In common with many other posts, it's not just me then. . . The truth of the matter is - it isn’t often enough to just ask “Are you OK”, this is the British polite greeting and does not really invite or suffer any response other than “Aye - fine”. It needs the asker to actually listen to the response and sometime hear the unspoken sentiment or feeling. Loathe to suggest this may have been dreamt up a well meaning campaign manager - or someone who isn't actually ill - they need to go one further and ask the public to actually mean the question and listen to the answer. The truth is and I speak as someone who lived with Aspergers for 58 years till diagnosed two years ago - no one without such a condition can have any idea how hard it is to just exist some days - especially when all around you are so positive and outgoing - and can't understand how you cannot just be like them. Coping strategies are long term development goals :-)
saying "I am okay" is a lot easier than telling what's really troubling my head. But when the words come out, I realize that people will judge and then don't really care with my problem because they're just asking.
In America, we say "how are you?" and "how are things going?" just as greetings. It's almost considered rude to not say you're doing freaking fantastic and to reciprocate the greeting. Example: PERSON: "Hey, how are you?" ME: "I'm doing terrible, honestly... You?" PERSON: (confused, not actually interested in hearing about my problems) "Oh, well... sorry for asking." PERSON, expecting a brief uninvolved exchange, EXITS. GREAT VIDEO, THOUGH!!!! Very well directed and visually pleasing.
+Lyoko Sauce Lol its true... I used to have a boss who would do this because when he'd ask how I was, I'd usually say "pretty good." This was an honest answer - some things were good, some things weren't, but mostly I was good. He never liked the response, but it was how I answered anyway, because it was the truth. One day he actually sat me down, and said I needed to work on my negative attitude. I said sorry, and that I didn't realize I'd been negative, and asked what he meant. He said that in general I was fine, but every morning I'd only say "pretty good." He said I should always say "great." In hindsight, that exchange should have told me a lot about what the next two years working for him would be like hahaha.
+Lyoko Sauce Asking "Are you Okay?" is not meant as a greeting. In America neither. If a colleague takes you to the side and looks you in the eye and asks "Are you okay buddy?" he's not being polite.
+Lyoko Sauce That's no different to the UK, but this video is about asking someone "Are you Oaky?" - not just as a greeting but as a genuine question and/or show of concern.
+Supa Hot Fire if and when i ask, i ask sincerely. I don't ask details becuase im not nosy. just sometimes people need to vent. plus, their perpective on situations help expand my own.
Everyone's depressed, stop thinking you should be happy all the time. This is bologna, mental health discrimination? Is that even a thing? You're a curmudgeon, but that's discrimination. Shuddd up.
