because I want to but think for women it comes off as nice guy. Either way I have worked on myself to not care what they think in terms of the approach. I now have a mindset of abundance instead of scarcity which helps with confidence thinking there are other girls to ask if this one encounter doesn't work out. I keep that mindset all the time now and it is working. Scarcity mindset made me put too much importance on approach or date and tense up and not let natural flow occur. I watched lots of YT videos including how to make a great app profile and took very good pics which has resulted in lots of dates and many likes on dating app that I haven't even got to checking all of them out yet. One other thing I have noticed, I am old school and I prefer to call instead of texting all the time. The girls I have dated have all mentioned that I am the only one calling and talking for 1/2-2 hours which builds great emotional intimacy, texting just isn't the same,
Almost 28 and it just feels more depressing. I have had some really really harsh rejections and it gets difficult to approach women confidently with that thought in the back of your head where you know you're going to get shit on
This podcast was so interesting. I’m 45 and recently really struggled with the recognition that financially I am not where I expected to be following a divorce. To hear someone else express that as such a difficult time made me feel a sense of calm and patience
@Jason MP Yes, I think it actually does. You don’t to impress anyone or prove anything. Just do the best you can and trust that the pieces will come together. I think they will.
It is so weird seeming to be one of the few males under 30, married for 5 years, with a kid and not dying financially. I moved to where I needed to, to make enough money for my family. It may be a frozen hell, but I can provide for my family. I think if I hadn’t met my wife in Highschool and married in my early 20s I could have been one of those disaffected young men, I almost did anyway. But having responsibilities and stepping up to the task is what saved me from myself. Welcome to my Tedx talk 😅
I’m 58 and relate to much of what he says although my childhood was trauma ridden and I learned to be street smart very early and I have a few life mantras that saved me from people who pulled me back from the brink. ‘If it’s to be it’s up to me’ is one ‘No one is coming to save you so save yourself is another ‘ and last but not least ‘No other success can compensate for failure in the home’. I’ve cobbled together a life on this and underpinned it with trying to be kind as my early years were brutal and I never wanted my kids to experience this due to my negligence. You get older and appreciate things more deeply for sure. Great episode.
His examples of losing a parent and having a kid are the most accurate things I’ve heard on all of your podcasts... very powerful, and from experience, very very true.
Something which has become very apparent to me in the last couple of years is how much our society has encouraged and conditioned us to strive to live “independently” from our families. Not only is this ideal presented as aspirational, those who don’t manage to achieve this goal are looked down upon. Examples being young people fixated on moving out of the family home, with those who “still” live at home being seen as having failed, and the majority of elder people now living in care or retirement homes instead of with family because they “don’t want to be a burden”. I am absolutely convinced that this trend has caused a large part of the pandemic of loneliness, depression, suicide, cognitive illnesses (such as Alzheimer’s and dementia) as well as many physical conditions that we are now facing. These issues do not seem to be as prevalent in societies where people live in larger more traditional family groups and communities. One thing that a lot of people said to me when I had my son two years ago was “it takes a village to raise a child”. Well, I think this saying can be extended to many of the things that we have to deal with in life but for a lot of us that village does not exist to the degree we need and online communication is not an adequate solution. I feel that the future of our society in many ways will be driven by us reverting back to living, working, shopping and socialising in more local community groups.
i completely agree! I still live at home at 25, i have graduated university and work in a job and i don't have a partner right now. i live at home because the housing maket in my country (Germany) is insane, food prices have doubled in the last year and electric / heating / water bill have also risen, while my paycheck stayed pretty much the same. living at home saves me money, gives me a sense of security and i have my family around me all the time. i just think it is so funny how erveryone says 'family/ friends is the most important thing' but can't wait to get away from their own family :D also in the last three years there was a big amount of time when it was illegal to meet other people outside of your home, so if you were living alone, you were alone 24/7 because most of the time you even had to work alone at home (thanks covid)
@@raconteur5195 Young men are not the problem, this time women fucked the world also for the first time since the dawn of humanity men are leaving them alone
because the main driving force of our society is the profit motive, not our wellbeing or prosperity. This causes everything to work in a way which gradually reduces our existence to being exclusively producers and consumers. Just look at how people live their life, outside of work people spend the majority of their (usually very small amount of) free time consuming (partying, drinking, social media, video games, watching movies/series, eating out, etc.) and the remaining time sleeping. We are a money making/spending machines.
"You feel like you're walking around without a limb" Some of the most accurate words I've heard so far to describe the feeling I've experienced since the day I lost my son last year. Rest easy till we meet again, son. I love you. Johnathan ♾️ 27
I'm 34 and it's in this year I've taken so many small moments in, reading a book with my kids, looking out my window in to the street at whatever is there, cooking dinner for my family and watching them enjoy it. It's not alway easy to stop and find gratitude in 'just being' but if you manage to do it where you can it really does wonders for your wellbeing.
I think this video criticized Andrew Tate SO wrongly. Let's be honest. Scott seems smart and all but he must not do his research. Andrew Tate tells men all the time that IT IS their fault if they can't find women. It's the quote un quote blue pilled mentality that tells men "just be you", in spite of the fact that, that doesn't work at all. Andrew Tates entire message is you must change and be better. He just doesn't absolve women of any wrong doing either, and is actually equal.
@@AC-mp7cx I agree, No research done at all. Go to the "Better Bachelor" channel he's done all the research & I know he's right. And what's worse is the information applies to Every western nation. I'm in australia & we got the same Mega dramas here with women only wanting the Top 5% of Men Exclusively and the rest are totally INVISIBLE to them & it's also a Statistically Proven Fact. I won't put up with women's sick attitudes & me being single for 3 Decades is Not my fault, it's theirs with their Gold Digging throw away attitude
I'm 33 and have spent the entire year doing exactly the same. It's hard to show how much I've grown but I feel it in my soul more and more every day. So glad it's not just me waking up to real joy instead of chasing highs sold by the world.
@E I guess your one of the lucky / unlucky ones. The statistics are not on the man's side of having a long term relationship at that age. I'm too old to bother anymore. Woman are only good for a Quickie these days if their into that & then you goto watch out for STD's, narr it's just not worth it.
@@kas1843 Mass media and the wealthy celebrities praised such kind of lifestyle for decades. If liberalism and capitalism are making people stupid and easy to fall into mindless hedonistic consumerism, is not just a poor population fault.
@@Porelcaminitoyotellevare He is acting as if we don't have billion-dollar advertising/marketing firms spending millions on research on how to manipulate people into consumer culture.
You can only understand what its like to be a certain age when you are that age. You can only understand what it's like to be you and live your own life. These are great thought provoking insights in this interview.
I have traveled to 14 countries around the world. And the US is the country with the MOST social SAFETY NETS. Americans are just so bubble wrapped, there are sooooo many social welfare programs, free food stamps, free housing, free phones, free health care. Everything is FREE FREE FREE. It is no wonder Americans are soooo NOT MOTIVIATED!! Since everything is free, why bother trying to better yourself, or start a business to make money. Even when calling any US companies, the customer service reps are always kissing up to Americans. ...You all should trying calling any companies in Russia, china, India, South America. It is YOU who will have to do all the kissing up the government officials and to the companies. And yes, you will have to bribe them, to get anything done!!
I think the reason life gets better after 45 is because reproductive hormones falls to the way side. You kinda turn back into who were before puberty but with wisdom. If we could be honest about these changes and not make them some bad evil thing that there would be a lot happier people. Just like puberty was a ..process….so is changing back to your old self…
He's infected with leftism and woke. We need to grab one of those defibrillators the woke medics are installing everywhere and see if we can shock the woke out of him. Ask him to say "Climate Change" or "Conspiracy Theory", then give him a jolt.
Aha but being honest is not the same as being right - they are too seperate things. Being honest just means telling others how you feel. The problem is that the world does not revolve around your feelings. The world doesn't care how you feel so being honest doesn't really do that much as you think it does. We live in a world where money is king - that is the world we have created, so if you have money you can do anything, money is king, not honesty.
I was made fun of so much in school and came home to a mentally ill mother and alcoholic father. I am 68 years old now and the horrors of life were all perpetrated by the people around d me. During vivid lock down I discovered how much I love being alone. So I respectfully disagree. Because in my experience most people are horrible. I experience peace for the first time in my long life. I read I think I pray I write I as so stressed out before being around others. If people are horrible we are better off alone..
People aren't horrible, you just had a bad experience. There are many good people out there, and pretty much you are one of them, and it all comes down to what you do with this 'good' in you. Everyone talks about people being bad and all, but what are you?
Lost a parent a year ago tomorrow. I saw in your business Q and A that you said inspiring people was your motivation. This episode helped me immeasurably
I lost my mom when I was six years old. It ruined the trajectory of my life. Everything happened out of sequence. I had no guide, no advocate, I was an inconvenient leftover. You speak the truth.
@@johnwehunt4305 Your objectivity is alarming. Strength may be a by-product of loss and grief but it will never make up for the loss of a parent at such a young age. Grow some empathy.
I lost my mother at 12. I just started feeling like i matter at 33. I was always beautiful , kind and smart but felt so worthless all because I never had the validating love of a mother. I sympathise with you. Be strong for yourself and mother yourself. Love and light 💡
I was very impressed when Scott talked about praising his team. Praise is one of the best motivators there is. I worked at a fairly low paying job for years because I felt appreciated. Everybody on the team loved our boss. Being praised is an incentive to work harder, being criticized makes you want to quit.
I personally agree with you but with the caveat that praise (from your superior professionally or in life generally) without strong respect and trust in their opinion just makes you lazy.
He was very spot on on the dynamics of the modern dating apps. It used to be more like 80/20. Now it's getting to a point where it's 90/10 or even 95/5.
I think the key to avoiding a feeling of mundaneness as you get to that 25-45 range is to live a simple, minimal life when you're 18-24, or whenever you are truly financially independent. Cook all your own food, have a routine you can stick to, don't buy meaningless crap, etc. It's boring as hell to cook your own meals, not drink too often, go to bed early etc, but you get used to it. The earlier you start, the sooner you get through the refractory period of despising mundaneness. You forget what vices (i.e. going out, takeaways, buying nice things) are like, so when you do it once in a while, you really appreciate it. Works for me at least.
Idk tbh I think we get anehdonia because our biology wants us to reproduce. I genuinely think you will necessarily get into that mundane life as you get older and there is nothing you can do about it. You're not biologically meant to be single without children at 25-45. You're a full adult passing by his youth.
I just turned 40. Lost my dad last year. Was taking vitamins and working out to boost my mood, then wound up with a horrible, horrible case of B6 poisoning. Levels of 1022. Tinnitus, insomnia, visual snow, depression, paranoia, vomiting... then got covid 3 times. Like I got uppercutted 5 times in a row in the span of 2 yrs. While trying to keep my business afloat & take care of my mom. Its suppose to take 1 full yr to heal from this. I'm 5 months in. Still feel sick half my days but am feeling so much better overall. Like I'm waking up from a coma. Really I just wanna stop being hard on myself. Telling myself nonstop I should be making more, have a wife & kids by now. On the bright side my dad was a great father. Best I could've asked for. And thankfully I still have a great mom. And great brothers. A family who cares about me. We have to find what is important. What we are greatful for. Take the swings to the chin. Then put your chin up, chest out & try to get on the best you can.
He’s delusional to think his kids at NYU represent most of their generation. It’s NYU with an acceptance rate of 13%! It’s not public high school in Alabama. For a professor who has good insight, it was a lame idiotic comment.
@@contessajones5619 If the only thing you have to say about a person a single mishap or flaw, I guess you must have come directly from heaven, as I assume you must be perfect. Wish you the best for the rest of your life.
The best way to think about rejection that helped me is… if you and a girl don’t get along, it’s just a misalignment of beliefs and values, not necessarily rejection. Just put yourself out there and if you’re worth something and feel good about yourself, someone will not reject you. At a certain point it’s a numbers game.
People today are deeply afraid of rejection. I don't get.... Rejection is just a natural part of life. I always ask for what I want, and if it's a NO then so be it. At least I asked and had the balls to put myself out there. people have become extremely fragile, soft, and narcissistic. Their whole identity is a few good moments put together on social media, it is essentially a house of cards. If people would put down the video games, social media, eat a cleaner diet, and go to the gym to get in shape they would feel 100xs more confident and happier with themselves.
But a very depressing numbers game. Why keep playing a game you never win?? Forget women and focus on yourself. Let women fend for themselves out there.
I don't think a positive frame of mind is going to help in every case. In many cases, it only helps initially. Many people don't have popular characteristics, so they are rejected every time. That makes your future seem pretty bleak. I knew 2 guys who committed suicide when their girlfriends dumped them. It took them a long time to find someone they liked, since all the others they liked, refused to take the time to get to know them. When they lost the one girl who did take the time, they were devastated. They thought they had lost their one chance at love, because they had been rejected so many times before. People don't have to have sex with everyone they meet, but if they have some free time, they should at least take the time to get to know the people they aren't immediately attracted to. That would at least give the rejected ones the feeling that they have a chance, to one day find love. You can recover from being rejected. Even if you are rejected 9 times out of 10. But you CAN'T recover without that 10th person. Everyone needs SOME acceptance from those they like.
If you are worth something? Well I guess i am not worth anything. I am a woman and I experienced nothing but rejection for the first 30 years of my life. Eventually I met another nerd like me and I was finally not rejected.
I'm sorry, but I don't know the interviewer's name, but of the episodes I've seen, he is literally one of the best interviewers I've ever had the pleasure to watch. Just brilliant how he gets people to open up so quickly and share things we've never heard from his guests. But let's not overlook Professor Galloway. He is one of the most brutally honest and well thought out observers of the human male condition. Two greats, one interview. Brilliant.
Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Instead of trying to predict and prognosticate the stability of the market and precisely when the change is going to happen, a better strategy is simply having a portfolio that’s well prepared for any eventually, that’s how some folks' been averaging 150K every 7week these past 4months according to Bloomberg.
Careful. He’s 100% off the mark on a few things for which he presents as undeniable. He doesn’t understand those subjects, but he seems to have emotional ties to his opinions about them. E.g. “stolen elections”, “climate change,” etc.
@@danielplainview6527 Just because he may not, in your opinion, know as much about certain topics as he claims, it does not invalidate his other points on masculinity and human social interaction for example
@@George-du9bf I don’t disagree. It’s just that most people have a difficult time sussing that out - the may properly articulate one topic, while only sounding insightful about another for which they are way off the mark.
I think Galloway is wrong about that answer. If he was, as he says 'kinder' when younger, he wouldn't have got anywhere near as successful as he has. He would have been a doormat. The very sort of guy he was talking about yes, the bottom 46%. Because he was mean and brutal got him where he is. Otherwise he wouldn't have been anything now. He is succesful. He is just guilty now and has the luxury of reflection. The guy conradicts himself on every statement he makes.
@@bogusmogus9551 If you are getting up and breathing every day, and interacting with people like me, then you have not failed at iife! Don't compare your inside to someone else's outside!
I don't know any young, single woman who has a car, a job and an apartment or a house who wants to mother a man by ordering him to put a shirt on and go to work. Or put down the bong/porn. And explicitly prescribing women use sex as a weapon to get a boyfriend or husband to be an adult has never been something I've ever seen men respond to with anything other than resentment or rage. Women want reciprocity, intimacy and presence in a mate. I hate how "women want a mate who can access resources" is chronically interpreted as gold digging. Women prefer partners who demonstrate the social and emotional maturity needed to feed, clothe, bathe and shelter yourself. If you're physically fit, fine. If you exude "big dick energy?" Good for you, I guess. But mostly, the women I know want someone who shows up and is true to his word.
Women prefer to be #10 to the #1 guy than #1 to the #10 guy. They are hypergamus by nature and with social media (instagram) and dating apps an average looking female is constantly bombarded with offers from chads and tyrons way over her league. After a few pumps & dumps she loses the ability to bond and becomes disinterested in men all together. Some woman empowerment at play: being 40+ using antidepressants and joining female groups to grieve for the children you will never have. (40% of single women at 40-50 age brackets on antidepressants, 80% of them did want to have a family).
yeah no. a young woman like that will move in a good looking bum in a heartbeat . he's driving her car doin nothing while she's at work.. I see it all the time.
@@perrycoffey5410 actually it’s young women who want this more than older woman. A lot of young women are going 🏳️🌈 because of male behavior or rather stay single.
I’m a black man who was born and raised in California and this man Scott Galloway 100,000,000% gets it. His childhood and where he is now is eerily close to my own. From the Universities he attended, to the entrepreneurial struggles, to what fueled the drive to partake on that hard entrepreneurial mission, to taking care of his mom which I started doing in my teens. He’s also right about the residual effects of being isolated.
California (Califor-nia).....the name comes from Califa or Khalifa... Khalifa is an Arabic name meaning land of islamic rule...lol how many ppl know this fact.
When I, some lady, was online dating in college I assumed everyone my age was also a broke college student and that was fine because I knew eventually that would change. I met my husband that way and he’s by far my favorite person in the world and I consider myself very lucky. He picked me up in his rusty loud piece of shit car, lived with his mother, but we were inseparable since day one of meeting. Now we’re relatively well off, but we certainly didn’t start that way.
Getting older is bittersweet. It brings to focus what you are truly made of. It also helps you shed all the silliness in your head, thinking you are the center of this world. I'm not, "you" are. I've found joy is helping give substance to others.
I can totally get he still thinks negatively of himself. Growing up without a dad present. Losing your mother early. The love we recieve from parents and family throughout our youth is something we carry with is our whole life. It sounds like he has had a lonely, hard life and he just made the most of it. I can relate!
Yes Francis, I think the same. I'm enjoying the conversation but I have to keep pausing because his vibe is weighty and sad, and that makes me want to click away, but curiosity keeps me pausing to read a few comments, back to listen to some more (whilst trying not to glance at the screen: his kyphosis makes me sad).
Watching this and just thinking wow... Scott's ability to decipher social behaviours and articulate in such a way that it encourages and empowers the viewers. Great guest!
I saw a young man out in public wearing a bright red sweatshirt with Bold Black words saying "Never Catch Feelings" This is tearable for men of these days to have a belief that you should be dry in your auric field. This is Slowly Zombifiing a segment of our youth!
Never Catch Feelings is a humorous shirt logo which actually announces, "I'm a sensitive emotionally intelligent man just longing to fall in love with the woman who responds to my shirt words". I love your "tearable" as a misspelling of "terrible"! Tearable: def. Capable of invoking a lachrymose response.
This guy is like a well balanced Jordan Petersen. Also, as a man in his 60s, I can confirm that you find happiness in mundane things. When I retire, all I want to do is take long walks in the woods.
@@theresamcgallicher He seems to be saying that young men are entitled to women's bodies by saying they haven't had sex in 12 months. He doesn't give a figure for women. Then saying women only want certain types of men. He ignores, that men also only want certain types of women. He talks about the bottom 50% of men on these dating sites but what about women? It's not like they have any better off, it's just they don't end up as mass shooters because they can't get a date. Then he was talking about how a guy needs a girlfriend to be motivated by her withholding sex. WTF? This guy seems to be repeating a number of incel talking points. This guy also seems to be arguing in favour of the patriarchy. The big lie we were sold was that the sexual revolution benefitted us. It benefitted men a whole lot more.
I really appreciate your honesty (7:07) where you mention that people who are wealthy are often not honest about how they ended up that way. They make out that it was just doing what they were passionate about. The honesty about the difference people live according to whether they are wealthy or poor is so refreshing. I also like the fact that you mentioned that being your bare essentials---being a white male really did help.
This is my favorite podcast episode so far -- couldn't just play this in the background, I had to sit down and watch to make sure I was getting every bit of knowledge I could from this conversation.
Being isolated has been terrible for me but the people I have been around have been many times worse, we should be able to retreat from the kinds of people this world has created, reinforced, rewarded
WOW I really resonate with your story Prof G. I'm 44 and made it and lost it twice. Going for round 3 in my 'happier' years. I also lost my dad at 33 and my mom at 41.Thank you for this talk.
This is probably the best birthday gift I could've gotten from somebody who doesn't know me - thank you, Steven. If somebody wants to watch a single podcast this year, it should be this episode. So many insights, so clear and concise. Btw, amazing guests and amazing interviews on this channel in general. I have such a warm memory of listening to this podcast on my way to work/gym alone in the car while my wife to be was in US. Damn it if it doesn't add at least 1% to my becoming an entrepreneur. Warm regards from Serbia, keep up the amazing work. :) P.S. 'Western' podcasts should never underestimate how much impact they have on the climate and view-of-life of the educated ppl in a bit more 'Eastern' parts of the world. Never forget that! Much love.
I think this video criticized Andrew Tate SO wrongly. Let's be honest. Scott seems smart and all but he must not do his research. Andrew Tate tells men all the time that IT IS their fault if they can't find women. It's the quote un quote blue pilled mentality that tells men "just be you", in spite of the fact that, that doesn't work at all. Andrew Tates entire message is you must change and be better. He just doesn't absolve women of any wrong doing either, and is actually equal.
Andrew Tate teachers red pill pornography “philosophy”. There is terrible toxicity against women and relationships in general. Men taught to lie and decisive, cheat and steal. I’m all for channels that teach men LOVING game and self-improvement/self-esteem--but they are RARE. We need more men who are actually helping men build loving and lasting relationships with their partner and children!
Awesome episode, it’s so good when people are so open and vulnerable with their experiences and their journey. I relate so much to time flying past.. I’m only 29 so I’m glad that I caught on relatively early.. Hearing him talk about not laughing or crying out aloud for so long.. That really hit home for me! I started working full time when I was just 15.. And it feels like since then I haven’t laughed or cried uncontrollably.. When you let your life become busy and mundane you really do fall out of touch with your emotions.. How lucky I feel that there is a platform like this for me to hear other peoples stories and how they’ve overcome and dealt with the adversities in their own life!
I think this video criticized Andrew Tate SO wrongly. Let's be honest. Scott seems smart and all but he must not do his research. Andrew Tate tells men all the time that IT IS their fault if they can't find women. It's the quote un quote blue pilled mentality that tells men "just be you", in spite of the fact that, that doesn't work at all. Andrew Tates entire message is you must change and be better. He just doesn't absolve women of any wrong doing either, and is actually equal.
I must say you are an inspiration because I started up investing and trading as a scared investor who doesn’t want to lose money, glad to say I’m very profitable now and bought my first house through it
I've watched this interview everyday the past week and it's incredibly enlightening. Both of you gentleman are very thoughtful, intelligent and inspiring. Thank you.
@@vegetossgss1114 that is sad, its like we're living in medieval times where a Prince or Princess was married off for alliances. I just looked up that term and under the "See Also" part, "Gold Digging" was one of the terms that it is synonymous with. Goodbye to romance. 💘
@@vegetossgss1114I find it refreshing to see a self-described progressive acknowledge the existence of hypergamy and the value of masculinity. Most progressives I've encountered are strongly opposed to the idea that there is a hypergamy, calling this view a sexist myth. It's not often that you find a progressive with a sense of nuance.
Excellent interview! You listened and let Scott give complete his answers. Galloway is honest, shares his faults and failures and in so doing helps us be honest with ourselves.
This man just dismantled us millennials and gen zs to the t, like I’m perfectly self aware of what’s going on in our generation but his simple commentary on we lack on a generation due to social media was needed. Especially with the top 10% of attractive social users get all the love, I’m definitely the top 50% as it’s always been a hit and miss but I get there but I definitely seen the bottom percentage get no love at all. That’s why we need to get out there and be more present in society, create connection. I wanna meet my wife in a shopping centre not on instagram lol. Great guest
Hi there, early millennial here. Coming from a place of encouragement and Not sure which gen you identify with, but from my perspective if you were coming of age in the 90's early 00's before the social media boom we have today, we had chat rooms then myspace. Meeting (decent) people was a challenge then. Attractiveness standards were pretty high in person because of magazines, TV and rampant body dismorphia expected of females and males. It seems to have gotten worse. It's gotta be 10 times harder now 😞 and I am sympathetic to anyone trying to navigate that mess because no group has it any easier. I remember everyone seemed obsessed with bars, raves, partying, drinking and all the things that come along with such events while living it up on an unreliable paycheck or two (when I started/was dating). Meanwhile, I was searching and hoping for a loving husband early on and most would consider me attractive. People would actually scoff when I said dating was hard for me. I'd get the "you're being ridiculous, what person wouldn't want you speech". When getting down to the why when people didn't want anything serious. Most didn't want a long-term relationship because they didn't feel they were where they needed to be financially, college debt and needed more time making money...including myself buying into that narrative at one point in my 20's. I met my husband at 30 while he was working a shift making minimum wage at a grocery chain. He approached me. First thing I noticed was his work ethic. He worked hard with passion and charisma. The same way I function with work. I just wanted a decent, loving person in my life. We hit it off. We struggled financially for a while living in crappy apartments caring for our child. We made it through. It wasn't until recently, better paid jobs and living situation came along after we were married. So I'd say advice for anyone just because someone isn't making what you think they should make, or you aren't where you think you should be financially, doesn't mean the potential isn't there to be comfortable eventually. Struggle, grit and maturity sometimes shows what partners are made of. I hope you meet someone wonderful one day, and I would highly recommend at a shopping center! not social media.
@@melinda6768 nah appreciate your thoughts , I’m a 90 baby and your right every generation had its difficulties. And it’s definitely comes down to me again not being ready due financial blah blah but the more I look at it, it’s like when am I ever going to be ready ? So I definitely acknowledge that struggle comes regardless it’s best to do it with someone who has the same values and vision as you. But it so hard nowadays to meet someone’s girls got so much options and even the not most attractive girl will even give you the side eye as social media lol but Yh I’m just going to be more social and less distracted about the future as we’re already fucked anyways 😂
Does this man realize, Millennials don't have sex because they're afraid of being "metoo WOLF'd!" when they ask somebody out for a date. Oh & the Baby Boomers who raised us abnormalized hormones, banned us from having relationships by telling us we were "too young for love" & to focus on careers & other meaningless garbage. When Millennials tried to get married young, we were ostracized, gaslighted & our relationships were sabotaged by our Baby Boomer parents who thought they knew better & wanted us to go to university & wait until we were in our 40s before we started dating & getting married. Now, we're full of anxiety... Oh, but at-least we have expensive property & a university degree; never-mind we're single, lonely & have had ZERO practice at relationships. But, at-least I've been able to retire at 35 years of age. Can't spend my money when I don't have a girlfriend.
@@melinda6768 Thanks for sharing that story. I have a feeling there are fewer women these days who would take the time to appreciate the character of someone who is working at a grocery store. Your life is so much better for it!
i am 30 still alone. i hate my life. two women rejected me and both lairs cruel. Women have easier time finding freaken partner . We need made equal by punishing women for cruelty emotionally. I am kind, I had more money these women and its messed up. I had sex last 12 months but not very much fuck feminist. they want call throwing beer bottle during argument with gf.
Quiet quitting is because companies are mismanaging us and are actually breaking down our internal motivation. I didn't quiet quit, I was just driven to my limit and I struggled to squeeze out the minimum from myself by the end (we had layoffs this spring because they moved most of our jobs to the Philippines). They insisted on stats, even if the stats lied because people were cheating but the figures couldn't reflect that, and on motivating us with bonuses when I am just not motivated by more money, I wouldn't even log my overtime even in times when they would pay it (my team was salaried). I was motivated by making a difference and being thorough but I kept being told, effectively, to just be faster instead. Now I have a lot of trouble task switching, so becoming faster at the work we were doing wasn't an option for me. Anyhoo, I learned a lot, I'm grateful for that, worked on an amazing team with fantastic people, but I'm also glad it's over because the life has been squeezed out of me to the point I'm still recovering
I totally feel this. I’m normally super motivated and enthusiastic at and about my work, but I feel I haven’t had a good manager in years. It’s very demotivating. Helping clients is what keeps me going but I feel very despondent about other things at work.
Same for me. I was happy to get laid off because the work/life balance was awful. I worked 60-75 hr weeks due to attrition and I did the work of 3 people daily. I became my own boss so I won’t have to answer to bad management and corporate bureaucracies.
No. Companies are employing consultants in a race to the bottom. They force customers to jump hoops. I file small claims cases for each time-wasting maneuver, especially overseas call centres with staff who cannot escalate nor understand ' Your inability to escalate this means I will file a legal case in my local jurisdiction'. Thank you for being clear you cannot resolve this.
Hello from France Agnes ( a french name actually..,) try to find the true story written by Dan Johnston . In french it s called " more precious than money...or silver... ( Same word in french ) it might encourage you ) ✌️🌷
Another HIGH QUALITY conversation. Everything Scott said was as astonishing as it was accurate and deeply attuned to the pressures and structures of our time and how the ego and spirit respond. Medicinal message.
I’m so glad I’m still in a youth program like Boy Scouts. Without it my life wouldn’t be as fun and social as it is now. Bringing young kids together is so important, even if a lot of people (especially people my age) stigmatize it as “nerdy”, “weird”, or “pointless” when it is really so important.
@53:53 "Loosing someone and Gaining someone" That hit home really hard as it happened to me within just 3 weeks. He is absolutely right about what he is saying. Your are a 100% different person afterwards, as you could never have imagined yourself.
To everyone who has started or is thinking of starting their own business: *Believe in yourself and never give up.* If you can work 8 hours for someone else. You can work 2 hours for yourself.
Your 23 y/o son doesn't need to listen to you. You can't turn them into submissive, docile women or make them "gay" you sickos. Look in the mirror and learn that you're the follower not the leader so stfu and follow those who know better.
"If you're watching a lot of advertising, it means your life hasn't worked out... Advertising is a tax on the poor and the technologically illiterate." Ad starts in 5, 4... 😅 Love this episode 👍
I don’t see ads. But I pay to not see them - I felt it was worth my sanity to not be exposed to BS advertising designed to make me feel bad about myself and spend money on products I can do without.
@@melindagibson6358 I don't see ads and I don't pay to not see them...a number of free adblockers work on youtube...hurray for technological literacy :D
Best episode, best guest ever! The man is a legend. Ironically, time flew away listening to this episode. The man speaks so so truthfully about everything human for all time. ❤️
I think this video criticized Andrew Tate SO wrongly. Let's be honest. Scott seems smart and all but he must not do his research. Andrew Tate tells men all the time that IT IS their fault if they can't find women. It's the quote un quote blue pilled mentality that tells men "just be you", in spite of the fact that, that doesn't work at all. Andrew Tates entire message is you must change and be better. He just doesn't absolve women of any wrong doing either, and is actually equal.
Meh. He makes some reasonable observations, but is way off on some critical stuff for which he seems overly passionate about. You can see the points where his mind switches from reason to emotion.
@@danielplainview6527 more than 70% of the people using yt don't ever think "yeah they say so cause they're thinking through their emotions"... People watch and process it as is. And for those with less critical thinking this episode is exactly what they need to hear.
The most important part of your life is who you partner with. VERY IMPORTANT! The stress and disappointment I went through really impacted my health, and overall my life.
Yes, women are not suited for long-term relationships anymore. Research proves it. Estimates say that around half of them will be single by 2030. Studies also show they cheat more. Women lose interest in relationships way faster than men. Then, they start to blame the men for the problems without taking any responsibility. About 80% of divorces are filed by women.
I was in a long distance relationship even though she helped me financially a little bit, and we had some emotional connection. It was too turbulent, she had insecurity issues just as bad as I did, and I should have ended the relationship much sooner. I never touched her, we barely ever talked through audio even. It was horrible for me and her psychologically. She was that type of girl that was "focusing on business" kind of thing, very shy and so on. I was able to connect emotionally with her... But it costed me so much, I literally would spend the whole day talking to her, never leaving me enough mental energy. In a proper healthy relationship in real life, just being together in the same room cuddled up can be enough... Online we would need to keep sending energy demanding messages, that never fully satisfied our physical and emotional needs. I'm actually much happier just alone than something like that, so I can work on building myself to have an actual fulfilling relationship in real life, but it's so so hard, I will ever so often binge on asmr content and on looking at pictures of beautiful women online, and fantasize about them. As much as I try to meditate it away, and focus on the stuff I have to do, eventually it crumbles down back to that wasting an entire week trying to recompose myself emotionally. And my mom believes I'm a piece of shit with no value at all, she believes I was better back in high school because I had an internship at something that wasn't my area at all. But in actuality, I'm actually able to be laser focused and get so much done that I wouldn't have gotten back then, when I'm actually emotionally stable. If I had a nice gf she would bring me the consistency I lack, and I'll probably be able to get results so much faster. But anyhow, it's a chicken and egg problem, I need to be a valuable person to be able to get a gf... But the lack of a gf feels like it's crippling my ability to focus. Eventually I'll get there. Eventually I'll have enough money, time and energy to go out and do game/pick-up. But even then, that's a lot of hard work and emotional energy, but I believe I'll be able to pull it off knowing that I'm not hopeless, knowing that I can put effort to improve my game (PUA term) and that every rejection I get in person is a learning experience which I can analyse and work on myself to improve. Some resource: How To Get Laid - Part 1 - The Foundations Of Success With Women [ ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6DEGfopquio.html ] (From Leo Gura, he makes videos about all topics, from spirituality, meditation, system's thinking, philosophy applied to our current world, etc to videos like that. I at least wished my parents weren't emotionally crippled as well, and I wouldn't get shitted on by my mom basically on a weekly basis and adding to my lack of consistency, fighting to gather that momentum I desperately need to acquire. I'm actually pretty happy in general, I'm not depressed. The problem is that when I get those moods, I end up coping in ways that consumes too much of my time. It doesn't feel satisfying enough, it always feels like I'm waiting to start feeling like I'm actually living.
Life was easiest for Steven. The way it was setup, during his youth and his coming of age, is now gone. Myself, at 41, had it less easy than he did, and anyone in their 20s right now has it much worse. And this trend will continue. There is no longer a way to work yourself out of poverty. The game is rigged against those without, designed to keep them without, and tweaked to reward those who do not need those rewards any more. Good luck everyone.
We've reverted back to a kind of feudalism where millions of sheep just accept the superiority of others who lord over them as "just the way it is", as they hand over half of their earnings to the State.
He didn't laugh out loud for 14 years. That's wild. Really makes me appreciate my own life. It's hard for me to think of a day in the past 10 years I haven't laughed out loud.
I can't trace back how I found this conversation but it was so good, I'm relistening to it. As a 32 year old guy, this was all really fascinating and helpful to hear. Great stuff!!
I really enjoyed this. I grew up poor (no electricity or plumbing poor). I’ve built a small empire. My success, I believe, was 90% grit. It has been challenging for me to pass on my humble values to my children, but overall, I am very pleased with their integrity, genuine love for others, and their work ethic. Most of all, I am grateful they believe in Jesus.
Is it enough, do you think, to believe in Jesus? I see so many critical, sonically and radical unkind people who say they believe in Jesus. Or is it more important to walk the talk like Jesus
@@berylcomar believing is an action not a thought. A bit like loving. You know that people can say they love you and not, so why is that not the case with belief. Words mean nothing
@@paulbogle8161 look at the middle word in the word BELIEFS. It’s LIE And the middle word of lie is ... I I Lie Beliefs are lies we tell ourselves, good and bad, negative and healthy, socially conditioned and changeable. There are very few truths As for love, it’s a nominalisation ( can’t put it in a wheelbarrow) and different for everyone: for some conditional, others unconditional, existent or non existent .... or brainwashing. Hhhhh
Needing and focusing on making money , dose not make you materialistic . If you grew up with very little money ( No choices or opportunities handed to you ) , you understand . It's all about survival .
Life doesn't get better after 45 if people have nothing to look forward to in the future. No pension, debt, inflation, disease. This man is giving perspective from his point of view.
Steven, you are one of the BEST interviewers I have ever seen, because you ask profound, compelling, clear questions...and then you LISTEN. So very rare in ANY of these formats, on any platform. The result is deep fascination, many "ah-ha's," strong reluctance to step away, notes taken, emailing friends to pass the link and fangrrrling this interview and your channel ~ THANK YOU!
I hope he's right about getting happier around 45 years old. Im 31, live alone, my relationships are distant, and work day in day out. Im going to take his advice and be more aggresive, express interest, while being able to handle a small rejection.
A very insightful conversation. Thanks, Prof G! Speaking as someone in his late 50s in the midst of a career that has helped sustain me for the past 31 years, a lot of what Prof G says resonated very strongly with me. I think that one from the time that he/she is a preteen (between 10 and 12), should have some solid ideas as to what one wants to do with one's life. For instance, when I was 12, I wanted to be an aeronautical engineer because of my deep love and interest in aviation. But I had a reckoning with reality a couple of years later during a 'Career Day' in junior high school. A gentleman had brought with him what looked like a small, adding machine, asking each of us students what professions each of us was interested in taking up as a career. I told him of my desire to be an aeronautical engineer. He fed in my info to the machine and reams of paper shot out. WHOOSH!!! When I saw the amount of science and math courses on those sheets that I would need to be an aeronautical engineer, I felt overwhelmed. While I was good in science, math was a subject with which I had always struggled. I developed second thoughts and abandoned the desire to pursue aeronautical engineering. It would be another couple of years before I --- after some soul searching -- decided to pursue a career in Economics. By that time, with some tutorial help, I had gained a better feel for mathematics and went on to earn straight As in the subject during my last 3 years of high school. I later earned an Economics degree, studied in grad school (on a fellowship) for a year and then applied for the Peace Corps. I had always had a desire to travel overseas and help those who may not have had the opportunities (and luck) that I had. Thankfully, I got accepted into the Peace Corps and worked overseas as a teacher for 2 years. And I never looked back. As I said, it helps to develop some sort of blueprint as to what you want to do with your life - both professional and personal. Learn also to take pleasure in everyday life. For instance, the sky and clouds, the rustling of autumn leaves as you walk in your neighborhood, the feel of the wind on your face as you go about your day-to-day stuff. Savor those friendships that sustain you. Don't take any of them for granted - EVER. Pursue your hobbies. If you're interested in studying a foreign language, writing a novel, taking a cooking course, and/or doing yoga, DO IT. Plus, be able to laugh at yourself. I cannot emphasize that enough! I say these things from experience. Sure, there are moments when I get depressed. When that happens, I ride it out and when it has passed, I get myself together and resolve to keep moving forward. Having an optimistic outlook is the key. Remember: YOU HAVE A PURPOSE IN LIFE. YOU ARE UNIQUE. Each of us are here as a result of random chance. Always remember that. Strive to be positive, constructive, and the best you you are capable of becoming, among family, friends, and people in general. While doing so, you'll draw to yourself people --- men and women -- who will enrich your life in ways you can scarcely imagine.
Bro, i was ripped...i trained MMA for 6 years after my work as a mechanic until my back got injured. So what do you do in your early 20 when life falls apart ? My confidence went from 100% to depression. I started to drink my pain away. around 24 i picked up music and learned to play the piano. I'm now 34 and stil living with my parents practicing music but i still feel inadequate because that's the reality compared to world class musicians. It all should be a humbling experience but it's rather a soul crushing experience... How do you stay sane when you feel inadequate as a men, especially with backpain. I was super fit had a job but i never had thought to end up like i am. yes, i can play music but i'm broke unhappy and not living the dream i thought it would be. I LOVE music but its Hard work and you don't get paid for it until you reach a certain level of mastery, hoping you don't get carpel tunnel syndrome or something along the way... it's obvious that people get nihilistic about reality ! My father too. he was a huge successful chemist with 4 university diploma's and an MBA but lost everything due to a severe illness... what the fuck is the point in all of this ? What i learned though is that people only understand reality from their level of perception
I can relate. I do MMA too, after some time training I was due to have my first fight. 2 weeks before it I tore the retina in my eye and had to pull out, and watched as a good few of my mates who I trained with got to have their first fights. After a while I got back to training, then ended up dislocating my knee in a wrestling class. Luckily I'm back to relatively decent physical health now, and I still train. But it was de motivating for sure watching the people who started training at the same time as me go on to have their first fights, and subsequently start coaching classes and running their own small coaching businesses. Meanwhile I was stuck trying to nurse myself back to health. It's annoying listening to people talk only about hard work and perseverance, without mentioning the significant impact of luck (and bad luck). I couldn't agree more with your conclusion.
i am sorry for your suffering....I too have had my LIFE"s potential ruined by severe illness and body pain and injury etc.....I too play piano but will never be great no matter how hard I try......I wish you all the best....I wonder if you could teach piano to people in your neighborhood.....I know there is not a big a call for piano teachers as there was years ago....but it might be worth trying....good luck to you .....I do know how it feels
@@artsylady3187 Thanks for your comment. I tried to teach but it’s an unstable business because most people find their stuff online. I’m a winner so I don’t care how long it will take to find succes but someday I’ll reach it. If it’s not in this lifetime it will be in my next one ! 💪
