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I feel you man, being "go with the flow" only satisfies you until you realize that you're living in a life shaped by nothing. Growing up, I was never stressed because I never made decisions for myself. If anything bad happened in life, then the universe just didnt go my way that day. Living like that for so long has made stress a constant, and I'm trying to figure out how to make my own decisions at the age of 27. I'm starting to realize that the stressors in my life are due to my own inaction, but making decisions that could worsen my current situation is scary, paralyzing even. But I'm finding that even negative results stemming from my own actions are almost reassuring in a way. Each decision chips away at a wall that has slowly accumulated over the years. Thanks for helping me realize that I'm not alone.
Update: after watching this I built up the courage to ask out this girl I really like, and your boy has a date next Saturday! Thanks philosophical anime man!
First of all I feel like making decisions would be easier as an adult if parents actually allowed to have their kids make their own decisions same thing goes to the school system Secondly being able to go with the flow is very important from what I've learned because if you cannot adapt to new situations that you were not expecting when things don't go to plan you just going to be stuck there wondering what to do Frozen
As a child, I grew up moving a lot, which already caused just a general disconnection towards everyone around me. I was never really popular with people, they didn't necessarily hate me but tended to stay away from me. I was always fascinated about everyone's simplicity. People had goals, strengths, things they wanted to achieve in life. I could never relate. If anyone asked me about my goals, I'd shrug it off. I have the luck of being seen as physically attractive, but it doesn't help really. People just can't put up with me once they realise how boring I really am as a person. I have no interests, nothing eventful worth talking about. And I always end up unintentionally hurting the few people who do make an effort to put up with me. I never understood the concept of morally right or wrong. I never saw the difference. I wouldn't consider myself depressed, or suicidal. I don't wish to die. It's just the lack of wanting to continue living. The pure utter boredom of life. Thanks for reading.
If you limit yourself like that in life of course everything will be boring. Life is what you decide it is, your world view paints it with colour or drains it. To a degree it's choice and to a degree it's mindset and experience that paints it. You never got a chance to get attached to anything so now you avoid attachment to anything. Everything is boring because having to let the few good things you managed to make go, it sucks. Starting over all the time is tiring, there's no fun in getting to know people if you're not gonna get the chance to keep the connection.
I can relate to this too hard. There are so many things I could have been that I was good at growing up, and they have all borne ZERO fruit. I was good at basketball, and I loved it. Maybe I could have been great at it, or maybe not. I'll never know because I gave up after my mom decided to move because the other kids were "mean" to me. Ugh, what a loser mentality now that I look back on it. I also loved to practice the piano, and my teacher said I was good. Quit that in highschool because "pianos are lame, guitar is cooler and it's how you get chicks" and never even got around to learning a single song on the guitar. My dad taught me to box. I could have been great at that too I bet, but I had a bad relationship with him and didn't want to do anything he wanted me to do, which included boxing and football. Now at 27 years old and married, I went to college for years and just COULDN'T make a choice. I moved from California to Texas but didn't even choose that. My wife did, and I didn't mind because I was just happy to leave California I hated it there. Hell, I've even been putting off my idea to try starting a RU-vid or Twitch gaming channel for years now. Eventually I reached a point where I had to choose a trade because we can't keep living with her parents on our current jobs, we want to move out and get our own place. I chose to pursue becoming a barber and, well, I'm glad that I ended up enjoying it cause I don't know what I would have done if I hated it. I just graduated school and now I'm looking for my first job. Still, I don't want this to be my job forever but I'm worried that my indecision will make that the case. Now I'm near my thirties and I want to pursue everything I gave up on as a kid but I don't know how to do it and it's scary. I don't know if I'll even have the time working 40 hours a week. The only major choice I make in my life now is to go to the gym 4 days a week and lift weights, which is so much fun. After I get my first job as a barber I want to try amateur boxing and maybe even pick up an instrument. I just hope I can get good at something that I love and maybe one day make some money from it, although I don't know if 27 is too old to be a boxer or not... Wow, that was a huge rant. I'm sorry?
Don't be sorry. If you manage your time as well as possible im sure you can have the time do endorse in your hobbies. Even 5 minutes a day, or 20 minutes a week is huge. Just consistency, which you can only teach yourself. Good luck tho, if youre still there, did you make any progress so far?
Free will is nonsense. I don't see how the absence of the absurd could possibly be terrifying. Determinism is no more terrifying than any amount of randomness.
The last part at the end, I am going through the same thing right now. I regret not doing things when I was younger and because of this I am stuck in a situation not of my choosing. But the hope is, that i will have the oppotunity to make some major choices soon cause if I don't my life will only get worse. I needed this so much thank you. Also good luck on RU-vid.
I know I am just a stranger on the internet, but I wanted to say I am so proud of you. Your channel is amazing and I'm honestly so glad I stumbled upon it. I didn't realize until I finished the video how this was just uploaded, so I hope with a small sea of comments you'll see mine. I am about to hit a choice juncture in my life, graduating from college that I didn't want to attend at first. But I'm glad I did, I found a life path that I find some joy in and wouldn't have without. I feel a bit more comfort in the end of this chapter of my life having watched your video. I hope you keep creating because I can't wait to keep watching.
I'm glad you were able to find a path of value from that decision, it seems that's the game of life. Thank you for the kind words and your time, and don't worry, I'll keep going : )
My life has been stagnant since I was 19 (now 22), I’ve been gripping with my indecision as I am now in my 2nd year of college an will have to stay another 2yrs if I wish to get my major… I don’t know If I wish to continue as everytime I begin to think Overloading myself with all the possible bad routes that MIGHT happen. Eventually leading to selfdoubt, overthinking everything, wanting to purse more then one path yet too afraid to commit to 1……it’s safe to say I hate my life as I feel it’s slipping thru my fingers day in day out
I'm not sure how serious this is, but I always hated this quote honestly. I think we need to look at it on a scale. Did I technically chose not to chose? Yes. But I let someone else pick one thing for me, rather than looking at multiple possibilities. It's the smallest choice, if it is one
@@ProfessorViral Im not attempting to argue or invalidate anything you talked about in your video. Im not sure you could even really be objectively right or wrong on this particular topic. The way I always interpret this quote is on the basis that our choices define our character. While I agree that choosing inaction is usually the least desirable option, its still an option no matter the situation. Wether it be your buddy asking you what you want to eat or the infamous trolly dilemma. The ability to relinquish your agency in order to avoid responsibility remains ever present. You are totally justified in not liking the idea this quote implies. The concepts of sentience and free will are exciting to think about, specifically when very difficult and morally ambiguous decisions are involved.
You're absolutely right about taking on a bit of suffering now.. Went to college feeling like I was wasting time and money of my family. Decided to enlist for my self, and family. I love the job, however it doesn't pay me enough to be frank. Now I'm deciding to get out because you have to give up a bit of freedoms to earn some freedoms. Any longer I'm sure I will definitely get the money I seek. However.. I will become a type of leader that they will mould me to be.. rather than the leader I want to be. To suffer with your members is a philosophy I hold dear, rather than perpetuating a system.
Sometimes knowing what you don't want is the first step. I'm horrible at making decisions for myself and I have a hard time understanding what I actually want. However, I generally know/understand when I'm uncomfortable with something. So that's how I make decisions. I know what I don't want, and so what I want must be in the other direction. One step at a time. You don't have to figure it out all at once.
RU-vid has been sending me down a rabbit hole of different videos doing character studies about choice and oppression and etc. I have never written down my thoughts or feelings about my life anywhere and to who ever is reading this, you are one of the first to hear me. Since I was born my parents have been religious, at first my parents believed in different religions, but as I got older my dad stopped being catholic and joined my mom in her "religion". They always told me that if me, my sister, or them had left the "truth" that we would have to cut them out of our life until they "saw the error of their ways" and came back. I didn't stop believing in what they believed until I was 12-13 years old. Ever since then I have been getting more and more angry. But around the same time I stopped wanting to be religious, I had found youtube. I wasn't ever allowed to use it really so I had to sneek it in every night. For years I told people that I wanted to fly planes because of a stupid misunderstanding my teacher had in kindergarten, but this was when I found what I wanted to do! Not specifically youtube, but to entertain, to make people laugh and cry and to just feel emotions! I am 19 now, I have changed between 4 different jobs in less then a year because I am not happy with either. I told my dad that I never wanted to work in the same company as him but he kept pushing for me to do so and now I am working with him and I hate it even though the pay is amazing and the hours are to, I hate it. It wasn't my decision! I haven't told any one that I want to be in the entertainment industry weather that's with music or voice acting or being an auther, I haven't told a single soul! I am so close to breaking and I know if I told them this it would be "against "my" religion" and I will be kicked out and more then likely become homeless because my only friends and family that I keep in contact with are in the same "religion" and will have no where to go! But... I don't care any more, I really don't! I would rather take a life of living on the streets and barely surviving each day then being stuck where I am! And yet, I can't bite the bullet! I can't bring myself to do it. I keep watching these videos hoping for a magic answer even though I know there isn't one but I DON'T CARE!! I can't get out of this cycle and I might never get out of it but its that hope that one day, I will break it! I wish some one could just tell me exactly what to do to make it not hurt, or at least make it sting just a tiny bit but there is none. I wish I could say literally every thing on my mind but its almost impossible to express it all in text. And I can't talk to any one about this over a call because I don't want them evesdropping. To the person that made it this far, thank you, this is the closest I have gotten to freedom and its all because you read this all! Thank you THANK YOU! THANK YOU SO SO MUCH! I wish I could just give you a hug but I am just text on your computer screen. please stay safe out there
Thank you for sharing, it means a lot. I'm glad I could read your story : ) The most I can say to help is make a careful decision. I should have stressed more in this video that change takes time. It's a harsh truth of the world that we need money for stability. It might take a few years, but opportunity is never truly gone, even if we have to wait for it. I can't say I know what's best for you, but consider all the options, and know that a few years of careful planning now can make all the difference for the rest of your life, more than a snap decision. But I hope whatever path you end up taking, it will lead you to somewhere fulfilling. It's a lot of work to entertain, in a world which often only values entertainment only on the dollar. But if you do what you can when you have the time and stability and stick to a careful plan, you can work towards something great, even if success isn't granted. Whatever advantages you have, use them to their fullest, and have no shame about it
I think that, under our current systems, there really are only hard ways for everyone born below a certain level. But, we're told that some of those hard ways are easier, like how I was told a degree and a job would solve every issue, when in reality its led me to my worst mental health of all time. Sure, maybe I'd be worse off financially having chased my dreams in school, but I'd at least have the chance to be happy about where it could lead. Both are hard paths, but one is a pain I could stomach as my own choice to try and be happy
Life is full of sacrifices, if you refuse to choose they will come anyway. So choose for yourself. Option A: There will be regrets. Option B: There will also be regrets. Choose neither: There will still be regrets. Have courage, make your choice and keep going.
I've always had a passion and curiosity for languages, but I went to uni for engineering because that's what I was told to do, I went to the university my gf at the time went to because it was easy to get into and to be with her (she dropped out and moved back home the following year) and I stayed in the stress filled program for 3 years, hating most of it and telling myself that if I just stick it out things will work out on their own. But eventually I couldn't take it anymore and decided to make the scary decision to change majors only a year away from graduating. I changed to linguistics, and during that time I was able to study abroad, I enjoyed all my classes and made some of my closest friends. Now I work in a foreign country as a translator, working with language every day. Taking that first step was terrifying, but absolutely worth it. When I stopped going with the flow and doing what I was told, and took things into my own hands, knowing that failure was my fault, but so was success, that's when I took the first steps towards true free will and while it's not always easy, it's certainly better than the alternative.
I only just found you channel and have only seen 3 videos thus far however, as someone who loves to write and values the weight of words, you sir are by far one of the best. Thank you, truly for your amazing content
Thank you for this video, I'm a 21 years old guy that just started working last month or so... I was always following other people too, just wanted to get by, to just exist and such. And honestly it just hurts but I really don't know how to really move forward sometimes.. I'm not saying that I'll change a lot, but you did open my eyes a little, really thanks.
I wish I had some idea of what the path forward was. I've started to live with my decision, but I still hate making them. All we can do is what you've already said, open our eyes a little, so we'll be able to see change when we can take it
I’m still wondering what my life would be like if I took things more seriously, being laid back is only nice to an extent at some point your frustration will grow and you start to yearn to make your choices and it’s hard when you don’t even know yourself, what do you like, what do you feel , what makes happy angry excited elated you don’t know bc you just let the wind push you you never went against the grain never pushed never struggled just floating
This was incredible and the anime choices were perfect. Your narration hit home so closely that it could have been an entry out of my journal. I really needed this today. Instant sub!! ♡♡♡
I'm all too familiar with the state of being that is choosing to reject choice. At first it seemed to be almost aspirational... free from desire... and all that! Years down the line and no... there's nothing noble in it... just emptiness.
Hey man. I'm a big fan. After your success video, I started rewatching your content and also noticed the very inconsistent view counts. I love what you do and truly want you to succeed. So in the interest of helping you get the results you deserve I've got a couple suggestions based on your pre existing content. Take them, or don't, I just feel honor bound to provide them based on my experience as a viewer. 1. Your content is mostly very high brow intellectual stuff. Unfortunately a majority percentage of the incredible insight you provide goes directly over the head of the common weeb. That being said, I wouldn't change a thing. In fact, I would suggest leaning into the intellectual angle even more. The steins gate video is how I found your channel, and the psycho pass ones are what kept me coming back. You have a decent amount of psycho pass content, but all of RU-vid is lacking sufficient steins gate coverage considering what a deep work of art that show is. I guarantee a few in depth videos about steins gate will bump up your numbers considerably and your other content will keep subscribers around. I've had steinsgate and steinsgate0 on loop in my bedroom for 8 years and I'm still noticing new details to this day. I'm sure an intelligent man like you can craft several videos that the internet has never seen on that topic alone. There's a very good reason Steins gate has never dropped below the top 5 of my anime list since it's release. And you might be the RU-vidr best equipped to discuss the things that put it there. 2. I noticed that every anime you cover is a legacy masterpiece. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, if anything it commands respect. However, I'm sure you have a friend or two that keep up with newly released anime. It may be worthwhile to have someone on the metaphorical payroll who's entire job is to weed through all the garbage anime that comes out every year and identify the gems. Then you can watch the gems and make content the way only you can, that brings in new subs by taking advantage of the new "hot titles" that fans are keeping up with every year. Let me be clear that I'm not suggesting that you sell out and start targeting the least common denominator. The way you make videos is something special, and the anime community is a better place with the kind of intellectual discussion you provide. I just think it would be beneficial from a marketing standpoint to spare a tiny bit of focus on what's hot, in the spirit of ultimately benefitting the legacy masterpieces that enable you to get into your stride and give the high quality analysis that is your brand. I know it's a long comment, and maybe you don't even read it and it was a waste of time. But even so, the tiny chance you do read it and the suggestions I made stick in your head is worth it. Maybe you don't take my suggestions directly but they inspire you to go in a different direction that still results in success. I'm happy with that too. Bottom line, you have something truly beautiful to contribute to the world. I believe in you. Whatever it takes to get the success you rightfully deserve is okay with me. I hope my insight was helpful in some way. Good luck my friend.
Is a path of indecision followed by a brutal realization of internal struggle truly something we cannot avoid? If the fear of uncertain is enough to push us to a life of certain misery then to what end do we really hold power over ourselves... to me it all feels like just flipping sides of the same coin. Because at the end, the fear and despair that we feel the least will be the driving force for our actions. For those lost in despair... uncertainty becomes the hope that makes one cling for that much longer. Great video though, the sooner one is made aware, the closer the goal. I'm sure your videos will continue to give hope and insight to those seeking. And I hope you continue it for the better.
I found your videos a week ago and I wanted to just say thank you for making thes videos. And even though we may be strangers I care about you and hope you kick lifes ass one day.
Same here. One of the few things I hate about what I do is that I could never meet everyone I've spoken to through these videos. But I'm happy to at least have these little bits of interaction, and I feel the same way as you. I hope we all kick ass one day : )
The gift of free will is what makes everyone unique and at the same time similar. Without it there would be no freedom, thus God inherited it to us. We are the makers of our own demise, we are the ones creating a problem. If God interfered with the results of our actions, then how are we truly free? Famine, wars, greed, lust and all the other deadly sins are inherently in us because we are free to make our own choices, and sometimes people choose these over the opposite. The human nature is perplexing, and free will is the cause of both good and bad. If there wasn't any "bad" how would we know something is "good", and vise versa.
I am floating like driftwood on the stream of time I get many things by being absolutley passive because I just happen to know the right people on the flip side, I'm socially pretty much equal to an alien with a body that is in constant pain since childhood, so it even's out I guess
I actually sort of deal with the opposite. I'm fighting the tempation to fuck everything up on purpose to avoid failing even though i gave it all. I am following the path i wish for but the fear of not being good enough is debilitating at times...
When I think about succeeding in something creative, I can feel the same way. I think, what if one day I run out of ideas, or mine are all terrible, or I just lose my skill somehow. But it hasn't happened yet., which is a damn good sign. And I have to remind myself the only way to know if it ever will happen, is to keep going anyway
@@ProfessorViral it does happen to me in cycles. The most probable cause is psychological I think but in any case it's frustrating... By the way I just found your channel and I'm binging it. It's pretty nice! Good work ^^
I find this video when I just finished the career that I hate hoping to get a job that allows me to dedicate myself to study what I love.... Welp guess I'm fucked :D
why fight for one side or the other? look at katniss everdeen, she gets used by both sides, but having defeated snow, she shoots the president of district 13, who was still a going concern until then. you don't have to fight for anything to fight against both
i just turned 20 about a week ago and fuck this video hit so hard. i dropped out of a college that i never really wanted to go to mid pandemic because i couldn’t go on any longer but since then i haven’t really done anything. i’ve been working a button monkey desk job that i hate because it pays the bills and im losing interest in everything that used to bring me joy and it’s terrifying. i keep telling myself i just need to stick it out for a bit longer and eventually i’ll be in a financially stable enough spot to do something i actually like but i don’t even know what i like anymore. this video made me realize that im really just drifting on the path of least resistance and i don’t even know who i am anymore. gonna have a lot of hard growing and thinking to do from here on out. thank you for being my therapy in a world where true help always seems just out of reach.
I'm happy I was able to start a bit of an introspective process. I hate that in our world we have to endure things we hate for stability, but it is sadly a consideration we must all take. What comes next, deciding what is and isn't worthwhile is a hard task, and one we'll always question. But I hope you'll be able to make a careful decision which will lead you somewhere positive. And while I, and others may feel late, there's never such a thing as too late. We can decide whenever it feels right. Just make sure to be careful : )
Hey I can’t help you specifically but I’m roughly the same age as you and went thru the same thinking patterns, but a really great RU-vidr/streamer that helped me is HealthyGamerGG with Dr.K. He has a bunch of content on topics like life feeling meaningless, finding purpose, and a bunch of other stuff to sort your mental health out a bit better.
In my mid 20s now and I feel the same dude. Though I didn’t drop out, it took me almost 6 YEARS to graduate (that’s 25% of my ENTIRE TIME ALIVE!), only to get a Degree that’s USELESS to me and realizing I wasted most of my time in college being alone in my dorm room due to depression. Getting a job with little experience but a college degree turns out to be USELESS and NOT the free ticket people swear it is. BUT these past 2 years taught me so much about what it truly means to be an independent, trustworthy adult, and what it truly means to flourish in life. It’s starting to look better for me despite having to start over from scratch career wise. Do NOT GIVE UP! Hate your prison of a life MORE than the anxieties and fears of breaking out of it. Have faith and press forward on that faith, no matter what your feelings or your external situation may be. Things won’t get better unless you keep moving forward: I know it’s cliché but as God is Good and the sky is blue, THIS saying is so true
@@WardofSquid Being a current college student pursuing a Bachelor's in IT, reading this terrifies me to the core. I want to say It'll be different for me, but I don't even know how I'll make it different.
As someone desperately struggling for a more ideal world, that's been one of the harshest facts of life. I want people to be able to make good decisions for themselves. But sometimes all we can do is pick the least awful one. And a lot of the time, we'll never know if that's what it really was
@@ProfessorViral you using neopronous and talking about struggle of life... Living in strange obscure scientific gnostic faith, can be really harsh not only for you, but for ordinary non believers.
I'm sitting here in my dark room at the age of 23 with a job that was handed to me a college dropout in my parents house half-listening while playing an RPG. I've never taken any serious choices in my life that wasn't just quitting because it was too hard, I never followed my passions seriously enough and always gave up when it became too much. I have no agency in my life and its dictated by the people around me because I've surrendered choice since I was 18. Then we got to part 3 of the video...and I found myself holding back my own tears, realizing that I would rather just exist then actually play apart in the world watching my friends and family advance in life while I twiddle my thumbs and try to do everything in my power not to think about the cage I put myself in, the thoughts I have about myself and living with it because of the things other people say. This is my first time seeing your channel and I think the message you give is the best message I've ever received. Thank you
There's still plenty of time. Don't overthink. You'll develop passion to stir changes in your life someday. No matter how bad it gets, other have it much worse and consider that life a paradise.
I'm happy the video was able to have such an impact, I hope it helps do something positive for you : ) But I agree with the other reply, I should have stressed patience and caution here more. There are opportunities which we will miss, but they will never run out in full. We always have a future we can start to choose, whenever, even if may be limited at times. I wish our world was kinder and allowed us more time, energy, and care to learn who we are and make good decisions. Unfortunately, we have to tackle it on our own. But don't let what the world wants dictate your success, let happiness, and to a degree, comfort decide that
@@BigGainer98 I think what you're saying is meant to be helpful, but in my opinion the message you're sending with it is quite toxic, like "Be reactive, and also, your problems don't matter much because others have it worse, what are you even whining about?" It's better to assume you're going to die tomorrow than to think you have all the time in the world, and even if other people have it much worse, I didn't choose to suffer from these certain things, it's not like I can just turn it off and go 180 from "man, my life sucks" to "this is fucking amazing, what am I even complaining about". All I can do is just accept how shitty everything about *my* life is and decide what to do from that point on without comparing to anyone else.
Turning 23 this year and in such a similar situation this comment was tough to read, but whole heartedly agree with what you took from the vid and the first reply, day by day we will push further!
Life would be so simple if we had a do-over button. Dont like this direction, just rewind and pick another path. Jonah not knowing what he wants but wanting more is very relatable. Although having your life predetermined feels so much more comfortable. Makishima is correct in saying we only have value when acting on our own will. No one truly wants to be a puppet.
But if we had that, what's does that accomplish? Yes at times I wished I had a Do over button, but what if even when we get that we end up in the same direction, just from a different starting point?.
@@jinchuriki7022 yeah but in the end, you'll spend more time redoing and trying to fix mistakes instead of actually living. Because if all you do is repeat the same things over and over again, all that is waiting for you in the end is insanity.
The worst decision is the one where you don’t make a decision…I think even more important is to make a decision that you can live with. A decision with no regrets.
Thats where I find myself now. I've started to make the decision; now I have to put the fear of having made the wrong one behind me, and follow the path I in part chose with vigor
I'm sad to inform you, but those decisions do not exist. I once also dreamed of a life with no regrets, but... Nope. All coins have another side. I guess we live with that too.
Even a wrong choice is a good one in that it will provide the potential of a learning experience, while apathy is just surrendering to entropy and slowly dying.
Sonny Boy is a recent anime I watched that seems to relate to the pain of free will and the act of choosing, instead deciding to isolate yourself in a bubble of your own youth to not accept truths that are beyond tomorrow. This was a great video and honestly the kind of content I always feel super inspired by. Great job my guy and you've got a new sub
Sonny Boy is one of my favorites. I just used it for a recent video like this, or it would have been included here as well. Thank you for the kind words, and for sticking around!
There is no "free will". I feel anxious around important decisions, but I also do in face of other dangers or uncertainty. What the decision will be is as obscure to me as the private thoughts of others and I have the same control over it that I have over the movement of the planets. If you guys got over the belief in free will, you could make a dozen hard decisions each day.
im so glad i came across this channel today, it came right when i needed it. i hope you continue your craft and stay true to yourself and i wanna thank you for what you do bc the world needs it
You end your story saying that it's depressing, but ultimately what I see is growth. And growth from hardship is far from depressing, it's uplifting, even.
thank you for making this video. i’m 17 and i just started my first year of college. the day i graduated highschool, i think i cried more than i ever have, not only because there were many people who i wouldn’t see again, but because i would be thrust into a world i was never ready for. many of my friends know exactly what they want to do, they’re independent, and they’ll probably become very successful. but i just have no idea what i want out of life. even after i impulsively dropped my uni offer to study fashion design, i still don’t know if that’s what i want to do. i have supportive family and friends, so i can pursue whatever i want, but i’m scared of making my own decisions, especially because i don’t have much desire besides just doing nothing and living in my own bubble. honestly i’m terrified of the real world, i still feel too mentally young to be here haha, but watching your video and reading everyone’s comments has really helped. i’m starting to realize that in order to live without regrets, i’m going to have to start making those scary decisions. thank you!!
The decision of college is absolutely an unfair one. I was by no means developed enough to make a proper decision at that age, but it's something that will stick with me, in some way, forever. We're forced to pick the direction of our lives before we could even live, and it makes no sense. I wish I had an answer to that, but until we change our world, all we can do is choose, and tell ourselves that we did right, within reason
Eh, you can piss away three years and have still plenty of time. At that age it really doesn't matter what you do for a carreer. What matters is friends and relationships.
As a 22 year old, most people have no idea what they want from life when they visit college. My best advice is to make mistakes as that will help you learn and grow. And if you end up making a decision that’s not a mistake, then even better.
I didn't expect it to hurt as much as it did. Very good timing. Good editing ...good advice and it did help me a lot in the crappy spot I am now.Thank you really. I had a similar mistake in my life with choosing to study something I didn't like because I thought it was a good option....so it was relatable.
I’m 27. I dropped out of Lehman College in 2014. I hated the structure of the classes and had no passion for something offered there especially with all those BS general requirement classes. I drowned myself in anime and games and threw myself into the lives of the very same characters you mention. It made me love anime and gave lessons I never would have gotten otherwise having a somewhat absent father and I’m so grateful. I quit college and decided it wasn’t for me and k had to choose something I could live with. I did trade school, got certifications and did any job I could find. Mostly cleaning. But it worked out. Those qualifications and my interest in building things has les to my current position. I’m an assistant project manager for my construction company that does high end residential in NYC. Idk where this will take me. I know that the field has many opportunities and getting them lies on me. I have to learn all k can and apply it successfully. But I have to say I enjoy what I do and having seen construction as a kid the few times I did see my dad when he took me on his jobs, I feel like I can grow and I’m not constrained by what society wanted me to do. I’m glad I dropped out and explored not only myself but also my surroundings, relationships and people. We all have our own journey. Thank you for sharing yours and giving me hope that we will all end up where we are supposed to.
I started college right after high school even though I knew it wouldn’t get me to what I want in life. I dropped out after less than a year from burnout and stress. Now I work a security job that stresses me out just as much. I know what I want in life, what will make me happy but I’ve been in this spiral of inaction. At some point I realized that this is life, I can start working towards these things. It won’t happen overnight but at least I’m not standing still.
Dude, I like your channel, but you always go for the worse, most desperate interpretation of these things... With Kant we establish that our ability to choose against our instinct and rationality reaffirms our free will and ability to choose. And Camus stated determining is suicide was moral was one of the first questions. DESPITE what Camus may think, I believe suicide is moral, but also optional. What I mean is that suicide/non-existence is completely morally sound and acceptable according to many different moral frameworks and their criteria, but unlike other moral questions suicide is not an imperative. You aren't morally compelled to do so, and never are and never should be pressured. Your later "pain" of free will is the textbook of Sartre's "bad faith" in which you try to escape free will to find a way to have others take responsibility.... Which is by far the most egregious and worst sin you can commit to an existentialist. Even by not choosing, you are choosing. You're just refusing to accept the responsibility of of your choice. Beyond that, many of your examples give the feeeling of "waiting for Godot" which I'm surprised you don't mention. Meanwhile, I can only further recommend Kirkegaard, and I shall go back to reading Chalmers... (his interviews on youtube are infuriating. I agree with him, yet he seems so simplistic and ARRRRGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!! But that's all theory of mind stuff, and not the ethical/free will stuff ;) )
The most basic consideration of either physics or your first hand experience shows that "free will" is nonsense. You are making fuzz about something that you can't just find out to not exist from your own room, you can find out that it cannot exist. You, the thing that experiences reading this comment, doesn't make decisions. It witnesses decisions. That which is aware of a mental dialogue, a deliberation, a thought, is not their creator.
Hi, my name is Dre and I'm heading to Uni in less than a week now, I'm really glad I found your video and I cried a few times through it. I've always been told I should be a doctor or a scientist something high paying since I have always been able to work hard, harder than most, and achieve good grades. But I never wanted any of it and all my life I have just liked to draw, paint to make pictures that allow others to smile or experience some sort of emotion and even though I do not think myself to be that good at it yet, especially the portraying emotions in my work part. I have managed to get into this small arts program in french where I will study for the next few years in hopes of one day becoming an art teacher. You see my art teacher always helped me, I would stay after class cleaning up after others, I would help out and really give it my all till now achieve good grades in the class or much. But despite her super harsh grading and strict attitude, she helped me. It was in my last year of high school when I decided I needed to do something with art or I simply wouldn't be able to live a life I would be proud of. When she told me I should be an art teacher, I had thought of it before and was considering it but I was never sure. I always struggled with decisions. That is to say your video really helped me. I'm glad I am able to make friends and pursue the life I want even if it means struggling. I just want you to know I appreciate your video as when I was little and still now, I struggled with decisions I often put others before myself and followed my parents every whim but now I would like to be able to make my own picture.
In the end, all we have is the choices we make for ourselves. The path of an artist in our unideal world is usually more painful than most, but as someone who pursued science without a true care for it, I've found it to be painful anyway. So, I can't say it will be comfortable, as you already know. But living on your own terms, as what you believe yourself to be, is a beautiful thing. I hope your experience is one you'll cherish : )
As a doctor who mourns music having to be my hobby now instead of a job, this post was ooof. I’m glad you seem to have avoided a mistake I made and often counsel others against: pursuing the path others recommend rather than the one we are drawn to.
@@JamesDecker7 It is very reassuring to know that a person as experienced as yourself wishes that your hobby had been your job. I am 25 years old with a job that I am not at all interested in and I am trying each day to shift to the field that I am really interested in. My spontaneity was damaged a lot when my parents didn't allow me to choose what I wanted to do at the age of 18. That event has affected my whole life since then. I was never happy. I regret that event a lot and I have a lot of anger towards my parents. But I know that anger is futile. All I can do is try really hard to achieve what I really want. I simply cannot live like I am living now.
This was brilliant! I could give a long winded response on how much I enjoyed the video and how impactful I found it, but ultimately all I would be saying In many words would be thank you. Your essays help me make sense of the noise in my head and give me new ways or remind me of ways I had decided to start looking at life. You are doing fantastic work. I am rooting for you
Wow, your videos have such a high quality and the writing is beautiful. I'm just a 17 years old undecided in every thing that can't make decisions by himself and needs someone else to validate or to make each decision. The last part of the video about yourself was really heart warming and in some parts really relatable, thank you for sharing your experiences, your content is amazing and motivating. It is really deep, the concept of using animes as examples for philosophical ideas is really interesting since it shows new interpretations and helps a certain audience to connect with the content. Thank you for these videos!
I’m turning 18 in 46 days and that ending part really grabbed me. I needed this. I needed to hear someone tell me to grab life by the balls. Thank you ProfessorViral.
I'm 24, I turn 25 in a little over a month. I'm still living with my parents, I dropped out of college, I don't know what I even want, and I'm terrified to look. I don't know what to do. This video cut pretty deep, it makes me want to change, want to properly start my life, but I don't even know where to start. But I think I need to start figuring it out. Thanks for the reality check, sometimes hearing someone else's story can put your own in perspective...
Free Will is weird to me because like it objectively doesn't make sense and does not conform with our understanding of reality. no one really has a choice in anything
Last part was way to real. I am 27 now, and havent figured out what i want to do. Well, technicly i want to become a writer, but this dream seems so far away that i started to proceed an career i dont care about, just so that i have a reliable plan b and source of income, because i was numb and lazy in 20s and did basically nothing.
I feel that. I keep clinging to my plan b, the career I don't care for. I can't say it's a bad idea, at the end of the day, stability is the most important thing, and it's hard to chase a dream with having stability from somewhere else. But it's exhausting to do both at once. The awful reality of our world is that the happiness of a creative comes with a lot of risk. Our world doesn't value such things enough to support them broadly. I have no answer. It will always come down to the individual, and knowing themself well and true, which is hard in itself. The most I can say is to do whatever you do with vigor. We can doubt every path, and think we made the wrong decision, whatever we do. That doubt will tear us apart
This video is relatable, im 25 and I spent the last three years in depression preventing me from making choices. I am now taking things into my own hand and I am trying to be better than who I was from the day before. Making a choice is a lot better than not making any and feeling stagnant. Now I feel like a river that is constantly moving and it feels great. I still feel behind from time to time but I know that this feeling is temporary and I will eventually be at the place I should be at. Thanks for this video, it compresses all the things I was feeling at that place in time and I am starting to be able to move on from it.
As a trans person this video hits a different kind of good. I think this is something every trans-person grapples with when they start their transition since it's all built on breaking that wall of indecision. In this video and especially the last part I think you've summarized the feeling of knowing both that your past and your future was not your own unless you start deciding to act on your own desires. The harsh reality of having to make it work double to make up for inactions of the past.
I'm crying right now, this speaks directly to the crisis I have and utter innability to act on my passions, I'm on the same road in life you mention and actually want to hug you. Always been too inmature to be where I'm supposed to be, I want to take action, but don't know how. I really hope you feel satisfied with what you're working towards and that you can use that pain as drive.
If I was able to, I'd gladly accept a hug, for us both : ) I wish our world was more ideal, so we didn't have to feel so overwhelmed by the decisions were forced to make. I wish we could take our time to learn ourselves first. It's important to remember not to blame yourself too much in all of this, the world is simply harsh at times. But I hope this all is able to lead you somewhere positive as well : )
Thanks for your eloquent honesty. I haven't watched enough of your videos but I appreciate them deeply. If you made more easy to digest content you could be much more successful on RU-vid but I thank you for the depth you go to. I'm right now stuck in a valley where a difficult future lies ahead, one of my own choosing yet I can't bring myself to climb out the valley. I am both scared of the path I have chosen however cannot seem to let it go either. Try as I might, I cannot seem to let it go, I have discovered my purpose off the beaten path, and it's not an easy path whatsoever, so I am overwhelmed by it. Part of me knows I WANT to give up but I just simply seem to can't. My own thoughts mirror your own words and feelings, I do hope to see you more as we both lay down a new path for the world to enjoy walking down in the future
You're still here, so apparently you weren't overwhelmed. Free will is nonsense. Decisions appear in consciousness like anything else. They aren't generated by consciousness. Whatever is aware of a thoughts, an inner dialogue, doesn't produce it. Hard decisions matter, but you aren't making them. Unconscious processes in your brain do.
it can depend on why you are in a particular job, the reason you have for doing it and the expectations you came in to it with and whether you made that choice from necessity or as an option.
What we resist persists. Following the paths others determine is indeed a path with less pain by avoiding the hurt of choosing. But it’s the same as PTSD: avoidance just makes things worse.
Either spend your whole life finding the perfect formula for the traveling salesman problem or love the suboptimal outcomes that are created from our "choices" and learn to live with the consequences of those choices. With free will, you're able to change your preexisting conditions that limited our choices to begin with. If you give up the notion that you can choose your preexisting conditions, you're free to be whomever you want to be given the circumstances.
Having to make a choice is terrifying. But having no choice is much more horrible. If we didn't have free will then all of our accomplishments would be meaningless. What we achieved wouldn't be due to our efforts, our ambitions and our struggles. It would just be the hand of destiny choosing for you. Same with your mistakes, you were doomed to make them. We couldn't be proud of our achievements nor regret our mistakes. For victory and defeat aren't ours to celebrate or to mourn. We aren't responsible for what we aren't in control of.
I think that's part of why I believe, and want to believe, in free will. Life itself is already just nature playing a game of existence, and we're bound to that like anything else. But within that, we get to succeed and fail, to make an impact which is uniquely ours. That's the only reprieve we get from the harsh nature around us, and I'll take it for what it is
Having no choice is really the best and most freeing thing. Opens the door to forgiveness and happiness. It's really not that hard to agree with. You literally can't choice anything when you eat, get hurt, become sick, parents, local or even death. It's right in your face. Free will is a social construct that we pretend exists.
@@techpriestalex8730 I would argue that free will is real and we do have choices. You can disagree with me, but if I am wrong, then the reason you believe what you believe is because you were programmed to. You believe lack of choice leads to happiness and forgiveness because you literally can't believe in anything else. And how can we condemn horrible criminals if they weren't in control over their own actions? The victim and the criminal were both destined to suffer and to inflict suffering. Reality would just be a bad joke.
I'm 21 years old, and I have no idea what I'm doing. I did a course in high school that i didn't care about and went to college. I dropped out and tried again 3 times just to drop out every single time no matter what I told myself just because it felt like the right thing to do was to go to college like everyone else. I'm still living in my parents house, working at the closest mcdonalds, 30h a week, and I'm so uninterested in my life that I don't care about doing a shit job, and I do nothing with the free time I have : I don't think about what I can do next, I'm not planning anything past the end of the month. I have lost interest in my passions a long time ago and I cannot find other passions as I don't give time to myself. I'm boring and uninteresting as a person, but people stick to me because I'm "easy to talk to" apparently and I'm friendly to everyone. This video hit hard as I never really took a real decision for myself and I'm just "going with the flow" to be honest. I really hope I can change and move out and have my own appartment and a job that I like. For now, I'm surrounded by many friends and I even have a girlfriend, it's been 5 years. But I think one day, sooner than later, I'll end up alone as I am not evolving at all while everyone is slowly pushing themselves towards their goals and dreams and objectives. I don't think I'm gonna make it past my 20s. But I couldn't care less. Thank you for this video. It made me realise that I have made mistakes, and I am sure I can fix them, with enough work and time. I'll think about it tomorrow.
im still young, i still have a future but it stresses me put immensely that if my grades start to drop i cant go to my vocational school and i might not get the job i really want by the time i graduate highschool. i have two and a half years left, ive worked on myself a lot this past year and im so scared thar i havent done enpugh and when the moment comes where everything matters, i wont be enough. ill flunk out of skills and never make it past regionals. im so scared of failure. ive never taken anything seriously and now i want to, but i just end up acting lazy.
I learned this lesson at 18 after going to school in a far away town for a semester because I thought it would be the best, to do something I didn't care for. I stopped attending everything halfway through and quit when the semester was over. It was depressing but eye opening. I worked for myself and lived the life I wanted to live every day. Working towards goals that led to my dreams being reality and then my gf at the time got pregnant despite my careful judgment. After that i lost my job and couldn't find another one and since then my life has been drifting, choosing to not make decisions to not be in charge to not be at fault when my life falls to pieces. I'm now 22 with an almost 2 year old, and everything is falling apart because I have chosen to not make decisions I should have while keeping people around me that have no business being in my life in the first place, let alone having so much control over it.
im 18 a trans person who has known my whole life ive always been told to not do it because blank but no one has given me a reason good enough. I have made a reason myself and that's that people seem to care about me when im not trans i can just follow a path and not decide and its easy, but its so dull and not worth it i hate living that way so much. Now though i have noone but myself and i can deal with that but its more of a case of i can feel myself detatching from the world from isolation. The straights i cant hangout with because im trans the gays i cant hangout with because they make me want to kill myself when i hear them speak and the ones that dont just dont like me. My problem is that a compromise isnt worth it but the only solution i can see is stop being trans but i know that is only even worse than compromises.
if you're willing to burn it all down and have nothing you can move on from others' contexts. even the things you're claiming you still can't change actually can be
I empathize with you but I am no longer in the same boat as you. I turn 20 in less than 2 weeks and I've found my life to be a uphill battle. It's been tough but fun too. I think mistakes educate us and make us less ignorant. Easy times make weak people, weak people make hard times, hard times make strong people and strong people make easy times. I think it's important to understand where you fucked up, accept it and let that push you forward to greatness. The darkness should motivate you to enjoy the light more. At the same time, don't take life so seriously. You are going to die some day. If that day was tomorrow, how would you have wished you live? Also, I would much rather make a harder decision that is my OWN than have someone else make it for me. You only have one life and You are the one controlling it. I won't hate on someone going through life as a floater, but isn't it so much more fun to do something special. Yeah, rewatched this video and came up with that. Keep moving forward (Psycho Pass S3 let's go)
