The Offspring - Kristy, Are You Doing Okay? 

"Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away" That was all I needed to hear. Thank you.

All love to the Kristys out there and hope you've triumphed.

I was 12 when it happened to me. I'm about to turn 22 and am just now getting help for what was done to me. Everyone else has said it but the "don't waste your whole life trying, to get back what was taken away", is so true. I can't go back to a point where i was repressing what happened to me and didn't have to deal with all the messiness that comes with dealing with something like that. But you know what, i wasn't doing okay. We can pretend like we're doing just fine, but i know from my personal experience that once you acknowledge trauma that a lot of behaviors start making sense. Even if you try to run from it, its still in control. It will eat away at you inside and you won't be able to get close to people. But there is a way out. I know it's hard to believe when you can't see it, but it's true. The person who did this to me will likely never face justice, but I can get my own sense of healing and closure from closing the old wounds. To whoever is out there and is reading this, you will get through this. It wont be easy, but it'll be for the better in the end. Thank you Dexter for writing this song. It's given me a lot of comfort even 16 years after you wrote it as i navigate my healing journey.

Dexter, I don't know if you read these comments, but I wanted to thank you for pursuing your music. I know you walked away from a Ph.D program and, as I'm pursuing a similar degree, I understand the driving passion it takes to get that far into the sciences. Your music has lifted my life and has made the world a better place. Thank you.

Yes, I'm doing fine

What makes this song so beautiful (and rather heartbreaking at the same time) is that the girl's abuse stuck with Dexter for this long and clearly affected him. We meet so many people in life, and those we meet in school stick with us the longest because we essentially know them for the better part of around 15 years on average. We see them 5 days of the week during the school year. Friends or not... these people will always have a spot in your memories. I cannot think of a single memory from my time in school that would stick to me like the meaning behind this song. And that shows just how a small scale event (one thay affected only one girl) had harnessed itself to Dexter's memories for a lifetime, to where he made a song about it.

Rip to anyone who is suffering with depression and has commuted suicide may you be at peace

Dexter, when was in high school, knew a girl named Kristy. The girl has been sexually abused and everyone knew it. But no one did anything. Dexter is the boy in the end who tried to do something. As we see in the final scene, Kristy went to find Dexter. The Offspring singer didn't do anything but now he wrote this song and it's dedicated to her as an apology for not helping her. Dexter Holland, you are such a great man!

I'm 22 and just now dealing with (instead of keeping it suppressed) being assaulted when I was 15. I haven't heard this song in years. I needed this. Thank you.

This song reminds me of my friend who was raped in the fall of 2014 when we were 14. We managed to put the person responsible in prison for the rest of his life starting in August 2015. I can't even describe the gratitude I feel to all of the people who were involved in his conviction. We stayed strong.

Beside Green Day's Wake me up when September ends and Blink 182 stay together for the kids, this song is one of 3 punk rock songs that can make me crying every time I heard them. And yes, there's stories behind my tears.

My name is Kristy and this song speaks to me in terms of my life, what I’ve been through and the strong woman I am today. I listen to this song almost everyday, thank you The Offspring Love you guys 💙

Don‘t waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away. That line saved me 🙏🏼

This music... IT'S BEAUTIFUL! I'm a girl from Russia and sometime I translate the songs what I listen to, and I think The Offspring's songs are crazy and beautiful.

The saddest and most gut wrenching part of this song is the comments section filled with way too many people who can relate. Me too comments section. Me too.

This song is awesome, but at the same time it's so sad.

This song deserves more recognition than it has. I remember when it came out I only heard it once on the radio and couldn't find out who sang it for ages.

i'm never getting tired of them

My best friend in high school heard this song on the radio and thought I would like it. At the time, the fact that someone would even notice the despair of my life saved me. Decades later I come back this song and it still feel so raw ad true.

There's a moment in time And it's stuck in my mind Way back, when we were just kids Cause your eyes told the tale Of an act of betrayal I knew that somebody did Oh, waves of time Seem to wash away The scenes of our crimes But for you this never ends Can you stay strong? Can you go on? Kristy, are you doing okay? A rose that won't bloom Winter's kept you Don't waste your whole life trying To get back what was taken away Though the marks on your dress Had been neatly repressed I knew that something was wrong And I should have spoke out And I'm so sorry now I didn't know Cause we were so young Oh, clouds of time Seem to rain on Innocence left behind And it never goes away Can you stay strong? Can you go on? Kristy, are you doing okay? A rose that won't bloom Winter's kept you Don't waste your whole life trying To get back what was taken away Oh, clouds of time Seem to rain on Innocence left behind And it never goes away Never goes away Never goes away Can you stay strong? Can you go on? Kristy, are you doing okay? A rose that won't bloom Winter's kept you Don't waste your whole life trying To get back what was taken away Don't waste your whole life trying To get back what was taken away

miss music like this

I still listen to Offspring on a Sunday trips to Tuscon, AZ and I love it. Early in the morning , no cars on the freeway, just me, my old British car, the open road, and the smooth purring of the engine. I am on my own and I do not think about my problems, quite frankly I do not give a shit, just pure driving . Also, Greenday, Nirvana, and HIM accompany my weekend soundrack. I just try to live and I feel free. Praise the Lord.

Dexter knows as someone who studied the brain that when he was singing this all he sung was extremely accurate. I'm happy he aknolged that he should've spoken out, and is doing awesome. ❤

Just heard this song for the first time since Hs and I still remembered al the lyrics after so long. My friend who introduced me to this band passed away recently and it sucks to know that they’re gone. Every time I listen to the Offspring it’ll more each time . RIP buddy

This reminds me of a story I read on Reddit about a girl who was horribly bullied; it was posted by one of the people who used to torment her, who had heard a rumor from classmates that the girl committed suicide after she left the school. The former bully was trying to find her, to see if she was okay and apologize - there isn't a strong enough word - for treating her like that, let her know that she (the OP) had admired her kindness and talent as a ballet dancer, and was hateful to her because she was jealous. But OP said that she's been unable to locate the girl. Her post was so full of remorse for hurting her and unless a miracle happens and they run into each other, she won't ever know what happened. To think that the timid, sweet girl OP described ended her life or is in a bad place breaks my heart. It's just a story on the internet about a total stranger, but it haunts me.

The Offspring..... One of the GREATEST BANDS EVER!!!! Only a few bands can convey emotion and be true to their selves as well!! Such a great band!!!

not bad, I like the fast punk, but this is good, brings memories

Thanks offspring. This song gets me. Every. Single. Fucking. Time. People who haven't lost a loved or close friend - talk to them and ask them if they are doing OK for fuck sake

I remember this song when I was a teenager. Times will never be like this ever again. I miss you

OK, now that we got every video back, maybe its time for new ones!

Pure HEART in this video and song... well done, Offspring

This song deserves Much more recognition

This is Dexter's most clear vocals on any of their songs. It strikes a chord with me.

It’s my birthday today, and almost no one cares, so I just decided to watch my fav bands’s music videos. Thank you, The Offspring, for being with me, even on such shitty days like that. Your music warms my heart and doesn’t let me give everything up. Thank you again.

Thank you Dennis for showing me this, I’ll never forget how much you helped me get through it all.

I breath offspring forever

Not only kristy..also krist. Nobody will ever understand the feeling unless you're one of them. If u r kristy or krist, stay strong buddy. The feeling of insecurity and people around us are always judging instead of helping us.

Saw them 3 x live...every show gets better...and their messages like this one are something I needed to hear at that time...

I sent this song to my first serious gf in high school when it came out long after we’d broken up. Last time we interacted online. She seemed to really appreciate it. Years passed and she contacted me about where she was in life. She seemed to be doing good and so was I. Years after that and things didn’t turn out exactly great for me. But, I hope they did for her, she deserves it more.

Man this song came out when I was a kid and I haven't heard it in a long time listening now is the first time I've truly gotten it. God I miss being a dumb kid.

This tune is really good stuff. I am someone from the Styx era. Styx is one of my favorite groups and arguably one of the greatest groups of all time. Offspring is certainly a group that will go down in history with many other great bands. I have little doubt that if this had been in the jukeboxes of the restaurants, skating rinks, arcades and bowling alleys of that day, many of the youth of that day would be more than eager to drop a quarter in the jukebox and play it.

I just Lost my 3 month old unborn child and stumbled on this song. I know its about some thing else bit it made me cry

Thank you for all the great songs.

I was at high school when it was released(rafrag album) I used to listen this all day long and i live my music video in my head in school. Now I'm 24 and still listen and still diehard fan !

This song helped me heal when I was a kid. #thankyou

oh my goooood,this is so good,absolutely love this song.Actually my the most favourite by The Offspring

One of my favorite songs by them. I really dug it when I first heard it cause I was so used to all the hard, loud music and the cussing from Dexter, (which is why I loved them lolz), that when I heard this I was like, wow it's beautiful and has a deep meaning. Great song Dexter. I love you and your band. I have since I was a kid. Btw I also love your hot sauce!!!

Beautiful. It deserves more viewing

Even though I've never experienced sexual assault, I still relate to this song, even as an adult. Sometimes you just need someone to speak UP and ASK YOU if you are doing okay. Genuinely and sincerely. People can be really good at hiding depression, loneliness, sadness. Sometimes those that seem the busiest or cheeriest are the ones who are suffering the most. Because no one can tell.

What a beautiful song. It comes from the past with a universal outlook for all to relate with. Thanks offspring

Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away~ I come back every so often to have to hear this, thanks offspring for the song that helped me the most

I can't sing along with this without breaking down. It's a great song. 💗

Respect and thanks 4 this song ..i know it was not easy..

Beautiful song for a sad story... Everybody, try our best to make it never happen anymore

¿Puedes ser fuerte? ¿Puede continuar? Kristy estás haciendo bien? Una rosa que florecer y se mantiene es invierno No pierdas toda tu vida tratando Para recuperar lo que te han quitado .....hermosa canción ...!!

Wooh, 11 years since this was released. This song means a lot to me, I was in high school when the album came out and this song specially help me to go out of the hard times.

heard this in my car back in 2010 & ugly cried because those lyrics hit close to home even with my name spelled differently!!!

Beautiful song. Timeless.

I listen to this song when I was a kid and I loved the rythm.. But now that I'm older and listening to it again I believe it is a very deep and powerful song

I wonder if this song reached the real Kristy.

This song is just so damned emotional. So good.

Fantastic, thanks

love this ..

The pandemic is hard on all of us. His barber is going broke! Beautiful song with elements that most of us can relate to. I haven't been a victim but I know pain. Again, beautiful.

this song always gets to me, I feel a gutt-wrenching sadness for a while afterward

I appreciated that . Thank You

Depression never really goes away, but you do have to put in the effort to stay positive. It's much easier to give up and quit. Stay strong buddies.

さび入るところかっこいいな When I rust and enter, time is cool.

A melodia e letra dessa música é muito massa!!! Top!!

love this

RIP RLB, I miss you so much baby, my only solace is that you're in a better place.

Preciosa Balada. Buen Trabajo Dexter Holland y Offspring PD: Peguense un viajesito a Chile !

"Rise and Fall...". Perhaps the best Offspring album.

I always loved this song!

I'm leaving this year listening to this song differently to this song than I did entering. To me it was a catchy song that taught me to speak up. Now, I can relate to Kristy. You never think it'll happen to you until it happens.

love this song😍😍😍

loved it!!

This song has always made me so emotional

It's now 2020 and this song still moves me

I been assaulted when I was 12-17. During these years, It was tough as my father leave us because of another bitch. Well, times goes so fast. I'm 30 this years. Sometimes still need this song cuz no one ask me "are you ok?"

Love your voice 🤗🤗

Beautiful!!!respect!!!

Looking at the comments and just astounded at the people that are only focused on pigeonholing the band and feel like they are obligated to criticize the style, and are completely missing the point of the song. It's sad that so many people are that shallow and/or entitled that they can't even pay attention to what's being presented to them.

To all kristy out there , i hope yall doin fine

My brother told me to listen to this song in high school after years of childhood SA… I’m nearly 30 and watching this hits me hard.

Really touching song that should have more views.

The Offspring the best

This really is a good song

Offspring have great ballads!

Great song!

Que música boa.

I'm so lucky to know this song. so underrated.

Absolutely beyond brilliant and amazing The offspring you are the best band ever you always have and always will be forever my favourites I love you so much The Offspring forever xxxxxxx💕💖🎸😍

How did I not know this song had a video!!! Great tune

2019 but still underrated. I can relate this song with my friends' stories IRL. Too much abusing leaded her into depression. I had always helped ,calmed her in every way as much as i can do. But I've failed. She suicided. Last message she sent me "life is not what you think it is, you think you can make everyone smile but in your heart there are only tears that you can't avoid the pain of holding back from unspeakable torture" . This song really make me reminds her everytime i listen.

Offspring is sooooo underrated and I hate that because they are fckng awesome!!!

Such a deep metaphor and allegory ❤🙏😑

This song hits so many emotions I never had.

Offspring 2017. Just imagine😎

Dexter is a really handsome guy