I always said most women want a man who’s at least more chaotic or “flawed” than she is so she can look like the “good” one in the relationship. So if she’s a drinker she’s not going to want a non drinking man because she’ll say he’s too “controlling” if he suggests she should calm down the drinking. But if she’s a non drinker she’ll get with a drinker and try to change him because it makes her feel good to say she “fixed” him. And that’s why black men often don’t really have standards. Because talking about your standards will have women calling you demanding and controlling.
My own mother had me and my sister by a bad boy. Her getting pregnant by him caused me and sis to have a peek a boo dad in our lives. We were robbed of not having a father figure in our lives. For 15 years i only wanted a sincere apology for causing us to suffer and i couldn't even get it. I had to remove him from my life and my mother can't even take responsibility for getting pregnant by him. I went to therapy and i plan on going back because it's still pain there. So, black women please don't choose this type of man because your kids will suffer the most like me and my sis did. Godspeed 🍊💯
That anger runs deep because you feel god owes you your recompense. BM must be careful because this can destroy your emotional side and trigger feminine responses to situations
Facts!! Rhis was the exact Scripture I thought of when opening this video. A woman wanting a "bad boy" is a wicked woman. Avoid her like the plague and make sure you are not being a wicked man that attracts these types of women. Judgment is coming soon. No time to be "bad".
Don't say it's the sex!!! Good guys can blow that back out too.. If you are not ready to be serious in a relationship, just say that.. Calling good God fearing guys boring is in it self just a lame excuse.. When you know you just want to run the streets... Which leads me to my next question?? If good guys are Soo boring, why do you care who they date??? You made your choice, why can't he make his??
They don't want to lose their backup plan. That's why they get concerned about who good guys date.. Black women getting bored with good guys or nice guys is not an excuse. It's what they really feel. They are many things that should be seen as good qualities, even things that will say they want and are looking for, that will initially be taken as undesirable. If you're nice, it will be taken as naive. If you're a good guy, it will be taken as boring. Or dependable and she can always put you on the back burner because you'll always be there if the bad boy becomes too problematic. Bad boys are seeing as rebelliously masculine. They are seen as more thrilling. They are seen as being able to hold his ground in a fight, while the good guy is seen as an avoidant type.
You see I was too strait laced as a young man, fresh out of Vietnam, 21 years old and getting married was not my priority. Getting back into college and working towards a career outweighed marriage and family life. I wanted a career NOT a minimal wage job that was dead end. Fast forward, now I'm a catch years later but those wanting me had made bad choices and had children.
Bad boys are the product of the matriarch and easy to control by those women . Despite them having a hypermasculinity facade by acting overly exaggerated in their mannerisms, loud, bravado , their core has been emasculated and the matriarch women knows they can relate to his Feminine energy he gravitate towards while simultaneously have a violent nature that they can take and manipulate because they are leading in the Feminine ( receptive) role however when things don't work out he will use violence
Yep and bad boys have been known to assault/kill their girlfriends if they(bad boys) feel like they will be abandoned and be made homeless & lose everything. But a lot of women like to play with fire 🔥 I suppose, so it can’t be helped🤷🏾♂️
Stop.mixing.badboys.with little.boys badboys are GOD warriors and would.never.mess.with little girls.with mess up.minds we love good girl who are on the right path. Y'all.talking about lil hood dudes who think they tough and carry a gun. That's not a badboy. A real.badboy will shake you up just by his aura. Most of these women talking.never met a badboys in they life. And the truth is they scared of real.badboys. That's why they mess with the wannabes I'm a badboy forrreal I can break down every type of stereotype y'all think real and I show you why y'all mixed up. Badboys are GOD fearing warriors who love good girls real good girls not the pretenders.
Perfect example, just look at the Italian mob movie's, they will chop a body up in a heart beat. But scared of their wives, talking about I gotta go home my wife's gonna kill me 😆
@@emmanuelshaul1358 there is nothing good about being a bad boy even in your perspective. One they are boys, two they are no honor, structure, and order with these guys. I'm not going to let you get on here and change the definition to affect you. There is nothing cool about being a bad boy or gangster, they just contribute to the destruction of our race and make it harder for men like me who actually try to be MEN and not "bad". Bad boys are God fearing? Stop the cap man.
Clearly this isn't true or there wouldn't be so many single mothers. Having a child doesn't suddenly transform men into responsible, accountable people. It just doesn't work like that. The fact is that most "bad boys" are actually psychopaths and are medically and scientifically incapable of empathy. You cannot force them to care.. ever. Diplomacy doesn't work. Only a man who is capable of empathy can change, but most of the time that type of man is not engaged in crime, except as a last resort for survival, but even then the morality that comes with being an empath will prevent that type of man from becoming totally predatory or parasitic.
I disagree with this statement. I know black men who have babies all over town and they are not committed to any of the mothers or changing their lifestyle. Being a father has not made a difference in who he is as an individual.
@@diduck6878 What you have done here is called a "straw man fallacy", which is to say that you distorted my argument in order to make it seem absurd. No, of course a relationship is not the sole responsibility of the male; The best way to avoid these situations is to help women understand why they should defend their chastity from dominant and aggressive men. Men who inseminate these women should be, and usually are held liable by the legal system.
This is true, a few female content creators who embrace the whole badboy idea say " He keeps me on my toes, I never knows whats going to happen next, its fireworks everyday, everything is a mystery. I've seen those relationships often only last 6-8 weeks. Often times some sorta structure is requested by either her or the bad boy then it's "Nope! this is looking to much like an actual relationship.I'm out"
A black man with order , morals , values and provision is avoided like the plague.. A woman would have to submit to that order or the conflict would be obvious.. People would be saying she is bringing him down .
Shes dumb. She actually talking about little boy and girls in the hood and she calling them.men and women they just children who don't no any better. A badboy is a full.grown.mam.who.doesnt play games ...
Exactly. BW want to control & dominate BM, and they can do it better with an uneducated, unemployed street thug than an educated wholesome BM with standards, morals, values, and security; who is fully conscious of his self-worth. Also, many BW want bad boys because these BW are dysfunctional and chaotic themselves and want something similar.
I once had a husband who was ambitious, worked hard towards being successful, and he made it. I also became successful. We both became professionals. It seemed that this was ideal preparation, but he had a weakness that I could not live with. He loved the company of different women and wanted me to accept it as a man's thing. He cheated nonstop, and I could not stop him. He told me that I was his choice for a wife, and he was just having fun with the women. I was young, in my mid twenties, and could not bear the disrespect. After 6 years of marriage, we divorced. I later realized that he did not truly love and value me. Besides, we got married too early and knew very little about life and maturity. We both lost our fathers when we were children. I knew very little about men, and he knew very little about being one. I was not perfect, but I was willing to undergo counseling. He refused. So, no matter how accomplished a man is, if his head is not screwed on properly, he won't make a good husband. Yes, I agree that good standards and morals need to be in place for both parties.
I can respect that. Most women would not admit that. I have learned that the good man just often times just needs some edge and killer instinct. Basically a gentlemen with a strap under his suit jacket and some martial(motion) arts skills!
@@beaboutpeaceandpleasure9230 More than just admitting it, I had to get to the root of my own behavior because I knew better. I really had to examine why I was so reckless, so rebellious and ultimately, it came down to unresolved trauma and hurt from my childhood and young adulthood.
@@beaboutpeaceandpleasure9230 only black people require their best and brightest to have an "edge". I'm sure no one requires the best and brightest white guys to have an edge. Only our folks are into that foolishness. BW that date wm do not require them to have an edge.
As a retired bad boy women would flock to me for many reasons. I find myself to be much happier after settling down with my family of 17 years. Overall, life has been good for this mysterious fellow.
Bad Boys Are Intellectually Stupid. Amen Is Short For Amen Ra,A Deity. & They Have No Idea What That Is While Praying To A Dead Man In A Building Of Pimps & Pedophiles 🧐
I agree 100%. I also believe that the gynocracy not only encourages reckless dating habits in women, but strongly seeks to remove the consequences of dealing with F19s.
To add to what you are saying, there is a deep rooted responsibility in submitting to a man with SOS. By being with the "pookie" (lack of a better term), they fall for the fallacy that they won't be held accountable (i.e. where the real men at, my baby daddy ain't blah blah blah, eyc...)
We accept their behavior because we don’t want to elevate as a collective, our standards are low, our self esteem is shot. Our self identity is non existent. Thanks for the insight
This is the truth sis 100% alot of black women don't know what love is and sadly will never get to know. Once you experience Jesus Christ's love, it will become more clear for BW to know how a man should love and treat a woman and vice versa.
@@baby_shii1263 I mean your right problem is sisters today might go to church as a formality but in terms of truly believing in the most high they don't. Meaning many are not spiritual anymore money is their God unfortunately.
The first time I heard Kendra say she was RP, I was sure she was capping. After following her for a while now - Kendra is for real! Another excellently articulated video on an often elusive topic.👌🏾👍🏾😎
100% correct Crimson Cure. It's not about all that other looks or swagger the Pookies have it's actually about bad girls being attracted to chaos in men's lives. And also I feel these kinds of women feel some sort of satisfaction seeing black men suffer, or fail in their lives.
Exactly sister, I agree 100%, it’s a self-esteem issue. I would also add that, if deep down she has bad intentions or simply does not know the ways of a winner then she will always pick an inferior man, this way when she’s ready to cut him loose and move on, he’s gone with one phone call. He knows this so he instantly becomes her murderer or her simp slave, no good for either of them, only existing.
Also I think it's a level of control, specifically women who have degrees. They feel like they lead in that relationship because typically that kind of guy has a record
If a woman can control her man she will cheat on him. She will dog him out & loose interest & he will be nothing but a paycheck & she will find a bad boy who dogs her out & thats who she will be in love with.
Very well said Kendra 👏, that's what I love ❤ about you. You have the innate ability to articulate what everyone is thinking, feeling and knows to be true. The veracity with which you speak is unprecedented, unequaled and unrivaled. I truly admire you for having the courage and love for our people to be willing to try to break the bands of ignorance and hatred that has plagued our people for centuries since slavery. I love you Kendra keep doing God's work. Blessings to you and your family.
@@alexjones28 may TMH bless you in your time , you would rather have someone meet you half way instead of you having to be a counselor , protector , provider and so on even if you have to do those things anyway , you would rather have someone who appreciate the work you do and the effort you put forth. Alot of these women these days just are not appreciative or aware of who they are in a relationship with , the things that they sacrifice to keep order and structure. You will have your time when it's most beneficial , be pleased to not have to bump your head and heart two or three divorces in.
this is for the youth coming up💯There is still hope for them. Folks like me that are 30 and up? No Hope. The programming is too deep for the majority of people💯
Excellent analysis of the black women's chaotic nature and relationship with men of a chaotic spirit; The scary thing about this is I realize that they were so chaotic spiritually and emotionally but makes a lot of sense.
"What she's attracted to is the lack of a value system and/or the chaos that is inherent in needing a value system, and not having one." Kendra has touched on some very important information! Years ago, Dr. Paul Pearsall spoke about this in one of his books. He stated that people become addicted to the chemicals that the body produces during stress, so they will (wittingly or unwittingly) seek out drama-laden situations in their lives in order to keep getting their "high." I believe he's right! I just asked a relative of mine why she keeps running back to a man who clearly doesn't want to do any better! He drops her off at work, then drives around in her car all day, doing God knows what! He even ran off with another woman, and left her there with HIS children! Yet, as soon as the other woman got tired of him, there he was, on her doorstep again, and she took him right back! 🤦🏽♂️ If that isn't "lack of a value system", I don't know what is!
Most Women need to be entertained like children when they get bored 😴😐 Bad boy is fun and full of thrill and excitement !!! All fun and games till he's arrested and in jail or she is caught up in his Bull. 30 years down the road she going to wish she going to wish she never met Pookie she going to wish she kept Paul with the good job and glasses with the BMW and house in the suburbs..
A lot of Muslim sisters in the UK say they want a man who is on deen but has a little bit of street in him. In other words, they want a practicing Muslim man who was a badboy or still is a badboy. So even after marriage, they are still attracted to that chaotic energy. Some feed off that chaotic energy and use it to take lead of the marriage, becoming the man instead of the women.
Women are inherently emotional creatures and emotions when not tempered by societal values and culture can potentially turn destructive...both for the individual and for the society writ large🤔
They know they won’t have to actually step they game up also deep down afraid of real men that’s smarter than her and masculine that she has to follow also her mom don’t have a man no father in the home… plus the bad boy pays for they non sexual relationship that’s why she wants a baby so fast to create a child’s world she’s a child at ❤️
As salaam alaikum, sister. May I elaborate more on this in my own video? If I don't hear back in an hour, I'll start recording, anyway, but I'll wait another two hours before I make it a video or upload it.
Amen beautiful lady! New subscriber here. I love your channel! You're very smart and intelligent. I think you have just hit the nail on its head! I'm a good guy. Went to college and worked my way up the corporate ladder. Even though I am slightly handsome, somewhat successful and highly intelligent Black women usually ignore me. I guess I turn them off, being from the suburbs, graduating at the top of my class, going to church every Sunday, and having order and structure in my life. I have never run the streets in my life, nor have I ever been in a physical fight with anyone. I am soft-shod and friendly. That seems to turn a lot of Black women off! Oh well! I am dynamite in bed (so I've been told), so they don't know what they're missing! You have told the truth! God bless you! ✌✌✌
You hit it out the park. I use to be that chaotic guy in my younger years. I was worshipped then. Once I begin building a career through education and structure in my household I got more pushback then begin realizing the who the women are vs the gynocrats.
Childish women seek childish men. These chicks don't want/ can't get a top tier street dude. They're different. They often look and act very corporate and soft spoken.
The chaos is stimulating, whereas order and tranquility and serenity is boring. If you compare the two one is more exciting than the other at least in this mindset
Kendra you were on point 100% I know women that admit to this. They want the stability and benefits of a structured relationship but they resonate on an f boy. Live by the fboy and possibly die by the fboy. Yet, fronting on social media about wanting a good man and a husband.
You are right on point as usual Miss Davis. The bad boy conundrum has baffled me for quite some time but you have brought a degree of clarity that I was missing. Providing provision corporation protection and problem solving comes at a high price for a promiscuous and non-disciplined woman. Because it causes for her to have to have structure in order herself in order to be part of the system that provides these necessities that she really truly values.I would also like to add a missing component that seems to be the elephant in the room everyone seems to avoid on these types of platforms. That is it all human beings are spirit and flesh. Did everything that we see in the natural has a spiritual counterpart. All throughout biblical history women have been shown to be the ones drawn to make poor choices and decisions when it comes to being uncovered by a man's leadership. Of course I'm speaking in general terms here and not putting all women in this category.
Bw from all walks of life constantly defend and promote “chaotic” bm who live on the edge of society as if those men are superior. This was a more rational explanation for why bw prefer such men.
Water seeks it's own level for sure. Even if she likes you she will ruin it because she knows she doesn't align w/ structure and healthy relationships.
Sex is the only requirement to be with a Pookie. My relationship before my most current relationship literally came down to, “so that’s it, sex?... what else can you do?”, and before promptly ending that Union. Sex was not enough at this table.
You gave me goosebumps. I am so glad Bishop posted your live so i was able to find you. I am 50 now so definitely don't partake in tomfoolery now but in my younger years I was attracted to the bad boys but grew up and out of that want.
@The realest About 37. It took me being raised by my father who disciplined me verbally, for me to get whooped by someone 9 yrs my junior. I was humiliated. Went to the county hospital here in Atlanta - Grady and was put in bed 26 in the hallway. People passing by and all that.
Even though it took you 37 years , I am glad that you finally grew up. And honestly speaking, for your father, your first 37 years were nothing more than a curse. I really pity him.
This girl I was dealing with said she's naturally drawn to bad boys and I questioned myself because I was raised with order principles until I saw this video...thank you sister!
Bingo you hit the nail on the head they are addicted to chaos no matter how good that working man or that didn't own a look he's ordered in the structure there is no chaos
TEACH Karen!!!! Thanks for trying to enlighten our sisters so that we can get back to our strong family ties that makes us the formidable force to be reckoned with!!!
The Bible speaks HEAVILY on the wickedness of a woman and we are seeing it play out at an all-time high nowadays. There are many women with Jez-e-bel spirits out here today.
all women know how to make them selfs happy they just wo"t. they all know leaving a bad relationship, or going back to school,getting a new job, losing weight will make them happy. but how many actully do it?. they hate change
