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I have to say this… I absolutely love the decision you have made to start a Podcast with your husband. The conversations are relatable and as a woman who grew up in church it’s so refreshing to hear the real versus the sugar coated. For the both of you to be honest about your past lives and the struggles you still experience is what needs to be heard. I subscribed to you because you’re not afraid to say you love God and I’m sticking around for the realness.
@OnlyOneJess but let's be honest... I was raised pentecostal I mean back in the day, old time pentecostal. So yes wr sat people down who sin. The simply told us don't havr sex....but we had far less sexual offenses back then, than we do now. I literally had a 12yr old with chlamydia. Gonorrhea, and herpes in my ER last night 😩 this baby is 12 and she said she don't even know who gave her what. So I'd much rather have it the way it was when we came up than these kids today. I'm very cautious about my 3 and 1yr old
Jess, the way Jonathan openly encourages you to speak and live in your truth, without shame or judgment… I can only imagine his covering behind closed doors. 🙏🏽 I’m not sure if it’s part of the “black/caribbean church culture” but I’m sure many of us share the same stories. The common denominator is often the hyper focus on shaming/denouncing someone who has sinned. I know it’s pushed a lot of people away from the physical building of church (I’m sure it also happens in other cultures as well). I think one of the most important things we can learn, practice and share is the importance of cultivating a personal relationship with God. When all else is stripped away, God is still in the midst.
Whew!!! That was some GREAT unpacking!!! It does help me in the path of raising my child. Beautiful open conversation and YES WE ALL SEE THE CALLING FOR JOHNATHAN 😂😂 He gives chills sometimes, come on thru Pastor! ❤❤
Hey Jess!!!! YOU SOUND LIKE ME!!!! Lol. My dad is a Pastor as well and you know what I have learned since I've gotten older? When the enemy can't can't get to the parents, they come after the children. So, it wasn't just you. It was an attack of the enemy on your parents. When you r parents raise you to know the Word and the give you to God, they know you'll find your way back! I have the same testimony! My sister and I tell my dad some of the stuff we were doing (we're 36 and 37 now) and he just be looking at us crazy! When he preaches, we always end up in his messages. He told God that he would serve him, he just wanted God to take care of us (me and my sister). That's it!!! Love you guys talks! Much love and blessings to you guys!
i be in my dads messages too! lol our parents did the best they could with what they had and im forever grateful for the tools they gave me. shout out to us pastors kids! lol
I'm a preacher's kid and I appreciate that there was no pressure felt for me to be anyone other than who I am. I definitely have a great balance between being a PK and all social things. I'm in my late 30s. My brother is similar to me and my sister...well she was on rebel time LOL. But most folks grow out of it.
Great PodCast! I’m 56yo. My kids are your age. I have 3 girls. My hubby and I read a book to them called “What’s Happening To My Body” at age 8 of the eldest. The younger 2 were 7 and 5. We always keep an open door policy in our house. Every family is different but that worked for us.
We grew up in a lot of religion and not relationship. The old church way of ‘scaring’ the hell out of us. So much trauma and no true relationship with God. Yes! We have to died with home we share our nakedness too. The world speaks of itching. We have to truly use discernment
Bruhhhh we couldn't watch Harry Potter, Pokémon, BET (except Bobby Jones gospel), MTV, and we weren't even preachers kids 😂😂😂 I'm grateful for it now, though!
10:51 My kids would likely say this❤ 😅 ...my reason is -It was in protection of their innocence and newness in Christ. Both deal with Idolizing other beings and conjuring spirits. I didn't/don't want other things to come against my childs belief in God. 🌱 Budding faith - is new and developing during young years. Similar to the midset of a gardener...you can not control the direction a seed will sprout but you can give the plants a fence and proper support to grow in a safe space. 💫💚💜🤗 God is good. I am so proud of you and your truth. Remain Blessed.
One more thing I agree that opening up is a way to let go and free yourself but I never trusted anyone because I always felt like they would just judge me and tell everyone about it. Yeah no! 😂😂😂
This was a great conversation. I am glad you guys shared your experiences. Many of us have the same experiences. Thanks for sharing. Keep up with the podcast
I didn’t understand why me and my siblings would have to go to church. Our parents stayed at home. When I became a teenager I wouldn’t go. Now I think God for my mother coming upon a year this 😢month without her. Be blessed and happy with your family that you have in your life 💞🌺💞🌼💞🌸🦋🌈🙏🏾
Okay, so first: Jess not you telling Sis Shirley it’s too late 😂 you’re a fool! Secondly, I also see Pastor all over you so imma just start calling you PJ from now. Third, just piggybacking off of the last part of this conversation, you guys should totally do a video about social media as it pertains to our generation especially as Christians. And also Jess how you balance being a social media influencer without being “influenced” yourself. Fourth, I just love you guys ❤ keep it coming!
1. Singing Ja rule lyrics as a prayer is wilddddd 😭 2. It’s def a Caribbean x Christian thing for the no Harry Potter etc devil ting I too could not watch those things loo
I do wish churches spoke more about sex. I went to Catholic school, and tbh they kinda made sex sound dirty in a way. And im not surprised that catholic girls had that stereotype because we knew that sex outside marriage was wrong but no one spoke on why, so criousity kicked in. Pastor Michael Todd was probably the only preacher who spoke about sex and relationship in detail in his relationship goals series and it was really profound.
I grew up in the church too!! My entire life that’s what it felt like but it was just my mom who kept us in the church house not my dad he didn’t even go to church because he was dealing with his own demons. But I said that I am going to get back into reading my Bible but gurl I have to get the niv I don’t want to re-read just to understand what I just read…. Gurl…. The big words were killing me!!!😂😂😂 but I am on revelations then I can say I read the whole bible ❤
As someone who used to tour with an organization that dealt with p*rn and sex addiction, good for y'all for tackling what a lot of churches SHOULD yet WON'T. "Sex is as much of a spiritual ministry as it is a physical fact." (I Cor. 6:16-Message) And yes, Jess, killin' it with the consistency and always adore seeing the priest and his ezer kenegdo spit. ;) Salute.
Hey I’m full black and nope not an island thing we couldn’t do Harry Potter , Pokémon , Yu-Gi-oh etc lol but when you look into the spiritual behind it you understand
😂 demon thing, cause I don't let my children watch those things either. But for real, especially these new age things, some crazy lessons being taught in these shows. Have to be careful
so glad i got to this video early. i’m a pk too and the sweltering shame that’s built into caribbean based christian churches is very detrimental to young minds that are bound to explore. i’m a young adult now and i live my life without shame, and i am less connected to my father’s church and more connected to God for myself. once i went away to college i literally felt God keeping me. seeing how other kids lose all their discipline when they’re free was scary. finding God for myself was the self awakening i needed to realize some of the hypocrisy i’ve faced within church growing up. my parents weren’t as strict as the people in his congregation tried to be, but once your pastor’s kid everyone thinks you’re their kid too because of that spotlight. so glad i could relate my experiences to you guys tho, keep the podcasts coming ❤
I am a 44 year old woman who grew up with old school belizean parents. They never spoke about sex. I am the youngest of 7. They let my siblings "educate " me on sex. I had to figure it out on my own basically because they didn't know much either. I changed the narrative with my children by having open conversations with my them. Thanks Jess and Jonathan for this podcasts and creating this safe space for us❤
I just turned 49 yrs old this month and the message of forgiveness is so necessary and I receive that message and I thank God for using you as a vessel for me to hear and receive this message. I've heard it before but I truly get it today so thank you so much. I love this podcast and beautiful couple. God's continual blessings over your lives. Thank you so much. Much love ❤
Y'all better PREACH! This hit different, especially when I am almost twice your age and I got this message sent to me FROM GOD through you both. God Bless your union and keep sharing. Y'all are definitely making a positive difference. Yall are so adorable and fun to watch as well on "Your Podcast," even with serious topics. I love it!!!
First of all, I LOVE you two doing this together it is so refreshing and relatable. I feel like this is going to be something so big. You both are very insightful and honest & so many people (young and older) will be enlightened in many different ways. Go Jess, great move! I agree with Jonathan...you can be open, but not accepting of everything. Thats the difference between a friend and a parent...a parent will let you in on information based on age/time of course, but will also let you know what they expect of you. Boundaries still have to be set even when being open. You also have to remember not to be overly open anout everything.
It is a commandant and sex outside of marriage is adultery. All of these topics are great that you guys are doing! Honestly when people see young adults living for God it inspires the youth and older adults to do the same😊
I had this dilemma but not from being a pastor kid but from having strict helicopter parents they wanted and expected perfection so I had a complete double life that led me to making a lot of mistakes in the dark because I couldn’t go to anyone for advice or real conversations so I just tried to hide and figure everything out on my own. Ex hygiene, sex, etc
A 5hr service?!!! How can someone speak that long. 😭😭 at what point do we stop singing the entire Kirk Franklin catalogue. Omg I would’ve been resentful too
Generational legacies and generational curses are synonymous. The pressure of living up to adult standards as a kid can cripple you (legacy). The pressure to do better when you don't see better cripple you (gen curses). Both are Anxiety Triggers.
I actually like the air quotes when you say podcast. It is something that will make your logo for whatever name you select unique. I teach marketing and design.
I'm not a PK but as someone who got baptized at a young age ... when I really think about it shame is the main reason I fell off my walk... I felt so dirty and broken to the point where I believed God could never love someone like me ... because of an experience like that I think if the churches have a safe space for young people there's so much we don't have go through or experience just to understand the why.
Before the “podcast” I NEVER knew you were Caribbean. Makes me so happy feels like I can relate to you even more Christian, Caribbean and an influencer LOVE IT
Great conversation! When we started school, every year at the beginning of school from K-College, my mom sat us down and talked to us. She would say, never let anyone touch you (she would point in the area), never take medicine from people! Things like that, then as we got older the talks got more deep! Cause here’s the thing, if not parents, then who? 🖤🖤🖤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Jonathan that message was for me I think almost the last seven minutes. Thank you. You said God unconditional forgiveness. A tear fell and I knew it was for me. Thank you so much.
Yall betta preach 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Y’all are ministering to so many, I’m loving watching these “podcasts” lol Speaking so many truths that people have went through and felt stuck with no outlet, someone got free from watching this. God bless you both, keep it going!!!!
This was a great conversation. I enjoyed this podcast too. I agree with y'all and that's also how I see things. We need to be realistic in church. Being strict don't guarantee holiness. I was curious too as a teen. And don't school the girls only, school the boys too! Keep the podcasts coming❤
Love these conversations you guys share. Keep them coming. Also, Jonathan, love your wisdom but your voice does kind of fade out when your turn your head away from the mic and I barely hear you then.
After those push-ups with you reading a book on his back Jonathan's name will forever be J-Strong to me....and he doesn't need IG because he's married to Jess lol. Y'all are like my younger cousins and I love y'all. Especially the looks you give him when he starts spitting the Word!
Jess girl you might be on to something with the podcast. I mean I started watching this morning and came right back to it on my lunch. I love the topic,really enjoy the energy and how y’all feed off each other. Please keep this up!!!
Fornication sex outside of marriage, adultery is the cheating. Without the conversation outside of saying it is wrong don't do it. Leads to. ..."imma see for myself"
This was so relatable it’s funny I was a preacher kid too and have some of the same experiences including getting baptized at 8/9. I did it all in the church and the pressure was real!!!!
No girl it makes you approachable. I love you guys bcuz you’re so real and you know God and it doesn’t make you holier than thou. When I was a child it was one or the other.
Lol just like you Jess. I was like let me try and got pregnant on my first time, family is in ministry! I was 16! What I tell my daughter is pregnancy/ raising a child was the easiest out of all the other consequences that they don't talk about.
Oh my goodness, this was a wonderful, serious and needed to be heard vlog. You two made it enjoyable I laughed so much, my husband came into the room and asked what was so funny? He only knows you by me saying, I'm watching Jess the lady that does the Factor adds 😂. Please keep them coming . I really get excited when I get a notification that you are on🙏❤️
This is my first time commenting on RU-vid ever but I had to lol. It's crazy how you was raised EXACTLY like me and my siblings when I thought only my church was "crazy" lol naw but being a preacher's kid and the excessive church and not getting reasons for why we couldn't do things. And definitely the pedestal 🤦🏽. I felt this whole "podcast" 😂 And lastly I love yaw chemistry 💖
Jonathan , “curse” words are called curses for a reason . Our words have power , I slip up every now & again too but I wouldn’t say it’s not a big deal 😉 just something to think on! Loved this episode
Show names: On the Couch w/Jess & Jonathan or In the Room w/Jess & Jonathan or Talking on the Couch w/Jess & Jonathan or Let's Talk w/Jess & Jonathan. This way you won't need to say the word podcast. 😂😂 I couldn't fall asleep, so I was watching your video, good by the way. Those were the show names I came up with. ❤❤
I'm gonna leave this comment here before I forget, although I'm only 10 mins in...I strongly dislike when elders or leaders in the church discourage people from sharing their testimony just because they think it's gonna put ideas in the minds of others cause disappointment or whatever they assume! I always say to the mentors in my close circle, if more Christians were honest about what they've done, their struggles and how they PRACTICALLY got through it (aka don't tell me to just pray about it), it could save a lot of young people from going through the same things because they begin seeing you as human and not some holier than thou, judgmental Christian that doesn't understand what it feels like to struggle.
I love that you both decided to do a podcast ! I enjoyed both episodes so far, you both are full of wisdom and yet also remain to be relatable. Keep it going ! 🎉
