The RARE INTJ | Top signs of INTJ Women 

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I’m an INTJ female. Yep, I have a husband, 4 kids, and a dog. I’m very content being home 99% of my life and don’t care who thinks that is boring. 😂

“I PLAN for flexible/unplanned day!” Yeah.. it made total sense. 😂 We have a back up plan for a plan. And another backup plan for the back up plan. Plan for unplanned day? Sure! PRE-plan the chaos? 😂😂😂Absolutely!

I got this video recommended as I'm also an INTJ. I discovered I was INTJ in end of 2022 and I had an aha moment recognising myself so much in the personality. I used it as introspection and it helped me understand so much about social interaction and my own way of functioning. It was like reading my own manual to understand myself and people around me. I've always felt like an alien all my life and it explained a lot of things, I could relate to everything that you mentioned. I've also been told similar analogies to the chocolate one haha. Since learning my personality, I became more patient with people in my life and also I got better at social skills. I focused on my weakest functions in 2023 until I was satisfied. Honestly, learning your personality can be so powerful.

INTJ female here. I hate shopping unless it’s at Home Depot. I have several dresses, all the same, but different colors and patterns that I wear to work every day. I do my make up (minimal) the same every day. My husband thinks I always have too much on my plate but that relaxes me!

Really a sibling of ENTJs. So much in common... Finally some other performers 🏆

Hello, INTJ sister! 👋 I’m all of those things you described, except for the shopping bit. I’ve ALWAYS loved shopping, but it’s for the thrill of the hunt, which I think INTJs can relate to. Now that I can wear Bluetooth headphones all day long & block out conversations that stress out or annoy me, being around people has become exponentially easier-highly recommended for anyone who has to be around people, and feels like a bundle of raw nerves.😳 I love being an INTJ-always have, but it wasn’t until social media came of age & provided explanations for things like personality types & introversion that I gave myself permission to “stop trying,” since I understood that just putting myself out there into the general public won’t necessarily change my odds for meeting someone who gets me. It is, however, easy to meet people online for niche interests & groups, so thank the universe for that! 🙏 🙌 Being a half-century old helps tremendously in being even MORE comfortable in one’s skin, and having the broad, zoomed-out perspective of how we’re just one type in an ecosystem, helps me to stay sane in a world that doesn’t know what to make of me. One tip of many that I have for my fellow INTJs (particularly for younger ones): CREATE YOUR OWN OPPORTUNITIES, IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANY IN YOUR PERIPHERY-you may otherwise end up,waiting a lifetime in vain, since the world is comprised of mostly unaware Sensors, so do your own thing, and don’t be surprised if you have to always be proactive in starting something from scratch, if you want to have projects that you actually care about. As an Ni-dom,,it’s your birthright to visualize & create things that others don’t yet understand, but will get it once it’s in concrete form.

It's nice seeing someone kindred who is so comfortable with solitude. I tend to feel pretty alone in that.

4:22 - Great quote Kiara 🫶

10:10 - I have 1 INTJ friend and yes I do feel special :-)

Male INTJ here rediscovering my personality type I took the questionnaire when I was a teen and was so fascinated by it then I moved on, and now I'm in my 30s took it again still and INTJ so now I'm relearning about my type and my gf's type. It has been helping me understand the growth that I have experienced lately and how to be a better person and partner. Loved the video and it's great to see female INTJs your even more rare then male INTJs! 😮

Amen, sister. The future matters as much as the present.

I am an INTJ who likes to get dressed up.

I do actually like dressing up, but in a way that is not time consuming. Like, combine something fancy and black with something fancy and dark purple, add a necklace and some rings and maaaaaybe a minor amount of makeup, and that's it. I like looking at nice things, so it does give me joy to dress well, but it has to be efficient and still functional.

You've hit the proverbial nail on the head, thank you for putting this so eloquently.

Thanks for your Video. I myself identify quite strongly with being an INFP but I really love to see the point if views of INTJs. It is a type I got to learn to know quite well, the straightforward attitude is just the right thing to see sometimes.

Yea I get that efficient shopping thing...When I go to the grocery store with a list of 3 items....I leave with those 3 items....lol

This is indeed very heartwarming and very wonderful and very beautiful and very helpful and this brings back such great memories of when I use to be a 90s kid and an early 2000s kid and I am a new subscriber as well:).

haha the clothes part got me :) I am also "neat" and there is a lot of thought put into it, just it has to be efficient... so foundation - yes, to look better. Any other make up? Never for so many reasons... As for appearing cold... I might have been so in the past. I'm training to become a psychotherapist and over the past years, especially when I learnt how people perceive me (as distanced, depressed, cold... which I was... all of these in fact) I have been trying to appear as approachable... Meanwhile, I've learnt how to assert my boundaries. But I've also learnt how to use intimidation and how to be mean without the other person's ability to put a finger on it. But when I'm kind to someone... I am really kind. I try to be very compassionate and i'm emphatetic. I'm just different than what I used to be like. Also, Im an Aussie but living in Europe my whole life. I've noticed something about other Aussies... I wonder if you have too: they are (ok we, but I'm just mentally ultra European) seemingly easy-going... until they get triggered. And while people from other countries are able to agree to disagree without geting all sulky and proud... Aussies... oh gosh. Any instance of having a different opinion just triggers the heck out of them. It's hell for young INTJs who still don't get "the nuances". Meanwhile, there is a whole bunch of INTJs who mistake being rude and lackign tact/manners for "being honest and speaking the truth". I have some INTJ acquaintances and let me tell you... their love for labels they use for themselves (from INTJ to "autism") just to cover up their being a-holes is astounding. Meanwhile you also mentioned two things that I believe constitute the basis of one problem: romance. You said we like ambition & drive and that we struggle with relationships. Well... I bet it's not just me who struggles in relationships MOSTLY because the people don't match up to my standard in terms of e.g. being hard working, driven, ambitious without being a narcy a-hole again... What do you think, Kiara? :)

yes girl u go, i have the same way of thinking being an intj if someone tells me i cant do something i will work harder to prove them wrong that i can in fact do it. Anyone can do what they put their mind into.

Watching all those INTJ women on youtube, and I am starting to see a morphological pattern in our facial details, so much so that I think I could identify an INTJ woman if I see one on the street. Am I the only one?

I took the test twice...it came out to be INTJ..they say..results vary...depending upon the questions they ask..yup..I also struggle being introvert!!

Hi, intj teen here🤗 i love discovering other intj women

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Just discovered I'm INTJ -- and found your video -- after researching it a bit, of course (LOL).

My impression of all INTJ's: OMG we are so rare and special, we can be misunderstood because we offend everyone all the time, but that's not our fault because of our EXTREME logic which is so painful to watch with everyone around us being so stupid and it's not our fault...but we want to help with our brilliant logic but our time is too valuable to be bothered by talking to emotional plebeians...we are the chosen race and it's up to them to like us and BTW we totes aren't emotionally abusive narcissists. If only people would just understand how wonderful we really are...

As an intj, I met an enfp who was pleading with me not to think I had to do it alone. I still think of them a lot and wonder what they meant. All I know is they got me out of a very dark loop just by existing.

Stumbled up on this channel and was intrigued to actually watch an self imposed interview of INTJ female. I have never encountered one, or been near one long enough to tell they were a INTJ. I've read they are the rarest of the types, so perhaps that has sometime to do with it. Also, in my younger years handing out in a public/college libraries, museums, movie theaters, where most people was usually quiet and to themselves, perhaps I was around them and hadn't notice, though I usually pride myself at being rather observant of others. Anyway, I am curious if they, female INTJs I mean, can for short period of time blend in with other types like an INFJ can? I've learned and experienced first hand that females in general are better at blending or acting then we men are, so was curious to see if INTJ females were good at that too. If my questions seem odd or too invasive, please understand I mean no disrespect and only trying to learn and understand. Also, I do understand not all women and men, of whatever personality type they may test can be clearly defined by the type definitions, so I don't expect answers to all be the same or consistent between different, which is just as informative and more stimulating than if they were. Anyway, thanks Kiara Riddingius for telling us a little about yourself and what its like from your perspective.

Im a god blessed ENTP and for some reason its easier for me to open up to a god blessed INTJ. Its a very comfortable dynamic. Dont know why but i know it works. Im really glad there are INTJs in society. Too bad yall are so rare

I thought I was INTP, but I might be INTJ 🤔 Watching this while wearing head to toe black. Definitely don't trust easily, and don't have a lot of friends..

Wow. INTJ female here... This is accurate!

Alone time is like crack to an INTJ like myself. Working from home with a child aged 0-5 has been quite a cognitive challenge for me.

INTJ male here, pretty much similar to what you have just mentioned about INTJ female. Same coin different sides.

I am INTJ. Took the test in my early 20’s…. I’m 55 now. And wow…. Yes to just about all of it!

I crave fun, excitement with fun exciting friends.

Hi Kiara, as I have studied MBTI over the last year, I can see some signs that you may be mistyped. Please correct me if I'm wrong. I myself have been mistyped as an INTJ for over four years and have taken five tests. The problem with most common tests on the internet is that they are "Intuitive"-biased, with questions like "Do you think a lot? Do you have imagination? Are you creative?" or something too generic. The consequence is a community that thinks Sensor types are "stupid." Have you looked at the ISTP description? These are my insights: 1) You speak a lot about how other people perceive you and people's problems (this could be a sign of Fe inferior - ISTP). 2) You excel in sports (which is very unusual for an INTJ, who has Se as the inferior function; their Ni dominance gets them stuck in their head and thinking about future consequences, which is very bad for present-time activities like sports. Indeed, they are usually portrayed as goofy. SPs are usually the best sport/music performers due to their high Se). 3) Independence; yes, as introverts, INTJs tend to be independent, but they are not the most independent type (this is due to their auxiliary function Te, which is a tribe function. You can see a lot of INTJ characters working behind the scenes, controlling people. They isolate themselves, but they try to be part of a community). 4) Clothing; INTJs usually dress for style/fashion. They want to look good and professional, which is because of Te/Fi. Comfort is a characteristic valued more by Sensors (especially ST types), who live in the present moment and can't get over something uncomfortable. You can see them wearing cargo pants, comfy shirts, sport shoes. I think you could be an ISTP (like myself, who has been mistyped as an INTJ for so long because of Ni loop). High organization and discipline can be signs of healthy Ti (ISTP dominant function), probably enneagram 8. Check out "Love Who" here on YT; his descriptions of personalities are the best. Take care

Thank you for such an informative video! Everything that you just said is spot on with this girl INTJ who I'm interested in, but right now just trying to befriend. She also has a rather tough shell to break through. Just curious, but in your opinion does persistence pay off when trying to befriend an INTJ female?

What is your enneagram type and Enneagram Instinct "Self preservation", "social", or "sexual? As an INTJ myself I like to be able to compare INTJs at smaller level when they share their perspectives on how they live.

Nice video Kiara! As an INTJ, do you ever feel like you push people away who you actually enjoy having in your life? But for some reason you just find yourself shutting them out? I find that this is common with some INTJs. Can you relate?

Quite Interesting!

It explained a lot for me

I guess you just pick traits/signs you found on internet. It's only the surface of this knowledge. I suggest people to watch videos of INTJ mbti/typology content creator who go deeper into it, we talk about the 8 functions, how really our brain process informations. Consider your Fe trickster/blindspot it's important. What is like for you to have Ni (introverted intuition) ? Consider also to research about neurodivergence (ADHD, Asperger/Autism...) because INTJ we have high chance to fall into it.

you remind me of Teal Swan, she's also an INTJ. I have an INTJ brother

I think "thinking" women in general are usually not that girly, in both physical appearance and looks (as biology determines both personality AND looks). Similarly for example, gay guys tend to look more feminine _and_ behave more feminine too. I think this aspect is too often overlooked in the personality community, as it's all pretty simple in the sense that our hormones dictate(d) how our bodies and minds evolved as they're all organs under the influence of the hormones and there is a relation between them. We are told not to believe in such ideas because it's a taboo, yet pretty much every cartoon uses it to illustrate the personalities of their characters (by giving them looks that intuitively match that personality) This is why so many studies people can guess parts of personality based on looks. People can often infer a surprising amount about someone's personality just by looking at their appearance. Research suggests that people can reasonably accurately guess certain personality traits, such as extraversion and confidence, simply by viewing a photo of someone. In my own observation thinking women tend to be taller on average than feeling women and similarly intuititve thinking women that are introverts oftend to be be tall and pretty slender (like intj). Extraverts tend to be somewhat wider in both face body..Anyway, just some thoughts

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A lot of INTJ women are mistyped as ESFP or ISFP. Like Beyonce. Watch her closely Ironically ISFJ Jay Z is called an INTJ icon when his wife is the INTJ icon.

It seems that all itntj,' 11:55 11:55 11:55 s Love from the core

are you me?

What do you think of these Olympics "Games" in Paris in 2024? I am not intimidated by you.

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I’m an INTJ. Made me realize I don’t want any of your bull💩.

Introvert. Irtvdnsleo. Blabla. Blabla.