The Problem of Awe | Salman Asif Siddiqui | مرعوبیت: ایک بڑا نفسیاتی مسئلہ 

ماشاءللہ۔ بہت مفید گفتگو رہی۔ علاج میں سے ایک علاج یہ بھی ہو سکتا ہے کہ کسی ایسے اللہ والے کی صحبت میں رہا جائے جو مرعوبیت کے فتنے سے بچا ہوا ہو ۔۔۔۔

Summary: 1. Ask yourself why do you feel worthy? Is it some materialistic entity? If yes then you must know that your taken by awe of that thing that you use to define your worth. 2. Concious Zikr of Allah, absorbing the fact that Allah is the greatest. There is no one worthy of awe other than Allah Himself. "Kalmay ko shao'or ki teh main utarain". 3. Tadabbur, analyzing things around you. Redefining your concepts. Challenging your conditioning. 4. Dunya k mamlay main apne se neechay walon ko dekho, naiki k mamlay main khud se uper walon ko dekho. Some important answers : 1. kisi insaan ki kisi silahiyat se maro'b nahi hona. Ilm se mar'ob hona jaiz hai. Kisi insaan main ilmiyat ka nazar ana uska Kamal nahi hai, Allah ka Karam hai us banday pe. Kisi insaan se maro'ob nahi hona. 2. Jo insaan maro'ob hogaa wo maro'ob b karega. Hum jis cheez se maro'ob hote hain, us se doosron ko maro'ob krne ki koshish krainge. 3. Bachay maro'ob nahi hote.Hairaan hote Hain, maro'ob nahi hote. Maro'obiyat sirf Allah ki hai Dil pe. Jis k pass Jo hai wo Allah ka diaa huaa hai. Or Allah sb ka hai.

اللہ تعالی آپ کو جزائے خیر عطا فرمائے آپ کی عمر صحت کاملہ کے ساتھ دراز کرے۔ اور آپ کے اہل وعیال کو بھی دنیا و آخرت کی خوشیاں دے آمین۔۔۔۔۔

ماشاءاللہ سر جی بہت مفید باتیں سننے کو ملیں۔ اللہ اس مفید گفتگو کو آپکے لئے توشہِ آخرت بنادے۔ آمین

Things I always thought but didn't have words to describe them, found them here. I will see more of your videos sir. Thanks for sharing.

The Imam (as) said: ‘O Abu Abdullah! Knowledge is not obtained by learning. Rather, it is a light which enters the heart of whoever Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, wishes to guide. So if you want knowledge, first find in yourself the reality of slavery. Seek knowledge by utilizing it and ask Allah to make you understand, then He will make you understand.’ فقال (عليه السلام): يا أبا عبد الله ليس العلم بالتعلم انما هو نور يقع في قلب من يريد الله تبارك وتعالى ان يهديه فان اردت العلم فاطلب اوّلا في نفسك حقيقة العبودية. اطلب العلم باستعماله واستفهم الله يفهمك.He (as) said: ‘Reality of slavery has three strands: Firstly, a slave does not see ownership for himself of the things that Allah has entrusted to him, because slaves do not possess ownership. Slaves see wealth as that of Allah and place it wherever He has commanded them to. Secondly a slave does not plan his own affairs, being entirely occupied with what Allah, the Exalted has planned. Thirdly, he is entirely occupied with what Allah, the Exalted, has commanded him to do and prohibited him from doing. قال (عليه السلام): ثلاثة اشياء: ان لا يرى العبد لنفسه فيما خوّله الله ملكا لان العبيد لا يكون لهم ملك يرون المال مال الله يضعونه حيث امرهم الله به، ولا يدبّر العبد لنفسه تدبيرا، وجملة اشتغاله فيما امر الله تعالى به ونهاه عنه. So if a slave does not see any ownership for himself of that which Allah has entrusted to him, it would be easy for him to spend only in the way that Allah, the Exalted, has commanded him to spend, and if a slave leaves the management of his self to his Manager then the afflictions of this world become easy on him, and if a slave occupies himself with what Allah, the Exalted, commanded him to do and prohibited him from doing he will not have the free time to engage in futile debate and boasting with people. فاذا لم ير العبد لنفسه فيما خوّله الله تعالى ملكا هان عليه الانفاق فيما امره الله تعالى ان ينفق فيه وإذا فوّض العبد تدبير نفسه على مدبّره هان عليه مصائب الدنيا وإذا اشتغل العبد بما امره الله تعالى ونهاه لا يتفرغ منهما الى المراء والمباهاة مع الناس. So if Allah honors the slave with these three, the world, Iblis and all creation would become low in the eyes of the slave and he would not yearn after this world, its wealth or personal pride. He would not seek what people have, for glory or superiority (amongst them) and would not leave his days to pass away in vain. This is the first stage of piety. Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, said: فاذا أكرم الله العبد بهذه الثلاثة هان عليه الدنيا وابليس والخلق ولا يطلب الدنيا تكاثرا وتفاخرا ولا يطلب ما عند الناس عزا وعلوا ولا يدع ايامه باطلا. فهذا اول درجه التقي. قال الله تبارك وتعالى: ‘(As for) that future abode, We assign it to those who have no desire to exalt themselves in the earth nor to make mischief and the good end is for those who guard (against evil)’(28:83). "تلك الدار الآخرة نجعلها للذين لا يريدون علوا في الارض ولا فسادا والعاقبة للمتقين". I said: ‘O Abu Abdullah, advise me further on this matter. He (as) said: ‘There are nine things to advise for those seeking the path to Allah, the Exalted and I ask Allah to guide you in putting this advice into practice. Three of them are with regards to self- asceticism, three of them are with regards to forbearance and three of them are with regards to knowledge. Maintain them and guard against taking them lightly.’’ قلت يا ابا عبد الله: اوصني. قال (عليه السلام): اوصيك بتسعة اشياء فإنها وصية لمريدي الطريق الي الله تعالي والله اسال ان يوفقك لاستعماله، ثلاثة منها في رياضة النفس وثلاثة منها في الحلم وثلاثة منها في العلم فاحفظها واياك والتهاون بها. Unwan said: ‘so I gave him my full attention, and he (as) continued: قال عنوان: ففرغت قلبي له. Regarding the self-asceticism, be wary of eating that which you do not crave for because this leads to stupidity and imbecility. Do not eat unless you are hungry and if you eat, eat that which is halal, mentioning the name of Allah, and remember the narration of the Messenger (S) where he says: ‘No human has filled a cavity worse than his stomach. Let him leave a third for his food, a third for his drink, and a third for the air he breathes.’ فقال (ع): اما اللواتي في الرياضة: فإياك ان تأكل مالا تشتهيه فانه يورث الحماقة والبله ولا تأكل الا عند الجوع وإذا اكلت فكل حلالا وسم الله واذكر حديث الرسول (ص)‌: ما ملاء آدمي وعاء شرا من بطنه فان كان ولابد فثلث لطعامه وثلث لشرابه وثلث لنفسه. With regards to forbearance; if someone says to you ‘if you say one thing (of insult to me), you will hear ten things’ you should say to him: ‘if you say ten (insulting) things, you will not hear even one from me’. If someone swears at you, say to him: ‘if you are truthful in what you say then I ask Allah to forgive me, and if you are lying in what you say, then I ask Allah to forgive you’. Finally, if someone promises you obscene language then promise him advice and care. وامّا اللواتي في الحلم: فمن قال لك ان قلت واحده سمعت عشرا. فقل ان قلت عشرا لم تسمع واحده. ومن شتمك فقل له ان كنت صادقا فيما تقول فأسال الله ان يغفر لي وان كنت كاذبا فيما تقول فأسأل الله ان يغفر لك. ومن وعدك بالخنى فعده بالنصيحة والرعاء.

Allah Pak aap ko barkat da, aur app ka saya salamat rakhay.

ماشآللہ بہترین سوچ

Asalamu alaikum Sir I Have watched All ur vedios sir I am from kashmir.I have a lot of time to recognise self as the environment is not stable.Your knowledge adds my belief and practice.

Every session is special. Sometime its seem the new is best then the last... Thanks ERDC for all this... Plz if easy a session for homeschooling we wait for this... Extra thanks.. اللہ آپ سے راضی ہو جائے آمین

Jazak Allah khairan 💐 May Rabay Kareem bless you with best knowledge and success.

اللہ اکبر۔ اللہ تعالیٰ آپکو جذائے خیر عطا فرمامیں۔ آمین۔

Subhan Allah Jazakallah khair.

Lots of prayers for Salman sahab for enlightening us with such lovely concepts.

No one ever touched this topic in such a way ...JazakAllah khairan kaseera...this pr3is silent killer of taqwa

Masha Allah, very informative, knowledgeable and deeply thought lectures.

JazakAllah khaira

ماشاء اللہ بہت ہی اعلیٰ اور بہترین کلام سبحان اللہ سبحان اللہ محمد فاروق سعدی واہ کینٹ

Excellent sir!! Bilkul esa hi hy.. Mera beta BSS mien perta hy aur aksar hi qeemti garion aur watches etc etc is tra ki discussions krta hy ger a ker.. Mujy heraat hoti hy parents kids k sath kesi batien krty hn jo school a kr b wo esi hi batein frends sy discuss krty hn.. Hmary society mn parents apny complexes kids mien transfer kr rhy hn..

REQUESTING TO PUT CAPTIONS FOR NON URDU SPEAKING AUDIENCE we are loving your content here

You are very profound MR. Asif!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

jaza kalallah khair

Jazakum Allah ho khairan kaseerah Ameen summa ameen

JazakAllaha

Thank you so much for bringing unique and enlightening content. It’s great to see someone speak on these topics in light of Islam and I as living in the west can honestly benefit from it a great deal 👏👏👏

واہ واہ، ماشاء اللہ، سبحان اللہ

ما شا اللہ اللہ آپ کی زندگی میں برقت دے please sir یہ کام جاری رکھیں

Nafay ilm jazaklah allah swt ap ke ilm me aur izafa kray subhanallah

boht kuch qeemti izafa kr lia ap k lectures se

sir you have changed my perspective of seeing things.thanks

❤ Jab tak hum ❤ALLAH❤ se Attached nahi hon ge tab tak insano se maruob ho ker un insan ya un Buzurg ke dil bhi kharab kerte rahen ge (kiun ke phir un ke dil se Taqwa halka ya aahista aahista khatam hone lagta hy aur un bicharo ko ye Aehsas bhi jata rehta hy ke wo kis marz mein mubtila ho chuke hyn ya hone wale hyn!! Best Behtreen Lecture!!

Assalam Alaikum wrwb brother Salman, Please post the duas which you mention in lectures. It will help us. JazakAllahu khairan for all your beautiful trainings. May Allah swt reward you immensely.

لبیک یا رسول اللّٰہ صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم ❤️

you are good man ۔i like you.

Outstanding sir!! May Allah accept your all deeds God bless you!!

Buhat hi zabardast. Allah apku jaza dey. Ameen . Never got a chance to learn about this important word.

Dunya k mamle me apne se kam walon ko dekho jab ke naiki ke mamle me apne se uper walon ko dekho

Ma Sha Allah you are doing a great job. May Allah bless you.

Jazakallah khair Allah apko Khush rakhe from India

Subhan Allah

ماشاءاللہ۔۔۔۔ یا اللّٰہ کریم مرعوبیت کے عذاب سے بچا۔۔

JazakAllah wa barakAllah fih .Dil me utar gai har baat .Dil me 2 mohabbaten aik sath jma nhi hosakti.

اللہ ہمیں مرعوبیت کے شرور سے محفوظ رکھے جس کے دل میں اللہ کا رعب اور خوف ہو وہ کسی سے مرعوب نہیں ہوتا نہ ڈرتا ہے

MashaAllah SubhhanALLAH Alhhamdulillah ❤💕💐

Allah Pak ap ko jazay khair dy

I like 2 much ERDC 4 salman sahab Jszak Allah kharan kaseera❤🤲

Perfect

BarakAllaahu feek for bringing to us such self-reflective and thought provoking subjects. may Allah subhanao tala help you succeed in your mission and grant insight , ikhlaas and saaleh amaal to us and our nation. we are standing right on top of a big moral values collapse as a society, all relationships have become superficial and somewhat abusive, especially marriages which have become so painfully difficult to get into and even maintain despite one's best intentions. I do feel that in our society, women follow the objective trends and values that powerful men of the society dictate to their families, however women are also more flexible to change being soft hearted. At this time, if one realizes and tries to practice change, the society rejects you, the marriage and career industry rejects you. how do we find like minded people in such chaotic times and even try to inspire change in such isolationistic times when our values are not being looked at with the eyes of awe. If one is not rich, good looking, high acheiver and famous, it is only a handful few of people who will be with you or support your cause. the majority has a qibla of their own.

Sir Nice Message

Jzk uploading

I listen to your this particular video every two three months to remind myself.

Alhamdulillah for this.

Just one statement لا اله الا الله is enough to describe the complete lecture .nafi asbaat

Great sir👌

Thanks and regards

JAZAKALLAH kHAIRA ameeeen

Please do a lecture about how to stop attempting to awe people. Like doing everything just to get people appreciation/ validation/ awe. Riyakaari se kesy bacha jayay?

ماشاءاللہ! بہت عمدہ

MASHA ALLAH. SUBHAN ALLAH.

MashaAllah SUBHANALLAH BAARAKAALLAHU FEEK

Apney apny session ke start me aik dua phari mujy is dua ki Arabic+ urdu/English translation, aur hadees ka reference chaiye, plz ager ap meri mada krsaken, Allah pak apko iski jaza aata kren

ALLAH HU AKBAR❤

Thank you ❤

sir i love yr andaz e bayaan .

Pta nai mai ny is channel ko pehly q nai dekhaa

was waiting for this. Thank you ERDC

Please summarise this video and make another video on the same topic. Please share it again with key indicators and solutions.

Masha Allah, Subhan Allah

Very great. Thanks a lot

Loved ur videos sir 💜and sir please home schooling ki complete details k sath videos upload karein

You r grate sir,

I really enjoyed the presence of little girl at around 1:04:38

Alhamdulillah for this lecturw

Amin masaallah ek adna rikves hei aap tablighi jamat ki ray De. Insaallah aap jariyae najat bane or ummte muslima

Excellent topic...wish this root inserted in us since childhood.

SubhanAllah

perfect 👌 morning dose ....MashaAllah keep up the great work.🤲🏻

Zbrdst

Mashaallah, very good lecture

اللھم آمین🌹

Must listen

Taqwa: Allah ki azmat ka dil ma naqsh hojana..

Buht umda ma sha Allah

Allah apko lambi zindagi ata farmaye. ❤

Masha allah

Please sir write your book 📖 on these topics.

I am sharing this with many peoples

کہنے کو بہت ہیں، مگر میں یہ کہنا چاہوں گا، اور میں یہ سمجھتا بھی ہوں کہ آپ جیسے لوگوں کی ہمارے برِ صغیر کے مُعاشرے کو اتنی ضرورت ہے جیسے پیاسے کو پانی ضرورت ہوتی ہے۔ ہندوستان، مُمبئی۔

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MashaAllah

Well done

sir owesome

the third source, as I understood, is getting the things in the universe as gods, not defining their place and purpose, but rather getting impacted by one or more of their attributes.... so three sources be bad relationship with self bad relationship with God bad relationship with all creatures the first two are the enablers and the third one is the face of 'Maroobiyat' as 'Maroobiyat' is from the objects of the universe / things.. Jazak Allah Salman Sahb....... What if we are 'Maroob' by a person who is a source of knowledge..... is this good or bad?

please write duaa which one is starting before this lecture

لیکن سر ایک حدیث کا مفہوم تو یہ بھی ہے نا کہ لوگوں کے مراتب کا خیال رکھو،یعنی جو اللہ نے کسی کو مقام دیا ہمیں بھی اس کو عزت دینی چاہیئے

Assalam o alaikum.. Sir aik question hay k Agr hm Kisi Shks sy jo k hmein Maroob krna chahta hay or us base pr hm sy respect expect krta hay..hum agr us sy la.taluq ho jayen asar na lein..maroob na hon to Wo smjhta hay k ye jeoulous ho rha hay ..wo phir hum sy kata taluq ho kr dosro k pas jaye ga jo us sy mutasir hoty hn..is situation ko kesy deal krein?

Sir in your last your video you said manners in argument but sir if some one shouts at you in arguments then how do you deal sir in such situations sir I try my level best in communicating

وہ ہی کامل انسان ہے۔جو کنڑول کرے اپنے دماغ پر

I love you sir main appke elm se maroob ho Gaya